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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A66844	The gentlewomans companion; or, A guide to the female sex containing directions of behaviour, in all places, companies, relations, and conditions, from their childhood down to old age: viz. As, children to parents. Scholars to governours. Single to servants. Virgins to suitors. Married to husbands. Huswifes to the house Mistresses to servants. Mothers to children. Widows to the world Prudent to all. With letters and discourses upon all occasions. Whereunto is added, a guide for cook-maids, dairy-maids, chamber-maids, and all others that go to service. The whole being an exact rule for the female sex in general. By Hannah Woolley.	Woolley, Hannah, fl. 1670.; Faithorne, William, 1616-1691, engraver.	1673 (1673)	Wing W3276A; ESTC R204109	139,140	297

without it a Lady or Gentlewoman can hardly be said to be absolutely accomplished Limning is an excellent qualification for a Gentlewoman to exercise and please her fancy therein There are a many foreign Ladies that are excellent Artists herein neither are there wanting Examples enough in his Majesty's three Kingdoms of such Gentlewomen whose indefatigable industry in this laudible and ingenious Art may run parallel with such as make it their profession Some may add Stage-plays as a proper recreation for Gentlewomen as to that provided they have the consent of Parents or Governess I shall leave them to make use of their own liberty as they shall think convenient I am not ignorant that Stage-plays have been much envy'd at and not without just cause yet most certain it is that by a wise use and a right application of many things we hear and see contain'd therein we may meet with many excellent precepts for instruction and sundry great Examples for caution and such notable passages which being well applied as what may not be perverted will confer no small profit to the cautious and judicious Hearers Edward the Sixth the Reformer of the English Church did so much approve of Plays that he appointed a Courtier eminent for wit and fancy to be the chief Officer in supervising ordering and disposing what should be acted or represented before his Majesty which Office at this time retains the name of Master of the Revels Queen Elizabeth that incomparable Virtuous Princess was pleased to term Plays the harmless Spenders of time and largely contributed to the maintenance of the Authors and Actors of them But if the moderate recourse of Gentlewomen to Plays may be excused certainly the daily and constant frequenting them is as much to be condemned There are an hundred divertisements harmless enough which a young Lady may find out suitable to her inclination but give me leave to find out one for her which hath the attendance of profit as well as pleasure and that is Reading Mistake me not I mean the reading of Books whose subjects are noble and honourable There are some in these later days so Stoical that they will not allow any Books to Womankind but such as may teach them to read and the Bible The most severe of them do willingly permit young Gentlewomen to converse with wise and learned men I know not then by what strange nicety they would keep them from reading their Works There are a sort of Religious men in forreign parts who do not debar the people from knowing there is a Bible yet they prohibit them from looking into it I would fain ask these sower Stoicks what can be desired for the ornament of the mind which is not largely contain'd and exprest in Books where Virtue is to be seen in all her lovely and glorious dresses and Truth discovered in what manner soever it is desired We may behold it in all its force in the Philosophers with all its purity in faithful Historians with all its beauty and ornaments in golden-tongu'd Orators and ingenious Poets In this pleasing variety whatsoever your humour be you may find matter for delectation and information Reading is of most exquisite and requisite use if for nothing but this that these dumb Teachers instrust impartially Beauty as well as Royalty is constantly attended with more flatterers than true informers To discover and acknowledg their faults it is necessary that they sometimes learn of the dead what the living either dare not or are loth to tell them Books are the true discoverers of the mind's imperfections as a glass the faults of their face herein shall they find Judges that cannot be corrupted with love or hate The fair and the foul are both alike treated having to do with such who have no other eyes but to put a difference between Virtue and Vice In perswading you to read I do not advise you should read all Books advise with persons of understanding in your choice of Books and fancy not their quantity but quality For why should ye seek that in many which you may find in one The Sun whilst in our Hemisphere needs no other light but its own to illuminate the World One Book may serve for a Library The reading of few Books is not to be less knowing but to be the less troubled Of the guidance of a Ladies love and fancy I Suppose you virtuous Ladies and Gentlewomen to whom I direct this Discourse yet know that though you are victoriously seated in the Fort of Honour yet Beauty cannot be there planted but it must be attempted However I would have you so constantly gracious in your resolves that though it be assaulted it cannot be soiled attempted but never attainted How incident and prone our whole Sex is to love especially when young my blushes will acknowledg without the assistance of my tongue now since our inclination so generally tend to love and fancy and knowing withal how much the last good or evil of our whole lives depend thereon give me leave to trace them in all or most of their Meanders wherein you will find such suitable instructions as will give you for the future safe and sound direction Fancy is an affection privily received in by the eye