conversation_n she_o be_v frequent_a in_o secret_a prayer_n and_o let_v i_o tell_v you_o to_o your_o comfort_n she_o have_v lodge_v in_o the_o bosom_n of_o god_n by_o the_o assistance_n of_o the_o holy_a spirit_n and_o in_o the_o mediation_n of_o her_o dear_a saviour_n many_o a_o ardent_a and_o most_o affectionate_a prayer_n for_o your_o poor_a soul_n while_o she_o be_v here_o in_o the_o flesh_n which_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o the_o lord_n will_v return_v answer_n of_o through_o his_o free_a grace_n upon_o your_o head_n and_o heart_n upon_o your_o body_n and_o upon_o your_o soul_n she_o be_v full_a of_o the_o overflowing_n of_o love_n to_o her_o most_o unworthy_a yet_o much_o endear_v consort_n she_o be_v of_o a_o very_a peaceable_a and_o amiable_a life_n towards_o all_o person_n she_o do_v live_v much_o in_o a_o little_a time_n and_o as_o she_o be_v of_o a_o exact_a life_n in_o comparison_n of_o most_o so_o through_o the_o infinite_a grace_n of_o god_n she_o end_v her_o day_n in_o the_o peace_n of_o a_o good_a conscience_n and_o do_v enjoy_v peace_n with_o god_n which_o pass_v understanding_n phil._n 4.7_o psalm_n 37.37_o god_n give_v she_o the_o white_a stone_n and_o therein_o the_o new_a name_n write_v which_o none_o know_v but_o herself_o who_o receive_v it_o rev._n 2.17_o she_o be_v full_a of_o heavenly_a rapture_n and_o divine_a manifestation_n of_o the_o love_n of_o god_n to_o her_o soul_n on_o her_o deathbed_n she_o go_v not_o out_o by_o death_n like_o the_o snuff_n of_o a_o stink_a candle_n leave_v a_o ill_a savour_n behind_o but_o like_o jumper_n or_o the_o choice_a sweet_a perfume_n die_v abner_n as_o a_o fool_n 2_o sam._n 3.33_o no._n or_o die_v this_o precious_a christian_a as_o a_o daughter_n of_o belial_n no._n the_o thought_n thereof_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n be_v to_o be_v abhor_v with_o a_o kind_n of_o infinite_a detestation_n it_o may_v be_v true_o affirm_v that_o she_o live_v like_o a_o saint_n and_o die_v like_o a_o daughter_n of_o the_o 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my_o son_n much_o more_o to_o i_o i_o dare_v not_o omit_v it_o certain_o if_o the_o righteous_a shall_v be_v have_v in_o everlasting_a remembrance_n psa_n 12.6_o it_o must_v be_v then_o as_o much_o my_o duty_n to_o endeavour_v it_o as_o the_o duty_n of_o any_o nay_o more_o my_o duty_n in_o reference_n to_o this_o glorify_a soul_n than_o the_o duty_n of_o any_o other_o in_o the_o world_n my_o very_a dear_a and_o choice_o belove_a child_n i_o have_v be_v somewhat_o long_o in_o this_o epistle_n dedicatory_a than_o i_o intend_v at_o the_o first_o but_o the_o strength_n of_o my_o affection_n to_o your_o soul_n have_v carry_v i_o forth_o in_o this_o way_n true_o the_o good_a of_o those_o precious_a soul_n of_o you_o i_o desire_v to_o seek_v as_o the_o good_a of_o my_o own_o i_o know_v to_o my_o grief_n and_o sorrow_n that_o there_o have_v be_v a_o world_n of_o evil_n infuse_v into_o your_o whole_a man_n by_o and_o from_o i_o o_o that_o god_n will_v honour_v i_o in_o make_v i_o a_o instrument_n under_o his_o bless_a self_n of_o pluck_v you_o out_o of_o the_o mire_n of_o your_o corruption_n jude_n ver_fw-la 23._o and_o god_n do_v know_v that_o in_o all_o these_o line_n i_o have_v have_v a_o aim_n and_o very_o ardent_a desire_n and_o sincere_a endeavour_n