to the eternall rest in thy kingdome of glory through the merits and mediation of thy only sonne our Saviour Jesus Christ AMEN CHAP. XVI § 1. Of Love and Charity what they are and how they differ in their objects § 2. Of love to God considerable in its object end measure severall states degrees perpetuity and opposition § 3. Signes of our love to God § 4. common obstructions and lets thereto § 5. Meanes on our part to be used for the enslaming our love to God § 6. Motives to incite us thereto 1. Love is the Qveene of vertueâ— mother of sanctity Gods lively image in man a reflex of his goodnesse who is love the life of faith without which it is neither active nor lively the comfort of this life security in death proeludium of heavenly life wherein it shal be compleated in the vision of God and the full communion of Saincts united to their head Christ Jesus what were life without love better then an hell inchoate such must that be where God is not who not only hath love but is the same Love is a voluntary affection and desire to enjoy that which is good it is a dilection because we doe in a free choice discerne what to love loves limits are ample when it hath a fiinite object when 't is towards God it hath no bounds save only in the subject which can but finitely love an infinite though with all the soule and all the might Love is subjectively in some desire objectively in some good or that which seemeth such so that their varieties cause as many varieties of love love of God the supreame good is incomparably the best love of that which God loveth is next and next that which beareth his image so love we our selves and men and Angells we love men either as we receive good from them or doe good to them the first our language calleth Love the second Charity that hath something amiable and desirable for it object this something miserable and to be pittied or releived 2. Love to God is a vertue wherein the reasonable creature adhereth and is united to delighteth and resteth in God as his cheife good And it is considerable 1. As naturall such as was in Adam in his innocency for without it he could not have had Gods image on him 2. As infused in our regeneration which is a repaire of Gods image decayed in us by sinne this is the meere gift of God 1. Joh 4. 7. Love commeth of God and the fruit of the spirit is love Gal 5. 22. we love him because he first loved us 1. Joh 4. 19. 3. The supreame end of our love to God is God for though we love any creature for some other end then is terminative in that creature so beloved yet we must love God onely for his own sake though we may not therefore only love God that he may doe us good for that were to make our love meâ—cenary not â—iliall not truely to love God above all but him for the rewards sake that were a contract rather then a free love selfe love not love of God for his own sake and as a sufficient reward to those that love him yet may we be assured that we cannot love him truely without a sufficient and certain reward and we may expect the same seeing he is not unrighteous that he should forget our worke and labour of love which wee have shewed toward his name In whatsoever creature wee instance men or Angells or any thing subordinate to their love there is still some better object of our love as if wee love riches for charity sake we love charity for our indigent brothers sake and him for Gods sake But in God only all our desires and affections rest and let downe the wings like those creatures in Ezekiâ—ls vision when they heard the voice of God above their heads and we love God only for his own sake as the most excellent most amiable and desirable the sole fountaine of true good and blessednesse out of whom there can be nothing good or happy and indeed hee that seeketh any thing above or beyond God seeketh nothing because there is nothing better then he nothing in heaven or earth so good The subordinate end of loving God is that we may love others in and for him as 't is written wee have this commandement from him that he that loveth God should love his brother also nor can any man wisely and truely love himselfe any otherwise then for God's sake not wisely for 't were folly for a man to set his affections at any lower levell then true happinesse which can never be in any thing humane or temporall but it is to be found and attained onely in God and our union with him to love our selves for beauty strength honour riches plesures or present life is to beguile our soules with vaine dreams happinesse can be in nothing which can change for worse or must unavoidably end nor can we truely love our selves for any thing lesse then the image of God in us he loveth not himselfe in truth but hateth his own soule who loveth himselfe a sinner for thereby he maketh himselfe unhappy or in respect of any temporall pleasure or gaine therein or thence taken the sinner hateth and destroyeth his own soule doing himselfe more harme therein then the devill and all the powers of hell could otherwaies doe him for as they cannot make him sinne against his will so neither can they make him truely unhappy without his consent to sinne Neither is it truly to love our selves to prouide momentany pleasures and beguiling shewes of happinesse with the losse of the eternall and true the gaine of a world cannot compensate the losse of a soule nor doth he truly love himselfe who betrayeth himselfe herein loving short and evill pleasures more then the chiefe good eternall happinesse and salvation of his own soule 3. The measure of our loving God is to love him without measure things finite have measure and therefore must be loved in measure and subordination Thou must love thy Parents wife children freinds but as thy selfe not in the place of God to honour them before him as Eli did 1. Sam 2. 29. but in subordination to his love and as may be consistent there with otherwise he that hateth not father mother wife children and his owne life 〈◊〉 Christ cannot be his disciple Lâ—k 14. 26. that is where the love of these or any of them is not subordinate to the love of God or where a man loveth any of these more then God Math 10. 37. Thou must love God with all thy heart according to thy capacity with all thy soule thy will affections and desires thy mynde and intellectuall faculties for love of God cannot be without knowledge of him there is no desire of that we know not with â—ll thy might as
much as thou canst every part must serve to Gods love that wee may love God not only giving us but also severely correcting us and denying us that which we aske and thinke best for us in assurance that he is most just wise and mercifull to dispose all for the best as may be seene in Christ and the Martyres whom nor life nor death nor any pressure could separate from the love of God 4. Though the love of God in mans state of innocency was lost by sinne yet that which is infused in our regeneration shall never fall away because it dependeth on Gods immutable love to us who not only giveth grace but also perseverance there in it was never true love of God which ever faileth if it be true it knoweth no end being ever invincible for the gifts and graces of God are without repentance Rom. 11. 29. faith operative by love cannot be lost neither can true love it may be remitted not lost clouded not extinguished that which in the reprobate seemeth the love of God shal be lost the true which is in the elect can never because though men may be deceived concerning their election God cannot 5. This love of God is never perfect in the best in this life here it may stil receive encreases doth as the Apostle Phil. 1. 9. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 yet more and more in knowledge We love according to our knowledge which being but in part no more is this our whole regeneration is yet imperfect in degrees and so is our love to God 6. Love of God shall remaine and be perfect in the life to come when riches honours pleasures deare friends nay whē those excellent gifts of learning and prophesie shall leave us when faith shall end in enjoying this one treasure shall be secure and encrease to eternity 7. As he that hateth God is herein more excusable then all other sinners because hate of God is more apparently impious then failing in attaining it or falling from it by infirmity for here may be a will to doe good but there cannot so also herein that having but one extreame to fall into the malitious will fall there all other sinnes may be in excesse and in defect because every other vertue this love excepted hath two bastard sisters as valour hath in excesse temerity and in defect timidity justice hath on the right hand too much severity on the left too much mildnesse and indulgence to sinne so is it in the rest only this most amiable vertue hath nothing but defect to oppose it no creature can love God too much because none can love him enough or infinitely This also aggravateth the sinne that there can be no cause in God of any hatred toward him because the only chiefe and true good cannot bee the proper object of hatred nor could the most wicked hate him but that they have sins which his justice must punish because he is good and they have set up their impious desires lusts after pleasures and reveuge in his place and therefore hate all that oppose them so is the wisdome of the flesh enmity with God because it is not subject to the law of God which the signes and effects thereof declare such as are despaire servile feare of God's presence fleeing from him as Adam would have done audacious liberty of sinning c yet are there degrees herein the formall hypocrite doth not professedly and out of destinate malice hate God nor truely love him he professeth love but preferreth the world before God and if any man so love the world the love of God is not in him 1 Joh 2. 15. Now whereas all pretend love as obedience to God yea when they doe no lesse then rebell against him and would if it were possible unthrone him it is necessary to consider some markes and signes of this love which are these and the like we love God 1. If in our hearts desire wee choose him for our chiefe good and preferre him before all loves as the spouse saith thy love is beter then wine if we fix our hearts and affections on God we love him if we delight in him and his law and desire to know more of him for as one saith of Magdalens looking againe into Christs sepulchre the power of love multiplieth the intention of inquisition if we rejoyce at the gaine of his favour above all gaines requirable in heaven or earth if we delight in his presence ordinances and the places where his honour dwelleth in his publike worship as that man after Gods heart whose very name signified love my soule thirsteth after the living God when shall I come and appeare before God Psal 42. 2. If wee desire and delight to heare those who bring his messages to us as Psal 119. 162. if wee often think of him where our love is our thoughts will be if we love to speake of him and to him in fervent and frequent prayers if we have a secret joy of heart at the apprehension of his presence and gratious assistance of us in any thing which may please him at attentive hearing his word zealous prayer secret giving for his sake or for the inward testimony of his spirit assuring us that we are his children because we hold him most deare 2. if we be heartly sorry when God is dishonoured so David mourned because men kept not his word certainly no man can without greife of heart remember or behold his owne or others sinnes whereby God is displeased if he love God they are but hollow freinds that can be pleased and make themselves merry with that which they know hurteth or greiveth those to whom they professe love therefore David Peter and all those that truely love God weep and mourne for their sinnes 't is griefe of soule to them that they cannot serve him as they ought without all sinne therefore David frequent and Peter abundant in teares for their sinnes professed that they loved the Lord this with better confidence then before when hee professed hee would lay downe his life for Christ said Lord thou knowest all things thou knowest that I love thee 3. If we keep his commandements which signe his selfe giveth Joh 14. 15. 23. as also the◠beloved Disciple 1 Joh. 2. 5. this is indeed to walke with him it is an impudent falshood to say we love God while we contemne his lawes as 't is to affirme we love him and hate our brother 4. If we love those that love him and are beloved of him as David did Psal 16. 3. Sec 1. Ioh 5. 1. if we love God whose spirit regenerateth we shall love the regenerate for his sake whose image they beare 5. If we hate that which is evill and delight in that onely which is pleasing to God Among lovers there must bee idem velle idem nolle he that saith he abideth in him ought himselfe also to
making void all other excellent vertues in them for want of love which is the life of true religion and the infallible marke of Christ's disciples much more doth he labour to keepe us ignorant of God that wee may be so unhappy as not to love him his first assault of man was by his suggesting jealousie betweene man and his creatour by that pestilent cloud to vaile the goodnesse of God toward man in a due consideration whereof he could not but have loved and adheared to him and to make man suspect and disbeleeve the truth of God yea said he hath God said yee shall not eate yee shall not die for God doth know that in the day yee eate thereof your eyes shall be opened and yee shall be as Gods knowing good and evill 2. Remember what he hath done and continually doth for us love followeth love if we can but be throughly perswaded that he loveth us we cannot but love him Consider what great love he hath shewed us electing creating redeeming and preserving us when Christ but shed some teares at Lazarus grave the Jewes said Behold how he loved him what would they have said if they had knowne that he came to shed his heart blood for them consider what he doth in our preservation who blesseth us with increase who makes the earth bring forth who makes the clouds drop fatnesse and crowneth the yeares with plenty who keepeth us when we sleepe from the powers of darknesse never wanting power nor will but onely commission to destroy us who can and will keepe us when we are breathing out our soules we love our deare friends who then cannot keepe us because they would consider I say not if there be not reason but necessity that wee love him that onely can and certainly will preserve us then 3. Learne a due estimate of secular things and to alienate thy affections from them that they may be taken up with things â— on high the more thou emptiest thy soule of those the more capable it will be of these vaine loves cares delights and desires bewitch the greatest part of the world transporting men in a fantisticke dreame of happinesse and prosperity when here 's nothing constant but inconstancie nothing permanent and perpetuall but perpetuall and suddaine changes in Gods love onely there is constancie every thing else yea this world and the fashion thereof changeth mens loves are fickle as the wind they admire and presently loath the same they curse and blesse like Michaes mother at a breath in the sense of their losse or gaine a little seeming injury blasteth their love yea the change of the externall estate changeth their affections who by the mercenary ballance of present profit weith amity with God and men these wethercocks turne with every shift of the winde these shadowes appeare onely in prosperity wherein they follow and will not be beaten off with Ruths importunity that nere so litle clouded they vanish But Gods love is constant and unchangeable he will knowe thy soule in adversity if any unkindnesse reall injuries dishonours and rebellions could change him who had not long since perished 'T was said of that Turkish Emperour in his favour was no constancy and in his least disfavour death but God is of infinite patience mercy though he be every day provoked and in his favour is eternall life 4. Pray him to give thee an heart to know and love him to draw thee that thou maist follow him to shew thee his marvellous loving kindnesse to acquaint thee with his goodnesse Moses desired to see Gods face not to satisfie his curiosity but to fill his affection with Gods love As the Spouse cryed Cant 1. 7. Tell me O thou whom my soule loveth where thou feedest where thou makest thy flockes to rest at noone The motives to incite us to love God are infinite as is his goodnesse the more obvious to us are 1. The great and admirable promises according to which he sheweth mercy unto them that love and obey him See Ex. 20. 6. Luk 10. 27. 28. 1 Cor 2. 9. Jam 1. 12. 2. Love of God is that same ballance of the sanctuary by which all duties must be weighed it is that same salt of the covenant without which no sacrifice can be savory and acceptable it is that holy fire which came from heaven wee may offer no sacrifice without it the devill is obedient but not for love but feare and compulsion it is the summe of the first table of the law it is the maine which God requireth of us for our good because he hath a delight in us Epictetus summe of philosophie was in two words susteine and absteine the summe of Gods law is in this one love and thou hast fullfilled the law no woonder that he saith my yoke is easy and my burden light what burden more light and easie then that love which maketh men happy then that which parity maketh such by his free mercy who saith yee are my freinds What lesse would we doe if we were left to our owne disposing then love so good a God 3. It is a certaine demonstration of Gods love to us none can love him but those whom he loveth first we love him because he loved us first therefore he sheddeth abroad his love in our hearts and it is a certaine token of our adoption and remission of sinnes as our Saviour said many sinnes are forgiven her for she loved much where 〈◊〉 for importeth not a cause but a consequence and certaine signe of her sinnes remission love covereth the multitude of sinnes whether wee instance in Gods love to us or ours to him it proceedeth wholly from him as the waters come through the subterraneous unseene passages from the sea which seeme first to contribute their constant streames to the filling up of her vast channels so it is with our loves which are none other but a meere restuâ—nce of Gods love iufused into our hearts by his holy spirit for love is of God and God is love 4. Not to love God is the heigth of the most wretched ingratitude all unthankfulnesse concludeth a man inhumane and wicked but this maketh him most impious and unhappy he loveth us first before we were so elected us to eternall salvation he gave us all that we have and are hee gave us his own image in our creation his own Son in our redemption he feedeth protecteth preserveth heareth us forgiveth our sinnes giveth us all good things to make us happy if we did not make an ill use of all seeing then he being so great and excellent loved us first so much freely wee being such and so unconsiderable we ought and canâ—ot without greatest ingratitude but love him he is too hard-hearted who though hee cannot first love will not requite 5. Love uniteth and likneth lovers with men
Prayer for one ready to receive the Lords Supper pag. 111. A private Prayer after reâ—eiving the Lords Supper pag. 112. Another private Prayer immediately after receiving the Lords Supper pag. 113. 15 Of the Sabbath the name institution things considerable for the sanctification the beginning and ending reasons of the institution the change of the Lords day now to be observed of all Christians how we must sanctifie it p. 114. A Prayer for the Sabbath day morning pag. 125. To the ordinary evening prayer may be added this private prayer for the Sabbath p. 128. 16 Of Love and Charity what they are how they differ in their objects love to God considerable in the object and measure severall states degrees perpetuity and opposition signes thereof common lets meanes on our part to be used c. motives to incite us thereto pag. 129. A prayer for love to God pag. 14â— 17 Of love to our selves kinds thereof love to our neighbour the necessity and excellency thereof conditions and signes of friendship what and how excellent it is the true end and lawes thereof what choice we are to make of friends and whom to avoid of love to our enemies we ought to love them without any malice and to make a right use of them p. 144. A Prayer for Love and Charity p. 180. 18 Of the soule affections mind and thoughts in generall corruption of the heart danger difficulty of the cure necessity of a right ordering our thoughts rules of practice pag. 181. 19 Of right ordering the thoughts in respect of some particular passions affections and perturbations of the mind in their distempers of love delight joy rejoycing mirth sorrow anger hatred malice envy impatience discontent a contented mind pag. 201. The Prayer for patience pag. 226. 20 Of Hope Feare Cares Iealousies pag. 227. A prayer for hope p. 233. A Prayer against feare p. 240. A Prayer against cares pag. 241. A Prayer for sanctification of the thoughts pag. 250. 21 Guidance of the tongue excellent use abuse evils of the tongue concluding the necessity of a right guidance thereof motives thereto rules by which it may be done pag. 252. A Prayer pag. 265. 22 Of externall actions in generall whence the good are how requisite how regulated rules concerning them pag. 266. The Prayer pag 270. 23 Government of Families duties of Masters and Servants motives to their duties pag. 271. A short morning prayer with a Family p. 277. Another Morning Prayer for a Family pag 278. A short Evening Prayer p. 282. An Evening Prayer for a Family more enlarged p. 283. 24 Of Marriage institution end and fruits thereof of choice in generall and particular who are to be avoided Duties of the married mutuall and peculiar advice to widdowes p. 287. the prayer pag 299. 25 Duties of Parents and Children honour to parents want of children good parents of evill children duty of the parent rules thereto belonging duties of children rules thereof motives thereâ—to p. 299. the parents Prayer p. 310. the childrens prayer p. 315. 26 Of the wounded spirit or afflicted conscience what it is how great an affliction what the conscience iâ— How comfortable the peace thereof why God afflicteth his What things principally wound the conscience What they who are afflicted with the apprehension of Gods wrath against their sinnes must consider What they must examine and practise p. 316. the prayer p. 336 27 Sense of spirituall wants afflicteth but not so much endangereth the soule what we are herein to consider examine and practise p 337. the prayer 344. 28 Of the conscience afflicted with feare of tentations and falling away what we are herein to consider examine and practise pag 346 an ejaculation to be used as soone as thou awakest pag 354 another for thy last waking pag. ib. the prayer of a wounded spirit against temptations p. 355. 29 Guidance of the mind in encrease of wealth afflictions common their fruit in good men poverty a great tryall riches great temptations commonly mistaken how to guide the minde in encrease of riches or a full inheritance pag. 357. the rich mans petition pag. 364. 30 Poverty a great temptation yet having a capacity of true happinesse what we are to consider herein and what to practise pag. 365. the poore mans petition pag 373 31 Of liberty and restraint misplaced by an injurious world comforts for prisoners rules hereto appertaining p 374 the prisoners petition pag 384. 32 Of Banishment severall kinds generall cause what we must doe to be comforted herein pag. 391. the banished mans petition pag. 399. 33 Of old age common evills thereof the foundation must be happily laid in youth how the evills of age may be lesâ—ed or more patiently borne by what rules of practise it may be improved to comfort pag 400. the old mans supplication pag 414. 34 Meditations for women neere their travell all misery is from sin sins pardoned in Christ why the punishments are not taken away womens comforts therein directions necessary thereto p. 415 a prayer for them in or neere their travaile pag 422. â— thankesgiving pag 425. 35 Directions for the sicke as all afflictions sanctified so sicknesse is profitable for Gods children many waies how it may become so to us duties of those that visit the sick pag 425. a prayer for the sicke pag 430. thankesgiving for health recovered pag 434. another after the ceasing of the plague p. 435. 36 Meditations concerning death seeing all must dye how to prepare that death may not be terrible meanes to comfort in death of deare friends comforts against death pag 439 a prayer for him that is at the point of death or hath received the sentence of death in himselfe pag 454. ERRATA Pag. 2. marg read invenâ—rint p. 4. m. r. placat p. 5. m. sin r. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 p. 7. l. 2. our soules p. 8. l. 3. r. Satan Subtile p. 13. m. r. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 p 15. m. r. hac mundi domo ib. l. 32. r he must therefore p 17 l. 28. the first cause 22. l. 18. holy ascentions p. 24. l. penâ—lt r. marketh the Church p. 25. l. 10. was reserved 29. l. 35 by the power p. 31. l ult so was fulfilled p. 32 l. 16. r. as the heire ib. l. ult changes p. 37. l. 4. the place p. 38. l. â—3 encrease thy p. 48. l. 9. r. in thee ib. r. Concerning the Holy Ghost § 1. what we are p. 51. l. 2. r. whereof he â—b l. 3. sheepfold p. 52. l. 6. are but onâ— p. 62. l. 2. there is entire p. 64. l. 3. what use we p. 66. l. 16. bearing in life p. 72. l. 21. beare all p. 74. 19. the confidence p. 78. l. 33. he looketh on 79. l. 11. his brethren 93 l. 27. preserve thee 95 l. 30. to the deafe 98. l. 7. in their legends 117 l. 14. to intimate 137. l. 14. and have his 146. l. 19. not so for it â—nd 174. l. 4. feeding on thee
