they are beset with Thorns If we take Love universally it may be defined to be a desire as being a Word of more ample Signification It is a voluntary affection and desires to enjoy that which is good whilst desire only wisheth Love enjoys the end of the one being the beginning of the other the thing loved is present and the thing desired is absent and indeed all that may be termed Love arises from a desire of what is Beautiful Fair and Lovely and is defin'd to be an Action of the Mind desiring that which is good and exerts a Soveraignty over all other Passions and defines it an appetite in which some good is earnestly desired by us to be present or as some will have it it is a Delectation of the Heart for somewhat that we are desirous to win or rejoice to have coveting by desire that rests is Joy Love varies in its Object though that Object is always good amiable gracious and pleasant and indeed there is a Native tendency of desire to those things that are so for no one Loves before he is in some measure delighted with Comliness and Beauty let the Object be what it will and as the fair Object varies so frequently Love varies for indeed every thing that we do Love we think at that time to be amiable by which means it becomes gracious in our Eyes and commands a value and esteem in our Affections Love has always amiableness for its Object and the scope and end of it is to obtain it for whole sake we so Love and the which our Mind covets to enjoy Beauty shining by Reason of it's splendor that shining Creates Admiration and the more earnestly the Object is sought the fairer it appears If we take Plato's rule to define it he tells us that Beauty is a lively shining or glittering brightness resulting from effused good by Ideas Seeds Reasons Shaddows exciting our Minds to be united by this good and centring in one by setting a just value upon what is good some again give their Opinions the Beauty is the Perfection of the whole Composition caused out of the congruous Symmetry order measure and manner of parts and the comeliness proceeding from such Beauty is styled Grace and from thence all fair and beautiful things are accounted gracious for Grace and Beauty being mysteriously annexed gently and sweetly win upon our Souls so strongly alluring our Affections that our Judgments are confounded and cannot distinguish aright for these two are like the radiant Beams of the Sun which are divers as they proceed from the diverse objects in pleasing and affecting our several Senses for the species of Beauty taken in at our Eyes and Ears is conveyed to and stamp'd upon the Soul and of all these Objects though so innumerably various beautiful Women are the most attractive as to material beings which caused the Ancients to allow Venus the Queen of Beauty three of the Graces to attend her Love is divided by Plato into good and evil or a good and bad Angel because sometimes Love is misused and corrupted till it degenerate to evil ends and Lucian in like manner says that one Love was born in the Sea meaning Venus who is said to spring from thence and therefore is as various and raging in the Breasts of the younger sort as the Sea it self occasioning Fury and unlawful Lust and that the other is that which was let down in a golden Chain from Heaven ravishing our Souls with a Divine Fury and stirs us up to comprehend the innate and incorruptible Beauty to which once we were created which Opinions occasioned these verses If Divine Plato's tenents are found true Two Venus's two kinds of Love there be The one from Heaven in its bright Radiance flew The other sprung out of the boisterous Sea One knits our Souls in perfect Unity The other famous over all the Earth Yoo often soars on Wings of Vanity And gives wild random projects still new Birth Love in her twofold Division is allowed by Origen and others and there is degrees of Love in all Creatures even in the coldest Element Love generates a kindly heat to support it self and some will allow even Vegetives to have some sense and feeling of Love as that the Male and Female Palm-trees will not bear nor flourish asunder and many other the like Relations The Loadstone by a wonderful Sympathy attracts the Iron c. the Vine and the Elm are best pleased with each other and there is a great an Antiphathy between the Vine and the Bay-tree the Olive and Mirtle if they grow near embrace each other in their Roots and Branches we might mention the Sympathy and Antipathy of fundry irrational Creatures but being little to our purpose we omit them Those things as we have already hinted that infascinate and charm the Soul are the proper Objects of Love and where we place our entire Affections there our Heart not only Centers but our Diligence and care is to serve and oblige and are pleased and delighted in so doing but when we fix an immoderate Eye on my Earthly thing and doat on it over much it many times instead of Pleasure turns to Pain and Sorrow works our Discontent and causes Melancholly so that nothing in the end can afford us any Pleasure or Delight to the Purpose as too many have found by sad Experience for setting their Hearts on things of which they have been deprived or disappointed has Crazed their Senses and rendred them Melancholly past Recovery if not Distracted whilst some are mightily taken with fair Houses Pictures and 〈◊〉 Recreations others find â—o delight in them but fix their 〈◊〉 upon other Objects as Gold Silver Jewels c. and other upon fair and beautiful Women and so every one hath his proper Object with which he is best pleased some are for chast Love which is above all the best others are not pleased with it but take a kind of a Pride in lascivious dalliance in the wanton embraces of a Harlot Love of Parents to Children and Children to Parents ought to be entire and unseigned free from mixture but this kind naturally descends but does not so well ascend for Poverty or Affliction many times jostles it out of doors but the Love of Women is the highest and most predominant the affected part herein is held to be the Liver and this sort of Love being most to our purpose we shall treat of it more largely in the next Head Love borrows its flame in this Case from Beauty or Merit wherewith it inflames the Soul and then as the Loadstone draws Iron so do's Beauty attract Love and where Beauty and Vertue unite their forces in one it is very hard to make Resistance the Lustre is so great that it dazles the Eyes of the beholder and through the Windows of his Body daâ—â—s those rays into his Soul that makes him pleased to become a Captive however it is dangerous to let loose the
is the old and the new and the greatest Commandment and indeed all the Commandments in Epitome for it is the fulfilling of the Law it does the work of all other Graces without any other assistance but it s own immediate Virtues for as the Love to Sin makes us sin against all our own Reason and all the dictates of Wisdom and all the advices of Virtuous Friends and without Temptation and without Opportunity so on the other hand does this Charity properly styl'd the Love of God in Divine Love which Love makes one Chaste without the Laborious Arts of Fasting and Exteriour Discipline Tempâ—rate in the midst of Feasts and is apt enough to chuse it with out any other intermedial Appetites and reaches at Glory through the very bosom oâ— Grace without any other Arms but those of Love 〈◊〉 is a Grace that loves God in himself and our Neighbor for God The Consideratioâ— of God's Goodness and Bounty The Experience of those pâ—â—â—rable and excellent Emanations from him may and 〈◊〉 commonly are the first Moâ—â— of our Love But we once bâ—â—ing enter'd and having tastâ—â— the Goodness of God we delight in and love the Spiriâ— for its own Pureness and Eâ—cellency passing from Passion to Reason from Thinking to Adoring from Sense to Spirit and from Considering our selves to an Union with God And this is the bright Image and Representation of Heaven it is Beatitude lively painted out of us or rather the infancy and beginning of Glory Consider then there is no Incentives needing by way of especial Enumeration to move us to the Love of God for we cannot Love any thing for any Reason real or imaginary but that Excellence is infinitely more Emminent in God If we rightly consider there can but two things create Love viz. Perfection and Usefulness to which on our part Answer First Admiration Secondly Desire and both of them are centur'd in Love viz. For the Entertainment of the former there is in God an Infinite Nature Immensity or Vastness without Extension or Limit Immutability Omniscience Omnipotence Eternity Holiness Dominion Providence Bounty Perfection in himself and the end to which all things and all Actions must be erected and will at last arrive the Consideration of which may be heightned if we well consider our distance from all those dazling Glories and Perfections viz. our smallness and limited Nature our Nothingness our Inconstancy our Age like a Span a Shadow a Vapour c. Our Weakness and Ignorance our Poverty our Inconsideration and Inadvertency our Disabilities and Dissatisfactions to do good c. Also our Necessities and Dependencies not only on God who is originally and essentially but even our need of the meanest of the Creatures he has made and our being obnoxious to the weakest and most Contemptible But for the Entertainment of the latter we must consider the Almighty as a Torrent of Pleasure the Fountain of Honour an inexhaustable Treasure and all that can be wish'd or desir'd of Joy and unspeakable Pleasures flow from him and therefore seeing our Vertues have such proper and desirable Objects it is highly reasonable that we should turn all into Love For certain it is this Divine Love will turn all into Virtue and give us here an earnest and taste of Heaven and hereafter Joys and Glorys Inexpressible Child when good its Character A good Child Reverenceth the Persons of its Parents though never so Poor Aged Decrepid or Insirm as his Parents bare with him when a Child so if he be grown up he beareth with his Parents If defective and feeble in his Understanding and become a second time a Child by Dotage he does not think that his Dignity above him can cancel his Duty to him So far from any such thought was the Wise and Learned Sir Thomas Moor that being Lord Chancellor of England in the Reign of Henry the Eighth his Father being then one of the King's-Bench he would always before he went to the Court of Chancery kneel in the publick Hall if he found him there and ask him Blessing a rare and singular Example of Duty and Humility in one whose Wisdom great Parts Estate and Office far exceeded those of his Parents The good Child observes his Parents lawful Commands and practiceth his Precepts with all Obedience and having practic'd them himself he Entails his Parents Precepts on his Posterity Therefore such Instructions are by the Wise Man Prov. 1.9 Compar'd to Frontlets and Chains not to a Suit of Cloaths which serves but one and quickly wears out of fashion but to those things that have in them a real and lasting Worth and may be transmitted from Generation to Generation The same Counsels observ'd are Chains to Grace but if neglected prove Cords to punish and afflict Undutiful Children The Good Child is patient under Correction not pining nor murmuring at it but rightly considers it is for his future good and advantage In Marriage he first and last Consults his Parents when propounded and concluded as knowing thereby he does wisely in acquitting himself of his Duty and is more assured of his own Happiness in the sound and solid Advice and Approbation of his Choice He always bowls best at the mark of his own Contentment who besides the aim of his own Eye is directed by a Parent who is to give him the Ground He is a Stork to those that brought him up and feeds them in their old Age of his Substance if they be destitute of wherewithal of their own however he is always at hand to protect them from Wrongs and Injuries He considers his Mother was a Pelican to him and fed him with her own Blood digested into Milk and if his Father has been an Estrich to him and neglected him in his Youth yet now is grown Poor and stands in need of his Assistance yet he confines him not along way off to a short Penâ—â—â— and forfeited too if he passes his appointed Bounds and Limits but he will shew pity at home and Learns as St. 〈◊〉 says 1. Tim. 5.4 To requâ—â— his Parents and yet the 〈◊〉 we mean only the Principal not counting the Interest cannot fully be paid and therfore he compounds with the utmost of his Endeavours which ought to be accepted in good part such Duty God is likewise highly pleas'd with and frequently rewards it with long Life in this World However if he misses length of Days which many times are the best yet he Lives long because he Lives well when time mispent and squander'd away is not liv'd but lost Moreover if his days be shorter than he expects yet God is better to him than his Promise if he takes from him along Lease on which he was forc'd to Toil and Labour hard to pay what was requir'd of him and gives him a Freehold of far greater value even an Eternal Inheritance freed from all Cares Doubts Fears mistrusts of losing or forfeiting Sorrows or Incumbrances a Portion worth more than all this Lower World
pleasing Gesture an affected Carriage shall be added it must of necessity be more forcible and charming than it was when those curious Needle-works variety of Colours purest Dyes Jewels Pendants Lawns Lace Tiffanies and fine Linnen Embroideries Calaminstrations Ointments and the like shall be added they will make homliest of the Sex seems as a soft Temptation to charm and infacinate Mankind though some will have native Beauty and indeed with those we agree where it is rare and illustriously Transcedent out-shine artificial Adornments as it is said of Cleopatra Queen of Egypt viz. The Wealth she wore about her seem'd to hide Not to Adorn her Native Beauty's Pride Tho there bright Pearls from the Or'ential shoars 〈◊〉 From all th' Assyrian Lakes and wealthy Stores Of Silver Ganges and Hydaspes shone From Egypts Eastern Isles the Gold like Stone And cheerful Emeraulds gather'd from the Green Arabian Rocks were in full splendor seen Pale Onyx Jasper of a various dye And Diamonds darken'd by her brighter Eye The Saphires blew by her more Azure Veins Hung not to boast but to confess their stains And blushing Rubies feem'd to lose their dye When her more Ruby Lips were moving by It seem'd so well became her what she wore She had not Robb'd at all the Creatures store But had been Nature's self there to have showd What she on Creatures cou'd or bad bestow'd Fashion and Meatness defended by another hand Faces when clouded by Poverty Carelesness or a kind of disregard cannot shine so bright in the Eyes of Lovers as when they are trick'd and trim'd up with all the sprucifying Advantages notwithstanding there is indeed something lovely in Beauty though in never so careless an Dress As an unpolish'd Diamond is a Diamond but the polishing sets a greater Lustre on it Daphnis says Lucan was a poor tatter'd Wench and was little regarded and so might always have continued in a kind of Obseurity had she not been industrious to get her gay Cloaths which allured so many Lovers that by their liberal Offering she soon become Rich and stately and had her Maids to wait on her And these Advantages she had by setting herself out after the best Fashion by her pleasant Carriage Affability and courteously smiling on her Spectators Fashion sets off mainly and if a Garment be never so Rich if out of the Fashion it is not esteem'd but rather despicable and occasions Laughter Men are not only admired by Men for their curious Dresses but even esteem ' d for them by many Women especially if there be added a Fanty Meen Complements and modish Behavior These advantages have instantly won some too credulous to believe lightly every wanton Suitor who thus accomplished makes Addresses of Love and when he presses hard to one she is instantly Inamour'd and doats and will surely Marry when as he means nothing less it being his ordinary Carriage in all such Companies and frequently both Sexes by their out-side shews are Deluders and themselves deluded and among other an upright comely Grace Courtesies gently Salutations a crindging and a mincing Gate a Pace decent and affected are most powerful Enticers and infensibly draw the Affections Fortune or Dower great Incitements to Love Fortune or Wealth is a great Temptation and now-a-days with many a more powerful Loadstone than Beauty though it seldom purchases a virtuous Cordial Love but rather that which is Arry and Heroical for many Men when they hear of a large Portion a rich Heiress could be content to take her without seeing her meerly for the sake of her Portion and are more mad though she be I 'll bred and deform'd for her or pretend to be so than if wanting a Portion she had all those beauteous Ornaments and those good Parts Art and Nature can afoard they care not for a good Name Birth Beauty or Education their Aim is at Mony which makes the Poet thus discant Our Dogs and Horses from the best we breed And careful are that they may thrive and speed But for our Wives if they but wealthy prove Though fair or foul we flater them with Love If she be Rich that covers all faults Gold that Enchantment that bewitches the World makes her appear Fair Fine Perfect and Absolute then they burn in Love's flame they love her dearly like Pig and Pye and will make you believe they were ready to hang themselves if they miss her Nothing in these days is so familiar for even a young Man to Marry and old Wise for a Sum of Gold and although she be an old Croone and have never a Tooth in her Head nor good Conditions nor a good Face a Natural Fool if she be but Rich So Corrupt is the Age that she shall be follow'd and courted and buz'd in the Ears with the Amourous Discourse course of a number of Fly fools so on the other side many a lovely young Maid for Ambitions sake to jolt it in a Coach and go gay will throw her self away upon an old decrepit doating Dizard troubled with Rheums Gout Stone Catarrhs and twenty other Diseases and perhaps but one Eye one Leg a flat fall'n Nose bearing the Marks of the Sins of his Youth Bald-pated and neither Wit nor Honesty in his Brains If he have store of Land or Mony she will have him though at the same Infant she Sacrifices her Peace Content Marrimonial Pleasure and all the chiefest Sweets of Life for a little gawdy Foppery to appear siorrid and gay that the may out-vye others in fine Cloaths and sumptuous Diet. Aristaenetus telling a brisk buxom Lass of a proper sine Man that would maker her a good Husband Hang him reply'd the he has no Mony ' 〈◊〉 to no purpose to Marry without ' Means trouble me with no such Motion Let others do 〈◊〉 they will I 'll be sure to have one shall Maintain me fine and brave Form Beauty or good Parts stands not in the Minds of many in Competition with Mony in any degree Lucius Lycia was a proper young Maid and was Courted by divers comely young Men but the forsook them all for one Passus a base bald-pated knavish Fellow and why because he was Rich and had gotten an Estare by Usury and Extortion and to add so that his Father that had got an Estate as wickedly left him his sole Heir This is not alone among your Dust-worms whose fordid Soul Adore no God but Mammon but so it falls out many times among great ones The proud insulting Bishop of Ely being left Viceroy of England by Richard the First when he went to the Holy Wars having heap'd up a mighty Mass of Mony Married a great many of his Poor Kinswomen to the Nobility their Sons and Nephews who took them though of mean and base Extract for the Dowers the Bishop gave which Policy he used to â—renghten his Party and cover the wrong he had done the People in the King's absence 〈◊〉 King of Britain Married 〈◊〉 the Daughter of 〈◊〉
Mothers steps in her lewd Inclinations though her Punishment had been visible however she was Married to Aemylius Lepidus and had by him two Children but being banished to Apulia she there dyed in much Misery Iuno Sister and Wife to Jupiter and Daughter to Saturn and Rhea held to be the Goddess of Kingdoms and Riches she is Fabled to have had divers Children yet was always very jealous of her Husband and persecuting the Nimphs he was enamoured of though she is generally taken only for the Air. Iustina first Married to Maxentius and then to Valentinian the Elder she was a great Friend to the Arians and an Enemy to the Orthodox Christians she persecuted St. Anbrose because he refused to let that Sect have a Church and free Exercise in the City of Milan but when Maximus came to the Empire she was obliged to that Good Father for her Safety she was Mother to Valentinian the Younger and dyed at Thessalonica Iustitia or the Goddess of Justice worshipped in the figure of a Virgin with severe looks holding Scales in one Hand and a Sword in the other sometimes she was painted Blindfold and sometimes without a Head and had her Temples in divers places Iubentus the Goddess of Youth her Statue was placed by Servius Tullius in the Capitol at Rome and prayed to for the Continuance of Youth Strength and Beauty c. Ianthe the Daughter of Telessa who on her Wedding day was transformed to a Man Illegitimates Marriage increases Arts and Industry but a base Issue forces Nature and coming into the World like Criminals there is rarely that Care taken in their Education is for the Children of a lawful Bed which Ushers into my Memory a passage not many years since of a Person of Quality who had no lawful Issue a 〈◊〉 Son he had whom by Will he had constituted his Heir but a Reverend Divine coming to him asked his Lordship how he had settled his Estate he answered upon the Person before-mentioned The Divine reply'd My Lord I can Administer no Comfort to your Lordship if you die with this Sin at this time since that you have been the Instrument or bringing him into the World you must make some Provision for 〈◊〉 in it but so as in may rather be a Mark of Penitence than Contumacy you must not 〈◊〉 your sin with Garland c. And upon this 〈◊〉 the Lord 〈…〉 and letâ— it to his nexâ— or Bâ—â—ood There were moâ—e Souls in England heretofore then there are at this Day nor will the Coâ—â—â—â— Reason given for it answer the decay of our Numbers neither the Wars which add 〈◊〉 our Forreign Loss but the true Reason it 〈…〉 is to be attâ—â—â—bâ—ted to the neglect of the Material Fund 〈◊〉 Creation a regular Construction of Men and Women for unlawful Embraces are not designed for neâ—ther by those that use them are they admitted to Procreation And that which adds to this General Blast of the Fruit of the Body which the mist of darkness disperses throughout the Nation is that the Antidotes which are frequently of that lasting Operation are us'd against Conception and effect upon the Bodies of 〈◊〉 as to prove to all their Lives after by which means tho' the Women should afterwards so reform as to enter into Lawful Marriage yet she cannot be profitable to the Common-wealth but on the Contrary is not only useless as to her own individual Person but renders the Man that Marries her so alâ—o See a Book called Marriage promoted Importunity Time Opportuniâ—◠〈…〉 Cause Love Importunity if not too unseasonable or unreasonable câ—rrâ—es with it a kind of a Force or Violence to â—â—orm Affection for whilst other Aâ—â—uments are in a manner a far off standing at a distance this crouds close and brings us to those degree of Love which are Conference Dalâ—â—nce Kissing c. which wonderfully operate in Love and steaâ— away the Heart and Affections of Men and Women Tacitus makes his observations that the Eyes are not altogether a 〈◊〉 Trâ—al of a 〈◊〉 Affection but there is something required that is make available therefore for a further proof take her by the Hand and gently Squeeze her Timers Let a Sigh now and then escape as it were by 〈◊〉 tread gently upon her 〈◊〉 and growing bolder lay your hand upon her Knee and of she takes all this in good 〈◊〉 and seems to be little averse then continues he call her Mistress take her about the Neck and Kiss her c. Importunity must be ushered in by Opportunity of coming together and having Freedom in the place where the Lady of your Affection dwells which by the Intercession of Friends or Letters must first be brought about which being accomplished you may the better play your Cards and Mannage your Game when a too bold or rough Intrusion many times marrs your Undertaking Many an Apprentice and Serving-man by the help of Opportunity and Importunity have Inveigled away their Masters Daugthers and sometimes the Mistress has been Captivated Many a Dowdy by this means has gained a Gallant Lover Chamber-maids have won their Masters Affection and Ladâ—â— have doted upon their Foot-men In Ariosto we find a Beautiful Queen that had as Beautiful a Husband doating upon her deformed Dwarf and always Melancholy when he neglected her Embraces It is unaccountable what advantages happen to some Men and Women hereby many Matches by this way of dealing are made in haste and the paâ—â—y compelled as it were by necessity to Love in that manner which if they had been free and seen the Variety of Beauties that populous places afford they would altogether slight and reject what they had seen before on whom they are fatally driven for want of other Objects and a better Choice and by long Conversation fall to loving and sometimes to doating for many times it is observable that those who at the first fight have no liking to each other but have been rather harsh and disagreeing for want of other Objects and to Engage or Keep their minds steady have by living together long Conference Kissing Toying and the like Allurements Insensibly fallen in Love with each other and therefore where your reason tells you beforehand it is no fit match these kind of familiarities are to be avoided lest you are taken-Infensibly and Love cuts off the retreat you had before proposed for your security Clitiphon by this means doated upon and was almost mad for Leucippe his Uncles Daughter Ismenius the Orator confesseâ— he was strangely Entangled by Ismene Sostenes Daughter waiting at the Table 〈◊〉 the Greek fashion was with beâ—â— Breasts open and her 〈◊〉 half bare which she perceiving summoned all her little Arts to snare him faster she come and drank to him and withal trod softly upon his Toes and was exceeding diligent to wait upon him and when the Company hindered her from speaking she would give him a sign of her Love by wringing his Hand and Blush when she met him at
Pedigree possessing the Party with generous undertakings and brave Resolution inspiring them as it were with a Coelestial flame and ardour breathing after virtuous greatness bestowing an honourable Gallantry where-ever it takes Possession spreading its Power and extent very wide its Pedigree as ancient as the World and it's Parentage of such Antiquity that the most searching Poets could never find them to call them by their proper Names Hesiod would have 〈◊〉 to be Terra and Chaos which he Fables to be the Parents of Love before the Gods were 〈◊〉 others would have it the 〈◊〉 Prometheus fetched from Heaven and so on but to no purpose for God himself is the 〈◊〉 Parent of all virtuous Love The Reason why Love 〈◊〉 still painted Young by the Ancients as Phornutus delivers it was because young People being Fat Soft and Fair are most apt to Love and are soonest taken in his Nets but rather we conjecture it was so 〈◊〉 because all true Affection should be naked simple and 〈◊〉 without the covering of 〈◊〉 Vase woven with the threads 〈◊〉 Hipocrisie and Dissimulation he smiles say they because given to Mirth and Pleasure and bears a Quiver to let us see his Arrows will at one time or 〈◊〉 surely hit us and he was painted Blindfold because he should take his aim at random not seeing who he hit which denotes the blind Affections of some who being overswayed with their Passion cannot use the Eyes of their â—eason to make their choice right But a further Description take in these Lines writ at the Command of a Mistress 〈◊〉 be satisfied what Love is 〈◊〉 1. â—â—â—sterious Query for 't is â—trange that she 〈◊〉 Ignorant be Who gave this Knowledge first to me But so the less bright fire doth warmâ—th beget And what it wants it self distributes heat 2. Well then I am resolv'd I 'll boldly tell What Pains I feel And what I know of Love too will 'T is that of which none ignorant can be Who have but had the least dear glimpse of thee 3. Love is the pretty babe that proudly plays In your bright face And wounds him who presumes to gaze And Painters say Poets with them agree He in no dress but Nakedness should be 4. The Darts be uses here and glowing Arms Are only charms With which some meaner Beauty warms But when h' enflames the Gods and fires the skies He Lights his Torch at your all dazling Eyes 5. Wings are to him I know not bow assign'd But now I find He uses them in Woman-kind But when he Storm'd my Heart be laid 'em by And never never from by Breast will fly Love is called by Plato the strongest and Merriest of all the Gods and Euripides says we must all do Homage to him I had rather says an Ancient Poet contend with Bulls Lyons Bears or Giants than with Love for with them I have a Lot in the hazard but by Love I am sure to be overcome he is so powerful that he enforces all to pay Tribute to him and can make Mad and Sober whom he List the Pallaces of Mighty Kings as well as the Shepherds lowly Cottage feel his Power Hercules who was invincible to all things else could not resist him as the Poet says Him whom nor Beasts nor Enemies could tame Nor Juno's spight subdue stoopt to Loves flame The most Valiant of Men have been disarmed by it even in the midst of Blood and Slaughter and hastened from the cruel Camp of Mars to the Soft tents of Venus Alexander was Conquered and overcome by the Excellent Beauty of Statira Daughter of Darius whom he had taken Captive Caesar and Mark Anthony by Cleopatra Queen of Egypt and many others that we might mention and many in our own Nation Cupid in Lucian boasts to his Mother that he was grown familiar with Lyons and could handle them as he pleased shewing the evenness of those Creatures Love extends an absolute Dominion his Mother Venus in another place complains of him for forcing her to go from one Lover to another till she was quite tired though she had beat him for it threatened to break his Bow and 〈◊〉 his Wings but to pass over Fables as lightly as we can 〈◊〉 come to what is more substantially Material Love in it self is the most excellent of that Mankind enjoys and without it his Life would be comfortless and altogether undesirable as appears by a Gallant that Courting a fair Lady who stood too nicely upon Honour in yielding thus expressed himself A Happiness so nigh I cannot 〈◊〉 My Love 's too fierce and you 〈◊〉 killing fair I grow enrag'd to see such excellence If Words disorder'd give you such offence My Loves too full of Zeal to think of Sence Be you like me dull Reason hence remove And tedious forms and give a loose to Love Love eagerly let us be blest â— night And with half yieldings do not dash Delight Then from my Joys I to my 〈◊〉 wou'd run And think the business of my Life well done Love as it is reported so prevailed upon the Tritons who were seigned a kind of Sea-gods that watching upon the Shoars they would seize upon Women to satisfie their desires and thinking to enjoy them in their watery Kingdom carry them into the Waves and unkindly drown them though against their intent as not knowing that Element was contrary to their Nature of subsisting 〈◊〉 have held that Daemons 〈◊〉 Spirits of the Air have been â—moured of Women as in the Case of Tobit and many who have been reputed to be pregnated by them in this manner it is related that Merlin 〈◊〉 Famous English Prophet 〈◊〉 begot by a Spirit cohabiting at sundry times with his Mother but in this Case you have not our Consent as to the Approbation of the Verity but we leave it as we find it 〈◊〉 tells us of a strange Story that a Gentleman of 〈◊〉 having Mourned a long time for the Decease of his beautiful Wife who was dead a Spirit in her Snape came to 〈◊〉 and comforted him Saying she had got leave to come from the dead to live with 〈◊〉 a limited time of Years 〈◊〉 he would new Marry her provided he would leave off 〈◊〉 Habit he had got of Cursing and Swearing for which 〈◊〉 she said she had been taken from him the over-joyed Gentleman Consented and promised all this and she brought him children govern'd his House but was still Pale and Melancholly when one time falling into a fit of his accustomed swearing she vanished and was never after seen And he confirms this even from the report of Persons of good Credit At Japan in the East-Indies it is reported by Travellours that there is an Idol called Tenchedy to whom one of the Fairest Virgins in the Countrey is every Month presented and left in a Private Room in the Fotoquy or Mosque where she remains to satisfie the Spirit that Image represents who knows her carnally and every Month a fresh one is put in
but what becomes of those that are there they know not they being never after seen many of the like instances we might give you but not to be tedious we conclude this Head and proceed to the next That Love in some Cases plays the Tyrant many even in this Age have experienced a Young Gentlewoman not long since in Covent-garden being sent out of the Countrey by her friends to prevent her Marriage with a Young Gentleman of a small fortune to whom she was Contracted and entirely Loved receiving a Letter though forged in his Name that he was married took it so hainously that notwithstanding the Care taken of her upon the visible Change and Melancholly it occasioned she strangled her self with one of her Gatters though this Stratagem is sending the Letter was only to wean her Affections from him so that Love in this Case proved as strong as Death Love has had such an ascendant over the Indian Women that where there have been more Wives than one belonging to a Husband and which the Custom of the Countrey allowed when he dyed they have contended which of them should leap into the Funeral Flames to bear him Company as they fancied in the other World and she to whose Lot it fell by Decision has embraced it with Joy and Triumph and counted her Fate most Glorious Love in its Operation works stupendious matters it has built Cities united Provinces and Kingdoms and by a perpetual Generation makes and preserves Mankind propagated Religion but in the height of its Rage it is no more than Madness or Phrensie and turning into Lust turns the Glorious Fabricks it has raised into Confusion Ruins Families and brings a croud of Miseries upon Mankind Sodom Troy and Rome have felt the Effects of its outragious Fury much Blood has been shed upon that account as well in Private as in Publick it has tumbled Kings from their Thrones and laid much Honour in the Dust Wives have destroy'd their Husbands and Husbands turn'd Barbarians towards their Wives it has opened a door for Jealousie and that has let in revenge and all the cruelties that witty horrour could invent yet knowing all these things some will wilfully suffer themselves to be carried away with a violent Passion as with a Rapid Torrent into the deep Gulf of Misery where they inevitably perish this by the way but now we come to something more of Love Heroical incident to Men and Women Chast Nuptial Love of which we may truly say Thrice happy they who give a heart Which bonds of Love so firmly ◠That without Brawls till death them part Is undissovl'd and cannot dy Rubenius Celer was proud to have it Engraved upon his Tomb-stone that he had continued in the bonds of Marriage with his dear wife 〈◊〉 forty three Years and eight Months and never had any Contention with her should our Age boast of such strict Love the Censorious would scarce believe tho' more the pity is that all Conjugal Loves are not of the same then there would be no pleasure in this world Comparable to it some curious Searchers into Nature and observers of the Faculties of the Mind are of the Opinion that in woman there is something beyond humane delight something of a Magnetick Virtue a charming Quality a hidden and powerful Motive that attracts a more than ordinary Love and Favour and dispenses if rightly understood a more than ordinary Pleasure and Delight though the Husband rules her as head 〈◊〉 has the Dominion over his heart and makes him pleasingly yield to her Modest Desires and rate her at a Value equal with himself and when his good natured Passion boils up it overflows in raptural Expressions as if the fair Sex had so much the Ascendant over man that they in a high degree participate something of the Nature of Beautiful Angels always Fresh and Charming it was the wish of the Poet to Love to the end of his Life when he says Dear Wife let 's live in Love and dy together As hitherto we have in all good will 〈◊〉 no day Change or Alter our fair Weather But let 's be young to one another still Love of this Kind shows that Beauty has not the sole Dominion over it for when tha is faded like a blasted Rose ruffled by the Breath there remains something within that apears Beautiful and Lovely standing at Defiance with time whose rugged hand has no power to press it into Deformity or with his Iron Teeth that ruin the Monuments of Kings the Temples of the gods themselves and the magnificent Trophies of Conquerors give it the least Diminution or Impair and this is excellently described as to the Beauty of the mind by a young Gentleman who fell in Love with a Lady for her Wit and Virtue though no ways externally Accomplished viz. 1. Love thus is pure which is design'd To Court the Beauty of the mind No pimping dress no fancy'd Aire No sex can bribe my Judgment there But like the happy spirits above I 'm blest in Raptures of seraphick Love 2. Such chast Amours may justly claims Friendship the Noble manly Name For without Lust I gaze on thee And only wonder 't is a she Only one Minds are Courtier 's grown Such Love endures when Touth and Beauty 's flown 3. Who on thy looks has fix'd his Eye Adores the Case where Jewels lye I 've heard some foolish Lovers say To you they give their hearts away I willingly now part with mine To Learn more sense and be inform'd by thine Long may such Love flourish in the world And then Love will be Love and not dissimulation Love is a sharp spur to prick men on to valorous Exploits even those of a rural Education for their Mistresses sakes have oftentimes ventured upon such daring Exploits as would have made them upon any other account to have trembled Some are of the opinion that if it was possible to have an Army of Lovers and their Mistresses to be spectators of their Courage they would do more than could be reasonably expected by men prove extraordinary valiant prudent in their Conduct and modesty would detain them from doing amiss Emulation incites them to noble Actions and carries them on like a rowling Torrent over the swords of their Enemies to bear down all before them there is none so dastardly Pusillanimous that Love cannot inspire with a Heroical Spirit when Philip of Macedon prosecuted his Conquests in Greece he observed in one Battel he fought that in the Enemies army was a small Band of men fought couragiously and held so close together that they made ten times their Number give back nor could they be broken till oppressed by multitudes and then like chased Lyons killing a multitude of their Enemies they expired upon their dead bodies not one seeking to fly or submitiing to quarter The Battel being over the King demanded what those brave men were that had fought and was answered their Band was called
