it is a sorrowful saying May Sin invite Death into your Families saying Come in thou Messenger of the Lord come in here is one deserves to dye and there is another seize him and hale him out apprehend him and take him away he lives not as he should let him die as he ought May it shortly be said by you my Wife is dead my Husband is dead and is Grace and Nature in you so equally poized and have you such a just temperament and mixture of both as not to sorrow less or more than you ought that now your Relations are round about your Tables and no ones place is empty you might not at present hear for time so shortly to come what might be said concerning Sorrow for the dead and cure your ignorance concerning them which are asleep that you sorrow not as others which have no hope or tho they dye yet you sorrow not as such do not that have neither Faith nor Hope nor natural Affection Nature and Religion binding me to promote the temporal and spiritual Good of so near a Relation all a long pressed more hard upon me to give my utmost diligence to assist her in her last Sickness by Night and Day by Prayer and Discourse that she might and God through his rich Grace and Mercy in Christ to her Soul did enable her with abiding comfort and setled hope of Heaven look Death in the face overcome this King of Terrors and conquer the Fears thereof when Death by its stroke without a Sting did conquer her This Portion of Scripture from the Text to the end of this Chapter was the last I read and urged before she left her own to go to her Father's house which I do make the first to explain and apply in this place for my own and your sake Wherein are three generals 1. A Doctrinal Conclusion concerning Sorrow for such as sleep in Jesus or dye in the Lord v. 13. 2. The Confirmation of it by many argumentative Reasons and are helps against sinful Sorrow by excess from ver 14. to the 18. 3. The Application of this Doctrine so confirmed or the use of Comfort to be made of it against such Sorrows V. 18. Wherefore comfort one another with these words The Doctrinal Conclusion laid down in the Text consists of these particulars 1. A familiar Representation of Death that the thoughts of it might be more easy to our minds to dye sounds more harsh to sleep is a softer expression of Death Death and Grave you would every day avoid Sleep and Bed you every night desire yet Death is but as a Sleep and the Grave is but as a Bed and both so called in the Scripture 2. The Deportment and Behaviour of the Survivers in reference to such as sleep the sleep of Death which relates unto their Sorrow upon this occasion And in this these two things are couched in the Text. 1. A Sorrow supposed granted and allowed to the living for their dead For should the living be as senseless as the dead when Death hath taken away Life and Breath and Motion from them shall Sin take away all workings of natural Affections from us Shall Death snatch them out of our Bosoms force them out of our Arms and tear one piece of our selves from our selves take the one half away and leave the other behind and we stand and look on without a Tear in our Eyes without Sorrow in our Hearts as if we had neither sense of Gods heavy Hand nor love to them nor feeling of the stroke that thereby is laid upon our selves Sorrow we may tho not as others 2. Excess of Sorrow is corrected Lay not the Reins loose upon your Affections lest they carry you to Sin in your Sorrow Lavish not those Tears in washing your dead which should be kept for lamenting of your Sins Let there be a difference betwixt your Sorrow and the Sorrow of others as there should 〈◊〉 betwixt those that have hope and those that have no hope of a joyful Resurrection to Eternal Glorious Life The Heathens have no such hope for they are without Christ the cause of hope without the Church the place of hope without the Covenant the ground and reason of hope While you are allowed to mourn as Men do not exceed the bounds and limits becoming Christian Men. The Heathens mourn for their dead beyond all bounds of Moderation while they lament them as such that shall live no more But let Christians limit their Sorrow as for such that tho they be dead shall live again and after that shall die no more 3. In the Text is the Cause of excessive Sorrow for the dead that is Ignorance concerning the State of the Dead now and hereafter at the present and for ever both as to Body and to Soul 4. The cure of excessive Sorrow Knowledg Meditation and firm belief of the present and future State of those that dye in the Lord. I would not have you to be ignorant others are and therefore mourn to excess but I would not have you so to be that you may not sorrow as they do Did ye know think and believe that their Death is but a Sleep out of which they shall certainly awake their Graves their Beds out of which when the morning of the Resurrection shall come they shall arise and that their Souls in the mean time are with God and Christ and the Eternal Spirit admitted into that glorious Society of Angels and Saints above perfectly Loving constantly delighting perpetually Praising and Triumphing in that God that did chuse them in that Jesus that did redeem them with his Blood in that Holy Spirit that made them meet to be partakers of that Inheritance of yonder Saints in Light and Life and Love would you groan while they rejoyce Would you mourn while they sing Songs of Praise Are you grieved because they are exalted Do you take on as if they were for ever lost when by saving Mercy they are now for ever found in the glorious Presence of their Lord and Father and Redeemer Could you hear them speak to you they would say you are in daily Trouble we in everlasting Rest and Peace and Triumph you are in the Field we have got the Victory you are in danger of Sin and Satan we are freed from them for ever your love unto our Lord and yours is imperfect love while ours wanteth no degree you know not what we do know of God and Christ and Glory you see not what we do see nor enjoy so much as we enjoy therefore spend your Tears upon your selves and not for us weep for your selves and not for us lament your selves being yet in a sinful World and not us that are lodged in a pure spotless Place and Kingdom You pray and wait and hope to be where we are but we have no desire to be where you be We have a better House than you live in better Company and better Work and sweeter Imployment
our Sorrow for our Dead Spiritually defective tho it be naturally abundant Or when is it too little as we are Christians be it never so much as we are Men Ans 1. When we sorrow for the breach of the Relation made by death we sorrow as men tho in great abundance for so an Heathen may do but do not sorrow for Sin as Sin committed against God in the neglect of our Relative Duties while the Relation was continued for so only Christians can do Tho our Natural Sorrow doth abound in the first respect it is spiritually defective in the latter respect Two things taken for granted 1. Here it is taken for granted That the most Loving Relations may Sin and fail in their Relative Duties one to another for as much as we cannot yield perfect Obedience to any one of the Ten Commandments among which the Fifth contains Relative Duties And who can say tho I have transgressed all the rest yet this I have perfectly fulfilled I have heard that some have asserted that they have lived Twenty or Forty years in a Conjugal Relation without an angry word or unkind act betwixt them if so might not we say O peaceable Spirits that were in these O rare Example and seldom found But be it so is there no other Sin in these Relations but anger and angry words What! Did they pray also daily together or as much one for another as they ought and as fervently as they should Did they by all ways and means appointed by God help each other in their Spiritual Concerns as Duty did require Were there never no sinful Thoughts in their Minds one against another there is one can tell you his sinful Thoughts against some Related to him hath filled his Heart with more sorrow his Eyes with Tears and his Mouth with secret Confessions to God and cost him more Sighs and Sobs and Groans in pleading for Pardon for the Sin of his Thoughts tho resisted than any angry Words or unkind Actions ever did For the one might be more easily prevented than the other because we have a more absolute government over our Tongues and Hands than over our Thoughts What! Can any Persons in any Relation suppose Husband and Wife Parents and Children say they did never Love too much or at no time too little never did take too much care or never too little for their Relations but had that just proportion and measure of Love to them and Care for them as the perfect Rule requires So much as God commanded and no more than God allowed For my part my Prayer shall be Lord forgive my Relative Sins whilst others boast and bless themselves and say O God I thank thee I am not in this as other Men be nor as this Man And Lord let not me be as Blind as that Man that can see no Relative Sins to confess to thee or to be humbled for at thy Throne of Grace when thou wilt find some to judge him for at the Bar of thy Justice 2. The reigning Sins or Sins of Infirmities what they were or are in their kinds degrees frequency and all Aggravations committed in our respective Relations must be left to the scrutiny of every man's Conscience or to God that was an Eye-witness if Conscience was fallen asleep and will be an Impartial Judge if Conscience for the present perform not its Office of Witness Accuser and Judge These being granted that your Father or Mother Husband or Wife or Child is dead you sorrow and grieve you weep and wall you lament and mourn there is your Humanity and Natural Passion because your Relation is broke but where is your Christianity in this sorrow when you had not one Tear amongst so many for the Sins against God and them while you stood in that Relation And yet do not you see while your natural sorrow is abundant your Spiritual sorrow is defective or none at all in this respect Where are your Tears for your disobedience to your Father or Mother when alive Where is the Husband's sorrow for undue and unjust grieving of his Wife sadning her Heart and sending her by his unkindness to her Knees in secret to open her Case and pour out her Tears and Soul before God in Prayer Did you without cause make her weep when alive and shall not this in all your sorrow for her when dead make you sorrow for sinning against God and her before she died According as your Relative Sins were more or less greater or smaller when the Relation held it 's time it 's high time to sorrow for them when by death it is broke and so shew your self a Christian as well as a Man in sorrowing for your dead And do this now if you have not hitherto tho your Father or Mother Husband or Wife or Child be long since dead and turned into dust their rotted Flesh and dry Bones and bare Skull in the Grave do cry to God against you Therefore while you sorrow for their dead Bodies sorrow also for your own sinful Souls because you sinned so much against them in their Life-time 2. When you mourn for the loss of that comfort and delight that you had in loving of them and in being beloved by them be your Sorrow never so much you sorrow only as Men for so an Heathen might do but you sorrow not for the Displeasure of God by reason of those Sins which Conscience doth justly and truly charge you with committed in that Relation your Sorrow is defective as you are Christians You sinned as you were an Husband and for your sin God was displeased you sinned as you were a Father or a Mother and God was displeased for your Sin you sinned as you were a Son or a Daughter and for your Sin God was displeased and God hath by Death taken away your Wife your Child your Father or Mother you Sorrow because they are dead with great Sorrow and herein you do no more than a Man or Woman as such might do but you do not Sorrow that God is displeased which is not so much as a Christian should do You Sorrow because you are afflicted but where is your Sorrow because God is displeased You have many Tears for the loss of your Creature-comforts but have you dropped one for the loss of that Comfort that should arise from the sense of the Love of God unto your Soul You mourn for the smarting Rod that lies upon you Nature Flesh and Blood will make you feel the smart and cry out because of it but you do not grieve that by the Sin in your Relation you grieved the Spirit of God that Grace must inable you to do Are not you herein like unto a Child that is scourged by his Father he cries aloud he weeps and sobs he groans but what is it for Not because his Father is displeased this he is not troubled at but because of the smart and pain that the Rod doth make him so sensible of Do
