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A75929	A Christian family builded by God, directing all governours of families how to act. 1. Gods timber and framing. 2. Gods foundation and upper building. 3. Gods finishing. 4. Gods furnishing. The sum whereof is shewed after the epistle. By Robert Abbott, Pastour of the Church of God at Austines, near Pauls gate in Watling-street in London.	Abbot, Robert, 1588?-1662?	1653 (1653)	Wing A68; Thomason E1233_2; ESTC R6379	56,335	120

done for God saith Thy desires shal Gen. 3. be subject Object But what if the wils of their husbands be wicked Sol. Then whether it be better to obey God or him judge you But in all domesticall affairs as the Moon doth vail at the presence of the Sun so must the wife at the presence of her husband 2. They must answer their husbands wisedoms 2 Kings 4. 22. Gen. 16. 6. as the Shunamite and Sarah who took directions from their husbands Object But shall not the wife imploy her knowledge and discretion for the good of the Family Sol. Yes yet with submission to him as head As when two strings are stroke upon a Lute the sound is attributed to the lowdest so must the wife take and use direction to the honour of her husband Object But you will say some wives are wiser then their husbands Sol. In truth so most of them are unhappie to think and sometimes it is true yet the best part of their wisdome is imployed in using it for their Husbands honour and not her own alone to disgrace her husband Object No did not Abigail call her husband fool and why may not others also 1 Sam. 25. 25. Sol. It was well known he was a fool for from thence he had his name Nabal She reveals no secret but speaks of that which was in every bodies mouth Besides it was not to his face to stir up strife nor behind his back to disgrace him but it was to save his life As Chirurgions to save the body will cut off a limb so she was willing to blur his well known name to save his life 3. They must answer their husbands natural dispositions which are without sinne So Rebeckah provided savoury meat forher Gen. old husband such as he loved as a looking glass she shewed the countenance of her husbands nature as it was 4. They must answer their husbands spiritual endowments by kindling not cooling graces which are given for the family Therefore she must read and pray with him and for him and hear his advices and be a better comfort then Jobs wife was to him in miserie I remember a sad storie upon mine own Note knowledge An honest Christian man had a wife worldly and distrustfull and he being much in good exercises morning and evening in his Family she would disturb him and go about ratling her keyes or making some other noise to hinder him pretending that his time spent that way might be imployed in getting money for his Family This woman was given over by God to the Devils temptations so far that she thrust a knife into the pit of her stomach and killed her self yet before she died she confessed thus much to me and craved Gods pardon as well as she could Oh had it not been better that she and her husband had walked hand in hand to heaven with her due submission Quest If now Fourthly the good wife will ask me why she must submit Answ Surely the reasons are invincible The order of Creation requires it Adam was first created next Evah for him so the wife is for 1 Cor. 11. 8 1 Tim. 2. 14. the husband as her head The order of transgression requires it The woman was first in the transgression She was first in evil last in good therefore she must submit The union betwixt man and wife requires it Eph. 5. The husband is the head of the wife for direction protection and influence The woman gives not the name to the husband but Es 4. 1. Gen. 2. the husband to the wife and to impose a name is a sign of Soveraigntie So Evah was called Isha of Ish and Solomons wife was called the Shulamite and the Quando ego ero Ca●us tu cris Caia Roman said to his wife when I shall be Caius Thou shalt be my Caia Therefore let all good wives learn this comely lesson to submit There are foure enemies in some womens breasts unto this Want of wit to know their place Want of love because they married not in the Lord Pride in aspiring to mastership and love of the vanities of this world against the minds of their husbands But pray for mastery over these and submit Be warie of offending your Husbands Doe as their hearts may rest in you and carrie Prov. 31. all for the honour and profit of the Family Quest But saith the good wife May I not dispose of any of my husbands goods Answ I reade three cases in which they may Where it tends to keep from sinne and to preserve their Husbands life This was Abigails case Where the Husband is foolish 1 Sam. 25. 18. and sees not what is good for himself and his Family this also was Abigails case Where the Husband is an enemy to Pietie and Mercie and will suffer nothing to be done either by way of Honorarie or reliefe this was Iohanna the wife of Chusa's case Luke 8. 