Stand up like barren Hills to fruitful plains For though they 're only carv'd on some rough Tree Yet growing like my Verse my Love shall be Love has many tickling Conceits attending it which are so sweet and pleasant to the Fancies of those it possesses that many would willingly think or talk of no other subject and this stirs up in them a desire of Enjoying what they Love and that puts them upon Enquiry and asking many strange and frivolous Questions of Star-gazers Fortune-tellers Figure-slingers Gypsies and the like in which they throw away their Money and Time some require to see the Pictures of them in a glass who are destined to be their Husbands when married how many Husbands they shall have whether kind or unkind when they shall be married what Children they shall have and how fortunate they shall live and such Fooleries which the Party can no more tell them than they can tell him or could inform themselves before they came to consult him Some of the female Sex forsooth undertake to resolve Love-questions and be stiled wise Woman which brings an odd Fancy into our Heads It happened once upon a time that a Mother would needs carry her Daughter who was Ripe for Love-Enjoyment and Courted by a young Spark to be resolved whether it would be a lucky Match This womans Son about six years old seeing them dressed fine and going abroad was very inquisitive to know whither they were gadding she put him off at first with a Sugar-plumb or two but growing more earnest and crying to go with her Come Peace says she there 's my brave Boy we are only going to the wise Womans and will be here again presently and bring you home a fine thing Yet this satisfied him not but set him in a louder Bawling to this tune O Mother let me go with you O pray good dear Mother let me go with you I never saw a wise woman in all my born days and so she was compell'd by his Importunity to take him with her and satisfie his Curiosity with the sight of one she fancy'd to be so Love has been the occasion of finding out many curious Arts for what will not a Lover study to please his Mistress T is held the first Picture that ever was drawn was taken by Deburiade's Daughter for her Love about to go to the Wars Coming to take Leave of her she to Comfort her-self the better in his Absence drew his Picture on the wall with a Cole which her Father afterwards finished in lively Colours Vulcan is held to maKe the first Curious Necklace that ever was seen for Hermione the Wife of Cadmus of whom he was passionately Enamoured The Stockin Engine of a later date was the Projection of a young Lover who jesting with his fair Mistress happened to pull out her needles as she was knitting which so angered her that she banished him her presence and he was constrained to mourn in his Exile till Love quickned his Invention to bring his engine to perfection and with it made an Attonement and was restored to Favour Love is held to be the first Inventer of all our Tilts and Tournaments Orders of the Golden Fleece Garter c. By which Inventions Emblems Symbols Impresses and the like they laboured to shew and express their Loves to fair Ladies when they came to be Spectators of any private or publick Shews or Entertainments even the Rural sort when they once sip Loves Nectar are all apish and sprightly on a Suddain Menacles and Carydon Swinherds and Shepherds tasting this Love Liqour are inspired in an instant and instead of what has been mentioned they have their Wakes Eves Whitsun-Ales Shepherds Holy-days Round-delays Capering-Dances and then at more leisure times those that can write cut their Mistresses Names on the Rhine of some spreading Beech or Alder-tree with his own under it by some road side that she may be sure to see it as she passes along Those that are less learned cut a true Lovers Knot and set their Mark under it in the figure of a Pair of Pot-hooks The Chusing of Lords Ladies Kings Queens and Valentines they owe to Love that first invented such merry Meetings that he might more liberally and oppotunately bestow his Shafts as the old saying is With Tokens Gold divided and half Rings The Shepherds in their Loves are blest as Kings Nor do they want Poetry to Garnish it though a little home Spun which makes the Rural Girls like it the better because it is the Native Product of their Sweet-hearts brains not stole or borrowed and pretended to be their own a Trick many of our Town Sparks frequently use but run to this purpose Thou Honey-Suckle of the Hawthorn hedge Vouchsafe my heart in Cupids Cup to pledge My hearts dear blood sweet Ciss is thy Carouse Worth all the Ale in Gammer Bubbins house I 'se say more affairs call me away My fathers Horse of Privinder do's stay Be thou the Lady Cresset light to me Sir Trolly Lolly will I prove to thee Written in haste farewell my Vi'let sweet On Sunday pray let 's at an Ale-house meet Love's soveraignty extends every where and let some Stoicks pretend What they will yet in spight of all they can do they cannot resist him at one time or other he will be too hard for them and show them strange Vagaries make them melt into a passion notwithstanding flintiness We see that slints are melted and run down with Material fire and if so consequently the fire of Love being more pure and subtil can't miss to mollifie the Heart on which it fixes Some Emperors and Kings have built Cities that they might be called by their Mistresses Names and stand as lasting Monuments to their Memories Dionisius the Sicilian would bestow no Offices nor places consult of no Affairs of State without the Advice and Consent of Mirrha his Mistress Constellations Temples Statues and Altars have been Dedicated to Beauteous Women by their Admirers for Love indeed is Subject to no Dimension cannot be survey'd by any 〈◊〉 or Art so that the greatest pretender must be of Haedus's opinion if he has not had large experimental Knowledge viz. No Man can says he Discourse of Love-matters so as to Judge aright that has not in his own Person made Tryal or as Aeneas Sylvius says has not been shot through with Loves Arrows Moped Doated been Mad Love sick so that you may find Experience is the best Master when all 's done Ovid Confesses that Experience taught him to discover so many of the intriegues of Love as to instruct others in some things relating to it's misteries Love when all is said that can be alledged is best satisfied with the Fruition of that beautiful Object that occasioned it The last and surest Refuge and Remedy to be put in Practice in the utmost place when no other will take effect is to let the Young couple have their mutual Wishes
providing necessaries which usualy pass through the Mothers Hands Love again is to be considered in another Case and that is why it more fervently descends from Parents to Children than ascends form Children to Parents and in this Case three Principal Reasons are to be assigned The first is that the Parents Love their Children as part of themselves and begin early to do so even from their Birth for which Reason their Love is more strongly settled and fortified and Children Love springing up afterward abating Childish fondness which lasts but for a time from Judgement and Knowledge which many times a misunderstanding or some fancy'd ill-usage very much hinders in its encrease takes not so firm a root in the Affections Secondly Nature has so ordained that all Creatures shall have a special Care to their Helpless Young least by their neglect they perish through their inability of subsisting and the ends of Creation cease when as Parents grown up in years of understanding so provide for themselves that they rarely stand in need of their Childrens assistance and only require from them Duty and Obedience which God enjoyns them to yield in Love of long and happy days c. And thirdly the like Love remains in them to descend to their Posterity which verifies the old saying that Children cannot be fully sensible of the Love and Tenderness of their Parents towards them till they become Parents of Children themselves and have experienced that Cordial Affection by which Nature hath linked them together for she always has regard to the Conversation and Promotion of the Species which she maintains in the continual Succession and upholding of her Individuals looking still forward to carry on her workings regularly to the end of the World that so keeping all things in their proper Order she may finish her great task and give up her account fairly stated to him whose Vicegerent she is in managing the Generative part of Affairs in the lower World however though Nature does not so strongly encline the Love of Children to Parents as that of Parents to Children yet we conclude they ought to Love and Reverence them to the utmost of their Power assisting them to their abilities in all that is reasonable and requisite to stand by them in Poverty and Affliction and to what Promotion soever they are raised to own and acknowledge them under God as the genual Authors of their Being Love is subtil and experienced as well at undermining as battering and therefore Lady's tho' you are Triumphantly seated in the Fort of Honour yet Loves Artillery will reach you there or if they carry too short with a Mole-like diligence he will work his way till he can spring a Mine in your hearts and blow up your Affections into a flame of desire Beauty can hardly be secured from Attempts in its greatest strengths However we would you have so constantly firm in your Resolves that you make the best resistance you can be cautious and stand upon your guard to prevent Surprizes and if you must yield at last let it look noble and generous like a Victory thro' the brave resisiance you have made that all or mostyoung Ladies are prone and inclined to love nothing is so certain yet they must not give their Passion the Reins too soon least it run away with the Reason and Discretion Love is an Affection privily received in at the Eyes and speedily conveyed to the Heart the Eyes are the Harbingers but the Heart is the Harbourer of it look well to be sure then before you like Love conceived at first sight seldom lasts long therefore deliberate with your Love least it be mis-guided for to fall in Love as it were at first Look comes rarely to any good conclusion Portion may wooe a Worlding Proportion a youthful Wanton but it is Vertue that wins the Heart of Discretion admit he have the one to purchase your Esteem and the other to maintain your Estate yet his Breast is not so transparent as to see through it the Badness of his Disposition if you then take his Humour on Trust it may prove so perverse and peevish that your expected Heaven of Bliss may be turned into a wild Wilderness of Confusion and Sorrow Themistocles the brave Athenian General being asked by Nobleman whether he had rather marry his Daughter to a vicious Rich man or an honest Poor man returned for Answer That he had rather give her to a Man without Money than to Money without a Man whence it was that the beautiful Porcia being asked when she would marry replied when she could find one that sought her and her Riches there is no time requires more modesty from a young Lady or Gentlewoman than in wooing time a bashful Blush then best commends her and is the most moving Orator that speaks in her behalf like Venus Silver Doves she is ever brouzing on the Palms of Peace whilst her Cheeks speak her love more than her Tongue there is a pretty pleasing kind of wooing drawn from a conceived yet a concealed Phansie might they chuse they would converse with them freely consent with them Friendly and impart their truest thoughts fully yet would they not have their bashful Loves find Discovery according to the old Verse Cloris to the Willows like a cunning Flyer Flies yet she fears her Shepherd should not spy her Whatever you do Ladies be not upon any Account whatever induced to marry one you have either Abhorrency or Loathing to for it is neither afluence of Estate potency of Friends nor Highness of descent can allay the Insufferable grief of a loathed Bed wherefore to the Intent you may shew your selves discreetest in that which requires your Discretion discuss with your selves the Parity of Love and the Quality of your Lover ever respecting on those best Endowments which render him worthy or unworthy of your best Esteems a curious eye guided by understanding will not be taken only with a proportionable Body or smooth Countenance Justinian a noble Roman Lady being unadvisedly Married grievously exclaimed against her hard fate in being Married to one more rich than wise and this is the Case of many Ladies of our times which frequently brings them to a too late Repentance Let Deliberation then be the Scale wherewith you weigh Love with an equal Poise there are many cousequent high Circumstances which a discreet Woman will not only Discourse but discuss before she enters into that hazardous though honourable State of Marriage Disparity in Descent Fortune or Friends do often beget a Distraction in the mind Years disportionable beget a dislike Obscurity of Descent begets Contempt and Inequality of Fortune Discontent if a Lady is at Years of Discretion and will Marry to one younger than her self that is if he has not attained to a Manly Gravity and Soberness she must bear with him till riper Experience bring him to a better understanding Let your usage be more easie than to wean him from what he
the Servant so far pity her that after she had fasted three days he told her of his Lords Safety after he had acquainted him with the Misery she was in it was agreed she should come to him and there consorted with him for the space of Nine years bringing forth Children in that Solitary place no Intreaty of her Husbands prevailing with her to forsake him At last they were discovered and brought before the Emperor where Eponina producing her Children said Behold O Caesar such as I have brought forth and bred up in a Monument that thou mightest have more Suppliants for our Lives but this great Act of Love and Constancy could not move cruel Vespatian for he caused them both to be put to Death she dying joyfully with her Husband Hota was the Wife of Rabi Benxamut a valiant Captain and of great Reputation amongst the Alarbes she had been bravely rescued out of the hands of the Portugals who were carrying her away Prisoner by the exceeding Courage and Vavour of Benxamut her Husband She shewed her thankfulness to him by the ready performance of all the Offices of Love and Duty Some time after Benxamut was slain in a Conflict and Hota perfomed her Husbands Funeral Obsequies with infinite Lamentation laid his Body in a stately â—omb and then for nine days together she would neither eat nor drink whereof she died and was buried as she had ordained in her last Will by the side of her beloved Husband He first deceas'd she for a few days try'd To live without him lik'd it not and dy'd King Edward the First while Prince warr'd in the Holy Land where he rescued the great City of Acon from being surrendred to the Souldan after which one Anzazim a desperate Saracen who had often been employ'd to him from the General being one time upon pretence of some secret Message admitted alone into his Chamber he with an empoyson'd Knife gave him three Wounds in the Body two in the Arm and one near the Arm-pit which were thought to be mortal and had perhaps been so if out of unspeakable Love the Lady Eleanor his Wife had not suck'd out the Poyson of his Wounds with her Mouth and thereby effected a Cure which otherwise had been incurable Thus it is no wonder that love should do wonders seeing it is it self a Wonder Love of Parents to their Chilren is a natural Affection which we bear towards them that proceed from us as being part of our selves and indeed almost all other Creatures have a strong Impression of this kind of Love to their young though in their proper Nature never so fierce and cruel to any thing besides according to the Poet Seeing her self Rob'd of her tender Brood Lies down lamenting in her Seythian Den And Licks the Prints where her lost Whelps had lain But this Affection with Reason has greater Power in the Souls of humane Parents thò indeed it's Impression is deeper in some than in others so that sometimes it extends even to a fault where it is placed on such Children whose stubborn Natures turn such tender Indulgence to evil purposes yet we see when it so happen as it do's too freequently the Parents fondness decreases not Love towards his Sons and Daughters had so settered the Affection of Charles the Great that he could seldom endure them out of his fight and when he went any long Journey he took them with him and being one time demanded why he married not his Daughters and suffered his Sons to travel with a Sigh replyed He was not able to bear their Absence Selucius King of Syria being told that his Son Antiochus Sickness proceeded from that extraordinary Passion he bare to his beautiful Queen Stratonice though the Father loved her entirely yet fearing his witholding her might occasion the loss of his Son he freely resigned her to him Aegtius by a mistake thinking Theseus his Son to be dead threw himself from the Rock where he stood to watch his return and there perished Love in Women on this account has always exceeded that of the Men who to save their Children have rushed through Flames and on the points of Swords regardless of their Lives as the Poet expresses it 〈◊〉 Lyoness when with Milk her Dugs do ake Seeking her lost Whelps hid within some Brake Noâ— the sharp Viper doth more Anger threaten Whom some unwary Heel hath crush'd and beaten Than woman when she sees her off springs wrong She breaks the Bars of the opposing throng Through Swords through Flame she rushes there 's no Ill So grievous but she Acts it with her Will Love to her Infant so inspired the Daughter of Sponderebeus that Mahomet the second having caused his Vizier-Bassa to murther it as being one of the Sons of his Father she never left crying in the Sultans Ears till he had delivered the Bassa bound to her and then she cut him up alive and cast his Heart and Liver to the Dogs Love of Children to their Parents is required by the Law of God and Naure and it is their indispensable Duty to Love honour and obey yet Love it self contains all these for what we love we will consequently labour to please to the utmost since it is to the great Credit and Advantage of Children entailing a Blessing on them here and giving them in a great measure an Assurance of an eternal Blessedness hereafter For wherever we find Piety and Reverence that is due to Parents there is a kind of Earnest given of a prosperous and worthy Person for the Child having this way entituled himself to the Promise of God whatsoever happens to others he shall find Happiness and Comfort in it It is certainly a very great and grievous Sin to be unmindful of those who next to God are the Authors of our Being and have taken care of us when we were not able to help our selves Love in this Case appeared extraordinary in Antipas and Amphinomus who when Mount Aetna sent out Rivers of flaming Sulphur and by the Eruption the Earth trembled under them every one minding to hurry away their Goods and flying in confusion these pious Brothers mindful of their aged Parents more than all earthly Riches took them on their Backs and carried them through Torrents of Fire to places of Safety leaving their Goods to be destroyed saying What more precious Treasure can we secure than those who begot us and this Acts of Piety by divers Antiquities is said to be attended with a Miracle for the burning stream separated and made way for their safe Passage whilst other places were scorched up Love and Duty appeared excellent in the Daughther of a noble Roman Lady who being condemned by the Praetor her Execution was delayed by the Jaylor to starve her in Prison that the People who were offended with the Sentence might not see her publick Execution her Daughter all this while had leave to Visit her but was narrowly searched that she should bring no
〈◊〉 be belov'd by no body And this is not to be admir'd for Civility being the effect of modesty modesty of humility and humility being a true mark of greatness of the mind and indeed the true greatness it is that which obliges which gains upon the affections and makes a Man belov'd wherever he comes Railing or Bantering Because according to the humour of this Age our Conversation runs much upon Railery it will not be amiss to let you know that there are two sorts of Raileries Râ—ilery is naturally a pleasant and witty discourse expressing something agreeable without offence to any Mans Person or Reputation But because by abuse the signification of the word is much inlarg'd there is another sort of Railery of which most People make use to render any vice or infirmity ridiculous or contemptible either by manifest but ingenious derision The art is to use Railing handsomely for we must not only have a good fancy and a pleasant Wit but our Wit must be present and â—ust to give it a proper application In effect this railery consists not in fooling jesting or provoking laughter by little puns or conceits abstracted from mean and pitiful subjects nor from old obsolete Proverbs long since laid aside upon very good reason but we are to think before-hand what we are to say and when we do speak to bring forth something that is new smart or sublime answerable to the quality of the Person to whom we speak and not impertinent to our subject Imitate not the rashness and vanity of some who will rather lose their friend than their jest and common sense will teach us that common applause is no competent recompence for the loss of a Friend To avoid therefore the inconvenience of being offensive in discourse the following directions are to be observ'd First We are not how pertinently soever they may come in to make any personal raillery that may reâ—â—ect particularly upon any Man living or but lately dead because they may be said to be still alive in the esteem or memory of their Friends Secondly we must distinguish voluntary and natural defects It would be rude and unbecomeing to railly upon a Man for being Blind or Lame Again we must not be immodest in our raillery touching upon things that ought to be conceal'd tho' it be wrap'd up in never such clean Linnen Another thing with all accuracy to be eschew'd is playing upon the infirmities or misfortunes of any Man For a generous mind will never insult upon the afflictions of another It is baseness in respect of the World and 't is impious in respect of God Great Caution is to be taken how we reflect upon any mans Religion Reputation or Infirmity In other things we may take our Liberty that is to say not transgressing the Rules of Modesty which ought to be an inseperable Companion of all our actions and words For people are generally so far from taking snuff at what is spoken freely and wittily without reflection that every Man is pleas'd Innocent gayety being almost an infallible mark of a good Nature Moscobian Women their Nature with an Account of a contrary Temper I have read of a Man who the more he laboured to Soveraignize over his Wife the quarrel ever became more implacable for she ever ended that days conflict with this peremptory close Trust me Husband this will not do it At last as later Considerations prove ever wisest he recollected himself Beginning to expostulate the cause with himself in this manner How long shall I intangle my self in this intricate Maze of endless miseries To what purpose is it that I contest with my own Flesh Raise a Pad in the straw and awake a sleeping Lyon It may be her Disposition is more generously tempered than to be thus haled Turn then the Scale and let her enjoy the Freedom of her self This will relish better to any well condition'd Nature than ever to be contending for Mastery and make the whole Countrey Ring with our Folly Upon which Resolution they closed together in such an equal Concord and Harmony of their Minds as they were never known to be angry both together The one giving way to the others Passion with such Sobriety and Discretion as they never afterwards needed any neighbourly Mediation This I have the longer insisted on because I am not Ignorant how many furly and rough Dispositions do abuse by their harshness the easie and well-tempered Natures of their unhappy Consorts Indeed were all Women of that servile Condition whereof the Ingenious Barcley in his Mirror of Minds reports those Women to be of who cannot be perswaded that their Husbands love them unless they beat them Correction then would be found the only Introduction to Affection But these Nations are more Civil and our Womanish Spirits more Virile to endure such affronts It is worthy our Observation to relate what happened to one Jordan in his Marrying in those parts being a Native German and one who had accompanied Barcley in his Travails He reports it thus being in those parts one Jordan a German and who had kept me Company in my Travails fell in Love with a Woman there and Married her Demeaning himself to her as became a loving and respectful Husband but the mâ—re she was tendered by him the more she seemed to be discontented with him No dalliance nor all the Tokens of Love or Affection that he could shew to her could either win or wean her from that discontented Humour to which his too much kindness had brought her At last seeing that the more he laboured to Content her the less she seem'd to be pleased he takes her aside one day demanding of her tâ—e Reason of her distaste O SIr saith she how should I be welâ— pleased when you shew no Argument of Love towards me Not of Love râ—plied he what more Signs of respect can I show you than these I already do I am sure you want nothing Yes Husband said she I want Correction And if you did truly Love me you would beat me as you see other Husbands in these parts use their Wives for I must freely tell you for all your Professions of Love and Respect toward me till you begin to beat me I shall never be perswaded that you Love me This could not chuse but beget Admiration in him yet least he should lose his Wifes good Opinion at last he began to follow the Countrey fashion and to give her such Correction as might sufficiently perswade her of his Affection Although in the end his disciplinary Love grew to be too bitter For he brake her Neck before he left her But no modest care can endure any such break-neck-Love Wives are not to be made Slaves but Companions And as their Constitutions are Soft and Delicate so should their usage be mildly tempered and affectionate Mumpers are both Male and Female a Gentâ—â—ler soâ—t of Beggars for they scorn to beg for Food but Mony or Cloaths the Money
one sense a man may as well be drunk with love as Wine and it is indeed the worst of the two because more lasting when the other perhaps is but a Nights debauch this many times stupifies the senses all the days of Life locks up his Reason in the Dungeon of headstrong willfulness and self-blindedness placing an unruly passion as Goaler to keep it strictly in Chains so that a man or a woman thus divested may justly be term'd an irrational Creature acting in some degress worse than they Mark Anthony had such a love to Cleopatria that none could wean him from it first by giving himself up to sloath and wantoness lost that great Name he had gain'd in War then the love of his Soldiers and lastly the Empire of the East and for dispair and madness kill'd himself and brought Aegypt and other Countrys into an Extream Calamity The fair Inchantress likewise kill'd her self by clapping Vipers to her breasts and so ended their Love Fevers in a doleful kind of Melancholy How many might we name that have lost themselves and their flourishing Fortunes upon this account throwing themselves as it were from Precipices or into Yawning Gulfs when they might have stood firm or mov'd on smoothly and uninterrupted Platina says from hence came Repentances though of a strange kind Dotages Ship wracking of Wits and Fortunes and violent Deaths And some hold the Prognostick is that when this Passion is at the heighth and Extreamly Raging the Party will either run mad or die at this Reason is given viz. because it makes the Blood black thick and hot and if the Inflammation get into the brain it will with continual waking meditations and musing so dry up and the moisture that the brain is inflam'd for want of it or shrink together and then madness ensues and sometimes they lay violent hands upon themselves some pine away and die upon a sudden And as one says For whilst I do conceal my grief Madness steals on me like a Thief Would I were dead for nought But death can rid me of my woes When Eurialus left Lucretian she never laugh'd jested or gave one pleasant look but fell into Love Melancholy and pin'd her self to death So desperate had Love made a young hot brain'd Lover that the Parents of the Virgin he lov'd utterly refusing to let her marry him in a raging fit of passion resolving if he could not that nobody should enjoy her he first Kill'd her and then himself having desir'd of the Magistrates they might be bury'd in one Grave which being granted when he had mortally wounded himself he took a great consolation to his troubled mind Many have been so inflam'd with love that to obtain their desires they have destroy'd their nearest Relations and best Friends for giving them good Counsel Some have betray'd Citys nay whole Countrys in their proses'd Enemies upon this occasion as the Widow of Nereus did Athens for the love of an handsom Venetian Gentleman Pithidice the Governours Daughter of Methinia betrayed her Father and the whole Island to Achilles has the love she bear him Alexander for the love of Tan who demanded it as a tryal of his Affection set the famous City of Persopolis on fire tho Repentance came too late and made him weep over its Ruins Cataline Kill'd his only Son in a Love raging fit Therefore such violences are timely to be avoided All that in us â—â—ere they grow too strong for us and we cannot 〈◊〉 them When gentle winds do blow 〈◊〉 Oars we try But in rough storms are foreâ—â— Lay them by Prognosticks of Jelousie Madness Dispair 〈◊〉 Examples c. Prognosticks of Jelousie are 〈◊〉 and various and we find they Tyranizing distemper 〈◊〉 first with a kind of 〈◊〉 and dulness of the Spirits the it is formed into suspicion â—â— from thence grows up to hatred and from that to Madness Freâ—â—ey Injury dispair and Murther if it to be not removed or prevented in time There is nothing so bloody as the fury of a Jealous man in his enterpriz'd Revenge and if they are hindred in that they many times turn their Fury on themselves and are destroyed by their own hands And Cyprian says it produces a fruitful mischief is the Seminary of offences and Fountain of Murther A thousand Tragecal Examples we might mention antient and modern Hercules was Poison'd by Deianita Amestris the Wife of Xâ—xes finding his Cloak in the House of Masista presently grew Jealous of his Wife got her into her Power and glutted her Eyes with Cruelty by fleeing her alive cut off heâ— Ears Nose Lips Paps and likewise her Tongue out and left her to dye in that miserable condition Deutera the Wife of Thexiebar King of France having had a Fair Daughter by another Husband grew Jealous that she sought to take the Kings Love from her and Transported with this Rage like a Barbarous Inhuman mother caused the beautious innocent maid to be murthered Ferdinandus Chalâ—eria cut off Getherinus a Nobleman's Legg because as he supposed he look'd too familiar upon his Wife which occasioned much blood shed by the Quarrels that ensued upon it amongst their Relations and another who suspected a Fryer that often Visited his House being in the Chamber when his Wife was Delivered and seeing the Child in the Caul he immediately swore the Fryer had Cuccolâ—ed him and that must of necessity be a Child of his begetting and the Learned Reason he gave for it was that it came into the World wraped in a Fryars Caul or Hood Fulgosus a Woman of Narbone though one would hardly think that a Woman would be so unkind to herself took her Husband Napping and in his sleep cut off his Genitors because she supposed he performed Duty somewhere else and neglected it at home resolving since they were in a manner useless to her no body else should be the better for them Pain almost of any kind is doubtless nothing to the Torments of Jealousy it puts the party as it were upon the Rack and Afflicts him in every part At Basil there was a Painters Wife who had bore her Husband nine Children by that she was twenty seven years of Age and then upon a Caprice of which she could give no reasonable account her self she must needs grow Jealous which in a small time increasing utterly destroyed her Quiet and Repose nor would she eat and drink at home for fear as she said her Husband should Poison her Felix Peter tells us of a Physician that went mad through Jealousy Of a Merchant that Kill'd his Wife in the humour and afterward himself O a Doctor in Law that cut 〈…〉 Mans Nose because whilst the fellow was telling a blunt story his Wife smiled at it Prognosticks of this Kind may be taken from the Humours for when they are once stirred and the Imagination disaffected Jealousy soon enters varying it self into divers forms and many absurd Symptoms accompany it and when it gets too large a scope and
consequence must at last in outward comformity be demeanable to the Laws of God and man and men our Coffee-Houses and Plâ—ys would not abound with Champions for all licentiousness it is such as have no property of their own who cry up that which may destroy it in other men There seems to be a spiritual as well as a natural blessing in marriage for though the Nature of man is to depraved that in all is choice of Things in this World he makes Vertue the least Ingredient so that in Honours Riches Power Friends and all the rest of the World's Inventory Vertue makes not always a Figure yet is the choice of a Wife 't is the prime motive Is she fair rich witty and not vertuous Neither the wife nor the rich man will make her his Choice And as marriage abates the irregular lives of men so it produces a sober and well disposed Posterity How often do we see mothers vie with their Neighbours in the Infant Divinity of their children in which they have not only the Praise of men but the Encouragement of a Sacred Promise viz. Teach thy Child when he is young and he will not forget it when he is old The Testimony of that great King which he gives of his mother's Instruction is very remarkable which runs thus The words of King Lemuel the Prophecy that his mother taught him What my Sin and what the son of my Womb and what the son of my Vows See a book call'd Marriage promoted Silence The true Vertue of Silence cannot be too much commended It is such a Quality that I want words to express its worth I cannot well tell which I should most commend to Gentlewomen either Speech or Silence since the one of them doth too much and the other too little Speech enricheth and corrupteth but silence is poor but honest I am not so much against Discourse as vain Pratling which consumes time and profiteth no Body Speech indeed is one of the blessings of Nature but to ride still on the top of it is too vehement The first word in the school of Cleanthes that great Philosopher was silence and the first word of command amongst souldiers in the Field now adays is silence A talkative man or Woman is like an unbraced Drum which beats a wise Man out of his wits Many States have used to punish the laying open of Secrets with the loss of their Tounges which was a very just Law and a sure one for no example prevails with a born Taâ—ler but the forfeit of his Tatling Organ I wonder that the Turks do not generally deprive their slaves of their Tounges as of their stones methinks they should be as jealous of their secrets as they are of their Lusts. Certainly all people that are subject to this flux of words are very dangerous I never knew Tatling a safeguard but only by the Geese that preserved the Capitol I shall conclude this head with that of a famous Writer There is a Time when nothing there is a Time when something but there is no Time when all things are to be revealed Secret Lovers Let us here instâ—nce what Râ—â—â— modesty hath been shown by Women in the secret Expression of their affection How loth to be seen to love and how Faithful to those they did love How shamed fac'd in their professing and how stedfast in their Expression I prefer love before life said that Noble Aureâ—â— to one of her maiden sisters yet had I rather lose my life than discover my love The like said that sweet Sulpitia I could find in my heart to dye for my Love so my Love knew not I dy' e for his Love The like said that virtous Valeria I could with to dye So my Clerentius knew not for whom I wish'd to dye That brave Burgundian Lady express'd the like modesty I will pass by him said she and never Eye him my Heart shall only speak to him for my Tounge it shall rather lose it self than unloosen it self to him A rare Expression of Affection shewed that young maid who seeing her Lover deprived of all means to enjoy her by the averness of his Father and understanding how he had resolved through discontent to take his Fortune beyond the Seas with a Religious Vow never to solicit any Womans Love for the space of five Years She though till that time she had ever born him respects with such discreet Secrecy and Reservedness as no Eve could ever discover her affection intended under a disguised habit to accompany him in his journey Cutting therefore her hair and taking upon her a Pages habit she came aboard in the same Ship wherein he was received and so continued during all that Sea Voyage by the help of that disguise and discolouring of her hair to her Lover altogether unknown And being now arrived at the Port at which they aimed this disguised Page beseech him that he would be pleased to accept of his service pretending that since his arrival he had heard of the Death of his dearest Friends and such as his livelihood relied on so as he had no means to support him nor in his present distress to supply him unless some charitable dispos'd Gentleman like himself would be pleased to take compassion of him and entertain him This exil'd Lover commiserating his Case took her into his service little imagining that his Page was his mistress But no doubt bore his late entertained servant more respect for the resemblance he concieved betwixt his Page and mistress Thus lived they together for a long time during which space she never discovered her self holding it to be to no purpose seeing he had taken a solemn vow as was formerly said that he would solicit no Womans love for such a time so as rather than he should violate his vow which by all likelyhood he would have done had he known who was his Page she chused to remain with him unknown expressing all arguments of diligence and careful observance that any master could possibly expect from his servant Hope â—â—ich lightâ—eth every burden and makes the most painful service a delightful solace sweetened the hours of her expectance ever thinking how one day those five years would be expired when she might more freely discover her love and he enjoy what he so much desired But Fate who observes no order betwixt youth and age nor reserves one compassionate tear for divided Loves prevented their hopes and abridge their joys by her premature death For being taken with a Quartan Fever she languished even unto death Yet before her end she desired one thing of her master in recompence of all her faithful service which was that he would be pleased to close up the eyes of his Page and receive from him one dying kiss and lastly to wear for his sake one poor Ring as a lasting memorial of his loyal love All which his sorrowful master truly performed but perceiving by the Posy of the Ring that his deceased Page