and speedily convey'd to the heart the eye is the Harbinger but the heart is the Harbourer Look well before you like love conceived at first sight seldom lasts long therefore deliberate with your love lest your love be misguided for to love at first look makes an house of misrule Portion may woo a Worldling Proportion a youthful Wanton but it is Vertue which wins the heart of Discretion admit he have the one to purchase your esteem and the other to maintain your Estate yet his breast is not so transparent as to know the badness of his disposition if you then take his humour on trust it may prove so perverse and peevish that your expected Heaven of bliss may be converted into an Haven of insupportable crosses Themistocles being asked by a Noble-man Whether he had rather marry his Daughter to a vicious Rich man or an Honest poor man return'd this answer That he had rather have a man without money than money without a man Whence it was that prudent Portia replied being asked When she would marry then said she When I find one that seeks me and not mine There is no time requires more Modesty from a young Gentlewoman than in wooing-time a shamefast red then best commends her and is the most moving Orator that speaks in her behalf Like Venus Silver Dove she is ever brouzing on the Palm of Peace while her Cheeks betray her love more than her tongue There is a pretty pleasing kind of wooing drawn from a conceived yet concealed fancy-Might they chuse they would converse with them freely consort with them friendly and impart their truest thoughts fully yet would they not have their bashful loves find discovery Phillis to willows like a cunning Flyer Flys

much it is more pleasant to them praising such and such of their own age that are thus and thus qualified which will breed in them an emulation to tread in their footsteps If she finds any addicted to reading let her ask the question What she thinks of such a Book she hath read by the answer she may easily conjecture at the strength of her Intellect If she find her a lover of conversation it will not be amiss to ask what she thinks of such a Gentlewoman or Gentleman whose virtues she hath a great esteem for when she hath return'd an answer to the demand let the Governess require a reason for her so saying which in the approving or condemning will not only make the Scholar cautious of what she delivers but give a great insight both into her disposition and understanding Whatever she doth let her have a special care in obstructing the growth of evil manners and ingraft the good stifle in the very birth those corruptions which will grow in the purest natures without an indefatigable circumspection Countenance not an untruth by any means especially if they stand in it this is a very great vice and argues an inclination impudently vicious there is a fault contrary to this and shall be reckoned in the number of infirmities when by an over-modesty and too much bashfulness a young Maid cannot hold up her head when spoken to and if askt a question would blush as if by some gross miscarriage she had lately contracted a guilt This sudden alteration of the countenance may breed an undeserv'd suspition and therefore it ought to be corrected discreetly with good instruction Favour not obstinacy by any means for flattery in this case will spoil the Gentlewoman Be the incessant tormentor of her sloath left by proving burdensome to others she at length becomes so to her self by which means her understanding starves and her body contracts an Hospital of Diseases This you may remedy by suffering her not to sleep over long lest the spirits be over dull'd as well as by too little rest If the season be dry walk them in the fields if not some moderate exercise within doors which will be instrumental in keeping them from the knowledg of the Physician And now since Nature only gives us a beeing and education a well being the Parent or Governess ought to have a special care how she seasons youth with what is most conducible to the orderly and prudent management of the concerns of this life let such a foundation be therefore laid which may sufficiently promise the Parents a happy issue when their Children shall arrive to maturity of age Letters undoubtedly is the first step to the perfection of knowledg by which means they come to improve their own understandings by the help of others Reading furnisheth them with agreeable discourse and adopts them for the conversation of the most ingenious without which I know not how the fancy can be supplied with what is acceptable to the Auditor How little would conversation signifie did not reading on all occasions find matter for discourse The want of which hath made so many Country-Gentlewomen stand like so many Mutes or Statues when they have hapned into the company of the ingenious their quaint expressions have seem'd to them Arabian sentences and have stared like so many distracted persons in that they should hear the sound of English and yet understand but here and there a word of their own language The consideration hereof is sufficient one would think to make the preposterous suspitions of some to vanish who vainly imagine that Books are Womens Academies wherein they learn to do evil with greater subtilty and cunning whereas the helps of Learning which are attained from thence not only fortifies the best inclinations but enlargeth a mean capacity to a great perfection Having thus proved That the reading Books doth much conduce to the improving the understanding of young Gentlewomen it behoveth the Governess to be careful in her choice of them In the first place let them read some choice pieces of Piety which may inflame their hearts with the love of God and kindle in them ardent desires to be early followers of the Doctrine of Christ Jesus Let there be a strict watch to keep unviolated the two gates of the Soul the Ears and Eyes let the last be imployed on good and proper Subjects and there