3. Yet must it be to honour her Husband not her self and so frugally and wisely that the Husbands house want nothing to further credit or comfort Do thus and prosper SECT 12. THe husband is next who must honour his 2 Pet. 3. 7. wife as the weaker vessel There is a double honour Of Subiection so the wife must honour her husband Of Love and complacence so the husband must honour his wife This honour stands in Love and in the Velle cuique quod bonum est fruits of it His love to her must be a dear comforting love not ordinary which is to will to every one that which is good but by which they are glued one unto another to do good and not ill unto one another all the dayes of their lives The fruits of it are these that follow 1. He must account her his yoak-fellow standing on even ground though drawing on the left side 2. He must dwell with her that he may be Ruth 4. 11. Ruth 3. 1. Prov. 5. 18 19. a rest for her as for his own Vine that she may prosper 3. He must dwell cheerfully with her as Isaac with his beloved Rebeckah 4. He must direct her and be the guide of her youth both in civil things as Abraham Prov. 2. 17. Gen. 20. 16. directed Sarah when he entertained his strangers and in spirituals as when the Shunamites husband directed her 5. He must protect her and be the covering of her eyes and spread the skirt of his garment over her that is provide for her and protect Ruth 3. 9. 1 Sam. 30. 5 6. her as David did his wife when she was taken by the Amalekites 6. He must provide necessaries for her according to but not above his means as God saith Thou shalt not diminish her food rayment Exod. 21. 10 11. and the recompence of her virginitie 7. He must bear with her infirmities not sinnefull these must be cured by instruction reproof prayer but passionall as grief fear distrust and

faith stands in the soundness of the 1. Knowledge of Christ 2. Desire after Christ 3. Receiving of Christ as Lord and Saviour with confidence And in truth this is required in old men Because they have had the use of the means longer and more is required of them that have received much Yea they have had longer experience of Gods love in Jesus Christ Yea they have the place and honour of speech where they come therefore they Job 32. 4. Matth. 11. must not be like reeds shaken with the winde or like chaff carried with every puff Yea their bodies and outward man decayeth therefore they had more need to be sound in the strength of the inner man Oh that old men therefore would labour for this and not be as Zacharie John Baptists father or Sarah whose ages were means to weaken their faith Take heed of that Christians for this is a sure note of an heavenly man to be more flourishing Es 40 30 31. and fruitfull in age yong men shall faint and stumble and fall but they that wait upon the Lord shall renew as the Eagles Yea consider sadly that the comfort of old age depends upon the soundness of faith Dayes are come wherein they have no pleasure but faith Eccles 12. saith Oh forsake me not in my old age 5. They must be sound in Charitie As an Apple may be rotten two wayes In outward appearance and at the coare so Charitie may be unsound two wayes also when it is so to the outward eye by envie hatred malice when it is so to the Conscience of a mans self Now the godly aged must have neither of these rotennesses but must be sound in loving God good means and good men in loving Pro. 17. 17. them from the heart root in loving alwayes For old men in likelyhood are nearer heaven 1 Cor. 13. then yonger where all are governed by an eternal Law of Charitie If then they would not be outed they must be sound in love for how shall God who is love receive them into heaven who love not 6 They must be sound in Patience Oh that they could see God in all crosses that they could humbly submit to him that they could resolve to have a shoulder to bear so long as God hath an hand to lay on and that they could as thankfully carrie themselves to God in the worst times as Iob did and wait for Iob 1. the issue Here were sound patience indeed and in truth old men have need of it For age it self is a sickness and more inclined to frowardness by their infirmities yea they must be willing to hear Christian advice when age is readie to slip aside in both which respects they have need to be sound in patience As therefore they possess God in Christ by faith and men by love so themselves by patience and thus are old men squared SECT 6. 2. THe next part of Gods timber for his building are old women Now these must be of such behaviovr as becomes holiness Tit. 2. 3 4. not false accusers not given to much wine but teachers of honest things to yonger women Object If you argue that women need not come to 1 Cor. 14. 