walke even as he walked and the Psalmists precept is yee that love the Lord hate evill See Psal 101. 3. Psal. 119. 104. 128. 163. Psal 139. 22. we all sinne but hee that doth not truely hate sinne cannot love God 6. If our love to the world pleasures and all desirable secular things as also our cares concerning them decline and lessen in us devided streames â—unne shallower the more wee love with God the lesse we love him the more wee love him the lesse we love all things else except in subordination to him when Mary had chosen the better part the love of God she sate at Jesus feet carelesse of the other entertainment look how those glowormes shining in the dark and the starres themselves vanish at the appearance of the Sunne so doth the love of things secular at the arising of the love of God on our hearts 7. If we set not deare by any thing else riches pleasures liberty life it selfe for â—ods sake as Paul speaketh for his fellow souldier he for the worke of Christ regardeth not his life and of himselfe who for the same counted it not deare Act 20. 24. it was a great love to God which Abraham shewed when for his sake hee would bee content to sacrifice his beloved only son Isaak God who would honour him with the high title of his friend and father of the faithfull and would have heaven it selfe take a livery from him and be called Abrahams bosome would in that example of himselfe teach him as much as man could apprehend of Gods infinite love what it was to give his only son Jesus to death to save us 8. If in no difficultie of affaire spirituall or secular we attempt any thing inconsulti but goe to the Oracles of his worâ—d for advise beg his assistance and blessing in and upon all our workes how canst thou say I love thee when thy heart is not with mee Said Delilah how much more may God say so wheÌ„ we will not trust him It is a chiefe advantage of love that we have a prudent heart and a faithfull eare wherein to unload our cares and doubts and that we are sure we shall carry away none but infallible counsaile friends that may erre as men are yet deservedly trusted if they would not 9. If we beleeve in him and put our confidence in him for life and death love is the fairest issue of faith which so uniteth us to God that we can securely cast our selves and all our cares on him and his good providence beleeving and being fully perswaded that what he hath promised he is able also to performe and that whatsoever he doth with us or for us is best even when in faithfulnesse he afflicteth us Every one seemeth to love God prospering and giving but the triall is whether we love God afflicting us shewing us no countenance when he seemeth to forsake us and not to heare or regard our prayers when we are ready to perish in such case to resolve with Job though he kill me I will trust in him this is indeed a certaine argument of that love which shall assure our hearts before him if we could but thus prove the Lord with confidence in him and holy subjection of our selves to him hee would open us the windowes of heaven and powre us out blessings he would rebuke the destroyer for our sakes The common obstructions and lets to the love of God are 1. Ignorance of God we cannot love that whose excellency we know not Pharoah asked who was the Lord that hee should obey him So say the spiritually blinde who is he that we should love him They are haters of God because their foolish hearts were full of darknesse 2. Unbeliefe if wee could indeed beleeve Gods word describing his wisedome mercie verity benificence power and Providence and that there is true and eternall happinesse only in our union with him we should easily be perswaded to set our hearts on him as it is written whom having not seene yee love in whom though now yee see him not yet beleeving yee rejoyce with joy unspeakable 3. Love of this world and the present distracting cares thereof wherein catching at deluding shadowes we loose the substance if any man love it the love of the father is not in him as I noted We cannot with one eye see heaven and earth together nor love God and Mammon with one unchanged heart whose dangerous perversenesse and corruption herein appeareth God is only good but the whole world lyeth in wickednesse it loveth nothing good it is bitter and troublesome unto us yet we unhappily dote on it to our destruction and suffer it to steale away our hearts from Gods love wherein we should otherwise be happy what would wee doe if the world were neither bitter nor troublesome We are loath to part with the vaine amenity of this world as Lots wife was from the pleasant fields of Sodom no not when the Angels pull us by the hands would we goe out from ruine and destruction when the Reubenites and Gadites saw the fruitfull Jazer and the pleasant Gilead they petioned Moses that they might have the lot of their possession there and goe no further they desired not the promised rest it is so with many a worldly man he would faine sit downe here and have his heaven on earth 4. Guilt of conscience cannot be without feare of Gods severity now love and servile feare are incompatible hee that feareth Gods justice because he loveth his own liberty of sinning ease and indemnity cannot love God as this feare excludeth perfect love so this casteth out feare there is no feare in love nor love in base feare 5. Pleasures of sinne which only are contrary to Gods love no man can love unreconcilable contraries he that loveth and delighteth in any sinne thereby looseth all capacity of Gods love who cannot but punish the same The meanes on our part to be used for the enflaming our love to God are that we 1. Study to know God to acquaint our selves with him in Christ his holy word which reveileth him unto us He is the most amiable of all that is in heaven or earth therefore the most desirable as it is written he is altogether lovely It is our spirituall blindnes and ignorance of God which causeth our not loving him as we ought if we knew him we could not but love him so as that the love and care of all creatures however dear would decline in us when Peter on the mount had but a tast of his goodnes glimps of his majesty as forgetfull of all below he cryed it is good for us to be here let us make 3 tabernacles Satan oftimes setteth such a mischievous distance between man and man that mistaking or not rightly knowing one another he easily fomenteth jealousies and contentions betweene them thereby
parity of manners conciliateth love but Gods love createth our likenesse to him hence is it that the most excellent creatures love him most whereby they are made such some think that ardency of love denominateth those Angells which stand in Gods presence Seraphim certaine it is such are we as is our love our manners are not estimable by that which we knowe but by that we love good or evill love maketh us such if we love God we are godly if the world worldly if sinne sinfulf all men the best of all doe sinne but the wicked only love sinne looke how the glasses species are as is the posture thereof if you turne it to heaven you see only heaven in it if to the earth only earth so is it in our love the soules looking-glasse wherein we may see and judge of our selves 6. Without this love there can be no true happinesse for the wrath of God the severity of his justice remaineth for those who hate him give him all that a sinfull soule can desire make him times minion the worlds favorite you can make him nothing better then a devill But with the love of God though a man may possibly seeme or be said unhappy he cannot be so for all things worke together for good to them that love God prosperity adversity life death all things shall finally advantage them he that seeketh the love of God must looke for many enemies but contrary to their intentions they shall doe him good the love of the world is sweet at first but bitternesse in the end and the love of God hath many sharpe trialls at first but in the end shall be most comfortable This love is that divine Elixer which maketh the vile pretious an indeficient treasure which whosoever hath can never lack that which is good he that hath it not can never be the better for all hee hath what good or salvation can he expect who is so unhappy as not to love the fountaine of all blessednesse what can hee reasonably feare who loveth an omniscient and righteous God who is a pleanteous rewarder of those that love him Though we cannot be saved for any desert of Love to God for it is his mercy not our merit wee cannot be saved without it if any man love not the Lord Jesus let him be anathema maranatha 1. Cor 16. 22. 7. So excellent is this one possession that Paul counted all but meere losse for it dying Joshua left this as the chiefe legacie to his friends and family concerning whom hee resolved as for me and my house we will serve the Lord take good heed therefore unto your selves that yee love the Lord your God he need no more it is better to love God then to be heire of the world if thou canst not know this living thou shalt when thou art dying let my children faithfully love God I wish them no greater blessing who with my soule pray they may be truly blessed A Prayer for love to God O Lord God Almightie great and glorious who art cloathed with Majestie the beauty of holinesse perfection of beauty who hath filled heaven earth with the gratious effects of love and goodnesse I thy poore creature prostrating my selfe before thy mercy seat humbly acknowledge the many sinnes which render me utterly unworthy ever to appeare before thee specially that great ingratitude which maketh me ashamed to speake unto thee who art the searcher of all hearts yet in assurance of my acceptance in the son of thy love who now sitting at thy right hand maketh requests for me I am bold to pray thee to fill my heart with thy love which is better then all things that with my soule I may desire thee in the night with my spirit within me seeke thee early O Lord though the remainder of sinne in me create me many distractions though fraile flesh and blood starteth at the apprehension and feare of thy just judgments or murmur at the bitternes of thy present corrections yet thou knowest all things thou knowest that I love thee though with a fraile yet with a sincere heart and love with thine owne spirit infused into me O Lord my soule thirsteth after thee and thy holy presence in my sanctification and full assurance of thy mercy Therefore according to thine owne promise who caâ—st not deceive sanctifie me herein that I may love thee more and more cleanse me from all my sinnes create that purity of heart in me which may assure me of a capacity to behold thy goodnesse in the land of the living fill my lips with grace diffusive of it selfe to thy glory and the ministration of grace to the hearers guide me in the whole course of my life in that holinesse which may please thee disburden my conscience of all that guilt which leaveth me in any feare of that way by which thou hast appointed me to come unto thee and thy kingdome of glory that no afflictions paines feaâ—es or terrours of life or death may be able to separate me from thy love in Christ Jesus Blessed Lord only assure me of thy love and let thy holy will bee done with me I am thine thou madest me to thine owne image thou redeemedst and repairedst the same by thy free spirit when I was dead in trespasses and sinnes thou neither madest redeemâ—dst nor sanctifiedst me for my selfe therefore when thou doest that with me which shall best please thee in the advancement of thy glory in my salvation thou makest me happy in the end of my creation redemption and sanctification Lord it was thine owne free love which by revealing thy selfe and the inestimable riches of thy mercy to mee made me knowe what I had to love in thee neither didst thou finde in me any thing worthy of thee but the effects of thine owne love which in my election before I was determined to make me an object of thy mercy therefore thou who art Love didst set thine own image on me thou best knowest that I am of my selfe but worthlesse dust and earth and by my sinnes a masse of corruption such as onely can displease thee and deserve thine anger but O Lord God of mercy who foundest me a child of wrath and madest me a sonne an enemy and reconciledst me by the death of thy holy sonne Jesus accomplish the worke of thine owne mercy in me and love me still give mee an heart to love thee so above all with all my soule minde and might love that which thou hast wrought in my heart cherish thine owne graces in me though my love be full of imperfections yet thy worke is perfect in thee is no shadow of change Lord for thine owne loves sake now make me such as thou maist love me to eternitie through the merits of thy sonne Jesus Christ my Lord and blessed Saviour AMEN CHAP. XVII § 1. Of love to our selves of the kindes thereof § 2. Of Love to our
the Lord see it and it displease him David mourned when his enemies were sick There are that can please themselves in that Pseudocharity which displeaseth God which is indeed but conspiracy in evill 10. Lastly it beleeveth and hopeth all things it is hard to possesse it of any evill opinion and in case of evident failings it will give men some hope of the offenders amendment We are next to consider love as it falleth under the peculiarity of friendship The bond of charity uniteth all but friendship some few 1. True friendship among men is loves 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 flower and vigour affections jewell amities quintessence societies perfection and sympathy of holy soules it is a mutuall love good will betweene two or more endeavouring each others good and safety expressed in performance of all lawfull offices so uniting friends in mutuall communications and similitude of affections as that some have stiled a friend anotherselfe such was betweene Jonathan and David David and Hushai the Archite a friend is he who loveth and is beloved The Philosopher said friendship is of all things divine and humane a supreame consent in love and good will next after wisedome the chiefe gift of God to man said the Oratour it is the rich mans security the poore mans riches the banished mans native soile the inâ—irme mans strength Physicke for the sick counsaile for the irresolute and doubtfull prosperities counseller and adversities comforter the solace of company reliefe of solitude the bond of society and life of life a friend is a jewell long sought rarely found hardly kept there is no pleasant possession of any thing without a partner The best most pleasant commodious and secure possession of all the earth was Paradise and yet there God who best knew man said it is not good that the man should be alone Gen 2. 18. man then in his happy innocency Wisdome is beyond all earthly goods but what were it to me more then a burden if I should receave it on this condition that I could not communicate it but must for ever keepe it shut up in mine owne minde I would not be troubled with that good which none might share with me I would not bee in heaven alone heaven it selfe is happy for its company the most blessed being which made heaven and earth subsisteth in an incomprehensible society which said in the beginning let us make man in our image after our likenesse who made him a sociable creature insomuch as that without friends all thoughts are tedious every worke a toile every land a peregrination every life a torment a death Friendship is a divine content of men the necessitie of whose neere conjunction and indissoluble unity that God might declare he made all of one flesh and appointed their propagation by united two Friendship is the comfort of this life if you take it away you should seeme to take the sun from heaven a friend is an excellent riches what were all the treasures in the world to me if there were none with whom I might communicate them Nothing doth countervaile a faithfull freind and his excellency is unvalewable I wonder not at the rate which the great Monarch Darius set on his Zopyrus whose free wish could pitch upon nothing in the world like many such friends Many and excellent are the fruits of freindship as some have noted for the easing and unlading our mindes multiplying our joyes extenuation of sorrowes by that sympathy of affections which is among true friends sharing in every estate Our prosperity is the more comfortable to us by how much more it is communicable to freinds who rejoyce in our good as we also doe in their rejoycing our adversity is made lighter by dividing the burden We ease our hearts when wee impart our griefe to a faithfull and prudent freind of whom wee may receive counsaile and assistance the advantage hereof our Saviour intimated to his Disciples when to comfort them against the sad apprehension of his approaching passion hee said I have called you freinds besides or above that love wherewith he loved all his he had some more peculiar relation among the elect to his Disciples and among them to a favorite or more intimate freind the beloved disciple Ointment and perfume rejoyce the heart so doth the sweetnesse of a mans freind by hearty counsaile saith Salomon a faithfull freind is a strong defence he that hath found such a one hath found a treasure better are two then one if they fall one will lift up the other but woe to him that is alone By a true freind wee are solaced in presence and comforted in absence no distance of place separateth the mind which loves our thoughts are with our absent freinds and therâ—in wee confer with them they are the joy of our health and comfort of our sicknesse me think's said the Philosopher I dye not while I leave them safe I live by them though not with them 2. Now because on the one side the best things corrupted become worst and the most dangerous vailes of treachery are shewes of love and freindship because there is no comfort of this present life which Satan more endeavoureth to poison and embitter then this while envying us the blessing he striveth to pervert and make it a curse by impropriating and abusing it to his own service in working his designe thereby making man a tempter and deputie-devill to man in those things which he could never effect but under the shewes and sacred name of friendship it behoveth us to beware of the serpent which lurketh under the sweet flowers And because on the other part if suspect of all men or neglect of seeking or gaining it deprive us of so admirable an advantage as is herein to be enjoyed wee thereby loose the comfort of this life of which without the use of friendship we may not only doubt whether it be humane but whether vitall he lives not who lives only to himselfe or but a brutish life onely acquaintance and familiarity with some without tasting the diviner fruits of freindship rendreth the Churlish Nabals no better then beasts which seeme affected with something analogicall to amitie in that after familiarity and much using together they will hardly obey their masters will to part them it behooveth us therefore seriously to consider what is herein to be done that we may neither loose nor abuse so great a blessing of God for want of providence to finde it or wisedome to use it that we may neither be deprived of the good nor deceaved by the evill that which is necessarily to be considered is 1. What is the centre of this friendship least wee erre in the proposition of the ende 2. What are the Lawes thereof least we abuse it or be abused by it 3. What choice we ought to make of freinds 4.
