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unnecescary_v blaze_v of_o other_o man_n 〈◊〉_d by_o lie_v slander_a 〈◊〉_d taunt_a if_o any_o show_v himself_o care_n less_o to_o 〈◊〉_d the_o motion_n and_o enticement_n unto_o sin_n and_o the_o lust_n of_o the_o same_o and_o he_o will_v use_v the_o mean_n follow_v to_o redress_v they_o the_o manner_n of_o correct_v must_v like_v wise_a be_v look_v unto_o for_o to_o fail_v in_o that_o make_v correction_n hurtful_a oftentimes_o but_o always_o 〈◊〉_d for_o this_o point_n then_o we_o must_v know_v that_o correction_n must_v be_v minister_v in_o wisdom_n and_o patience_n wisdom_n be_v that_o by_o which_o we_o observe_v comeliness_n 17._o in_o every_o action_n that_o be_v to_o say_v by_o which_o we_o observe_v what_o we_o do_v how_o in_o what_o place_n at_o what_o time_n before_o who_o that_o all_o thing_n may_v be_v do_v in_o a_o convenient_a place_n time_n and_o manner_n wisdom_n will_v 1._o find_v out_o the_o right_a party_n that_o commit_v the_o fault_n that_o he_o that_o be_v innocent_a 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30._o etc._n etc._n this_o patience_n will_v also_o keep_v a_o man_n from_o bitterness_n which_o may_v soon_o make_v the_o party_n angry_a then_o draw_v he_o to_o amendment_n which_o thing_n the_o apostle_n will_v have_v avoid_v in_o superior_n 9_o towards_o those_o that_o be_v under_o they_o for_o want_v of_o this_o many_o be_v but_o a_o word_n and_o a_o blow_n many_o first_o correct_v and_o then_o tell_v the_o fault_n many_o lay_v on_o load_n or_o rail_v and_o revile_v brawl_n and_o scold_v without_o measure_n last_o this_o patience_n will_v keep_v thou_o from_o immoderate_a anger_n a_o thing_n dangerous_a in_o a_o corrector_n for_o he_o that_o come_v to_o reform_v with_o too_o much_o anger_n shall_v hardly_o keep_v a_o measure_n in_o rebuke_v or_o chastise_v now_o for_o the_o several_a kind_n of_o correction_n the_o first_o be_v rebuke_v which_o be_v a_o sharp_a reproof_n for_o a_o fault_n commit_v measure_v according_a to_o the_o nature_n of_o the_o fault_n example_n whereof_o we_o 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