deeply how great it is Rule 5. A Wicked Husband that is a constant Curse and a daily Cross unto his whole Family whose Wife is in a worse condition for Body and Soul than if she were a Widow and whose Children by reason of his want of Affection to them and Care for them are more exposed to Ruine than if they were Fatherless leaves little reason behind him why they should grieve and sorrow for his Death upon their own accounts For who can sorrow for a deliverance from a daily Cross Who can grieve for being eased of a Burden under which they so long did groan Who can sorrow upon their own account that one is gone that did rather Hate than Love them and filled their Hearts with daily sorrow their Eyes with flowing Tears and their Mouths with Heart-piercing Complaints And why should any dissemble sorrow for such by whose Wickedness and Sin against God and the Family God was dishonoured and the Family ruined when by death he is taken off from doing so upon Earth any more Do you ask who ever taught this Doctrine before Job did Job 27.13 This is the portion of a wicked Man with God and the Heritage of Oppressors which they shall receive of the Almighty 15. Those that remain of him shall be buried in death and his Widows shall not weep Were there â—ver any such Widows Yes Psal 78.64 Their Priests fell by the Sword and their Widows made no Lamentation Rule 6. In mourning for such Relations that neither did their Duty to God nor to their Family but lived to God's dishonour and their daily grief and died without Repentance for both our sorrow must be for their sakes and not our own For the ungodly and unnatural as dying impenitently in their Sins and for the Loss of their Souls and Misery in the other World as David did for Absolom for tho our grief for them cannot mitigate their Torments nor our Tears quench their Fire yet it cannot but be a grief to us that our Relations should live and die in their Rebellion against God and neglect of their Duties towards us but did dishonour God whom they should have glorified and overthrew the Family by their Sin and Wicked Lives which they should have built up and maintained And as for their Sin while they lived so dying impenitent for their Misery after death The death of some puts an end to those Troubles and Disquiet and Crosses which they caused in their Families while they lived that for their own sakes the Living cannot find a reason why they should mourn because they are dead But when they consider their death was the beginning of their Intolerable and Eternal Misery for their sakes they cannot but give place to sorrow â—or while these Thoughts are working my Husband is dead and his Soul is Damned it will be hard to keep sorrow from the Heart And tho such sorrow doth not profit the Damned Soul yet unaccountable sorrow is not easily cast off Nor can we always cease to sorrow when we cannot give a reason of any good that is the fruit of our sorrow But yet a reason will be here suggested it was my Husband or Wife or Son or Daughter that lived wickedly and died impenitently and the Soul of one so near is lost is for ever lost And Religion teaching us that the Souls of such are miserable Nature will be working in us to lament their Misery and this is sorrow for their sakes Rule 7. In mourning for those that lived holily towards God and Conscientiously in their Relative Duties towards us our sorrow is for our own sakes more than for theirs The common saying our Loss is their Gain teacheth that the sorrow is for the Loser and not for the Gainer And indeed if we search to the bottom of our sorrow to find the reason of our sorrow for those that lived to the Lord and died in the Lord and after death do live gloriously and happily with the Lord it will appear we are sorrowing more for our selves than for them We call it mourning for the dead when it is indeed mourning for our selves yet living for let us enquire 1. Do we mourn because their Souls are perfectly Holy and Happy with God and Christ above No this is matter of our Comfort Delight and Joy Did not we earnestly pray for them sick and well that when they left Earth they might be received up to Heaven And do we sorrow that God heard our Prayers and hath saved their Souls Do we thus take on for this Are our Tears shed because God hath Crowned their Grace with Glory Are we grieving on Earth because they are rejoicing in Heaven Are we groaning here because they are triumphing there For shame we cannot say this is the reason and ground of our sorrow and that in this respect it is plain we do not sorrow for their sakes 2. Do we mourn because they are fallen asleep in Jesus Because they are gone to rest in their Beds Because their Bodies in that state in which they are remain united to Christ Are these grounds of sorrow Should we weep and waste our Tears because these things are said of them Or is it not matter of Comfort and Joy unto us that it is so well with their very Bodies as these things declared by God himself do import unto us Is it not better to die in Christ than to live in Sin Is it not better to sleep in Jesus than to be naturally awake and spiritually asleep in Sin Is it not better for the Body to lye still and rest free from Actings of Sin than to be able to walk in a constant course of wickedness Is it not more matter of Comfort to have the Bodies of our Friends united to Christ in the Grave than to have our Relations above ground separated from Christ and not united to him If it be let us cease over-sorrowing for them with whom it is better tho in the Grave and begin to sorrow for those with whom it is worse tho they live with us Which is matter of greater sorrow a departed Saint or a living Sinner And shall we drop more Tears for one departed Saint than for twenty living wicked Relations Why so When all these wicked ones are in danger of Hell but the departed Saint is past that danger The ungodly that do live are in danger of Eternal Torments both as to Body and Soul The departed Saint is past the danger thereof both as to Body and Soul For when the Soul is once safe in Heaven the Body is for ever past all danger of Hell Is this it that we sorrow for No verily we do give thanks to God that the Body is in these Circumstances though in the Grave But you say you mourn because they are dead and taken from us Dead But are not we spâ—â—king to Believers that live concerning departâ—â—â—â—lievâ—rs And should not we beliâ—vâ— what God saith concerning them And think and
speak of them in their Graves as the Scripture spâ—aketh See what the Living God saith concerning their Bodies and say if you sorrow for their sakes because the Bodies of your departed Relations are of that number that sleep in Jesus 1 Thes 4.14 And that rest in their Graves as in a Bed made easie by Christ's Body lodging there before theirs Isa 57.2 Look upon the Circumstances of their Bodies with a believing Eye through the Glass of Scripture and change the manner of speaking common to the bad into Scripture Language peculiar to the good they say He or she is dead do you say He or she sleeps in Jesus and do you indeed try if you can sorrow for that 3. If upon Scripture grounds believed and improved we have no reason to sorrow for the sakes of our holy Relation that are dead for what do we sorrow and for whom Is it because we have not the Comfort of their Company Is it because we are deprived of that good by their falling asleep in Jesus which we enjoyed while they lived with uâ— either in reference to our own good Temporal or Spiritual And is not this sorrowing for our selves more than for them For can we say we sorrow because they have not the Enjoyment of our Company when they were such that we are groundedly satiâ—fied that they have the Enjoyment of God in the Company of innumerable Angels and Saved Souls above And tho they loved our Company while they lived do we or can we think that they are not better pleased with that Society where now they are Or that tho we sorrow for want of them that they sorrow for want of us For want of us If we want them they want not us And if we sorrow that they continued no longer with us they rejoice at what we do sorrow And shall we sorrow at that for which they do rejoice Upon a due debate with our selves in a composed frame of Mind when the hurry of passionate sorrow is over we see we might change the form of speaking of mourning for such of our dead and more rationally call it a mourning for our selves because of the loss we sustain while we live by their falling asleep in Jesus Rule 8. Our sorrow for the dead that died in final Impenitency after they had lived wickedly all their days should not be such as doth deprive us of all our spiritual Delight and Joy in God and make us unfit and uncapable for the performance of those great Duties we stand engaged unto to God and Man It is indeed an Heart-piercing consideration to sit in our Mourning Chamber and think my Husband Wife Son or Daughter is Dead and Buried and Damned too To think the Body is meat for Worms and the Soul a prey to Devils That the parts of one so near us being separated are so disposed of as that one is lodged in a dark Grave and the other cast into outer Darkness and Eternal Torments which wounds some so deeply as brings them near unto distraction and sit and aggravate their sorrow saying The death of my Relation I could bear but the Thoughts of his Damnation do press me down that I have lost him is a loss under which I could find some Comfort to support me but that his Soul is irrecoverably lost and that it is under the loss of God and Christ and all the Happiness of Heaven and is fallen into the Company of Devils and all the Miseries of Hell the more I think of it the more my Soul refuseth to be comforted the deeper is the Wound and the greater is my sorrow But yet in this sorrowful case take heed of sinning in your sorrow for by Sin you deserve to follow him both to Grave and Hell Take heed of Sin which doth expose your own Soul to be cast into the lamented condition of your Dead and Damned Relation I say the third time take heed of sinning in your sorrow for such sinful sorrow must be sorrowed for and when you have by sinful excessive turbulent sorrow contracted guilt upon your own Soul you must bitterly bewail such Sin and sorrow for your own Sin added to the sorrow for his damnation will make you a Man a Woman of such sorrow that will be indeed an heavy load and a burden that will bow you down Because it is a Case too common for godly Parents to have wicked Children and so other Relations to have such as live and die impenitent upon whose account they are filled with distracting sorrow I shall propound these following Questions to their serious Thoughts and by that time they have given a sober considerate Answer to them upon due deliberation may see cause of taking heed thaâ— they do not go beyond the due Bounds of sorrow in this case or if they have to go and sorrow for their sorrow and so restrain it that their unquestionable duties might not by reason of it be neglected CHAP. IX Eight Questions propounded to such who pierce themselves through with almost-distracting sorrow for those that lived wickedly and died impenitent Q. 1. DID you sorrow for their Sin while they lived as you do for their Damnation dying impenitently now they are dead Did you shed as many Tears for the one as you do for the other Did the one cause as deep abiding sorrow in your Heart as the other doth If it were so your sorrow for their Sin might asswage your sorrow for their Damnation because you sorrowed for the cause as well as for the effect For that whereby they did dishonour God as well as for their Misery that hath befallen them If it were not so what kind of sorrow is this that you sorrow for the hurt of a Câ—eature and did not sorrow for that dishonour which that Creature did to God What kind of sorrow do you call that wherein the Misery of a Creature lyeth nearer to your Heart than his Eclipsing and Clouding the Glory of God by his Sins and Impenitency under them ever did in the time of his Life Examine by this sorrow for the Creatures Misery and not for God's dishonour by his Sin which was in your Eyes and esteem the greatest evil sin against God or the Creatures suffering for his Sin Q. 2. Did you do your Duty while they lived to recover them from a state of Sin that they might have prevented this Damnation you are now so sorrowful that by final impenitence and unbelief they are fallen into Did you seriously admonish them of their Duty reprove them for their Sin Warn them of the Wrath to come Tell them of their danger the Extremity and Eternity of those positive Torments and the greatness of the Loss of God and all the happiness of Heaven their wilful sinning did expose them to Did you call them to Repentance and shew them the necessity of forsaking Sin and turning unto God and of Faith in Christ and sincere Holiness that they might escape the Damnation of
