Selected quad for the lemma: mercy_n

Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
mercy_n	faith_n	grace_n	repentance_n	2,335	5	7.5639	4	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A43768	Conjugall counsell, or, Seasonable advice, both to unmarried, and married persons directing the first how to enter into marriage estate, and the other how to demeane themselves in the Christian discharge of all such duties as that estate of life blads them to, that God may have glory, the church edification, and themselves and families, present and future comfort, tending much (by the blessing of God) to a through reformation of all the enormities of these evil times / by T.H. ...	Hilder, Thomas.	1653 (1653)	Wing H1974; ESTC R20660	113,375	218

saving Faith Temperance Patience Godliness Repentance unto life strength against corruptions that he may abound in every good worke that he may be an Instrument of Gods glory here and a Vessell of Mercy hereafter And in thy drawing forth and improving thy parts thus for thy Husbands spirituall advantages men and Angels shall witnesse for thee that thou hast laboured to answer one end of Gods creating of thee that is to be a meet helper to thy Husband nay the spirit of God shall attest the same to thy own soule to thy comfort here and permanent happinesse hereafter Fourthly The duty of a wife to her Husband The fourth duty of the VVife to the Husband is a comely and Christian-like subjection to him she must not contend for equality with him much lesse superiority over him but must content her selfe in the same station or condition wherein the God of wisdom or that God who is wisdome it selfe hath set her Now that this is a duty take Scripture evidence for it for I know it will not down but sticks in the throat with too too many but to a mortified Christian a Command from God is enough to sweeten that which to flesh and bloud is as bitter as gall Col. 3.8 The Apostle saith Wives submit your selves unto your own Husbands as it is fit in the Lord. So Eph. 5.22 Wives submit your selves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord where marke the diversity of termes In the former place it is Wives submit c. as it is fit in the Lord But in this latter Wives submit c. as unto the Lord For some women may say we are willing to submit our selves to our own Husbands as it is fit in the Lord But what submission may be said to be fit in the Lord I answer That submission is fit in the Lord that hath respect to any Command the Husband shall lay on his wife which is grounded upon Scripture Precepts or Presidents Secondly That submission of Wives to their Husbands is fit in the Lord which is not forbidden in Scripture neither expresly nor implicitely neither plainely nor by necessary consequence but to answer such as would pretend scrupulosity when they intend only the discharging of themselves from all submission to their Husbands let them ruminate or chew the end upon the last terme where Wives are commanded to submit to their own Husbands as unto the Lord and see what they can gather from those words as a ground to satisfie their consciences for their non-submission Now because the Holy Ghost did foresee that women nay some good women would not fall down before this truth but endeavour to maintaine that rotten and unsound maxime viz. that the Wife is the Husbands equall therefore doth the Spirit of God in Eph. 5.23 which was last quoted lay down an undeniable reason why Wives should submit to their Husbands For saith he the Husband is the head of his Wife as Christ is the head of his Church And then in ver 24. the Spirit of God comes to a Corrollary or Conclusion thus Therefore as the Church is subject unto Christ so let the Wives be unto their own Husbands in every thing Now the reason here brought for the end beforesaid stands thus That as the Church doth submit to Christs Authority he being her head so must the wife submit to the Authority of her husband because he is the head likewise and that he is so consider also that of the Apostle in 1 Cor. 11.3 The head of the woman is the man Now Headship implies Authority that is beyond dispute and Authority requires subjection Let every soule be subject to the higher powers whosoever resisteth the power resisteth the Ordinance of God and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation Rom. 13.1 2. And none can deny but that Headship Authority and power is one and the same Yet further concerning this duty of the wife to her husband in relation to subjection to him mind that of the Apostle Peter in 1 Pet. 3.1 where he saith Likewise ye Wives be in subjection to your own Husbands Then in ver 6. he brings you a President for it and that from a singular woman Even as Sarai obeyed Abraham calling him Lord whose Daughters you are as long as you do well Now as it is a glorious priviledge to be a Son of Abraham in a spirituall sense so it is a high honour to be a Daughter of Sarai And thou who art a Christian-woman by no meanes forget that from the originall of time God did ordaine that the Husband should rule over his Wife Gen. 3.16 Nay the very Heathens thought it fit that every man should beare rule in his own house Hester 1.20 22. But some woman may say what if my husband be a Son of Belial One who hath no grace in him who beares not the Image of God but of the Devill Must a Christian be subject to a Heathen A Saint to a Devill incarnate I answer that if thou be so match'd in the Marriage Estate then thy condition is sad and very sad and much to be lamented But still it is a cleare truth that thou must be subject to even such a Husband in all his lawfull Commands and further thou must not obey a godly husband And this the Apostle Peter in 1 Pet 3.1 2. doth hint at plainely Likewise ye wives be in subjection to your own Husbands And then addes this as a reason to excite them to the performance of this duty that is That if any obey not the word they also may without the word be won by the Conversation of the wives while they behold your chaste conversation coupled with feare I see no cause to adde one word more to demonstrate that subjection in a wife to her husband is a duty she doth owe him But let me beseech thee that art a Husband that all the Commands thou dost lay on thy wife may be in the nature of requests and intreaties for know it that though thy wife be not equall to thee in power yet she is not so subordinate to thee as thy Children and Servants command service from them but desire thy Wife to be subservient to thee and if she have any commendable qualifications in her thou maiest be sure thou hast her heart to serve thee and therefore canst not want her hand Nay she will rejoice that at any time she hath any intimation of thy mind in any businesse that she is able to performe The fifth duty that the Wife doth owe unto her Husband is due and comly Reverence The fifth duty of the Wife to the Husband Wives must not only submit to their Husbands and obey them but they must reverence them likewise and this the Apostle doth charge them to performe Let the Wife see saith he that she reverence her Husband where observe that in the particle see there is an Emphasis it is an Emphaticall expression for it is as if he