35. the Word to be framed by it because Paul saith Let them ask their husbands at home Sol. It is but a vain excuse for though Paul forbids the open and publike speech of women in the Congregations yet he takes for granted their submitting to Gods Word without which for want of good husbands they would be miserable Object But it may be women are well enough whether framed yea or no because they shal 1 Tim. 2. 15. be saved by childbearing Sol. Indeed this were a brave world for them if no childing women should go to hell All that Paul signifies is this that though women have lost many comforts which they might have had if sin had not entered by them yet By or Thorough the worst miserie of their estate here they may be saved if they continue in Faith Love Holiness and Majestie Object You may think happily that women need not trouble themselves with the Scripture because they have other work enough at home Sol. But their best work is to know Christ thei● Mediatour out of whom is no salvation Therefore Solomons mother requires two things of a virtuous woman To oversee the Prov. 31. wayes of her Family and to open her mouth i● wisedome that she may shew the law of Grace in her lips that is the Word of God According to this rule Timotheus mother and grandmother taught him the Scripture from his Infanterie and Macrina Basils nurse taught him Ierome also commendeth Paula for teaching her maids the Scriptures for which end Caecilia an honourable Roman Matron never went without the New Testament about her not to mention Sophia Symphorissa and other Martyrs in the Primitive Church And truly whatsoever may be said there is great cause why women should be squared by Gods Word They are weaker vessels and Religion is their best comfort among their weaknesses Women may have their names 1 Pet. 3. Phil. 4. 3. Acts 2. 47. written in the book of Life as well as men therefore must they be added to the Church which must be by Knowledge Faith and Obedience Besides examples of good women in Scripture do press them as the chief women of Thessolonica Dorcas Priscilla Mary Triphena Acts 17. 4. Acts 18. 26. Rom. 16. 4. 6. 12. Triphosa Persis who believed were in Christ and lived Weigh therefore how they must be framed in particular 1. They must be in behaviour as becomes holiness saith Paul That is their carriage must be such as must witness the inward holiness of their hearts both publikely and privately among themselves This must be discovered foure wayes In countenance by expressing the inward holiness of their hearts When Esay would Es 3. 16. prove the women of Sion to be proud he doth it by their countenance and when David Psal 130. 1 would prove that he had an humble heart he doth it from his looks so shall old Matrons do by themselves In gestures when they express the chastity of their hearts The Church is said to have Doves eyes both beautifull to allure her own Cant. and terrible to crush the temptations of wicked men In speech when it doth express the wisedom grace and modestie of the heart The fashion of the harlot is to be babling and loud Prov. 7. 11. but the modest woman keeps her tongue under a bridle In apparel when by the outward ornaments of the body the inward beautie of the soul is set forth The matter of it must be measured by Abilitie condition of Life and Age. The form of it must not be wanton strange savouring of lightness and singularitie lest God visit them for strange apparel Zeph. 1. 2. They must not be false accusers or make-bates or Devils for so the

Penal as Jacob did bear with Leahs blear eyes and Rachels barrenness and Elkanah who would not love Hannah the wors for a fault she could not help 8. He must suffer himself in some things to be advised by her This will comfort them Gen. 21. 12 1 Sam. 1. 23 against those things they suffer in their husbands love This will encourage them to undergo joynt care in the Family 9. He must not be bitter unto her Quest wherein Col. 3. 19. doth that stand Answ Not in crossing her in worldly wicked and want on things nor in a just reproving her folly but it stands in Affections words and deeds In affections when trifles draw the heart from love to sowre hatred In words when their tender natures are unjustly wounded by them In deeds when the wife is used like a drudge more like then like a wife as when she is deprived of houshold government when she is wilfully shortned in necessaries and when she is ill rewarded with blowes Christ is an absolute Lord Prov. 31. 