formerly recoverable in the Spiritual Court but now only in Chancery Abortion an untimely Birth or Miscarriage which happens through divers Causes Inward and Outward Amnion the Membrane with which the Faetus in the Womb is most immediately clad which with the rest of the Scâ—ndine the Chorion and Alantoin is ejected after the Birth it is whiter and thinner than the Chorion It contains not only the Faetus but the nutritious Humour whence the Faetus by the Mouth and Throat sucks its nourishment It is outwardly clothed with the Urinary Membrane and the Chorion which sometimes stick so close to one another that they can scarce be separated Dr. Blanchard Amazons Amazones Warlike Women of Scythia that had but one Teat their name in Greek impowring as much they were very Man-like and cut off their Right Breasts that it might not hinder their shooting for they were excellent Archers they lived by themselves and if at any time they went to their Husbands or neighbouring Men and conceived if it were a Female Child they kept it if a Male they sent it to the Father The Country where they lived is denominated from them and called Amazonia Anchoresâ— a Religious Woman that Lives solitarily in a Cell Vide Anachorite Anne Heb. Hannah gracious or merciful Annulet Annulus a Ring or any thing like a Ring Aretaphila Gr. i.e. amatrix virtutus a lover of or friend to virtue a Woman's Name Abia Hercules Daughter Aegiale the Wife of Diomedes an Adultress Aegina Jupiter's Mistress in the shape of fire Aegle Daughter of Hesperus King of Italy Agatha g. good a Womans Name Aglata one of the Graces Aglais a very great sheeater Megale's Daugther Agnes g. chast a Womans Name Agnodice a Maid Physician Alepone Neptunes Daughter turned into a King-fisher Ambosexons Male and Female Amorets f. Love toys Amulet l. a ball about the neck to keep from Poison or Witchcraft Amymone one of Danaiis's fifty Daughters Mother of Nauplius by Neptune Anetis a Lydian Goddess Anatiferius l. Bringing the age of old Women Anaxarete a hard hearted Virgin turned into a stone Anchoress a Nun. Andrago g. a Manly Woman Andrastâ—s Andate Goddess of Victory among the Britans Andromache g. many fight Hectors wife Andromeda Cepheus's daughter Aretapila g. a she-friend of vertue Arethusa Daughter of Nereus a river of Sicily also an Armenian fountain in which nothing sinks Ariadne Daughter of Minos Asbiaroth Goddess of the Adonians Assedrix a she-assistant a Midwife Astroarch Queen of Plâ—nets the Moon Atalanta the swift Lady won by Hipomanes's three Golden Apples Arthis Daughter to Cranaus King of Athens Ave Marie l. Her Salutation by the Angel Avice Hildevig Sa. Lady â—â— defense Anses African Virgins used to combat in honour of Minerva Autonoe Actaeon's Mother Agetus the Lacedemonian Herodotus lib. 6. thus writes of this Lady the Daughter of Alcydes the Spartan first wife to Agetus and after to the King Ariston She of the most deformed became the excellentest amongst Women Aristorlea Of all the deaths that I have read of this of Aristoclaea methinks exceeds example with which howsoever her body was tormented her soul could not be grieved for never woman died such a loving death Her Lovers contending in the heat of their affection but not regarding her safety whom they did affect she as it were set upon the rack of Love plucked almost to pieces betwixt them both expired Ada Alexander the Great amongst his many other conquests having besieged the great City Halicarnassus by reason of opposition made against him levell'd it with the ground He entred Caria where Ada then reigned Queen who being before opprest by Orontobas imployed by Darius was almost quite beaten out of her Kingdom Having at that time no more of all her large Dominions left her saving Alynda the most defenced City into which she had retired herself for safety She hearing of Alexanders approach gave him a Royal meeting and submitted herself her Subjects and City into his Power withal Adopting him by the Name of Son Agathoclea Ptolme being free from all foreign Invasions he began Domestick troubles at home For being given over to his own Appetite and besotted to his Insatiate Pleasures he first began with Loadice both his Sister and Wife causing her to be slain that he might the more freely enjoy the society and fellowship of his most rare and beautiful Mistress Agathoclea So that the greatness of his Name and the Splendor of his Majesty both set apart he abandoned hinself solely to Whoredoms by Night and to Banquets and all profuseness of Riot by day Aristomache Dionysius the Tyrant banisht Dion out of Sicily taking into his own custody the Exiles Wife Aristomache and her Daughter But after at the great Intercession of one of his Servants Polycrates a man by him much affected he compelled the Lady who still Lamented the absence of her Lord unto a second Marriage with this Polycrates who was by Nation of Syracusa But Dion having gathered fresh Forces and expelling Dionysius from Syracusa unto the Locrenses Arete his Sister meeting him and Congratulating his Famous Victory made Intercession for Aristomache who with great shame had kept herself from the presence of her first Husband not daring to look him in the Face howsoever her second Nuptials were made by Force and Compulsion But the necessity of the cause the wondrous submission and modest Excuse of Aristomache together with the Mediation of Arete so much he prevailed with Dion all confirming her innocence that he received his wife and Daughter into his Family still continuing their former Love and Society Artimesia Queen of Caria so much honoured the remembrance of her Husband Mausolus being dead that after Meditation and deliberate counsel which way she might best decorate his Hearse and withal to express to Perpetuity her unmatchable Love She caused to be erected over him a Tomb so Magnificent that for the Cost and State it was not doubted to be worthily reckoned amongst the Nine Wonders But what do I speak of so rich a Structure when she her self became the living Sepulcher of her dead husband by their Testimonies who have Recorded that she preserved his bones and having beaten them to powder mingled their dust with her Wine in remembrance of him every morning and evening Cicer. Tusc. lib. 3 and Plin. lib. 36. cap. 5. Aretaphila Cyrenea is deservedly numbred amongst the Heroick Ladies she lived in the time of Mithridates and was the Daughter of Aeglatur and the Wife of Phedimus A Woman of excellent Vertue exquisite Beauty singular Wisedom and in the Managing of Common-Wealths business and Civil Affairs ingeniously Expert Aurora or the Morning Hesiodus in Theog terms her the Daughter of Hyperion and the Nymph Thya and Sister to the Sun and Moon Others derive her from Tytan and Terra they call her the way leader to the Sun as Lucifer the Day-Star is stil'd her Henshman or Usher For so saith Orpheus in an Hymn to Aurora
as her self Now because their Youth perhaps will not admit of it so soon she hurries them on to it by degrees by the excess of Drink Smoke and Venery If you visit her House she pretends to have no Drink but will send for some that she may be sure of your Mony If you touch her Bedding it will infect you for few comes near it but they are troubled with a fit of the Falling-sickness but yet this I shall tell you she 'l teach you Temperance not suffering you to have too much Liquor for your Mony If she stays a Year in a place she is befriended by the Justices Clerk The Instruments in chief of a Bawd's Trade are an Hector or Huff which seems instead of the Gyant to defend her Inchanted Castle from being violated by Knights-Errant The Pimp which brings Grist to the Mill that is Bawdy Customers to the House which he picks up under this pretence Go along with me and I will shew you the fairest Wench in Christendom or raise a Discourse of Bawdry and then swear There is not such a curious fine Sinner in or about the City as there is at such a place c. But the Whore is the main support of the House The first will not swagger unless he be paid the next wont procure unless he may Spunge and have his Folly for nothing and the Whore will not ply unless she have half share of her own getting besides a little Mony by the by The Market-places to which a Bawd resorts to buy Tools for her Trade are Inns where she enquires of the Carriers for Servant-Maids and according as they are Handsom she entertains them and trains them up in the Mysteries of her Occupation and having quallified them for her Profession of a Prostitute the Bawd furnishes them with Butterfly Garments and other gawdy Accoutrements for which she hath three shares or as much as they can agree about Piutarch in the Life of Pericles reports That Aspasia his sole delight made her House a Stews in which the Bodies of the fairest young Women were made commâ—â— for Money In my opinâ—â—â— to be wondred at it is 〈◊〉 these being past their own acâ— al Sins wherein too much â—â—ciety hath bred a Surfeit or 〈◊〉 Infirmity of Age or Disease meer disability or Performancâ— yet even in their last of daâ— and when one Foot is alreaâ—â— in the Grave they without 〈◊〉 thought of Repentance or 〈◊〉 hope of Grace as if they 〈◊〉 not Wickedness enough of theâ—â— own to answer for heap upâ—â— them the Sins of others as 〈◊〉 only inticing and alluring 〈◊〉 gins and young Wives to 〈◊〉 base Venerial Trade and 〈◊〉 infinite Inconveniences both 〈◊〉 Soul and Body dependiâ—â— thereupon but to wear theâ—â— Garments by the Prostitutiâ—â— of others and eat their Breaâ— and drink Sack and Aqua-viâ—â— by their mercenary Sweaâ— and so base an usury and 〈◊〉 comely a travel of their Bodieâ— as is not only odious in thâ— Eyes of Man but abominabâ—â— in the sight of Angels Brute Beasts in Love with an Account of the strangâ— Love of an Athenian To seâ— Men affectioned to Women and Women to Men is a nâ—tural thing and to be believed But here Blindness is come 〈◊〉 that height that that which intend to speak of seems impossible and incredible Hâ—storiographers write it for truth That in the Town of Athenâ— there was a young Man of aâ— honest Family competently Rich and well known who having curiously observed a Statue of Marble excellently wrought and in a publick place in Athens fell so in love with it that he could not keep himself from the place where it stood but be always embracing of it and always when he was not with it he was discontented and blubber'd with Tears This Passion came to such an Extreamity that he addressed himself to the Senate at Athens and offering them a good Sum of Mony beseeching them to do him the favour that he might have it home with him The Senate found that they could not by their Authority suffer it to be taken away nor to sell any publick Statue so that his Request was deny'd which made him marvellous sorrowful even at the Heart Then he went to the Statue and put a Crown of Gold upon it and enrich'd it with Garments and Jewils of great price then ador'd it and seriously beheld it musing always upon it and in his folly persevered many days that at last being forbidden these things by the Senate he kill'd himself with Grief this thing was truly wonderful But if that be true which is written upon Xerxes and affirmed by so many Authors indeed he excell'd in Folly all the Men in the World They say he fell in Love with a Palm-tree a Tree well known though a stranger in England and that he loved it and cherished it as if it had been a Woman Seeing then these things happen to rational Men we may be-believe that which is written of Bruit Beasts which have loved certain Men and Women especially when we find it certified by great and famous Writers as Glaucus that was so loved of a Sheep that it never forsook him Every one holds that the Dolphin is a lover of Men. Elian writes in his Book of Beasts a Case worthy be read He saith that a Dolphin seeing upon the Sea-shoar where Children were a playing one among the rest which he liked very well he fell so in love with it that every time that the Dolphin see him he came as near as he could to the edge of the Water to shew himself At the first the Child being afraid did shun it but afterwards by the Dolphin's perseverance one day after another and shewing signs of love to the Child the Child was encouraged and upon the kind usage of the Dolphin the Child was emboldned to swim upon the Water near unto the Fish even to go ride upon the back of it and the Fish would carry him for a good space of time even to the bottom of the Water till the Child made a sign to rise again In this solace and sport they spent many days during which the Dolphin came every day to present himself to the brink of the Sea But at one time the Child being naked swimming in the Sea and getting upon the Dolphin willing to hold fast one of the sharp pricks in the Fin of the Dolphin run into his Belly which wounded him so that the Child died immediately in the Water which the Dolphin perceiving and seeing the Blood and the Child dead upon his back he swam presently to the shoar and as though he would punish himself for this fault swimming in great fury he leaped out of the Water carrying with him as well as he could the dead Child which he so much loved and died upon the shoar with him This very thing is recited by Pliny and others with Examples of Dolphins which have born love to Men. And particularly he saith that in the
of Epigrams an Elegy upon her Husbands death and other Verses of various kinds and subjects Cleobule or Cleobuline the Daughter of Cleobulus Prince of Lindus she is particularly noted for her faculty in Aenigmatical Sentences or Riddles Corrina a Theban Poetess who wrote Five Books of Epigrams and is said to have been five times Victress over Pindarus Besides her there were two others of the same name namely Corinna the Thessuzin and Corinna the Roman Lady whom Ovid much admired Carnificia a Roman Epigrammatick Poetess Cassandra Fidele a Venetian Lady She write a Volumâ— of Latin Poems of various subjects and kinds Catherine Philips the most applauded Poetess of our Nation her Fame is of a fresh and lively date from the but late publisht Volume of her Poetical Works Churlo Sax. Ceorle a Country Clown a Bumpkin in the North a Carle Chiromanter Chiromantes a Palmester or one that tells fortunes by the lines of the hand Cloris The Goddess of Flowers called also Flora. Chorus Lat. a Company of Singers or Dancers a Quire The singing or musick between every Act in a Tragedy or Comedy In a Comedy there are four Accessory parts viz. 1 The Argument 2 Prologue 3. Chorus 4. Mimick Of all which the Tragedy hath only the Chorus Chrisome a 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 signifies properly the white cloth which is set by the Minister of Baptism upon the head of a Child newly Anointed with Chrism after his Baptism Now it is vulgarly taken for the white cloth put about or upon a Child newly Christened in token of his Baptism wherewith the woman used to shrowd the Child if dying within the Month otherwise it is usually brought to Church at the day of Purification Chrisomes in the Bills of Mortality are such Children as die within the Month of their Birth because during that time they use to wear the Chrisom cloth Cabaline fountain of the Muses Calivate caelibatus single life the state of Man or Woman unmarried Herb. H. 8 Care-cloth According to the use of the Church of Sarum when there was a Marriage before Mass the parties kneel'd together and had a fine Linnen cloth called the Care-cloth laid over their heads during the time of Mass till they received the Benediction and then were dissmissed Caresse Fr. a cheering cherishing welcoming making much of Carnaval Fr. Shrovetide also a Licentious or Dissolute Season Castalian-Well a fountain at the foot of Parnassus sacred to the Muses taking the name of Castalia a Virgin who as Poets fain flying from the Leacherous God Apollo fell down headlong and was turned into this fountain Rider Catamite Catamitus a Boy hir'd to be abused contrary to Nature a Ganymede Ceruse Cerussa White-lead often used by Chyrurgeons in Ointments and Plaisters It is with Painters a principal white Colour and hath been and is still much used by Women in painting their Faces whom Martial in his merry vein scoffeth saying Cerussata timet Sabella solem Cest Cestus A Marriage-girdle full of studs wherewith the Husband girded his Wife at the Wedding and which he loosed again the first Night Chaperon Fr. a French-Hood for a Woman also any Hood or Bonnet mentioned in the Stat. 1 R. 2.7 Chaplet Fr. Chapelet a Wreath Garland or attire for the Head made of Gold Pearl or other costly or curious stuff used to be fastned behind in manner of a folded Roul or Garland Cully Fop or one that may easily be wrought upon Concubinage Concubinatus the keeping of a Whore for his own filthy use an unlawful Use of another Woman instead of one's Wife In Law it is an Exception against her that Sues for her Dowry whereby it is alledged that she was not a Wife lawfully married to the Party in whose Lands she seeks to be endowed but his 〈◊〉 Confarreation Confarreatio the solemnizing a Marriage a Ceremony used at the Solemnization of a Marriage in token of most firm Conjunction between Man and Wife with a Cake of Wheat or Batley This Ceremony is still retain'd in part with us by thâ—â— which we call the Bride-cake used at Weddings Continency Continentia a refraining of ill Desires or more strictly a restraining from all things delightful that hinde Perfection Copulation Copulatio â— coupling or joining it was one of the three ways of betrothing Marriage in Israel See Moses and Aaron p. 231. Coquettery Fr. the prattle or twattle of a pert Gossip or Minx Coral or Corral Corallum There are two principal forts hereof the one white the other red but the red is best It grows like a Tree in the bottom of the Sea green when under the Water and bearing a white Berry and when out turns red It is cold and dry in Operation good to be hang'd about Childrens Necks as well to rub their Gums as to preserve them from the Falling sickness Coranto Ital. Corranta a French running Dance also a News-book Corrivals Corrivales they who have Water from or use the same River And Metaphorically a Competitor in Love or they that Love one and the same Woman Culâ—â—riches Man eyes you Coverture Fr. signifies any thing that covers as Apparel a Coverlet c. In Law it is particularly apply'd to the Estate and Condition of a married Woman who by the Laws of the Realm is in potestate viri under Coverture or Covert-Baron and therefore disabled to make any bargain or contract without her Husband's consent or priviry or without his Allowance or Confirmation Brook hoc titulo per totum Courtesan Fr. Courtesane a Lady Gentlewoman or Waiting-woman of the Court also but less properly a professed Strumpet a famous or infamous Whore Courtesie of England Lex Angliae is used with us for a Tenure For if a Man marry an Inheritrix seiz'd of Land in â—ee-simple or in Fee-tail general or as Heir in Tail special and gets a Child of her that comes alive into the World though both it and his Wife die forthwith yet if she were in Possession he shall keep the Land during his Life and is call'd Tenant by the Courtesie of England Crabbat Fr. is properly an Adjective and signifies comely handsom gracious But it is often used Substantively for a new fashioned Gorget which Women wear or a Riding-band which Men wear Curranto ab 〈◊〉 illue currendo Fr. Courante a running Dance a French-dance different from what we call a Country-dance Corkney or Corkneigh apply'd only to one born within the sound of Bow-Bell that is within the City of London which Term came first according to Minshaw out of this Tale A Citizens Son riding with his Father out of London into the Country and being utterly ignorant how Corn grew or Cattle increased asked when he heard a Horse neigh what he did His Father answer'd The Horse doth neigh Riding further the Son heard a Cock crow and said Doth the Cock neigh 〈◊〉 Hence by way of Jeer he was call'd Cookneigh Min. A Cockney according to some is a Child that Sucks long But Erasmus
as that of Revenge and Spite is Brutal and falâ—y called a Pleasure the Act of the most Contemptible Animal is to return a mischief for one received We should conclude from hence that it is an easie Determination rather to Embrace that Compassion and Clemency which we find Exemplefied not only in the wisest and best of Rational Creatures but in the Omniscent and Imortal Being than to embrace that Savage fierceness of the Ignoblest Irrational Creatures and this is certain that no Woman would have a liking to assume the outward form of any of those Creatures whose ferocity is too frequently Imitated Why then should the Mind the Nobler part appear in so monstrous a Transformation for as there are no Monsters so deformed as those that are compounded of Man and Beast so among them all nothing is more unnatural than Female Anger when it boiles up into Rage and Fury for their Blood thus fermented by an unruly Passion may probably enough occasion the Effusion of anothers swelling and overflowing in a Crimson Inundatien Solomon tells us Prov. 17.14 The beginning of strife is as when one letâ—eth our water therefore leave off Contention c. When by Immoderate Passion or Anger a breach is once made upon the Spirits all the consequent Mischiefs will flow in like a rapid Torrent when the Banks are forced or broken down and this happens unprevented and unavoidable where great care is not taken to keep the bounds intire by Preserving and Cherishing that Tenderness and Compassion which God and Nature do equally command and Enforce Consider then and duly weigh these things and you will if you call your Reason to your assistance soon distinguish between the Advantage of the one and the Mischiefs and Miseries inherent to the other Contentment Contentedness in all Stations and conditions carries along with it a wonderful Felicity and renders humane Life easie and comfortable to the Fair Sex especially It is a beam of that happiness darted into their Souls that shall hereafter be more fully possessed but we hold it not sufficient where it is only a senseless stupidity or a carelese neglegence what becomes of our Estate or Affairs nor a seeming in Discourse to dispise and contemn the Riches of this World As mean and unworthy our Care or Regard but it is an humble and willing submitting our selves to Gods Pleasure in all Conditions And this makes us carry our selves Gracefully in Wealth Want Sickness Freedom Fetters or whatsoever it shall please God to allot us It renders Marriage comfortable in what condition soever it happens and is the great Agent and Supporter of Love Though indeed we must allow it is no breach of Contentment If we complain of unjust sufferings offered by Men provided we allow them as just proceedings from God who uses wicked mens injustice to correct those he Loves and returns them a Blessing for their Afflictions when he has tryed their Patience and Humility Nor is it any breach of Contentment by lawful means to seek the removal of our Miseries or the bettering our Fortunes Pious Mediâ—ations greatly advantage Contentmeâ—â— in Adversity And God's Spâ—rit is the beâ—t School-master to teach it us in the School of Sanctiâ—ied Afflictions the best place of Learning true Contentment In Riches it cannot be found for they avail not in the day of Wrath And those that seek Contentment in that are deluded with the shaddow and by fondly setting their hearts on it create more discontents to themselves than perhaps would ever have be fallen them had they declined it and been well pleased with a competency Contentment makes Homely Cloaths and Diet as Gay and Satisfying as the most Glittering Apparel and Sumptuous Banquets of the most Riotous Epicures And this is that can only give a full satisfaction beyond the Limits of craving And in a word Ladys it is Riches Beauty Honour Pleasure and all that you can reasonably name for there is scarce any thing pleasant delightful or to be desired but is Treasur'd up in a Contented Mind And as the Poet says Content is all we aim at with our store And having that with little what needs more Child-bearing Women Christian Wives says a Learned Author in a Child-bearing state that they may Comfortably bring forth the Fruit of their Wombs are highly concern'd for that good work to â—â—ve their fruit unto holiness Then be sure all shall go well with them both here and 〈…〉 belongs to the pure in heart and the â—â—defiled in the course of their lives What knows the 〈◊〉 Wife whether if she should be married to a bad Man by Parents disposal she may 〈◊〉 her Husband We read of several Christian Wives whose Husbands have been brought to real Godliness by theâ—â— Zealous Endeavours as Cemens by Domitia c. For the holy Conversation of a Wife hath sometimes a great force upon the mind of the Husband who is thereby dispos'd to entertain good And if a work of Grace be wroughâ— upon him then he will be more fervent in prayer for his Child-bearing Wife who 〈◊〉 she ought through the whole course of her life to be daâ—â—â— dying to sin and living to rigâ—teousness so in her approaching sorrows she is more especially concerned 'T is the duty of a big-bellied Woman to be in a readiness for her departure that she may not be surpriz'd sith the pangs are perilous thâ— she hath to pass through and the more if she be but of a weak and not of a hail Constitution Mrs. Joceline when she felt herself quick with child as then travailing with 〈◊〉 it self she secretly took order for the buying a new Winding-sheet thus preparing and consecrating herself to him who rested in a new Sepulcher wherein was man never 〈◊〉 laid and privately in her Closet looking Death in the Face wrote her excellent Legacy to her unborn Child None ever repented of making ready to dye And every Christian is ready who can intirely submit to Gods disposal in Life or Death Yea and then a good Woman is likest to have her will in a safe temporal deliverance when she is most sincerely willing that God should have his in dealing with her as seemeth best to himself It behoves you as righteous Hand-maids of the Lord To continue in the constant exercise of Faith Patience Sobriety and Temperance Certainly you who are blessed in being Instruments for the propagation of Mankind when you find you have conceived and grow pregnant are highly concerned to put on and use these Ornaments A great work you are usually busie about in preparing your Child-bed-linnen and I shall not discourage but rather encourage you to make necessary provision for your tender selves and babes And let every ingenuous and grateful Mother whom God hath safely delivered from her Child-bearing pains and peril imprint a grateful remembrance of so signal a Mercy with indeleble Characters in her mind Lord thou hast regarded the low estate of thine Maiden when I was in an
to her dearest Husband In her affectionate Letter to him prefix'd to that little Book she declares with thankfulness to God her fears of Child-bed painfulness were cured with the remembrance that things should work together for the best to those that love God which cannot be right in a Wife without this true love to her Husband and a certain assurance that God would give her patience according to her pain And she bare all patiently So did Mrs. Wilkinson a most loving Wife whose patience was remarkable in the midst of very sore pains which frequented her in the breeding and bearing Children Yet then her speech was I fear not pains I fear myself leâ—t through impatiency I should let fall any unbesitting word 'T is a blessed frame said that grave Divine who recorded it when pain seems light and sin heavy So on the other hand for want of this prevalent Conjugal Love in conjunction with Christian Love a Daughter of King Ethelred having found the difficulty of her first birth she did afterwards perpetually abstain from her Husband's bed against the Apostle's Rule protesting from a Principle of unaccountable self-self-love Thâ—â— it was not fit a Daughter of a Crowned Head should commit her self any more to such perish 'T was far otherwise with a young Woman in Eubaâ—a who being Married to a Man she lov'd dearly became Mother and Grand-Mother to an Hundred Children The Story of Mrs Honywood in our Age is not less famous The Wife hath plighted her Troâ—â— to her Husband according 〈◊〉 the flesh unto whom the Lord hath in the Marriage-Covenant joyn'd her and she is obliged to be constantly faithful in 〈◊〉 Conjugal Duties to him 〈◊〉 whom she hath trusted herself and that by Vertue of the Covenant of her God Neither 〈◊〉 enough to be really faithful but also to seem so or be seen as much as may be so to be Not that any Christian Women should be like some of those in the Great Moguls Country 〈◊〉 to gain the repute of Modest Loving and Faithful Wives will have their own Corps burnt together with their deceased Husbands but she should shew her real fidelity as in an honest and prudent concealment of her Husbands Secrets so in avoiding all just suspicion by any familiar Converse with others of being false to his Bed and Religiously keeping till death the Matrimonial Obligation not deserting her dear Yoke-fellow when reduced to straits For so 't is storied of the King of Pontus his Wife that she disguised herself to follow her banished Husband saying There she reckoned was her Kingdom her Riches and Country wheresoever she could find her Husband The Wife of a certain Count of Castile when the King had detained her Husband in Prison went to visit him whom she perswaded to put on her Cloaths and leave her there in his stead Of which Fact the King hearing did much wonder at the fidelity of the Countess and sent her to her Husband wishing he had such Wives for himself and Sons To this matter in his present to seeming Women hath very well observed 't was his will that in their Travail their should ever be while the world stands that most eminent instance of his power indeed that I may say which made the great Heathen Phisâ—cian after a deep search into the causes of a Womans bringing forth a Child to cry out Oc Sin taile of Nature Hence 〈◊〉 her low Estate the pious Wife who lives by Faith alone Nature when she utters her doleful groans before the Almighty concludes It is the Lord let him do what seemeth him good If it seems good unto him then to call for her Life and the Life of her Babe she can say Lord here am I and the Child which thou gavest me A prudent Wife abideing in Faith Charity Holiness and Sobriety may have such support from the strengthening word of Promise here and elsewhere that Travailing in Birth and Pain to be delivered she may have good hope to be preserved in Child-bearing For tho as the most beloved wife Rachel in her hard labour thought she should die She may have good evidence from the Exercise of her Graces that she shall be eternally saved and that may be written on her Tomb-stone which a learned Doctor wrote on that of Pious Mrs. Wilkinson who with her Child went to Heaven from her Child-bed viz. Here lyes the Mother and Babe both without Sins Her Birth will make her and her Infant Twins Hereupon the Upright Woman tho' frail can resign up herself to God being fully perswaded with the Father of the Faithful that what he hath promised he is also able to perform and not Oliver speaking largely As for those who have Wives they should take special care to discharge the duties of good Husbands towords their Child-bearing Wives with all good fidelity viz. 1. To dwell with them according to knowledg giving honour unto them as the weaker vessels and as being Heirs together of the graces of Life that their prayers be not hindred 2. To endeavour as much as may be to discharge the parts of good Christians and tender Husbands towards their dearest Yoke-fellows in such a prevailing Condition laying much to heart those antecedent concomitants and consequent pains such a state of pregnancy involves them in which these Husbands themselves in such a kind cannot have experience of That as it becomes them for the sake of their good and godly Wives they may as is sometimes said of some Sympathizing ones in a fort breed with them and for them by putting on as the elect of God bowels of mercy kindness humbleness of mind meâ—kness long-suffering c. and fulfil all the Duties of the Relation they are in readily and â—â—mely providing for them not only Necessaries but such Conveniencâ—es as they can for their longing appetites and for the â—eartning of their dear suffering Wives who are apt to be 〈◊〉 down under apprehensions of their approaching sorrows to call in the aid of faithful praying Ministers and pious Friends to make their requests known unto God for them And if God hears their Prayers 3. To be heartily thank-ful to God upon his giving safe deliverance to their gracious wives from the pains and perils of Child-bearing D. DAmaris Acts 17.34 perhaps a little Wife from 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 a Wife Danae i. Laurus the Lawrel or Bay-tree Dalilah Judges 16.4.1 poor impoverish'd Deborah may be render'd a By-word Speech Praise or Praising Denis belonging to Baechus Dido signifies a Man like or stout Woman Phoenician Dinah 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Judgement Dorras 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 i. a She Goat or with Polit. a Roe Buck see Tabitha Acts 9.36 Dorothy the Gift of God or given of God Dousabella i. sweet and fair Maiden Fr. Douse i. sweet Fr. Drusilla 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Act 24 25. G. P. composeth it of 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 i. Ros the Dew Damia a Goddess of the Ancients only worshipped