desirous that the Devil's Kingdom should be destroyed and the Kingdom of our Lord Jesus should be promoted and propagated must be mourners in Heart tho not in Habit at the death of those that God did please to use for the one and for the other 4. Such sorrow argueth our selves to be of a publick Spirit and not to have such little narrow Souls as to be only concerned for our Carnal Self-interest You are afflicted in your own Person or in your own Family and you sorrow and mourn who will thank you for it What Grace or good Nature is manifested in your selfish sorrow Or who will call this good Nature in you when you are so selfish to sorrow only for Self-concerns 5. The Labours of Godly Ministers in their Life have immediate reference to your holy Living to your happy Dying and to your Well-being to all Eternity Is there any thing in this World concerns you more than to lead an holy Life to die an happy death and to be saved when you die Do they die that should direct you in all these And is there no cause of sorrow for the death of such which puts an end to all their Labours CHAP. IX Resolves this Question When is our Sorrow for our Dead excessive and immoderate THe Second Part of the propounded Method in treating of this sorrowful Subject is to shew When our Sorrow for our Dead is excessive and immoderate That in some it is Defective especially in Spiritual Respects hath been already shewed and wherein it doth come short of what it ought to be that it is excessive and immoderate in others the Practice of many deprived of their Relations by Death is a visible Proof and the Caution and Charge given in the Text doth suppose that some do exceed the bounds and that their Tears do overflow the Banks of Moderation and make a Land-stood in their Families So far as it hath already been discovered to be turbulent it is excessive which here should be reviewed to which some more might be added The Apostle's Golden Rule should be our Christian Directory for the moderating of our Joy and Sorrow in having or losing the outward Enjoyments of this Life 1 Cor. 7.29 But this I say Brethren the timt is short it remaineth that both they that have wives be as though they had none 33. And those that weep as though they wept not and they that rejoice as though they rejoyced not and they that buy as though they possessed not and they that use this world as not abusing it for the fashion of this world passeth away In which Rule we might note these things 1. Some have their Wives Husbands Parents Children yet continuing with them Others have none because by death taken from them 2. Those that have them are apt to â—ver-joy in them those that have lost them are prone to over-sorrow for them 3. Those that have them shall shortly be in the same circumstances as those that are by death deprived of them Ours are dead and yours shortly will be so Life is so short and the end of all so near and sure that there is little and no long difference betwixt the state of one and of the other 4. Those that have Wives and other Relations should sometimes suppose themselves to be in the Circumstances of those that have none that the thoughts that shortly they shall have none might correct their excessive joy while they have them for though you have them you should he as though you had them not looking upon Relations that shortly will not be as if now already they were not is a point of prudence for the moderating of our joy in them Those that have them not should suppose this will be the case of those that have for the allaying of their sorrow that now this is their present state 5. The reasons of this indifferency of our Spirits in these different Circumstances of our Life 1. The time is short those that have Fathers and Mothers Wife Husband or Children shall have them but for a short time Why then are your hearts transported with so much joy when you might stand and see the end of them those that are deprived of them have themselves but a little time to live Why then are you so much cast down for so short a want of them 2. All these things are but as a shadow or an appearance of good rather than that good wherein our happiness doth lie and the solid spiritual abiding comfort of our life doth consist it is but the fashion of this world an accidental and External Figure without substance the surface and outside What is all that is in this world that is of the world but a meer surface and vain outside why then do we joy so much or sorrow so much whether we have them or be without them 3. They are in continual change like Water in the River is continually every moment passing away What! are these things neither substantial nor continual and shall we be over-affected with the having or the losing of them Christians should do as to Temporals as Worldings do in Spirituals these pray as if they prayed not they can confess sin and neithâ—r weep without nor sorrow within they are under the loss of the favour of God and yet are as contented as if they were not they can ask for an interest in Christ pardon of sin and eternal Salvation and yet not be much troubled for the present though they go without them for ever they can sit and hear the threatnings of God and never fear nor grieve can sit and hear the glad tidings of the Gospel and never rejoice hear all as if they heard them not or if they have some movings of Affections they are not deep they reach not the heart they do not break their hearts for sin against God nor for the loss of God so much as some do for the loss of a Creature Let such as are immoderately weeping for their dead stop their Tears that they may read compose tâ—eir minds for a while at first that they may consider what is said and command their Sorrow to give place to Reason and Religion or if they have not such command over it should earnestly pray to God that hath that they might at last not sorrow with such excess of sorrow as if they had no hope of the blessed present and future state of those they thus do sorrow for Let me propound some Questions to you and let Reason and Conscience in your Sorrow give in their Answer if it be not sorrow in excess Q. 1. Is your sorrow for your Dead so much as in the degrees of it tends to the shortning of your own Life and is it not then too much Is your Relation dead and will you therefore kill your self hath death broken the Relation you had in the Fifth Commandment and will you go on to transgress the Sixth hath Death killed one and will
am Alas Lord forgive your unprofitable Servant tho studious as I can of your Spiritual and Eternal Good Thomas Doolittle The CONTENTS THE Mourners Complaint his Warning to others the Explication of the Text. pag. 1. to 9. Doct. I. The actings and workings of Sonrow in the Living for their Dead are allowed and lawâ—ull and ought to be The want of the workings of natural Affections in many upon this occasion calls for the handling of this doctrine 10 11 12 Proved by approved Examples and by Reasons p. 13 to 29 Use I. Of Reproof Where Eight Conclusions concerning Sorrow for the dead p. 31 I. This question What are the aggravations of want of Sorrow and sense of Gods hand in this Case answered in 10 particulars p. 35 to 46 Use II. Of Examination of the Kind of our Sorrow II. Quest When is our Sorrow for our dead Kindly and pleasing to God and when a turbulent Passion a Vexation of Spirit and provoking to God Ten Answers p 46 to 66 Use III. Of Caution p. 66 67 III. Quest When is our Sorrow for our dead spiritually defective thô it be naturally abundant Or when is it too little as we are Christians be it never so much as we are Men Eight Answers p. 69 to 83 Doct. II. Christians ought so to bound their sorrow for their dead that it be not Excessive and Immoderate p. 84 Ten Rules concerning the Kinds and Degrees of sorrow for the dead p. 87 c. Eight Questions propounded to such as sorrow with distracting sorrow for the death of Impenitent Relations for the composing of their minds p 101 c. Q. When is our sorrow for our dead excessive and Immoderate Twelve Answers 116 to 137 4 Remedies against excessive sorrow for our dead p. 137 c. I. Rem The consideration of the state of the Bodies of departed Believers that they sleep in Jesus 4 Notes of this Scripture expression of death as a sleep 142 c. 10 Meditations of Death as a sleep moderating our sorrow for them that sleep in Jesus 145 to 152 II Rem The knowledge and Belief of the glorious state of their separated Souls while their Bodies sleep in the Grave 152 to 158. Proved and Improved for the asswaging of our Sorrow III. Rem The Resurrection of those dead we mourn for to glorious Eternal Life Proved as a ground of great Comfort in our sorrow 158 to 165 Seven Properties or Endowments of their Bodies when raised as so many alleviations of our Sorrow 166 c. IV. Rem The Antecedents Concomitants Consequents Of their Resurrection 174 1. The Lord HIMSELF will come from Heaven and call them out of their Graves Our sorrow abated by the Certainty Nearness Publickness Of Christs coming for them 175 to 183. 