the opinion of the unwise wicked doe but consider that wise men looke most to the end that they have rightly proposed to themselves which if they attaine their worke is done whether by force or counsell they passe not they looke to the end through just meanes Suppose thine end is to overcome thine enemie if thou mightest make free choice of the meanes tell me wouldst thou overcome him by good or evill by vertue or violence by excelling him in goodnesse or equalling him in evill 'T is an epidemick madnesse to thinke there is no victory but in violence and requiting evill with evill becomming as damnable as their enemies 9. Lastly resolve that every injurie shall better thee doth thine enemie hurt thee Let it occasion thee to pray for him aud to enter into a serious examination of thine owne heart whether thou hast not injured him or some other upon discovery of injury done by thee repent and give satisfaction that God may give thee thy quietus est so will hee in his good time judge for thee ever looke to the hand that smiteth thee Assyria is but the rod of Gods anger God raised up enemies to Solomon It may be that God bad Sheimei curse be not like the foolish dog to bite the stone cast at him but looke to the cause which being removed the effect shall cease There are who bend their tongues to shoot out bitter words which God permitteth to admonish his servants of some unrepented sinnes which being discovered and repented of they proove ike Jonathans arrowes shott to warne not to wound Thy friends may possibly not see or seeing dissemble thy faults marke well what thine enemies say of thee let their vigilant malice apt to accuse thee make thee more carefully watch over thy waies least thy failings advantage them or give them just occasions of reviling thee and as Theseus is said to have cut off his comely lockes least his enemies should finde advantage by catching hold of them so doe thou all occasions of calumny how many men haâ—â— perished in their sinnes unseene had not the malice of enemies awaked admonished them And like Jason Phereus enemy cured them by wounding them Selfe-love is ever blinde and true friendship sometimes but malice hath a thousand eyes this Serpent is quick sighted to find out others faults seeing I cannot but be faulty and would not be so I had rather want many acquaintance then some enemies who may amend mee though for ill will I owe much to many good friends for other offices but most to mine enimies for this who yet through Gods mercy never hurt me but to the greater advantage of my soule I hope they who never could never shall A Prayer for Love and Charity O Lord God of mercy and compassion we humbly acknowledge that so many continuall have our rebellions been against thee that we deserve thine anger and that thoâ—â— shouldst arme all the hoste of heaven and the creatures under heaven against us but we humbly pray thee to pardon us for Jesus Christ his sake give us hearts to repent before the consummation of thy feirce wrath the day of thine anger come upon us to agree with our adversary quickly while we are yet in the way to seeke righteousnesse that we may be hid in the day of thine anger Lord our hope is in thee make us not a reproach to them that hate us withold not thy tender mercy from us let thy loving kindnesse and thy truth preserve us Thou who art the God of love and unity set thine own image again upon us and as thou hast loved redeemed us in the son of thy love Christ Jesus so give us hearts to love one another that thereby all men may knowe that we are his Disciples Lord deliver us not to the will of our enemies and oppressours but forgive us all that wherein we have any waies injured or justly offended our brethren make our waies so pleasing in thy sight that thou maist bee pleased to make our enemies at peace with us Turne their hearts and mischievous intentions as thou didst revengefull Esau's give them a true sight and sorrow for their sinnes that they may repent and bee saved Prevent and divert their malice that it may not proceed further to hurt themselves or us restraine the tempter that he may no more be able to set variance and his owne bitter influence malice and enmity between those whom thoâ— hast united by their adoption in Christ Thou hast promised the blessing on brethren who live together in unity give us that spirit that we may hold the sacred band thereof in peace that we may not bring a scandall on thy truth that our prayers be not hindred that our soules may be delivered from the snares of death in which the malitious are holden that we may all meet cheerefully before thy tribunall in the holy communion of Saints and blessed unity of the body of Christ to whom with thee O Father of love God of peace and the holy Ghost the comforter be rendred all honour glory praise and dominion in heaven and earth for ever and ever AMEN CHAP. XVIII § 1. Of the soule faculties thereof affections minde and thoughts in generall § 2. Of the corruptions of the heart the danger and difficultie of the cure § 3. Of the necessitie of right ordering our thoughts § 4. Rules of practice 1 THere are many things of whose being we know whose quality we knowe not all confesse wee have a soule which commandeth and restraineth in us what a one it is none can tell hence are those many disputes about its essence seat and subject with the subordinate faculties of it no man hath throughly beene acquainted with this secret governour in man some have defined it an harmonie some a divine vertue a particle of the deity some the most exile slender aire some a blood some heat or fire some number so innate is errour that we most erre concerning our owne selves more rightly doe they say who call it an immortall spirit an incorporeall substance created by infusion and infused in its creation made to the image of the Creatour capable of the light of understanding wisdome holinesse blessednesse and eternity so that in its conjunction with the body it ammateth giveth life action and motion wherein it differeth from an Angell and in its separation from the body for a time untill it shall be reunited in the resurrection it subsisteth as doe the Angells and then hath its proper acts and apprehensions as they Now as the eye seeth the eye in a glasâ—e so the soule knoweth it selfe by a kinde of â—reflex The soule is a divine ghest sent from heaven into these earthly Tabernacles to give them life and governe them yet is it neither seene comming nor departing it is an immortall forme of moâ—tall man the body decayeth the soule doth not being
untill that Jonah be cast overboord we can never appease the surges of a troubled mind this must thou seek through hearty sorrow for thy sinnes this restringent acrimonie shall heale the fountaines that death and barrennesse may no more flow from the minde into thy words and actions t is a good signe of recovery when the disease changeth place so when we are pleased with repentance who woont to please our selves in sinne t is a token that sin declineth in us Secondly by committing thy workes unto the Lord so thy thoughts shall be established and lastly by filling thy soule with such happy thoughts as constant meditation on Gods word will furnish thee with as t is said let thy minde be upon the ordinances of the Lord and meditate continually on his commandements he shall establish thine heart and give thee wisdome at thine own desire 8 Overcome thyne own minde and in every thing as much as possibly thou canst subject it to right reason let not affection or passion master it 9 Set thy minde ever upon some good to prevent the rising of evill thoughts that the tempter may never finde thee at leisure to entertaine him The minde is naturally active and prone to thoughts yea when thou sleepest it hath its motions give it some businesse it cannot be inactive as the earth neglected for want of culture bringeth forth noisome weeds so will the minde evill and vaine extravagancies of thoughts if thou busie it not in good yea the light of reason is eclypsed by the mischievous interposition of vitious thoughts yet tyre not thy minde with too much or too weighty affaires proportion thy undertakings to thy strength the minde requireth some intermissions and rest which otherwise like the fields with perpetuall bearing will grow fruitlesse the unbalasted ship is easily overset with every gust of winde and too much loading sinketh her There is an Arke of Gods secret counsell into which thy thoughts may not looke there are also admirable mysteries out of which God calleth as out of that â—iery bush come not nigh hither put off thy shooes from off thy feet resigne thy thoughts to Gods immensity it is enough to beleeve his truth though thou canst not examine his incomprehensible secrets if thou wilt play with these flames thou shalt burn thy wings God hath revealed enough to make thee happy ambition of knowing more destroyed mankinde Commune with thine owne heart concerning that which may better thee Psal. 77. 6. and make thee happy divine soliloquies are a kinde of rapt to heaven and prepossession of that blessednesse use thy heart to thinke of good and heavenly things and such will thy thoughts words and actions be the heart of the wise teacheth his mouth Custome is a second nature therefore also the wiseman saith Wisedome resteth in the heart of him that hath understanding if the wicked the worst of fooles have any notion thereof it no more resteth with him then lightning in the aire 10 Set God ever beforâ—â—â—ee as a searcher of hearts and that which thou wouldeâ—t be ashamed to speake before others be ashamed to thinke with thy selfe Thoughts are the word of the heart which God heareth who therefore saith wherefore thinke yee evill in your hearts And curse not the King no not in thy thought bee thou pure in heart if ever thou meanest to see God let not thy heart dissent from thy tongue neither desire to seeme more holy then there thou art if thou intend to please him for he is omniscient 11. Pray the Lord to create a cleane heart and to renew a right spirit within thee to encline thy heart unto his testimonies to give thee an heart to know him to prepare thy heart that thou maist truely feare him meditate on him and love him above all and that he who cast out the tumultuous rabble from Jairus house would also be pleased to cast out of thy soule and mynde all those thoughts which offend him or hinder the riasing up thy soule to the life of grace CHAP. XIX Of the thoughts and ordering thereof § 1. Concerning the right ordering the thoughts in respect of some particular passions affections and perturbations of mind in their distempers of love and delight § 2. Of joy reioycing myrth and sorrow § 3. Of 〈◊〉 hatred malice envy § 4. Of impatience patience discontent and a contented mind FOR the right ordering the thoughts arising from some particular affâ—ctions or passions which usually discompose and render the mind lesse apt for the service of God and lesse comfortable to our selves we must ever have in mind the generall rule before laid down that extreame and violent passions of any kind are distempers of the soule which at best befoole a man if not as â—ypâ—crates thinketh make him mad they are like a deluge which rather overflow and drown then refresh the mind they are like an enraged Sea full of hazard they distuâ—be the intellectuals and distract the will look how all things in troubled waters seeme wreathed and disordered which in the still are cleerely seene so is it here the calme afâ—ections are more accommodate for Gods service and our use to come to some paâ—ticulars Love and delight are great 〈◊〉 in this present life every man hath some love and delight there is none that liveth without these The skill is That we set them on right obâ—ects as God Psal. 37. and heavenly things so they cannot fall into excesse and goodnesse so shall they make us good and happy 2. That we pervert not the order we must noâ— love or delight in any thing before God let him be our 〈◊〉 and cheife love and delight and we shall be happy in all that is subordinate 3. That no inferiour love or delight draw as away from Gods love there is a time place and measure for secular delights so far as they are subordinate to God make us more fit for his service and administer occasion and matter of thankfulnesse to him if otherwise if God love us he will take that away from us which else would take us from him a necessary rule for them to consider who too impatiently beare the losse of that they much loved or delighted in 4. That we neither love nor delight in any worldly thing otherwise then to hold it with a loose hand contented to part with it when God pleaseth to take it back again it was Jobs resolution the Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away and blessed be the name of the Lord. Concerning joy rejoycing and mirth the rules are that 1. God would not have us disconsolate but to rejoyce and be cheerfull in him evermore Dedolency melancholy dejectednesse worldly sorrow bitternesse of spirit and secret repining against Gods providence are dangerous symtomes of unbeleefe for if being justified
is before married to some other living person where degrees of consanguinity or affinity hinder where there is no consent of parents where there is no compulsion by violence fear or importune commands of superiors in fine where the marriage is not lawful God joined not and therefore it is no sin for man justly to separate where man unjustly joined 2. Marriage was ordained by God in Paradise in the state of mans innocency wherein hee who best knew his owne work in man and not only what he then was but also what he would be pronounced It is not good that the man should be alone and to shew their neer conjunction hee made the woman of the man that the propagation of all mankinde might be of united two one flesh and the eternal God having taken on him humane nature that being truely God and man he might be the only mediator between God and man honored and adorned marriage with his own sacred presence and first miracle which hee wrought in Cana of Galile how much more necessary now is an helper in the present state of sin and misery wherein the holy Ghost pronounceth it is better to marry then to burn wherein sin hath subjected man to many afflictions and infirmities so that the wisest of meer men said woe to him that is alone 3. The end and fruits of holy matrimony are 1. An holy obedience to God's ordinance who severely chargeth all that have not the gift of continency to observe the lawes of chaste matrimony and thereby to keep themselves undefiled members of Christ's mystical body the Church and not to give the members thereof to an harlot 2. That for the encrease of Christ's kingdome mankinde may be pure legally and orderly propagated 3. That men and women might avoid fornication and the punishments following the same exclusion from the kingdome of God and more varieties of temporal punishments in estate reputation horror of conscience and sundry bodily diseases then are visibly inflicted on any other sinne 4. That man might have a helper in his domesticall affaires bringing up of his children and ordering his family a companion in prosperity and a partner and comforter in affliction 5. That the mutuall love of man and wife might teach us the admirable love of Christ to his Church and his individible unity with her care for her and providence over her In this great mystery not only the Apostle but Solomon in his Song of Songs expresseth Christ's love and the Churches happinesse Concerning the choice to be made I would give my children this counsel 1. In general What ever you doe aime principalâ—y at the honor of God and study to please him in your choice which rule when too many neglect their principall care being to please their carnal parents or themselves by some great portion or estate honour and gaine of powerfull allies beauty qualities and amiable features of those with whom they match not caring how God is pleased or displeased his fearfull judgments follow them so as that which they chose for their delight and comfort proveth their most bitter affliction and the ruine of their family be sure therefore to consult the Lord in thy choice desiring that he would guide thee as in all thy affaires and interests spiritual and secular so specially in this of these the greatest and that which shall render thee either most happy or unhappy therein advise with his oracles for thy direction which in the precept command thee to obey thy parents in all things and to have their consent and in the example of the holy not to engage thy selfe without their consent who will be faithfull counsellâ—rs to thee and have much more experience of the world then thou canst have 2. In particular as the same word saith Be not unequally yoked together with unbeleevers for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrightcousnesse what communion hath light with darknesse what part hath hee that beleeveth with an Infidel what agreement hath the temple of God with Idols In such an unhallowed union they cannot with the same minde and spirit serve God together in praiers and holy exercises of religion nor be united in holy peace who are not in God nor bring up their children with mutual care in the feare of God nor can the many bitter dissentions hence arising be avoided nor the calamities which usually follow such divisions God having so expresly forbidden such marriages See Exod. 34. 1 2. Deut. 7. 3. Gen. 6. 1 2. 1 King 16. 31. 1 King 21. 25. 2 King 8. 18 27. 2 King 11. 1. 2 Chron. 22. 10. I may conclude of such as Sampson's father and mother said Is there never a woman among the daughters of thy brethren or among all my people that thou goest to take a wife of the uncircumcised Philistines 3. Reason will advise thee not to be ambitious of matching in a family or to a person too unequall in fortunes or condition if thou marry too low thou callest thy judgment or integrity into a difficult question if too high thou hast taken up an honorable burden the equal yoke is best 4. Choose neither for nor without an estate and such a beauty as may please thee riches and beauty are very considerable to him that would live and love but vertue is incomparably better then both it is hard to feed a poore wife or to endure the usual insolencies of the rich to love the ill-favoured or to be secure of the beautiful 't is a misery wilfully incurred for wealths sake to condemne ones self to a loathed bed and it is an undoubted madnesse to aspire to the enjoying that beauty wherewith chastity seldom dwelleth which may please many and displease and make thee unhappy God hath shewed his admirable power and wisedom as in all the creatures so in the countenances of men and women in that within little more then the compasse of an hands breadth he hath made such variety as that among millions of millions there are none either much unlike or absolutely like in all lineaments yet had hee not made as much or more variety in the mindes and affections some one beauty for proportion colour feature and genius must have been the adored and therein unhappy Helâ—na the Cynosure of most mens loves the admired piece of nature and breeding the load-stone drawing all affection into a turbulent and restlesse center of corrival-ship but his providence is also seen in the variety of love and liking some like the black as to them most beautiful therefore the Moors made their Gods black and flat-nosed and the Barbarians made theirs yellow both shewing what they esteemed beauty for seeing their complexion proportion and lineaments were in their power who made that which they would foolishly and did impiously adore no doubt they would strive to give them the greatest perfections of beauty and lovely proportion as the
the Woman was of the man without paine because innocent but now the man is of the woman with her sorrow because she hath sinned a sorrow so intense and embittered with feare and anguish that the Holy Ghost hereby expresseth the condition of the fainting afflicted and dejected spirit in sodaine feares of the affrighted conscience expecting an inevitable judgement The hower of birth and death the entrance and exit of this World being solely in Gods hand and secret counsaile none else knowing the time nor being able to dispose thereof reason more then apparent urgeth the necessity of addresse to him 2. Some are the sepulchers of their Children gone out of ere they came into this World exiled before they saw a native soile advanced from a short imprisonment in the wombe to the glorious liberty of the sonnes of God to the blessed Kingdome of Heaven before they touched this cursebearing earth some see their Benoni and thence have passage into eternall life where the sentence of death began some live to tast their sorrowes allay in â—he sweetest temper of divine mercy with justice becoming rejoycing mothers all is disposed by the all-guiding providence and unlessened power of Gods word who at the beginning but spake and it was done It hath much troubled some to think why if our sinnes be pardoned in Christ are not the punishments thereof also taken away as here why the elect and reprobate the chast matron and filthy adultresse should in this sentence share and suffer alike for satisfaction herein let the servant of God considerâ— 1. That whereas all sinne though not in the same kinde measure or degrees there remaining the same cause there must remaine the same effect in all that bring forth 2. This life is the stadium or race which we have through the variable distractions and tryalls of seducing pleasures and dejecting paines so to runne that we may obtaine here all are a like the Wheat and the tares must grow up togeather unto the harvest the difference shall appeare in the binding up which shall sufficiently crowne or punish 3. Gods finall sentence is adjourned to the Worlds great Assizes the day in which he hath appointed to judge in righteousnesse if he should by present rewards or punishments distinguish between good and evill the matter of Religion would seem acted by selfe-love feare awing and gaine alluring servile mindes to secure and serve themselves not God rather then the love of God which is the summe and ground of all true obedience nor should men according to the mercifull ordinance of God live by Faith but sense the lives of beasts rather then of men they are drawn to obsequie by rewards held out to them or compelled to duty by stripes but these by Faith in the promises of God even when there appeareth in things externall no difference between the wicked and the just nor indeed should God otherwise leave a due place for faiths reward which is not slitely tryed by our present sharing in secular evills with the wicked nor so just and great a punishment of sinne by permitting the disobedient to runne on in their own wayes storing up wrath against the day of wrath and greatning their own damnation 4. Though there is much difference in the issue between the temporall afflictions common to elect and reprobate they being the beginning of destruction to these and a fatherly correction to the other that they might not be condemned with the World yet he continueth them to his dearest children in this life that they may make them throughly sensible of the odiousnesse of sinne by the bitter effects thereof of Gods immutable and inviolable justice the same now which it was when this dolefull sentence was first pronounced of the corrupted state of mans depraved nature conceived in sinne and therefore comming into living in and going out of the World with sorrow and lastly of the necessity of our repaire by faith and continuall renewing our repentance 5. As all other afflictions are not only mitigated but made good to the Saints and coâ—perative for the best to them that love God so is this for through this temporall Childbearing they shall be saved if they continue in Faith and Charity with holinesse and sobriety and in the mean time they are not without their peculiar comforts 1. Our Saviour noted it So soon as she is delivered of the child she remembreth no more the anguish for joy that a man is borne into the World Doubtlesse as it was and is an affliction to be childlesse so it cannot but be a comfort to her that by an holy progeny encreaseth the Kingdome of God to be her Husbands blessing a fruitfull Vine upon the walls of his house God promising the fruit of the wombe and the sweet Olive branches round about the table for a blessing to them that feare him and walke in his waies 2. It must be a comfort to consider how God not only in Christ in whom male and female have equall interest hath taken off the curse from this sexe made coe-heires with us of the same grace but also the dishonour and bitternesse of their sentence by some peculiar favours and consolations as first that he sent forth his Sonne made of a Woman without man so that he made her mother of Christ according to the flesh that shee might by the power of the most high conceive her Saviour that as shee was the unhappy doore to let in sorrowes and paines deaths terrible harbingers and destruction on all her posterity so she might be to let in Christ the peace happinesse redeemer and life of all the elect Secondly that God made her seed to break the serpents head 3. That he made a Woman the first witnesse of the accomplishment thereof in his resurrection from the dead that the sexe that first heard and felt the sentence on sinne should first see and beleeve the ransome of our sinne there accomplished where death was absolutely vanquished 3. In the sweet object of their affection they most tenderly love who suffer the most bitter sorrow for Children God sometimes expresseth the constancy of his love by a mothers can a Mother forget could a greater among the children of men have been found his infinite love and compassion towards man should have been weighed by it 4. In their Husbands greater love as Leah said now therefore my Husband will love me none but the unnaturall but will have compassion and the more tender love to her by whose sorrowes God hath made him glad by the comfort of deare Children pledges of his posterity 5. In their Childrens love and duty who forsake not the law of their mother as fooles who are their living sorrowes onely the wicked forget their Mothers paines and care for them the ravens of the vallies are too milde executioners for them who despise their Mother when shee is old who looketh
to the people in scorne and diâ—ision the chiefe Priests and Officers lead the peoples suffrages ringing out their crucify him crucify him Pilat startled as by his dreaming wives admonition so more at their mentioning his being the sonne of God goeth againe into the Pretory reexamineth him seekâ—s to deliver him yet for feare of complaint to Caesar so powerfull an adversary to good conscience is the love of this world against his often acquitting him as innocent he once for all condemneth him us guilty and delivereth him to the popular rage to crucifie him 8 They lead him away bearing his Crosse to Golgatha the place of skulls called also Calvarie where some thinke Adam was buried but others are of a contrary judgement One thing is certaine it was the area damnatorum and place of execution and it is most likely that Gods providence so disposed that he should there be crucified as there to set up the Trophe of his victory on the Crosse in that where sinne and the punishment thereof had abounded in the execution of notorious malefactors grace should manifest it selfe in his suffering there and that most ignominious kinde of death so also that he might take away the curse from the elect so suffering and that it might be fulfilled which was spoken by the Prophet he made his grave with the wicked and was counted with transgressours Isai 53. 9 12. this place was without the city having a resemblance of that which was to come that is that the maine benefit of his passion was not to be shut up in Jerusalem but to be derived also to the Gentiles who were without so he suffered in the place of sinners that it might import his suffering for sinners other moralls the Apostle openeth as to teach us to goe out of our carnall affections and love of the world to Christ and so he shewed himselfe the only satisfactory sacrifice prefigured in all the legall sacrifices whose bodies were burnt without the gates of Jerusalem Here they crucified him betweene two theeves the one converting the other dying in his obstinacy having so done they parted his garments among them and cast lots for his seamelesse coat thus was fulfilled that of the Psal 22. 18. Jesus commended his mother to John thirsting they gave him vinegre to drinke as was also foretold Psal 69. 21. having received that he said it is finished that is all the types have their meaning accomplished and the justice of God is satisfied so bowing his head he gave up the ghost 9 The certainty of his death appeared when the â—ouldiers comming to breake the leggs of the other two finding him already dead they spared him that the Scripture might be fulfilled which saith a bone of him shall not be broken but pierced his side with a speare so that blood and water came out At this time the Sunne was darkned so fearefully that some are said to have concluded that either the Godhead suffered or sympathized with that which did so The vaile of the Temple rent to shew the way into the holiest made manifest and that the stop or middle wall of partition betweene Jewes and Gentiles is taken away The stones clave in sunder the graves opened the earth trembled And after his resurrection many of the dead Saints arose and were seene in the holy city to shew that in his death death was conquered and that the vertue of his resurrection should shortly after declare it selfe in the Saints rising from the death of sinne The Centurian seeing this acknowledged him the Sonne of God the multitude smote their breasts and returned home 10 Joseph of Arimathea begg's the body of Jesus takes it from the Crosse he and Nicodemus imbalme it put it into linnen cloaths with the spices and bury it in a new Sepulcher in a garden nigh the place the providence of God thus disposing to convince their malitious cavills who might pretend that either his resurrection was caused by the vertue of some other servant of God there formerly buried as one was at the touch of Elisha's bones or that it was some other rose againe not Jesus He was buried according to the Scriptures 1. Cor 15. 4. Psal 16. 10. thou wilt not leave my life in grave There were many witnesses thereof Joseph Nicodemus the women the Centurian with his band the Jewes sealing the tombe Thus he descended to the lowest step of his humiliation that he might follow death into the heart of his dominion and conquer him in his imperiall seat destroying as it were with his own sword the Goliah who had the power of death as it is written O death I will be thy plagues O grave I will be thy destruction that he might sanctifie our house of rest taking away the horrour of the grave the curse of death being abolished and the dead loosed from their bonds as shall appeare in the appointed houre We are next to beleeve the first degree of Christ's exaltation in that he rose againe from the dead the third day according to the Scriptures 1. Cor 15. 4 reckning the later part of the first day the second entire and the beginning of the third So Christ told his Disciples that he must goe to Jerusalem suffer many things of the Elders and be killed and raised againe the third day this was so publikely knowne before his death that his enemies remembred and spake of it so that this was the reason why they sealed up and set a guard upon the Sepulchre God so disposing that they should be made witnesses of the truth thereof who most opposed it which had they not beene they might with lesse impudency have said his Disciples came by night and stole him away The Angell testifying his resurrection referreth them to that he had told them before the type also agreeth as Jonas was three daies and three nights in the Whales belly so shall the Sonne of man be three daies and three nights in the heart of the earth so long he would lye in grave to manifest the truth of his death but no longer because he was not to see corruption and least the faith of his Disciples should by a longer delay have beene in hazard and lastly to fulfill his word concerning the same for the confirmation of our faith seeing his word concerning his own death and resurrection came truely to passe why should we doubt of the same word concerning our resurrection In this three daies the Deity was the middle band betweene the body and the humane soule that it might see corruption proper to sinners as before the humane soule was betweene the Deity and body in all he became a pledg of our incorruption and immortalitie in the life to come to consirme us herein he manifested himselfe to many after his resurrection by the space of forty daies See 1. Cor 15. 5.