of Clay 〈◊〉 all the necessary Rooms belonging to it though the outside be not so fairly set 〈◊〉 as others Deformity may Lawfully and Commendably be helped by 〈◊〉 to Correct the Defects Encthonus being a goodly Mâ—â— from the Girdle upward 〈◊〉 as the Poets feign havâ—â—â— downwards the body of a Seâ—pent or rather as we believe crooked Legs or stump Fâ—â—â— set his wits to work to inverâ— Chariot in which Riding 〈◊〉 Deformity of his Legs and Feâ—â— were hid it is said thouâ—â— without much Ground 〈◊〉 Saunders that Queen 〈◊〉 Wife to Henry the Eight 〈◊〉 the Ruff to hide a 〈◊〉 in her Neck However 〈◊〉 matters not much whether 〈◊〉 be in the Right or the Wroâ—â— for such a thing might be 〈◊〉 fully used on that or the 〈◊〉 occasion Let us not in 〈◊〉 wise dare to mock at or 〈◊〉 those that are mishâ—â—â— by Nature those that 〈◊〉 them despise God that 〈◊〉 them For they as well as 〈◊〉 most Beautiful and well Pâ—â—â—portioned are Pictures of Gods own making but set in a plainer Frame not so guilded and Embellished a Deformed Person is no less his Workmanship but not drawn with even Lines and lively Colours The former not for want of Wealth as the latter not for want of Skill but both for the pleasure of the Maker Aristotle is uncharitably cruel when he advises people to expose their Deformed Children to the wide World and not to take any regard of them as if they were not Gods Creatures as well as the other And though Deformities have taken hold of their Bodies frequently the beauties of their Minds make amends for it many times Equaling and some times Excelling in a high degree Those of the most Fair and Beautiful some people handsom by Nature deform themselves by Riot and Luxury Excess or Immoderate Eating and Drinking being Enemies to Beauty in either taking away the pleasing blush by being bloated or growing over fat or convert it into a Bacchinalian hue which is worse because it more visibly exposes the party and the cause by whose Effects those Rubies are planted there as not arising as they would make us believe from having but being bad Livers when the Woman in the first of Kings 3.21 Considered the 〈◊〉 that was laid by her by the fly subtilty of the other Harlot behold when I looked said she It was not too 〈◊〉 which I did bear How justly may God say the same of those that deform themselves by their Irregular Courses of Living and overtook them as things he created not But where a Deformity is made by the malice of Men it is otherwise for many times that stands for God's mark and Seal upon his Children when they suffer Torments and Persecutions for the Honour of his Name as Confessors who were the Body of Truth and though they are Scar'd or Dismembred they look more Beautiful in the Eyes of their Maker and likewise in the Esteem of all Good Men and Women this contemplation of suffering Deformity made the Emperour Constantine the Great did kiss the places where Paphuntius a Godly Christians Eyes had stood before they were bored out by the Tyrant Maximinus because he would not fall down and worship the Heathen Gods wounds in War if honourably received though they occasion deformity are never the less Beautiful to Noble and Generous Spirits however they may seem contemptible in the Eyes of the Vulgar and Sordid part of Mankind Halting through Wounds and Honourable Scars is a Soldiers stately March And he who mocks at the Marks of Valour in a Soldiers face may with Ignominy at one time or other be Scared with the brand of Justice on his own Flesh. Beautiful minds as we have hinted are frequently join'd with such bodies as by Nature are deformed their Souls have been the Chapels of Sanctity whose Bodies have been the Spittles of Deformity Many rare and useful Arts are owing to the Wisdom and Industry of either Sex whose Bodies not being very acceptable has made them improve the vertues of their Minds to get them an Esteem and a Name that would be sure to live beyond the longest continuance of Beauty some Ladies that have been tollerably handsom and have found it much impared by that Irreconcilable Enemy to a good force viz. The small Box have been so frequently passionate and uneasie so displeased and out of humour with themselves that they have grown careless and negligent of their Persons and Affairs weary in a manner of their Lives For that which of it self in a little time would naturally have faded and like a shedding Rose have dropt into and been lost in the Seeds of Old Ages Wrinkles and Deformities not at the 〈…〉 regarding that their true Beauty which they ought most to value and improve was looked up in a Cabinet the 〈◊〉 of the 〈◊〉 could not open which being exposed to the best Advantages would yet set a greater Lustre upon their Faces than all the Roses and Lillies without it could do in their flourishing Prime for an outside Beauty without that which is Internal can be reckoned only a Fair Picture set up in the World for Men only to gaze at And indeed is of little other use profit or delight Our Advice is Ladies that you be not dejected or angry with your selves or your Maker the latter especially is to be avoided when a cloud is drawn over the Lustre only of an outside fading Beauty no more than the Sun seems to be displeased and leave his Road when a Mist to appearance renders him a bold and beamless Globe of Fire to Mortal Eyes his brightness in himself is then ne're the less No Mists Clouds or Vapours being capable of Lessening it or any thing arising of the Damps and Foggs of the Earth to his Exalted Sphere So the brightness of your Souls in the perfection of the many vertues that adorn you shining as Glitering Gems in Crowns of Burnished Gold about the Eclipse of a Disease However for the repair of External defects in Beauty we have 〈◊〉 this Work with diâ—â—â— choice Receipts to restore 〈◊〉 Loveliness in fading Beauty and so we conclude this Hoâ—â—â— with a few Lines writ to Lady who had newly been visited with the small Pox. Sickness Loves Rival envying the place Where Cupid choose to pitch his Tents your face Went to write foul but Venus made it prove Spight of his spight the Alphabet of Love So as they strove Love served him in his trim For as that set on you this set on him And Love that Conquers all things soon made known To him a burning greater than his own What pitty 't is that face where Love has been So oft so proud to play so sweetly in By Sickness hand should be o're turned thus As to be made a Campius Martius Wherein the angry York and Lancaster New Vamp and do retrive their cruel War As if the Red Rose and the White would be Where e're they met still at Antipathy
to become an object to his duâ—â— Fancy who knew not how to value it Though no doubt with that excellent Geometrician he could well enough gather by the proportion of her Foot the entire Feature which would wound him as deadly to the Heart as Achilles wâ—â— wounded in his Heel Itâ—â— the Eye that conveys Love 〈◊〉 the heart curious Models 〈◊〉 to dull Spectators move 〈◊〉 admiration and consequently leave but a weak impression To see a Compaspe portrayed in her Colours her Vâ—â—â— enazured her sweet Smiles shadowed her Love-enthralling Eyes sparkled and all theâ—â— with a native Art and 〈◊〉 Colour displayed would make their Apelles to do what he did Whence we read that Alexander the Worlds Monarch not only affecting but admâ—â—ing the Art of Apelles to parallel his skill with an equal subject commanded him on a time to Paint Campaspe naked who was then held the Beauty of that Age which Apoâ—â—â—â— having done his Pencil purchased him a penâ—ive heâ—â—â— falling in Love with her who was his Piâ—â—â—â— and whâ—â—â— Love he despaired to compass ever Which Alexander having perceived he gave him her The like incomparable Art was shown by Zenxes upon the Beauties of Croton's five Daughters which Pictures took more Hearts than his Grapes had before deceived Birds Elizabeth Carew wrote the Tragedy of Mariam Elizabetha Joanna Weâ—â—ous an English Poetess of some repute in the esteem of Farnaby Etinna a Poetess of Tros who is said to have writ a Poem in the Doric Dialect consisting of 300 Verses She dyed at Nineteen Years of Age. Eurhesia an unknown Poeâ—ess except by a fragment of 32 Latin Verses Eccho or Echo Gr. a resounding or giving again of any noise or voice in a Wood Valley or Hollow place Poets feign that this Eccho was a Nymph so call'd who being rejected by one whom she lev'd pin'd away for sorrow in the Woods where her voice still remains answering the Out cries of all complaints Esseminate essoeminatus Woman-like nice wanton Eleanor a Womans name from Helena i.e. pitiful Elizabeth Hebr. the God of Oath or as some will Peace of God or quiet rest of the Lord. Mantuan playing with it makes it Eliza-bella Min. ridiculously compounds it of the Hebrew word El. i. Deus and the Greek Isa and Beta Elopement a Law Term is when a married Woman leaves her Husband and dwells with the Adulâ—erer by which without voluntary Submission and reconcilement to him she shall lose her Dower Stat. West 2. c. 34. Sponte virum mulâ—er fugiens adultera fa'cta Dote sua careat nisisponse sponte retrâ—â—ta Elysium or Elysian fields Campus Elysius a Paradise into which the Heathens believed the Souls of the Just went after their departure hence This Elyzium is meant by Virgil when he says Devenere locos lotus amaend virâ—â— For 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 on nemorum 〈◊〉 beateâ— Eâ—bellish Fr. 〈◊〉 to beautifie garniâ—h adorn bedeck trim up or set out unto the Eye Embryon embryo a Child in the Mother's Womb before it has perfect shape and by Metaphor any thing before it has Perfection Epithalamy epithalamium a Bridal Song or Poem or a Song at a Wedding in Commendation of the paâ—â—â—â—â— married Such also is that of Stella in Statius and of 〈◊〉 in Catullus c. It is so called from the Greek 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 i. e.apud and Thalamus a Bed-Chamber but more properly a Bride-Chamber because this Song was used to be sung at the Door of the Bride-Chamber when the Bride bedded There are two kinds of Epithalamies the one used to be sung at night when the marry'd couple entred Bed the other in the morning to raise them up Min. Erato one of the Nine Muses who as Ovid saith Nomen amoris habet Eve the Wife of Adam from the Heb. Evah i.e. living or giving Life Adam so call'd his Wife because she was the Mother of every living thing Eugenia Gr. Nobleness or Goodness of Birth or Blood Eye-bite to bewitch with the Eyes Erhidne a Scythian Queen who had three Children at a birth by Hercules Edessleda Ehseda govern'd the Kingdom prudently eight Years after the death of her Husband Ethelred King of the Mercâ—ans El 〈◊〉 Cu. a Stepmother Emme a Womans name either as Anne or Eigiva help-giver Endomment de la plus belle 〈◊〉 Widows dower of Lands â—olden in Socâ—age as the fairer or better part Endeaâ—ion a Shepherd in Enge◠〈◊〉 Bright angel Love with the Moon 〈◊〉 stops every night to kiss him being cast into a perpetual 〈◊〉 on the Top of Leâ—â—mus Hill Ephiatres g. the Night-mare Epiraene g. comprehending both Sexes under one gender Erigone Daughter of Lâ—rus who hang'd herself for her Father's death the Constellation Virgo Eriphile for a Bracelet betray'd her Husband Amphiâ—â—as to the Theban Wars to 〈◊〉 Destruction Eros g. Love Cupid Ester f. Estre c. Substance State or Being Esther h. Secret Eurâ—dire being fetch'd from Hell by her Husband Orphen was snatch'd back again because he lookt back on her before she arrived upon Earth Erpâ—â—tant fee tail 〈◊〉 having Lands given to a Mâ—â— and the Heirs of his Body 〈◊〉 F. Fabia a Beam Faith a Name commonly used Felice i. Happy Florence i. Flourishing Florida i. deck'd 〈◊〉 Flowers Flaminea i. Fiery Fortune as if vertuâ—â— â—â—vertendo so called for her Mutability and Inconstancy Francis i. Free Frideswid i. very free or truly free Faâ—rada Third Wife to Charlemaign a Woman of such Ambition and Cruelty that the People not being able to endure it and she at the same time being countenanâ—'d by her Husband they depos'd them both and set up Peppin one of Charlemaign's natural Sons Faussa the Wife of Constantine the Great falling in Love with Crispus her Husband's Son by another Wife and he refusing to comply with her Lustful desires she accus'd him of attempting her Chastity whereupon without sssmination he was put to â—â—eath but the Wickedness turning afterwards to light the Emperor caus'd her to be 〈◊〉 in a hot Bath Feronia a Goddess of the Pagans to whom they attriâ—â—â—e the Care of Wood and is â—o call'd from her Temple â—ear Feronia not far from a Wood Consecrated to her and those that worshipped her are said to walk on burning Coals 〈◊〉 footed without any hurt and in 〈◊〉 Temple they Enfranchised their Cap or Hat in â—â—ken their Condition was alâ—â—red Flora the Goddess of Flowers said to be the Wife of Zepherus or the gentle West-wind which with friendly Gales in Spring time clears the Air and makes Flowers to grow though Lactantius will have her to be a Roman Curtezan who was wâ—nt to set up a May-pole with Garlands of Flowers before her door to allure Young-Men to her House by which Stratagem she got much Riches which she leaving to the Common-wealth when she dy'd was for her Liberality styl'd a Goddess and the Games called Ludos Florales celebrated to her Memory Fluonia an ancient Name given by the Pagans to June Fraud a Goddess whom
Scratching breaking Legs and Arms and Necks and then to Purring agen But we 'll suppose 't is a Tame Wit whose power this Gentleman is fallen into and therefore she 'll pull in her Claws when she playes with his Heart and be more merciful to him than to make him break his own before he softens hers A Woman of true sense as she hates on one side a Freakish Lover or a supple Fop that 's eternally Kneeling and Cringing and Whining so she 'll ne're endure stiffness Pride and Haughtiness which as ill becomes Love as it does Devotion And the greater her Birth and Fortune are something of a proportionable greater Respect ought to be paid her In a word a modest Assurance a Manly Behaviour a Tenderness for all her Inclinations a diligent Observation of her Temper and Humour much easier to be pleased than those of less Wit Faithfulness Assiduity Liberality and good Sense will at last carry her if she is not pre-ingaged or wholly impregnible Quest. 3. What Expression's fittest for a Lâ—vâ—r to make use of to declare 〈◊〉 Passion Answ. That 's impossible to prescribe and as needless and as unreasonable to desire Lovers Language is â—â—ite contrary to the Chinese of which 't is reported that there are many Words impossible to be understood by speaking 'em unless they are also written or described on a Wall over the Air. c. Whereas the Language of a Lover can hardly be expressed in Writing at 〈◊〉 it thereby loses a thousand little Beauties which it has when 't is spoken It has not that spirit which makes it acceptable it looks stiff and dead and there are very few even of our Dramatique Writers whose Love-speeches read well or appear free or natural Whereas if a Man Loves in earnest if he be not a perfect Fool nay almost tho' he is one were it possible for such a one to be in Love he speaks with another sort of a Grace he is more in earnest he his more spirit he seldom wants Words to express his Conceptions unless he 's a Dastard and Coward and so unworthy a Ladies Affections and he goes very often beyond himself at other times and on other occasions Besides this Love has in particular beyond the other Passions that it softens the Style as well as the Temper whereas Anger renders it more harsh and rough and makes even the Voice more tunable and harmonious But shou'd a Man be Dumb he cou'd not want ways to express his Passion nay sometimes a well manag'd Silence is the best Eloquence He has Hands and can write he has Eyes and can say a thousand charming things with 'em nay express all his Passions especially Love Desire Fear Despair Hope Pleasure Submission or almost what he pleases with them and that infinitely more to the Life than by any other way But since there is Ocâ—â—casion for some louder Language and a Dumb Mistress of the two wou'd be more acceptable than a Lover in the same Circumstances if he must speak his Expressions ought to be of a piece with his Beâ—aviour before described He ought to consider Time and Place and as much to avoid being always disâ—â—â—â—sing his Love and never doing it His Expressions shou'd be quick respectful tender and lively more understood than spoken yet easily intelligible In a word there shou'd be in 〈◊〉 there 〈◊〉 quoâ— which none but a Lover knows what to make of Quest. 4. Whether Tears Sighs and â—arnest Intreaties be of greater force to obtain a 〈◊〉 Favour than a moderate Dâ—gree of Zeal with a wiâ—e and man 〈◊〉 â—arriage 〈◊〉 Still 〈◊〉 she is and thô such a one as described yet there are few Ladiâ—s but love to have an Absolute Power over their Lovers and to be at least able to bring 'em to what they please accordingly for Tears and all that thô a Lover ought not to be too free of using 'em yet he ought to have a secrâ—t Reserve of 'em to be at the Lady's Service if she desires it Thô we think on her side too 't wou'd be better not to put him to 't and suffer her Heart to be wrought upon by some 〈◊〉 tedious Method than such frequent Drops as even wear into Marble least the Scene shou'd change in a few Months and it shou'd be her Turn then as it was formerly her Lovers Quest. 5. Whether Interrupting Discourse by repeated Kisses ben't rude and unmanerlâ— and more apt to create Aversiâ—n than Love Answ. Not so hally Good Sir you have made great Progress indeed in your Amour if like the Tartars in their March you are got to Plundering already before there was any News of your being so much as arrived in the Country If you get within one Step of the last before you have got well over the 〈◊〉 ten to one but you 'll make more haste than good speed To those Oscula quae Venus Qâ—intâ parte â—ui Neâ—â—aris imbuâ—t as Friend Horace has it before you have so much as made your first Addresses But we 'll be so kind to suppose this is only a Prudential Care you take that you may know how to behave your self hereafter when the Business is thus far advanced Taking it then at that Point the truth is Killing is a lushious Dyet 't is too high Feeding for a Militant Lover and besides extreamly apt to surfeit He must therfore remember to feed cautiouâ—ly as if he were eâ—ting Mellons Moderation veriâ—y is an excellent thing which he muâ—t Observe from the Teeth outwaâ—d â—s wâ—ll as inward and Kiss as well as Talk with Discretion It may do like a high Cordial or a Teaster of Cold Tea a little now and then but he must have a Care how he makes it his constant Drink unless he has a mind to burn his Heart out Then there are certain Times and Seasons to be Observed For Example if a pair of soft Lips are about to pronounce some hard thing or other some terrible repulse or denyal if they poâ—t and look forbidding and angry then a Noli Prosequi may lawfully be issued out and one that understands the Methods of that Court will be for stopping the Proceedings as fast as he 's able Quest. 6. How far may Singing and Musick be proper in making Love Answ. There 's nothing which Charms the Soul more than fine Musick Osborn says unluckily after his manner of a fine Woman who Sings well that she 's a Trap doubly baiâ—ed and why is not the same true of a Man There being indeed something for ravishing in Musick whether in Man or Woman that 't is almost impossible for any thing that 's humane to resist it thô in Vocal still more than Instrumental It smooths all the rugged Passions of the Soul and like Beauty bewitches into Love almost before Persons know where they are But even here as well as in all other Cases Extreams are to be avoided â—â—thing being more ridicuâ—â—â—â— than an eternal Fa-la of a Lâ—â—er and a
pound and a half the whites and shells of thirty Eggs the young branches of a Fig-tree cut in small shivers incorporate them well and distill them in a Glass Alimbick over a gentle five Then to the Water you draw off add Sugar-Candy Borace and Camphire each an ounce Olibanum two ounces bruise them small and then distill them over again preserving the Water upon this Second Distillation as a rare Secret and improver or Imbellisher of Beauty Again take Lithargy of Gold and Silver each a dram put them into stronge white Wine Vinegar add Camphire and Allum of each half a Scrupleas much of Musk and Ambergreece to scent the Composition boyl them in a small quantity of Vinegar silter and keep it then boyl a little Roch-Allum in spring water and keep it apart from the other but when you use them mingle them together Thus Venus in her brightest form you 'll vie Or all those Female Starâ— that guild the Sky Who for their Beauties there were 〈◊〉 and shine But you out dazled now 〈◊〉 must refine To see their long 〈◊〉 leave 〈…〉 Faustina was cured of dishonest Love And of divers other Remedies against that Passion That the affection and prison of the Mind which is ordinarily called Love is a strong Passion and of great effect in the Soul let us ask of such Men which by Experience have known it and of such whom Examples are notorious namely of very excellent Personages that have suffer'd their Wills to have been transported even so far that some of them have died Jules Capitolin amongst other Examples recites that which happen'd to Faustina Daughter to Amoninus and Wife to the Emperor Marcus Aurelius who fell in Love with a Master of Fence or Gladiator in such sort that for the desire which she had of his Company she was in danger of Death she did so consume away Which being understood by Marcas Aurelius he presently call'd together a great company of Astrologians and Doctors to have counsel and find remedy thereupon At last it was concluded That the Fencer should be kill'd and that they should unknown to her give Faustina his Blood to drink and that after she had drank it the Emperor her Husband should lie with her This Remedy wrought marvellously for it put this Affection so far from her that she never afterwards thought of him And the History saith of this Copulation that the Emperor had then with her was begotten Antoninus Commodus which became so bloody and Cruel that he resembled more the Fencer whose Blood his Mother had drank a the Conception of him than Marcus Aurelius whose Son he was which Commodus was always found amongst the Gladiators as Eutropius Wâ—â—nesses in the Life of the same Commodus The 〈◊〉 and Arabick Physicians place this Disease of Love amongst the grievous Infirmities of the Body of Man and thereupon prescribe divers Remedies Câ—dâ—mus Milesien as Sâ—ydâ—â— â—â—ports in his Collections writes a whole Book treating of 〈◊〉 particular Remedies which Physicians give for this Disease one is That to him that is passionate in Love one 〈◊〉 put into his hands great Affairs importuning his Credit and his Profit that his Spirit being occupied in divers matters it may draw away his Imagination from that which troubles him And they say further that they should 〈◊〉 him to be merry and conversant with other Women Against this heat Pliny saith it is good to take the Dust upon which a Mule hath tumbled and cast it upon the Lover and all to be powder him or else of the Sweat of a chased Mule as Cardanus affirms in his Book of Subtilties The Physicians also teach how to know what Person is loved of him that is sick in Love and it is by the same Rule that Eristratus Physician to King Seleucus knew the love that Antiochus bare to the Queen Stratonicus his Stepmother for he being extream sick and would rather die than discover the cause of his Sickness proceeding from Love which he bare to his Father's Wife She came into the Chamber just then when the Physician was feeling the Patients Pulse which beat so strong when he saw the Queen come into the Chamber that Eristratus knew that he was in Love with her and that was the cause of his Sickness wherefore he found the way to make the King acquainted with it by such a means as would be too tedious to recite Which being experimented by the Father and seeing his Son in danger if he did not prevent it thought it good tho contrary to the Intention of the Son which chose rather Death than to be healed by his Father's Loss to deprive himself of his Queen and give her to his sick Son And so indeed the Age and the Beauty of the Lady and likewise Marriage was more proper for the Son than for the Father And by this means Antiochus lived well and gallantly many Years with his well-beloved Stratoniâ—â—â— The History is very neatly recited by Plutarch in the Life of Demetrius And thus you see why Physicians say that you must feel the Pulse of those that are in Love and repeat to them divers names of Persons and if you name the right the Pulse will beat thick and strong and by that you shall know whom they Love By divers other signs one may know when any is in Love and with whom which I leave to speak of now Friendship Friendship well chosen and placed is a great felicity of Life but we ought in this respect to move very cautiously and be certain we are not mistaken before we unbosom our Thoughts or make too strict a Union We see in Politicks Leagues offensive and defensive do not always hold and being abruptly broken prove more mischievous than any thing before they were contracted because there is a more eager desire of Revenge and ground of Injury started and so when a close knit Friendship slips the knot or is violently broken in sunder by the force of some mischievous Engine set on work to that end Anger and Hatred ensues all the Secrets on either side how unbecoming or prejudicial so ever are let fly abroad to become the Entertainment and Laughter of the World redounding perhaps not only to the Injury of your self but of others whose Secrets have upon Confidence of your Virtue been intrusted with you and by you again upon the like Confidence communicated to the Party you entrusted with your own who upon breaking with you persidiously discloses them Therefore keep to your self a Reservedness and try all manner of ways the strength and constancy of Fidelity before you trust too far for if you lay out your Friendship at first too lavishly like things of other natures it will be so much the sooner wasted suffer it by no means to be of too speedy a growth considering that those Plants which floot up over quickly are not of long duration comparable with those that grow flower and by degrees Choice of this kind ought
eclips'd his Splendor and thrown a Mantle of Daâ—â—ness over his Contentâ—â—â—â— when all other earthly Comforts have forsaken him as iâ— the season of Sickness or the breaking in of some one dangerous or various Calamities upon his Spirits to the wounding 〈◊〉 his Soul and casting him 〈◊〉 Agonies of Sorrow and Confusion Then the kind Endearments and Tenderness of a Wife is better that the Melody of the most Pleasant Musick and that is the best Tryal of her Faith and Constancy then she truly understands the Grace that God hath given her and it appears Graceful and Ornamental in her sets her off with an uncommon Lustre and adds to the Excellencies of her Beauties she makes a Husband truly Happy and Exalts her value above the price of Rubies she is a Crown and Ornament to him and a glorious Pattern for the Sex to imitate and he that values not and highly esteems such a Treasure is unworthy of it and of seeing good days If God has thus blessed any Man as no doubt he has several with such a Wife let him seriously consider the Happiness he enjoys with thanks to him who hath so framed and brought her to his Bosom Let him labour to encourage her cheerfully to persevere in her well-doing and give no occasion 〈◊〉 of scandal or offence Let 〈◊〉 Seal her a bond of faithful respect and cordial Love that he may see that her Virtnes 〈◊〉 her worthily Esteemed and 〈◊〉 Valuable Let him count her as the Signet on his right hand place her near his Heart as a costly Jewel of great Price Let it not be enough that he 〈◊〉 Love one who hath honoured him more than all his Wealth or Birth could do but 〈◊〉 must as far as in him lies procure her Honour in all places and suffer none to eclipse her worth Let her possess the fruits of her Labour and let her Works Praise her in the Gates And to summ up the Character of a Virtuous Woman take this borrowed â—ilimode though perhaps not so good Verse as a true Description of her 1. Let the Violet which alone Prospers in some Happy shade The Virtue in her has it's Throne 〈◊〉 no looser Eye betray'd For she is to her self untrue 〈◊〉 delights ìth publick view 〈◊〉 her Beauty as no Arts 〈◊〉 enrich'd with borrowed Grace 〈◊〉 high Birth no Pride imparts The Modest blushes spread her Face 2. When Folly boasts Illustrious Blood This foe is noblest being good Curious she knew never yet What a wanton Courtship meant Nor speaks she loud to boast her Wit But 's in her Silence Eloquent Of her self survey she takes But 'tween Men no difference makes She obeys with speedy Will All wise and innocent Commands And is so innocent that ill She Acts not neither understands 3. Womens Feet may run astray If once to ill they know the way She sails by that great Rock the Court Where Honour oft has split her Mast And in retiredness finds a Port Where her Fame may safe Anchor cast Pure Virtue cannot safely fit Where Vice is found enthron'd for Wit She holds that days Pleasure best When Sin waits not on delight Without Mask or Ball or Feast Sweetly she spends a Winter night 4. She her Throne makes Reason climb Whilst would Passions captive lie And 〈◊〉 Article of time Her pure thoughts to Heaven flie And all her vows Religious be And she from vain Conceits is free No center knows she for her Love But that Eternal fixt above But we need not stand too nicely upon this Point seeing few regard the Complexions or Proportions of this kind when they couple but if they are healthful young and vigorous we see those of all Complexions and Constitutions have Children it is convenient however in some measure to assist Nature in taking Care to be Temperate and to feed upon wholsome Diet to cherish the Body as you find occasion with Restoratives and to charm the Imagination with Musick to wash away Cares by chearing Refreshments that the Mind being elevated to a Pitch of Joy and Rapture the Body being discumbered the sensual Appetite may be the more freely encouraged to gratifie it felt in the delights of Nature Melancholly and Grief being utter Enemies to Generation by drying up and consuming the Prolifick Moisture therefore whatever is troublesome to the Fancy and Sences must be avoided excess of Eating and Drinking likewise are to be omitted for the superabundant humours and fumes created thereby dull the Spirits and render the Body unactive therefore Moderation in choice of Meats and Drinks breed more and better Blood because the Digestion is more Easie and Natural and the Concoction more freely distributed and this good Blood creates good Spirits So that all things work and concur to the best end of answering your Expectations to have healthy and beautiful Children and when you have obtained them as the lasting Pledges of Chast Love and the best of Temporal Blessings and so to bring them up in good Education that they may be 〈◊〉 true Comfort to you and 〈◊〉 Grace and Ornament to their Countrey Generation a natural 〈◊〉 on whereby an Animal 〈◊〉 another like it of the same 〈◊〉 of convenient Seed In Generation the first thing we see is a red Speck which is cloathed with a little Bladder next a little Heart whence Veins and Arteries flow at the Extremity whereof you see the Viscera the Bowels c. afterward the whole Faelus is formed and cloathed with Membranes before Generation the Seed of the Male being cast into the Womb enters and prepares its Pores afterwards sweats out a Viscous Substance like the white of an Egg which moves the Egg out of the Testicles and Tubes for the Womans Eggs being impregnated by the influence of the Seed are emitted out of the Testicles and received by the Fallopian Tubes Generation more particularly considered in the making a 〈◊〉 choice in Marriage Generation is the chief end of Marriage and for which it was principally ordained but is many times frustrated by unsuitable Matrimony Hypocrates in reference to a Womans being capable of Generation tells us that to Experiment It she may take Incense or Storax and make a Suffumigation with a Garment loose wrapt about her hanging to the Ground in such a manner as no Vapour or Fume may easily scatter and after about half an hours continuance over the smoaking Incense if she find the Fume of it in her mouth it has by it's quick penetration passed thrô the Vessels and shows them to be open so that there being no obstruction there can be no Barenness as this famous Physician concludes However notwithstanding this regard ought to be had to the Complexions and Consticutions of the Parties that marry that it may in a great measure be discerned how nearly they are corresponding a d agreeing for it hath happened that a Man who has been Childless by one Wife tho' Young and to appearance apt and capable has had divers by
another and on the other hand the like has befallen Women Grant we must then in some measure what the same Physian gives as his Opinion That such a Correspondence ought to be between the Marryed Couple and his Reasons are That the hot answer not the cold the moist the dry in measure and quality And then the Cultivature is in vain and there may be Pleasure but no Generation for so marvellous Work as the formation of a man continues he could not be performed without a proportionable Comixture of Seed and to Exemplifie this Assertion on of his other Physicians proceed to tell us that a Woman very Ill-conditioned shrill-voiced Twarthy Complexion and enclining to Leanness suits best for the Work of Generation Gentleman generosus nobilis seems to be a compound of two words the one French gentile i.e. honostus vel honesto loco natus the other Saxon mon as if you would say a man well born The Italian follows the very word calling those Gentil-homini whom we call Gentlemen Galanthis Alemena's Maid turned into a Weesel Galathea a Sea Nymph beloved of Polypheme who killed Acis whom she preferred before him Gallus a Young Man punisht for suffering Sol to discover the Adultery of Mars and Venus Gillet Aegidio the Womans Nature Gilt Jilt a cheat a fly defeating ones intent Glycerium a Courtesan of Thespia Godina Wife to Leosvic Lord of Coventry who to gain them a release from his Impositions rode naked through the City Geloum a Lake is Sicily at two Fountains whereof one makes Women fruitful the other barren Grishild gr Gray Lady Guastaliens a Religious Order of Men and Women began 1537. by a Mantuan Lady Counsels of Guastala Gule Goule or Yule of August St. Peter ad Vincula Lammas-day when they say Quirinus's Daughter by kissing St. Peters Chain was cured of a Disease in her Gummilda she kill'd her self because her Husband Asmond King of Denmark was slain in Battel Gunora a Norman Lady who held the Hamblet of Lanton by the service of a barbed Arrow to the King when he hunted in Cornedon Chase. Graeae three Sisters of the Gorgons they had all but one Eye and one Tooth which they used by turns Gallant Fr. goodly noble vertuous But it is now substantively appli'd to that persoâ— who si Servant or Platoâ—â—â— to a Lady Galatia a Sea Nymph for whose love Polyphemus flew himself Ganymede Ganymedes the Name of a Trojan Boy whom Jupiter so loved say the Poets as he took him up to Heaven and made him his Cupbearer Hence any Boy loved for carnal abuse or hired to be used contrary to Nature to commit the detestable Sin of Sodomy is called a Ganymede or Ingle Gertrude or Gerritude a Womans Name compounded of the old Saxon Gar i.e. All and trude i.e. Truth or Troâ—h Gorgon Gr. a terrible fighting Woman Poets feign there were three such Daughters to King Phorcbus their Names were Medusa 〈◊〉 and Euryale Gossip from the Saxon Gorsib our Christian Ancestors understanding a spiritual affinity to grow between the Parents and such undertook for the Child at Baptism called each other by the Name of Godsib which is as much as to lay as they were Siâ— together that is of Kin thro' God or a Couzin before God And the Child in like manner called such his God-Fathers or God-Mothers c. Verst Graces Charites three Sisters Poetically supposed the Daughters of Jupiter and Venus They were callled Aglsis Thalia and Euphrosyne The Moral was to express the mutual love and chearful Conversation which ought to be among Friends for they were painted naked to signifie friendship ought to be plain without dissimulation smilling and merry to shew Men should do good willingly young and Maiden-like to teach Friendship should consist in honest things and holding hands together in a round ring to shew a Benefit bestowed returns again to the giver Gyazcia in general are the Accidents incident to Women Guabr-merched Br. a fine to the Lords of some Mannors upon the Marriage of their Tenants Daughters also as Lairâ—â—â— Gy o. a guide Gybr o. any writing or pass Gyges a Lydian Shepherd who kill'd the King Canâ—aules his Master and enjoyed his Crown and Wife whom he had shewn him naked by the help of Gyge's Ring taken from a dead Giants finger found in the belly of a brazen Horie in the Earth whose coâ—ler turn'd inward made him invisible H. Hagar 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in the Arabick signifies to flee perhaps a Name given her from the face of her Mistris Sara 〈◊〉 16.6 or as others â— a Stanger Hinnah 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Channah i. 〈◊〉 or merciful Haiâ—is see Avice Helena à 〈…〉 dict So called from her beauty Hephzi-bah 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 2. King 21.10.1 â—â— delight or properly will â—â— in her Esther see Esther Huplice was Daughter to 〈◊〉 King of Thracia and gave her Mind to Warlike Exploits to which the was inciâ—ed by often hunting wild Beasts and when the Guests made an inroad into her Fathers Dominions overthrew his Power and took him Prisoner she with certain Troops purified the Enemy roated them and â—ave him a famous 〈◊〉 Harpics Monsters fabled to have the Bodies of Birds and Faces of beautiful Women and are said to be the Daughters of Neptune and the Earth they greatly disturbed Aeneas at his Banquet and presaged the hardship he should meet withal in his Voyage from Troy to Italy Hebe styled among the Ancients the Goddess of Youth and is said to be the Daughter †Juno She was made Cupâ—earer to Jupiter but slipping â—â— a Fâ—ast her Coats flew over 〈◊〉 ears and discovered her Nakedness in an unseamly part which caused the Thunderer to appoint Ganimedes to officiate her place but afterward she was Marry'd to Hercules when he took his place in the Skies Hecata called the Goddess of the Night 〈◊〉 in Poysons and Inchantments she was painted with three heads one of a Dog one of a Horse and one of a wild 〈◊〉 Some call her Proserpina or the Queen of Hell she is said to Poyson her Father and flying to her Unkle for Refuge he Marry'd her and on her begat Circes and Medeâ— both Inchantresses Helen the Daughter of Jupiter by Ledea Marry'd to Menelaus Brother to King Agamemnon her Rape by Paris Son to King Priamus of Troy occasioned the destruction of that famous City by the Greeks after a ten years Siege and great Effusion of Blood she was accounted one of the most beautiful Women in the World Helen Daughter to Constantine the Great a Virtuous and Heroick Lady Marry'd to Julian the Apostate Helen Queen of Adiabene who first embraced the Jewish then the Christian Religion Helen Daughter of King Coilus a British Prince marryed to the Roman Emperour Constantinus Chlorus and Mother to Constantine the Great she was a great Encourager of the Christian Religion found out the Cross where the Jews had hid it and caused many places of Religious Worship to be