will be the less fear that the Ears should be surpriz'd by the converse of such who delight in wanton and obscene discourses which too often do pleasantly and privately insinuate themselves into the Ear carrying with them that unwholsome air which infects and poysons the purity of the Soul I know it will be expected what sort of Books of Piety I would recommend to the perusal of these Gentlewomen London affords such plenty of them I know not which to pitch on not to trouble you with too many take these which follow Bishop Vshers Body of Divinity Mr. Swinnocks Christian-calling Mr. Firmins Real Christian. Mr. James Janeways book Intituled Acquaintance with God betimes and his Token for Children when they are young Some may imagin that to read Romances after such practical Books of Divinity will not only be a vain thing but will absolutely overthrow that fabrick I endeavoured to erect I am of a contrary opinion and do believe such Romances which treat of generosity gallantry and virtue as Cassandra Clelia Grand Cyrus Cleopatra Parthenessa not omitting Sir Philip Sydney's Arcadia are Books altogether worthy of their Observation There are few Ladies mention'd therein but are character'd what they ought to be the magnanimity virtue gallantry patience constancy and courage of the men might intitle them worthy Husbands to the most deserving of the female sex Thus having qualified them for reading you should so practice them in their pen as not to be ignorant in a Point de Venice and all the Productions of the Needle with all the curious devices of Wax-work Rock-work Moss-work Cabinet-work Bengle-work c. and in due time let them know how to Preserve Conserve Distill with all those laudible Sciences which adorn a compleat Gentlewoman Having thus characteriz'd in part what a Governess ought to be I shall with your leave and patience give you some account of my self A Short account of the life and abilities of the Authoress of this Book I Would not presume to trouble you with any passages of my life or relate my innate qualifications or acquired were it not in obedience to a Person of Honour who engag'd me so to do if for no other reason than to stop the mouths of such who may be so maliciously censorious as to believe I pretend what I cannot perform It is no ambitious design of gaining a name in print a thing as rare for a Woman to endeavour as obtain that put me on this bold undertaking but the meer pity I have entertain'd for such Ladies Gentlewomen and others as have not received

yet she fears her Shepherd should not spy her Whatever you do be not induced to marry one you have either abhorrency or loathing to for it is neither affluence of estate potency of friends nor highness of descent can allay the insufferable grief of a loathed bed Wherefore Gentlewomen to the intent you may shew your selves discreetest in that which requires your discreetion most discuss with your selves the parity of love and the quality of your Lover ever reflecting on those best endowments which render him worthy or unworthy of your greatest estimation A discreet eye will not be taken only with a proportionable body or smooth countenance it is not the rind but the mind that is her Loadstone Justina a Roman Maid no less nobly descended than notably accomplished exclaimed much against her too rigid fate in being married to one more rich than wise And good reason had she being untimely made by his groundless jealousie a sad tragick spectacle of misery For the whiteness of her neck was an object which begot in him a slender argument of suspect which he seconded with rash revenge Let deliberation then be the Scale wherein you may weigh love with an equal poize There are many high consequent-circumstances which a discreet Woman will not only discourse but discuss before she enter into that hazzardous though honourable state of Marriage Disparity in descent fortunes friends do often beget a distraction in the mind Disparity of years breeds dislike obscurity of descent begets contempt and inequality of fortunes discontent If you marry one very young bear with his youth till riper experience bring him to a better understanding Let your usage be more easie than to wean him from what he affects by extremity Youth will have his swing time will reclaim and discretion will bring him home at last So conform your self to him as to confirm your love in him and undoubtedly this conjugal duty mixt with affability will compleatly conquer the moroseness of his temper If he be old let his age beget in you the greater reverence his words shall be as so many aged and time improved precepts to inform you his actions as so many directions to guide you his kind rebukes as so many friendly admonitions to reclaim you his Bed you must so honour as not to let an unchast thought defile it his Counsel so keep as not to trust it in any others breast be a staff in his age to support him and an hand upon all occasions to help him If he be rich this shall not or must not make you proud but let your desire be that you both employ it to the best advantage Communicate to the Needy that your Wealth may make you truly happy That is a miserable Wealth which starves the Owner I have heard of one worth scores of thousands of pounds who bought billets not for fewel but luggage not to burn them and so warm himself but to carry them on a frosty morning up stairs and down and so heat himself by that labouring exercise Wherefore let me perswade you to enjoy your own and so shun baseness reserve a provident care for your own and so avoid profuseness Is your Husband fallen to poverty let his poor condition make you rich there is certainly no want where there wants no content It is a common saying That as Poverty goes in at one door Love goes out at the other and love without harbour falls into a cold and aguish distemper let this never direct your thoughts let your affection counterpoize all afflictions No adversity should divide you