neighbour the necessitie and excellency thereof the conditions and signes of it § 3. Of friendship what it is of what excellent fruits of the true end and lawes thereof what choice we are to make of friends and whom to avoid § 4. Of love to enimies how we ought to love without any malice and to make a right use of them 1 LOve towards that which God loveth is love of all that which is good and that which beareth his image as the rationable creatures Angells and men this is either to our selves neighbours or enemies 2. Love to our selves either is such as is 1. Common to all men who by the instinct of nature desire to preserve themselves though blinded by sinne they eftsoone mistake the meanes and end or overmastered by some malignant power to which they have dangerously yeelded themselves they doe somethings to the contraâ—y the Epicure thinketh the meanes to make him happy is to indulge to sensuality and pleasures taken up at any rate because hee taketh them to be his chiefe good and end to which hee liveth he beleeveth himselfe to be only that externall man whom hee endeavoureth to preserve by a brutish pleasing himselfe so that indeed he loveth not himselfe 2. Proper to the good who justly love the inward man the image of God in themselves whom they strive to preserve in his integrity they wish spirituall good to him carefully use Gods ordinances thereto in him they delight as in present good thoughts memory of good past and hope of future for this they mainely care this they defend though with losse of things externall and secular for this they beat downe the body with fastings watchings and prosecution of holy duties Philautiâ— proper to evill men is that blind foolish self-selfe-love which measureth all love and friendship by that most ignoble scale of the vulgar some temporall advantage to the selfe-lover a crewing who therefore truely loveth no man because neither in nor for God but for his owne sake such doe not truly love themselves but being selfe-deluded hate their owne soules because they love sinne the souls distemper sicknesse and destruction this commonly goeth with a vaine complacency admiring the Minerva's of their own braine and liking themselves in those things which they readily condemne in others as Judah did Gen 38. 24. the selfe-lovers hieroglyphick may be the Ape easily taken while shee sitteth admiring the beauty of her hard-favoured young this vice is an uncharitable living to our selves our own ease and pleasures as if we were borne only for our selves or that our country neighbours friends naturall affections or God himselfe had no part in us so Nabal loved himselfe That wee must love our selves in God is more then evident by reason who so neere us as our selves and Scripture which saith thou shalt love thy neighbour as thy selfe thy selfe first charity beginneth at home and truely that thy love may be a rule and measure unto others He that will be evill to himselfe to whom will he be good Thou wouldest not have thy servant drunken nor thy son an adulterer least they perish eternally and wilt thou be such thy selfe For shame love not thy selfe lesse then others and doe not thinke it lesse necessary for God to have good servants then that thy selfe have such We are the Temples of Gods spirit the image of God the purchase of Christ Jesus for whom hee gave no lesse then himselfe to death it were desperate impietie to undervallew that which cost more then a thousand worlds were worth with profane Esau to set so poore a rate as a portion of meat or a little temporall pleasure upon an immortall soule if we love God wee shall love our selves for him which must be only in that true sanctity which pleaseth him we shall not love our selves more then him that were an inordinate selfe love concerning which it is saied he that loveth his life shall loose it 1. Love to our neighbour is charity to him that needeth our helpe to whom we are holily and constantly united in God he is our neighbour to whom we can administer or of whoÌ„ we may receive help This love hath for its object all men respectively without exception of enemies neither is it as some vainly dreame an arbitrary affection for if we love God is in us but if not against us but that which is simply necessary to the essence and being of true religion without which it can no more be then fire without heat then a man without a soule some therefore call it the forme of vertue giving it name and being There can be no religion without wisedome nor any acts thereof better then the unsavoury sacrifice of fooles with which the all-wise God can never be pleased wisdome is that same salt of the covenant with which every oblation must be seasoned nor can there be any more true wisdome without charity then that which is in the devill who is as malicious as subtile if any thing be contrary to love that wisdome descendeth not from above but is earthly sensuall and devillish without charity speaking with tongues of men or angells is but as a sounding brasse and tinkling cymball prophesie faith almes martyrdome and whatever els seemeth or is externally excellent without this is worth nothing there can be no sanctimony without love Love is the summe and fullfilling of the law the end of the commandement and nothing is good which is not for it end but rather a false image a counterfet of vertue as the covetous mans wisdome to devise meanes of gaine is noe true vertue neither his seeming justice wherein he absteineth from oppression and extortion for feare of some greater losse to himselfe nor his temperance for love of mony forbearing all costly luxury nor his valour venturing sea and land to gett riches so neither is the malicious mans almes any good worke to himselfe he not doing it for Gods sake did he then for the same love he should love his enemies also his prayers are no obedience to God who commandeth in case of enmity to leave the gift before the altar and first endeavour reconciliation Christ in effect saieth as we have formerly noted herein as Joseph to his brethren Genes 43. 3. yee shall not see my face except your brother be with you let men joyne in heareing Gods word and say Amen at the Churches prayers let them be baptized receive the Lords supper be called Christians seeme the most strict men in religion yet is it only charity which distinguisheth between the sons of God reprobates in this the children of God are manifest the children of the devill whosoever doth not righteousnes is not of God neither he that loveth not his brother nor can there be love of God without it if any man say he loves God
hateth his brother he is a lyar there can be noe salvation without it it beeing as I said the life of faith Love like the heart in the body sendeth out the heate of life through all the parts to make them active it is the primum mobile which carrieth about all the orb's in the speare of religion This affection hath comfortable effects it is the preserver of peace concord while it prudently concealeth many offences bringing them under candid and favourable interpretations and the best constructious which can be made of them which otherwise might prooue the fuell of contention and matter of quarrell it is sins coverture the tessera and certaine pledge of our translation from death to life 1. Joh. 3. 14. of our imitation of Christ. Joh. 15. 12. Ephes. 5. 2. adoption in him 1. Joh. 3. 1. the assurance of our consciences before him 1. Joh. 3. 19. the confidence of our audience 1. Joh. 3. 22. the bond of perfection Colos. 3. 14. the signe of our regeneration 1. Joh. 4. 7. the fruit of the spirit Gal. 5. 22. the assurance of God his beeing in us 1. Joh. 4. 12. 13. and our beeing in him the repaired image of God in us 1. Joh 4. 17. the expeller of feare 1. Joh. 4. 8. the certaine argument of our love to God 1. Joh. 5. 1. and his love to us 1. Joh. 4. 12. it is the fâ—ire mistris of all good it is the heavenly Bethsheba which can attaine any thing yea life for the dead it shal be part of the saincts accoumpt at the day of judgment Math. 25. 34. 35. 2. This love must be regulated with certaine lawes or conditions 1. It must be subordinate to Gods love such as giveth God the first and cheife place not as Elies who honoured his children aboue God nor as many now love so that they will rather displease God then those they love true charity can be in nothing which displeaseth God 2. it must be subject to order in respect of the object first regarding those who are neerest in nature or necessitude I am bound to shew what effects of love and charity I can but first to myne owne family respectiuely and to doe good specially to the howsehold of faith first to my neighbours and then to others 3. It must be for Gods sake and in good when wee love for temporall advantages and such mutuall offices as unite worldly men for such reasons as Hamor and Shechem used for enfranchising Jacobs family these men are peaceably with us and therefore let them dwell in the land and trade therein shall not their cattle and their substance and every beast of theirs be ours that cause failing charity vanisheth many times into mischievous contentions by which readinesse to dissolve the sacred bond of Charity for every triviall occasion and the many bitter discords it too evidently appeareth how few love for God's sake how many for their own when holy Abraham had occasion of quarrell presented him hee declined it by reciding from his right let there be no strife I pray thee betweene me and thee 4. It must be without dissimulation Saul jealous of David and afraid of him because of his wisedome and goodnesse as Princes usually are more jealous of the good then the foolish and dissolute ever others vertue is formidable to them he courteth him with great favours but all to destroy him there 's no such venomous malice out of hell as that which commeth up with a Judas kisse vailed with a shew of amity with a Scorpions imbrace the deeper to strike in the sting the Devills profered curtesies the world riches and honours the designe being to cast thee downe headlong and to make thy ruine the more irreparable by thine own consent 5. It must be constant as they woont to say ad aras to death that which can be lost was never true had it beene grounded on the unchangeable God it must ever have had the same immutable cause and consequently have beene unchangeable The signes of charity are 1. Long suffering 't is not captious nor easily provoked it beareth and endureth all things personall injuries cannot disband it if we love men for our owne sakes wee shall indeed hate them when they hurt us but if for Gods sake we shall use brotherly correction so as to make them understand their faults and repaire us againe and where they erre love their persons whose sinnes we ought to hate and pray for them when they curse and speake evill of us 2. It is kinde in communicating to the necessities of those that want they that have no bowels of compassion how dwelleth the love of God in them 3. It envieth not neither is discontented at others prosperity envie is fortunes companion the blacke shadow of honour ambitious kanker mischievously biting into the bud of merit few like Thrasibulus enjoy great glory without envy because few have the happinesse in their honour to be acquainted with godly love which envieth not but rejoyceth at others good 4. It vanteth not it selfe in boasting or exprobration of good done nor in rash effusions but maketh a deliberate choice of its object without being proud of its act 5. It is not puffed up the proud can bee no mans friend no not his owne Pride is unconsistent with any vertues it is as the worme at the root of Jonahs gourd which eateth up the life of vertue and religion the mischiefe which precipitated glorious Angels from heaven 't is amities paralysis societies enemie nurse of impatience which will neither suffer Caesar to endure a superiour nor Pompey an equall 't is the issue of an emptie braine none truely wise can be proud and the influence of Lucifer upon gracelesse hearts whom God resisteth charity is the daughter of humility 6. It behaveth not it selfe unseemly as sin which is an alaxie and disorder in action a deformitie in the inward man but as the most lovely of all vertues bearing the lively image of God the beauty of holinesse stooping to nothing uncomely or unjustifiable before God and man 7. It seeketh not her owne as doth selfe-love but the good of others it being more divine and honourable to doe good then to receive it 8. It thinketh no evill because it intendeth none commonly men measure others by their owne shadowes which is the cause that the worst are most jealous of others charity doth as it would suffer and thinketh the best where there is not apparent evidence of worse 9. It rejoyceth not in evill nor in iniquity there are that would seeme charitable and to have abandoned that pernitious appetite of revenge and yet secretly rejoyce at any evill which befalleth their enimie This is a proper affection of devills not men expresly forbidden Prov 24. 17. 18. Rejoyce not when thine enemie falleth and let not thine heart be glad when he stumbleth lâ—ast
Whom we are therein to avoid 1. The Centre of true freindship and all the offices thereof is the glory of God our maker subordinate to which is our comfort and salvation for therein only can be an happy and eternall union and communion whatsoever is excentric hereto is unhappy no wicked man is blessed 't is impossible to be happy in any thing which is not good because there is but one and the same fountaine of happinesse and goodnesse that is God if any dreame of impious pleasure delude men with some appearance of solid happinesse therein waking they must knowe that 't is not true because transitorie and unhappy in the end Happinesse cannot be in any thing lesse then eternall they that knewe not God would have no man called happy before his end and though some of them called Sylla as Craesus thought himselfe happy in prosperity yet their end pronounced them apparently unhappy and what freindship shall we call that which must end or what happinesse therein taken which must change for bitter torments society in damnation and eternall cursing each other as the mutuall causes of each others misery The freindshippe I speake of is in the communion of Saints which death shall refine not at all dissolve time shall not end it but eternity perfect it in our resurrection from the dead sleepe deaths elder brother endeth not temporall love nor shall deaths sleepe the eternall it is but begunne here to be compleated in heaven Love never falleth away wee knowe that when hee shall appeare Wee shall bee like him 1. Joh 3. 2. Who is love 1. Joh 4 8. There is now some imperfection in and some oblique ends of mens love which shall then absolutely bee taken away in our perfection wherein the love of God in his own essence incomprehensible shall shine and be seene in the creature bearing his own image as the light of the sunne on the other stars where we shall not be confined as now under many limitations of time place knowledge and necessities to the communion with one or few friends but enjoy a most comfortable and perfect societie with all the saints Certainely all knowledge and joy of that which is good in this life shall be so farre from ceasing in the future that it shall be their full which is here but imperfect there compleat which is here but inchoate of this kinde we must reckon friendship God concluding it good in saying it is not good that the man should be alone more perfect knowledge shall we have in our future glory then wee have in our present state of grace or had in the state of innocency in that Peter knew Moses and Elias whom he never saw before as also they who saw divers of the deceased Saints which came out of their graves into the holy city after the resurrection of Christ all which doubtlesse were of a most amiable and desirable presence in the other Adam said when God presented him his new created helper the youngest bride which neither he nor the worlds great eye had ever seene before that day this is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh much more must we knowe and rejoyce in our friends in the state of glorious perfection to come wherein we cannot reasonably imagine that there shall either remaine any imperfection in loves object or subject to embitter it as sometimes it doth here or want any capacity of compleat and eternall blessednesse as there must if either we should not know our dearest friends with whom we have served God and walked with him in this life or knowing not enjoy their glorious and more lovely society in the life to come 2. The lawes of true friendship are 1. That we neither aske nor grant any thing unjust or evill neither of which can be consistent with the friendship I spake of which cannot be in evill Pericles would not lye for his friend's sake contrary to that which some thinke who count that friendship which denieth nothing and that he is no true freind who will not like Achates or Theseus in the fables goe to hell with them for company but consent in sin is conspiracy not friendship he is a good friend who requireth no evill office and he is a wise man who will consent to none true friendship is only betweene the good and wise 2. That we hold nothing too deare for our freinds sake which may be justly desired and granted hee can be no true friend who in self-selfe-love holds a secret distance and hath his reservations against this law of friendship as not onely in case of this worlds goods which if we communicate not with them that want we love not God and therefore can be no true friends to men but even in life it selfe which we must if need be lay downe for the brethren this is to be understood where it is justly desired in either that is where thou maist part with life or goods for a greater good such as is the glory of God or the salvation of soules there are sundry cases wherein neither of these are justly desired or granted a friend requireth thee to venture thy life in a duell for the maintenance of that which he falsely calleth his honour that is not better then thy life therefore not justly required An acquaintance desireth thee to engage thy selfe and thy liberty for his except some other circumstance conclude it the law of frendship bindeth thee not where thou canst not more advantage thy friend then hurt thy selfe Againe it may be thou art not absolutely thine own but thy wife children or parents have in their necessary depâ—ndance on thee a just share in thee so that their interest cannot admit of the engagement or giving to their dammage there thou canst not justly give or engage for no bonds of friendship by thy selfe contracted may hold against that which the law of God and nature have imposed on thee in loving and relieving thy parents children and wife who is thine owne flesh whose rights must ever respectively be saved in all that which the lawes of friendship require 3. Be thou to thy friend such as thou wouldst have him be to thee that is without all fraud faithfull in every trust be thou good and seeke a freind like thy selfe thou wouldst have thy friend faithfull to thee be thou such to him 4. Thinke all accidents of thy friend thine owne so that thou maiest rejoyce with them that rejoyce and weep with them that weepe and endeavour in either state as for thy selfe This sympathy must needs be where there is brotherly affection the prosperity of thy friend shall be thy joy of heart and his affliction as deep a greife 5. Beare no ignomy of thy absent friend without just defence or otherwise then thou would'st or ought'st thine owne I will not be ashamed to defend a friend neither
will I hide my selfe from him 6. Suspect not thy friend unjust suspition overthroweth freindships fundamentall lawes if thou count thy freind faithfull thou shalt thereby make him such Nor is this against the rule of wisedome which bids thee keepe the power of that which may nourish freindship in thine own hand Give not saith the wise man thy sonne and wife thy brother and friend power over thee while thou livest give not thy selfe over unto any Yet no man loveth those whom hee cannot beleeve nor beleeve those he cannot love as hatred and suspect so love and confidence are indivisibly united 7. Be constant to thy freind in every estate prosperous and adverse in presence and absence Thine own friend and thy fathers freind forsake not levity and inconstancy of mind is inconsistent with friendship That the prosperous man may reckon many freinds the afflicted but few sheweth that among many acquaintance there are but very few freinds that many love thy fortune not thee freindship which can change with externall estate was never true a freind loveth at all times and a brother is borne for adversity in prosperity 't is hard to judge whether the person or estate be loved prosperity findeth friends but adversity tryeth them a true friend therefore is neither knowne in prosperity nor hid in adversity Like the starre of a cleare heaven neither seen in the day nor concealed in the darkest shades of night as the wise man saith there is a freind that sticketh closer then a brother a false freind like Jobs brooke in the winter when wee have no need of him overfloweth with tenders of his service and shews of kindnesse but when it is hot they are consumed out of their place the troupes of Tema looked the companies of Sheba waited for them and were ashamed as are they who finde contempt neglect where they looked for the love of a constant freind there are shadowes of freinds which will goe with you in all your actions you cannot shake them off which yet vanish so soone as your prosperitie commeth under the clowd there are some vaine â—iphers whom place only brings to some accompt whose honours so much change their manners that they cannot looke so low as an old freind which concludeth levity weaknesse of minde selfe-love foolish pride and ignorance of the rules of wisdome piety and true honour which knoweth a faithfull compliance in every estate and like the sun to shine with the same unchanged though more perfect light in his exaltation or heigth and in his rising on the mole-banke and on the mountaine on the smooth and on the troubled waters it was a rare piety in Ruth to resolve concerning the afflicted Naomi entreat me not to leave thee for whether thou goest I will goe where thou dyest I will dye and there will I bee buried the Lord doe so to me and more also if ought but death depart thee and mee and it was a patterne of the most noble freindship which was betweene Jonathan and David there was a nexus animarum more then the love of women the soule of Jonathan was knit with the soule of David he loved him as his owne soule which he demonstrated in his constant fidelity to him on all occasions 8. Beare with the seeming injuries which proceed from thy freinds weaknesse considering that we yet converse not with Angells of heaven but imperfect men and that our selves must have the same favour of candid interpretations in many of our actions wherein we may bee misunderstood or possibly besides our intentions hurt our freind 't is wisdome to passe by offences love to cover faults and piety to beare each others burden where all are infirme without this we can hold no amity with men but shal be foolish freinds overcaptioâ—s querulous or like Jobs miserable comforters injuriously bitterly censorious ever finding fault displeased withall of bitter spirits like contentious Ismaël our hand against every man and every mans against us or rugged Nabal living to none but himselfe this vanity of impatience drave that humane monster the times prodigie nature's paradox man-hating man the dogged Timon from the society of men 9. Reveale no secret of thy freind he that is of a faithfull spirit concealeth the matter rehearse not unto another that which is told unto thee if thou hast heard a word let it dy with thee and be told it will not hurt thee a foole travaileth with a word his minde who useth to tell newes is like the breaches in water banks you shall hardly make it hold but who sodiscovereth a secret looseth his credit and shall never finde a freind to his minde love thy freind and be faithfull unto him but if thou bewraiest his secrets follow no more after him a wound may be bound up and after reviling there may bee reconcilement but he that bewraieth secrets is without hope 10. Conceale not thy frends vertues if by speaking thou maist encourage him therein or wherein thou maist laudando praecipere teach him by praising him neither his faults if thou maist by detection amend or better him least thy silence make them thine Thou shalt not hate thy brother in thine heart thou shalt rebuke him and not suffer sinne upon him or that thou beare not sinne for him hee loveth not who had rather venture his freinds soule then his favour in case he should distast a reproofe every one that spareth is not a freind nor every one that smiteth an enemie it is better to love with severitie then to deceive with lenity the wounds of a lover are faithfull but flattery in evill is treason against the soule of thy freind by so much worse then any other but how much greater heaven is then earth eternity then time a wise man will be glad to be reprooved and amended by any and take him to be a freind by whose tongue hee may cleanse the spots of his soule before the appearance of the strict judge A faithfull freind like a true glasse will shew thee to thy selfe as thou art how many men are unhappy only in the want hereof who having in them many excellent parts imitable qualities mixed as 't is with men with some apparent blemishes taking much off from the opinion of their worth were easily mended because wise had they but a prudent frend to discover their failings to them I beleeve hence was the complaint of the Philosopher so frequent in his mouth O freinds there 's none to freind we easily discover others faults but our owne hardly with inconvenience we owe to our native self-selfe-love herein we ought to helpe one another not fearing how that will be taken which is our freinds advantage and our duty Certainly if thou rebuke a wise man hee will love thee for it seeing thy sincerity which if he be not hee is better lost then
neither subject to time nor age the motions thereof are eternall it apprehendeth things present absent past and future it deliberateth formeth directeth discourseth judgeth doubteth concludeth so excellent is it that the Oratour said God hath not given any thing so divine to man and that there are certaine lineaments thereof more beautifull then of the body the body is adorned by the soule without which beauty it selfe becommeth gastly and good Abraham saith give me a possession of a burying place that I may bury my dead out of my sight the soule cannot be deformed by any unevennesse discomposure or disproportion of the body which it animateth as a beautifull feature is the same in a poore cottage and in a magnificent palace so is it in the beauty of the soule which is vertue with which could wee but see the soule of a Saint there 's no embellishment on earth so glorious no created beauty here of so divine a lustre The soule though now shut up in his darke prison having onely some diviner breathings in the rapts and heavenly contemplations which sometimes call it up like Moses to the mount or like a Jacobs ladder landeth it in God's presence hath some knowledge of its originall by grace unspeakable joy in the apprehension thereof which arresteth the desire as appeared in Peter seeing Christ transfigured and Paul wishing to be dissolved it being a great signe of our interest in heaven that wee feare not to part hence he knoweth whether he shall goe who remembreth whence he came but what shall bee the beauty of an holy soule in its separation when it shall be restored to its native heaven when it shall be all light and God shall be all in all Christs raiment on the mount became shining white as snow so as no Fuller on earth could white them Moses face he having talked with God became so glorious that Israel could not behold it without a vaile what shall our glory be when we shall be like Christ 2. The faculties of the soule are the understanding will memory affections and senses internall and externall My purpose being not to enter the lists with Philosophers but to direct Christians I shall not further consider these then as some of them doe very much concerne the practicall part and right ordering the thoughts of the heart and minde to the service of God and our mortification whereby we may be accommodated thereto 3. The heart in scripture often taken for the principall seat of the rationall soule imparteth any faculty hereof the mind is the inward act the result and proceed of its reason and discourse the thoughts as they say animus consilii est anima vitae the minde is the fountaine of counsell the soule of life and againe we understand by the minde and live by the soule This minde of man is sometimes a soveraigne to governe in vertue and sanctimonie it selfe and the body sometimes a tyrant and indulging to vice which like the worme bred in the wood destroyeth its own originall misled by tumultuous passions lusts vaine desires and other perturbations of a discomposed minde which having unthroned reason dangerously usurpe the command a prudent man whose cogitare is his vivere in the light height and use thereof differing him not only from the brutes but ignorant men doth principally enjoy himselfe in his minde and inward man There is indeed in humane possessions nothing great and excellent but a great and good minde contemning externall greatnesse or supposed excellencies as power strength riches beauty obvious to sense in respect of thaâ— which is within apprehensible by the enlightned understanding and certainly the all-wise God wâ—o created the affections ordained them to none but some excellent end use in the soule as handmaides to devotion and religion neither would he in our regeneration kill but correct them by moderating them where they grew extreame and retrenching them into their own channels where they overflow their banks like over ranck water sources becomming muddy and troubled with that which they fetch in from without or reducing them where they arâ— exorbitant All extreames are foolish and dangerous a Stoicall apathie is incompatible with a well composed minde and violent passion with a prudent the dead calme corrupteth aire water and violent blasts disturb them the moderate more safely purify the meane is best Affections are as they said of Caligula there is no better servant nor worse master good commanded mischievous reigning like fire and water there necessary here destructive without love there can be no acceptable service without anger no zeale without feare no coërcive power in the soule without hope no comfort which bringeth us to a necessary consideration of the hearts corruption vanity and exorbitancy of the thoughts and the necessity of their regulation by some rules of practice 1. The Corruptions of the heart are all only evill continually the heart is the fountaine of sinne hence are adulteries murders thefts rapine rebellions all the sinnes of man all iniquitie is here forged as 't is written Isai 32. 6. his heart will worke iniquitie hence words of falshood are conceived and uttered here is the root of war and mischiefe here errour frowardnesse and that hardnesse which excludeth all capacity of hearing and understanding Gods word and judgments that they may repent and be healed is hatched The heart is deceitfull above all things who can knowe it Jer 17. 9. Here lodgeth hypocrisie Jer 3. 10. Here secret sinnes like that unseene multitude which rangeth through the paths of the deeps such is counsell in mans heart Prov 20. 5. Nor is this the condition of some few but the secret corruption of all naturall men nor are the regenerate absolutely freed from these pollutions being yet partly flesh 2. The dangers hereof hence appeare first in that these are the seeds of every sin and fomenters thereof yea that which barreth from remedy faith and repentance Secondly as the Physitians say if there be a fault in the first concoction there will follow the like in the rest so is it here the hearts faults are derived to the tongue and all the actions of man it is a people said the Lord that doe erre in their hearts and they have not knowne my waies As the eye is deceaved through a fals medium so is the minde through the cloude of false opinion and the very thought of foolishnesse is sinne into which they must needs runne who set not their heart aright and whose spirit is not stedfast with God Thirdly God fearcheth the secrets of all hearts and will once make all the thoughts thereof manifest Fourthly hee requireth the heart Prov 23. 26. If a man regard iniquitie there hee cannot be heard Psal 66. 16. The thoughts of the wicked are an abomination to the Lord.
