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A40384	The government of a wife, or, Wholsom and pleasant advice for married men in a letter to a friend / written in Portuguese, by Don Francisco Manuel ; with some additions of the translator, distinguished from the translation ; there is also added, a letter upon the same subject, written in Spanish by Don Antonio de Guevara, Bishop of Mondoñedo ... ; translated into English by Capt. John Stevens.; Carta de guia de casados. English	Mello, Francisco Manuel de, 1608-1666.; Guevara, Antonio de, Bp., d. 1545?; Stevens, John, d. 1726.	1697 (1697)	Wing F2062; ESTC R17060	99,081	268

or for want of Money then is the time for a Man to shew his Wisdom when the Wife is Angry either passing it off with a Jest or taking no Notice If a Man were obliged to answer and satisfy all Points whereat a Wife is concerned and whereof she complaineth there is no doubt he will need the strength of Samson and the VVisdom of Solomon Observe O Husband what I say to you either you have a discreet or a mad VVife If you have a mad VVife it is to no purpose to admonish her and if you have a wise Wife one angry Word is enough for you may be assured if a VVoman does not mend upon VVarning she will never be the better for Threatning VVhen a VVoman is in the height of her Passion she must be born with and when her Anger is abated she is to be checked for if once she forgets the Respect is due to her Husband there will be nothing but Noise and Confusion between them A discreet Man and good Husband must rather manage his Wife with Art than down-right Force and Violence for the Nature of Woman is such that tho' she have been Thirty years Married he will still find out something new in her to correct or endure It is also worth observing that if a Man at all times ought to avoid having any Disgusts with his Wife it ought to be much more when they are newly Married for if at first the Woman takes an Aversion to him she will scarce ever love him after A discreet Husband at first must sooth cherish and by all means strive to gain the love of his Wife for if they love at first all their Quarrels afterwards will be the effect of sudden Passion not premeditate Malice Love and Hatred are mortal Enemies which soever first takes possession of the Heart makes his abode there for Life so that the first love may be removed but never forgot If when first Married a Woman begins to hate her Husband I engage she 'll have a miserable Life and he a weary Youth and disconsolate Old Age for though he may make himself be feared he shall never prevail to be beloved Many Husbands value themselves upon being feared and waited on in their Houses I rather pity than envy them for the Woman that leads an uneasy Life fears and attends her Husband but she that is contented loves and pleases him The Wife must do any thing to be in her Husbands favour and the Husband must be cautious how he incurs the displeasure of his Wife for if she resolves to love another he shall enjoy her in despight of her Husband For so tedious a Journey and troublesom a Life as Matrimony it is not enough the Husband robs the Wife of her Virginity it is requisit he purchase her Affection for it is not enough that they are Married unless they be happy in each other and live very contentedly If a Husband is not beloved by his Wife his Estate is not safe his House is uneasy his Honour in danger and even his Life not secure for it is to be believed she will not wish him to live long with whom her Life is Unhappy That Husbands must not be over-Jealous It is also wholesom Advice that Husbands have a care of being suspicious of their Neighbours and extreamly Jealous of their Wives for there are only two sorts of People very subject to Jealousy to wit those who are very ill-natured and those who in their Youth were very debauched These believe that whatsoever they did with other Mens VVives their VVives will do with other Men and it is Folly to think and Madness to say so for though some Women be lewd there are others very virtuous To say all Women are good is too much partiality and to say they are all bad is extravagant it is enough to say that among Men there is much to condemn and among Women much to commend I do not deny but that an easy and loose Woman must not only be checked but also be deprived of opportunities of doing ill yet it is to be supposed she must not on pretence of security be so immured and ill treated as to make her desperate It can not be denied that there are some Women so perverse and lewd that they are not to be reclaimed by Fear nor mended by Punishment but rather seem born only to be a Plague to their Husbands and a Scandal to their Relations On the other side there are very many Women so sweetly tempered and so chaste that they seem created for the Honour of their Country and Glory of their Kindred I cannot but say over again It is not amiss sometimes to keep a Wife within to look to her and debar her any company that is suspicious but this must be done with such Art that still more confidence may appear to be reposed in her goodness than in all his own Precautions I commend Men for being Cautious but do no way approve of their being Jealous for naturally Women covet nothing so much as what is most forbidden them If the Husband suspects his Wife he must use Art and not betray himself by Words for if a Woman once finds she is wronged and mistrusted she will find out way to verify the Suspicion not so much out of any Inclination to vice as the desire of revenge The