from him if your vowed faith hath individually tyed you to him Thus if you expostulate your Christian constant resolves shall make you fortunate If your fancy be on grounded deliberation it will promise you such good success as your Marriage-days shall never fear the bitter encounter of untimely repentance nor the cureless anguish of an afflicted conscience Now as I would have you Gentlewomen to be slow in entertaining so be most constant in retaining Lovers or Favourites are not to be worn like Favers now near your bosom or about your wrist and presently out of all request Which to prevent entertain none so near your heart whom you observe to harbour in his breast something that may deserve your hate Carefully avoid the acquaintance of Strangers and neither affect variety nor glory in the multiplicity of your Suitors For there is no greater argument of mutability add leightness Constant you cannot be where you profess if change you do affect Have a care vows deliberately advised and religiously grounded are not to be slighted or dispensed with Before any such things are made sift him if you can find any bran in him task him before you tye your self to take him And when your desires are drawn to this period become so taken with the love of your Choice as to interpret all his actions in the best sense this will make one Soul rule two hearts and one heart dwell in two bodies Before you arrive to this honourable condition all wanton fancy you must lay aside for it will never promise you good success since the effect cannot be good where the object is evil Wanton love hath a thousand devices to purchase a minutes penitential pleasure Her eye looks and by that the sense of her mind is averted her ear hears and by it the intention of the heart is perverted her smell breathes and by it her good thoughts are hindred her mouth speaks and by it others are deceived by touch her heat of desire upon every small occasion is stirred never did Orlando rage more for his Angelica than these Utopian Lovers for their imaginary shadows These exorbitancies we must endeavour to remedy and that therein we may use the method of art we must first remove the cause and the effect will follow Let me then discover the incendiaries of this disorderly passion next the effects arising from them and lastly their cure or remedy The original grounds of this wanton fancy or wandring phrenzie are included in these two lines Sloth Words Books Eyes Consorts and luscious fare The lures of lust and stains of honour are For the first sententious Seneca saith He had rather be exposed to the utmost extremities Fortune can inflict on him than subject himself to Slotb and Sensuality For it is this only which maketh of Men Women of Women Beasts and of Beasts Monsters Secondly Words corrupt the Disposition they set an edg or gloss on depraved liberty making that member offend most when it should be imployed in profiting most Thirdly Books treating of leight Subjects are Nurseries of wantonness remove them timely from you if they ever had entertainment by you lest like the Snake in the Fable they annoy you Fourthly Eyes are those windows by which death enters Eve looked on the fruit before she coveted coveting she tasted and tasting she perished place them then on those objects whose real beauty make take them

and down you will lose your credit It may be a fellow-servant may court you but before you entertain the motion consider how you must live by inconsiderately marrying you may have one joyful meeting and ever after a sorrowful living and have time to repent of your rash matching Instructions for all Nursery-Maids in Noble Families YOu ought to be naturally inclined to love young Children or else you will soon discover your unfitness to manage that charge you must be neat and cleanly about them and careful to keep good hours for them Get their Breakfasts and Suppers in good and convenient time let them not sit too long but walk them often up and down especially those who cannot go well of themselves take heed they get no falls by your carelesness for by such means many the cause at first being unperceivable have afterwards grown irrecoverably lame or crooked wherefore if any such thing should happen conceal it not though you may justly incur a great deal of blame therefore I knew a Gentlewoman absolutely spoil'd by such a concealment her Nurse by negligence let her fall being very young from a Table and by the fall her thigh-bone was dislocated the Nurse fearing the indignation and displeasure of the Childs Parents who were rich and potent conceal'd it a long time under the pretence of some other indisposition endeavouring in the mean time the reducing of the bone to its proper place but by reason of an interposition of a Jelly between the dislocations it could not be done and then when it was too late the Parents were acquainted with the sad condition of their beloved Child and hereupon all means imaginable used for its recovery but all in vain although they had been at some hundreds of pounds charge for the cure She is now as lovely a young Gentlewoman as a ravisht eye can feast upon but it would break the heart of that body the eye belongs unto to see her go her back-side-walking would force a man from her to the Indies and yet her face would attract him to her twice as far But to my purpose be not churlish or dogged to them but merry and pleasant and contrive and invent pretty pastimes agreeable to their age keep their linnen and other things always mended and suffer them not to run too fast to decay Do not shew a partiality in your love to any of them for that dejects the rest Be careful to hear them read if it be imposed upon you and be not too hasty with them have a special care how you behave your self before them neither speaking nor acting misbecomingly lest your bad example prove the subject of their imitation Instructions for all Chamber-maids to Gentlewomen in City and Country FRom