2. The Shout and sounding Trumpet what it will be The Ministration of Angels about the dead in Christ 183 c. 3. The Priviledge of those that sleep in Jesus or their Preheminence before those that shall then be found alive 190 4. Our dead shall then meet the Lord in the Air. 191 5. They shall be with the Lord for Ever 192 Opened With whom they shall be With the Lord. Who shall be with him The dead in Christ whom we now sorrow for all Believers sound alive How long To all Eternity 193 c. Use Of Comfort 200 201 24 Questions added to the former grounds of Comfort for the quieting of our Minds and moderating our sorrow for our dear Relations now dead 201 to 211. The Mourners Soliloquy or Reasoning with himself about hâ— sorrow for his Dead that it might be kept within the bound of Moderntion 215 c THE Mourners Directory 1 THESS IV. 13. But I would not have you to be ignorant brethren concerning them which are asleep that ye sorrow not even as others which have no hope CHAP. I. The Introduction and Explication of the Text. THe Survivor according to his Circumstances by sympathizing Persons will be allowed to unload his burthened heart by pouring out his Complaints in some such manner Hath God afflicted me Hath he chastised my Children both me and them with such a smarting Rod as Death bereaving me of the choicest outward Comfort of my Life and removing out of the World from them a tender Mother that brought them into it and thereby caused us all to drink deeply of the Waters of Marah and filled our Eyes with overflowing Tears and our Hearts with over-whelming Sorrow and is it not time to cast about what Remedy Scripture doth yield which Nature cannot afford Do I stand before you this day in such Circumstances as in Preaching for the space of almost forty years I never did and may I not borrow from you some hours in your hearing to speak to my self and them deprived of so great a Mercy Paul was in a great strait whether he should chuse to live or dye and I am in a strait how I should without sin Sorrow for my dead For if defect of Sense and Sorrow in this case be a Sin I will strive to Sorrow that through stupidity I might not Sin If regular Sorrow be my duty I will study and pray that it might be so regulated that whilest I Sorrow and not Sin I might please and delight my self in this Sorrow and take some comfort from my Sorrow If excess be my weakness without Divine Assistance I cannot remove it therefore bent my mind to muse upon these words I would not have you to be ignorant concerning them which are asleep that ye sorrow not even as others which have no hope But may not that which is my Sorrow to day be some of yours to morrow Or within a little time will it not must it not be done to you and yours which at the present is done to me and mine Are not your Relations mortal as well as ours was And if you have not sinned so much as we yet have not you so much Sin as might call Death into your Houses Will not Death shortly knock at your doors and enquire who lives here upon this design that there they may die Will it not break through your strongest Gates scale your highest Walls climbe up to your Windows enter into your Chambers come into your very Beds and take the Wife out of your Bosome and the sucking Child from the Mothers Brest Will it not in a few Days and Nights more tear and rend from you the desire of your Eyes tho you would hold them fast in your Arms Shall not the shriekings be heard in your Houses as lately were in mine and the doleful cry go round while one Child begins saying My Mother alas my dear Mother is dead and another shall eccho to the voice of the former with weeping Eyes with wringing of Hands and bitterness of Soul shall say What shall I do what shall I do My tender loving Mother is dead my Mother is dead I could never say so before and the first time it is said
We must have the Tongue of Christian Preachers tho some Hearers have not the Natural Affections of Heathen men 8. Whether the death of Relations be a Punishment to some or a Chastisement to others that remain alive a Penal Evil or a Correcting Trying since it is a Smarting Rod all should have such a sense of Gods Hand as to produce feeling sorrow in their Hearts want of sorrow under both is a Sin thus aggravated CHAP. IV. Ten Aggravations of Want of Sorrow for our Dead 1. WAnt of sorrow and sense of Gods Afflicting Hand is not Patience but Stupidity not Submission but Rebellion not Heroical Fortitude of Mind but a Sottishness of Spirit Is that Patience when you feel no smart or suffering Is that Submission to his Will when you have no feeling of his Rod Is it patient yielding to his Hand when you have no sense of the smart of the Rod that by his Hand is laid upon you Submission in this case hath these Requisites in it 1. A desire of the continuance of the Relation before it was taken from us 2. A thankfulness of Heart if God would have continued the Relation to us 3. A sense of the Loss that hath befallen us 4. A reckoning of all the Inconveniences and discomfort of our Lives by their removal by Death and yet 5. A quieting of our Hearts under God's dealings with us in taking them away from us because it was his Will in his Wisdom so to do unto us But if you did not desire their continuance but rather for Carnal Worldly Selfish Ends their removal could not have been thankful for their Life but secretly glad of their Death still for sinful selfish Ends have no sense of the Loss nor did esteem it a Loss but some Advantage and please your selves with reckoning the conveniences you have by their Death will you blind the World or your selves by calling your unsensibleness of Gods Hand in their Death a submitting to the Hand and Will of God However take heed that you go not about to impose upon God himself the Searcher of your Hearts with such a blind as this is When you have such love unto and care of and desire after the continuance of your Children â—s Job had and such a sense of their Death as he of his and yâ—t carry it as he did we will call yours a submission as his was Job 1 18 19 20 21 22. so 〈◊〉 sense and sorrow under God's Afflicting sâ—â—nd in this kind is hardness of Heart when such a lash can make no print nor impression of the Rod It is stiff-neckedness when such a burden will not make it bow It is stout-heartednesâ— against God when such a severe stroke doth not make you relent and melt and yield to him 2. It is accompanied with the Loss of that Spiritual good which yâ—u should have got by sâ—ch an Afflction so in it self tho by you not looked upon to be so When you are corrected should not you be reformed When you are scourged should you not be amended When iâ— the Furnace should not you be purified When in the School of Affliction should not you learn the Lessons there to be taught Is all this or any of this like to be when you make light of Gods heavy Hand in the death of your near relations And do not you make light of it when you have no sorrow for the stroke nor sense of the Wound inflicted by it The loss of a Relation is a great loss but the loss of a sanctified Improvement of it for your Spiritual and Eternal good is a greater loss because the one might be a Penal Evil the other is a Sinful Evil. The one an Affliction the other a Transgression the one is a stroke of God upon you the other is a Sin in you against God Jer. 5.3 Thou hast stricken them but they have not grieved thou h st consumed them but they have refused to receive correction they have made their faces harder than a rock they have refused to return The death of your Child of your Father Mother Wife Husband should have been improved so as to have beâ—n the death of your Sins but behold they are dead and your Sins alive they are rotting in their Graves and your Sins are still raging and ruling in your Hearts 3. Want of Sorrow from the want of the sense of Gods â—fflicting Hand in this case argues want of the sense of Sin that did procure it of Gods displeasure that did inflict it and hinders your Repentance for those Sins and humbling your self under the Hand of a displeased God Tho the death of Relations might not always be for the Sins of those that do survive yet sometimes it is Tho God may not always take them away in displeasure to those that remain yet sometimes he doth and thus it may be with those that are in a state of Grace as with David 2 Sam. 12.14 Howbeit because by this deed thou hast given great occasion to the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme the child also that is born unto thee shall surely die Should not you then search and enquire What is my Sin And what is my offence And wherein have I displeased God Have I sinned and shall I not sorrow for my Sin Is God displeased and shall I not seek to have him pacified Is my Relation broken by my Sin and shall not my Heart be broken for my Sin Or do I make light of the death of my Father or Mother Husband Wife or Child and of my Sin and God's displeasure too Or can I have any sorrow for the Cause when I have no sorrow for the Effect Tho many might have sorrow for the Effect when they have no sorrow for the Cause thereof Many might be full of sorrow for the death of Relations that have no sorrow for the Sin for which God by death did take them away from them that yet do livâ— but can a Man have sorrow for the Sin and for Gods displeasure for that Sin that hath no sorrow for the death of the Person caused by the Sin of the Living Can you grieve or repent of the Sin that caused the death and not be grieved nor sorrow for such of your dead Surely this should make you sorrow for your dead more than others that by their Sin did not hasten their death saying Oh what have I done What have I done Have I sinned my Child into his Grave Did I sin against God and hath God taken away my Child my Father my Mother my Wife my Husband from me for my Sin Have I shortned their days and provoked God to cut in two the Thread of their Lives And so sinned against a Living God that cannot die and against my Living Relations which for my Sin now are dead This would cause sorrow upon sorrow when many have cause to sorrow for both do yet sorrow for neither Indeed God was displeased with David for his Sin and for his
Sin his Child did die and yet after the Childs death we do nor read he sorrowed for the Child that died for his Sin with such sorrow that he did for Absalom that died in his own Sin But is your Case and David's alike He sorrowed for his Sin and humbled himself for his Sin and fasted and prayed with weeping Tears to God but did you do so He obtained the pardon of his Sin but have you also Is it not to be questioned when you have no sorrow for Sin nor God's displeasure nor the dead when your Case which is not the case of all was such that one did cause the other 4. Want of Sorrow for the dead taken from them from want of sense of God's hand upon them and against them argues That they are spiritually Blind and cannot see spiritually Deaf and cannot hear spiritually Benummed and cannot feel When your living fall down dead God's hand is lifted up and you do not see You see them fall into the Grave under your feâ—t but you do not see the hand of God lifted up over your head Isa 26.11 Lord when thy hand is lifted up they will not see When your living Relations do dye there is Gods rod upon you and it hath a Voice a loud a shâ—ill and doleful crying Voice but you do not hâ—ar did I say a Rod Nay God hath been in your House with his Ax hewing down your Living lopping off the Children as so many Branches cutting off the Father or the Mother or both and plucking up the Family by the Roots and yet you do not hear the sound of the Rod nor of the Ax nor consider who it is that did appoint both When your Relations dye it is a stroke of God upon your selves he kills them and smitteth you and yet you have no feeling of his blow What! are the living dead while they do live Are the living become like unto their dead Having eyes but do not see and ears but do not hear and flesh but cannot feel You stand before them but they do not see you you call to them but they do not hear you you strip them and put on them their Grave-clothes and remove them down your Stairs and carry them from your House to their Lodging-dust and let them down into the pit and all this while they do not feel you So are you towards God as they towards you God a displeased God is come into your House into your Chamber but you do not see him nor his anger He calls to you by your Dead that lies bâ—fore you but you do not hear his Voice He is punishing correcting of you but you do not feel the smart of his stroke Behold the dead burying their dead men spiritually dead burying their naturally dead The Lifeless corps do not sorrow that they are let down into the Grave and the Liseless-living living a Life of Nature but not a Life of Grace not having the Sense of Christians nor of Men of the death of their dead nor of Sin nor of God's displeasure do not mourn to see thâ—m lodged thâ—re 5. Want of Sorrow in this case from want of sense of God's hand that brought you into it argues That you wanted love to them and a prizing and a valuing of them Love your Money and do not sorrow when you lose it Love your Health and Ease and do not grieve