and that she is priviledg'd from any servile Labour or Punishment He is careful that her Infirmities shall not be publickly known and is always ready to vindicate her Reputation yet he keeps her in the wholsome Ignorance of unnecessary Secrets too heavy for her Sex to bear or may injure her by containing them in raising perâ—urbations of doubts and fears in her Mind and in fine he cherishes her as his own Flesh makes her the Delight of his Eyes rejoyces when she is merry and labours to comfort â—er when she is heavy and sorrowful he thinks nothing his Ability will purchase too dear for her nor any thing he does too much to please her If Death prove unkind and take her from him he mourns her loss immeasurably and if he dyes first he leaves all to her and her Children Husbands Duty towards his Wife Having given a brief Character of a Good Husband it is now requisite seeing all are not such to instruct such as intend to Marry or are already in possession how they ougâ—â— to behave themselves towards their Wives First then consider the State of Marriage is Sacred first ordained by God in Paradise and many times confirmed and expresly commanded so to be esteemed therefore not to be trifled with and looked upon as a thing Indifferent First then you must resolve to Love and Cherish your Wife as your own Flesh or never expect to be really happy in your Marriage Love is like Salt or Sugar which doth season and render acceptable those Occurrents which else would be of no pleasant taste but beget digests mosts indispensable We cannot therefore conclude those Husbands overwise who imagine to have the Subjection of their Wives not by the Exercise of Affection but by the asserting their own Authorities for whatever is compell'd waits for an opportunity to cast off the Yoke and those that reign over the unwilling find it as great to keep them in Obedience as pleasure to be obeyed All Compulsory being a violent motion which upon every Cessation of Vis Moâ—iva returns again to it 's Natural bent when that which is spontaneous has a regular motion within the Mind moves the Body to act and put its dictates in practice so that nothing that is reasonable is refused for Love that is as strong as Death and can not be Quenched by many waters acts then very Powerfully and overlooks many Faults and sailings therefore the wise preserve and cherish Affection whilst the simple go about to destroy it and with it their own peace magnifie each Failing and aggravate each petty Circumstance as if Women could be altogether without some slips or sailings unless they expected them to be made in Heaven and so drop down into their mouth however we leave him that hopes for such a Bargain gaping till he catches such a one without setting him any time for his acquiring such a Felicity and say that Men who are so proud of being Rational should let their Reason sway their Passions and weigh in sound Judgment what is fitting to be done for securing their quiet and rendering them happy in their States and Stations for doubtless they are inexcuseable who upon occasional Discontents affect a Sullenness and labour to give a weight to their Anger by the continuance of it when all the while it only frets upon the Heart and disâ—â—â—â— themselves goes about to poison the Root of Love and not only hinders its growth but makes it decay and wither if not speedily recovered Husbands therefore when they have any Disputes with their Wives ought to avoid all words that carry reproach or bitterness in them â—or they sink deep into the Mid stir up Anger or Melancholâ—y Discontent to wound Affection and lay Love a bleeding they grate upon the Heart and will hardly be obliterated So that what might easily have been composed as to the matter of the Offence proves almost remedileâ—s by reason of these Sâ—â—caâ—â—ins It is beyond the Rule of Breeding or Manners when any dispute happens to rip up past Reproaches Failings or Misfortunes 't is only the practice of the Billings gate Rhetoricians when Anger and Bâ—andy inflames them Some Men and their Wives in their unbridled Passions have been so much overseen in divulging one anothers secâ—et failings that they have become a By-word and beâ—n ashamed of themselves all their lives after for when once Gossips get a Story by the end It 〈◊〉 like wildâ—â—â— Your Wives Reputation should be as Sacred as yours for seeing you are Embarqued in one bottom the Shipwrack is equally hazardous If you divide your Interests and make Parties there is little hopes but that by such banâ—ying you weaken your selves to let in Ruine and Misery When you â—un into these Extravagancies look upon your Marriage Vows and Promises and see if you can find any such Actions and Procedures warranted there consider that those Promises were made before God in this Holy Place Perhaps you will say you would not take a false Oath if any one would give you the World and that you abhorr and detest Perjury bet know those Promises are as equally binding before God as an Oath before a Magistrate and will in Heaven if not on Earth be as severely punished dividing of Stocks and drawing that way from one another 〈◊〉 many times created by diâ—â—â—ust which ought to be avoided and as one Bed is deâ—â—red for Genual Recreation and Enjoyment so one Common Traasure should reserve Apprehension of Defrauds and Waste on either side unâ—â—â—s it too palpably appear and 〈◊〉 if it be not stopt you 〈◊〉 run down Ruines Hill To keep a Wise poor and neeâ—â—â— that is short of Mony to â—â—chase such things as it is not â—â—ays reasonable to acquaint 〈◊〉 with we promise you may 〈◊〉 her Virtue to a great Tryâ—â— especially if she be young and handsome for knowing he can have it for bestowing 〈◊〉 Favours which you regard 〈◊〉 on others it will run such in her mind and perhaps having overcome those 〈◊〉 and scruples at which her Conscience â—or a while started Anger for being so used and 〈◊〉 of gain more than pleasure may render you by this Diana's means another Aâ—â—â—on No Woman ever gave her plight in Marriage with an intent to be a Slave or â—ordidly abridged of what is convenient but in that promised themselves Pleasure and Conveniency in the Society of a Husband which they believe themselves uncapable to Enjoy without him which if they want from you their own Wit induceth them to seek elsewhere Whence we have seen some that have come to the Bride-house with the greatest Affection promising to themselves as much Felicity in a Husband as their Love and good Opinions had raised their Expectation to wish but afterward having been utterly frustrated of their hopes in the Tryal and Experience finding the Tavern and Company sharing â—o deep in what they looked for they grew at first Melancholly and Discontented but after having cast many things
Reins to this Passion if it can be avoided too soon before you know whether there is any possibility of obtaining your desire by which many have been ruined Homer tells us that though Ulisses was very desirous to hear the Melodious Songs of the Syrens but foreseeing the danger he should hazard for the delighting his Ears with their Harmony he would not trust himself loose least at that ravishing Melody he might leap overboard and perish as they intended his fate should be as many had been served before and therefore he caused himself to be tied fast to the Main Mast and his Men to stop their Ears with Wooll and Wax That brace of Venus Twins Errors and Anâ—e-Errors are very busie in Love-matters and do a great deal of Mischief for sometimes when our hopes are raised towards our wished Happiness then we are often disappointed by the changeable Chamelions and flattering 〈◊〉 who guild over with fair pretences their Hypocrisie and are great Protestors of Love and Honesty Modesty Virtue and Zeal framing counterfeit Gestures and affected looks and with a well dissembled countenance steal away the Hearts of Men and then deceive them and indeed such Objects are not worth fixing our Eyes on Love and hatred in the opinion of some may be implanted in our Minds by Philters Characters or the like but if so which we grant not they cannot be lasting for the operation once over the Passion raised by it must cease but the true Object of honest Love is Wisdom and Virtue plain open simple and naked without any ingredient of a Counterfeit and these being lasting will render Love so too where these are there is some particular Grace as Eloquence good Discourse Honesty Wit which attract the Eyes and Ears of Men gaining their Affections Favour and Good-will as a cunning Orator steals away the Affections of his Auditors and engages them on his side for this purpose Mercury by the Ancients is said to attend upon the Graces that by the Favour his Eloquence should gain them they should be the more admired and priz'd by Men. Abâ—â—lominus for his Honesty and open heartedness of a poor Gardiner was made a King whilst many Rich and Noble ones were set aside and when he had washed himself they cloathed him in Purple and desired him seeing he was worthy of the Dignity to take upon him the Title and Spirit of a King to continue his Continency and Frugality There is internal Beauty which we cannot see but with the Eyes of our Mind which is a fit Object for our Love and there is a peculiar Beauty even in Justice and a bright Lustre shines even in the constant dying of Martyrs which attracts our Love and makes us in pain for their Sufferings the Stoicks held it as a Maxim that only wise and virtuous Men and Women could be fair and that the 〈◊〉 of the Mind are fa◠〈◊〉 than those of the Body â—â— these Xenophon puts Valour 〈◊〉 they 〈◊〉 the Name 〈◊〉 and dâ—nomi ate 〈◊〉 and Lovely to all but the 〈◊〉 of the Envious 〈◊〉 Daughter of Scotland and Queen of France walking one 〈◊〉 in the Garden with her 〈◊〉 espied Alanus the Kings 〈◊〉 a decrepid hard 〈◊〉 old Man asleep in an 〈◊〉 to the Amazement of 〈◊〉 with her she stept to him and kist him as he slept and 〈◊〉 asked the Reason of it 〈◊〉 reply was that it was not in Person she had the respect 〈◊〉 but with a Platonick Love 〈◊〉 admired the Divine Beauty of his Soul The Queen of 〈◊〉 took a long and painful journey to be satisfied with 〈◊〉 Divine Beauties of King 〈◊〉 flowing from a wise and understanding Heart The beauâ—â— of the Body may be expressed by a Picture or Image but 〈◊〉 Artificer can express the 〈◊〉 Lustre of a Virtuous 〈◊〉 which spreads its rays to 〈◊〉 end of the World in good 〈◊〉 learned Labours and good Name Love once 〈◊〉 place where Virtue Reigns 〈◊〉 a sweet Harmony to 〈◊〉 it a perfect Amity an 〈◊〉 Correspondence 〈◊〉 a perfect Diapazon of 〈◊〉 Vows the harmony 〈◊〉 Souls as were between Daâ—â— and Jonathan Damon and Pythias Pylades and 〈◊〉 and this pleasing Harmony is as usual with the fair Sex and where it is it always brings or creates a Happiness and where this true Love is wanting 〈◊〉 can be no firm Peace or Friendship what outward shews or pretences soever there may be for by ends which once obtained the shadow vanished and discovers Envy Heart-burning open 〈◊〉 domestick Brawls Railings Râ—vilings â—uck-bitings Whisperings Melancholly and Discontents which make a Separation or what is worse an uncomfortable Cohabitation This borders very much upon Divine Love and holds a Character even from the Law of Nature including Piety Delectation and Benevolence and Friendship being sumptuously arraied in these virtuous Habits it shines with a dazling Lustre Love being the Circle of all other Affections and this chiefly Centers in Heaven on the Alwise and Almighty Object of all Love and Eternal Felicity yet dilates and darts its ravs into the Breasts of Men to fill them with Joy and Comfort to a very high degree and gives us some glimmering of the perfect Joys above as the Sun is in the Firmament communicating heat and influence to nourish and make things grow so is this kind of charitable friendship in the World in its good Effects and Operations on the Minds of those that really possess it you would think it hard for one Person to lay down his Life for another when he may be free from danger and for but proposing it some might look upon him as rash and foolish yet the strong Agitations of this kind of Love has produced such Examples for the Cords of Love bind faster than any other Bands whatever and are even as strong as Death If Love was once called up to Heaven as they Fable Astrea the Goddess of Justice was what a miserable Condition the World would be in what a Wilderness what a Chaos of Confusion And thus the Noble Spencer in some sort describes the three Branches united in one Stock Hard is the doubt and difficult to deem When all three kinds of Love together meet And do dispart the Heart with pow'r extream Whether shall weigh the ballance down to wit The dear Affection unto kindred sweet Or raging Fire of Love to Woman-kind Or Zeal of Friends combin'd by Virtues meet But of them all the Band of Virtuous Mind Methinks the gentle Heart 〈◊〉 firmest bind For natural Affections soon 〈◊〉 cease And quenched is with Cupidâ—â— greater flame But faithful Friendship doth them both suppress And them with Mastering Discipline doth tame Through thoughts aspiring to Eternal Fame For as the Soul doth rule the Earthly Mass And all the Service of the 〈◊〉 frame So Love of Souls do Love of Bodies pass As purest Gold exceeds the 〈◊〉 brass Love such as we call Heroick must as well as others be confessed to be of a noble
according to the Poet. Julius alone can quench my hot desires With neither Snow nor Ice but with like Fires When all his done says Avicenna there is no safer or speedier course than joining the Parties together according to their Desires and Wishes as the Custom and Form of Law allows and so we have seen those quickly restored to their former healths that languished till they begain to stumble at the brink of the Grave and wanted but another step to be in it After their desires were satisfied their Discontents ceased and we thought it strange our opinion is therefore that in such Cases Nature is to be obeyed Aretus gives us an instance of a young Man who was so relieved and restored when no other means could prevail but this Happiness is many times hindred by Parents Guardians want of Fortune Nobleness or Gentility The Germans hardly allow any Marriages but in their Degrees of Birth and Fortune then again many times the dislike of one frustrates the wishes and languishing desires of the other The Spaniards decline Widows and care not to Marry with them though Young Handsom and Rich and among the Turks if any live unmarried to twenty five years she is accounted an old Woman and not regarded as to matters of Love some young Women are Proud and Scornful as Callyrrhoe who being dearly beloved by Choresus the more his Love increased the more she had an aversion and hatred towards him she made him Pine and Lang-guish till of a beautiful Youth she reduced him to a Skeleton then on the other hand the fair 〈◊〉 Loved but he rejected her to fly into the embraces of Adulterous Arms which ruined him and all his race it is sometimes found that Lovers languish because they dare not speak or make their Case known the Heart sends up the 〈◊〉 but the Words are stopt and cannot get utterance It is said of Elizabeth Daughter to Edward the Fourth and afterward Wife to Henry the seventh when she first saw that Prince after his Victory at Basworthâ—old she passionately fell in Love with him and though there had been overtures of Marriage proposed before yet he could not forbear uttering this soliloquy O that I were worthy of the comely Prince but my Father being dead I want Friends to motion such a Matter what shall I say I am all alone and dare not open my Mind to any what if I acquaint my Mother with it O bashfulness forbids that Well then what if I should tell some of the Lords the Secrets of my Breast No Audacity is wanting O then that I might confer with him in Person perhaps I could let fall such Words as might discover mine Intention Love in such a Case fires the Breasts of many and yet fear and bashfulness keeps in the Flame that torments them How many modest Maids may this referr to says one I am but a poor Servant what shall I do I am says another Fatherless and want means I am says a third Buxom and Blithe Young and Lusty but alas I can't tell what the matter is I have never a Suitor though I stand in the Market upon Sale no Body cheapens me this is a mournful Song for Young Persons to sing or rather sigh out Love thus we see Dances in a Ring and Cupid hunts it round about one that Doats is perhaps Doated on at the same time and knows it not or at least where he Loves though he is not beloved again yet another whom he despises doats on him but when all is done the only Happy Love is to Love where one is or doubts not but to be beloved again It is the Folly of many Young Ladies to think the longer they stay the more Felicity they shall have in being Admired and Adored and that at last they may pick and chuse and make their Fortunes as they please when alas it is no such matter for time will steal upon them and dim those sparkles in their Eyes that gave such a Diamond Lustre and set such value upon their Beauties the Roses and Lillies in their Cheeks will fade beyond the repair of Art and the natural sprightllness heat and vigour will decay and then their Admirers like Swallow will fly to a brighter and warmer Sun and then good Madam to all your exalted Expectations your Mountain will then bring forth but a Mouse therefore be advised and let not Youth that can never be recalled again slip away for the Poet tells you true She that was er'st a Maid as fresh as May Now 's an old Crone Time swiftly posts away Then take time while you may make Advantage of Youth and Beauty and let not your Lovers pine away whilst you linger and delay their Happiness but kindly meet whilst you are in the flower of years fit for Love-matters Fair Maids go gather Roses in the Prime For as flow'r Fades so goes in your Time Half our Lives are frequently passed over in sleep or what is next to it in pursuing Trifles and yet we scarce perceiv'd how time spins away till we come within two steps of the Grave and then we are apt to start and begin to bethink our selves that we have in a manner dreamed away our Lives and let time slide through our hands without improving it in the Pleasures and Enjoyments of Life Danus of Lacedâ—â—â— being exceeding Rich and having many Beautiful Daughters would not let them lose their Time in Expectation of extraordinary Rich Matches and suitable Conditions but chose out as many handsome Young Men of Virtuous Lives and inviting them to his House distributed his Daughters among them in Marriage and gave them great Portions and was highly commended that he esteemed a virtuous Mand tho' Poor before a Rich Vicious one of which they might have had choice Rhodope a beauteous Aegyptian Lady was very curious in making choice of a Husband and at last a very strange accident procured her the Diadem for as she was bathing her self in a Fountain an Eagle stooped and catched up one of her Shoes and as Psammeticus was in an open place sitting on his Throne in Memphis he drop't it into his Lap the King admiring the Beauty and Comeliness of it caused it to be proclaimed that the Lady that the Shooe belong'd to should repair to Court and when he had beheld her Beauty he made her his Queen But we would not Ladies have you decline Marriage in hopes that such a thing may befall any of you for such a wonder may never happen again be kind therefore and Pity your Languishing Lovers Cure those wounds your fair Eyes have made in their Souls and the Affliction your neglects and slightings have thrown upon the Body Pity those that sigh for your Favours and think they have all Heaven in a gracious Smile do as you would willingly be done by if your Condition was the same since you were born to make men Happy decline not to Answer the one main end of Creation but let
men be convinced that you are better natured than they take you to be and you will find a World of Felicities in a Happy Marriage-state wherein you though the Husband is reputed the Head will be to him as a Crown and Ornament above the price of Rubies Mans best Possession is a Loving Wife She tempers anger and do's hinder Strife There is no Joy no Sweetness no Comfort no Pleasure in the World like happy Marriage where there is a Union and Harmony of Sculs as well as Conjunction of Bodies but more of this under the particular Heads of Matrimony has a universal Dominion extended over all Creatures as well irrational as rational according as they are capacitated to receive its power and influence and like the Loadstone draw Affection even at a distance some may demand how it comes to pass that there is a Harmony in the Minds of Parties only by report when distance of place or opportunity never allowed any interview to which according to the Opinion of the Learned we answer Love of this kind is not frequent yet sometimes happens and powerfully operates Recommendation has a great force and Fame obliges us many times to admire great Actions on the bare report of them and paints them so to the Life in the Relation that Fancy forms them to our Imaginations as if we were present and Spectators of them moving our Passions to favour or dislike them according as they are represented so those that by good Report we believe to have some Perfection in Virtue Science or Beauty attract or draw our Affections to admire or love them or on the contrary to despise and have no regard for those that are represented to us as vicious or deformed either in Body or Mind Lovers many times breaking off upon little differences and Cavils sometimes upon Jealousie of Rivals or the like return like a low Ebbing of the Sea with a greater Fluctuation of Passion and the Reason we give is because Love is in this Case to be compared to flame that is encreased the more the stronger Impression the gathering blasts of Wind make upon it with united force by whose feeble defect it before seemed for a time to expire or to the same purport Love augmenteth by some disfavour that one Lover receiveth from another so as they are for some time unassociated and retired but after they desire a Reunion of their Affections it is reinforced with greater Ardour and a Passion more irresistible as fearing again to hazard what they were so near losing through Inadvertency Peevishness or Ill-humour Love again is found to augment where Rivals are in the Case and though but cool before grows hot and is inflamed and the Reason we give you for this is because that Jealousie blows up and kindles that affection which before lay as it were securely sleeping as it were in its Embers without expecting any Disturbance or Molestation or dreaming of any Prevention which now it is forced to rouse and stand upon its guard to hinder by Interposition Love sometimes is attended with extream bashfulness in either Sex and takes away the power of Free-speaking so that though we are willing we cannot at least without Haesitation or abrupt Stammering utter our Mind when in all other Matters we are Volatile open and free And this is because and amorous Appetite is not necessary in matters of free Conversation as the others are and open Practice thereof is abashed by being frequently subjected to Censure Love that is modest fancies it ought to be very Private and more than all this the Mind being preoccupied in its retirement upon a matter of so great moment cannot so suddenly dilate or communicate it self to the faculties or through timerousness of speaking amiss and so consequently giving offence is not so ready to frame apt-words into Expressions that it fancies sufficiently pleasing Love has strange habits various Effects upon the Bodies of Men and Women sometimes casting a pale Shroud over them at other times a rosy Blush and again sometimes they seem to be in a dead Calm and at other times in a very quick Motion sometimes hot and sometimes cold To this we answer they are pale and wan when the parties are in fear or despair of the Success their Love had hopes of or aimed at because such Passions constrain the Blood to retire to the Interiour parts to give succour to the afflicted Heart by reason whereof the Extremities of the Bodies are left destitute of sufficient heat to maintain a lively Colour but when on the otherhand is an Expectation of what is so earnestly coveted and desired then the Blood flowing into the Exteriour Parts gives a Vermillion Blush and the Heart being disencombered of grosser Matter attracts the more rarified Spirits which enliven and give it quicker Motion of which by its dispensing Operation the whole Fabrick participates in a greater Measure Love in Men and Women has been variously censured and disputes have arisen over which of them it has the chiefest ascendant Virgil and other Poets have accused the fair Sex of extream Levity and Inconstancy nevertheless it seems evident to us that Reason and Experience declare the contrary viz. Reason in as much as they are colder than Men and the Nature of Cold is to include or shut up when heat which abounds more in Men disunites and dissolves and by Experience it is generally perceived that they are more Firm and Constant in Love and Men less faithful and permanent being oftner deceived and disappointed than they deceive or fail in their Love and Affections from this we proceed to a very nice Query yet seeing it falls in our way we must answer it as well as we can and that is Why Women bear a more ardent Affection to those that have first enjoyed them which is many times seen than to any other though upon second Marriage c. Our Opinion in this Case is Because the Female receives her Perfection in Copulation with the Male as a matter by Union with the Form which inclines their Love more strongly to those who were Instrumental in giving them a beginning of Perfection Or because those who have depucillated them hold the fairest and richest Gage of their Love which is their Virginity Love we frequently find is more powerful in Mothers towards their children than in the Fathers and the Reason to be given for it is that they cost them more Dear in carrying them in their Womb and bringing them forth and not only so but that they contributed towards them in a larger degree by so long nourishing them with their Blood in the dark Cell of Nature and produced them in the World with the Peril and Hazard of their Lives when on the contrary the Fathers have only the Pleasure in begetting them and after that little or no other concernment relating to them till they are grown to strength and in a manner able to shift in the World unless the
affects by Rigor or Extremity youth most commonly will have it's swinge time reclaims it and then Diseretion will bring him home so conform yourself to him as to comfirm your Love to him and undoubtedly this Conjugal Duty mingled with Affability will compleatly Conquer the Moroseness of his Temper If he be old and you have made it your Choce let his Age beget in you the greater Reverence his words should then be to you as so many aged and time improved Precepts to inform you his Actions as so many Directions to guide you his kind rebukes as so many Friendly Admonitions to reclaim you his Bed you ought so to Honour as not to defile it with an unchast thought his Counsel to keep that is of any weight 〈◊〉 moment as not to trust it to the Breast of any other be a Staffe in his Age to support him and a hand upon all occasions to help him his being rich must not exalt or puff up your mind but let your Desires be that you employ that bounty of Heaven for the best advantage to Gods Glory and your own Credit Communicate of your wealth to the feeding and cloathing of Christ's poor needy Members that by so doing you may heap up a durable Treasure in Heaven and be received at the last day to enjoy it Eternally Let not the poor condition of your Husband into which he is fallen by accident or Misfortune lessen your Love or Esteem for him but let his Poverty make you rich in Vertue least repining and growing less in Love and Fidelity upon such a Tryal you meet with the reproof we find in Luter which Pompey gave Cornelis when she lamented his overthrow in the great Battle fought with Caesar in the Pharsalian Fields for the Empire of the World which threw her into Confusion Shame and Blushing viz. Why is thy noble strength of Courage broke Women descended from so great a Stock By the first wound of Fate Thou hast the way To purchase Fame that never can decay Thy Sexes praise springs not from War or State But faithful Love to an unhappy Mate Advance thy thoughts and let thy Piety Contend with Fortune Love 〈◊〉 now cause I Am vanquish'd sure 't is more true Praise for theec To love me thus when all Authority The Sacred Senate and my Kings are gone Begin to love thy Pompey now alone That Grief extream thy Husband now alive Becomes thee not thou shouldst that sorrow give To my last Funerals thou art berest Of nothing by this War thy Husband 's lest Alive and safe his Fortune 's only gone 'T is that thou wailst and that thou lov'st alone Let the old Proverb be crost by you that says When Poverty forces rudely in at the Fore-door Love retreat at the Back one Let your Affections Counterpoize all Afflictions no Adversity should divide you from him before you are Married you are in a manner your own Law-maker but being once entered into a Matrimonial Estate you must be very mindful of the solemn Promise you have made before God and the Assembly in his Holy place none can absolve you from the performance of that Honour Obedience and Love you enjoyn your self towards a Husband therefore whilst you are your own it is good to sit down and seriously consider of so weighty a Matter sift him before as narrowly as you can and if you cannot conveniently do it your self get a faithful Friend to do it for you and whilst in a single State you are free from all Engagements carefully avoid the Acquaintance of Strangers if you think they have a Design to make Love till if possible an Equiry may be made into their Conditions and Circumstance neither affect Variety nor Glory in the multiplicity of your Suitors for there is no greater Argument than that of Mutability and Lightness have a care of Vows unless you are solemnly resolved to keep them constant you cannot be when once you deviate from them nor can you easily if ever recover a Reputation lost by such a Violation Let your care be before you arrive at this honourable State to lay aside all wanton Fancies for it can never promise you good Success because the effect cannot be good where the Object is not â—ending that way wanton Love has a Thousand ways to purchase a few Minutes of penitential Pleasures your Eyes and by them the Senses of your mind are averted your Ears and by them the Intentions of your Heart are perverted your Mouth speaks and by that others are deceived your touch warms and kindless Desires and every small occasion blows up your Love into a Rage These Exhorbitances must to your utmost Endeavours be remedied and therein you must use the method of Art to remove the Cause and the Effects will cease Let us then give you suitable Direction in these Matters and to do it we must first discover the Incendiaries of this Passion next the Effects arising from them and Lastly their Cure or Remedy the Original grounds of this wandring Fancy or wanton Phrensie are concluded in this Distick Sloath words Books Eyes Consorts and Luscious Fare The Lures of Lust and Stains of Honour are For the first Sentensius has it viz. He had rather be exposed to the utmost Extremities Fortune could inflict on him than subject himself to Sloath and Sensuality For it is this only that maketh Men and Women in some degree a kind of Bruits or irrational Creatures As for lewd Books they are Nurseries of Wantonness and therefore to be avoided lest like the Snake in the Fable being too much warmed in your Opinion and use of them they become dangerous Enemies to your good Name and Repose again then your Eyes are those Windows by which many hurtful things enter our first Female Parent greedily fed her Eyes on the bainful Fruit before your Heart desired or coveted it she fixed the desire and motive to Transgression there and that to consummate the Grand offence communicated it to her Appetite and rendered it impatient of delaying a Satisfaction in the Curiosity seeing she desired and desiring coveted and coveting she tasted in a fatal hour for Mankind who had eternally perished by that single Act of Folly had not the rich redeeming Blood of God atoned for the Transgression had not the offended laid aside for a time his dazling Diadem of Stars and disrobed himself of his visible Glory and by dying set the Offenders free again Consorts are the Purloyners and Wasters of time their insignificant Conversations rob you of many precious Opportunities which if well improved might mainly contribute to the Happines of Life here and hereafter chuse them if any such as in whose Conversation you may have assured hope of being bettered in both Estates chuse such as you may worthily admire when you see and hear them when you see them live up to what they prosess and hear their cordial Advice and wholesome Instructions Lastly Luscious Fare inordinately taken is the fuel
of inordinate Desires which must be abstained from you must in this Case be very temperate if you intend to have your understanding strengthned and now we come to the evil Effects of a wanton Fancy we will not however here draw the Curtains of Honour to expose those amazing Tragedies it has occasioned Histories abound with the mournful Calamities it has ushered in to the ruin of many whose Fames it has Eclipsed and whose flourishing Lives it has untimely caused to set in Blood but rather proceed to give some Directions for its prevention or Cure The best and Soveraignest Antidote is for the fair Sex to fortisie their weakness with the strength of Resolution they must not be too liberal in bestowing their Favours not too Familiar in publick Conversation especially when entred into a marriage State they them must make a Contract with their Eyes not to wander abroad lest like Flies they are catched in the infectious Snares that will hinder their innocent Retreat they must beware how they enter into Dialogues and Love Negotiations treating though in a kind of Railery or Banter too freely for the blind Boy as they term him has a Thousands traps laid for such a pretend to stand at Defiance with his Power by too much depending upon their own strength and being stragled into the Road where he lays them it is a wonder nay a Miracle if they escape them all they may fancy he has no Eyes and so think to make Pastime with him as the Philistins did with Samson but ahas they may for all that too late find themselves overwhelmed past Recovery Pray Ladies mark how a Fly plays about the sensless Flame fanning with her Wings in sport as if she intended to extinguish its Brigthness by the percussion of the Air she forces upon it when all on a sudden her jesting is spoiled for coming to near it singes her feeble Fans and for want of their support down she drops and lies helplesly grovling on the Table despoiled of her best Helps and Ornaments and disabled for ever to relieve her self to which purpose we thus find it vesified So long the foolish Fly plays with the Flame Till her light Wings are signed in the same You need therefore be very 〈◊〉 and vigilant and like a General encampimg in an Enemies Country keep your Out-Centries upon the watch to take and give the first Alarm for the Prevention of danger and ruin your Judgments your Reason your Prudence joyned with your utmost Caution are all little enough in some Cases to avoid the Baits and Nets that are laid for you by the Students in Loves Mistery to take a entrap Female Credulity They can tip their Tongues with Rhetorical Protestattions on purpose to gain more easily a good Liking Credit and Belief with those they intend to allure and wheedle into the danger of Loves Pit-falls The Purchase of an unlawful Pleasure makes them many times set their Souls at Stake to gain it with Vows and Protestations never intended to be kept but breathed like common Air dressed in the softest Tones and Accents of languishing Lovers into the credulous Ears of the fair one they whose Honour they design to betray whose Virginity they intend to Sacrifice to their Lusts and whose good Name despoil'd of it's Beauty and Lustre spotted and sullied with Infamy and Disgrace they are proud to bear in Triumph as a Trophie of an inglorious Victory Ladies be not altogether without some Suspicion where there may be no occasion for it as those are who suspect the watch-word to be betray'd by Deserters and therefore may as well be in the Mouths of Enemies as Friends but however in such Cases you must conceal it to the utmost for avoiding offence where in the end their may be no Reason for it Be sure if your Fancy be apt to Rove and straggle abroad to Check and call it back er'e it goes too far and is past the reach of your Command however think not that by what has been said we go about to tye you up to a severe Strictness to lay heavy Chains upon your Wills and Affections to bind under too hard Restraints No we only pretend to give such Cautions as are necessary for the preventing Dangers and Inconveniencies rash and over-hasty Engagements are to late Repentances too much slighting where notwithstanding many false Attacks there may be a sincere tender of Love and cordial Affection if you have any liking or encline to Marriage looks too much like scorn and disdain and may by some be interpreted an unbecoming and ill-tim'd Pride from whence a growing Discouragement may arise to a Gygantick Stature that may over-shadow the prospect of your Fortune There is a great difference between a Wise and an Extravagant Love the one ever deliberates before it fixes or so much such as soberly likes the other likes and resolves before it deliberates the one sees with the discerning Eyes of Reason the other with the Moon-blind ones of Passion There is a modest Coynels that can no ways give offence but rather attracts Love as the Needle touched by the Loadstone is by the Magnetick Vertue is retains compelle'd to attend on the North and gains Applause and Esteem rather than Distaste and laying a Foundation for offence indifferent Courtesies may be shewed Affections may be opened like Scenes drawn to give a Prospect of pleasant Objects which painted by a curious hand seem though near yet at a vast distance but may be closed again if Intruders attemp too narrowly to pry into what you would have them conclude is remoter than indeed it is Seneca gave Advice to his Friends to order and carry the Actions of their Lives in such even Scale that none should justly find fault with them set therefore always before your Eyes the Examples of those that have gained Esteem and Reputation in the prudent Management of like Concerns and Copy out what they have left for your Instructions troden paths of that kind are the best and safest to travel in to prevent the losing your way or if there you should happen to die it is more excusable because you have Precedents to produce in your Justification that have been allowed and approved of by the Virtuous and Wise of divers Ages for Modesty Chastity and all manner of Virtues yet have been Affable Humble Courteous and Condescenders to lawful Love Moreover it is a course kind of Quality That throws a Woman lower when she covets to rise higher in opinion degrading her from the Rank of those that are more refined some indeed lift up their Voices like a Trumpet because they resolve to be heard or weary out those that mind not to give them Audience and some again with their Drum rather make a noise as if they were beating up for Voluntiers and are very much out of Countenance if none come in to them Pardon us Ladies if we yet find out another sort since what we undertake is intended for your