you it will be required that you wash and starch very well both Tiffanies Lawns Points and Laces and that you can mend what is amiss in them That you work Needle-work well and all sorts of Plain-work or any other work with the Needle which is used in such Houses That you wash black and white Sarsnets that you dress well and diligently perform what you are commanded by your Mistress be neat in your Habit modest in your Carriage silent when she is angry willing to please quick and neat handed about what you have to do You must know how to make all manner of Spoon-meats to raise Paste to dress Meat well though not often required thereunto both of Fish and Flesh to make Sauces garnish Dishes make all sorts of Pickles to see that every thing be served in well and handsomely to the Table in due time and to wait with a graceful decorum at the Table if need should require Keep your Mistresses Chamber clean and lay up every thing in its due place you ought to be skilful in buying any thing in the Market if you be intrusted therewith these things will be expected from you in those Houses where there is no Head-cook If there be no Butler you must see all things decent and fitting in the Parlour and Dining-room In a word you must divest your Mistress from all the care you can giving to her a just and true account of what moneys you lay out shewing your self thrifty in all your disbursements be careful in overlooking inferior servants that they waste nothing which belongs to your Master and Mistress If you are thus qualified and be of an humble and good disposition your merit will deserve a good Sallary and a great deal of love and respect If you have not these accomplishments endeavour their procuration by sparing some money from superfluous expence and over-gaudy clothes for to see a Maid finely trickt up having a fine show without and not one good qualification within is like a jointed Bartholomew-Baby bought for no other use than to be look'd upon Instructions for Nursery-Maids to Gentlewomen both in London or elsewhere LEt me advise you first to consider the charge you take in hand and not to desire it as too many do because it is an easie kind of life void of labour and pains-taking thinking also that Children are easily pleas'd with any thing I can assure you the contrary for it is a troublesome employment and the charge is of greater weight than such vainly imagine You ought in the first place to be of a gentle and good disposition sober in your Carriage neat in your Apparel not sluggish nor heavy-headed but watchful and careful in the night-season for fear any of the Children should be ill and keep due hours for their up-rising and going to bed Take special care that they eat nothing which may over-charge their Stomacks If you observe their Faces at any time paler than ordinary or complain of pain in their Stomack conclude it is the Worms that troubles them and therefore give them remedies suitable to the distemper do this often whether you see those Symtoms or no the neglect of which hath been the destruction of many hopeful Children Keep them whatever you do sweet and clean and moderately warm teach them some good forms of prayer and to read as they are capable restrain them from drinking too much Wine strong Liquors and eating over-much Fruit. Be loving and chearful with them not humping or beating them as many do contrary to the knowledg and pleasure of their Parents That Mother is very un wife that will give liberty to Servants to strike her Children and that Servant is over-sawcy and ill natur'd who dares do it without her Mistresses privity and consent This is your duty and unless you can and will do this never undertake this charge Instructions for such who desire to be absolute Cook-maids in good and great houses IT is a common thing now-adays for Cook-maids to ask great Wages although they are conscious to themselves of their inability of performing almost any thing which as it is unconscionable so to do so in the end it will prove disgraceful to them I shall therefore tell you

you may talk and that elegantly to the same persons at a distance whether relations friends or acquaintance and that is by Letter having given you some general instructions how to pen them I shall lay you down some choice patterns of Letters upon several occasions for your imitation I shall conclude at present this Treatise with some witty Dialogues or interchangable Discourses between several of your Sex eminent for birth worth and ingenuity Some general and choice Rules for writing of Letters FIrst what a Letters is It is or ought to be the express image of the Mind represented in writing to a friend at a distance wherein is declared what He or She would do or have done This excellent use we have of Letters that when distance of place will not admit of Union of persons or converse Viva voce that deplorable defect is supplied by a Letter or Missive and indeed the necessity of conversing one with another as long as we live layeth an unavoidable cogency of communicating our affairs each to other without which friends at a distance could have no correspondence one with the other Though it lyeth not in the power of every one to make use of these excellent means for reciprocal Communication yet we see daily the illiterate and ignorant will make hard shifts rather than go without the benefit thereof applying themselves to friends that can write or if they have none to Scriveners or other strangers venturing their secrets with them rather than their friend shall go without the knowledg of them But as for you Ladies for whose use this Book was framed I question not your writing well but without inditing well it will signifie but little to the intent therefore you may pollish your Epistolical compositions observe these two things therein that is the Matter and Form The Matter of Letters is any thing that may be discoursed of without any exception or that which you would freely