when you want it in sickness and in pain Will you say you cannot How did you love your Child when living if you cannot sorrow for its Death How did you love and prize and value the Com◠〈…〉 â—f Father or Mother Husband or 〈…〉 live without Sor◠〈…〉 them If Sor◠〈…〉 of what was be◠〈…〉 bear some 〈…〉 of Lovâ— then how 〈◊〉 was the love to them when living when thâ—re is no sorrow for them when dead The sâ—ying of a poor Man seeing a rich Man burying his Child told me was this 'T is the priviledge of the rich to bury their Children when the poor must keep theirs Are not Children Husbands Wives Fathers Mothers a burden to such that look upon it as a Priviledge that they may dye that they may be buried What hearts have they that do not sorrow for their dead when want of Sorrow argues they wanted love and yet the thoughts of their want of formâ—r love to them doth not fill them with present Sorrow But something to this hath been said before 6. Want of Sorrow in this Case argues A contemning and a despising of the afflicting hand of God When God gave you a good Husband or Wife or Parents or Childrâ—n and you did not prize them when you had them this was a despising of Gods merciful and good Hand unto you when God took them from you by death you laid it not to heart this is a despising of the chastening Hand of God upon you When living you were not thankful when dead you were not sorrowful in the one you despised his love in the other you despised his anger As if you should say Let God do what he will you will despise all his doings God's command to Man is this Heb. 12.5 Despise not the chastening of the Lord nor faint when thou art rebuked of him One man despiseth that rebuke from God which another is ready to sink under One bears it without feeling of it when another faints at the smarting of it When it is a small Affliction a man despiseth it this is a light thing and easily born When it is a great Affliction man fainteth because of it saying No man's Affliction like to mine no man's Sorrow like to mine my Flesh faileth my Strength faileth my Heart and Spirit fail for this is grievous to be born but behold the Man we are speaking of is under a great Affliction for such is the loss of a near and good Relation and yet being not sensible despiseth that which another finds heavy to bear 7. Want of Sorrow in this case argues a man to be predâ—minâ—ntly a selfish man To have love to or care of none but himself What if a Child dye so long as he himself doth live What if a Father or Mother dye while he himself doth live And yet which is more what if a Wife be laid under ground among the dead so he himself hath Life and Strength to walk above ground amoâ—g the living He can set the comfort of his own Life aâ—â—â—nst all Sorrow tho he see all in his Faâ—â—ly removed by Death and tho he be lâ—fâ— aâ—â— alone it is all one to him for himseâ—â— alone is all to him It was fitter for such a man to have lived alone in some Cavâ—rn of the Earth than to have been troubled with Wife or Children whom he can part with without any trouble to himself 8. This wâ—nt of Sorrow in the â—xplâ—â—â—ed Sense is a provâ—cation to God to afflict 〈◊〉 more and more till he is sensible of the Assâ—◠〈◊〉 and of the hand that laid
it on God â—eâ—◠〈◊〉 one Child by Death and you â—ave â—o sens os the breach made in your Housâ— nor sorroâ— for it you do not feel the smarting 〈◊〉 God removes a second and yâ—t yâ—u do not fâ—â—l it God proceeds from a Child to a Wife and yet you do not feel it nâ—xt he comes unto your sels and then you feel and lays you dead also and makes you as to your Body till the Resurrection to be past feeling 9. Want of Sorrow in this Case makes you worse than many Heathens They sorrow too much and you too little They are excessive the Man called Christian is defective in his Sorrow They act more like men the Christian so called worse than the Bruits who shew their Sense and Sorrow when deprived of their young 10. Want of Sorrow in this Case fills Funerals with Dissemblers and they follow the Corps acting the Hypocrite openly in the Streets he walks with Mourning on his Head and Back and Hands without mourning in his Heart Others think he sorrows but he knows he doth not and yet he pretends he doth if People knew him as he knows himself would say either get a mourning Heart or put off your mourning Robes If I have said in your Judgment too much upon the want of Sorrow bear with me for I have said it out of a detestation in my heart of such more than brutish Temper in many towards their deceased Relations worthy to be lamented when yet the better they were by some are sorrowed for the less If you think there are none guilty in this Case it is a sign you are not much acquainted with People in the World CHAP. V. Resolves this Question When is our Sorrow for our Dead kindly and pleasing unto God and when a turbulent Passion and vexation of Spirit and provoking to God USE II. IF your hearts be filled with Sorrow for your Dead and with a Sense of God's hand upon you examine your Sorrow what manner of Sorrow it is For Sorrow meerly as Sorrow I have not been pleading for nor reproving the want of under such a smarting Dispensation of Divine Providence which may be the better managed by resolving the second Question propounded which is this When is our Sorrow for the Dead kindly and pleasing unto God And when a turbulent Passion a vâ—xation of Spirit and provoking to God Ans 1. Kindly Sorrow for our Dead and pleasing unto God is joyned with lively Prayer What is all our weeping for them in the Grave without praying to God in Heaven What is all our Lamentation for them without Supplication to God And the more kindly your Sorrow is the more your Heart will relent and melt and the more servent your Spirit in Prayer will be While they were in their Health with you it may be you tendered up Sick prayers to God when they did live your Prayers were dead and dull and slothful Prayers when they were waking with you you prayed with them in a drowsy sleepy manner when God roused you by their Death you prayed after with more Life when they fell asleep God awaked you to more earnest and importunate Pleadings with him at the Throne of Grace If fear lest Mother and Children should be put to death by Esau moved Jacob to mix his fearing and sorrowing with Prayer and Wrestling should not feeling of the stroke of Death upon a Mother a Wife a Child put us on to the like praying to and pleading with God If he when his case only was it may be they must die now should not we when we must say He or she is already dead If he did it to preserve life may not we for the loss of their Life He for the good of Preservation we under the sense of our Afâ—l ction Gen. 32.9 10 11 24 25 26. Hos 12.4 He wept and made supplication to him Job lost ten Children in one day to express his Sorrow he rent his mantle and shaved his head and fell down upon the ground all which he did not under all his former losses till the sad tidings of the Deatâ— of his Children were brought unto him And in all this great Sorrow what did he do He worshipped he bowed down before God and gave Divine Worship unto him by Prayer and Praise Job 1.19 20 21. in all this he pleased God for in all this he sinned not ver 22. What if we weep night and day but pray not neither night nor day What if we pour out our Tears but do not pour out a Prayer Could we weep our selves blind kill our selves with Sorrow or rent our Garments and wring our Hands and tear our Hair and never Worship all this is exorbitant Sorrow turbulent Passion neither profitable to our selves nor pleasing to God nor advantagiâ—us to the Dead Some Persons when one lieth dead in the House tho on a Lord's day will stay at home and weep but not go out and worship God in Holy Duties but when you have any dead it is better drop your Tears into God's Bottle than with them wash your own Faces or wet your Hankerchief from such turbulent Sorrow Ans 2. Kindly Sorrow in this Case will usher in Sorrow for our Sin especially such Sins as at such a time come to our Thoughts relating to the Persons wâ—ose Death we mourn for as neglect of our Duty to them unjust and ungrounded grieving of them or any sinful and unsutable Carriage towards them when they lived with us As do I mourn for the dead Corps I will shed my Tears for omission of my Duty for the good of the living Soul That I did not instruct them nor did I pray with them nor for them did not teach them how to live nor help them to prepare to die When Nathan came to David his Child died when David was convinced of his Sin for which his Child did dye David turns his Sorrow for his dead Child into Sorrow for his Sin and laments and weeps and wails for the one much more than for the other Psalm 51. Title and Psalm compared So you Shall I lament my dead child and not my dead heart shall I shed tears because it is under the power of natural Death and have not I one tear to drop because my Soul is under the power of spiritual Death Do I look upon its pale Face and feel its cold Flesh and thereby pierce my self through with many and bitter Sorrows And do I feel my own cold Affections to God and Christ and all that is good Do I see the deformity of my Soul by reason of Sin and am I more loathsome in the sight of a pure and holy God by reason of my sin and shall I be grieved more for the lesser than the greater evil Is it not sin that hath captivated my Soul worse than Death that hath taken my Wife or Husband my Father and Mother and carry them Prisoners to the Grave O my Soul correct thy Sorrow and
turn the stream of thy Tears into another Channel abate thy Sorrow for the Dead and increase thy Sorrow for thy Sin If thou Sorrow never so much thy Dead shall live here with thee no more but if thou Sorrow not for thy Sin thou must be shut out from living with God for evermore Natural Sorrow had almost swallowed me up and for want of Spiritual Sorrow I am in danger of being cast down into Eternal Misery Therefore tho I will sorrow for my Dead I will sorrow more for my Sins The loss of God and Christ and Heaven by my Sin will be a greater loss than the loss of my dearest Relation by Death infinitely greater The one by my Natural sorrow cannot be recovered the other by Penitent-gospel-sorrow may be prevented therefore while I do the one I will take special care that the other be not left undone But if your Sorrow be only turbulent Passion you add sin to sin in your Sorrow And instead of sorrowing for former Sins you will be falling into new and sorrow neither for new nor old You will vent your Passion by the actings of Corruptions saying Oh that I had never been born Since my Relation is dead Oh that I might also dye God hath dealt with none so bitterly as he hath dealt with me My Husband dead Hâ—w shall I be maintained My Father and Mother dead and I not disposed of in the World who is there to take care of me My Wise dead My bosem Companion dead the comfort of my Life fallen into the Grave When I am sick and in danger of Death who have I to take care of me now my meetest help is gone How is this your sorrowing for your Dead Do you thus mingle your Sin with your Tears and your Corruption with your Lamentation If your Father or Mother or both be dead in your Passion and turbulent Sorrow do you forget that God doth live If your Husband be dead cannot God provide for you without him that did provide for you by him If Children dye is not God more to you than many Children If your Wife be taken from you cannot God help as much as such a Creature did or could to bear your Burdens and Afflictions cannot he provide or prevent Oh let us bridle our turbulent Sorrows and vexatious Passions lest they hurry us from God and cause us to yield to great Temptations Ans 3. Kindly Sorrow for our Dead will move us to seek for relief and support in a regular way dispose us to râ—ceive Divine Impressions by the Word and Spirit of God and belief of the great Articles of Faith beyond the reach of Reason Lazarus was dead Mary and Martha mourned