hell cannot overcome me nor make me unhappy if mine own affections betray me not let us therefore next advise how to secure our selves herein For the right composure of minde and thoughts it is very necessary to consider â—irst those rules of practice which concerne the same in generall and then that which appertaineth to some particular passions of the minde 1. Have a care of thy soule as thy greatest interest and that which is incomparably better then all the world and of thy minde which if well composed admirably maketh good or prudently beareth every estate without whose right temper nothing can be good or comfortable what is strength sicknes may anticipate but age must make the strongest bow what beauty Beside that these flowers quickly fade they many times become the snare and destruction of foolish and unhappy owners what are honours Where there wants a mind to manage them those Phaëtons precipitate themselves and set the world on fire What are riches without a minde to use them well but snares and easie waies to hell Truly to a prudent minde which can limit it selfe within the desire of necessaries a litle is enough to an ambitious nothing Alexander had an overgrowne minde when hee was troubled that there was but one world for him to conquer 'T is the minde which maketh truly rich or poore that contented in every estate aboundeth in its owne happinesse discontented can bee blessed in none The way to make one rich is not so much by adding to his estate as by taking from his minde that foolish desire of having superfluity beyond use worldly riches are but a burden to him who hath truly set his affections on heaven where there is nor moth nor theefe nor feare of loosing that which we lay up that which must once be lost beyond our use is nothing worth which consideration possibly made Stilpo answer like a Philosopher who when Demetrius had taken Megera and out of a noble care to give him protection from from plundering asked him if the souldiers had taken ought from him answered no for said hee I saw no man that would take any knowledge or learning from mee The minde is sacred and out of the reach of violent hands So that to make thee happy which is the scope of a prudent desire the way is not to labour so much and disquiet thy selfe in things externall but to compose thy minde aright to get true wisdome and understanding to vallew and make a good use of them thou hast and well ordered affections quietly to beare want or enjoy plenty in which there is not only an admirable skill and strength of minde requisite but also an holy habit no precepts can sodainly make a man practically wise or good which must make us resolve quickly to study this divine Philosophie and truly experience here discovereth a marvelous stupor and incogitancy of most men in any bodily disaffection wee speedily consult the Phisitian but in our soules distempers we not only delay our seeking helpe but are too often impatient of offered remedies that which thou meanest to doe well speedily put in practice 2. Keepe thine heart with all diligence for out of it are the issues of life Many thinke it enough to keep their tongues few come so farre and their hands but it highly concerneth Christians to keepe their hearts from Satan's snares there hee beginneth all his stratagems which afterward breake out into words and actions it is true that baâ—e suggestions without any delight or consent of ours are no more our sinnes then the robbery or murder without our consent or knowledge committed in our field is ours but except wee watch over our thoughts and carefully guard them Satan's mischievous influences will beget a delight consent and yeelding to them therefore the wise man saith let not thine heart decline to her waies goe not astray in her paths 3. Resist the beginnings of sinne in thy thoughts use them roughly at the doore is not the sound of their Masters feet behinde them We must there chiefely marke and extinguish sin where 't is borne and quench the sparkes thereof before they breake out into masterlesse flames we must crush the Cockatrice in the egge before it become a fiery flying Serpent wee neglect not the biting of a serpent but presently seeke remedy to keepe the â—venome from the heart with how much more care and diligence should we looke to the biting of the old Dragon able if a litle neglected to kill body and soule Of evill seeds come evill plants murder from revenge in the heart adultery from lust unextinguished there and God justly punisheth evill intentions though they doe not alwaies breake out into actions 4. Keep a good conscience and be holy the wicked meditate on evill their thoughts are thoughts of iniquity wasting and destruction are in their paths as our actions follow our thoughts so do they leave impressions in them which prove occasions of their further working the thoughts of the righteous are right The wicked care not what they think 5. Love good thoughts and thou shalt be furnished with them as flowers spring out of buds so good desires from holy thoughts we often thinke of that we love and are ambitious of acquaintance therewith love of God will cause thee to loath all thoughts of evill as the approaches of the old malitious serpent to thy heart 6. Fix thoughts on something certaine The heart is a spirituall Labyrinth in whose perplexed turnings we often loose our selves and the best fruits of idle and extravagant fancies are but cogitat ionum quisquiliae ac minutiae As the eyes continually rowling up and down seeing see nothing intentively so the the wandring minde It is a signe of a composed minde if it can stay it selfe a while with it selfe and not run out into those vaine evagations and wandring thoughts whence waking as out of some feverish dreame after much thinking we can give our selves no good accompt what the minde busied it selfe about but that it long thinking we thought of nothing to the purpose The minde is mans most active facultie in a moment with the flight of a thought it mounts from earth to heaven and back againe from age to age from present to future or long past like lightning it moves from east to west vanishing in the appearance It is not a little skill to arrest it so as that we may say with David my heart is fixed O God my heart is fixed without this we can neither heare nor pray otherwise then profane hypocrites provoking Gods anger by drawing neere him with their lips when their hearts are far from thinking on him 7 Seek thy peace with God through faith in Christ the true composure and happy rest of the minde is herein there 's no peace to the wicked no true rest out of Christ sinne is the distemper and unrest of the soule
by faith we have peace of conscience and cheerfull accesse to God through Christ there will be joy in the holy Ghost we shall rejoyce in hope I and glory in our tribulations being confident of a blessed issue thereof 2. Joy and rejoycing in God and things divine and spirituall is secure and happy the end of worldly rejoycing is many times in sodaine and unexpected sorrow such was Belshazzars Feast with a thousand of his Princes within the achme of joy changed into sudaine astonishment at the sight of that dreadfull hand writing his doome upon the Palace Wall secular joy entertaineth deluded men as that old lying Prophet of Bethel did the man of God first feeding then affâ—icting with the sad intimation of ensuing destruction Acquaint thy self with true good that thou maist rejoyce securely They most delight in secular things who least know eternall 3. Let not thy heart be too much carryed away with any secular joy they that are over merry and joyfull in prosperity are too much broken and dejected in adversity for both extreames proceeds from impotency of mind to manage the end and beare the other 4. In every rejoycing look with a thankfull heart on the Lord that gave it and with a prudent on that which may quickly once must certainly take all this merry Scene away tast thy joy as the Israelites did their Passe-over with sowre hearbes and prepared to be gone Let the thought of sorrow season all thy mirth leâ—t a sodaine surprisall astonish and overcome thee foreseene dangers least hurt the wise 5. Keep innocency and a good Conscience these shall comfort thee as Lamech said of his Noah concerning thy labour and sorrow all the dayes of the afflicted are evill but he that is of a merry heart that is a good conscience hath a continuall feast 6. Wicked mirth Sardonick laughter and foolish jesting as they demonstrate much levity so doe they dangerous uncomposednesse vanity and weaknesse of mind in such laughing the heart is sorrowfull and the end of that mirâ—h is heavinesse â— hold this also is vanity saith Solomon The heart of the wise is in the house of mourning but the heart of fooles is in the house of mirth we read of Christ's weeping often never of his laughter 't is a rare government of the mind to be merry and wise wherein a prudent cheerefulnesse commendeth mirth well regulated in an holy thankfull use of that we enjoy as the best of things meerely secular To imitate the austerity of Cato or the sullen Crassus who is said to have laughed but once in his life to be an ever-weeping Heraclite or a Democritus ever laughing is to run into vaine and unsafe extreams of the two teares better become much laughter is a symtome of folly in the heart and forgetfulnesse or ignorance of the state of this changable life and indeed vaine pleasure is the devils hook drawing to destruction the mother of sinne the nurse of the never dying worme and therefore as they say oile killeth the insecta but vinegre restoreth them againe so joy and pleasure destroy incautious sinners whom sharp afflictions bring to themselves againe â—o that they doe at last understand that it is good for them that they have been in trouble and healing sorrow 7. Never make another mans sorrow thy joy this is odious to God who reqâ—ireth holy sympathy in his sonnes and seldome escapeth suâ—h revenge as pointeth out the sinne 8. It is a point of wisdome to mark thy joy it is an excellent gage of thy heart otherwise very deceitfull an â—â—ard to be known if thou reâ—oyce in evill certainly thy heart is such if in good then a secret power and spirit of sanctiâ—y ruleth there Look how thâ— things of Musicall Instruments untouched doe move and sound at the striking of other like strings sounding true unison with them so doe the heart-strings at that externall thing with which it inwardly consenteth the carnall heart rejoyceth at the obscenity which vexeth the righteous Lot the holy are cheerfull and rejoyee like the wise Merchant when they finde the treasure of Godâ— inestimable mercy opened to them in the Gospell and goe away thence rejoycing with that happy Converâ— Act. 8. 39. while he that hath no interest therein 〈◊〉 numbring the minutes thinks every Sermon long goeth away either aâ— Ahab with indignation or with the â— Young rich man with sorrow 9. In sorrowes are also dangerous perturbations of the mind and there is as much use of prudent rules herein as of a â—â—der in the sorme thereof 1. In every sorrow search in thy heart for the cause werefore is the living man sorrowfull man suffereth for his sinne Let us search â—nd by our wayes and turnâ— againe unto the â—ord it is vaine to seek any case of sorrowes without this all other lenitives are as draughts of cold water in a Hectick â—itt more enflaming like Davids Harpe to a moody Saul the vexing spirit returneth 〈◊〉 greater violence 2. Set thy sorrow on a right object that is sinne it is 〈◊〉 common errour and danger of secular men they can be sorry for the losse which indeed cannot hurt them but delighted in sinne which wounded the soule and maketh them unhappy We many times greive for that at which we should rejoyce herâ—in consider first the word of God which saith all things work together for good unto them that love God and whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth Secondly consider the work of God chastening it bringeth the quiet fruit of righteousnesse unto them which are thereâ—y exercised we are impatient and cry as men under the Chirurgians hands when he useth the Lancâ—t or Cauterie to cure us David said I roared for the very greife of my heart yet in the issue conâ—essed It is good for me that I have been afflicted before I was afflicted I went astray but now I keep thy word 3. Give not over thy heart to excessive sorrow there is a worldly sorrow to death and a sorrow to repentance not to be repented of that like the immoderate overflowings of Nilus is a fore-runner of dangerous sterility 4. Prepare thy selfe for sad encounters Ships are built to endure stormes and growen Seas and prudent minds are composed to endure and make good use of sorrows 5. Let every sorrow awaken thy minde to fly to Goâ— through Christ and afflictions shall be but like a raine which fell on the Arâ—e the more it powred down the more this was listed up or like Moses rodd to open a way through the brinie floods to our promised rest 1. Anger Malice and Envy doe marvelously discompose the mind Anger is an appetite of punishing for injury received or conceived the proceed of anger is malice which is inveterate anger the fruit revenge at least a desire thereof when being strengthlesse it becomes
following it in due revenge it may be Justice handmaid not it's mistris Consider the dangerous effects thereof it is a short madnesse differing from it little more then in time It distorts the countenance precipitates the minde and so disturbeth reason that for the time it turneth man to beast hence the unguarded mouthes unbridled tongues reproaches calumnies contumelies conflicts all fruits of fury spring this whets the sword breaks the sacred bands of Nature and Religion making men butchers of men Look how some sudden deluge over-â—unnes the verdant â—ields overthrowing the husbandmans most flourishing hopes sata laeta â—oumque labores so rusheth the impetuous flood of anger into the minde covering dangerously for the time if not drowning the fairest plants of vertue wisdome and temperance under that bitternesse of minde and breathing of revenge leaving neither venerable age tender youth alliance nor any thing sacred or unspared It depriveth thee of counsell rendreth thee troublesom to thy friends exposeth thee to thine enemies and maketh thee a fruitlesse teacher when patience and mildenesse wonld leave better impression and root then the best Precepts sowed in stormes it maketh thee an unjust Judge who correctest thy childe or servants fault with a greater fault of thine owne intemperance desire and anger are the worst counsellers it not only distrubeth the soule but deformeth the outword man could the angry man but see himself what change that passion worketh in his countenance as much altered from it's native beauty as is the face of the thundering skie from the lovely serene or the enraged sea from the calm he could not possibly like that distemper therefore Plato advised his Scholars when they were angry to looke into a glasse if ever the odious spirit of Satan look out of the windowes of mans face 't is in his exorbitant anger what deformity worketh it in the divine soule obvious to the eies of God what disadvantage as those dogges of the profane Donatists whom they fed with the bread of the holy Eucharist not without an evident signe of God's justice enflamed with raging madnesse fell upon their owne masters as strangers and enemies and did teare them with revenging teeth so cometh it oft to passe that impious anger destroyeth the angry Hee that can by right reason bridle his anger hath great advantage First in point of paciâ—ication A soft answer turneth away wrath secondly in respect of victory for the patient man enâ—lineth the prudent witnesses to his party so that thou shalt more foil the violent with meeknesse then retaliation of injuries and contumelies in which sense it is true a soft tongue breaketh the bone next thy counsell better recovereth it seat by thy forbearance and thou loosest nothing of thy interest by delaying that which thou must once say or doe to conclude in thy most just causes of anger remember what God beareth with thee be not like that evill servant who having found much mercy would shew none lest thy judgement be like his Matth. 18. 34. 5. Malice is the venome of the old dragon Satans bitter influence on the wicked and his lively imagâ— in them The fire of hell breaking out on the men of this world mother of revenge and malefices symptome of an unregenerate heart Tit. 3. 3. affection of a reprobate minde Rom. 1. 29. he devill 's leaven which must be purged out of all those who will communicate with Christ our Passover fuell of God's anger Colos. 3. 6 8. and obstruction to his free mercy who cannot justifie the malicious because hee is just and true who said If yee forgive not men their trespasses neither will your father forgive you and because it is wholly incompatible with the love of God so that it is impossible at once to love God and malice thy brother Concerning it I need set down none other rule but this if malice be in thy heart leave all pretences and presently cast it out if ever thou meanest to enter into the kingdome of the God of love 6. Envy is a griefe for others prosperity or good an evill and perturbation of the minde so odious that to bring it to view is motive sufficient to make us loath and shunne it it is a tare of the wicked ones sowing earnest of divine ultion and punishment impediment to piety way to hell and barre to the kingdome of heaven it is a pernicious attendant to prosperity a vanity and vexation of spirit Eccles. 4. 4. a fruit of unregeneration Rom. 1. 29. daughter of self-love and pride result of carnal mindes worke of the flesh obstruction of edification and growth by the sincere milke of God's word blashemous censure of the most high whose judgement it disalloweth secretly taxing and repining at his providence who disposeth of all things in heaven and in earth setting up and pulling down distributing to every one according to his good pleasure It is a devillish wisedome companion of confusion and every evill worke the mischievous canker which biteth the fairest buds of vertue attempting either to cloud them with incredulity because the envious cannot attain thereto or labouring to blast them with impious calumnies I need not hereto cite the example of Antigenes and Teutamus conspiring against the truly noble Eumenes of Philips Sycophants against Aratus nor of Domitians envying Agricola his worth nor Sauls envying David Cain Abel Rachel her sister the Patriarches Joseph seeing it is manifest that Christ Jesus in whom were all perfections was envied There 's nothing so little but stimulateth it nothing so sacred or high but this hellish furie will flie at it Joseph'â— particoloured coat awakeneth it and it staies not till it strike at holy Jesus the natalls hereof were in Lucifer envying God his monarchie and ambitious to share in his Soveraignty The natural historians tell of some countries free from Serpents but who can tell mee of any free from envy 't is the common plague which haunts the court like those croping plagues of Egypt not sparing Pharoah's owne bed and it filleth the country with false eies making our neighbours fields seem more fruitfull then our own 't is a monster God made it not born of other affections depravation as anger feare jealousie self-selfe-love which causeth indignation if another attain any good envy thinks all the would too little for it one mouth all this availeth me nothing so long as Isee Mordecai the Jew sitting at the Kings gate said ambitious Haman in his envy And againe To whom would the King delight to do honour more then to my selfe If any want arguments to diswade him from envy let him consider 1. That envy hurteth the envious most There is no worse torment invented by tyrants nothing more unjust nothing more just the serpents poison hurteth not himself but envy is worst to the envious as the moth â—ateth the garment
that breedeth it and as the rust of iron so envy the minde that hath it It is more miserable then any other for it is afflicted not only with it own sorrow but also for others joy what ever is good to others is a torment to him another mans store is the envions mans want another mans health his sicknesse anothers praises his reputed dishonour 2. Other sinnes had some remission anger will spend it self in time hatred hath some end but envy never ceaseth fierce lions are tamed and become tractable but the envious grow worse and worse The more good Christ did the Jewes curing their sick healing their infirme and bestowing the word of life on them the more destructively did they envy him 3. It is the canker that blasteth friendship the corruption of life plague of nature the devill 's incentive to rebellion who because he could not in his malice hurt God assailed man it instigated Cain to murder Abel and the Jews to crucifie the Saviour of the world 4. It hath irrational effects it would stop up the fountaines and vaile the sunne-beames it regardeth neither bonds of nature civility or religion Rachel envied her sister Gen. 30. 1. Jacobs sonnes their brother Joseph Gen. 37. 11. the Jewes the very preaching and hearing the Gospâ—l Acts 13. 45. It is the rottennesse of the bones Prov. 14 30. it slaieth the silly Job 5. 2. it excludeth from heaven what should envy doe where there is nothing but love and rejoycing in each others happinesse 5. It is a perverse distemper of a sick minde making the envious looke on any good of others as it were with sore eies grieved with seeing It delighteth immens miseries as the flies feed themselves on others sores so the envious please themselves with discoursing of other mens faults or afflictions to the setting out whereof they will sometimes personate the mercifull as if they spake thereof onely in pity when 't is to vent their malice sometimes the just then will they seem zealous of Lawes and due punishment of delinquents when indeed they but turn judgment into wormwood and kill or robbe by lawes who durst noâ— with the sword or open violence sometimes they will assume the most holy protenoes appearing like that Endor deâ—ill in the holy Prophets mantle doing some things externally good that they may thereby achieve some greater evill so the false Apostles preached Christ of meere envy to Paul that they might thereby adde more affliction to his bands 6. It is at best but a fruit of the flesh Gal. 5. 21. meere folly Tit. 3. 3. devillish sensuall earthly Jam. 3. 14 15. a dangerous signe of a reprobate minde given up to destruction Rom. 1. 28 29. the most that envy can doe toward it owne satisfaction is but to grieve where others joy and possibly to hurt temporally with it own eternall destruction of body and soule it is no better then the spirit of Satan in the envious 7. This mischiefe sometimes obrepeth on the incautious good men Joshua envied for Moses sake David confesseth My â—eet saith he were almost gone for I was envious at the foolish when I saw the prosperity of the wicked c. Jeremie and Habakkuk were a little infected with this contagion which the Scripture remembreth to admonish the best of men to beware of this mischiefe which endangered such men 8. The acts thereof are unconsistent with right reason if we respect the supreme giver of that which stimulateth envy for how irrationall a presumption is it in man to controle the providence of God If Jacob dim-eyed for age would not permit his deare Joseph to change the imposition of his hands or to transpose the blessing at his pleasure how much lesse will the all-seeing God permit the envious man to alter his hands if wee respect the quality of the envied for is he evill whom thou enviest it were good reason thou shouldst pity him because his sinne makes him more wretched then all the world could doe is hee good how evill must thou be who caunt envy the happinesse of any good man or if wee respect the effect of envy which is hurtfull onely to the envious as I have noted For Antidotes against this venome 1. Put on Christ and be sure thou shalt put off envy it is the Apostle's rule Let us walke honestly as in the day not in strife and envying but put yee on the Lord Jesus Christ and make not provision for the flesh to fulfill the lusts thereof put on Christ by an holy imitation of him hee was meek and lowly in heart and therefore envied no man the meek Moses was so free from ambition and pride that hee reproved those that envied for his sake and wisht that all God's people could prophesie and that the Lord would put his Spirit upon them Christ loved all respectively love envieth not If we love for God's sake we shall never be grieved for any blessings which he bestoweth but wish them greater we shall neither undervalue others nor over-rate our selves as the envious doe 2. Learne in God's schoole there 's the best cure of envy it was a thing which troubled David to understand it Vntill saith he I went into the Sanctuary of God Here thou art taught not to value secular things too much to consider his hand which setteth up and pulleth downe to referre all thy desires to the advance of his glory to acknowledge the favours which he hath conferred on thee by Christ better then a thousand worlds which thoughts can leave no place for envy 3. Consider the end of those thou enviest David found in the Sanctuary that his enemies were not to be envied Surely said he thou didst set them in slippery places thou castedst them down into destruction remember how God mixeth bitter and sweet to all men in this life this man hath great riches but neither childe to enjoy it nor heart to use it this man is healthy in body with a sick soule this man thrives and layeth up wealth but with such a conscience as that the poorest saint is incomparably more happy another man riseth in honours it may be only to greaten his fall another is many waies prosperous to the world-ward but as the moon is then most darke toward heaven when shee is most light toward the earth and contrariwise so is it commonly with men the more gloriously they shine to us the more despicable they are to God who layeth up such terrible judgements for them that a soule in hell is as proper an object of envy as these glittering epuloe's who are hasting thither 4. Ever remember that wee are brethren members of one body whereof Christ is the head therefore wee must withall meeknesse support one another through love and mutually rejoice at each others good and so cast away the works of darknesse strife and envy 7. Impatience is