Strength of Sampson the Knowledge of Homer the Prudence of Augustus the Cunning of Pyrrhus the Patience of Job the Subtility of Hannibal and the VVatchfulness of Hermogenes are not sufficient to govern and entirely subdue a VVoman for there is no skill or force in the World can make her good against her VVill. It is not prudence in a Man to reveal or presently to correct the Frailties and Failings of his VVife some he must Check some he must Chastise some he must Correct some he must Prevent and the most he must Wink at Though a VVoman be never so discreet and patient there are two things she hates to hear and is never able to endure which are to be esteemed unchast or ugly for though she be lewd she would be thought virtuous and though ugly desires to be counted Beautiful To conclude when the Husband is satisfied as to all Points that is that his VVife does not expose her Person that she does not defile his good Name and that she does not destroy his Estate then I am of Opinion he must not discover any marks of Jealousy or Suspition for a VVoman's Obligation to be virtuous is the greater when a Husband reposes much confidence in her That if there be any Differences between Married People they must not let the Neighbours understand it It is also wholsom Advice That Married People behave themselves in such manner when Differences shall arise among them that no knowledge thereof may reach their Neighbours for if the love them not they will be pleased therewith and if they Love them they will have something to censure Some

Men have so little Consideration and some VVomen so little Patience that the former can not Chide without loud Scolding nor the latter Answer without Shrieking so that their Neighbours have enough to do to Pacify them all the VVeek and hear their Complaints on Sunday The Husband complains his VVife is so High spirited the Devil can not bear with her He complains she is mistrustful and jealous to such a degree he can not live with her He complains she is passionate and soul-mouth'd and is always abusing him He complains she is weakly ugly and sickly and that all he has is spent in looking after her He complains she is nice dainty and lazy and never rises till Noon He complains she is nasty a slattern and heedless and that she can not so much as lay by much less keep what belongs to the House He complains she is a Gadder a Gossip and Rambler and that if once she gets out of Doors she never returns till the Stars appear On the other side the poor Women wanting power to be revenged make use of their Tongues to complain The Woman complains that her Husband is Dull Sullen and Melancholy and so ill Natur'd the Neighbours can't abide nor the Servants endure him She complains he is Passionate Proud and Impatient and that many times in his Fury he beats the Servants and sometimes unrigs her She complains he upbraids her of being ugly nasty and ill-bred and that sometimes he casts so many Reproaches on her her Heart is ready to burst and she cries her Eyes out She complains he will not allow her to go see her Parents and visit her Relations that meerly through Jealousy he will not let her go out of doors and sends her to Church when it is half done She complains he is Mistrustful and Jealous without sense or reason and therefore will not allow her to come near the Door nor look out at the VVindow nor wear her Cloaths nor dress her Head nor speak a word to any body but that she must be watched like a Maid and shut up like a Nun. She complains he believes nothing she says nor is pleased with any thing she does for when he is angry he contradicts every body and throws about whatsoever is next at hand She complains there is no Married VVoman but he Courts no VVidow but he follows no single VVoman but he Gallants and no young VVench but he makes much of and that he only keeps her unhappy VVoman as she is to nurse his Children provide his Meat and look to his House She complains he is not satisfied to carry the Corn Bacon Butter Oil and Cheese out of the House to give to his Mistresses but steals what she works to present them She complains he is a common Bubble and Gamester and that not satisfied to play away his Fortune and all he gets he loses the Movables of the House and her Jewels She complains he often comes home in such a Rage so furious and possest by the Devil that no body is able to endure him for he whips the Children scolds with the Maids beats the Men and sometimes combs her Head These and the like Complaints the Man makes of his VVife and the VVoman of her Husband and I think it is a great Indiscretion in the Man and VVeakness in the VVoman to reveal such things to those who cannot remedy and ought not to know them I say it is VVeakness and Indiscretion for they will not shew any body what is in their Trunks and yet discover that which lyes in their Hearts It is no harm for one Friend to shew another his Stock or his Treasure but it is very inconvenient to disclose what we love what we esteem and what we doat on which ought not only to be kept but hid and concealed The Love or Hatred that lye in the Heart ought not only to be shut but sealed up VVhat more can I do for the Person I love if I discover the Secrets of my Heart to every body To him alone who heartily loves us and whom we heartily love must we disclose what lyes in the Heart Our Sufferings and Misfortunes ought not to be made known but to those that will help us to redress them and will bear a part in lamenting them with us for the compassionate Sorrow of a Friend