their Hearts were filled with Sorrow their Eyes with Tears and their Mouths with Lamentations What did they do Sit still and feed their Sorrow Give place to Grief and yield unto dejection and despondency of Spirit Or seek out for Counsel and Direction in their sorrowful Circumstances It was told Martha Christ was coming Is Christ coming I shall have some help from him he will teach me and instruct me He will say and do something for my succour and support Wherefore as soon as she heard that Jâ—sus was coming she did not stay till he came but immediately went out meet to him If Christ be coming to her she will be going to Christ When she met with him with Tears declared her Sorrow and the Ground and Reason of it Lord my Brother is dead but if thou hadst been here he had not died What Christ said to her she believed and received and declares her Faith concerning the Resurrection of the Dead at the last day concerning the Power and Will of God to give to Christ whatsoever he should ask of him Concerning his Person that he was the Christ the Son of God that was to come into the World When she had thus discoursed with Christ she returns to her Mourning Sister Mary saying The Master is come and calleth for thee As soon as she heard that Christ was near she rose up hastily to go out of the Town to meet him also falls down at his feet makes known to him the Death of her Brother and her Faith in his Power That if he had been present he could and would have prevented his Death for she said If thou hadst been here my brother had not died Christ asked Where have you laid him they and the Jews that mourned with them entreated him to go unto his Grave saying Lord come and see Jesus cometh to the Grave commands the Stone that lay upon it to be taken away Martha objâ—cts His Body is corrupted for he hath been dead four days Christ replies Did not I tell thee if thou wouldst beliâ—ve thou shouldst see the pâ—wer of God They that wept and mourned obeyed and did as Câ—rist commanded His words made an Impression upon them and they yiâ—ld Obedience to him and had Faith in him even to and for the raising of the Dead John 11.19 to 45. Kindly Sorrow leaves room for Faith and Obedience Faith and Obedience keeps Sorrow from degenerating into a turbulenc Passion which is nourished by Unbelief and Disobedience and in this Sorrow men can deride what they should believe Luke 8.49 Jairus his Daughter was dead 52. They wept and bewailed her Christ said Weep not she is not dead but sleepeth 53. They laughed him to scorn knowing that she was dead But Christ by his call and command to arise brought her Soul into her again to the astonishment of the Father and the Mother of the Maiden 54 55 56. who in their kindly Sorrow did believe what others in their turbulent Passion did deride Tho we have not Christ visibly corporally present with us in our Sorrow to go unto yet we have his Word to go unto and his Ministers to go unto and to hear the words of Christ opened and applied to us by his Servants and under such an Affliction what Impressions might be made under a Sermon when you hear of Sin the evil of it the aggravations of it the bitter effects of it how will you when Sorrow is already working be inclined and disposed to sorrow for your Sin The word of God doth tell me Sin is bitter and I do find it so That Sin brought in Death and I am mourning for such doings of Death by reason of Sin That the Life of man is short a vapour a shadow and quickly gone and I do find iâ— so what else mean these Tears that I do shed for my departed Friend What else doth mean this Sorrow in my Breast for my deceased Relation that t'other day was in my Bosom but now in the Bowels of the Earth When you are pressed to prepare for your own Death by the Necessity and Advantage of such holy Preparations you heart will more readily yield now than at another time when this will be the Language of your Heart Speak Lord and I will hear make known
What do you call it Natural Sorrow Sorrow of Men as Men But where is your Christian Sorrow And the Sorrow you should have as renewed sanctified Men Or should tend by the spiritual Improvement of the Death of your Relation to make you such Should you not say Is my Child dead and my Soul not mended by its Death My Heart as hard and as worldly as before Hath God been smiting me and cannot I feel Hath God been correcting me for my Sin and cannot I yet grieve and groan weep and sorrow for my Sin Hath Death separated me and my Relation and do I sorrow for that And hath not Sin separated God and me and do not I sorrow for this Do I sit and sorrow because I shall enjoy the company of this Relation no more and have I no grief and sorrow that by my Sin I have forfeited the enjoyment of God for ever Is not God better than the Creature and the Enjoyment of God better sweeter than the Enjoyment of the Creature and the lose of God a greater and more bitter loss than the loss of my Relation And yet have I so many Tears for the loss of the lesser and not one for the loss of the greater Good Did I take the Creature for my God that I sorrow more for the loss of it than I do for the real loss of him that is indeed the only True Living and Eternal God Hath God been laying Gall and Wormwood on the Creatures Breast to wean me from the Love of this present World and do not I improve his stroke to call off my Affections from it When my Children did live I then pretended that my worldly Cares was to make Provisions for them hath God taken them away and do my worldly care still remain as much as when I had them to provide for May I not see the deceitfulness of my heart and turn my sorrow from mourning for my Dead to mourning for making no better Improvement of their Death Did I give that Love to them which was due to God and now I have not them to lâ—ve should not God have my love and more of it Did I place so much comfort in their Life and should not I seek my comforts now from God when I find my Creature-comforts thus do fail me Did I take delight in conversing with them and now that delight is ceased and gone should not I improve this disappointment in seeking and endeavouring after and labouring for more Communion with God And if I cannot find this Affliction sanctified to me should not I sorrow less for the loss of my Relation and cease mourning so much as I am a Man and turn my mourning into sorrowing far want of an holy Improvement of my loss and at lost begin to sorrow as a Christian man in this case should sorrow 5. When you sorrow more for their Death than that you are yet so much unprepared for your own And that you have improved your time and means of Grace no more to get ready for Death and Judgment after Death and Heaven after Judgment Your Father or Mother Husband or Wife died with well-grounded hopes of Heaven on their Dying-bed conquered the Fears of Death and rejoyced in the hope of the Glory of God expressed their thankfulness to God that they had had that Communion with God the experience whereof did so much then delight them that they would not have been without for all the Riches of the World And you are yet under doubts and fears afraid to think of Death because you do not know whether then you shall be damned or saved because you cannot tell whether you have believed or repented and yet you sorrow for them as men go sorrow because of your own Fears and Dangers you are in 6. When you sorrow more for your own loss than you do for your discontent and impatient murmuring at the Hand of God because of your loss and do not sorrow for your excessive Sorrow Natural Sorrow when it is vitiated with the acting of corrupt Nature will soon work up to discontent and impatience to repining and harbouring of hard thoughts and sometimes blasphemous Thoughts against the blessed glorious God If God did love me why hath he dealt thus with me If he had a kindness for me why hath he taken his kindness from me If God govern the World by his Wisdom why doth he take away those that are a comfort to their Relations and continue those that are a cross and a curse and a plague unto them Forbear say no more think no more these Thoughts but if in your Sorrow you have such things unworthy of God arising in your mind cease sorrowing for your Dead and speedily begin and hold on to lament and bitterly bewail such abominable Motions in your hearts and spare your Tears to mourn for this great Wickedness and pray That these Thoughts of your heart may be forgiven you For should God's afflicting hand lay you down at his Foot and doth your corrupt heart let fly such sinful Actings in his Face Or will you mourn for your Affliction by the Instigation of natural Affection as a Man and not at all grieve and groan sigh and sob lament and bewail the Exorbitancy of your Passion tho it work to so great a Provocation of a Just and Powerful God and by such discontent risen to such an height shew your self a corrupt Man and by not sorrowing for these sinful workings of heart shew your self to be no Religious Man 7. When you sorrow more for your outward worldly loss by the Death of your Relation than you do for your distrust in the Promises and Providence of God to provide for you A Wife had a dependency upon her Husband and Children on their Father under God He dies and their trust in God dieth with him What shall we do now for a maintenance For supply of our wants Who shall give us Bread to eat and Raiment to put on Is not this to mourn more like an Heathen than a Christian Can God provide for you no way but one By no other means than by him that was an Husband or a Father to you You are short in your Christian Sorrow while you are excessive in your Turbulent Sorrow 8. When you sorrow more for the dead Body of your Relation than you do for the want of greater Faith and Hope and quieting thoughts of a joyful Resurrection which should be the Fruit of that Faith and Hope You see the dead Corps in the Coffin laid in the Grave thither your Thoughts run daily when you do not to mourn over them in the Grave fixing your thoughts how they putrify and rot how they consume and moulder away and this pierceth your heart But you do not meditate as one that believes they shall live again and be glorious Bodies and in this your sorrow is defective as you are a Christian CHAP. VII The Second Doctrine and the general Method propounded
