Selected quad for the lemma: mercy_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
mercy_n	heart_n	let_v	lord_n	11,278	5	4.0773	3	true

Text snippets containing the quad

ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A43768	Conjugall counsell, or, Seasonable advice, both to unmarried, and married persons directing the first how to enter into marriage estate, and the other how to demeane themselves in the Christian discharge of all such duties as that estate of life blads them to, that God may have glory, the church edification, and themselves and families, present and future comfort, tending much (by the blessing of God) to a through reformation of all the enormities of these evil times / by T.H. ...	Hilder, Thomas.	1653 (1653)	Wing H1974; ESTC R20660	113,375	218

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that_o be_v before_o he_o and_o then_o in_o ver_fw-la 30._o it_o be_v say_v that_o ahab_n the_o son_n of_o omri_n do_v evil_a in_o the_o sight_n of_o the_o lord_n above_o all_o that_o be_v before_o he_o where_o by_o the_o way_n we_o see_v the_o son_n imitate_v the_o father_n in_o his_o wicked_a way_n now_o as_o ahab_n be_v a_o worshipper_n of_o false_a god_n so_o he_o be_v a_o enemy_n to_o the_o prophet_n of_o the_o true_a god_n for_o proof_n whereof_o mind_n the_o 9_o 10._o and_o 17._o verse_n of_o the_o 18._o chap._n of_o 1_o king_n also_o chap_n 21.20_o so_o again_o in_o chap._n 22.8_o where_o he_o plain_o say_v he_o hate_v micaiah_n but_o observe_v how_o his_o accurse_a wife_n jezebel_n follow_v his_o vile_a way_n of_o persecute_v elijah_n she_o hate_v and_o seek_v his_o life_n 1_o king_n 19.2_o but_o if_o it_o be_v say_v it_o be_v to_o no_o purpose_n this_o way_n to_o insert_v passage_n of_o wickedness_n relate_v to_o omri_n and_o ahab_n they_o be_v not_o husband_n and_o wife_n 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