not over thy minde to heavinesse and afflict not thy selfe in thine own counsell the gladnesse of the heart is the life of a man and prolongeth his daies Some mindes are like the sea which instantly turneth sweet showers into it own bitternesse because they indulge to impaâ—â—ence pleasing themselves with that which tormenteth them but the wise in every affliction lift up their soules to God seeking comfort in him and to the consideration of the life to come where shall be no more curse 3 no more discontent but every heart shall be filled with joy A Prayer against Impatience and discontent O Lord God gracious and mercifull I humbly acknowledge thy fatherly goodnesse in measuring to me those corrections which my sinnes daily provoking thy justice most justly deserve and thy abundant mercy in sparing mee whom in thy severity thou mightest not only have made the most miserable of all men living but also of those afflicted souls which now suffer in the flames of hell Lord as thou hast in Christ shewed me this mercy so for his sake forgive me all my sinnes and lay no more upon me then thou wilt make me able to beare cheerfully neither suffer me fraile dust and earth for any trials to fall from thee but give a blessed issue out of every triall Good Father correct me not in thine anger neither chasten me in thy heavy displeasure lest I perish in thy fierce wrath let thy corrections breed in mee a true sight and loathing of all my sinnes a filiall feare to offend thee a fixed resolution to love and serve thee more carefully to this end I humbly pray thee give mee assurance of my justification by Christ's righteousnesse my atonement with thee and such peace of conscience as the world can neither give nor take from mee that I may love thee above all and be truely thankeful to thee for all thy mercies temporal and eternal proposing to my selfe and having ever in my heart the example of my Saviour assuring me that he that suffered such things for me will not suffer mee to faile in any trial Lord sanctifie mee by his good Spirit and all my afflictions to mee by him cast out of my soule all those sinnes and corruptions for which thou fillest me with bitterness let the summe and height of all my ambition be only to be thine give mee a prudent and contented heart in every estate and condition a faithful dependance on thy good providence in assurance that thou who hast promised wilt never faile me nor forsake me that in every affliction I may expect thy gracious deliverance give me patience and meeknesse of spirit that I may in the midst of all my troubles finde rest to my soule in thee let not my heart be fixed on any worldly desires but on things which are above where Christ my peace sitteth at thy right hand take from mee all impatience bitternesse of spirit diffidence and the secret murmuring of flesh and blood let thy good spirit the comforter dwell in mee to keep and counsel me in the greatest and in the least affairs and interests spiritual and secular with his joyful presence so to sweeten all those Marahs of afflictions which thy providence shall set in my way to the promised rest as that I may ever rejoice in thee and in every estate live cheerfully before thee until thou please to bring mee unto the fulnesse of eternal joies in thy blessed presence where thou wilt wipe all teares out of mine eyes make mee glad with the light of thy countenance and unite me to that triumphant society of Saints and Angels which sing their Halleluiahs to thee eternally through Jesus Christ my Lord and blessed Saviour Amen CHAP. XX. § 1. Of Hope § 2. Of Feare § 3. Of Cares § 4. Of Iealousie 1. HEe liveth not who hath no hope the childe hopeth to be a man the old man to live one yeare more the poore man hopes for wealth the sicke man for health the imprisoned for liberty the afflicted that it may be better to morrow Hope makes the husbandman sow the weary Palmer endure his tedious waies the swimmer to spread his tyred armes upon the death-threatning waves thus hoping and suffering takes up the whole life of man 2. But there 's great difference in hopes there is an humane vaine hope then which there is none more dangerous delusion in this world such hope is but the name of an uncerâ—aine good 't is a treacherous guide leading to desperate precipices the minde 's ignis fatuus dreame of waking men it was the tempters artifice first to assaile man's innocency with vaine hope grounded on a lying promise without this he could do nothing against us First he sheweth the forbidden fruit then saiâ—h in the day yee eate thereof yee shall be as Gods the vaine hope tooke unhappy man so he assailed the second Adam when he shewed him the Kingdomes and Glory of the world so still hee sheweth us false heavens to precipitate us into a true hell suggesting vaine hopes that he might bereave us of the true Who sinneth without some vaine hope whetheâ— the instance be in Cain's murder Amnon's lust Juda's treason or Achitophel's despaire the sinner hoped for some other proceed of his resolutions then he found in his acted sin The worst hope for some good but all in vaine the hope of the wicked must faile because God's Justice cannot Wee must expect because reason is provident and till Time's glasse be runne there must be something future all which seemeth good save what wee see through feare and doubting so flattering a liberty of hoping for himselfe hath every man specially yong men who having least acquaintance with the falshood and constant inconstancy of the world relying much on hope and little on memory promise themselves great things but when the wicked sing requiems to their soules sudden destruction is upon them by so much more terrible by how much lesse suspected The hypocriteâ— hope shall perish their hope shall be sorrow of minde Job 11. ver 20. Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth and a sliding foot And truely such is confidence in an evill conscience however it may seeme to have made thee a covenant with death and an agreement with hell it will deceive thee However it promise long life and strength in an arme of flesh and the vain counsells of men raising thy hopes to high â—lights they are but dreames of deluded men breaking in the midst of their course giving thy minde dangerous strapadoes by carrying it up to cast it down from such heigth to make the fall more desperate How often do despairing wretches wish they had never hoped when the vaine shewes thereof like Pharoahs chariot wheels there fall off where they are most deeply engaged between floods of returning miseries 3. There is an hope of the righteous which faileth not
taketh not away faiths confidence but the security of the flesh 3. Lay up the promises of God therefore were they written that we through patience and comfort of the Scriptures might have hope 4. Set not up thy rest in this world neither trust in any thing thereof it is but like a staffe of reed a loose rope at Sea a false friend forsaking in adversity the quick-sands on which foolish builders lay their foundation as Moses told Israel yee are not come to your rest all Worldly things change continually here can be no constancy among the sonnes of Men prosperity is but like a faire morning quickly overcast with hideous stormes like the morning dew soon vanishing like a faire flower a Jonah's gourd such is all Worldly joy there is no sure hope but in the living God who changeth not neither deceiveth trust 5. Take heed of vaine hopes specially those which are against right reason lest thou tempt God they deceive men such is their trust who contemne the ordinary means in expectation of miracles and they who doe things against the expresse word of God in vaine hope of pardon 6. Propose not too great things to thy selfe we are often the evident authors of our own sorrowes when we promise peace health and prosperity to our selves this high-flying ambition sometimes looseth it feathers and we fall into bitterness when we come short of that which we vainly promised our selves 'T were better never climb then rise to fall 7. Pray to the God of hope and consolation to infuse a sure hope and confidence into thy soule A Prayer for Hope O Lord God my earnest expectation and my hope my fortresse helper and deliverer though my numberlesse sinnes have deserved thy wrath so that thou maist justly cast me off into hopelesse despaire and finall destruction yet look upon me in mercy through thy Christ in whom thou hast commanded me to beleeve and promised remission of my sinnes and eternall life for his sake assure me thereof that there may be hope in my end Though thou now fill my wounded spirit with bitternesse removing me from peace and comfort so that forgetting prosperity I goe mourning all the day long though thou humblest my dejected soule with grievous weights of sorrowes and makest my eyes fountains of teares driving me to solitude and silence with them that mourne in Zion yet art thou good to them that waite for thee and to the soule that seeketh thee thy mercies are renewed every morning thy compassions â—aile not thou hast opened unto me the riches of thy mercies in Christ 〈◊〉 caused me to trust in thee thou hast according to thine abundant 〈◊〉 begotten me againe to a lively hope by the resurrection of Christâ—om â—om the dead of an inheritance incorruptible therefore my soule hath â—id thou art my portion therefore will I trust in thee Truth it is ô Lord that the hopes of the hills are vaine so is all confidence in man unhappy is that hope which is not in thee but in spight of Satans malice blessed must he be whose hope thou art he shall be like a tree planted by the waters of life which cannot faile because thou canst not deceive trust ô God of all consolation therefore now at last speake peace to my afflicted soule let me not be disappointed of my hope though thou please to weane me from the love of an unkind and trustlesse World by permitting me to such griefe and sorrow yet seeing thou art my trust from my youth let me not be ashamed of my confidence let thy mercy be still my hope and thy grace my strength amidst all the stormes and surges of afflictions fasten my soules Anchor on the land of the living my rock who is entred within the vaile to make requests for me give me patience to beare untill the time of comfort and refreshing shall come from thy gracious presence give me the helmet of salvation assurance of all that which thou hast promised in thy word and layed up for me in heaven let the experience of thy former goodnesse in many deliverances give me a doore of hope for the future that I may more and more trust in thee Thou who art the God of hope fill me with joy and peace in beleeving that I may abound in hope through the power of thy holy spirit Give me strong consolation and full assurance of thy mercy that continuing grounded and established in a stedfast hope of my resurrection to a life of glory at the appointed houre my flesh may rest in hope and my soule be cheerfully rendred into thy gracious hands to rest with thee through Jesus Christ my ever-blessed Lord and Saviour Amen 1. Feare is a pensive and sorrowfull expectation of some evill to come imminent or so supposed wee feare any thing which is evil reall or apparent many times that which is not feare is opposite to fortitude as one extream of participation and as it allayeth too much daring limits it and so is good but as it exceedeth in it extream pernicious There can be no vertue where there is no fortitude hee can never be holy toward God or honest toward men who dareth not to be so because Satan will be sure to work upoâ— the timerous putting before him continual though 〈◊〉 and vaine feares like hunters Suells to put the fearfull 〈◊〉 from the safe wayes so driving through pusillanimity 〈◊〉 timidity that he maketh them evill for feare of men whom the true feare of God cannot make good 2. To omit many acceptations of the word 1. There is a natural feare and that of two sorts in respect of the object first concerning the avoidance of sinne for the love of God so Adam in his innocency having heard the threatning feared to sin because he would not offend God whom he loved above all for however Adam in the temptation lost this feare and so sinned yet in the rectitude of his minde he had it before the temptation prevailed upon him and secondly concerning the avoidance of sorrow in apprehension of God's anger against sinne committed so Christ feared Matth. 26. 38. Heb. 5. 7. both without sinne neerest to this cometh the filial fear of the regenerate who though through infirmity they often sinne and feare to displease God by any offence as it is said The â—ear of the Lord is to hate evil This is the beginning of wisedome and it is principally in foure things 1. That wee set God ever before our eies living as in his sight and presence 2. That we know and acknowledg him as the omniscient witnesse and just Judge of all our thoughts words and actions 3. That wee feare not creatures in respect of him 4. That wee ever do that which is just and acceptable to him though none other can witnesse against us so did good Joseph and who ever is offended with us for the same so did Daniel and those other servants of God 2. There
Angels pitch round about his to deliver them and when we seem most overmatcht they are more with us then can be against us as that fearfull servant saw at last It made David so confident In the Lord put I my trust how say yee then to my soul Flee as a bird to your mountaine all confidence in men their counsels or an arme of flesh is unhappy and must faile beeing under the curse God cannot si fractus illabatur orbis therefore will we not fear though the earth be removed and though the mountaines be carried into the midst of the sea 4. Hearken unto the Word of God whoso hearkneth unto mee shall dwell safely and shall be quiet from fear of evil thou shalt walke in the way safely when thou liest down thou shalt not be afraid herein thou shalt know God's power trueth providence mercy and justice and so trust in him as it is written They that know thy name will put their trust in thee for thou Lord hast not forsaken them that seek thee 5. Love the Lord sincerely the more thou lovest him the more thou wilt rest assured of his love and protection the more perfect thy love is the more it casteth out fear 6. Depart from evill as the Princes of the Philistines said of David Let him not go down with us to the battle leâ—t in the battle he be an adversary to us Set thy selfe to seek the Lord as Jehoshaphat did when many enemies were upon the march against him and atcheived a glorious victory against them Keep a good conscience it shall be a wall of brasse unto thee when that is safe a man is bold as a lion but if we see the smoke of hell ascend there wee must needs faint like the men of Ai when they saw their City on fire Sinne in the conscience maketh men cowardly they may possibly speak glorious words who have timerous consciences but as one said of the fearfull dogg vehementiùs latrat quà m mordet hee must needs feare who hath no peace in himselfe 7. Consider the end of the â—aints sufferings which hath ever been happy in that they are the more partakers of Christ's glory by how much more of his sufferings consider how long they have suffered or thou canst fear none of those things which thou shalt suffer Behold the Devil shall cast sâ—me of you into prison that yee may be tryed be thou faithfull unto the death and I will give thee the crown of life It is true flesh and blood must have it allowance for its infirmity but the more wee can lay to heart the end of the saints so happy that even the wicked affect it and the quiet fruits of righteousness to them that are exercised the lesse we must needs feare the malice of any creature 8. Labour for peace with God give him no rest till he speak it to thy conscience resolve not to let him go untill he blesse thee and assure thee of thy remission in Christ. What hath he to feare whose sins are forgiven the sting of death pâ—lled out who would not dare it therefore the Apostle did because he could say Thanks be unto God who giveth us victory through Jesus Christ this is Faith's victory over the world 9. In thy greatest feares pray more fervently so did our Saviour being in an agony he prayed more earnestly so did Jacob in fear of his brothers long-studied revenge pray that God would open thine eies to see his saving health God many times terrifieth to awaken our drouzie souls and open our mouths to earnest prayer which in prosperity are too prone to the spirit of slumber and coldnesse feare hath many tongues and can open the mouth of the dumb Even Jonah's mariners in their feare will pray and instigate others thereto that one example of Croesus sonne Athis before dumb crying out O Cyrus spare my father and by our misfortunes learne that thou also art but a man sheweth what the violence of feare can do A Prayer against Feare O Lord God almighty dreadfull in thy wrath and indignation against sinners I humbly acknowledge that there is not one of thy judgements which I may not reasonably fear who have deserved them all the miseries of this life terrors of death and future condemnation But O Lord God of consolation assure mee of my sinnes remission and my peace with thee for Christ Jesus sake fill my heart and affections with that measure of thy love which may exclude all servile feare give mee the testimony of a good conscience to comfort me against all vain fears of the wicked lift up the light of thy countenance upon me and assure me that thou who rulest in heaven and earth from the Angel to the worm art my defence and help at hand Thou art omnipotent and canst doe what thou wilt Lord let it be thy will to deliver me from the affliction which I fear that I may live to praise the and declare thy goodnesse toward mee if it be possible let this cup passe from mee if otherwise thy holy will be done Lord suffer mee not for any tryals to fail from thee consider my weaknesse remember whereof thou hast made me that I am but dust and earth soon passing away give me patience to endure thy fatherly hand and full assurance that all things shall work together for the best give me fervency of spirit to pray more earnestly give me that â—aith to which thou who canst not deceive hast made the promise of audience and granting our petitions Give mee an invincible resolution not to let thee goe untill thou blessest me with some happy issue through Jesus Christ my Lord and only Saviour Amen Of Cares CAre is the childe of Providence some say the souls apparitor to summon all it's faculties to it's Senate or Committee it is rather counsels president determining what to pursue and what to decline the weight which moveth all it's wheels that taken off or quite run down all the nerves of providence are loosed and the soules faculties become inactive and resty so as we neither affect the good nor feare the evill Care is the centinel which gives the alarme to awaken wisedom to it's offices the steward of the inward house the Palinurus and pilot which sitteth at the helm to steere and direct the course lest industry be wanting to prudent decrees and resolutions or successe to industry so necessary is this vigilancy of the soule that without it we can neither be profitable to our selves or others in things divine or humane though salvation shall neither be in his care who willeth nor his that runneth but in him that sheweth mercy yet if thou care not to lay hold on his promises and to beleeve and obey thou shalt finde that he that made thee without thy care will not save thee without it because