you kill another and so bring in Death upon Death into your Family and invite and call it in to make Freach upon Breach Do you complain of Deaths doings and will you do as Death hath done do you grieve and sorrow for the death of another and by your grief and sorrow will you be your own death and yet not yield your sorrow is too much do you sorrow because yours are lodged in the Grave and do you thus hasten to go to them though God hath put an end to their lives yet hath not he bound you by all lawful means to preserve your own and to avoid whatsoever hath so great a tendency to cut it short or do not you know that excessive grief often is the cause of death Did you never read in the Bills of Mortality that some that many have died with grief and killed themselves with sorrow or did you never mind the difference given by the Apostle betwixt godly sorrow and sorrow of the World for worldly Losses and is not your sorrow such in thâ—s case 2 Cor. 7.10 for godly sorrow worketh râ—pentance to salvation not to be repented of but the sorrow of the world worketh death That sorrow that is for worldly losses and crosses proceeding from the over-much love of these Creature-Comforts doth huâ—â— the Body and hasten death temporal and doth wrong the Soul because sinful and doth deserve death eternal for the wages of every sin is death temporal and eternal Rom. 6.23 and will you so sorrow for another dead body as thereby to deserve the damnation of your own Soul and yet not say it is too much When your Spirit is broken your heart is broken how can you live and what will break it Prov. 15.13 By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken Prov. 17.22 A broken spirit drieth the bones Psal 6.7 My eye is consumed because of grief Immoderate sorrow drieth the Bones breaks the Heart preys upon the Spirits consumeth the Vital Parts and by all hastens death and therefore not to be cherished but avoided Q. 2. Is not that sorrow that must be sorrowed for excâ—ssive sorrow See the strait you bring your self into You sorrow too much and because you do so you must sorrow more and so add sorrow to sorrow ' when it is and because it is too much already you have more than you ought and yet you have not so much as you should you must have sorrow for your sorrow and yet you want sorrow for your sorrow Your eyes run down with tears for your dead more than they should and when you should weep for your excessive sorrow you haâ—e not a tear to shed Why do you waste your tears for what and more than you should and then want tears for what you ought to shed them for Excessive sorrow is a sin because it is excessive and sinful sorrow must be sorrowed for and repented of or how will you else get the pardon of that known Sin What do you mean then by sorrow to draw on sorrow and so to weep that you must weep over your weeping and to shed tears over again for the tears that you have shed if you cannot bear this sorrow that you are filled with already why by this sorrow do you make way for more and fo depth of sorrow calling for depth of sorrow you at last must swim in tears where you cannot wade through Q 3. Is not that sorrow too much that doth hurt and no good is sorrow good in it self as sorrow Then all sorrow would be good Whereas much sorrow is often evil and too much is always evil because as such it doth hurt and not good Whom doth your sorrow do good unto not to your dead be it never so much not to your Relations that live for you grieve them by over grieving and makes your company a burthen and unprofitable to them not to your self neither to Body oâ— to Soul for it is prejudicial unto both as before was made manifest Q. 4. Is not that sorrow too much for your dead which would be too much for your sin Many are defective in sorrowing for sin few sorrow too much for sin yet men may be and some are excessive in their sorrow for sin insomuch that their sorrow for sin is turned into sinful sorrow as when they are so overwhelmed with sorrow for sin as unsits them for other Gospel Duties and drives them from Christ and sinks them into despair which sorrow is excessive and God gives caution and charge against such sorrow sor our sin 2 Cor 2.7 So that cantrariwise ye ought rather to forgive him and comfort him lest perhaps such a one should be swallowed up with ovâ—rmuch sorrow When sorrow for sin doth more hurt than good it is over-much and so is our sorrow for our dead Q. 5. Is not that sorrow too much for your dead which is more than you have for your sin Is not sorrow upon the account of some present evil that is upon us as joy is for some present good and should not the degree of our sorrow bear some proportion to the greatness of the evil that is the cause and reason of our sorrow Is not sin against God a greater evil than any besides sin doth fall upon us Is not your own dead heart and cold affections towards God a greater evil than the dead Corps and cold Flesh in the Grave which is the cause of all this sorrow Now when your sorrow is more for the lesser evil than it is for the greater judge if your sorrow for the greater is not too small and your sorrow for the lesserâ— over-much and excessive Q. 6. Is not that sorrow over-much which carries our thoughts down into the Grave to think of their Dead Corps but hinders them from ascending into Heaven to meditate upon the the Eternal Ever-living God What a shame and reproach is it to us that a dead Wife or a dead Child or a dead Father or Mother should have more of our Thoughts than God and Christ and things above and that the Bodies of our departed Relations consuming in their Graves should have more of our thoughts than their Souls triumphing in Heaven have that it is so our excessive sorrow doth testifie to our faces for we cannot say nor do pretend to sorrow for the Soul in Heaven is it not then for the Body in the Grave And why should not the Joy the Immortal part is filled with abate our Sorrow for the Corruptible part though it be consuming if our thoughts were as much with the Soul in Heaven as they are with the Body in the Grave Let these Excessive Mourners ingenuously confess if they have not twenty thoughts of the Dead Body for one serious heart affecting Thought they have of God and Christ and the living triumphant Soul above for would not the one cause Joy as others do Sorrow and so our Joy mitigate be equal to or exceed our Sorrow if it be
sorrow for their Death and can you reconcile those Desires with this Sorrow If you did desire it when God should please to bestow it why do you so sorrow now by death the way of all Believers to it they have obtained what you did desire when without the one they were not to have the other 24 Q. Are not you your self being made men for Heaven near unto that Place and State where you shall sorrow no more neither for any thing concerning your self nor any other while you mourn and say This Husband or Wife Father or Mother that was mine now is no longer mine Seriously meditate and deeply consider and say Yet God is mine and Christ is mine and the Spirit is mine the Promises and Priviledges are mine and Heaven is mine and there I shall shortly be with God and Christ and the Eternal Spirit with Angels and saved Souls above where I shall love God with perfect Love and praise him and my Redeemer and Sanctifier with Eternal Praises and see and know and delight in the Company of those that are gone before for whom I am mourning upon Earth and joy and joyn with them in holy Hallelujahs and triumphant Songs of Praise where all sorrow shall be taken from my Heart and all tears wiped from mine Eyes and I and they shall know sorrow and grief and groans and sighs no no more I stand at the door of Eternity every day waiting looking hoping for Eternal Joys Therefore blessed Lord to all these reasonings of thy Ministers add the effectual working of thy Spirit that I might not sorrow as those that have no Hope Amen THE MOURNERS SOLILOQUY Concerning his Moderating His Sorrow For His DEAD THE Mourners Soliloquy CHAP. XIX Containing the Mourners Soliloquy or Reasoning with himself concerning his Sorrow for his Dead for the moderating of it DEad Alas wo is me my Father Mother dead my Wife or Husband or Child dead can I with Comfort live are not my comfortable days past and gone when he or she is dead and gone Gone no more to return to live with me on Earth Let me look upon the Body in the Coffin before it be lodged in the Grave for after that I shall look upon it no more mine Eyes shall see it no more Look behold it s pale Face its closed Eyes its Jaws tyed and muffled up these Eyes did see me but now Death bath shut them that they cannot This Tongue did use to talk with me to my great delight but now Death hath tied it and my Ears shall hear the sound thereof no more These Feet did often walk with me yea we went to the Ordinances of God together but now Death hath fettered them that they can move no more and must I follow it to the Grave and see it covered with Earth and there leave it and when returned home look for it at my Table but it is not there or in my Chamber but it is not there The Cloaths the Body was often dressed with are there but the Body is not there Now it is so many Weeks since it was buried she is gone but my Sorrow doth remain Remain it comes more and more and doth increase My Soul is grieved my Heart is loaded and my Spirit fails within me the more I muse the more I Mourn the more I think of mine thus captivated by Death and buried out of my sight the more my Sorrow is renewed Alas I can contradict that Old Proverb Out of Sight out of Mind for he or she hath been so long out of my sight but hath not been a a Day or Night out of my mind and the more and longer I remember the more and longer I do sorrow Sayest thou thus O my Soul is it God or a Creature the loss of whom thou mournest for If of God weep on and Sorrow and seek him till thou findest him for he is a living and Gracious God and may be found But if of a Creature forbear thy Tears and moderate thy Sorrow for if thou shouldest weep thy self blind and break thine heart with grief being dead and gone cannot be any more found wherever upon Earth thou seekest for it Wilt thou then examine thy Sorrow whether it be pleasing unto God or whether it be turbulent Passion and meer fruitless Self-vexation whether thou Mournest like a Christian or an Heathen whether thy sorrow be not sinful and excessive and therefore sinful because excessive Dost not thou know hast not thou read and learned that thou shouldst not sorrow as those do that have no Hope are thy tears more boundless than the Ocean for that hath bounds and shall thy Tears have none The Waves thereof go so far and then are stay'd and shall thy Tears continually drop and have no limits set unto them or wilt thou suffer them to run waste and shed enough to wash thy Dead when thou shouldst keep them to pour out before God upon thy bended Knees that by the Blood of Christ thy Sins might be wash'd away Have thy Tears so blear'd thine Eyes or thy Sorrow so disturb'd thy Reason that thou canst not see thy Sorrow to be Excessive Sorrow and thy Grief to pass all bounds of Christian Moderation Measure it by Reason and Religion And then tell me O my Soul if that Sorrow be not Excessive for thy Dead whereby thou hastenest the death of thy own Body and invitest Death to lay it dead Tho God by Death hath taken away the Life of thy Relation yet hath he not commanded thee to use all means lawful and to abstain from all those things amongst which Immoderate grief is one that doth endanger thine own Life and wilt thou thereby become guilty of thy own Death Besides is not that Sorrow too much that must be sorrowed for and those Tears too many that must be wept for and more follow them because they are so many Hast thou Sorrow too much already and must thou still have more because thou hast too much Dost thou not see what straits thou bringest thy self into that while thou dost abound in Sorrow thou wantest Sorrow because as yet thou hast not sorrowed for this too much abundant Sorrow For give me an answer O my Soul if that be not too much abundant Sorrow that doth more hurt than good and would be too much if it were for thy Sin which for Sin tho the greatest Evil would be too much when it doth more hurt than good and doth it not do so when it driveth to despair keeps off the Soul from Christ and from hoping in his Merits or God's Mercy and is it not too much when it is more for thy Dead than for thy Sin for when thy Sorrow should bear its proportion to the Evil thou sorrowest for and Sin is a greater Evil than the Death of thy nearest Relation be thou thy self the Judge if sorrow for the lesser evil be not too much when it is more than that which thou hast for the greatest Evil