eases an afflicted Heart If this be true as really it is to what end does a Man complain of his VVife and the VVife of the Husband to them they know cannot help but will rather scoff and jeer at them If the Husband commits an Extravagancy or the VVife is guilty of some Failing it is a sign of little Sense and much Madness to tell it to them that knew nothing of it for it is less harm they should surmise it than know it from their own Mouths That Husbands be careful to furnish their Houses with all Things necessary It is also wholsom Advice That Husbands be very careful in providing for their Houses in cloathing their VVives breeding their Children and paying their Servants for in things that are indifferent they may be negligent but must never be heedless or forgetful of what is necessary It is the Duty of a Husband to get and the Wives to lay up and save It is the Duty of the Husband to go abroad and get his Living and the Wives to look to the House It is the Husbands Duty to provide Money and the Wives to lay it out providentially It is the Husbands Duty to deal with all Men and the Wives to talk to few It is the Husbands Duty to be prying and the Wives to be close It is the Husbands Duty to talk well and the Wives to be proud of saying little It is the Husbands Duty to be zealous for his Honour and the Wives to be very vertuous It is the Husband's Duty to be very liberal and the Wives to be saving It is the Husbands Duty to wear such Cloaths as he can afford and the Wives to be dressed as she ought to be It is the Husbands Duty to be absolute as Master of all and the Wives to give an account of all It is the Husbands Duty to manage all things without-doors and the Wives to take care of all within In fine I say it is the Husbands Duty to furnish Money and the Wives to govern the Family That House in which each does his Duty may be called a well-governed Monastery and that where every one draws a different way is a meer Hell A Wife ought not to desire of her Husband any thing that is superfluous and costly nor if she does ought he to grant but if she asks only what is necessary he is obliged not to deny for a Man must engage even his Honour and Reputation to furnish his Wife himself and Family The Husband who does not give his Wife a Petticoat nor a Gown nor Shoes nor Linnen nor a Scarf nor Cloth wherewith to cloath the

are free from ill Customs because such as are there having taken no Root are easily removed A Man accusing his Wife for her ill Qualities before his Prince was ask'd by him at what Age he Marry'd her The Husband saying at Twelve Years of Age the King reply'd Then it is you that ought to be punished for Breeding her so ill A Young Lion is easily tamed A Bird grows fond of the very Wires of the Cage that confines him whereas naturally the former is fierce and the latter free Education is a second Birth and if it differ from the first in any particular it is only that the second is the more prevalent A Man of Sense and Judgment Marrying a Woman at that Age must imagin he is to be his VVifes Father as well as Husband He may cause her to be born again in new Conditions Since we see a Bear being a Beast so unweildy that it seems not to know how to go upon the ground Dance upon a Rope who can despair of infusing all the good customs and qualities into a Young VVoman that her Husband shall propose And what reason is there to imagin she will not follow and Suck in the bad if the Husband leads her into and gives her an example to continue in them Very Young VVomen are in some danger through the extraordinary Affection they bear towards their Parents and Brothers and the ill consequences of this inordinate affection are the more to be feared by how much they are the more plausible This affection is generally to be regulated by the merits of the Parents and Relations VVhen Parents are such as they ought to be it is commendable when otherwise it is requisite that Familiarity be presently with decency broke off Above all in Marry'd VVomen I would rather see respect for their Parents than Love not wholly to exclude it for there is no true Obedience without some Love But in case it be too much Love and they not worthy of it the remedy is not very difficult if there be address and policy in the Husband Towards the compassing this end it is convenient the Husband apply fresh endearment and attractives and that he Court and Sooth his Wife as much more as would be necessary were this occasion taken away The Child that knows no other sustenance but the Mothers Brest leaves it for Honey or Sugar which it finds sweeter than the Milk The Love of a Husband is more agreeable to a VVoman than that of her Parents and Relations thence it follows that a VVife being cherished and oblig'd by the Husband easily forgets Father Mother Brothers and all the VVorld for him This endearment ought to be managed with discretion and be carried on with Actions as well as VVords A Gown or Petticoat not ask'd some Curiosity unexpected an Entertainment abroad not thought of staying at home some Evening coming home early some Night and perhaps Rising late some Morning are the things that will make way towards her forgetting the usual fondness towards Parents when it so behoves the Husband Some have doubted whether there could be true Love between those who Marrry'd for conveniency and with formal Articles and believed this perfect union was reserved only for those who Marry for Love To this effect a pleasant Gentleman being sollicited by a Kinswoman to Marry for conveniency