of livelihood somtimes to enjoy society of choise friends there be none of these but may give a man a cleare call somtimes to remove his habitation he must if he be a Christian obey God herein Now take this for a most undeniable truth that whatever passage of Divine providence will warrant the lawfulnesse of the Husbands change of place of dwelling will also warrant the Wives call to travell with her Husband and to live with him wheresoever he pitch his Tent. Marke the Apostles phrase 1 Cor. 9.5 Have we not power to lead about a Sister a Wife as well as other Apostles and as the Brethren of the Lord and as Cephas where you may note that the Apostles the Brethren of the Lord and Cephas did lead about their wives which they could not have done against their wills and Paul doth challenge the same priviledge as due to him as well as to the other But to add a cleare demonstration to this truth yet further by joyning presidents to priviledges consider the practice of Sarah when God cals Abraham to leave his country and go into that which he would shew him she goeth with him Gen. 12.5 When God cals him the second time to remove that is to go into Egypt because of the Famine in the Land where he did live you shall find his wife did go with him ver 10 11. who did also returne with him Chap. 13.1 Againe when God cals Isaac to go to Gerar to sojourne there for a time and that by reason of Famine too Rebekah his wife goes with him Gen. 26.1 7. But in a speciall manner mind the practice of Leah and Rachel they are willing to leave their Fathers house and kindred not being enforced by Famine to enjoy society with Jacob their husband Gen. 31.4 to the end of ver 18. As Ruth said to Naomi her mother in Law Where thou goest I will go and where thou lodgest I will lodge and where thou dyest I will dye and there will I be buried The Lord do so to me and more also if ought but death part thee and me Ruth 1.16 17. So must every Christian wife say to her husband where thou livest I will live and where thou diest I will die and there will I be buried for nought but death shall part thee and me By all which it doth or may appeare that it is the duty of the wife to her husband to Cohabit with him in what place soever God shall call him and if she performe not this duty she disables her selfe to the observation of others But in case first that the husband will live in a Popish Countrey out of either a superstitious or fantasticall end or humour The wife is not bound to follow him for she must look more after the true worship of God and the salvation of her own soule than after any outward comfortable condition in the world Or secondly if the Husband be an unbeliever and doth not like to live with a believing wife then such a wife is at liberty if I mistake not the Apostle to live from him 1 Cor. 7.13 15. But lastly in case the husband do violate the Covenant of Marriage by Adultery Fornication c. Then if the wife please she may forsake him which by necessary consequence may appeare from the words of Christ Mat. 5.32 Chap. 19 9. For if the husband may put his wife away for such breach of Marriage-Contract why not the wife put away her husband on the like occasion But if upon ordinary occasion the wife shall refuse the performance of this duty to her husband she doth make void and null one speciall end of Marriage and so sins against God the ordainer of that happy estate also against her Husband in depriving him of his due comfort and lastly against her soule and conscience as contracting sin and guilt and against her body in a violent cutting the thread of her chiefest externall felicity So much for this particular duty from the wife to the husband In the third place The third duty of the VVife to the Husband the duty of the Wife to her Husband is to improve her spirituall abilities to be helpfull to him in the best things for the good of his soule to stir him up to good duties when she takes notice of any remissnesse and carnall security in him by sweet exhortations and holy conference she must labour to quicken him against a spirituall Lethargy which if it seize on him will so becloud and benight his senses that he shall have neither head nor heart with any cheerefulnesse of spirit to walke with his God which if his wife discerne him inclining to but in a speciall manner captivated under she had need to bestir her selfe to salute him often with such Texts of Scripture as these viz. Luk. 9.62 1 Cor. 9 the later part of ver 24. Phil. 3.13 14. Rev. 2.4 and the begining of ver 5. Rev. 3.15 16. Luk. 17.32 Ezek. 18.24 26. She must labour to stir him up to love and good workes and therein follow the example of the Shunamite 2 King 4 9 10. thou that art a Wife read the place and follow the Precept She must labour to strengthen her Husbands faith when he shews most weakenesse After Manoah had offered a sacrifice to God the Angell of the Lord did wonderfully in the presence of him and his wife The good Mans faith began to faile We shall dye saith he because we have seen God want of faith was like to kill the poore man Now his wife steps in very opportunely and labours to strengthen his faith If saith she the Lord would have kill'd us he would not have told us these things nor accepted a Sacrifice at our hands Judg. 13.20 22 23. so she makes good that place in Eccl. 4.9 10. Two are bettter than one for if one fall the other will lift up his fellow but woe be to him that is alone for he hath not another to help him up Truly there is a marvellous Sympathy betweene Husband and Wife in all conditions I meane when they live and love together as man and wife one will labour to support another And one thing let me put thee on in a speciall manner that is be sure as thou dost desire to improve thy gifts and parts for the good of thy Husbands soule That thou do never neglect to pray for him As Aaron did beare the names of the Children of Israel before the Lord on his two shoulders for a memoriall Exod. 28.9 12. So be thou sure to beare the remembrance of thy Husbands poore soule upon thy heart when thou art to appeare before the Lord in thy Closet-worship that thou maiest prevaile with God for a blessing for him that he may be heavenly and spirituall in all his deportments toward God and toward man● that in the strength of Gods grace he may be a selfe-denying and a selfe-mortifying Christian That he may be furnished with