painter did when he borrowed all the perfections of beauty he possibly could to furnish his pourtraict of Venus so that these nations made them of such proportion and colour as they thought most beautiful which sheweth that beauty is not in white and red or so much in any sixed standart as to be weighed by his affection who likes and loves whence it commeth to passe that affection being Clarke of the Market making or at least determining the true value and price of beauty yea beauty it selfe there is almost no face but some can like and love it best I might say therefore if beauty were not so much in opinion yet is it fading flowers are the emblemes thereof Favor is deceitfull and beauty is vaine but a woman that feareth the Lord shee shall be praised love which only beauty enflames is like fire in stubble soon going out except it finde some more solid fuel to preserve it The ancient Heathens in their fable of Pygmalion falling in love with the image which he made and obteining a metamorphosis thereof into a woman and his wife quickly disliked under a false vaile as oft they did understood this morall trueth That such is the mutability of mans minde that if he might be permitted according to his desire to make himselfe a fortune hee would not long like his own option and â—igment specially that which is grounded on so fraile a good as beauty every day subject to change by the power of sicknesse if no worse corruption Regard riches and beauty in thy choice that thou maist subsist and love but choose not for either or both but principally for vertue not subject to the lawes of time or age 5. If thou art under parents or governers match not without their consent 6. Lastly so far as by diligent enquiry thou canst discern take heed of 1. An impious Athaliah or false Delilah likewise of a tempter hee or shee who will not be good toward so good a God what hope is there they will or can be good to thee what mischiefe what curse maist thou not reasonably expect from such company as God hateth and will finally destroy 2. A proud and expensive Jezabel such must needs prove thy families calamity pride goeth before ruine the spendthrift is more devouring then the sea that is sometimes long devouring a patrimony this quickly swalloweth up all there may be some defence found against that but if Solomon himselfe were tutor to this foole his instruction should finde no capacity in him 3. A curst and intractable nature a provoking Miriam a sullen Vashti a jeering Nichol a scolding Zipporah a stingie Peninnah and a revengeful Herodias why any one should be in love with a bear it must seem strange to us but some are of an affection so paradoxical that they can because they are of the like ungentle rough disposition for parity of manners begeteth liking but if thou love comity affability and that sweetnesse of behaviour which becometh the people of God avoid a churlish Nabal and a d Xâ—ntippe quà m in Socratem prius convitia maledicta ingessisset post verò sordidis aquis perâ—udisset inquit Nonne dicebam Xantippem tonantem quandoque pluituram Laert. l. â— Socrat. shrill Xantippe whose thunder will not only startle thee by day but like an importune gnat she will be singing about thy eares when thou wouldst â—leep whose impudent barbarismes will render thee ridiculous to thy acquaintance and pitied of thy friends whose spirit of contradiction will embitter all that which should sweeten an happy society neither let some calmes deceive thee the sea is lovely when no breath of winde moveth it to rage the fiercest are kinde in their times of love consider well what men and women are when they are angry and how thou canst change bridle or bear that nature he that keepeth salvage beasts may render up his charge when hee will but the unhappy married covenant till death us depart Take heed of objects too great for thy power or patience 4. An intemperate luxurious or drunken mate e Pascitur â—ibido conviviis nutritur deliciis c. Amb. de poen l. 1. cap. 14. Lust is fed at full tables which beggery and misery attend to take away the intemperate and drunken is the devils anvile on which hee can forge any sinne when Satan with large promises tempted the yong man to kill his father hee abhorred the suggestion likewise when he proposed in the second place that hee should commit adultery he refused it when hee brought him into company and exhorted him to doe as others did drinking he became drunken and in that madnesse slew his father and committed adultery drunkennesse is broker to any sin 5. A bold and familiar behaviour in women is a dangerous symptom of immodesty Lascivious gesture impudent discourse and affectation of strange attire are but the bush to shew what is vendible within take heed of a gadding Dinah and a tame woman I deny not but such may be chaste but it seemeth hardly probable that they would be such Of all domestick miseries the adulterous wiâ—e is incomparably worst and most of all such calamities to be abhorred of those that are to choose and to be pitied in all that have made such choice except in those that have made them or suspected them before to be such f Pro. 6 25 26. lust not after her beauty in thine heart neither let her take thee with her eie-lids for by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a morsel of bread and the adulteresse will hunt for the precious life g Prov. 5. 8. Remove thy way farre from her and come not nigh the door of her house 6. Take heed of matching into an infamous family it is true God can call and so doth h Luke 7. some infamous sinners home to wash the feet of Christ with teares of repentance he can and doth take some out of the most sinful families to make them instances of his mercy but commonly partus ventrem sequitur an adulterous Herodias hath a dancing daughter easily infected with her mothers sicknesse it is a desperate adventure to choose there Concerning the mutual Dueties of the married these duties are observable 1. That they serve God together with one heart and consent §. III. so Abraham and Sarah Isaac and Rebecca Zacharie and Elisabeth so all the children of God in that state do 2. That both hold the bond of conjugal love entire pure and unpolluted while Solomon chargeth the man i Prov. 5. 18 c. rejoice with the wife of thy youth let her breasts satisfie thee at all times he enjoineth the woman the same duety let both ever remember the covenant they have made before God and that dreadful word 1 Cor. 6. 9 10. Be not deceived neither fornicators nor idolaters nor adulterers shall inherit the kingdom of God 3. That they live together in love peace
and amity that they give not scandal to others nor create mutual bitternesse to themselves Mutual love is gods blessing on thy family a praeludium of heaven in thy house a comfortable pattern to thy children like the sun-beams on thy possession as the dew of heaven on thy fields which maketh all look cheerfully and be fruitful a state that cometh neerest up to that blessed Paradise-oeconomy of Adam innocent a blessing which maketh every estate such without which no store is blessed k Pro. 15. 17 Better is a dinner of herbs where love is then a stalled oxe and hatred therewith l Pro. 17. 1. Better is a dry morsel and quietnesse therewith then an housefull of sacrifices with strife 4. That they do cheerfully and willingly communicate in all that which God hath given them in prosperity advising in adversity comforting each other with such sympathy in joy and sorrow as is in them who are truely one flesh 5. That they bear each others infirmities never taking things spoken or done in the worst sense nor making every trivial matter an occasion of quarrel or alienation of affection but passing by them so as that they may seem rather covered in love then excused in judgement or approved in stupidity in which practice Satan may be beaten with his own weapon while that every occasion which hee administred in hope to former discord being prudently used to demonstrate the invincible love of the party suffering and willing rather to put up injury then to admit the least breach of amity by retaliation more endeareth them to each other 6. That they join hands and hearts to assist each other in the way to heaven See 1 Cor. 7. 16. 1 Pet. 3. 7. 7. That they mutually defend each other so Michol preserved David when Saul sought his life so prudent Abigail endeavoured Nabal's preservation they must not be false Delilahs to conâ—ederate against the lives or estates of their husbands 8. That they neither unjustly take nor justly give occasion of jealousie which ever embittereth the otherwaies most happy families Jerom's rule is here to be commended to women m Etsi negagata non feceris tamen deforme putes testimonium si rogeris Hier ep 2l 9 though thou yeeld not being asked yet think it an odious testimony to be asked hee comes to neer who cometh to be denied The Duties proper to the Husband may appeare in these following Rules 1. Let the n 1 Pet. 3. 7. husband dwell with his wife according to knowledge giving honor to her as the weaker vessel as being co-heires of the grace of life that their prayers be not hindred where there needeth reproof let it neither be rough odious injurious publick clamorous nor disgracefull but allayed with such wisedome and opportune perswasions as may not only reform but endeare in the most happy wedlock there may be some matter of just dislike and therefore due cause of reproof it much concerneth thee to know thy wives faults but not to hate her for them let the rule be either beare thy wives faults if tolerable with patience or amend them with direction if they are intolerable in this thou makest her better in that thy selfe 2. Let a man love o Eph. 5. 33. his wife as himselfe esteeming nothing too good or dear for her good as Christ loved his Church which concludeth nothing for them who impiously and cruelly afflict their wives with stripes or otherwise for God saith p Col 3 19. Husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them it is uncertaine whether they have evil wives but certain that they deserve such who can no otherwise governe then by blowes Neither doth this binde any man to an indiscreet much lesse an impious and dangerous indulgence to his wife wherein she desireth that which needs must or probably may hurt her self her husband or family it is love and wisedome to deny her that 3. Let a man maintain his wife in cloaths and necessaries according to his estate so as shee may live cheerfully with him not as servant but as a partner in his estate 4. Let the husband use all comity holy gratious prudent and peaceable language as a pattern to all his family so specially as a pledge of love to his wife neither like rugged Nabal nor fond and vaine which commonly changeth into fits of extream bitternesse for who can like such inksome levity 5. Let the man heare the wife's advice but never be transported beyond better reason nor carried thereby against the holy will of God as Adam whose dreadfull sentence bare this cause in the front q Gen. 3. 17. because thou hast hearkned to the voice of thy wife as r 1 King 21. 25. Ahab hearkned to the voice of Jezaâ—el as s 1 King 11 3 Solomon whom his wives most fearfully corrupted t Anilâ—e mihi liber videatur cui mulier imperat cui leges imponit praescribit iubet vetat qui nihil imperaâ—â—i negare potest nihil recusare audetâ—â— ego verò isâ—um non modò servum sed nâ—quissimum servum etiamsi in amplissima â—amilta natus sit appellandum puto Cic. pared omnes sapientes liberos esse c. The Orator could say of a man so awed by his wife I doe think that hee ought to be called not onely a slave but truely the worst of such Concerning the proper dueties of Wives I sinde these three principle rules 1. Let the wife be u Eph. 5. 22. Col 3. 18. subject to her husband as unto the Lord in every thing for the man is the wife's head w 1 Tim. â— 9 12. shee was made for man God permitteth not the woman to usurpe authority over the man this duety comprehendeth love x Eph. 5. 32. reverence aiâ— and assistance doing her husband good endeavouring to content please and comfort him See Pro. 31. 11. contrary to which is the imperious command of the domineering wife unreverend speech or action neglect of her charge through pride sloth or riotous wasting her husbands estate 2. Let her be chaste modest and silent the Scripture expresseth this by y 1 Pet. 3. 5 6 1 Pet. 3 1 c. 1 Tim. â— 9 10 chast conversation coupled with feare impudency and chastity are rarely compatible and modest apparreling which becometh women professing godlinesse andâ—let the women learn with all subjectionâ— a meâ—k and a quiet spirit are of high esteem in Gods sight this is God's rule by what law they live who think it religion and good policy by their loud and quarrelsom tongues bitter spirits of contradiction and otherwise to master their husbands and cantonize themselves I know not it is certain these are heavy crosses and no better then the sad furies possessing and so restlesly haunting the house of a wretched man that hee may well take up that old bemoaning z Hei mihi nec sine te nec tecum vivere possum Woe is
and winning behaviour is an excellent ornament and finishing of vertue not only setting off but much advantaging and commending sanctimony it selfe which is often loved and entertained by those that are without for that external comlinesse with which it is cloathed admired of them who being yet but carnal understand no more The men of Nazareth admired the gracious words which proceeded out of Christ's mouth concerning whom it was prophesied full of grace are thy lips and the Apostle saith let your speech be alwaies with grace seasoned so as that it may administer grace to the hearers by a gaining affability and St Peter saith be courteous God's wisedom ruling in his children is gentle they are deceived who think good breeding and comity conduceth nothing to religion yea it very much adorneth it and commendeth the professors thereof The rugged Ismaëls rustick Esaus and unformed Nabals are company more fit for beares then men But on the other side to be all complement without substance or good meaning speaketh a man a ridiculous superâ—icies an Italian bubble an outside and empty statue of a man He is an unprofitable burden of the earth who is neither good for war nor peace things secular nor divine Commendable is the care of honorable parents to breed up their children in Schools Vniversities Innes of court or travel into forain parts to fit them thereby to serve the state though the abuses thereof too often discommend the improvident who are not improved the negligent who are not bettered and the libertine who is made worse hereby how many travellers have not only like Solomon's Tharshish merchants among their precious lading brought home apes and peacocks vain imitation and pride but with Scipio luxury and the vices of other nations and with Ahaz the idolatry 2 King 16. 10 11. It is observable that some of the world 's great Princes have learned manufactures and therein laboured every day sometime The sole master of the world had his opus to till the ground idlenesse is the sepulcher of living men it is good to know how to subsist if some unexpected pressure should straiten a man and therefore necessary to breed thy childe so as that he may have some calling 5. Love thy children tenderly but in the Lord love them best which are most like their heavenly father in sanctity what can be more just then to honour the best most Love them so as not to hurt and hate thy selfe it is an inconsiderate love and foolish to remember others and forget our selves hold that distance which may secure a parents authority from contempt use such compliance with their age as may shew thee not rigidly austere but loving and affable to them though this seem inconvenient to those who have no experience of parents affection because no children which Agesilaus knew when by a friend suddenly coming in he was found riding with his children on a reed he prayed him not to report it till hee had children of his own love them next Christ not above him suffer them not to dishonor him neither give them liberty or opportunity to any evil â—inah's idle visits brought home shame danger and dishonor to her fathers family 6. Be not bitter to them lest thou discourage them provoke them not to anger lest it break out to some desperate disobedience use thy children to doe well rather for love then fear of their own accord rather then others fear or compulsion he that is inured to obey for love will not be afraid to communicate his counsels and to be advised by his parents without which he may unhappily follow his own or others to destruction 7. Correct thy children in love and wisedom so that it may appeare that thou art angry with their faults not them Hee that spareth his 〈◊〉 hateth his son but hee that loveth him chastenoth him betimes Thou shalt beat him with the rod and shalt deliver his soule from hell Foolishnesse is bound up in the heart of a childe but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him An horse not broken becometh head-strong and a childe left to himselfe will be wilful all extreams are dangerous there may be an unnatural severity in correction if it exceed in measure Seleucus is famous for his justice on his adulterous son but more for his love in putting out one of his own eies to satisfie the law that he might thereby spare one of his sonnes eies Junius Brutus punishing his sonnes ambition with death put off the natural affection of a father that he might act the Consul It was nothing lesse then impious severity of Manlius Torquatus taking away his sonnes life therein more valuing the Majesty of empire then the lawes of nature nor fatherly piety most detestable was Herod's cruelty who enraged by suspicion murdered his sons Aristobulus and Alexander with others Augustus censured so farre well I had rather be said hee Herods hogge then his son such prodigies perhaps might now be found but for feare of humane lawes I deny not but that sonnes may give cause of disinheriting but an implacable anger of the parent perhaps like Saul's with Jonathan for transgression of some foolish ordinance of his owne not regarding God's law nor his ordinance and assignment of the right of primogeniture is a dangerous sign of astorgie and want of natural affection which mediating there is an easier work in the world then reconciliation of an exorbitant sonne to an offended father which that prudent Tekoïte found in her mediating between David and Absolom The other extream is that which some mothers are guilty of when they hide or excuse their childrens sinnes and therein are abetters when they expresse delight in or consent to their childrens vices they doe but with those impious mothers who woont to sacrifice their children to the devil sing lullabies as they cast them into the fire that they might not offer a weeping sacrifice The summe is spare not thy childrens faults but love their persons in correcting ballance anger with wisedome that thou maist correct not make them worse 8. Keepe power in thy hands to restrain thy children and hold them in obedience as the wise man counselleth Give not thy sonne power over thee while thou livest better is it that thy children should seek to thee then that thou shouldst stand to their courtesie Love commonly descendeth but rarely ascendeth It hath been the ruine of many a childe that he had an estate made over to him without wisedome to manage it or himself when those young Phaëtons rule the day destruction cometh before night 9. Let not thy childe see any evil example in thee a thousand good precepts teach not so much as one evil example domestick examples are the most pernicious perswaders to vice and soonest corrupt specially when children have such authors as they love and hold sacred
death from the power of sin the snares of Satan the world and the flesh heare the voice of their praiers when they cry unto thee helpe them against all their enemies blesse their substance and accept the worke of their hands be thou ever their refuge and save them Thou who dividest the earth among the sonnes of men whose providence descendeth unto the feeding and preserving the poorest of thy creatures feed them with bread of their stature thou who encreasedst the oile and the meale so that it failed not in all the famine whether it be much or little which thou shalt be pleased to give them let thy blessing be with it that in every estate they may faithfully depend on thy gracious providence which never faileth them that trust in thee and finde such a sufficiency therein that they may live cheerfully and contentedly that they may never want that which thou knowest necessary and comfortable for their bodies and soules Lord give them hearts faithfully to seek thy kingdome and the righteousnesse thereof that all these things may be administred unto them O Lord God who hast promised to be a father of the fatherlesse who hast planted thine owne image of love and compassion in the hearts of parents towards their children heare the praiers of a poore father for his children and deny not the requests of my lips when thou shalt be pleased to take me from them leave them not destitute shew thy selfe their keeper directer and counseller that they may never swerve from thy commandements as thou hast shewed me mercy and compassion all my daies so holy father let not thy mercy depart from them but keep them in thy faith fear and love that as thy providence hath brought us together in this family so when this mortal life shall be ended we may by thy mercy all happily meet in the eternal communion of Saints in thy kingdome of glory through Jesus Christ our Lord and onely Saviour AMEN 1. The crown of the aged is children and the duety of children toward their parents is honor reverence fear obedience gratitude châ—erishing them in their age love and patience all this is comprehended in the fifth precept of Gods law honour thy father and thy mother who are comprehended under these titles I have already shewed I have here to speak of duety to parents 2. These rules of practice are hereto observable for the guidance of those children which feare the Lord and expect the promise their made to the obedient 1. Honor thy father and mother it is Gods expresse command and a dictate of nataâ—e this importeth reverence in thy bodily gesture before them as King Solomon rose upto meet his mother Bath-sheba and bowed himself vnto her as Moses went out to meet his father in law and did obeisance reverence in thy speech toward them and thy behaviour before them that it be not rude and such as becometh not the presence of those whom God will have honored as his vicegerents in the family So saith the Apostle Wee have had fathers of the flesh and wee gave them reverence none but a cursed Cham will behave himselfe unreverently before his father or mother or any waies tell or discover their failings to discredit or dishonor them but will goe with blessed Shem and Japhet with the vaile of discreet piety to conceale them Glory not in the dishonor of thy father saith the sonne of Sirach for thy fathers dishonor is no glory unto thee for the glory of a man is from the honor of his father and a mother in dishonor is a reproach to the children When God commanded Israel to be holy hee thus beginneth Ye shall fear every man his mother and father here indeed religion beginneth toward those whom God hath set in his own room on earth to nourish and give lawes to them and to receive their first tribute of obedience due to him by them there is little hope of it when it here blasteth in the bud the breach of this law carrying a fearefull curse with it as being a sinne against God and nature therefore the heathen Decius when he was offered the imperial crown refused it saying I fear lest being made an Emperour I should forget to be a sonne I had rather be a dutiful son then an Emperour let my father rule my Empire is to obey 2. Obey thy parents in all things not prohibited by God Hearken unto thy father that begat thee Forsake not the law of thy mother Children obey your parents in all things 3. Patiently beare their infirmities where age maketh them pettish where they erre not gain-saying or answering againe contend not irreverently with them though thou art in the right when they are angry with thee overcome that anger with patience 4. Be such to thy parents as thou wouldst have thy children to thee commonly it will be so an evil sonne seldom proveth an happy father Whoso honoreth his father shall have joy of his own children but as God rewardeth the duety of children according to his promise so will he their impiety and disobedience according to his justice because hee is true in both all sinnes have their severe punishments following them and when God's justice is most slow it is most sure but there are some sins which are more destructive to humane society which God the preserver thereof usually punisheth in this life that hee may deterre men from committing them so it is observable that cruelty oppression and murder seldome goe unpunished here but most closely acted sometimes they are discovered by extraordinary meanes and disobedience to parents may hence appeare odious to God and man that it is commonly punished by the like deportments of their children an example thereof is commonly found in every family of the disobedient O Sonne cryed the father beaten and dragged out of doors by the haire of the head draw mee no further for thus farre I drew my father 5. Love thy parents tenderly though the reflexes of this love are not so strong yet doe them all the good thou canst love them next after Christ above him thou maiest not No man can requite his parents and teachers yet shew thy love and gratitude to them if they want nourish them so did good Joseph so tender ought thy care to be of them that it should be thy grief if thou do any waies grieve them My son help thy father in his age and grieve him not as long as he liveth Thou must be cheerful to them not violate this piety so much as with an ill looke A necessary document for those prodigals which will not be warned from ryot and lewd company until they bring their parents hoary head with sorrow to the grave and necessity bring them home in rags as also to the profane Esaus whose impious matches are a griefe of minde unto Isaac and make
