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it_o prove_v a_o mere_a idol_n of_o fancy_n nothing_o in_o all_o the_o world_n the_o lord_n indeed_o appoint_v a_o trial_n for_o the_o jealous_a man_n against_o his_o wife_n but_o we_o must_v not_o conceive_v this_o be_v to_o breed_v or_o nourish_v causeless_a conceit_n it_o be_v no_o doubt_n first_o bring_v to_o the_o judge_n in_o criminal_a cause_n to_o determine_v what_o the_o matter_n be_v and_o as_o our_o inquest_n do_v to_o cut_v off_o all_o mere_a surmise_n else_o what_o a_o bondage_n have_v it_o be_v for_o a_o wife_n to_o be_v so_o hurry_v and_o defame_v and_o although_o it_o be_v true_a that_o for_o the_o hardness_n of_o their_o heart_n the_o lord_n permit_v more_o liberty_n to_o man_n at_o that_o time_n be_v sturdy_a and_o rebellious_a shall_v that_o be_v any_o encouragement_n now_o to_o christian_n to_o nourish_v such_o trash_n in_o themselves_o to_o make_v their_o spirit_n their_o prayer_n their_o whole_a life_n sad_a and_o miserable_a to_o themselves_o and_o to_o be_v so_o embitter_v each_o against_o other_o that_o even_o when_o they_o will_v fain_o shake_v off_o their_o own_o conceit_n they_o shall_v not_o be_v able_a i_o say_v no_o more_o of_o this_o elf_n of_o causeless_a jealousy_n but_o this_o for_o the_o party_n sin_v no_o man_n shall_v need_v to_o wish_v his_o great_a torment_n than_o himself_o have_v create_v to_o himself_o let_v he_o thank_v himself_o that_o his_o own_o sin_n have_v eat_v up_o the_o marrow_n of_o his_o bone_n the_o great_a pity_n be_v to_o the_o party_n innocent_a and_o sin_v against_o who_o be_v to_o be_v advise_v while_o there_o be_v any_o hope_n of_o recovery_n to_o strive_v by_o all_o caution_n and_o exact_a circumspection_n of_o carriage_n to_o tender_v the_o weakness_n of_o the_o other_o hope_v that_o love_n rather_o than_o anger_n have_v breed_v it_o party_n but_o by_o no_o mean_n disdain_v they_o and_o to_o walk_v loose_o under_o pretext_n of_o innocency_n but_o if_o the_o disease_n be_v so_o root_v that_o it_o will_v not_o be_v heal_v let_v they_o enjoy_v their_o uprightness_n for_o the_o way_n of_o god_n be_v strength_n to_o the_o upright_a as_o solomon_n say_v prov._n 10._o 29._o and_o not_o be_v dismay_v but_o look_v up_o to_o god_n who_o can_v clear_v their_o righteousness_n as_o the_o noon_n day_n and_o plead_v their_o cause_n against_o their_o oppressor_n join_v prayer_n to_o god_n to_o quit_v they_o according_o this_o i_o have_v say_v of_o injust_a jealousy_n as_o for_o that_o which_o be_v just_a i_o say_v as_o much_o against_o the_o guilty_a party_n wish_v the_o law_n be_v as_o strong_a now_o as_o it_o have_v former_o be_v against_o all_o violater_n of_o this_o sacred_a knot_n and_o for_o this_o branch_n so_o much_o i_o have_v here_o purpose_v to_o insert_v some_o other_o watchworde_n and_o direction_n but_o i_o consider_v that_o in_o the_o latter_a part_n of_o this_o treatise_n more_o full_a occasion_n will_v be_v give_v of_o this_o argument_n so_o much_o therefore_o shall_v serve_v for_o this_o chapter_n chap._n ix_o contain_v the_o description_n of_o the_o 4._o last_o joint_n duty_n of_o the_o marry_a viz._n consent_n the_o four_o and_o last_o duty_n equal_o concern_v both_o party_n marry_v be_v consent_n consent_v and_o harmony_n of_o course_n each_o to_o another_o both_o the_o former_a of_o chastity_n and_o this_o do_v grow_v as_o spring_v from_o the_o stock_n of_o love_n the_o former_a in_o the_o body_n this_o latter_a in_o the_o life_n of_o both_o for_o this_o i_o will_v have_v the_o reader_n conceive_v that_o the_o former_a of_o love_n and_o this_o of_o consent_n do_v not_o differ_v save_v as_o the_o root_n and_o the_o branch_n the_o cause_n and_o the_o effect_n love_n be_v the_o noble_a groundwork_n this_o the_o sweet_a building_n
thereof_o it_o be_v a_o honour_n to_o a_o house_n to_o be_v frequent_v by_o the_o great_a and_o honourable_a how_o much_o more_o when_o the_o lord_n of_o heaven_n and_o earth_n shall_v condescend_v to_o dwell_v in_o our_o house_n to_o come_v in_o to_o sit_v and_o sup_v with_o we_o who_o shall_v he_o soon_o do_v so_o unto_o then_o to_o the_o peaceable_a and_o consent_v we_o know_v that_o old_a maxim_n of_o machiavelli_n if_o thou_o will_v reign_v divide_v and_o our_o saviour_n affirm_v it_o if_o satan_n cast_v out_o satan_n 26._o how_o shall_v his_o kingdom_n endure_v no_o sure_o satan_n must_v cast_v out_o unity_n and_o amity_n if_o he_o mean_v to_o reign_v that_o he_o may_v bring_v in_o hellish_a discord_n and_o confusion_n even_o so_o if_o god_n will_v reign_v he_o must_v cast_v out_o satan_n that_o he_o may_v bring_v in_o union_n and_o consent_n between_o couple_n there_o be_v no_o agreement_n 15._o betwixt_o christ_n and_o belial_n light_n and_o darkness_n then_o and_o never_o 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