to_o contribute_v something_o this_o way_n but_o to_o draw_v towards_o a_o close_o let_v i_o say_v in_o some_o sense_n as_o solomon_n prov._n 22.20_o i_o have_v write_v to_o you_o excellent_a thing_n in_o counsel_n and_o knowledge_n yet_o not_o as_o they_o flow_v from_o i_o for_o out_o of_o i_o who_o be_o but_o a_o empty_a and_o dark_a creature_n can_v no_o such_o thing_n come_v but_o as_o god_n have_v enable_v i_o through_o his_o grace_n to_o gather_v they_o together_o as_o so_o many_o precious_a flower_n spring_v in_o the_o garden_n of_o his_o own_o word_n dear_a heart_n it_o be_v say_v of_o abel_n that_o whilst_o he_o be_v dead_a he_o yet_o speak_v heb._n 11.4_o ah_o let_v i_o tell_v you_o that_o by_o these_o line_n of_o i_o i_o shall_v speak_v to_o you_o when_o i_o shall_v have_v no_o ear_n to_o hear_v you_o nor_o eye_n to_o see_v you_o now_o i_o beseech_v you_o for_o the_o lord_n sake_n and_o for_o your_o precious_a soul_n sake_n that_o you_o will_v serious_o mind_v what_o i_o have_v present_v to_o you_o and_o be_v careful_a to_o practise_v the_o same_o and_o whatsoever_o else_o the_o lord_n shall_v be_v please_v to_o provide_v for_o your_o instruction_n to_o further_o you_o in_o a_o holy_a life_n for_o else_o let_v i_o plain_o tell_v you_o that_o these_o eye_n of_o i_o shall_v see_v you_o and_o these_o ear_n of_o i_o shall_v hear_v you_o arraign_v sentence_v and_o condemn_v at_o the_o bar_n of_o god_n tribunal_n seat_n to_o everlasting_a perdition_n from_o the_o presence_n of_o the_o lord_n and_o from_o the_o glory_n of_o his_o power_n 2_o thes_n 1.9_o and_o then_o i_o shall_v want_v a_o heart_n to_o mourn_v over_o you_o and_o yet_o if_o not_o only_a myself_o but_o man_n and_o angel_n shall_v melt_v away_o by_o tear_n of_o sorrow_n unto_o nothing_o in_o sympathize_v and_o condole_v your_o most_o exceed_a sad_a and_o dolorous_a condition_n it_o can_v not_o contribute_v to_o ease_v you_o of_o so_o much_o as_o one_o sigh_n sob_v groan_n or_o cry_v unto_o eternity_n ah_o my_o poor_a soul_n shall_v it_o ever_o be_v say_v that_o i_o have_v beget_v child_n to_o be_v make_v companion_n for_o devil_n ah_o dear_a god_n i_o beseech_v thou_o for_o the_o lord_n jesus_n christ_n sake_n forbid_v it_o but_o i_o bless_v god_n i_o hope_v better_a thing_n of_o you_o my_o sweet_a child_n and_o such_o as_o concern_v salvation_n though_o i_o thus_o speak_v heb._n 6.9_o or_o else_o i_o shall_v go_v mourning_n and_o pour_v forth_o flood_n of_o salt_n tear_n unto_o my_o groan_n and_o never_o in_o this_o world_n see_v one_o happy_a day_n more_o but_o if_o the_o lord_n shall_v be_v gracious_o please_v to_o add_v a_o span_n of_o time_n to_o my_o day_n here_o i_o trust_v he_o will_v give_v i_o a_o tender_a heart_n towards_o you_o and_o that_o through_o his_o abundant_a grace_n i_o shall_v labour_v to_o improve_v time_n gift_n and_o opportunity_n to_o seek_v by_o all_o mean_n and_o in_o special_a by_o humble_a address_n and_o earnest_a prayer_n to_o the_o god_n of_o all_o grace_n to_o give_v you_o all_o all-saving_a grace_n your_o real_a tranquillity_n and_o true_a felicity_n here_o and_o so_o grant_v i_o to_o see_v real_a and_o royal_a demonstration_n of_o his_o free_a grace_n upon_o and_o in_o your_o soul_n discover_v on_o your_o heart_n and_o in_o your_o life_n the_o spot_n of_o his_o child_n deut._n 32.5_o and_o your_o eternal_a