God into its own bitter relish and humility not to bee prowd of beauty youth strength subject to so many diseases as pose art it selfe and overcome the old remedies with accession of new sicknesses so that it is true Bodily infirmities stir up the vigor of the minde and transmit the strength of body into it so that it is a kinde of health sometimes to be unhealthy diseases overcomming the body the soule overcommeth sinne sicknesse is an harbinger or quartermaster to death the monitor of our ends approaching and that which taketh off the bewitching love of this world the historians tell us of a kinde of fire which rageth the more by how much more water thou castest on it is quenched only by casting on of dust it may bee true in the morall for such a kind of heat is there in the love of the world the more thou givest it the more thou inâ—lamest it it is quenched only with the dust of the grave and that which bringeth thereto The life of man is like a lovely rivers streame neere the rising set with flowrie bancks plants houses pleasant walkes gardens sweet meddowes and delightfull seats but if you follow it toward the end you shall â—inde it more and more troublesome stormy deepe dangerous and so engulâ—ing into bitternesse as the Lord permitted Israël to bitter pressures in Egypt that they might more willingly depart thence toward the promised rest so is it here the healthy and prosperous say in their hearts as the Reubenites and Gadites Numb 32. 5. when they saw the pleasant Jazer and the fruitfull Gilead if we have found grace in thy sight let this land be given unto thy servants for a possession they would not goe hence now God though he give us sweet comforts in the first fruits of his spirit like clusters from Escol Deut. 1. 24. 25. yet he embittereth our worldly delights our places of pleasure are toucht with some griefe our beds of rest become places of sicknesse and death Eden was the theatre for mans first tragoedie Christ began his passion in a garden the easterne people made their sepulchres in gardens to teach them what may and must come of their pleasures Sicknesse maketh the prudent loath sinne in the sense of the bitter effects thereof the victories of sinne are destructive if they are againe intangled therein and overcome the latter end is worse with them then the beginning as it was said in the name of those white sacrifices which Marcus Caesar used to offer in his triumphs if thou overcommest we perish we truely may say of sin happy affliction therefore which maketh us out of love with that which cannot destroy except it overcome nor overcome except we love it Sicknesse awaketh us from security except we are like those sleepy beares which cannot be awaked no not with wounds and stirreth them up to seek the Lord as hee saith in their affliction they will seeke me early Though wicked Asa in his great sicknesse sought not to the Lord Yet to the Saints sicknesse is a sweet enditer of prayers as it is written in the day of my trouble I will call upon thee for thou wilt heare me How many men for bodily sicknesse were brought to Christ and had their soules cured who being in health lived in unbeleefe before Terrour of conscience oppression poverty and sicknesse are profitable for the elect in that they serve like those foure bearers of the paralyticall man to bring them to Christ. That thou maist therefore make a right use of thy sicknesse observe these rules 1. Search thy heart and turne unto the Lord in serious repentance make thy peace with him quickly considering the cause of thy sicknesse thy sinnes judge and condemne thy selfe for them that God may acquit thee and render unto the Lord that for which he delivereth thee if thou recover 2 Set thy house in order and dispose of thy estate which God hath given thee if thou have not before done it 3 Use the help of the learned Physitian but rely on God for the blessing on the meanes there are divers pernitious errours in this case to be avoided some to their losse neglect all meanes these betray their own lives undervallew Gods favours and despise his ordinance in the good creatures made for the reliefe and recovery of the sick and the Physitian who is to be honoured some trust too much to second causes neglecting the first so did Asa some seeke to evill and unlawfull meanes Witches Charmers c. so Ahaziah sent to Baal-zebub the idol of Ekron some as fâ—olish if not so wicked seeke to the unskilfull and ignorant trusting a pretious life into the hands of those who without learning or calling are many times venterous murderers as if God were not the God of wisdome and what wonder seeing upon the like hazard they venture their immortall soule 4 Watch and pray as in all estates so specially in this that as God hath given thee this warning to prepare thee to meet him so that he would sit thee for himselfe and so sanctifie thy trialls that they may better thee and make thee ready for his kingdome that he would restore thy health and give thee an heart to make a more thankfull prudent and holy use thereof then thou hast formerly dore to give thee patience masure thy trials in mercy proportion thy strength to the affliction and to keep thee in life and death as one of his 5 Endeavour what humane infirmitie will permit to beare patiently not stupidly but in confidence of Gods mercy For 1. Impatience is but an accession to thy griefe so much worse then the disease as the soule is better then the body and the distempers thereof more dangerous then the bodily 2. All that we now can suffer commeth inâ—initely short of that we shall enjoy in Christ. 3. God can if he see it best deliver us from the greatest dangers 4. He will lay no more upon us then he will make us able to beare and give and issue out of every triall 5. Our sufferings if with patience are to his glory as Christ said of some 6. We must through many trials enter into glory 7. Christ is toucht with a feeling of our misery 8. These afflictions are but trialls and exercises of our faith and patience 9. Christ suffered inâ—initely more for thee 10. Many of the Saints have suffered long infirmities 11. As this earthly house of this tabernacle must by little and little be destroyed so must our afflictions therein have an end so that they cannot last long it is of excellent use to patience or moderation to consider well in all temporall interest how long we can suffer or enjoy 12. Sicknesse is the soules physick nothing will amend him whom sicknesse cannot we endure hard things patiently for the cure of the body and what is the health
thee away in thy daily sinnes will like a tender father pitty thee when thou art not able to pray he will remember what thou hast prayed yea what Christ Jesus sitting at his right hand then speaketh for thee when thou hast most need of a mediator when stupified with paines of approaching death thou canst not utter one word for thy selfe then hee will open the heavens to thee and give thee a cleere sight of those joyes as he did S. Stephen then will he give his holy Angells charge over thee to receive thy soule breathed out of thy gasping body to convey it to his gratious and ever blessed presence This world is full of labour sorrow misery there 's no rest here heaven is the arke to which the tired dove the holy soule returneth for rest the morall men seemed to know it who placed their Temple of rest without the gate of Agony How much more must we who beleeve that we shall live eternally with Christ who shall come to save and give us life in death Even so come Lord Jesus AMEN A Prayer for him who hath recieved the sentence of death in himselfe O Lord God almighty preserver of man father of the spirits of the just God of all true consolation the hope of Israel and deliverer thereof in the day of trouble who givest a gratious eare to the afflicted faithfully calling on thee through him whom thou hast appointed to be the only mediator betweene thee and Wretched man Christ Jesus the righteous I humbly acknowledge that I have nothing of my selfe to present unto thy Majestie but confession of mine owne vilenesse nothing in my sinfull flesh but corruption matter of severe judgement to thee who art a God of pure eies and argument of terrour and despaire to my selfe most impure in sinne was I conceived and borne a child of wrath and disobedience my whole life hath abounded with that which bringeth forth fruit only unto death I have not done the good which thy sanctifying spirit made me willing to doe the evill that I would not I have done I have not rendred unto thee according to thy goodnesse when I would summe up my sins they so much exceed all numbers that my heart faileth mee my conscience telleth me of my wilfull neglects of thy service and disobedience to thy word concluding my whole life no better then sinfull but how many waies I have offended thee when I observed not thou only knowest how many are the failings which though I through spirituall blindnesse and carnall security have not observed that I might judge and condemne my selfe for them thereby to prevent thy severe judgement shall yet by no meanes escape thy strict examination and now O Lord what can I more doe then humbly beg thy pardon condemne my selfe renounce all confidence in the world and plead only thy mercy and the merits of thy sonne Jesus for my justification Lord looke upon me through him in whom thou art well pleased Nothing can be past or future to thy eternall wisdome look therefore on his bleeding wounds who did not in vaine dye for me let thy justice be satisfied in his obedience and suffering for all my sins And now O Lord seeing according to thy sentence on all mankind the time of my departure hence draweth high I humbly acknowledge this fraile condition to be the due wages of sinne which brought mortality into the world but thou who didst put thine owne image on me hast not made me for so short a life only as thou givest unto the beasts which perish thou hast no need of my miserie nor advantage in my destruction nor could so inestimable a price of my redemption as the blood of thy holy sonne Jesus be given for that which thou wouldst have perish eternally He must surely live for whom the resurrection and the life of Christ Jesus died Lord therefore seale up my redemption in my afflicted heart now that the Bride is neere send those holy comforters faith and assurance of thy mercy to adorne his own temple to lift up the everlasting doores of my soule that the king of glory and Lord of life may come in and change my vaine love of the world to love of heaven who will change my vile body that it may be like his own glorious body let me hence forth live his life no more mine own assured thereby of the repaire of mine inward man to a joyfull resurrection and life of glory that he may be to me in life and death advantage that in full confidence of my union with and interest in him I may be willing to bee dissolved that I may be with him O holy Saviour who hast through death abolished death and him that had the power thereof take from me all carnall feare by bringing life and immortality to light unto my conscience thou that hast in thy hands the keyes of death and hell restraine the tempters malice and mischievous charges of my sinne-wounded soule make me faithfull unto the death and assure mee of the crowne of righteousnesse laid up for all that love thy appearing Raise me now to the life of grace that the second death may not touch mee And though thou bring this fraile flesh to the dust of the earth yet let not death have dominion over me Though it must to the appointed time separate my soule from this decaying tabernacle of clay let neither life nor death things present nor future seperate my soule from thee and thy Christ. I acknowledge thy mercy who justly mightest have taken me away in my sins by some sodaine and untimely death or set me who am by sinne a sonne of death in the condition of those who in horrour of a restlesse conscience and bitternesse of spirit seeke death and cannot finde it but O good God whose eye is upon them that feare thee to deliver their soules from death in whose hands are the issues thereof seeing thou hast thus long spared me now accomplish thy mercy in me be thou my God for ever and my guide unto my end and comfort in my end now when my heart trembleth in me the terrours of death are fallne upon me give me the long expected fruits of my hopes proposed to me in thy word O blessed Jesus who art the death of death now shew thy selfe my Saviour take from my afflicted soule the sting of death assure me of victory loose the paines allay the feare and sorrowes and sweeten the bitternesse of death untill in my enjoying thy presence it be swallowed up in victory O holy Saviour who hast had experience of all our miseries for sin wiâ—hout sin and hast admitted us to be baptized into the similitude of thy death and resurrection let me now feele in my languishing soule the power thereof O Christ whose humane soule in thy passion for my redemption was heavy to the death now mercifully consider my infirmitie who am going the way of all flesh now give
Lord said he gave and the Lord hath taken away blessed be the name of the Lord the Holy Ghost thus testifieth in all this Job sinned not Happy Job to come off with that honour and happy they who imitate that invincible patience in their sufferings Now God heareth not the impatient they are evill they are by every condition made worse being authors of their own misery for as much as they make their own burthens intollerable by striving under that which no violence can cast off they become Satans captives serving in their frâ—tfull impatience only to adorne his triumphs and scornes to men who can no lesse then deride if not loath that morosity and peevish waywardnesse which causeth the impatient malecontent neither to enjoy friends nor himselfe an example whereof we have in that mirrour of impatience Diogenes surnamed the Cynick or dogged as in many of his actions and words so in his reply to Alexander the Great who gratiously asking him if he lacked any thing received this answer yea I doe stand out of my light and in that whether to professe himselfe a devoted servant to his own passions or to make claime to an equall capacity and right of contemning his friends greatnesse as much as he slighted his poverty he would rather dwell in a Tubbe then expect the delayed benificâ—nce of him that promised to build him an Howse certainly his impatience therein disadvantaged him 3. Consider that secular aâ—â—lictions cannot be long if all the world Men and Devills conspired to vex and inâ—ure thee they could not long make thee an object of their fury and malice as it was said when Caesar had shut up Cato by Land and Sea yet habet quâ exeat Cato he meant by death on much better ground standeth the Saints comfort who heareth yee have neâ—d of patience that after yee have done the will of God yee might receive the promise for yet a very little while and he that shall come will come and will not â—arry blessed are they who with meeknesse and patient confidence expect him be therefore patient stablish your hearts for the comming of the Lord draweth nigh heavinesse may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning however the longest day must have an end and the most tedious misery of the patient Saint shall have an happy one 4. Consider the extent of that thou sufferest thou art hated without cause thou owest thanks to God for that conformity to his dear Son thou art oppressed plundered imprisoned banished but yet thou hast not resisted unto blood thou are an enrowled Souldier under the banner of Christ in whom beleeving and patiently bearing tryall thou canst not miscarry and dost thou startle at those charges wherein thy life is not yet endangered what if the heavenly Generall chose thee out for one of the Forlorne hope of Martyrdome and the fiery tryall wouldest thou decline the service or complaine of danger 5. Consider that nothing is befallen you but that which Is humane and a condition common to many Paulus Aemilius well observed in his sodaine victory over Perseus thaâ— there is nothing constant in this world dost thou in the losse of some secular comfort cry with that afflicted Church behold and see if there be any sorrow like unto my sorrow if it be any comfort to have partners in woe consider well what thousands of others suffer as he said who to comfort an embittered friend as they beheld a populous Citty from the howse top how many sad hearts and weeping eyes are now under these roofes thou art not alone in suffering 6. Consider that many of Gods dearest children far better then thou suffer more then thou yee have heard of the patience of Job and therein the issue of patience God delivered him to Satan Behold hee is in thine hand yet all that the Devil could doe against him made him more happy whom God pronounced righteous God knoweth the strength of his who giveth it If Saul would not have permitted David to an unequall conflict shall wee think the Lord of hosts will give any of his deere children to adversaries or hazzards beyond certainty of conquest that hee will venture thee into the lists may assure thee that he who cannot be deceived knoweth thee invincible through his grace arming thee hee looketh on thy trialls with delight because thereto hee will proportion the reward who loveth thee Be not deceived they are not wretched who suffer most 't is honour to conquer with wounds these flowers grow among sharp difficulties skarrs are Honors characters written in the face and breast of the valiaut 7. Consider what thou deservest and thou shalt finde good cause to blesse the Lord that afflicteth thee no more consider what caused the evil of which thou art impatient as if thou deservedst no good no man is so miserable as wicked 8. Consider the issue of afflictions and the end why God afflicteth thee the Physician giveth not bitter pills nor doth the Chirurgian use the lancet and cauterie to hurt but to cure the disaffected much lesse doth God delight in thy griefe hee maketh thee weep now to prevent eternall weeping hee loveth not thy misery but thy health that hee prescribeth such bitter things that so long thy disease requireth it if more gentle Physick would have cured thee hee would not have been so grievous to thee if lesse hee would sooner ease thee hee will not put in one dramme or scruple more then hee knoweth necessary be patient therefore and expect the issue What doe not patients endure under Physicians hands promising uncertain help how much rather ought we to subject our selves to God when did he faile of his promise I but saiest thou I cry to him for help and he heareth not It is Gods mercy not to hear thee according to thy will that hee may doe that which is for thy salvation so good Physicians deale with their patients seeing then calamity is often the discipline of vertue shall he be queazy stomacht to the antidote who greedily swallowed the poison 9. All impatience hath it natals in the devill who laboureth by all meanes to embitter the soule of man and to plâ—nge him into despaire and to make him murmur at the taste of these Marahs of affliction because hee envieth the image of God in him and his favours to him strive therefore to calme thy minde in every affliction which that thou maist the better do observe these rules 1. Love God above all and thou shalt not be disconâ—ented with any thing he doth It is the Lord said Eli let him doe what seemeth him good When wee love God aright we will know that all his judgements are just and what ever he layeth on us fatherly corrections the effects of his love and wisedome for our amendment who therefore correcteth every son because he would have none perish He that
loveth his pleasure profit ease more then God must needs be impatient of the loss of any of these And love thy neighbour as thy selfe and a little injury shall not make thee impatient 2. Be content with necessaries having food and raiment let us be therewith content what can the treasures of Princes give them more It was a prudent speech of that Indian King Taxiles to the invading Alexander what should wee need said hee to fight and make warre one with another if thou comest not to take away our water and our necessaries by which wee must live as for other goods if I be richer then thou I am ready to give thee of mine and if I have lesse I will not think scorn to thank thee if thou wilt give mee some of thine How happy were the societies of men if all were so composed 3. Often and thankfully recount what God hath done and doth for thee foolish men by their impatience causing them to oversee their own happy estates make something nothing and blessings curses to themselves 't is the part of a foole rather to mourn for that he looseth then to rejoyce for that is left him because therein joy is better then sorrow such mark what they have not not what they have beyond many thousands better then they because wiser and more thankful They think they must be humoured with all sweet but nothing bitter Thou speakest as one of the foolish women said Job to his wife tempting him what shall wee receive good at the hands of God and shall wee not receive evill 4. In all discontents looke up to Jesus the author and finisher of our faith considering what and why he suffered he suffered that which thou couldst not not for himself he had no sinne but to save thee if thou canst through faith in him have peace with God thou shalt not only beare but rejoice in tribulation knowing that it worketh patience if thou wilt keep innocency and a good conscience therein thou shalt have admirable peace in thy minde which shall quiet it amidst tumults of things externall but as a city in sedition or house in discord of the owners cannot be happy so neither can the minde at discord with it selfe 5. Keep thee within the verge of thy calling undertake not neither propose to thy selfe things too great for thy mannaging Overgriping thy hand enervateth it and puteth it to fruitless pain aiming at too ambitious leaps breaks many an heart where they fall short of their vaine propositions 6. Resolve as to use fulnesse if God please to give it to his glory so in case he restraineth to lessen thy minde to live within the shell of thine own fortune to necessity not opinion to that a little is sufficient to this nothing when the Philosopher in his journey drank water with his hand he cryed With how few uâ—encills is nature content Many are selfetormenters authors of their own sad discontents by their proposing such strange fabricks of their Babels building castles in the aire and towers to heaven adding house to house and land to land province to province and kingdome to kingdom seeking their chiefe good in the dangerous proceeds of doubtfull adventurers greatnesse and aâ—â—luence of riches they goe farre about to finde that which is safely and only to be found at home in our selves in a minde contented with that it hath It was noted of Pyrâ—hus that active Epirot that Fortune made him happy enough with good means to live peaceably at home without any trouble if hee could have contented himselfe onely with the soveraignty over his own subjects but his insatiable avarice which neither the sea mountaines unhabitable deserts nor the confines which separate Asia from Europe could limit instigated him perpetually to seeke new matter of trouble to himselfe and others which his faithfull friend Cineas did once prudently though without effect intimate to him when upon new overtures of honorable and profitable undertakings for the Tarentines occasioned by Cineas quaeres Pyrrhus had said when we have overcome the Romans there can neither Greâ—ian nor Barbarous city in all the countrey withstand us but we shall conquer all the rest of Italie with ease and what shall we do then said Cineas Pyrrhus telleth him of conquering of commodious Sicily again he demanded that being wone shall our wars end Pyrrhus saith the way were then broad open to attaine great conquests who would not afterward goe into Africk and so to Carthage but when wee have all in our hands said Cineas what shall we do in the end we will then good Cineas said hee be quiet and take our ease make feasts every day and be as merry one with another as we can possibly Cineas having brought him to that point said to him My Lord what letteh us now to be quiet and merry together sith wee enjoy that presently without farther travell and trouble which we will now goe seek for abroad with such sheeding of blood and so manifest danger and we know not whether wee ever shall attaine unto it after we have both suffered and caused others to suffer infinite sorrows and troubles 7. Learne a faithfull dependance on Gods providence this ground of content the holy Ghost proposeth Let your conversation be without covetousnesse and be content with such things as yee have for hee hath said I will never leave thee nor for sake thee when men too much depend on second causes they are impatient at every crosse they would impiously prescribe God in the time as Jehoram would 2 King 6. 33. and rebellious Israel Exod. 32. 1. or in the meanes as Naman 2 King 5. 11. but in assurance that God will never faile us wee patiently expect his help In every affliction remember that God beholdeth thee and that his providence will give the issue with the triall 8. Often call to minde in case of discontent for thy wants what thou brought'st into the world and what thou shalt carry hence thou hast not such possessions houses riches apparrell as some have yet no man liveth so poor as he was born this was it which that Exemplar of patience said in all his losses Naked came I into this world and naked shall I return so Paul makes it a ground of his exhortation to contentednesse Wee brought nothing into this world and it is certain we shall carry nothing hence Kings and Princes are cast out naked in the day of their nativity weeping little masters of the world The great Saladine will tell you what they carry hence who willed that at his funerals one carrying a shirt or winding sheet on the point of an advanced lance should goe before the herse and proclaim thus Saladine the conquerour of the East carrieth hence with him only this of all that hee hath gotten 9. Feed not the bitter humour of discontents for the groweths thereof are sad and dangerous Give