Food with her into the Prison however her Mother subsisting beyond what could be suspected the Jaylor watched the Daughter and at last found she had supported her with the Milk from her Breasts which known the Consul pardoned the Mother and highly praised the Daughter and in Memory of this An Altar was raised to Piety in the place where the Prison stood Sir Thomas Moor being Lord Chancellor of England at the same time that his Father was a Judge of the Keng's Bench he would always at his going to Westminster go first to the King's Bench and ask his Fathers Blessing before he went to sit in the Chancery There happened in Sicily as it hath often an Eruption of Aetna now called Mount Gibel it murmurs burns belches up Flames and throws out its fiery Entrails making all the World to fly from it It happened then that in this Violent and horrible breach of Flames every one flying and carrying away what they had most precious with them two Sons the one called Anagias the other Amphinomius careless of the Wealth and Goods of their Houses reflected on their Father and Mother both very old who could not save themselves from the fire by flight And where shall we said they find a more precious Treasure then those who begat us The one took up his Father on his Shoulders the other his Mother and so made passage through the Flames It is an admirable thing that God in consideration of this Piety though Pagans did a Miracle for the Monuments of all Antiquity witness that the devouring Flames staid at this Spectacle and the Fire wasting and broiling all about them the way only thro' which these two good Sons passed was tapistried with fresh Vendure and called afterwards by Posterity the Field of the Pious in Memory of this Accident Love in former times when Sacrifices attended the Hymenial Rites as part of the Ceremony that it might not be imbittered the Gall of the Beast was not us'd but cast on the ground to signifie that between the young Couple there should be nothing of that Nature to disturb their Felicity but that instead of discontent Sweetness and Love should fill up the whole space of their Lives and indeed it is the best Harmony in the World where a Man and Woman have the pleasant Muâ—â—â—â— of Contentment and Peace to refresh them in their dwellings whilst they make their study to encrease their Happiness This is as comely a sight as Apples of Gold set in Pictures of Silver or Brethren living together in Unity Love was so powerful with Plautius Nuâ—â—â— that hearing his Wife was dead he killed himself Darius after he had grievously lamented the loss of his Wife Statira as thinking she had perished in the General 〈◊〉 Alexander had given his Army was so over-joyed when he heard she was safe and honourably used by the Conqueror that he prayed that Alexander might be fortunate in all things although he was his Enemy Two large Snakes Male and Female being found in the House of Titus Gracchus the Augurs or Soothsayers told him That if the Male was let go his Wife should die first but if the Female himself should die first Then pray said he let the Female Snake go that Cornelia may live by my Death and so the Historians say it happened for he died in a few years after and leaving her a Widow she refused the King of Egypt in Marriage the better to preserve the Memory of her deceased Husband Ferdinand King of Spain married Elizabeth the Sister of Ferdinand Son of John King of Arragon Great were the Virtues of this admirable Princess whereby she gained so much upon the heart of her Husband a valiant and fortunate Prince that he admitted her to an equal share in the Government of the Kingdom with himself wherein they lived with such mutual agreement as the like hath not been known amongst any of the Kings and Queens of that Countrey There was nothing done in the Affairs of State but what was debated ordained and subscribed by both the Kingdom of Spain was a Name common to them both Ambassadors were sent abroad in both their Names Armies and Soldiers were levied and formed in both their Names and so was the whole Wars and also Civil Affairs that King Ferdinand did not Challange to himself an Authority in any thing or in any respect greater than that whereunto he had admitted this his beloved Wise. Love so bound the Soul of a Neopolitan to his fair and vertuous Wife that she being surprized by some Moorish Pirates who privately landed in a Creek and then put off again with their Prize that whilst they yet Cruiz'd near the Shoar he threw himself into the Sea and swam to their Ship and calling to the Captain told him He was come a voluntary Prisoner because he must needs follow his Wife not scaring the Barbarism of the Enemies of the Christian Faith nor Bondage for the Love of her who was so near and dear to him The Moors were full of admiration at so great a proof of Affection yet carry'd him to Tunis where the Story of his conjugal Affections being rumour'd abroad it came to the Ear of the King of that Countrey who wondring at so strange a thing and moved with Compassion to such a Lover ordered them their Liberty and placed the Man as a Soldier in his Life-guard Love in this a Passiâ—n is so strange It hides all fauits and ne'r is gi'n to change it uneclips'd in it's full Blaze shines bright Pure in it self it wants no borrowed Light Nor sets till Death draws the dark Scene of Night Liberty is so sweet and pleasant that all Creatures naturally cover it and though irrational are uneasie under restraint or Confinenmet The Romans of old had so high an Esteem of it that they priz'd it before all things in the World and thought it worthy of Veneration making it one of their Goddesses erected and dedicated Temples in Honour of it and esteemed Life in Golden Chains of Bondage not worth regarding and their greatest Offenders were punished with Interdiction Religation Deportation and such like accounting it worse than any other Severity as knowing without it the mind becomes a tormentor not only to it self but to the Body by wasting and consuming it with Grief and Anguish and that a Man will refuse no kind of Hardship nor Danger to secure his Liberty but Sacrifice their chiefest Ornaments and even Life it self as precious as it is to the uttermost hazard to preserve it Many Cities rather than fall into the hands of their Enemies and become Captives have been turned by their Citizens into an Acheldama of Blood and spread Ghastly Scenes of Death to amaze and slartle their most cruel Enemies When Hannibal had besieged the City of Saguntum nine Months and Famine warring within their Walls so that they found themselves in a great straight and without hopes of Succour but that they must fall into
oppurtunity to find him alone and thereupon invited him to her House which appeared stately and richly furnished with all things desirable which she proposing to make him Master of the Proposal so wrought upon his Courteous Inclination that he put off his intended Journey and complyed with her Desires bâ—t long he had not done it er'e a Holy man whose eyes were better open to the deceit warned him of the danger he was in and by his Prayers removed the Inchantment for it was no other and then he perceived her loathsome deformed and ugly to Detestation and Abhoâ—rence all the deluding Temptations disappeared and then she with some unwillingness confessed her Dâ—sign was to get him into her Power that she might destroy him This however the truth of the Story may be credited or disbelieved may be fitly applied to a Harlot who is the grand Enemy and mischief to the happy State of Marriage the Instrument of Satan set up to hinder it as much as in her lies he well knows it is Diametrical to his Kingdom and the Power of Darkness for Men and Women to solace themselves in chaste Love wherein they only find true Contentment and Felicity he looks upon it as a main batering Engine bent against him and therefore labours to overthrow or frustrate it by sundry Devices and where he cannot do that he seeks to sow Divisions and Mistrust between Man and Wife as being Wife and of long Experience well knowing that where Discord thrusts iâ— and scatters it's Poison Heavenly Cogitations are removed or little regarded and by this he occasions many unhappy Marriages raising Disquiets quiets and Discontents false Reports and Scandals Dislikes and Disaffectations but these may be prevented by applying your selves for Refuge and Protection against his fiery Darts to one that is mightier than he who holds him in a Chain Marriage from this may be counted a Blessed Estate because he who Envies all Happiness has such an Antipathy to those that enter into it though we may Paint the resemblance of Fire we cannot give it a heat no more can any conceive the Felicity attending a Happy Marriage except they are Partakers of it Solomon tells us a Vertuous Wife is above the price of Rubes and she is elsewhere allowed to be the Crown and Ornament of her Husband and happy is he who has such a Jewel and knows aright how to value and esteem it Matrimony being a matter of great weight and moment tending so much to the benefit of mankind that it seems next to the care of those things that were to secure an Immortal State the prime end of mankind especially in the difference of Sex is not to be so briefly passed over as those of less Concern therefore we must intreat Ladies your patience if we debate upon this matter It is the Nature of Honour to love Attendance and they who have found an honourable Marriage must wait upon it and keep it so and it is a true Speech That it is no less Virtue to keep a Mans Wealth Name and Honour unwasted and fair in the World than to purchase them St. John Wills the Lady he mentions in his Epistle 2 John 8. not to lose the good things she has gotten but to get a full Reward it had been better that some had married with far less shews of Goodness and hope of Thrift unless they had been more careful to preserve them better for there is nothing so miserable as to have been happy and to fall into Misery afterward The Praise of that good Woman Prov. 13. is not That she was Vertuous before Entrance into Marriage No it was her Proof and Practice which made her honourable and her Husband in her many great Conquerours have gained a Crown but have not long held it St. Paul do's not only tell us That we must be Married in the Lord but how we ought to live together and maintain Conjugal Affections by Compassion Tenderness and Faithfulness Marriage is preserved chiefly in Four Duties Joyntness in Religion Mutual Love Loyal Chastity and Suitable Consent As for Religion we suppose they are already entred into it and so they must continue not only to be Religious but to cleave mutually together in the Practice of all such means of Worship and Duties of both Tables as concern them and this we mean in the parts of Religious Conversation to God First That they be joynt in the Worship of God publickly both ordinarily uppon the Sabbath and occasionally at other times and Seasons as also Extraordinary the Word ought to be heard by both joyntly Sacraments mutually received Prayers frequented and all the Worship attended Secondly Family Duties concern not only themselves but their Children and Servants as reading of the Scripture Prayers and Thanksgiving exercising those whom God has committed to their Care in the Principles of Godliness and the several Duties of Inferiors In the absence of the Husband it is incumbent on the Wife to discharge the Duty Thirdly And more especially those several Duties which in private and apart from the other Family-ones are of most Concernment which although they ought to be performed alone also yet not always but joyntly and mutually as to conferr Read Pray acknowledge their Sins and give thanks Fourthly They ought to be joynt in Duties of Charity relieving those that are in want or on whom God has laid his afflicting hand whom by occasion God offereth to their regard mutual Harmony in all religious Relations must be kept up and Consorted and there is especial reason for this Duty First God is not the God of them apart as before but joyntly as Married and made one Flesh as likewise of their Seed and therefore he must be sought joyntly by them both Secondly The good things which they receive from God though they pertain to their several Happinesses as their Faith Hope Knowledge c. yet they reach to the furtherance of each others Grace if they be bound to have Intercourse with the whole Communion for the encrease of Grace how much more then ought it to be one with another Thirdly Whatsoever they enjoy good or evil in a manner they enjoy it in common Their Infirmities are common each suffering and feeling a share of the Calamity that falls Their Blessings as Health Wealth Success c. are common their Calling and Business common tending to the common good of them and their Children their Crosses their Misfortunes their Dwelling their Posterity and the like are in common Why then should their God be several their Relighion and Worship disjoynted certainly it must be mutual Wants and Needs must reconcile and unite them to one God with common Consent Fourthly Religion is the Golden Cement of all Fellowship and Unions both to knit and to sanctifie the same more firmly and closely together that Union that is not thus fastened is but like the Foxes tyed together with fire Brands between their Tails which uniting dissolved with
pain and loss The Jews have a pretty Observation upon the Hebrew Name of Woman the first and last Letters whereof make up the Name of Jah God which if they be taken from the middle Letters leave all in Confusion for they signifie Fire so if God encloses not Marriage before and after and be not in the midst of of it by the Band of religious fear and dread of breaking out it is nothing save a fiery Contentious and an implacable Condition But this Consent of both in the Lord is the most firm and blessed of all what a pleasant Glass it is for a Husband and a Wife to see each others Faces in yea even their Hearts and to be acquainted with each others Graces or Wants to be assured of each others Love and loyal Affection Then to look how they stand affected to the Band of their Union we mean Fellowship in Religion Faith Hope now let us Examine this Truth but only in one Prime and chief Act of Religion and that is Faith in the All-Sufficiency of Providence and that will teach us the rest what is the Marriage Estate some only a Stage of worldly Care to act her part single Persons never come effectually to understand what Care means but married People let them be never so wealthy and loving have peculiar Cares and Consideration of this in some Countries they were used to hang a Cloth in the Bride Chamber on the Wedding-day called a Care-Cloth that it might allay the Excess of Joy in the married People by minding them they must expect some Bitterness to be mingled with their Sweet and indeed it may always be Fancied to hang in every Bride-Chamber unless Faith take it down and fastens their Care upon his Providence that careth for them cutting off all superfluous Care of things in worldly Matters now this Grace belongs joyntly to both of them to prevent great Evils that else may follow in being over careful for the things of this Life and by a too eager pursuit of them perhaps by unlawful ways to heap up Riches they squander away that precicious time allowed them to barter for eternal Happiness till a Cloud of Age comes on and at it's Heels the Night of Death in which none can work out their Salvation and then the main end for which they were made is utterly lost and it had been better they never had been made But when the Burthen of their care by Faith and a firm Relyance on God is thrown upon him he will sustain them and make their Cares easie and seasonable to them Let the Lord be their Portion Rock and defence and what can distract them they will draw sweetly together in the Matrimonial Yoke committing to God the Care of their Bodies as well as their Souls remembring the wonderful Effects of his Providence how it feeds the young Ravens Cloaths the Lillies and satisfies the Lyons hungry Whepls when they cry for lack of Food and these Considerations are more strengthned in a joynt Consent to all Graces as Hope of Salvation a fit Preparation for Death Mercy and Compassion Love Fear Meekness and the rest all which in their kind under Faith serve to furnish the married Condition with Content and Welfare what can so assuredly bring in Blessings to the Bodies Souls Families Posterity and Attemp of each other as Joyntness of Religion when both are agreed and one builds up as faâ—t as the other when no sooner the one Enterprizes any lawful thing but the other joyns in a commending it to God for a Blessing and when they espy any Infirmity in each other it is reserved for matter of Humiliation till the next time no sooner they meet with a Mercy but they lay hold on it as an occasion of rendering Praise and Thanksgiving for it To the God of all Mercies and Comforts keeping the Altar ever burning with the fuel of Sacrifice what a sweet Derivation is this to both of Pardon and Blessing what a Warrant is it to them that either shall share in all Good when as they do equally need it so each seek it of God and when they voluntarily make him Privy though indeed nothing is hid from the Eyes of his Observation yet is most pleased when Man is willing he should see his inmost thoughts to their Doubts Fears Wants and Necessiâ—ies what can so well assure them of a happy Condition when Censuring Condemning and Quarrelling with each other is altogether laid aside or if any such matter should by a strong Temptation prevail over them suddenly it is turned into a mutual melting in Gods Bosom by the Griefs and Complaints they make against it when in Christ their Advocate they sanctifie all to themselves and are in a happy State when they walk close with God and cast their Care on him Marriage without a Pre-ingagement or Contract looks so odd that it appears more liker the Coupling of Irrational than Rational Creatures and it must be by a Miracle if a Marriage hurried and clapt up of a Sudden almost without the Consent of either Party but as it were acted in a Comedy only in Jest to please or amuse the Spectators ever proves happy or successful tho' Loves flames are violent in their full Blaze yet they must have time to kindle and by degrees rise to that heighth of Ardour for his Infant firâ—s scarce warm the Bosom and for want of diligent Tendance many times dy almost as soon as born wherefore our advice is there ought to be a settled Love before the Joining of hands or Cupid who loves to make Sport and Pastime with poor Mortals when he has as it were by surprize thrust their beads into the Noose will retire laughing and leave them tugging and strugling with dislikes and discontents when you are too fast to get loose Move then with Caution and deliberation first to consider the Fitness and Equality of the Person in Years Lineaments and Fortune and by degrees settle your Affection which if you can cordially do then be not over Scrupulous or Timerous as many have been and thereby lost great advantages to enter into a solemn Contract which is a binding and uniting your hearts in the sight of Heaven and since this word Contract has startled some and stumbled others and has been construed divers ways sometimes to advantage and sometimes to prejudice and indeed has made a great Noise in the world in Relation to Marriage where those who have no regard to solemn Protestations or are Light and Unconstant have had to do with it to gratifie their own Desires and Lusts and decoy and deceive and betray such as have credited their Oaths and Vows but to come nearer to ou purpose we mean to Explain and Expose it honestly and as in it self it bears that it may not stand up as a Scarecrow in the way of Matrimony where there are real and cordial Intentions sending towards it and in such Cases as it may be lawful not hindred
by Proxsanguinity too near affinity Impediments in Nature or the like Marriage being really intended between Party and Party after Liking Courtship and Settling of Love promises are the Antecedents to the Contract for we must know that although an Explicit or Express Contract hath in it the greater force external before men to tie the Parties to Marriage yet the Mutual promises of them both Jointly made before or after seriously and with solemnity of mind are binding before God and in their own Consciences and indeed the difference between such a promise made between Party and Party only and a Contract before Witness is not formal but accidental and both are true real Contracts and Covenants and if there be something in the expressed Contract which is not in the other in respect of outward Obligation the being of the Express Contract rests in the Deliberate Voluntary Mutual and Honest Resolutions of the Parties among themselves which being past give the Essence to Marriage before the other came and is the Foundation and Ground of the latter for otherwise it might be said that any passage of Expression between two before Witness falling from Parties in Rashness or Sport or upon a Question demanded might carry the force of a Contract which no one of any Sense can imagin by reason that the Express Contract before witness implies a Formal Mutual Consent between themselves not now to be questioned yet for special Causes to be more solemnly publickly testified for the avoiding maâ—y Inconveniencies that might otherwise arise The Parties who before such promise made were at their own dispose but after such a mutual promise they cease to be their own and pass over themselves each under God to the other insomuch that whatsoever other promise should be possibly made by both of them or either of them to any other besides themselves if confessed doth disanul it self and is ipso facto void by virtue of the Pre-ingagement but although it be denied yet nevertheless they are bound before God so that they shall be ever culpable before him without extraordinary Repentance for we must allow that a private Promise ought to have the same force as a publick Contract for though man cannot make a right Judgment of the sincerity of Intention in such cases yet God discerns their most secret thoughts and if they invoke him to witness what they intend not or tho' they really intended and yet upon intervening disgust perform it not they in so doing dishonour his holy Name and he will most assuredly punish the Affront done to his divine Majesty for the true nature of self-renouncing and self-resigning resides as fully in a private solemn Promise as in a witnessed Contract therefore they are not two things but the same with divers Circumtances as we shall show hereafter Many times it happens that Love is depending between two Parties and there are some reasons to be given why the Marriage is delayed as not of years to possess an Estate make Joynture or the like and then if the young man comes to hear any one is Courting his Love though as yet he has made no certain Promise to her of absolute Marriage and they remain free at their own dispose if he then comes to her and desires her not to accept the offer because he is resolved to marry her as soon as is convenient and she again promises him she in such Consideration will admit the Addresses of no other to any effect then such a promise is binding in Conscience and ties the Party to marry her before God and if there be any withness of it stands good in Law because by the hopes he has given her that she shall be his wife he defrauds her if he deserts his promise of a possibility of equal Advantage by putting off those who were desirous to enjoy her in such a state and so again when a man has desisted from prosecuting his Love-suit for some time tho' a kind of an amicable League continues and the woman for what cause we determine not is minded to go beyond the Seas or to reside at a great distance and the man hearing of it and fearing by that means to lose her goes to her and â—â—esses his Love with more Earnestness telling her that it will be a great affliction to him to part with her so far out of his reach he really intending to marry her if she will stay and upon that if she puts off her intented Voyage or Journey it implies a Consent and is Equivalent to a promise of Marriage though before she was tree and at her own dispose and in Conscience she cannot break off And now it may be demanded by some what promise do's realize marriage before God To which we answer That such a promise so binding must first be mutual Secondly Voluntarily made with free Consent without Compulsion Aw or Fear Thirdly It must be without Error that is such an Error as overthrows and contradicts it self First then again it must be mutual and equal not of one to the other but of both reciprocal to each other for if such a promise be a putting one's self into the power of another then as no one can put him or her self into anothers power without an act of the Resignation of the Liberty before had and possest so can neither each of the two parties give up their Liberties without mutual Consent each to other For in marriage the yielding the right of one receives a right in another and therefore it must be mutual and reciprocal if one shall lay claim to the promise of the other and yet suspend his own as thinking thereby to tie the Party to his own time and leasure himself being free he is deceived For Marriage Consent must be mutual and that party withdrawing as it were by such delays his Consent doth in that respect Extinguish and make void the others promise from the snaring the promiser except afterward the other party shall as freely come in as the other did and so make the promise mutual and equal We have read of a sad Accident upon this Account that befell a Suitor to a young Gentlewoman for having won her affections he had no regard to marry her but growing proud of his Conquests boasted of her Easiness and so left her without any deep Engagement or Concern on his side which slight neglect in a little Time changed her Love into Hatred and Disdain and being of a good Family and Rich she wanted not Suitors but quickly gave her self in Marriage to another of which he had no sooner Knowledge but at a time when he was playing upon his Lute he suddenly starting up broke his Lute to pieces and ran destracted being justly punished by his own folly N. NEst contracted for Agnes chaâ—t or holy Nichola a conquerour of the people Niphe i. fair Nahomi 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Nagnomi i. beautiful pleasant Naides a certain sort of Nimphs or Virgins held by the
asking of Questions as What is 't a â—lâ—ck or I am a Stranger which is my way to such a place If she is pickt up she will make an hard shise but she will give a man something whereby he shall remember her as long as he lives besides it is ten pound to a penny but she plays the Diver and picks his pocket I shall conclude this head with the following relation It chanced one time that a Night-walker who shall be nameless traversing the sâ—re is and with other Associates exposed to the like looseness entring an House of Good fellowship where any light commodity might be purchased for money the Protrectress of that brittle Society to discover her Office and Quality demanded of these Cavalieros if they would have a Withdrawing-room and a Mistress By all means 〈◊〉 these Gallants for what end came we hither And having bestowed them in several roomes Every one was readily furnished with his light Curtezan But this prodigal young Gallant on whom the Subject of our Discourse is here Sceâ—ned had of all others most property in his for she was his owne wife What a strange kind of passion or Antipathy this intrview begot I leave to the strength of your imagination who can to life present two such Objects as if you had been in presence of them Lonâ—â—as in â—re the one could utter one words to the other 〈…〉 sometimes disclosing passion sometimes shame Aâ—â—â—tion was far from giving way to any amorous encounter and though Looks might speake their Tongues had quite forgot all Dialect At last after a long continued silence in an abrupt disjoynted manner her Husband addresseth himself thus unto her Ha Minion have I found you Have your many Curtain-Lectures edified you thus Have I found your way of trading And are these the Fruits of your teaching Well! go on We are now both so far entered the high beat-path of folly as it were madness for us to hope ever to wipe off our dispersed insamy No Sir quoth she To dispair of recovery were to conceive a distrust in Gods mercy But believe it Sir howsoever you esteem me I am not what I seem to be There are no places I afâ—ect nor trading I conceipt I am what I have been ever careful of the render of mine honour Now the occasion of my coming hither was the knowledge I received how this House was your familiar Rendezvouze A place which you mightily frequented and where your Fame stood dangerously engaged Your Person I described to the mercenary Governess of this hateful Family that if I might be exposed to any it should be to such an One as I described which upon hope of sharing with me she Promised Now Sir reflect upon your self in me how voâ—â—ous would these soul actions of loosnesse appear in me how contemptible would they make my person appear to any modesteye And are these such inexpiable crimes in the Weaker Sex and must they be esteemed such light Errors in you whose strength is greater Is modesty too effeminate a quality for man to retain Is the Spirit of man to be imployed in that most which detracts most from man O recollect your self Sir and you will see nothing can more transforme you from your self nor blemish your inward beauty nor enslave you to servile fancy nor deprive you of future glory than aflecting of these Consorts of â—n and shame The onely conduct that these will afford you is to the Hospitall where they will leave you Be pleased to put off your self a little and with a sâ—ngle eye to observe their liâ—ht Embraces Proceed these think you from a resolved love Will they not for base lucre shew as much kindness to their next Suiâ—er And can there be any true affection where the Party makes no distinction Nay tell me would the faithfullest acquaintance you have among all these relieve you if your Fortunes had lest you Or afford you one nights Lodging if want surprized you Have they not got the art of professing what they least intend and sacrificing love where they have none to bestow Return then to your own house and find that in a lawfull love which you shall never enjoy in hateful lust This advice delivered by so deserving a Creature and in so winning a manner might have wrought singular effects in any plyable or well-disposed Nature but so strongly steeled was his relentless heart unto these as with a disgraceful and uncivil Kick he pusht her from him Natural modesty and affection Intemperance is visible in but few of the very worst of Females Meekness is seldom disordered in them without great provocation and as their Sex is generally more difficult to be exasperated they are more easie to forgive than ours 'T is for the most part our Fault if they injure us Modesty is so inherent to their Frame that they cannot divest themselves of it without Violence to their Nature We have heard of some Ladies who have been modest almost to a Crime Candaules had the Vanity to expose his Queen Naked to the View of his Favourite Gyges to shew him what a Treasure of Beauty he was possessed of The practice was not so dexterously manag'd but the Lady was sensible of the Abuse and requested her Husband to kill the conscious Spectator which he refusing she applyed her self to the Other engaging him to kill the King We hear of no former disgust that she had to her Husband but since he would not dispatch his Friend her Modesty could not bear to have Two Witnesses of her undressing alive at the same Time Some have been so tender in this Point that they have severely revenged the most harmless Accidents upon themselves In most uncultivated Nations the Women are not without a sense of this Value An Indida Girl in one of our Plantations while she 〈◊〉 at Table according to her custom it happen'd that in taking off a Dish she slipt upon the Handle of a Knife that dropt out of her Hand and in her Falling discovered Part of her Body whereof being sensible by the Company 's laughing she gave them as sudden Occasion to be serious for she was no sooner removed from their sight but she drench'd the same Knife in her Lifes-blood And a late Historian tells us a Story not less remarkable of a certain Prince who to divert the uneasiness of a fruitless passion betook himself to Travel Returning after several Years Absence his first Enquiry was about the Lady who he would have debauch'd who then lay desperately sick He straight hasten'd to her house and fearing to come too late to find her alive he prest abruptly into her Chamber and the Attendants being at a little distance he kneeled at her bedside to crave her dying Pardon She had for some hours before lain speech less but her surprize at the sight of him recovered her so much breath as to utter softly these Words Prince I dye for You which I have now only confest because I
father but then you shall lye in the Gate-house as my Grandfather does This coming so unexpectedly from one so young made a strong Impression upon his mind and as if the hand of Heaven had Immediately touch this heart he could have no rest or quiet in his Thoughts till he had restor'd his Father a great part of his Estate back again and with it his filial duty and obedience And indeed we may justly suspect that those who have disobedient children have in one degree or other been so themselves and so Heaven repays them in their kind But this is no sufficient ground or warrant for children to transgress the express commandment of God He threatens them with very severe punishments besides the shortening their days In the Old Law the punishment of death was inflicted upon disobedient stubborn and rebellious children if brought and accused by their Parents before the Magistrates And we find it Prov. 30.17 That the Eye that mocketh his Father and dispiseth to obey his Mother the Ravens of the Valley shall pluck it out and the young Eagles shall eat it up That is many Calamities shall upon them and even the Fowls of the Air shall rise up as a Reproach against them for it is observed especially by the Eagles when the Old ones Bills are grown over so hooked and distorted with Age that they cannot feed themselves the Young ones get the Prey for them and nourish them in requital of the care and tenderness they had in bringing them forth and feeding them when they were helpless And it is reported by some Authors That the Old Ravens being sick and spent with Age the Young ones keep them Company and take all kind care of them mourning in their manner at their Death and burying them in the secretest place they can find And as the behaviour of children in which we include even those that are grown up ought to be respective towards their Parents so likewise ought they to show them all the demonstrations of Love imaginable striving to do them all the good they can shunning every occasion that may administer disquiet You must consider them as the Instruments of bringing you into the World and those by whose tender care you was sustained and supported when weak and helpless And certainly if you could make a true Judgment not being yet a Parent of the Cares and fears required in bringing up children you would judge your love to be but a moderate return in compensation thereof But the saying is certainly true that none can truly measure the great love of Parents to Children before they are made truly sensible of those tender affections in having Children of their own love and affection to Parents Obedient is to be expressed several ways as first in all kindness of behaviour carrying your selves not only with Awe and Reverence but with Kindness and Aflection which will encourage you to do those things they affect and so you will avoid what may grieve and afflict them Secondly This filial love and affection is to be exprest in praying for them and imploring God's blessing on them and their Endeavours for indeed you stand so greatly indebted to your Parents that you can never acquit your selves with any tolerable satisfaction unless you invoke God to your Aid and Assistance in beseeching him to multiply his blessings towards them and indeed in so doing you labour for your own happiness in desiring they should be so because the blessing reflects from them to you If they have been any thing rigid or severe let not that grate upon your memory but rather turn it to the increase of your love towards them in concluding they did it for your future advantage since too great an indulgence ruins more children than severity If they be over severe you must be industrious to let them see you deserve it not and by your patience and humility in suffering without any reasonable cause you will molisie and oversome the most rough and unpolished Tempers Hearken by no means to any that speak Evil of them or would incense you to think hard of them In no wise let so much as the leaâ—t desire of their Death take place in you though they cross you in your purposes in relation to marriage or other things you earnestly wish or desire or though by their decease great riches would accrue to be at your own disposing Nor can any Growth or Years free you from the Duty and Obedience you owe whilst you live Thirdly If you are grown up and have abilities and your Parents are fallen to decay you must to your utmost assist them and not imagine any thing too much for them that have done so much for you If they are weak in Judgment you must assist them with your counsel and advice and protect them against Injuries and Wrongs advising them always upon mature deliberation that you put them upon nothing that is rash or to their disadvantage ever observing that Riches or Poverty Wisdom or Imbecility in a Parent must make no difference in the Obedience and Duty of the Children and if any could be allowed they would approve themselves best to God and Man when it is payed to those who are under the Frown of Fortune or to whom Wisdom is in many degrees a stranger We cannot see how any one can pretend to God's Favour who comply not with his Commands of this Nature He indeed is properly our Father for he made us and daâ—ly supports us with Food Raiment Health and Strength and therefore since he who has the supream Right has commanded was to be obedient to our Earthly Parents in obeying them we obey him and in displeasing them we displease him If the Summ of the Commands consists in loving God in admiring and adoring him as the prime Author of our being and well being and in loving our Neigbour as our selves as we have it from the best and wisest Oracle that ever spoke no doubt they are so dependant one upon the other that they are not to be separated And then where can our Love and Affections better center as to Earthly Concerns than in our Parents Marriage indeed claims a share of our affections but that must not lessen them to those that had the first right to them Occations of falling in Love to be Avoided Change place for the cure of Love fair and foul means to be used to withst and beginings c. Observe to shun as much as in you Lves the occasions of being ensnared and if it so happens be it eiher sex the party lights by chance upon a fair object where there is good behaviour Joyned with an excellent shape and features and you perceive in your eyes a greediness and Languishing to pull to them the Image of beauty and convey it to the heart so that the Influence begins powerfully to move within and you perceive the suitable spirit sparkling in the partys Eyes to add more â—euel to the fire then