happiness_n and_o bliss_n in_o the_o life_n to_o come_v in_o through_z and_o for_o the_o only_a merit_n of_o jesus_n christ_n your_o bless_a and_o for_o ever_o bless_a saviour_n now_o unto_o he_o who_o be_v able_a to_o keep_v you_o from_o fall_v and_o to_o present_v you_o faultless_a before_o the_o presence_n of_o his_o glory_n with_o exceed_a 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to_o love_n and_o good_a work_n she_o will_v be_v a_o mean_n to_o help_v thou_o in_o the_o growth_n of_o grace_n here_o and_o so_o a_o mean_n of_o thy_o happiness_n hereafter_o here_o be_v more_o flower_n to_o add_v to_o thy_o begun-nosegay_n in_o the_o last_o end_n of_o marriage_n bound_v they_o together_o and_o they_o will_v be_v very_o odoriferous_a to_o please_v thy_o sense_n three_o thou_o have_v need_v to_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o choose_v a_o wife_n as_o thou_o desire_v thy_o love_n shall_v hold_v out_o to_o the_o end_n for_o if_o thou_o make_v riches_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n they_o may_v be_v lose_v they_o be_v subject_a to_o many_o casualty_n riches_n have_v wing_n like_o a_o eagle_n and_o may_v fly_v away_o prov._n 23.5_o and_o when_o they_o be_v go_v thy_o love_n will_v fly_v after_o if_o thou_o make_v beauty_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n that_o may_v vanish_v away_o for_o favour_n be_v deceitful_a and_o beauty_n be_v vanity_n 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then_o as_o grace_n do_v increase_v so_o thy_o love_n will_v abound_v but_o grace_n can_v but_o increase_v continual_o therefore_o love_n will_v multiply_v in_o thy_o heart_n exceed_o now_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v keep_v from_o apostasy_n or_o fall_v from_o god_n and_o the_o way_n of_o his_o grace_n and_o as_o thou_o desire_v to_o be_v help_v forward_o in_o all_o christian_a counsel_n and_o good_a way_n and_o as_o thou_o do_v desire_v to_o keep_v life_n in_o thy_o love_n and_o to_o increase_v therein_o to_o thy_o own_o comfort_n and_o the_o comfort_n of_o thy_o wife_n so_o let_v it_o be_v thy_o care_n in_o the_o fear_n of_o god_n to_o look_v to_o thy_o own_o heart_n that_o it_o deceive_v thou_o not_o but_o that_o thou_o do_v indeed_o make_v grace_n the_o object_n of_o thy_o love_n in_o the_o choice_n of_o thy_o wife_n then_o thou_o may_v certain_o expect_v by_o the_o blessing_n of_o god_n much_o comfort_n in_o such_o a_o yokefellow_n in_o all_o thy_o want_n of_o wealth_n or_o 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and_o peaceable_a spirit_n for_o it_o be_v much_o to_o be_v bewail_v that_o in_o divers_a man_n and_o woman_n that_o we_o doubt_v not_o in_o the_o least_o measure_n but_o that_o they_o be_v very_o gracious_a and_o desire_v to_o prove_v their_o soul_n to_o god_n in_o all_o way_n of_o holiness_n yet_o be_v of_o bad_a nature_n and_o themselves_o can_v but_o see_v it_o and_o i_o doubt_v not_o but_o they_o desire_v to_o bewail_v it_o before_o god_n in_o secret_a and_o yet_o can_v attain_v to_o have_v their_o corruption_n in_o this_o kind_n mortify_v in_o any_o comfortable_a way_n yet_o it_o must_v be_v grant_v that_o such_o person_n be_v not_o many_o time_n comfortable_a consort_n and_o therefore_o thou_o that_o be_v to_o make_v choice_n of_o a_o wife_n have_v cause_n enough_o to_o endeavour_v to_o