discover to your Relations or discourse to your friend when present the same you would do by Letter when he is absent if it stands with conveniency For sometimes it is not convenient to trust that in a sheet of paper which if lost or miscarried may be the great detriment if not the utter ruin of the person This matter you must know varieth much according to the subject you write upon I shall endeavour to treat a little of all the common subjects which are the usual occasions of Letter-writing Of Intelligence or Advice THese Letters are the informers of our friends of our own or others concerns There is no great matter of invention required in them for the very subject will afford you matter enough all that is required of you in this are these two things the first that you word your Matter well and that you write not any thing unadvisedly which you cannot justifie but above all have a care of News-writing if it nearly concern the State or any great person thereunto belonging Of Friend-chastisement IF you have a dear female-friend whom you suspect of any youthful excursions especially levity and would reduce her to a better understanding mildly lay open her errors and therein discover what an enemy she hath been to God and to her own reputation that there is no way to reconcile her self to God and the World but by her future exemplary modest carriage And that she may not think your reproofs have their original from malice or hatred to her person declare what a great esteem you ever had for her excellent parts and rare endowments of mind and what a pity it is such excellencies should be eclipsed by such foul miscarriages that it is not your sorrow alone but the grief of several of her friends and then subtilly insinuate this That had it not been a friend you so dearly loved you could have been well content to have been filent but contrary the love you bear her obliged you to reveal the evil reports you have heard of her and how troubled you are to see her commendations so limited with exceptions Were it not that she is she is absolutely one of the finest Gentlewoman in Europe Then conclude that you hope she will take all in good part and that she will highly oblige you to use the same freedom as you have done with her if she hears ought amiss Of giving good Counsel YOu may in the first place excuse your rash intrusion in giving counsel before it be required but the bonds of friendship were so strong that you could not forbear and therefore hoped she would take all in good part and then inculcate this that you did not doubt the sufficiency of her judgment but being tender of her welfare and knowing of what weighty concern the business in hand imported that it was not for a year or a day but for lise you could do no less being full fraught with a most entire affection but tell her she must consider then tell her what your advice is and be sure you back it with the best reasons and arguments you can summon together making it appear that your counsel is both honest and profitable and not self-interested and it only tends to her lasting good here and eternal hereafter husbanding your reasons according to the person you deal with Conclude with an hearty ejaculation to God that he may direct her for the best following the good advice you have given c. If you are a Mother of Children and would write to them or to your Servant you need not have rules in so doing the plainer you write the better it is and they will more readily understand you you need no more than signifie to them what you would have done and what undone as for reasons you need not alledg any to encourage them in their duty your power is sufficient and your command is the only reason why they should do so or so however if you see any refractoriness in your Children it will not be amiss to urge how just your commands are and how easily performed adding the promise of a reward if they fulfil your desire but threats and menaces of punishment if they disobey but concluding you hope to find them so towardly that they will not need correction Of requesting a kindness LEtters of this nature are of two kinds the first is when one Gentlewoman of quality sends to another her very good friend either for some courtesie to her self or for another and then she must begin with an acknowledgment of her love and how consident she still remains in the assurance thereof then make known your request and how easily it may be done and end with a promise of being sensible of the courtesie and retalliation If the person requesting be somewhat a stranger but much infcrior to the person of whom she intreats the kindness then she must begin with an insinuation excusing her boldness in daring to request a favour of a person whom she never obliged by

Themselves they tye To harmony Let 's kiss and call them back again 2. Now let us orderly convey Our Souls into each others Breast Where interchanged let them stay Slumbring in a melting rest Then with new fire Let them retire And still present Sweet fresh content Youthful as the early day 3. Then let us a tumult make Shuffling so our Souls that we Careless who did give or take May not know in whom they be Then let each smother And stifle the other Till we expire In gentle fire Scorning the forgetful Lake Addresses of Love and Service from Erotus to Aurelia Erot. MAdam invited or rather forced by the just commendations which Englands Metropolis and other famed places attribute to your merits I here prostrate my respects and service which I shall desire you to esteem obedient to your will until the time of my perseverance manifest them to be constant and faithful Aurel. Sir report is commonly a Lyar and now proves more favourable to me than truth you know I am flatter'd and you add thereunto by presenting feigned love and fervice to the honour of this imaginary merit Erot. Madam you seem ingrateful to over-kind and indulgent Nature in wronging that incomparable beauty she hath prodigally