is it time wisely to withstand the temptation sortify your heart rouse up your reason and shut up all the Inlets to keep out the formidable Enemy Stop as when you are in a swift Career An unexpected danger dâ— appear Occasions to be shun'd in the beginings of Love Shun all occasions especially of voluntarily coming into such company some indeed have unaccountably fallen passionately in Love with those that were so high above them in Fortune and Merit that there remained not the shadow of a hope to reach them that way and that fruitless passion has brought them into a very bad condition which has notwithstanding been recovered by a timely discovering their passions to some Judicious friend who with his wholsom counsel and Advice has set it aside and reconciled the parties to their reasons and rendered 'em themselves again Amorous books or tales that may occasioâ— any remembrance of a Love subdued must be avoided Lest it rebel and grow stronger than at first The son of Syrach tells us there is danger in gazing on a Maid and bids us turn our Eyes away from a beautiful woman that is not that we ought not to look upon a woman but not so to Look upon her at to Lust after her or doâ—e upon her to our own harm and detriment for these kind of desires as a snowball is Enlarged with Rouling are encreased by sight Petrarch says there 's nothing sooner revives or grows sore again than Love do's by sight As Gold renews Coveteousness Pomp Ambition so a beauteous object that has hurt before being seen again blows up the dying sparks of Love into a flame more fierce than before as some grow dry at the sight of drink and greedily covet it the which were it not in their way they would not perhaps at that time think of it so meat many times encreases appetite and if not easy to be had creates a Longing desire after it If Eve had never seen the fairness of the forbiden fruit she had never covered it and by Eating of the Interdicted Luscious bane have brought a world of woes upon her self and her posterity Ismenes says that by reason of long absense when these had almost weaned himself no sooner he saw his Mistress again but like fire put into dry stuble the flame blew up more raging than before Though Mertila swore she would never Love her Pamâ—â—â—â— more and by absence had almost weaned her self yet no sooner did she see him but regardless of her vow she run into his Arms and embraced him Oftentimes these things have happened to the partâ—es Against their strictest resolves have been carryed away with their passions Like a violent torrent overthrowing the houses trees people and caâ—tle that stand in it's way Alexander the great when he had taken Queen Statira wife to Darius Prisoner being Informed of her Excellent beauty his favourits had much a do to perswade him to see her and his reason was Left he should fall in Love with her and not be able to master his passion Scipie though but a young General at the fiege of a city in Spain he had a very beautcous young Lady brought to him as a present by one of his Captains that had taken her prisoner but he so bridled his passion that hearing she was betroth'd to a Prince of that countrey he delivered her black Ransom free refusing the Gold they brought to redeem her It is a great happiness in some men and women that Passion has not so great an Ascendant over them as it has over others Yet it is good even for them to avoid such Temptations as may by degrees like water continually dropping on a stone weâ— into their hearts and overcome them when they think they have set the surest Guard to oppose them Occasions shâ—â—â—n'd by change of place Occasion as we have said is very much contributing to Love-Melancholy because that although all other sights lessen in our Esteem the oftener they are seen yet on the contrary a Womans Beauty breeds more delight ties and chains affection safter to it Travelling by many now a-days is held a cure for Love for if the Spark finds his Mistress hard hearted and cruelly bent if he has the power to take himself away from her and he immediately sets our to see the Varieties of Forreign Courts and Countries absence and change of Objects will contribute much to the Cure as the Poet says Then haste with speed the least delay don't make Fly from her far some Journy undertake I know thou 'st grieve and that her Name once told Will be of force thy Journey to withhold But when thou find'st thy self most bent to stay Compel thy feet with thee to run away Nor do you wish that rain and stormy weather May stay your steps and bring you back together Count not the miles you pass nor doubt the way Lest those Respects should turn you back to stay Tell not the Clock nor look thou once behind But fly like Lightning or the Northern Wind For where we are too much o're match'd in might There is no way for safeguard but our flight Opportunity and Idleness made Iseus the Philosopher in love with all the fair Women he came near but by often changing his place and at last betaking him seriously to his study he was quite alter'd neither caring for Women or any Joviâ—l Company no Songs or Verses would go down with him as before But we cannot allow that this kind of change so easily happens to all notwithstanding study and retirement are mainly available St. Ambrose relates a passage That a Young Man leaving a fair Virgin whom he dearly loved because she was then coy peevish and disdainful after a Long absence he returned again and then the repenting that she had overstood her fortune would have yielded to his desirse but he shunn'd her when he met her but she thinking he had forgot her made up to him and told him who she was Ay but reply'd he I am changed and am not the same man I was Petrarch tells us that a young Gentleman falling in love with a Maid the was born blind of one Eye he was ready to go out of his 〈◊〉 for her till his Friends 〈◊〉 opposed the Match perswading him to travel he returned without his Fever and 〈◊〉 her one day with 〈◊〉 unconcernedness asked her 〈◊〉 she came to Loose her eye since be left the town to which she replyed she had Lost none in that time but she perceived be had found his own again 〈◊〉 that Lovers in the height of their passions are unaccountably blind and cannot see those imperfections in the parties they Love that others easily discern and themselves when returned to their proper senses detest their weakness and solly not being Judges of beauty no more the 〈◊〉 reason when they are in their fits but being out of them they are quite other persons Observations from fair and foul means Absence not taking place
to blot out the Idea of a mistress fair or soul means are many times used as remedies perswasions provides threats and Terror may be of moment or by some contrary passion strive to break or divert it We see that a stream has less force by being drawn into many 〈◊〉 St. Hierom tells us that there was a young man in Aegypt 〈◊〉 by no Labsur perswasion 〈◊〉 Continence could be diversted 〈◊〉 the Abbot of a Monastery 〈◊〉 a trick upon him viz. He 〈…〉 of his Covenant to quarel 〈…〉 and with some scandaâ— reproach to defame him 〈◊〉 the company and then to 〈◊〉 first the witnesses hereâ— being sunmoned the young 〈◊〉 wept and when all of them 〈…〉 in accusing him Abbot seeming to compassionate him took his part Lest Immoderate 〈◊〉 should overcome him which made the youth so much in Love with the Abbot that it drew off by degrees his other passion and in a while quite cured him of those disorderly Affections that were before peredominant over him Opinions of the scared relating to Love and Marriage Of all the matters we have yet handled you will no doubt at first view take this to be beyond our Province and perhaps with contracted brows demand what we have to do to meddle with so nice a point that so nearly concerns your Honour and Reputation Under submission the we humbly conceive it may turn to the advantage of your Sex which hitherto has been our Endeavour to promote We must in this case be plain and tell the World That many chaste Virgins have undergou hard and unmerited censures upon the account the columnies raised by the Ignorant it is necessary then for their future repose that we clear the point that the conceited may not be Indulged in their Errors Opinion many times Leads men Astray Like wandering fires till they loose themselves many have waded so far in their own conceits that no reason or Argument can draw them out of the Mire of self will'd obtancy Virginity to some is a very misterious word and has puzl'd to define it in all the circumstances that attend it for it has properly a double dependance as well upon the mind as the body but since the former is elsewhere treated on in this Elaborate work our present business points more directly at the latter The curious searchers into this secret therefore find that in the sinus Pudoris or in that which some Name the neck of the womb is placed that which many call the Hymen but more properly termed the Claustrum virginale and the French call it the Buttowd Rose or the Rose bud it much by it's foldings resembling it or Expounding a Clove Gilly flower from whence destore to desflowr is Alluded to the deflowring A virgin because they are of opinion that the virginity is destroyed when this duplication or folding is disspated and fractured by violence either in Matrimony or rude compulsion but when it is found Entire nothing of that nature can be pretended by the severest Criticks in these affairs It consists properly of four Caruncles or little buds like Mittle berries placed in the Angles of the sinus Pudoris Joyned and held together by little Membruines and Ligatures like fibres either of them placed in the Intesticies or spaces between each Caruncle which in some measure they proprotionably distend and these Membraines when found to be delacerated say they denote the party Divested of Virginity though this do's not allwaies hold to be done by unlawful means even in those that are not Married though some over-curious husbands who have given themselves up to too much Licenciouness in their rambling days have caveled about it the first night and sometimes it has occasioned continued feuds and heats 〈◊〉 the Imbittering the pleasures of Marriage the wives 〈◊〉 of her Innocency and 〈◊〉 little availing to convince the obstinacy and over-conceited opinion of the husband or their concluding they have them but on the second hand sometimes it caused returning them to their 〈◊〉 rents or laid a foundation for a divorce by a strong 〈◊〉 sumption that they have 〈◊〉 sacrificed their honour to 〈◊〉 when indeed they are 〈◊〉 Priestesses to Diana 〈◊〉 the Goddess of Chastity 〈◊〉 we show them then 〈◊〉 Errors and restore them 〈◊〉 of mind if they are 〈◊〉 whirled away by the 〈◊〉 Jealousy beyond the 〈◊〉 of Reason or consideration Opinions there are 〈◊〉 learned Physicians nor 〈◊〉 those of our age 〈◊〉 aver it that such 〈◊〉 or fractures may 〈◊〉 sundry Accidents as 〈◊〉 moderate sneezing 〈◊〉 coughing vehement 〈◊〉 strainings struglings and 〈◊〉 tendings Infirmities 〈…〉 final stoppage of the Urin and violent motions of the Vessels forcibly sending down the humours which like a Torrent too rapidly breaks what opposses the passage compelling the Ligatures or Membrains to give way to theirimpetousiry So that the Entireness or Fracture cannot in the strictest sense absolutely determine the being or loss of that which we properly call a Virginity for it no lascivious Act has â—assed we pronounce her chast and free from any just scandal or reproach for the most lovely and chast cannot be always enforced against Accident and Câ—â—nalties and so leaving what has been premis'd to a candid construction when a Woman protects her Innocency and the whole course of her life makes nothing apparent to the contrary we conclude she ought to be credited 〈◊〉 freed from suspicion grounded on so slender a furnize Opinions of the Learned about Legitimate Children Opinions of this kind are not 〈◊〉 grounded though maâ—â— ignorant persons have heaped up trouble and vexaâ—ion to â—â—selves by an unjust 〈◊〉 that might have been 〈◊〉 if well weighed and 〈◊〉 and all those 〈◊〉 and contests than an unjust 〈◊〉 has occasioned in families might have been 〈◊〉 to their habitations and repose Many husbands have gotten the bare Notion That a Woman ought to go 9 months with the birth before she can delivered or else they conclude she has been taking her pleasant Recreation in Venns Grove before the Gordian Knot of Marriage was ty'd when indeed in many cases it is only a Vulgar Error To remove which hinderances of Peace and Quite we shall endeavour to lay dowu the Opinions of those judicious men who made it their study to unravel the mystery of Nature in her various and wonderful Operations And though some alleged and we allow that it is not very usual for a Child to be so long born and live before the usually accepted time yet we must aver it is probable and possible because it has evidently been demonnstrated If a controversie ariso on this matter in law the Physicians are to pass their Judgement upon the Child who beiog Judicious Persons can by their Skill in inspecting the apparent Symptoms and Deficiency of Nature which not having supply'd it with Nails or something else that is proper to it tell how long it has been in the Womb and their Opinions in such cases are usually taken Paulus
must address himself to the waiting Gentle-woman as to an Oracle that can only clear all his doubts But if he wil obliqe her to relate the truth he must open his purse for that incloseth the most mysterious secrets He shall no sooner produce certain Guests that dwell there which they call Guinnies but they will unriddle him the most obscure aenigmas not only upon this but any other subject whatsoever that his curiosity prompts him to understand But since we have not examined all the natural beauties let us leave those that are artificial and return to what remains After the Face the Neck Armes and Hands fall under consideration which some Buffoons have called lapetite Oye Though their beauty is inferiour to what we have already destrib'd yet they produce sometimes strange effects and there is no heart that can resist the charms of a fair Neck when she satiates your Eye with beholding Those graceful Apples which they bear inflame the hearts of those that are most insensible These two Fruits are so lovely that a person is ready to die with a desire of approaching with the mouth to taste them and is sensible of a pleasent convulsion when he doth but grasp them in his hand In fine they are capable of creating my content but never satiate me Lovers that touch their Ladies lovely breast De feel the Matchless flame within their heart And are with amorous designs poossest To enjoy wonders in some other part For greater pleasures they require To satisfie their fond desire The comely proportion hath many charms to move an affection especially when accompany'd with a free Air that attracts the inclinations of all persons Poetical Revenge for beiâ—g slighted Coy one be gone my Love-days now are done Were thy Brow like th' Ivory fret As it is more black than Jet Might thy hairy tress compare With Daphne's sporting with the air As it is worse selter'd far Than th' knotty tufts of Mandrakes are Were there in chy Squint Eyes found True native sparks of Diamond As they 'r duller sure I am Than th'Eye-lamps of a dying man Were-thy breath a Civet scent Or some purer Element As there 's none profess thee love Can touch thy Lip without a Clove Were thy Nose of such a shape As Nature could no better make As it is so screwed in It claims acquaintance with thy Chin Were thy Breasts two rising Mounts Those Ruby Nipples Milkey Founts As those two so faintly move They 'd make a Lover freeze with Love Could thy pulse affection beat Thy palm a balmy inâ—isture sweat As their active vigour's gone Dry and cold as any stone Were thy arms thighs legs foot and all That we with modesty may call Nay were thy Grove of such choice Grace Aâ—t might be styl'd Loves-watring place As all these yeid such weak delight They 'd fright a Bridegroom the first night And hold't a Curse for to be sped Of such a Fury in his bed Could thine high improved slats Vye with greatest potentate As in all thy store I find Mole hills to a noble mind Went thou as rich in Beauties forme As thou art held in Nature's scorn I vow these should be none of mine Because they are intitled thine Passionate Lovers Love is so contagious that all the Estates of the world do feel it an Evil so pestilent and venomous that it plungeth and intermeddieth among all Ages indifferently as all the Devils do among all the Elements without excepting Persons or Equality of old or young foolish or discreet seeble or strong And the greatest pain in this malady is that they become mad and out of their Wits if they be not well treated and medicined at the first And therefore it is that Paulus Aegineta in his third book ordained to all those that are peasecuted of this suror of Evil such Ways and Rules to live as are fit for sools and such as are out of their Wiâ—s The which Empercleus following the counsel of Plato ordained also who made two kinds of Furies of the which he called one in Greek Exoticon which signifieth in Latin Amatorium and in English Love I have seen Anotamies made of some of those that have died of this malady that had their Bowels shrunk their poor heart all burnt their Liver and Lights all wasted and consumed their Brains endamaged Love proceedeth of the correspondent quality of Blood and that the Complection engendereth the same mutual love The Astrolgians in like manner say that Love proceedeth when that two meeting have one mind or that they be changed in some other Constellation for then they be constrained to love together Other Philosphers have said that when we cast our sight upon that which we desire suddenly certain Spirits that are engendered of the most perfectest part of blood proceedeth from the heart of the Party which we do love and promptly ascendeth even up to the Eyes and afterward coverteth into Vapours invisible and entereth into our Eyes which are bent to receive them even so as in looking in a Glass there remaineth therein some 〈◊〉 by breathing and so from the Eyes it penetrateth to the Heart even so by little and little it spreadeth all about and therefore the miserable lover being drawn to by the Spirits the which desire always to joyn and draw near with their principal and natural habitation is constrained to mouth and lament his lost liberty Suddenly you shall see them drowned in tears making the air to sound with their crys sighs plaints murmurings and imprecations another time you shall see them cold frozen ang in Trance their faces pale and changed other times if that they have had any good look or other gentle Entertainment of the thing that they love you shall see them gay chearful and pleasant so that you would judge that they were changed into some other form Sometimes they love to be solitary and seek secret places to speak and reason with themselves and sometimes ye shall see them pass five or six times a day through a 〈◊〉 for to spy whether than they may have any look of the Eye of 〈◊〉 whom they love and in the mean 〈…〉 poor pages and 〈◊〉 have their legs 〈◊〉 with running their arms awaken with 〈…〉 brushing trimming 〈◊〉 king clean the Gentlemen 〈◊〉 the Lover be poor there 〈◊〉 no 〈◊〉 of Humanity 〈◊〉 that he sheweth is even to sacrifice and to put 〈…〉 if need shall require I he be rich his Purse as the Greeks term it is tied with a Leek-blade though he be covetous he becometh then prodigal there is no 〈…〉 he will spare 〈…〉 is the power of the poysonâ—â— the which hath an 〈…〉 to say that Love was the first inventor of 〈◊〉 if the Lover be learned 〈◊〉 his spirits be any time weekned you shall see him 〈◊〉 Sea of 〈…〉 to double his plains 〈◊〉 â—â—â— the Heaven make an Anatomy of his Heart freeze the Summer burn the Winter worship play the 〈◊〉 wonder to feign
appears and the Gentlemans wisest way had been to have held his Tongue for her Conscience sake and his own Reputation but Jealousie got so much the upper hand of him that he could not refrain blowing those horns himself had caused to be made and sâ—ted to his brows by which means he became a very noted Citizen being every where pointed at for his solly Put the case a man be Jealous of his Wife without a cause this very wronging her shall in revenge prompt her to do that which she otherwise never designed for nothing exasperates a Woman more than distrust unjustly 〈◊〉 upon her as if she had not a sufficient discretion to Govern her self without seting spies or a guard over her We shall show you in another example how this kind of usage contributed to another Gentlemans misfortune he had been tho but a young Spark yet an old Sinner at this kind of Game and above all things dreading to be a Cuccold he was very different in the choice of a Wife this frightful bugbear even at a distance making him some times conclude never to Marry but then being Heir to a pretty good Estate the main he found would fail and it would pass after his Decease into another Family but that which most moved him to comply with Matrimony was that part of it being Mortaged he wanted a Wives Portion to redeem 〈◊〉 and at last found out one suiting hi humour young rich fair and witty and in a short time clapt up the March having brought her home he put her under the Ward of an Old Aunt that was his House-keeper with a strict chare at the peril of her place to watch the young Ladies waters so narrowly that she should let none slip without her obsrevation suffer her to go no where without her and no company with her but in her hearing this made her stomach it extreamly that instead of the freedom she Expected in being a Wife she found her self but a Prisoner at large having always her Keeper at her heels This put her upon revenge which otherwise perhaps had not come into her thoughts she took opportunities to solicit a young Gentleman that had the freedom of the House not with words for that she durst not but with her Eyes and some Dumb Love signs of which Language he was not ignorant but how to compass their desires they knew not but upon consideration the Lady was to make a Visit to a Couzen of hers or she pretended to do and having her Governant at her heels just as she was about to enter the Door a pail of water came sousing upon her out at a Window as by accident which wet her all over but Love and Expectation had too much warmed her within to catch cold or fear an Ague when shaking her Ears a little as in a passion for the Affront turning to her Aunt You see said the what a condition I am in wet from top to toe I prethe step home quickly and fetch me some dry Cloaths for shifting The Old Woman upon this little dreaming Love could play such Tricks to circumvent her Vigilance pittying the condition of her poor almost drowned Neice â—rudged away instantly or other Garments whilst a warm bed in that house and as warm a bedfellow awaited the wet Lady there was little time to trude away and so they improved it to the best advantage e're the old Woman return'd Thus the over cautious Husband was out-witted and fitted at once for his over strictness 'T is very unreasonable that a Woman should be curb'd and sâ—nb'd watch'd warded and tyraniz'd over by a Husband as if with the Loss of her virginity she had torfeited her Liberty In vain it is to go about to make the Fair Sex believe that Marriage was ever intended to Enslave them give 'em their Freedom and good Usage and you chain their affections to you Their Souls are soft which you may gently lay In your loose Palms but being prest to stay Like Water they delude your grasp and slip away But now suppose the worst that is that a man is really wrong'd if he be contented with his lot and 't is kept from the babling world that his Reputation does not suffer we cannot if his wife be not lavishly Expensive that way find him in a worse condition than other men nor half so miserable as the Jealous pated man that creates trouble to himself when he might live at ease and quiet Perswasion prevails against Love Melancholy Perswasion tho Threats and false Representations of the party loved to the party loving may sometimes prevail is a more gentle and easy way and best to be approved But where Lenitives will not effect the Cure Corrosives must be apply'd However good Counsel and Advice though some reject it is of great use and Efficacy if it proceed from Wife Fatherly Reverend and Discreet Persons who have any Authority or Awe over the Party or from those from whom he by the ties of friendship has a Respect and Kindness and this Gordâ—niss a learned Physician says ought to be apply'd before any other Remedy but not till the fury of the Passion is a little spent and some absence has weakened or allay'd it for as Judicious Observer takes notice it is at first as Intempestive to give Counsel as to go about to dry up the Tears of Parents when those Children they intirely love are at the point of Death Seneca says of this Kind of Love it is learned of it self but without a Tutor hardly left 'T is convenient therefore to have some Judicious Overseer to Expostulate calmly and shew the absurdities and incoveniencies of an unruly Passion with its Imperfections and the Discontents that usually ensue which they themselves cannot at that time apprehend a right I will says one blinded by Passion have such a fair Damsel tho I lose my Parents love the love of all my Friends and Relations undergo want poverty or any misery the Enjoying her lovely Person will over recompence me for any misfortune that can befal Thus the sick brain'd Lover raves and is to be pity'd for if he obtains his desire and the heat of his Passion is abated by Enjoyment he stands amaz'd at what he has done and thinks all that has pass'd to be the Effects of a Dream he stares at his Folly and repines at his hard luck and seeing his Friends renounce him other slight and laugh at him and within a while perceiving Poverty with her calamitous attendants Hunger Thrist and Rags about to rush in at the fore door his Love after a quivering fit or two either expires or retreats as the Countrey People say out at the back door Now his Eyes are open he sees his Folly and would at any rate be off from his bargain This Repentance begets Heart burnings Strife Jealousies c. that destroy the peace and quiet of his life Many such unadvised Matches have happen'd in our days by the Passion
their Love and good Offices And he is a monster in Nature who returns them not the Caresses of an Innocent Affection the Spotless 〈◊〉 of Vertue and Gratitude Live is the Soul of the World the Vital Prop of the Elements to the Cement of Humane Society the strongest Fence of Nature Earth would be a Hell without it neither can there be any Heaven where this is absent Yet I am no Advocate for those general Lovers who not content to let this active Passion run within the lawful Channel of chast marriage swell it up with irregular Tides and wanton Flouds of Lust till it wash away the Banks of 〈◊〉 and morality find out new Passages and Rivulers encroaching on other mens Possessions or at least dilating on the general waste of the weaker Sex who ought to be as Gardens enclos'd ortholy Ground not to be prophan'd by the Access of every bold Instruder I approve not the Incestuous mixtures of the Chinese where the Brother marries the Sister or next a-kin Nor the sensual Latitude of the Mahometans who allow every man four Wives and as many Concubinesas he can maintain But above all I detest the wild and brutal Liberty of that Philosopher who in his Idea of Humane Happiness conceiv'd a promiscuous Copulation ad Libitum to be a necessary Ingredient of our bliss On the Other side my Regards to that sex are not circumscrib'd within such narrow Limits as to exclude any from our Conversation and Friendship that by any warrantable Title can lav a Just Claim to it I wou'd have out Commerce with Females as General as is their Number that deserve it whose Knowledge and Vertue will be a sufficient security from criminal Familiarities and from the scandals of the World There are among that sex as among men Good and bad Vertuous and Vicious and a Prudent man will so level his Choice as not to stain his Reputation or hazard his Integrity 'T is no small Point of Discretion I own to regulate our Friendship with Women and to walk evenly on the borders and very Ridge of a Passion whose next step is a Precipâ—ce of Flames not kindled from the Altar of Vertue However 't is not impostible to conserve Innocency on the Frontiers of Vice There is no Difference of sex among Souls and a 〈◊〉 line Spirit may inhabit Womans Body It is disingâ—naous to rob Vertue of the advantages it receives from Beauty which makes it appear like Diamonds enchac'd in Gold and gives it a greater Lustre Reason it self will appear more Eloquent in the mouth of a fair maid than in that of the most Florid Oratour And there are no Figures in all the 〈◊〉 of Rhâ—thorick so moving and forcible as the peculiar Graces of that sex I am of Opinion that Men can boast of no Endowments of the Mind which Women possess not in as great if not a greater Eminency There have been Muses as well as Amazons and no Age or Nation but has produced some Females Renowned for their Wisdom or Vertue Which makes me conclude that the Conversation of Women is no less useful than pleasant and that the Dangers which attend their Friendships and Commerce are recompensed by vast Advantages But whatever may be adduced against the Friendships we contract with Women there is not in all the Magazine of Detraction any Weapon of Proof against the mutual Intimacies of our own Sex the generous Endearments of Souls truely Masculine and Vertuous united by Sympathies and Magnets whose Root is in Heaven a No Panegy ricks can reach the Worth of these Divine Engagements since they admit not of any Mediocrity but derive their Value onely from their Excess I have been always flow and cautoius in contracting Amities lest 〈◊〉 should run the Risque of his mistake who while he thought he had an Angel by the Hand held the Devil by the Foot But where I have once pitch'd my Affection I love without Reserve or Rule I never entertain without suspicioâ—â— the warm Professions of Love which some Men are apt 〈◊〉 make at first sight Such Mushroom-Friendships have no deep Root and therefore most commonly wither 〈◊〉 soon as they are form'd Yet I deny not but that there are some secret marks and Signatures which Souls ordain'd for Love and Friendship can read in each other at a Glance by which that Noble Passion is excited that afterwards displays it self in more apparent Characters This is the suent Language of Platonick Love wherein the Eye supplies the Office of the Tongue 't is the Rhetorick of Amorous Spirits wherein they make their Court without a Word There are some lasting Friendships which owe their Birth to such an Interview but their Growth and Fastness proceeds from other Circumstances being cherish'd by frequent Conversation repeated good Offices and an inviolate Fidelity which are the only proper and substantial Aliment of Love 'T is impossible to fix a durable Friendship where-ever we place a Transient Inclination because of the insuperable Necessities which divide particular Men from each Others Commerce or Knowledge after they have began to Love In the Oâ—b of this Life Men are like the Plâ—nets which now and then cast friendly Aspects on each other en Passant But following the Motions of the Greater Sphere of Providence they are again seperated their Influences dissolv'd and new Amours commenc'd But I would have my Friendship resemble the Fixed Stars and Constellations who in the Eternal Revolution never part Company or Interest I have ever look'd on those men to be but one step differnc'd from Beasts whose Love is confined onely to their own Families or Kindred Such a narrow affection deserves not to be rank'd in the Praedicament of Humanity My Love is communicative it makes a large Progress and extends it self to strangers it takes in Men of different Humours and Complexions Customs and Languages it refuses none that have the Face of Men but with wide open'd Arms embraces all that bear the stamp of Humane Nature And I have this peculiar in my Temper that I find not the least Reluctancy in loving and â—oing Good to my Enemies That which costs others so much Labour and Toil â—o perswade themselves to is to me as familiar and easie as to laugh at a ridiculous Object and I esteem it not so properly a Vertue in my self as a Gift of Nature the Effect of my Constitution Sculiery-Maids in 〈…〉 There 〈…〉 Rooms that you must keep sweet and clean as the Kitchen Pantry Wash-house c. That you wash and scowre all the Plates and Dishes which are used in the Kitchen also Kettles Pots Pans Chamber-pots with all other Iron Brass and Pewâ—er materials that belong to the Chambers or Kitchen And lastly you must wash your own Linnen Thus Ladies I have endeavoured to shew your Servants their duties in their respective places Six Nights Rambles of a Young Gentleman through the City for the detection of lewd women as I find them inserted in the Athenian
was his mistress and that he had bestowed that Ring on her at such time as he departed from her it is not to be conceived what continued sorrow he expressed for her A story of no less constant nor passionate affection may be here related of that deeply inamoured Girl who though she preferred her Honour before the Embraces of any Lover and made but small semblance of any fondness or too suspicious kindness to him who had the sole interest in her love Yea so far was her affection distanced from the least suspicion as her very nearest Friends could scarcely discover any such mâ—â—â—er betwixâ— themâ— yeâ—â—t such time as her unfortunaâ—â— Lover being found a notorious Dâ—lâ—nquent in a Civil State was to suffâ—r when all the private means by way of Friends that she could makeâ— prevailed nâ—thing for his delivery and she now made a sad â—â—ectator of his Trageâ—y After such time as the Headsman had done his office she leapt up upon the Scoffold and in a distracted manner called all such people as were there present to witness That he who had suffer'd could no way possiâ—ly be a Deâ—inquent and she innocent For this heart of mine said she was his how could he then do any thing whereof I was not guilty Nor could this poor distempered Maid by all the advice counsel or perswasion that could be used to her be drawn from the Scaffold ever and anon beckoning to the Eâ—ecutioner to perform his office for otherwise he was an Enemy â—o the State and the Emperours profest â—oe Nor could shâ— be without much force haled from the Scaffold till his corps was removed But as Vertue receives her proper station in the Meane so all Extreams decline from that Mark. Those only deserve approvement who can so season their Affections with discretion as neither too much coyness taxe them of coldness nor too much easiness brand them of forwardness in the ordering of their Affection This closeth fitly with those Posies of two cursory wits writ in a window by way of answer one to another She she for me and none bâ— she That 's neither forâ— aâ—d nor tâ—â— free Which was answered in this manner in a paralel way to the former That wench I vow shall be my joy That 's neither forward nor too coy But thus much may suffice for instances of this kind Seminaries The first English one beyond the Seaâ— was erected at Doway in Flanders aâ—no 1 6 by Dr. Allen afterwards Cardinal Allen and R. Briâ—â—â—â— Anotâ—er was sâ—t up at Rhemes in Fraâ—â—â— 1577. and another at Roâ—â— 1573. Sybils Sybils were Twelve Prophetesses The first was call'd sambreta or Persâ—â—â— from the Name of Persia where she was born She prophesi'd Christ coming and being boâ—â— of a Virgin pronounc'd him the Saviour of the Gentiles Sybil the second was of Lâ—â—â—â—â— and thence called Libica â—â—â— amongst other Prophecies â—â—liver'd this viz. That the â—â—â— should come wherein men sâ—â—â—â—â— see the King of all living thiâ—â—â— upon the Earth and Virgin Lady of the World should hold him in her Lap. Sybil the third of these was of Themis surnamed Delphica from Delphos the place of her birth where she prophecy'd That a Prophet should be born of a Virgin Sybil the fourth was Cumean born at Cimeria a City of Campania in Italy amongst other things she prophecy'd That God should be born of a Virgin and have Residence and Conversation among sinners Sybil the fifth was called Erythrea being born at Babylon she prophecy'd much of the coming of Christ and the Glory of the Christian Religion insomuch that divers of the ancient Fathers of the Church have taken great notice of her predictions as St. Eusebius St. Austin and others and that the first Letters of certain Prophetick Verses of hers foretelling many strange Events as the world 's being at last consumed with fire the Resurrection of the Just c. make these words viz. Jesus Christ Son of God Saviâ—â—r And indeed though she was long before the birth of Christ yet foretold a great deal of the Substance of the Christian Religion and what wonders would be wrought Sybil the sixth was born in the Isle of Samos and from thence called Samia she prophecying of our Saviour says he being Rich shall be born of a poor Virgin the Creatures of the Earth shall adore him and praise him for ever Sybil the seventh was called Cumana because she lived and prophecied in a Cave which Cave is now to be seen near where ancient Câ—mâ—â— stood once a Famous Town in Campania in Italy and in it to this day are strange Noises heard like the hissing of Serpents and Toads c. She prophecv'd many things of the Roman Government which flourish'd in her Time which Exactly came to pass in their Civil and Foreign Wars as also of Christ saying he should come from heaven and remain here inpoverty That he should rule in silence and be born of a Virgin She is hel to write Nine books of Prophecies which were brought to Tarquinius Superbus but he refusing to give her her unreasonable demands for them she burnt six before his Face and yet obliged him to give as much for the Three as she asked for all and then vanish'd Which books were afterwards held in wonderful Esteem and highly credited by the people Amongst other things they contained a Prophecy of the coming of Christ Kingdom his Name Birth and Death but these three books were afterwards maliciously burnt by the Traitor Stilico and most of the Phophecies by that means lost Those remaining being taken out of others works who had carefully quoted and inserted them before the books were so unhappily destroy'd Sybil the Eight called Hellesponâ—ica born at Maâ—misâ—a in the Troâ—an Territories she Prophecy'd that the Saviour of the World should be of the Tribe of Judah born of one Mary a Jew and that she being a pute Virgin should bring forth the Son of God and his Name should be called Iâ—sus and so be both God and â—n fâ—lfilling the Laws of the Jews and should and his Law thereinto and his Kingdom should remain for ever Sybil the Ninth prophecy'd at the Town of Ancire in Phrygia and was named Phrygia from the Country she foretold That the highest should come from heaven and should confirm the Council in heaven and a Virgin should be shâ—â—ed in the Valley of the Dâ—sâ—rts Sybil the Tenth was called Albenea and surnamed Tybertina from her being born on the banks of the River Tyber about 19 miles from Rome she prophecy'd That the Word Invisible should be born of a Virgin to have Conversation among sinners and to be dâ—â—â—â—ed of them and as St. Austin gives an accounts she foretold all the manner of his Passion and Sufferings and his rising again from the Grave at the End of three days Giving a tolerable Relation likewise of his Miracles and many other things that come Exactly to pass Sybil the Eleventh was called Epiroâ—ica Many have