avoid_v lay_v a_o conjugal_a tie_n upon_o thyself_o to_o live_v and_o die_v with_o such_o a_o woman_n though_o otherwise_o one_o of_o good_a part_n if_o a_o woman_n be_v of_o churlish_a nature_n &_o of_o cross_a dispositon_n in_o the_o abstract_n she_o will_v cast_v such_o a_o cool_a damp_n on_o her_o husband_n love_n as_o may_v not_o only_o chill_a but_o kill_v it_o whereby_o though_o she_o may_v be_v a_o sad_a sufferer_n herself_o she_o will_v abundant_o prejudice_v her_o husband_n in_o his_o comfort_n and_o may_v shorten_v his_o day_n for_o a_o man_n can_v live_v that_o can_v love_v the_o love_n of_o any_o thing_n give_v contentment_n to_o the_o mind_n to_o enjoy_v the_o same_o a_o cross_n and_o tart_n nature_n in_o a_o wife_n un-wifes_n her_n as_o i_o may_v say_v for_o she_o that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n be_v either_o not_o a_o wife_n or_o else_o a_o very_a imperfect_a one_o for_o how_o can_v she_o be_v say_v to_o be_v a_o wife_n that_o be_v not_o a_o meet_a helper_n who_o be_v unfit_a for_o comfortable_a society_n but_o such_o a_o wife_n be_v as_o sharp_a and_o bitter_a touchy_a and_o tangue_n by_o nature_n will_v not_o ordinary_o be_v sociable_a love_a kind_a 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the_o second_o place_n thou_o must_v kind_o and_o with_o all_o possible_a sweetness_n admonish_v she_o of_o the_o danger_n of_o sin_n and_o of_o the_o fearful_a fruit_n and_o sad_a effect_n of_o it_o as_o that_o thereby_o she_o dishonour_v a_o good_a god_n she_o wound_v she_o own_o conscience_n she_o bring_v discredit_v to_o the_o gospel_n she_o provoke_v the_o lord_n indignation_n and_o wrath_n against_o she_o to_o her_o confusion_n if_o she_o persevere_v in_o sin_n labour_v to_o persuade_v she_o that_o sin_n have_v a_o long_a tail_n of_o judgement_n at_o the_o heel_n of_o it_o externall_n internal_a and_o eternal_a inchoated_a on_o earth_n consummate_v in_o hell_n
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enlargednesse_n and_o cheerfulness_n to_o yield_v he_o comfort_v and_o succour_v in_o the_o time_n of_o bodily_a affliction_n sickness_n and_o weakness_n we_o have_v see_v before_o that_o the_o aim_v at_o comfort_n in_o all_o condition_n be_v one_o end_n and_o a_o principal_a one_o too_o of_o our_o desire_v the_o marriage_n condition_n and_o if_o a_o woman_n be_v any_o way_n negligent_a herein_o she_o do_v leave_v unperformed_a one_o special_a duty_n she_o do_v owe_v to_o her_o husband_n for_o if_o ever_o a_o man_n stand_v in_o need_n of_o his_o wife_n help_v he_o do_v so_o in_o a_o special_a manner_n when_o he_o can_v help_v himself_o now_o the_o time_n of_o sickness_n and_o weakness_n be_v such_o a_o time_n and_o then_o the_o wife_n must_v in_o a_o extraordinary_a way_n put_v forth_o her_o best_a ability_n in_o her_o own_o person_n to_o contribute_v to_o the_o foresay_a purpose_n and_o not_o only_o so_o but_o she_o must_v labour_v to_o procure_v able_a and_o faithful_a attendant_n about_o he_o and_o by_o no_o mean_n neglect_v to_o look_v out_o to_o procure_v under_o god_n help_v from_o such_o physician_n as_o have_v both_o the_o theory_n &_o practic_a part_n of_o their_o profession_n and_o manifest_v most_o tenderness_n care_n and_o honesty_n for_o the_o good_a and_o recovery_n of_o their_o patient_n but_o what_o mean_v soever_o she_o make_v use_v of_o