bestow'd upon you which is so Paramont it can produce no other effects but fervent desires and passionate endeavours to serve you Aurel. Sir your Rhetorick may work Miracles but it can never alter my belief Erot. Then Madam I see there nothing remains but my future obedience and affection which must condemn your misbelief and authorize this truth Aurel. Such expressions float commonly on the streams of this Ages affection which usually produce nothing but Artifice although they pretend to the greatest service Erot. I know it is ordinary for some to confirm Promises with Oaths when at that instant they ne're intended to perform them but that which will infuse a belief that I follow not the common custom of the times is and will be the sincerity of my love and constancy of my service Aurel. Sir your enterprise will not be worth your pains and should you obtain your desire I know not how you will bear with the loss of being cheated in your hopes Erot. However Madam my resolution is fixt and although you should make the end of it unfortunate or successless yet it shall be the glory of my courage that I fell from high attempts Aurel. Seeing you thus ground your hope on misfortune hope can no way harm you for if it deceive you it makes you not withstanding happy Erot. May I be so happy Aurel. I shall never advise a soul of your generosity to rest upon such a design the resolution being so mean that it must needs be followed with sorrow and repentance Erot. My encouragement will be the gaining of as much honour in the enterprize as difficulty in the worthy atchieving Aurel. If you made but half the proofs of these many proffers of service you would be famous throughout the whole Empire of Love Erot. Madam have patience to see the guidance of my love by the light of that fire your fair self hath kindled which when your Luminaries are by death extinct shall never be extinguished A merry Dialogue between an ingenious Gentlewoman and a Poetaster or Rimer Poet. MAdam I 'm come to tell you I have writ Your praise glory wrapt up in my wit Then pray accept and grace it with a smile Your humble servant I my self shall stile Gent. After she had read his Verses thus she speaks Now prithee tell me are these lines of your own composition Poet. They are indeed Madam Gent. Now beshrew me if I did not think so the conceits are as poor as thy habit and the whole matter like thy self hunger-starved prithee leave off riming and beg some other way in the ancient manner of such who haunt Moorfields on Sundays if thou hadst but a sore leg or arm with a Partner the structure of whose body is built on timber in plain English a wooden-leg thou wouldst thrive on 't Poet. Accept pray Madam what I here have writ Pay first your Poet and then shew your wit Gent. Then I see you are a Mercenary Scribler Come tell me truly how many have you presented with this Encomium with no other alteration than the name I dare lay my life an hundred your Verses are great Travellers and yet I dare engage my life they have never been as far as Parnassus but there is not a Gentlemans house in the whole Kingdom in which they have not been conversant and yet I wonder how they came to have such universal entertainment as for my own part I must confess plainly they are too lousie and beggarly to lodg underneath my roof they will infect my Foot-men Poet. If these do not like you Lady fair and bright Here 's more I do present unto your sight Gent. Did you make them your self Poet. Did I not what a question is that how do you think I should come by them unless I bought them Some I know can buy Verses cheaper than they can make them but I am no Sales-man in one respect though in another I may be said to be so Sales-men use to have Clothes in their shop which Taylors make and yet they own the work Gent. I marry Sir these savour of raptures and Poetical fancies Poet. Do you smell them Madam I hope they do not offend your Ladiships nose Gent. But hold Sir how comes this about here is one Verse is running a race with another and hath the start of him three feet at least Poet. I did it on purpose to see which would run fastest or in imitation of a Hare who is swifter of foot than a Dog and therefore is commonly before-hand with him Gent. I but Sir here is another hath ran too much hath prickt his foot and halts down-right Poet. Why look you there lyeth a conceit my invention is rare by way of imitation lame halting Verses are commendable or Magnum Jovis incrementum had never been writ herein lyeth the greatest art and herein I express no small courage making my enemies come home short by a leg and to tell you truly I am a sow'r Satyrist alias an Iambographer Gent. In the name of goodness what was that you mumbled I hope you are no Conjurer there 's a word with all my heart Poet. Why this it is to be ignorant or as we Latins say Ars nullum habet inimicum nisi ignorantem it is my pride and glory that I speak beyond the reach of Phlegmetick feminine capacity but I will condescend so low as to explain this significant word of my own composition Iambographer in the first place know it is partly Greek and partly I know not what but the signification in short is a keen and sharp Versifier whose lines prick worse than Spanish Needles or in short you may hang your self in a pair of them Gent. I thank you Sir