answer'd her Madam I cannot promise to secure my Love to any Body by Articles before a Notary but by my own inclination There are good and bad Examples enough of both Kinds but I being more fond of Reason than Chance will give my Opinion in this case tho' to some it may appear new I am perswaded this thing the world calls Love is not only one but several distinct Beings under the same Name This perhaps may be the reason the Antients feigned so many Loves or Cupids to each whereof they ascribed a several Birth and this perhaps might give occasion to the Spaniards to speak of Love in the Plural Number calling it Amores which if but one would be very improper I suppose two sorts of Love The first is that common Sympathy or Affection which of its own natural Force without any Reason carries us away to Love we know not what nor why The second is that which continues our Inclination and good Will to those Objects we know and converse with The first ends in the possession of the Object desired The second begins there but in such manner that neither does the first always produce the second nor does the second always proceed from the first Hence I infer that the love produced by Cohabitation Familiarity and Mutual Duty between Marryed People to be sincere and perfect has no dependance on that other sort of love which sprung from the Desires or extravagant Appetite of those who before disorderly affected one another which is commonly called Being in Love and this sort of Inclination being often if not counterfeit only the unconsiderate effect of Youth has proved rather hurtful than beneficial It is not to be doubted this mistaken Desire which is also miscalled Love being ill grounded and deserving rather the name of a vicious Affection expires in the possession of the Object because it had no other Foundation but the satisfying an Appetite which once tasting what it most ardently desired soon Surfeits and ever has a Loathing and nauseates that Delight it so greedily took the first fill of But where a sincere love is setled upon solid grounds a reciprocal Correspondence mature Reflection ripeness of Judgment to discern and an esteem of good Qualities and natural Perfections as well as exterior Form and a fading Complection that love I say must of necessity be lasting will need no Arts to support it and will like the Phenix be still sweetly burning for to rise the more vigorous and glorious out of its own Ashes Let none object that Love is Blind and cannot use so much precaution It is our vile Appetite which is blind and to which we unjustly give the name of Love True Love is very clear-sighted discreet and judicious and measures all its Actions by the Rules of Honour and Reason It is hard to conceive how we can truly love a Person we never saw Much may be said touching this particular but it belongs not to this place In this case we must do like those who cut Timber and cast it into a River to be carryed by the Stream without any labour to the place they design they know not which way their Timber goes but are satisfyed it will come safe by what has been sent the same way before and therefore confidently commit it to the water Let the Husband suffer himself to be carryed away by that vertuous custom let him not strive against the Stream for when he least thinks of it and without knowing how it came to pass he will find he loves his Wife intirely and is reciprocally beloved by her This Position will sound very

for it is to be supposed all the Curiosity of Dress tends to please the VVife or the Mistress on which account it is much more commendable than if it were design'd only to content and satisfy himself Custom has made a great alteration in these Affairs amongst us and in truth if it be not for the better I think at least it is not for the worst Our Forefathers used to say A Man should smell of Gunpowder and a Woman of Frankincense Hereby signifying the former should be employ'd in Warfare and the latter in the Church It is not long since a great Lady not a little conceited used to censure a Courtier for using Perfumes and he hearing of it sent her word That if her Ladiship could once bring her self to smell of Frankincense he would soon prevail with himself to smell of Gunpowder The neatness of Rooms Curiosity of Apparel and suchlike things Condemn'd by the Antients are now become practicable and are not vicious in the use but the abuse There is difference between foppishness and neatness And that we may not be wholly disgusted with the modern Customs nor those who affect to be Rigid pretend to Confound us with the purity of the Antients who would believe that in the Reign of King Sebastian when Men to flatter the Extravagant fiery Temper of the King would be thought to be made of Iron it was the fashion for Young Noble Men to lean upon their Pages when they walk'd as now a days the Ladies do and that ill Custom so far prevail'd that when they Play'd at Tennis they would not change their Stations as is usual without the help of those Pages They protracted their Words and all in general minc'd them and talk'd effeminately This shews it is not the Age that makes Customs better or worse but the Quality nor is it reasonable to despise what now is only to magnify what was There are a conceited sort of Men who never give over Railing at our present Fashions not that they mislike them but to be thought Wiser than all the VVorld Nothing will down with them but former Ages and this is only a mistaken Affectation to be thought well-read whereas in reality