she_o must_v depend_v on_o the_o god_n of_o mean_n for_o a_o blessing_n which_o she_o must_v crave_v of_o he_o by_o earnest_n and_o fervent_a prayer_n for_o such_o prayer_n be_v a_o mean_v sanctify_v of_o god_n to_o save_v the_o sick_a jam._n 5.15_o we_o shall_v turn_v in_o here_o and_o proceed_v no_o further_o to_o lay_v down_o the_o particular_a duty_n that_o the_o wife_n do_v owe_v to_o her_o husband_n of_o which_o she_o must_v make_v conscience_n as_o in_o the_o presence_n of_o god_n and_o that_o as_o she_o will_v approve_v herself_o to_o be_v a_o meet_a helper_n to_o her_o husband_n the_o number_n of_o which_o duty_n you_o see_v be_v eight_o first_o matrimonial_a love_n second_o cohabitation_n three_o to_o be_v helpful_a to_o he_o in_o the_o best_a thing_n for_o the_o good_a of_o his_o soul_n four_o submission_n to_o he_o five_o to_o reverence_v he_o sixthly_a to_o labour_v to_o bear_v with_o his_o infirmity_n seven_o to_o yield_v he_o furtherance_n in_o his_o outward_a estate_n eighthly_a and_o last_o to_o labour_v to_o help_v and_o comfort_v he_o in_o time_n of_o illness_n and_o weakness_n of_o any_o kind_n we_o have_v endeavour_v hitherto_o to_o consider_v of_o the_o distinct_a duty_n of_o the_o husband_n to_o his_o wife_n and_o of_o the_o wife_n duty_n to_o her_o husband_n or_o which_o duty_n some_o that_o the_o husband_n do_v owe_v unto_o his_o wife_n
not_o worse_o be_v thy_o language_n i_o be_o certain_a that_o by_o this_o mean_v thou_o come_v within_o the_o list_n of_o that_o woe_n isa_n 5.20_o woe_n unto_o they_o who_o call_v evil_a good_a and_o good_a evil_n etc._n etc._n thou_o condemne_v god_n way_n and_o hustify_v thy_o own_o way_n let_v man_n walk_v in_o the_o way_n â—o_o get_v wealth_n or_o pleasure_n or_o carnal_a profit_n or_o worldly_a honour_n or_o run_v apace_o in_o the_o high_a road_n â—o_o hell_n these_o ungodly_a person_n before_o speak_v of_o will_v not_o dishearten_v they_o but_o rather_o encourage_v they_o by_o keep_v company_n with_o they_o but_o let_v any_o man_n or_o woman_n who_o heart_n god_n have_v warm_v with_o zeal_n for_o his_o glory_n and_o tender_a love_n to_o such_o poor_a soul_n as_o be_v under_o they_o let_v they_o but_o lend_v they_o a_o little_a finger_n to_o guide_v they_o or_o but_o a_o small_a spark_n of_o light_a to_o conduct_v they_o by_o in_o the_o way_n to_o heaven_n than_o they_o be_v in_o their_o bedlam-fits_a not_o know_v how_o to_o contain_v themselves_o within_o the_o bound_n of_o civility_n but_o these_o man_n have_v either_o never_o learn_v or_o soon_o forget_v that_o place_n of_o our_o saviour_n the_o kingdom_n of_o heaven_n suffer_v violence_n and_o the_o violent_a take_v it_o by_o force_n mat._n 11.12_o and_o other_o place_n luk._n 13.24_o heb._n 12.14_o luk._n 11.52_o such_o opposite_a spirit_a man_n and_o woman_n as_o these_o will_n by_o no_o mean_n endure_v that_o any_o child_n or_o friend_n of_o they_o shall_v come_v within_o the_o wall_n of_o a_o godly_a family_n to_o live_v in_o for_o fear_v they_o shall_v become_v puritan_n as_o they_o call_v they_o but_o to_o conclude_v this_o point_n or_o use_v let_v i_o tell_v they_o that_o without_o abundance_n of_o repentance_n for_o and_o reformation_n of_o this_o sin_n they_o shall_v have_v as_o large_a a_o share_n if_o not_o more_o of_o those_o inconceivable_a misery_n which_o be_v imperfect_o