Hell and be partakers of Eternal Glory in Heaven And when you did not prevail with them did you go to your Knees and pray to God Lord change my Husbands Heart convert and sanctifie his Soul that when he dies he might not be Damned Lord shew my Son his Sin and Danger convince him melt and break his Heart for Sin awaken his Conscience make him feel the burden of his Sin now that he might not bear the heavy Load of thy powerful Wrath for ever Tho he should be Poor yet let him not be wicked if thou wilt not give him Riches yet give him thy Grace or if thou hast given him the one good Lord deny him not the other Afflict him in this World rather than Damn him in the next Deal as thou pleasest with him in Temporals but deny not my Prayer for him for Special Spiritual Grace and for the Eternal Salvation of his Soul If you did your Duty you may have peace on Earth tho he hath no rest in Hell And the remembrance of this may be your Comfort in your sorrow If you did not it is safer for you to sorrow that you sinned than that he is Damned while you neglect to sorrow for the neglect of your Duty in endeavouring to prevent his damnation Sorrow for his Misery will never help him out but penitent sorrow for your own Sin is one appointed means to escape that Misery you lament that he is in Q. 3. Which is most fitting in your Reason and Judgment That God should be just in the Damnation of an impenitent Sinner tho he were your Relation or that he should deal with his separated Soul in a way of Mercy contrary to his Truth because he was your Relation Is it not more sitting that God should punish him for ever for his sinalâ— unbelief and impenitent hardness of Heart tho he were your Husband or your Son than that God should violâ—â—e his own word in saving him in an unconverted state because he was your Husband or your Son Do not you know that God is no respecter of Persons Rom. 2.11 And would not this be a respect oâ— a Person to save him in his Sin when he died in his Sin meerly because he was while he liâ—ed so related unto you Think of this to quiet your Heart and make your sorrow less Passionate but more Rational and so more moderate For is not his damnation more grievous to you because he was yours than the damnation of another never related to you tho the Soul of the one is equally Immortal and Miserable as the other And why should you have harder Thoughts of God in your sorrow for punishing yours because yours than of punishing of others when yours were equally sinful in Life and equally impenitent at death as others were Q. 4. Is not God and Christ the only Saviour of Souls infinitely more merciful than you And yet if the Father of Mercies and the Saviour of Sinners do approve of the Damnation of your impenitent Husband or Wise Father or Mother Son or Daughter why should you be filled with turbulent disquieting sorrow Should you appoint to him the measures of his Mercy or the Persons he should shew it to Doth he owe it to you or them or any other Is it not free so that he may have Mercy on whom he will have Mercy and Compassion on whom he will have Compassion Rom. 9.15 May not God act as a just God but you will sorrow as if he were not a Merciful God If the most Merciful God and Compassionate Saviour approve of the Everlasting Punishment of your Impenitent Relations as an Act of Justice and therefore good and therefore amiable Why should you so excessively grieve as if your Mercy was beyond the Mercy of the Father and the Son Q. 5. Have not you more cause to Joy and Rejoice at to give Thanks and Praise to God for your well-grounded Hopes of Heaven than to discâ—mpose your self for this Wâ—rk by your vexing sorrow because others are lost without hopes of finding Mercy What if the nearest to you in Relation shall for their wilful final refusing of Remedying Grace perish for ever should not you admire and magnifie praise and celebrate the free distinguishing Grace and differencing Mercy of God to you that you shall be for ever saved And say Will God shew Eternal Mercy to me when he will pour out his Eternal Wrath upon my Father or Mother Brother or Sister Husband or Wife or Child What was I more than they that they should be Damned and I should be saved after Death Was not I equally involved in the Guilt of Adam 's Sin as they were Was not I born a Child of Wrath as well as they Was not my Heart as bad my Sin as great my Nature as corrupt as theirs was Was not I as backward to good as prone to evil as they were and it may be more too Should not I with others cry out and say Eph. 1.3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ who hath blessed us and me amongst them with spiritual blessings in heavenly places in Christ Should not I give thanks and praise to God for blessing me with such blessings which tend to Eternal Glory which Christ hath purchased promised prepared and possessed for me tho others near to me are Cursed with an Everlasting Curse in Hellish Places justly inflicted on them for their Sin and continuing finally Impenitent under the same And can you be lifted up in such high praises of your God for his Mercy to you when you are so cast down into depths of sorrow at the Thoughts of God's punishing Justice with others Q. 6. Do not the Holy Angels and Blessed Saints above know as much of the Torments of Hell and of the Misery of the Damned as you do and yet are they filled with such sorrow because of any being there as you are Do saved Souls above sorrow there because they do not find the Souls of others there whom they knew on Earth and were Related to that died before them As they do rejoice to see others there whom they were here acquainted with and Related to And will you pretend to be more Compassionate and Merciful than Angels and Saints in a perfect state of Bliss and Glory Q. 7. Shall not you your self being a Penitent Believer approve the Righteous Sentence of Damnation upon those that were your nearest Relations in this World but died impenitently in their Sins Do not you know the Saints shall judge the World final-unbelieving Men and Apostate Angels 1 Cor. 6.2 3. And shall you sorrow then or rejoice at the Condemning Sentence of Jesus Christ upon all the ungodly tho many of your Relations should be amongst them And if you are to come as near to pleasing of God and being pleased in what he doth now as what you shall hereafter be why should you have so much vexing sorrow at that now for which you shall
interruptions nor intermissions in our praising of God in our Loving of him and delighting in him Our Natural Bodies now require time to be fed in sitting at our Tables when they are empty we are pained with hunger when they are full we are indisposed for Holy Work and Heavenly Praises but a whole Eternity shall be filled with constant Hallelujahs and Spiritual Rejoycings when our Bodies shall be raised Spiritual Bodies and such they shall be 1 Cor. 15.44 It is sown a natural Body it is raised a spiritual Body There is a Natural Body and there is a Spiritual Body 4. They shall be raised glorious Bodies Now our bodies are vile Bodies Phil. 3.21 How full of ill Humours and loathsome Corruption Why should any be proud of a comely Face when he might think what he is within Now they are Cottages of Clay Tabernacles of Earth a Mass of breathing walking Mould God did mend the Matter else our Bodies are as vile as the Earth we tread upon for out of it they were taken and into it they are returning but this is wonderderful that Bodies so vile while they live and more loathsome when dead and rotting in the Grave should at last be raised as glorious as so many glittering Stars Dan. 12.3 Did I say as glittering Stars Christ saith as so many shining Suns Mat. 13.43 Then shall the Righteous shine forth as the Sun in the Kingdom of their Father Who can express the difference betwixt a dead Body in the Grave and the Sun shining in the Heavens Yet so much shall be the difference between the same Body in the Grave and raised at the last day 1 Cor. 15.43 It is sown in dishonour it is raised in glory 5. They shall be raised perfect and beautiful Bodiâ—s If they were maimed here they shall be entire then if blind now they shall have Sight to see the Lord Redeemer and the Glory of the Place above and of the Company in that Palace of the King of Glory if they were any way deformed here any part redundant any part exorbitant oâ— defective this deformity shall be removed and Beauty shall be their Cloathing all over for whatsoever came in by sin and is the Punishment and Effects of Sin in such respects upon the Body when the Cause is removed such Evils shall â—ot remain 6. They shall be raised holy and without the least spot or stain of Sin or inclinatiâ—n to it Now the Body is defiled with sin and the parts of it are too often the Instruments of Sin Eyes beholding Vanity and Windows to let in wickedness into the Heart and Thoughts our Tongues too often speak to Gods dishonour our Feet too often run into the wayes of Sin our Appetite too often over-rules our Reason and we have cause to cry out Who shall deliver us from this Body of Sin and Death Who shall God when he delivers our Bodies from Death and raiseth them out of their Graves will deliver them from all filthiness of the Flesh and Christ shall present them pure and spotless without wrinkle or any such thing â—ph 5.27 7. If I cannot say all let me say that which comprehends all they shall be raisâ—d like to Christs glorified Body Say our Souls in Heaven shall be like Christs Soul and our Bodies raised and taken thither shall be like Christs glorious Body If we cannot utter the Excellency of the heavenly Qualities and Endowments of the Bodies of those that sleep in Jesus when they shall be awaked say they shall be like to Christs glorious Body If you cannot conceive it in your Minds think they shall be like Christs glorious Body and if you cannot think how great that is do not mourn that your holy Friends are gone before in their Souls to see that glorious Jesus whose Glory is so great that it doth transcend all your thoughts and spend your time in holy preparing and earnest Looking for his coming than in excessive sinful Mourning for their dead Bodies that shall be made like his at his coming Phil. 3.20 For our conversation is in Heaven from whence also we look for the Saviour the Lord Jesus Christ 21. Who sball change our vile Body that it may be fashioned like unto his glorious Body Lord how can this be that such Clods of Earth and lumps of Clay when turned into Dust in the Grave should be made like to the Body of the glorious exalted Jesus How according to the working whereby he is able to subdue all things to himself There must be great ability and power to make this change a body so vile to be so glorious this Power must be Almighty Power even such as can do any thing as can subdue all things and this Power so mighty must be working Power to make such a Body that all the Power of all the Angels in Heaven is too weak to do Now let those that overmuch sorrow for their Dead that sleep in Jesus consider if they have any cause or reason so to do You look upon their dead Bodies in the Coffin before they are nailed up and your Eye is filled with tears and your Heart with sorrow You think of them as they are mouldring and rotting in the grave and you can scarce bear these thoughts Have you not another Eye Can you have no other thoughts Have not you an Eye of Faith to look beyond the Coffin and the Grave to a joyful glorious Resurrection and see what Bodies they shall be when they shall be raised They are in their Graves and you can see them no more but you can say Tho their Grave is filled up and I cannot set mine Eyes upon them yet methinks I see how there they lie and how they do consume and if you had an Eye of Faith which makes things to come as if they were present you might say Methinks I see their Bodies raised methinks I see how beautiful how powerful how glorious they be methinks I see them shining as the Sun if you did would not this delight your thoughts stop your excessive Tears and remove your immoderate sorrow but if you are purblind and cannot see afar off your sorrow will be nearer CHAP. XV. The Fourth Remedy against excessive Sorrow the Antecedents Concomitants and Consequâ—nts of the Resurrection of those that sleep in Jesus The First Christ Himsâ—lf will come for their Redemption from the Grave THE Fourth Argument for the mitigating of our Sorrow for our Deceased that sleep in Jesus brought by the Apostle is the Antecedents Concomitants and Consequents that is the things that shall go before accompany â—â—d follow after their being awaked out of their sleep and Resurrection from their Graves All of them exceeding wonderful and glorious and when known and believed firmly will be exceeding comfortable unto us as they are in themselves greatly desirable Oh that God would give us that Faith that might enable us to look upon them as sure and near at hand yea that may