nothing more expresses their Ignorance I cannot believe the VVorld was ever better or wiser than it is for if we consult History we shall find no Age but abounded in VVickedness and Folly as much as ours can do and if we read the antientest of Poets we shall find nothing they exercise their VVits in more than Satyr in exposing and railing at the Vices of their Times Even as it was then so it is now none more vicious than those Poets who so much exclaimed against Vice none more depraved than those who now revile the present Age. And to shew the Fashions then were no more commendable or decent than what we now use let but every one reflect What could be more ridiculous or inconvenient than a Steeple Crown-Hat a Starch'd Ruff Slashed Sleeves a little Doublet great wide knee'd Breeches like a pair of Petticoats an inseparable short Cloak and eternal Boots How incomparably more decent and convenient is the Garb now in use a Hat that has nothing superfluous a careless easy Cravat a Coat fit to the Body Breeches shaped to the Thighs and Shooes proper for the Season How much better is a VVomans High-head than a little Coif her Hair in a small Curl or quite Plain than long dangling Locks a a Gown shaped to the Body upon Stays than a stiffned Jerkin the Sleeves to cover the Arms than tacked upon the Shoulders their Coats easy about them than stuck out upon a Queen Elizabeth Fardingal Yet after all it is Custom that makes all things appear well or ill those Fashions pleased our Forefathers and we are delighted with these I look upon it as very improper for a Man to be always Undressed in the House if it were not troublesom I would advise to wear the same Garb at Home as Abroad A Man dressed appears more Awful and Majestick This is plain for that Great Men do not receive Visits or expose themselves to be publickly seen in a careless Habit but at such times only admit Servants or particular Persons of whose respect they are sufficiently satisfyed To Fondle and Dally with ones Wife at Table before Servants much used by many Men is very indecent a lessening of the Gravity and Stayedness of the Husband and contrary to the Modesty of the VVife In this case if the Man wants Discretion to refrain the VVoman ought to have the Prudence to obstruct it The same Practice towards Children is much to be condemned I saw once a great General beset with many Officers of Note that attended him break through them all and run to meet and kiss a little Son that was coming to him all the Spectators gazing and admiring that a Person so considerable should have so little command of himself I declare had it been in my power I would instantly have broke him for it is not so great a demonstration of Courage and Resolution to suppress the Sallies of Hatred as it is to Conquer the irregular motions of Love Fathers will say They are the best Judges in this case for those who are not such cannot so well limit the force of their Love They may say what they please but I shall never recant what I have said All the VVorld is satisfyed that a Looker on sees more than he that Plays Since we have spoke of Children let us go through with it at once It is as reasonable to wish for as to deserve them This Desire must not be so extravagant as to discompose or oblige a Man to any Excess Young Married People may always hope with Assurance Since we have made use of Proverbs that Old Saying will save us from trouble and is not unfit for this purpose that We must not lye in the Ditch and cry God help us We must pray to God and at the same time use human Means God deliver you from Medicines Baths extravagant Devotions fruitfulness by Sanctified Touch or Blessing of Hypocrites strange Mountebanks Chymical Preparations new-found Potions and unknown Plasters All that is required is to be much a Man and more a good Christian to resign ones self to the Will of God be pleased with what he sends which is always more for our Interest than what we desire When you have Children never tell of their pretty Actions or seem overjoyed at their Wit that only serves to make them Rude and is no Credit to the Father Mothers would have the Fathers take them in their Arms and Play with them if ever you happen to commit this Weakness let it be very private that none see it no more than you would be seen Stealing or committing any other Crime It does not belong to a Man to make himself his Child's Nurse or Cradle It is very preposterous to make Grimaces and speak to them in

loving and pleasing the Hearts ought to be united before the Hands are joined It is fit the Father advise the Son to Marry where he likes but let him have a care of using any Violence for all forced Matches breed Dislike betweeen the Young Ones Differences between the Fathers Scandal among the Neighbours Quarrels among the Relations and Disputes among the Brothers I do not pretend to justify a wild Youth marrying rashly and in private for Marriages that begin in inconsiderate Love alone often end in Discord There is nothing more frequently to be seen than a very Young Man who has his full liberty and knows not what he loves or chooses to fall in love with and Marry a Young Woman but no sooner has he satisfied his Appetite than he begins to hate her Nothing is so much to be endeavoured between Married People as that they love and esteem one another else they will always be Discontented and their Neighbours will have enough to do to keep the Peace between them I must also warn them that to the end their Love be lasting sincere and secure it must take