mention_v in_o the_o use_n of_o reproof_n and_o terror_n as_o the_o portion_n of_o such_o as_o do_v any_o way_n neglect_v the_o performance_n of_o those_o duty_n they_o owe_v unto_o child_n and_o servant_n and_o it_o may_v be_v they_o shall_v have_v a_o large_a share_n than_o the_o other_o because_o for_o aught_o can_v be_v know_v such_o scoff_a ishmael_n as_o these_o have_v be_v a_o special_a cause_n of_o hinder_v many_o from_o the_o performance_n of_o their_o duty_n to_o their_o family-relation_n which_o otherwise_o will_v have_v set_v themselves_o to_o the_o discharge_n of_o those_o duty_n the_o use_n in_o the_o last_o place_n may_v be_v for_o exhortation_n use_v 4_o to_o stir_v up_o christian_a parent_n and_o master_n first_o to_o labour_v to_o be_v well_o acquaint_v with_o those_o duty_n which_o they_o owe_v unto_o their_o child_n and_o servant_n and_o then_o to_o set_v themselves_o with_o much_o diligence_n pain_n and_o care_n to_o the_o performance_n of_o they_o the_o duty_n have_v be_v lay_v down_o and_o full_o demonstrate_v from_o divers_a scripture_n there_o have_v be_v some_o illustration_n and_o amplification_n of_o they_o and_o divers_a undeniable_a reason_n to_o urge_v the_o performance_n of_o they_o now_o what_o shall_v i_o say_v this_o pain_n as_o in_o order_n to_o thou_o be_v lose_v if_o thou_o sit_v still_o and_o come_v not_o forth_o to_o the_o performance_n of_o they_o when_o david_n have_v make_v a_o large_a preparation_n for_o build_v the_o house_n of_o god_n in_o jerusalem_n have_v get_v together_o abundance_n of_o material_n for_o that_o magnificent_a work_n what_o say_v he_o to_o his_o son_n solomon_n arise_v say_v he_o therefore_o and_o be_v do_v and_o the_o lord_n be_v with_o thou_o 1_o chro._n 22.16_o now_o if_o without_o offence_n i_o may_v allude_v to_o to_o this_o i_o may_v say_v i_o have_v endeavour_v as_o god_n have_v gracious_o enable_v i_o to_o prepare_v in_o some_o poor_a measure_n some_o material_n to_o help_v thou_o to_o â—uild_v god_n a_o temple_n or_o church_n in_o his_o own_o family_n unto_o which_o i_o desire_v thou_o may_v add_v in_o thy_o retire_a meditation_n now_o i_o also_o say_v to_o thou_o arise_v and_o be_v do_v and_o the_o lord_n be_v with_o â—hee_o thou_o will_v say_v thou_o be_v a_o poor_a weak_a creature_n thy_o knowledge_n be_v little_a and_o thy_o part_n â—re_n small_a let_v i_o advise_v thou_o to_o gain_v good_a form_n of_o catechism_n be_v studious_a in_o they_o be_v diligent_a to_o improve_v they_o for_o the_o good_a of_o all_o under_o thou_o by_o this_o mean_n if_o thou_o be_v conscientious_a indeed_o and_o seek_v to_o approve_v thyself_o to_o god_n in_o thy_o discharge_n of_o these_o duty_n and_o abundant_o desire_v to_o yield_v furtherance_n to_o the_o soul_n of_o thy_o wife_n child_n and_o servant_n by_o this_o mean_n i_o say_v thou_o shall_v find_v that_o in_o teach_v other_o thy_o own_o knowledge_n shall_v increase_v and_o thou_o have_v a_o promise_n from_o the_o mouth_n of_o christ_n for_o this_o that_o to_o he_o that_o have_v more_o shall_v be_v give_v and_o he_o shall_v have_v in_o abundance_n mat_n 13.12_o we_o have_v a_o good_a proverb_n applicable_a here_o that_o be_v use_v leg_n and_o have_v leg_n and_o thou_o say_v thy_o part_n be_v weak_a if_o thou_o can_v not_o pray_v with_o thy_o family_n but_o in_o a_o very_a weak_a manner_n than_o i_o