for your good advice but if you and your lines are such dangerous company pray let me have no more of their society and so farewell Poet. Nay one word more I cannot only hang with Iambicks but I can fetch blood with Asclepiads cudgel and bastinado with Sapphicks and whip to death with Phaleuciums Gent. Pray practice Sir first on your self 't is no matter which of them you take to free the world of such an insufferable burthen Adieu A form of Discourse at a casual meeting between Silvester and Sylvia Silvest MAdam I see your inclinations to virtue so powerful that you are ever restless but when you are in the society of such who make the greatest proof thereof Sylvia Sir your judgment concerning the company is most true for there cannot be more accomplished persons nor any honester content found in any society whatever but your courtesie exceeds in attributing praises to her who least deserves them and comparatively to the rest hath no considerable perfection Silvest Your modesty and humility which is the crown of your excellencies makes you speak disadvantagiously of your self which I must not connive at lest I run into an unpardonable errour and I should look upon my self as most unworthy to look upon so fair an object and not to admire its perfections the luster whereof can never be eclipsed by your undervaluings Sylvia Sir the higher you strain your eloquence the more reason I have to shun those Elogies whereof you are as liberal towards me as Heaven is sparing to me of those gifts you so much commend wherefore pray desist and in this company select some better subject to exercise your wit and language on A method of Courtship on fair and honourable terms Inamorato Lusippe Inam I Shall ever account this Madam the happiest day I ever had in all the course of my life which hath given me the honour and satisfaction of your acquaintance Lufip Sir if I knew ought in me worthy your merit I should readily imploy it in your service but being fully sensible of my imperfections and weakness I believe the knowledg of me will yield you less happiness than you imagin Inam Madam I wonder you should wrong so much perfection Lusip. I wrong not any thing in my possession but it is your courtesie and rhetorick that would willingly excuse my defects to make your own sufficiency to appear so much the more Inam Pardon me Madam it is the charming-power of your virtues and merits which oblige me not only to honour and serve you but also to desire some part and interest in your affections Lusip. Sir whatsoever a Maid with honour may do you may request of me I should be as void of judgment as defective in beauty did I not respect your quality admire your virtues and wish you a happiness equal to your demerit Inam Madam I assure you my affections are real and I hope sincerity doth wait on your good wishes but if you will extend your favour I cannot but be the happiest of all men Lusip. Sir as I cannot perswade my self you will fix your affection on a person so little deserving so I wish with all my heart your happy Stars may guide you to a Match that may become your worth Inam Do not entertain so palpable a mistake I have proposed to my self an unfeigned resolution to honour and serve you to my uttermost endeavour and your refusal cannot lessen my affection suffer me then to bear the honourable title of your servant Lusip. Sir I have absolutely render'd my self up to the disposal of my dear Parents consult them if you prevail on their consent you shall not doubt the conquest of my affection Inam You oblige me infinitely and I must thank you as heartily I will not rest a minute till I know my sentence of life or death which consists in the refusal of my love or its acceptance An impertinent and lying Travellers Discourse with his witty and Jocose Mistress Erraticus Constantia Errat MAdam your Seat is so incomparable that I have not seen a better in all my Travels Constant. It seems then you are a Traveller Errat I am no less Did you never travel Lady Constant. I hope Sir you do not take me for a Lady-errant however Sir I shall acknowledg I have travel'd through the Universe and yet was never out of my own Country Errat Hey day how can that be Constant. I pity your want of apprehension why Sir this is no such notorious contradiction if you consider that the Cosmographers of these latter times have taught us in their Books to surround the world and yet never stir a foot I have read of some Countries Errat And you may hear talk of many wonderful passages but pish talk is but talk give me the man hath measur'd those Countries you have heard talk of and can readily recount you the names of all the petty Towns as well as Cities in a whole Kingdom Constant. You have seen many Cities abroad I prav what think you of London Errat London ha ha ha like a Cock-boat to the Royal-Soveraign comparatively to Cities I have seen Constant. I pray name one Sir Errat Why Madam I took shipping in the Downs and had no sooner arriv'd to the height of the Cape of Good-hope but passing by the Grimanians Hungarians and Sclavonians I came to Vienna a pretty Village and for scituation much like Hamsted its distance is about seven leagues from Civil from whence we are stor'd with Oranges Constant. Sir I have read that Vienna is in Germany and Civil in Spain Errat Pish what care I for reading however as you say I cannot but acknowledg the people in Spain are as much or more Civil than any other but if Civil be not in Germany than I was neither in Civil or Vienna in my life I have been in Paris too and do know the founder thereof Constant. Pray Sir inform my curiosity with the name of the Founder Errat His name was Parismus the son of Palmerin of England and hence the City was called Paris some would have it called Lutetia because the women are so well skill'd in an instrument called a Lute Constant. Good Sir proceed what observations did you make whilst you were in that famous City Errat In the first place there is a famous University called Pontneuse whose Students ply their business very notably studying most part of the night and are such notable disputants they confute all that come that way after ninc at night Here are excellent Comedians the Women are the best who act their parts notably and take great pains to do things to the life In the Summer-time Foot-boys and Lacquys do here swarm as flyes in August and that season is so sultry hot that the fiery heat continues with the people all the Winter following Riding one day in the street a dust arose so thick and great that I lost my way that way I rid the wind drove