root in the Heart by degrees for if it take possession furiously all at once it will soon quit the Hold. I have seen many love in great haste who have afterwards hated one another at leisure The same Advice I give the Father not to marry his Son against his Inclination the same I give the Son not to marry without his Father's Consent for otherwise his Father's Curse might do him more harm than he could expect benefit from the Portion his Father-in-Law gives him Young Men in the heat of Youth have only regard to their Pleasure when they Marry and therefore are satisfied if the Wife be Beautiful but the Father and Mother whose Honour and Estate lye at stake seek a Woman that is Discreet Rich well Temper'd Modest and of a good Family the last thing they look upon is Beauty Clandestine and private Weddings proceed from Indiscretion and Disrespect for they give the Neighbours occasion to censure and the Old Parents to lament It often happens that after the Mother has slaved her self to fix a House and the Father laboured to make a Settlement when they are Treating of some honourable Match they find the wild Youth Married Thus the Mother is afflicted the Father shamed the Kindred disappointed and the Friends scandalized Sometimes the Misfortune is yet greater when the Son has taken such a Wife that the Father thinks his Estate ill bestowed upon her and is ashamed to receive her into his House There is another Mischief often attends such Marriages which is That Parents upon occasion propose with the Son's Portion to Match a Daughter and the Young Man's design being only to enjoy the Woman and not look after a Fortune the Sister is ruined the Son is cheated and the Father disappointed Plutarch in his Politicks says The Grecians used publickly to whip the Son that Married without his Father's Consent and that the Lacedemonians disinherited him Laertius says That among the Thebans they were not only Disinherited but publickly Cursed by their Parents Let none slight the Blessing or Curse of their Elders for among the Hebrews the Father's Blessing was far more esteemed than the Inheritance That a Wife must be very Modest and not lavish of her Tongue It is wholsom and necessary Advice That a Man who is upon Marrying choose a very modest Woman for if there were only one Vertue requisite in a Woman it must be Modesty I confess it is worse for the Conscience but affirm it is much better for a Man's Honour that a Wife be privately Dishonest than openly Impudent Modesty hides many Crimes in a VVoman and Impudence makes her be suspected of more than she is really guilty of Let every Man think what he pleaseth but I am satisfied there is little to find fault with in a Modest Woman and nothing to commend in one that is Impudent The Arms that Nature furnished a Woman with to secure her Reputation Chastity Honour and Fortune are only her Modesty and whensoever she parts with that she has lost all When a Man is about Marrying the first thing he ought to inquire into is not Whether she is Rich but whether she is Modest for a Fortune may be made but an Impudent VVoman will never become Modest The best Portion the best Estate and the richest Jewel a Woman can bestow oh her Husband is Modesty and if a Father sees his Daughter has lost it it were a less trouble to Bury than Marry her The best on 't is that some VVomen pretend to be Wits to Repartee to break Jests and Banter this I would not have them learn much less practise for that which in a Man is good Humour in a VVoman is Lightness A Vertuous Woman should not only be ashamed of speaking light and undecent VVords but of hearing them A sober VVoman must not value her self upon being Witty and having a smooth Tongue but upon being Modest and Silent for if she is proud of Talking and Jesting the same Men who laugh at her Jest will presently condemn her Carriage Womans Reputation is so nice it is not lawful for them to think of many things that Men may act and say Ladies that would keep up a respect must not only have a care of uttering unlawful and undecent Things but even those that are allowable unless very necessary for a VVoman never does ill in being Silent and seldom does well in Talking Unhappy that Husband who has a talkative prating and bold VVife for if once she sets upon telling a Story or framing a Complaint no Reason will be heared nor no Perswasion will stop her Mouth The uneasy life some VVomen lead with their Husbands is not so often caused by what they Act as what they say If when the Huband chides the VVife would be Silent their Meals would not for the most part be unquiet but on the contrary if he begins to Mutter she Scolds which sometimes draws on Blows and exposes them to their Neighbours That a Wife must keep House and not expose her self It is wholsom Advice that a VVoman be reserved and value her self upon being a great House-keeper for when a VVoman becomes too absolute at Home she is soon after dissolute Abroad A Vertuous VVoman must be very cautious in what she says and circumspect in all she does for being careless of what they say often makes them heedless of what they do There is none so ignorant but understands how much more nice the Honour of a Woman is than that of a Man which is demonstrable in that a Man cannot be dishonoured but by Reason but the Opportunity is enough to defame a Woman The Woman that is Vertuous and values her self upon it may be assured she will be so much the more Vertuous by how much the less she confides in her self I mean by how much the less she dares venture to