say_v pray_v to_o god_n to_o teach_v thou_o to_o pray_v pray_v in_o secret_a for_o both_o the_o spirit_n and_o gift_n of_o prayer_n that_o thou_o may_v be_v able_a to_o perform_v it_o in_o thy_o family_n but_o beware_v thou_o set_v not_o too_o high_a a_o rate_n on_o the_o gift_n of_o prayer_n for_o it_o often_o go_v alone_o without_o the_o spirit_n thou_o be_v better_o of_o the_o two_o have_v the_o spirit_n of_o prayer_n than_o the_o gift_n but_o both_o together_o do_v best_a especial_o in_o relation_n to_o edify_a other_o simon_n magus_n desire_v to_o purchase_v a_o power_n to_o give_v the_o holy_a ghost_n to_o who_o he_o please_v his_o end_n be_v base_a as_o well_o as_o his_o tender_a vile_a he_o do_v aim_v as_o good_a divine_n think_v at_o popular_a applause_n beside_o a_o curse_a gain_n true_o i_o much_o fear_v popular_a applause_n and_o vain_a ostentation_n be_v too_o too_o much_o the_o aim_n of_o some_o in_o our_o time_n where_o i_o see_v a_o gift_n of_o prayer_n yea_o and_o of_o preach_v too_o and_o a_o spirit_n of_o predominant_a pride_n i_o must_v take_v the_o liberty_n to_o think_v of_o such_o a_o man_n as_o i_o do_v apprehend_v clear_a ground_n for_o this_o last_o passage_n i_o do_v insert_v for_o this_o end_n principal_o to_o take_v off_o the_o inordinate_a affection_n of_o any_o poor_a soul_n from_o the_o gift_n of_o prayer_n sincerity_n in_o all_o thy_o walking_n with_o god_n will_v comfort_v thou_o in_o the_o midst_n of_o all_o defect_n and_o what_o know_v thou_o dear_a christian_n but_o god_n will_v join_v his_o strength_n with_o thy_o weakness_n and_o make_v thou_o a_o instrument_n of_o beget_v soul_n to_o god_n as_o well_o as_o body_n and_o so_o make_v thou_o in_o a_o sense_n a_o spiritual_a father_n as_o well_o as_o a_o bodily_a and_o enable_v thou_o at_o the_o last_o day_n to_o say_v to_o god_n behold_v here_o be_o i_o and_o the_o child_n who_o thou_o have_v give_v i_o where_o we_o may_v allude_v to_o that_o which_o the_o apostle_n apply_v and_o make_v proper_a to_o christ_n heb._n 2.13_o now_o in_o the_o last_o place_n for_o it_o deserve_v no_o other_o by_o thy_o religious_a care_n to_o further_a thy_o child_n and_o servant_n in_o the_o way_n of_o god_n thou_o may_v make_v such_o child_n and_o servant_n very_o profitable_a to_o thou_o in_o outward_a respect_n paul_n take_v notice_n that_o onesimus_n be_v no_o profitable_a servant_n to_o his_o master_n when_o he_o be_v graceless_a but_o after_o he_o be_v convert_v he_o tell_v philemon_n that_o now_o he_o be_v profitable_a phil._n 11._o there_o be_v much_o cry_v out_o in_o the_o world_n and_o not_o without_o cause_n against_o stubborn_a disobedient_a and_o undutiful_a child_n and_o against_o refractory_a and_o unprofitable_a servant_n but_o may_v not_o the_o neglect_n of_o parent_n and_o master_n about_o make_v their_o child_n in_o the_o use_n of_o mean_n god_n child_n and_o their_o servant_n by_o the_o foresay_a mean_n the_o servant_n of_o god_n may_v not_o i_o say_v this_o be_v a_o special_a cause_n of_o all_o this_o confusion_n doubtless_o yea_o for_o it_o be_v just_a with_o god_n that_o when_o thou_o will_v not_o make_v thy_o child_n and_o servant_n to_o answer_v god_n end_n at_o least_o so_o far_o as_o possible_a thou_o may_v that_o thy_o own_o shall_v be_v whole_o frustrate_a thus_o much_o for_o the_o use_n belove_a be_v please_v to_o