27 as well as an husband and so may correct his Spouse but we are onely husbands and may not do that which can never be done without sin Now the reasons why husbands must honour their wives are these Because they are the weaker vessels Weakest members are most spared and brittle vessels are most tenderly used It is true they are vessels therefore they are for use they are helps to pietie helps to societie helps to house-government and helps to propagation yet are they weaker vessels therefore to be honoured as being for the Closet not for the Kitching Besides they are heirs together with their Gal. 2. husbands of the Grace of life This is the dignitie of that sexe that neither male nor female are lookt upon by a different eye in God but all are one in Christ Yea would ye not have prayers interrupted then thus honour your wives saith Peter Yea they are 1 Pet. 3. the gifts of God for all comfort and such gifts are prized What therefore remains but that husbands honour their wives If an husband say my wife is full of weakness therefore honour her as the weaker a Venice glass with good usage lasteth long If he say she hath bad qualities love not them yet honour her not because she deserves but because God commands SECT 13. THe second paire in this building of God are Couplings and they are 1. Children and 2. Parents 1. Children next to their duties to God are bound to doe their duties to their Parents These stand 1. In Reverence 2. In Obedience 3. In Thankfulness 1. They owe reverence to their Parents for acting of which there are 1. Duties which they must do 2. Sins which they must avoid 1. Their Duties are grounded in a singular love such as Ruth had to Naomi and they Ruth 1. are two standing in a reverent awe of them as God saith Ye shall fear every man his mother Levit. 19. 3. and his father God placeth the mother first because they soonest are despised thorough their own indulgence Next they must testifie this their reverence five wayes 1. By speaking reverently unto them as Isaac here am I my father and that son in the Gen. 22. Matth. 21. 30. 1 Kings 2. 20. Gospel I goe Sir and Solomon Aske on my mother 2. By humble craving their blessings Though they have no prophetical blessings as Isaack had for Iacob and Esau yet God Exod. 20. saith Honour thy Parents that thou maist live God hath promised them to be an ordinary means to get life of him for honourers of them 3. By rising up before them You know Prov. 31. 28 what Bathshebah saith Her children rise up and call her blessed 4. By bowing and baring to them as signs of civil honour Thus Ioseph though a mightie Prince and his father in want yet Gen. 48. 12 1 Kings 2. 19. bowes to the earth before him and Solomon to his mother 5. By not witnessing against them except Deut. 33. 9. in case of Treason and Rebellion for at such a turn Levi saw not his father nor his mother or brethren 2. Sinnes to be avoyded by children are First setting light by Parents Cursed be he Deut. 27. 16. saith God that sets light of his father that is gives not respect to him as God and nature requires Secondly Mocking of Parents The eye Prov. 30. 17 that mocks his father and despiseth the instruction of his mother let the Ravens pick out and the Eagles devour and this I speak upon my own knowledge that I knew a sonne many yeares who forsook the course of his good father neglected the counsel of his religious mother and as he was going homeward from his bowzing companions in the evening he fell among bushes and died before morning and was found by his friends that sought him with his eyes picked out either by Crows Ravens or some birds of prey Thirdly Cursing of Parents He that curseth Levit. 20. 9 his father and mother shall die the death saith God and our good Saviour doth second it Fourthly Smiting Parents For he that smiteth Mark 7. 10 Exod. 21. 15. father and mother shall die the death The very Heathens sowed such children in a sack with a Dog Cat Viper and Ape as Emblems of unnaturalnesse and drowned them together 2. They owe Obedience unto their Parents Obey the father that hath begotten thee and despise not thy mother when she is old saith Prov. 23. 22. Col. 3. 20. Solomon Children obey your Parents in all things for this is pleasing saith Paul To Obey is an humble being at the command of Parents and a patient holding out to the end as Isaack to Abraham when he was to be Gen. 22. sacrificed And this Obedience reacheth to all things to which the commanding power of Parents extends It must be shewed in all good things for body soul state either present or future Jer. 35. 6. 18. In things indifferent as the Rechabites who for it were looked upon by God with a good eye In harsh and unpleasing things as we see in Joseph when he was commanded to go to his envious brethren that loved him not and Gen 37. 13. 14. Gen. 22. in Isaack who was able enough to resist yet resisted not All the question will be how far children must Obey And it may be quickly answered Luke 14. 26. Puto genus pietatis Impium esse pro Domino John 2. Deut. 33. 9. so far as may stand with the honour of God for otherwise ye reade of Hating father and mother and ye see the best pattern Christ who checked his mother and obeyed not against the houre of his father at the beck and word of his mother Again they must obey so far as stands with the honour of Government for if a son be in place of honor and he commanded base things below him and unsuitable