the Ordinary or Eating House if he dines alone he may pass for a wise Man according to the old Rule That a Fool cannot be known to be such by his silence But if he engages with other Company they make a double use of him one to help their Digestion by affording them continual matter of Laughter and Ridicule and the other to pay the odd Mony of the RecKoning which the easie â—op never refuses that he may appear a complaisant and well-bred Gentleman And now his Belly 's full the Lambkin begins to grow wanton and has a great mind to visit his Sempstress or Milliners Shop on purpose to be admired by little Miss that fits behind the Counter with whom he enters into a profound Chat about the newest Fashion for Crevats what colour'd Ribband is most proper for that Season How deep Men wear their Ruffles When he has run himself out of Breath with a Catalogue of the various Whim-â—â—ams such Coxcombs as he wear about 'em he makes a Parenthesis by peeping in the Glass that hangs up in the Shop finding fault with his Barber Laundress Taylor c. on purpose to draw her Eyes towards his Idolized Self Here begins the rehearsal of his Morning's Chamber work He picks a Quarrel with his Crevat that he may engage pretty Miss to tye it an w for him and then he has a fair Opportunity to make Love by a thousand little effeminate Tricks Then his Ruffles don't sit to please him and Miss is emploâ—ed again Here 's another advantage to shew his white Hand whilst the fond Coxcomb falls in Love by the same methods which he uses to captivate her and she laughs in her Sleeve at the ridiculous effeminacy and softness of him who might otherwise pass for a Man If he goes from hence to the Play-House on a Day when Sir Fopling Flutter Sir Martin Marr-all Sir courtly 〈◊〉 or any other Comedy is Acted that may serve as a Mirrour for him to see his own Folly in He has hardly patience to sit the first Act out but as soon as that 's over he flies out of the Pit in Huff calls for his Half-Crown plays the Critick damns the Play away he troops likeâ— Knight-Errant to hunt fox new Adventures for he knows not what that Mocâ—anick-Thing called Busiâ—ess means He strolls up and down the Streets and is never out of his Road so long as he 's within Scent of a Tavern or Ale-house where he may idly pass away his Hours till the Evening Change Time calls for him to beat the Hoof in Fleet-Street cheap-side or the Strand in pursuit of some Female Bargain But here 's the â—ee'l on 't tho' he means well yet his Luck 's nought for he is a Fumbler at Courtship that the better sort of Night-Walkâ—â— put him out of of Countenance and he is forced either to take up with some Ordinary Pug who ten to one picks his Pockets before she leaves him or being baulk'd in this important Design he sneaks into some Coffe-House to end the Day as he began it and go Home to Bed the same Fop be rose AFter all this Gentlemen will you persist to libel Women because they use some innocent Arts to reclaim you from these Follies Believe me these Towers and Top-knots are no others than Satyrâ— on your high crisp'd â—iggs and Dangling Locks your Spruce câ—â—ust-strings Swords-knots and the rest of your Finical Dress I dare be bold to challange you in the Name of all the Female Sex begin you and shew a good Example leave all of all this effeminate Clutter abandon your Fopperies and Vices and act like a Man of Sense and I 'll engage the Women will quickly follow your steps and re-asluming the antient Spirit and Valour of our renowned Ancestors the Picts we 'll accompany you to the Wars and make all the World to tremble at the Name of the English Amazoâ—s Treâ—â—â— between a Common Lady and her Husband Give no place to wrath but give place to your Husbands in time of their wrath Anger is madness and as strong In force but not in course so long The only way to allay passion is to calm it with an expostulation This that bravely composed Roman Lady made excellent use of who when she found her Husband quite off the hinges affecting nothing more then to catch at offence with a sweet countenance and pleasing language she entered into a fair treaty after this manner O my dear Quintianus whence may these Distempers grow you had a Juliana I must confess a consort well diserving your choice and because your now espoused Chariclea supplies her place doth is repent you of your change And yet me thinks should you â—ecollect yourself aâ—◠〈◊〉 an equal scale weigh your Caricâ—â—â—'s Love you would hold it aâ— ungrateful guerdon â—o â—â—quitâ— her Loyal Love with a distaâ—leful look Your first choice was fair incomparably fair of a gracefull presence per 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 language It is confessed Yâ—â— knew this Abstrat of perseâ—â—on to break forth into passion But she knew her own worth so as passion lodging in such a Subject might admit an easie dispensation and make that Eagerness appear a Vertue in her whereas even Milâ—ness seated in so imperfect a Piece as my self may present it self like a Vice being shrowded with sâ— mean a Cover believe i◠〈◊〉 as Nature has not bestowed an mâ— to make me proud relinquish me for ever if my respect to honour shall not supply those defects of a â—â—â—e exquisite Feature Your anger shall not beget in me the least Distemper but if at any time I be moved it shall be because you are discontented Have you occasion to rejoyce I shall increase it Have you cause to grievâ— I shall allay it Should you in aâ—â— extrimity suffer I should desire nothing more then to become your sharer Many very many might you have had 〈…〉 more choice in proportion but never aâ—â— more true in her affection in one word as there iâ— nâ— office in Chariclea which shall not bestow it self to Quintianus's â—â—noâ—â— during life So 〈◊〉 it be Quintianus's gooddess to accept the loyaâ—â— sacrifice of her devoutest Love This Conjugal protest wrought so impressive an afecct in her too passionate Husband as recollecting his dis-joynted affections he became so truly inamoured of his Choice as the conceit of her inparallel'd vertues estranged his resolves not only from the least apprehension of a future Change but fairly attempered in him all Motives of choller so as it was rare to find in him upon any occasion whatsoever any appearance of Distemper much less of any inconsiderate anger There is no doubt but grounds of distaste may be easily suggested especially where either Jealousie arising from an exuberance of fancy or an intended desire to displease works upon the conceit of the party But admit Gentlewomen your Eyes and Ears were so strongly possest of your injured Bed as you may visibly perceive a breach and violation of that
the Vestal Fire it may never be Extinguished and to that purpose take care to guard it from all such things as naturally tend to put it out and these Extinguishers are perverseness of Humour frowardness sullen and Morose behaviour c. which by taking off from the delight â—nd complacency of Conversation will by degrees wear off the kindness Jealousy above all others is most destructive to Conjugal Love of which we have largely treated under the proper Letter of Alphabet and therefore shall say the less of it here though sometimes we find it to be an unhappy and an unruly Passion and although some term it the Child of Love yet we must â—erm it a Viper because its birth is the certain destruction of its Parent Wives therefore must be nicely careful in giving their Husbanâ—s no occasion of Jealousie nor â—e Jealous your selves if they love their Peace and happiness for the entertaining of Jealous Fancy is admitting the most Treacheâ—ous and most disturbing Inmate in the World and she who lets it in opens her Breast to a Fury and certainly 't is one of the most Enchanting Frensies immagiâ—able it keeps the Party always in a restless and Importunate search of that which â—s dreaded abhorring at the same time to find what is so earnestly sought and there is no difference in the Misery when there is a real cause and only an immagined one and a Wise if she can so bridle her self if she knows her Husbands out-wandring shall sooner reclaim him by dissimulation of the matter or very calm notices rather than by Fury and Contention though we must too sadly confess more Women drive their Husbands from home by their Clamours and Outcries against them of this kind that are staid at home by mildness anâ— perswasion and are reclaimed by their Wives Patience and Meekness yet where Men have not wholly put off their humanity there is compassion to a meek Sufferer so that Patience in this case is as much the Interest as Duty of a Wise. There in another instance of a several Tryal and that we find to be when a Virtuous Wife lies under the causeless Jealousie of her Husbanâ— This must be a great Calamity to a Vertuous Woman who as she accounts nothing so dear as her honour and Loyalty so she immagins no Infelicity can equal the Aspersing of them especially when it comes from him who should be more solicitous to protect her sâ—otlels Innocency and clear her Reputation from the Calumnies cast upon it by others however her caution and circumspection Prayers to God to turn his Heart from Evil Thoughts and Wonderful Vertues will in the end reclaim and make him when he sees with the Eyes of his Reason the Scales of his blinded Passion being fallen off he will with shame and confusion confess his Error and Folly and by the returning Spring-Tide let you see even in his Jealousy how much he valued as fearing any one should deprive him off or at least fully o're so fair a Jewel and by the high flowing of a constant Passion not only make you amenâ—s in Love but by taking shame to himself and blushing at his past indiscretion chear up your Reputation and make it shine brighter than bâ—fore for an Innocent being falsely appeached put to a sharp Tryal and coming off with his Innocency is pittyed and Esteemed when one of the like candour standing by is not taken notice of Wives owe to their Husbands in the next place Fidelity for having espoused his Interests she is obliged to be true to them to keep all his Secrets to inform him of all Dangers that threaten him and for his good in a mild and gentle manner admonish him of his faults that is the most genuine Act of Friendship therefore more abundantly the Wife who is placed in the most nearest and Intimate degree of that relation must not be wanting in it She is his bosom Friend his second self and as she tenders her own happiness so she must his putting gently in mind both of his duty and his Aberations and as long as she can be patiently heard it is a fault in her to omit it and indeed in doing it she is kind to her self for there is nothing that does so much secure the happiness of a Wife as the Virtue and Piety of the Husband yet though this ought to be her chiefest care as being her Principal Interest she is not however to neglect any of those inferior to it but contribute to his utmost advantage in all his concerns When these are well considered there remains more behind for a Virtuous Wife to observe towards her Husband As to what relates then to his Bed she must be severely scrupulous keeping even her Thoughts and Immaginations from wandering much less she must not hold a parley or Treaty contrary to her plighted Faith and Loyalty to her Husband for wantonness-is one of the foulest Blotts that constrain any of the fair Sex but it is more odious infinitely in the Marriage state there being then an Accumulation of crimes Perjury added to uncleanness the Infamy of their Family builded upon their own â—â—d throws all into Confusion and disorder like a Mine sprung under a stately Fabrick laying it in an instant all in Rubbish and Ruins of dishonour and disgrace the Children are branded to Poâ—â—erity and many Generations to come can hardly justle it into oblivion We come in the next place to speak something of Obedience This Ladies in so free and generous a Country as ours may sound a little harsh in your Eâ—râ— yet it is no more than you promised in your Marriage Obligation and we hope you are too brave and just as to break your Words when solemnly passed in so sacred a Place and indeed there goes more than your word to bind it for God hiâ—self has commanded it you lost the Charter of Equality in Paradice so that a contending for it or at least superiority is an attempt to reverse the fundamental Law which is very near as antient as the World consider then that to affect Dominion that has been so long given away and the gift often since confirmed to Man is to little purpose unless to shipwrack the peace and Pleasures of your Lives how happy might many Women have lived who have brought Misery and affliction upon themselves had not their restless Spirits pushed them on for Mastery 'T is better then to let it rest where it ought which is agreable to Gods Word to Nature and Reason and so to live in a calm than by strugling for that which if possible to attain may be hurtful to you for you must always be upon your watch and guard to secure it lest In Roads are made or surprizes happen divesting you of your power and rendring you more miserable than before by a more seâ—vile Subjection so that certainly it is not only the Virtue but also the Wisdom of Wives to do that upon respect and Duty to their
as much honour to Women as to their Maker X. Xerin Princess of Morocco her rare Example of Love and constancy Xerin Daughter of Muley Moluck King of Moroco in Barbary fell upon the first sight desperately in Love with Don Sebastian King of Portugal though at that time he was her Fathers Enemy come with a great Army to Invade Africa and take his Kingdom from him but before she could have time to make her Love know to him a great Battle was fought between the Moors and Portugals on â—atal plains of Tamisâ—â— where the latter were destroyed in a fearful overthrow the King of Portugal was held to beâ—lain among the heaps of his Subjects and great spoil was taken by the Barbarian people Xerin hearing of the sad disaster of her Lover was greatly afflicted yet was however resolved to find out his Body and give him a decent burial as became a King and a Person she had set her Affections on The Field being clear of the Assailants she left the Royal Tent and went with two slaves among the Slain to find out his Body by the Light of the Moon if possible having notice before in what part of the Battle he fought and fell though she was not assured but he might in the Plunder of the Field be stript and his Body carryed away hower with a Lovers boldness on she went and having lookd on divers dead and dying Men She at last fixed her Eyes wishfully upon one Gallantly attired and fancyed she had found him and with a shower of Tears flowing from her Fair Eyes fell upon his Neck and bewailed the Fate of a Monarch and one that was so much belovâ—d by her blaming the Destinies for their Cruelty in cutting so preâ—ious a Thread of Life which ought to have been spun out longer to have made her happy and was about to offer violence to her self when by striving and moveing the Body she perceived there was yet Life remaining in it she thereupon with a great Cry tore off her Linnen and with the help of her Slaves bound up his wounds and drawing him from among the slain they got him to side of the River Mueazan where she washed off the Blood and Dust whilst one of her Slaves went down the River to seek a Boat which he Luckily found and in it they transported him to a little Island in the River where the Princess had a private House for her retirement in the heat of the Summer here they got what necessary things they could and dressed his wounds giving likewise such cordials and refreshments as brought him again to himself using him with all the tender care and regard of a vallued Lover so that in a while Recovering his Colour which the loss of Blood had faded and knowing whose hands he was under sighing said Madam I seâ— Heaven will not deprive Portugale of it's King since it has sent him so fair a deliverer and she answered him with all the tender expressions that a passionate Love could utter and for his better acoomoâ—ation thinking no service too much or any thing too dear for him She made interest to have him maintained by Malei Eoâ—bdâ—â—in a Moorish Prince her Couzen in his Pallace at Hoscorâ— till she found an opportunity to dismiss him to his own Country with an Equipage becoming the grandure of so great a Monarch as she took him to be however to make sure of him least he should forget his vows when he repossessed a Throne which without her assistance he must have inevitably lost his Life she made him so far understand her Love to him that at the perswation of the Old Moorish Prince he married her she promising to be Baptized and become a Christian when She should arive in Portugale and so in process of time she by the secret assistance of her Friends got him such an Equipage as might make him appear like himself when he came home her self promising as soon as he was setled there to follow him with all her Treasure By the way we must tell you that it was given out in Portugale that Don Sebastian was slain in the Battle we have mentioned with almost all his Nobility so that few Noble Families there were that were not in tears and mourning for their Friends and Relations in the midst of which confusion the King having no Issue lawful to quiet the people Cardinal Henry his Uncle ascended the Throne but he being very old soon after dyed When as Phillip the second King of Spain lay'd claim to it as did Anthony Prior of Crato Duke of Burgance and others at what time he arrived in Italy and was joyfully received by his Cousin the Dutchess of Parma who verily believing him to be the true King and over joy'd that after she had so grievously lamented his Death She should yet se him alive again as having also a secret Love for him above that of Friendship or Kindred She writ to the Estates of Portugal concerning him who deputed some to wait on him who gave them an Assurance That it was their true King Don Sebastian The Spaniard upon this unexpected News mightily opposed it labouring to prove him a Counterfeit Impostor and having gotten strong footing in the Kingdom resolved to keep it by force Whereupon the other raised an Army in Italy and on the Frontiers of Portugal but the success of the Battel turned against him for the Spaniards oppressing his small Number with a powerful Army he was overthrown and taken Prisoner being closely confined to the Rock of St. Julian a strong Fort in the River Tagus Xerin whilst these things passed not knowing what had befallen him came into Portugal with great Treasure and splendid Train but all her joy was dashed when she heard he was in Prison However she went like a vertuous Wife to comfort him which She did in the kindest manner labouring for his release but it would not be granted so that through Grief and Confinement he fell sick and finding Death's Approach the Histories of those times tell us That he freely declared to her That he was not the King of Portugal for he was really slain in the Battel but that he was one of his Subjects whom Nature had given Lineaments Proportion and Features so like the true King that even the intimate Friends of Sebastian had mistaken the one for the other However the love of this vertuous Princess being unalterably fixed on a Husband She comforted him in the most tender and submissive manner and with a sigh said My dear Lord Afflict not your self with too late and fruitless a repentance I loved continued she the person of Don Sebastian more than the splendour of his condition I thought I had met that Prince in you however those Charms and Graces that first touched my heart have lost none of their priviledge because they were not placed in a Monarch though I must freely own I should never have observed them in an ordinary person neither my Birth
nor my Spirit would have permitted me to consider whom I had not thought a Prince but my own Error become dear to me and is still so however fatal it proves to my peace the very Name of Husband is so sacred to a Woman truly vertuous that it obliterates any shame or disgrace that accompanys it Therfore try to overcome your Illness my dear Prince Pardon the name Fortune said She lifting up her Hands and Eyes towards Heaven might have given it where she gave you me Rescue your self then if possible from the Arms of Death it may be I may find you a happiness more calm and glorious than what is afforded you in Portugal Xerin having said thus much kissed and embraced him very tenderly But his Spirits being wasted with Grief and hard Usage he was with the excess of this Female Generosity so moved that his Voice could not find an utterance to proclaim the praises due to good a Wife And being no longer able to suffer the Transports of so Transcendent a love as She expressed towards him He fainted away in those beauteous Arms that embraced him and sighed out his Soul whilst hers had much ado to stay behind Had She not left a hopeful Young Pledge of their Loves behind her in Affrica as being delivered of a son before She came to Portugal and now whether this was an Impostor or the true Sebastian since many have doubted we will not determine but only present this as a rare Example of Love and Constancy Xantippe Wife to Socrates the Philosopher a Woman of a violent turbulent disposition To live with whom he had need of the great patience wherewith he was endued And being asked by Alcibiades if he could bear her perpetual Clamour He said It was a kindness to him because it inured him to bear all the other Evils attending oâ— humane Life One Morning after She had given him a jumper Lecture getting from her he seating himself on a Sunny Bank under the Window and as he was reading Philosophy She not thinking She had her fill of scolding at him resolved to urge him yet further by swilling him from a Lost with a Piss-pot at which Indignity the good Man only said That he always after Thunder expected a Shower A rare Example of Patience for Husbands that have scolding Wives Xerin A Moorish Princess said to draw Don Sebastian King of Portugal from among the heaps of the slain when he and his Army fell at the Battel of Alcazer in Affrica and after having refreshed him and healed his Wounds marryed him of which Passages see more Xanthe of a Yellow Complexion Xenophila She that loves Strangers Xantippe Hieronymo writ a Book against Jovinian in which he copiously discourses of the praise of Virginity reckoning a Catalogue of divers famous and and renowned in that kind amongst sundry Nations He speaks of Socrates who having two curst Queans and both at once for the Law of Athens did allow duplicity of Wives could endure their Scoldings and Contumacy with such constancy and patience for having Zantippe and Mirho the daughters of Aristides the house was never without brawling One Euthidemus coming from the wrastling place and Socrates meeting him by chance compelled him to supper and being sat at board and in sad and serious discourse Zantippe spake many bitter and railing Words of disgrace and contumely against her Husband but he nothing moved therewith nor making her the least Answer She tipped up the Table and flung down all that was upon it But when Euthidemus being therewith much moved arose to be gone and instantly depart Why what harm is there quoth Socrates Did not the same thing chance at your House when I dined with you the last day when a cackling Hen cast down such things as were upon the Board yet we your guests notwithstanding left not your House unmannerly Another time in the Market She snatching his Cloak from his back the standers by persuaded him to beat her but he replied So whilst she and I be tugging together you may stand by laughing and cry O well done Zantippe O well done Socrates Another time She with her much loquacity had made him weary of the house therefore he sate him down upon the bench before the street-door but She at his patience being the more impatient and much more angry because She was not able to move in him the least Anger She mounts up in a Garret Window and from thence pours a full Piss-pot upon his head Such as came by extreamly moved as much in derision of his person as at the suddenness of the Action he took up a laughter as high and as loud as the best expresssing no more Anger than in these words Nay I thought verily in my mind and could â—ably judge by the weather that after so great a Thunder we must necessarily have Rain Y Youth Proâ—e to Desire and Passions How they ought to proceed therein and distinguish them aright Young people in the Spring tide of Blood Strength and Vigour have not always an absolute command over their Desires but are many times carryed away too violently with the stream of Love-Passion There is no Precept commands that Application over the mind as the power of Love it draws the Affections by a kind of sweetness whereas Rules do it by distortion sometimes it 's like Circes Wand sometimes like Mercuries Cadâ—eens sometimes it corrupts and at other times makes chaste Beauty commonly as it is either â—ounded or apprehended is the Object of that fancy which proves like a Gorgon which whilst men admire it dazles and blinds their Eyes of Understanding which causes the Lover to extol the Vertues of the party loved many times so far above truth Vertue it self indeed is fair which made one say That is if it could be seen in a proper shape it would appear so Angelical and divinely Beautiful that all would love and admire it Love indeed is the strongest of the Passions but often found in the weakest minds whose Breasts not sortified by the strength of Counsels Such amorous Conceits have the easier Access to Every Soul is imprinted with the Character of this Desire which being turned from the love of the Creatures to Piety it becomes Divinity It makes all things seem pleasant and therefore some have advis'd That we should not be without a strong Affection Glances and Gestures do often procure Affection whether it be by strengthening the immagination or not we do not undertake to determine It is most fervent when most opposed nor is it without a Mystery in nature The secret attracting of Affections between particulars without any knowledge or apprehension of their conditions for there are certain Vertues that want a Name which is the cause some can hardly give a reason of their Love It is prevalent sometimes in the wisest of either Sex which shews it has a proximity with good Youth is most subject to those Inclinations which shews That it is for the
most part the child of Vanity whilst he is steep'd in his Affections it becometh like a Dew that falls in the Morning of Youth when he is scarce got out of the Night of his Ignorance and is expelled by the rising Sun of his knowledge and it is found That Young are Amorous the Middle Aged Affectionate and those of Elder Years run into the Follies of Dotage when Natures Fires are quenched in them and only Ice and Snow of chillness and impotency being about them Such as those are like Gamesters That have lost all at play yet keep a sumbling with the Box and hinder others that have Lustly Betts to lay Love indeed carrys a kind of an impotency in it's effects sealing up our Lips that we cannot speak our mind though fain we wou'd our words heave upward for vent but cannot get a passage We might have the Object of our desires perhaps for speaking for yet are ashamed or fearful to ask for what we so much covet which caused one to admonish his Friend in such a condition to take more courage and boldly let the Fair One know for what he languished in these lines Ask Lover e're thou dyest let one poor Breath Steal from thy Lips to tell her of thy Death Doating Idolater can silence bring Thy Saint Propitious or will Cupid fling One Arrow For thy paleness leave to try This silent courtship of a Languid Eye Witty to Tyranny she too well knows This but the incense of thy private Vows That breaks forth at thine eyes and doth betray The Sacrifice thy wounded heart wou'd pay Ask her Fool ask her if words cannot move The Language of thy Tears may make her Love Let them flow nimbly then and when they fall Vpon her Breast warm Snow O may they all By some strange Fate fixâ— there distinctly lye Love Characters before her reading Eye When if you win her not it may appear You try'd your Lot and lost her not through fear But now we come to give some cautions as to trust and distrust in these Affairs both of them being very necessary as the occasion may require It cannot be denyed but the latest Rule to trust to not to be deceived is to prefer distaste before too much credulity As for instance a Religious Suspition is a good Antidote against the Poyson of Vice which still the Devil instills into the hearts of Men with a deceitful pleasure putting an Imposture upon their Understanding So a dissembling Lover dresses up his words in the most beautiful Forms covering his Hippocracy and Dissimulation with guilded Promises to gain Credit and Belief that he may the better deceive And therefore such Ladies as would avoid being taken in a Snare must have a generous distrust till they are very well assured how they may trust They must joyn to the Innocency of the Dove and the Wisdom of the Serpent and not think every shining thing to be real and no counterfeit It 's the stile of Pollicy to distrust whereby probability of Appearance it may give security But to let everything receive our own Additions which are formed in the weak moddel of a doubtful Fancy distracts Judgment and though these that are most sensible of their own Imperfections will soonest expect deficiencies from others yet it is safe to think there is somewhat lyes hid which he doth not apprehend for it collects the Understanding and admits not of any thing without due Examination for many through want of venting the Extasies of their minds have become pale disturb'd and envious even with themselves which have put the whole Frame of their composition out of joynt And for this reason we may well decline from too much trust in others when it is not always safe to trust your own heart The heart of man is deceitful which like a Magick Glass represents the Form of things which are not Therefore first proceed from a knowledge and caution to your self to that of others so it may prove a wholsome Exorsâ—ne least you might swell too great in Self Esteem The Flatterer composeth the Moddel of your own Desires your self being the Archirype thereof first Therefore let them be viewed in Reasons Light and the other as things imperfectly mixed and obscured Machiavell has done well to acquaint the World with the common practice of men for it induces Vigilance to fair seeming Actions and Gestures pretending to Love and Amity when they are perhaps but painted Dissimulations for some Men will give you the smoothness of their countenance to be taken hold of whilst they are studying Evasion by the slipperiness of their Fancy A fairer look than ordinary toward a Spaniard puts him in a present suspition of his own safe inâ—iâ—uations of Love and Amity are many times very dangerous Symptoms of a persidious disposition and in other matters we see it an ordinary thing for one man to build his fortune out of the â—uinâ—s of another We see the manner of Natures production of things how commonly the corruption of one thing is the generation of another and how many have generated their own Fortunes Note That where there is too great a facility of believing there is also a willingness of deceiving and although Belief carrys with it a colour of innocency yet distrusâ— sâ—â—â—l carrys strength of safety You can never be too sure for if there be no danger it 's good to be armed against it least it may so fall at another being rendered thereby â—upine and secure or careless you may be surprized What commendation can that General expect who having notice from his own Scouts that the Enemy is at hand will not believe it or put his Army in a posture to receive them though at present he sees them not and if it should be a false Alarum yet he shews good Conduct that is always ready provided if the worst should fall out Love indeed makes many Alarums and false Attacks to Amuze Lovers but it is with a design to carry the Fort by storm if it cannot be gain'd by Parley But a Description of Counterfeit and true Love take in these following Lines Mark when the Evenings câ—â—â—er Wings Fann the Afflicted Air How the faint Sun Leaving undone What be begun The Spuâ—ious Flames sucâ—â—t up from Sliâ—e and Earth To their first low birth Resigns and brings They shoot their Tinsil Beams and Vanities Threading with those false Fires thâ—â— may But â—â—â— you stay And see them stray You loose the Flaming Track and subtil they Languish away And cheat your Eyes Just so baâ—e a sublâ—niar Lovers Heart Feeds on loose prophane Desire May for an Eye Or Face comply But those removed they will as soon depart And shew their Art And painted fires Whilst those by powerful Love refin'd The same continuance have of â—â—iss Careless to Miss A Glance or Kiss Can with these Elements of Lust and Sense Freely dispense And court the mind Thus to the North the Loadâ—iones move And thus to them
the Enamour'd Steel Aspires Thus they reâ—pect And do affect And thus by wiâ—ged Beams and mutual Fire Spirits and Stars conspire And this is LOVE By this you may see the well known Proverb is verified That all is not Gold that glisters A Lady if she be not vey cautious may be deceived and cheated with the fairest Pretences Vows and all the Languishing Expression with some are only as so many Traps and Snares laid to entangle them and when she is fastened and more secured by strugling to get free then by a too late Repentance she sees that all she took for real Affection was only false and feigned But too late Repentance seldom avails Therefore it is convenient to be very wary and cautious whilst she is free Young Mans Choice made how to gain their Mistresses Youth it adorned with comeliness and good parts naturally taking with the Fair Sex but they stand so nicely upon their prerogative of being courted and sought to with obliging carriage and humble Submission that though they could willingly condescend to meet you half way yet will not bate an Ace of their starchedness and therefore you must take all opportunities that are convenient to discover your Affection to her for as there is no person so unlovely but thinks her self worthy to be beloved So is there a natural inclination in Love to beget Love and unless in some particular Exceptions seldom altogether fails If not so much kindness be procured yet at least so much commiseration as gives an appitite to condescension especially where Love is recommended with such becoming importunity as will admit of no denyal when Rhetorick is not strained by unfit or Extravagant Expressions but such words flow from your Lipâ— as seem only to be dictated by Affection wherein the heart has the greatest and the wit no other share than to give them a moving pronunciation wherein such constancy must be observed as may give the sublimest Evidence of your passionate and languishing desires for Women being very 〈◊〉 that this is that wherein their strength lyeth and that they have no likelihood of ever having such advantage as when the Life and Death of you depend upon their smiles or frowns or take pleasure in letting you see they are not so easie to be won and will try many ways to fret and disturb you that they may prove what humour you are of and how you can bear such usage Therefore finding your Mistress thus bent it behoves you to summon all your Patience that nothing unruly uneasie or extravagant may appear to give her disgust and lessen her opinion of you though she keep you long in doubts and fears and makes as many windings and doublings as a Hair to try whether you will loose the Scent and give over the Pursuit but in this you have new hopes for when she comes to such often shifting be assured that Love has almost run her down and she cannot hold out much longer Some indeed have a Pride to be Wooed and after long Service and attendance the poor Lover almost heart-broke and out of hope sneaks which gives her cause to Triumph as thinking she can never better revenge the injuries done to her Sex by Men than in such disgraces for she will not have this treasured up in the dark but glories that the World is a Witness of the defeaâ—â— she gives when in the midst of all your gallantry and cost bestowed you are routed Horse and Foot by a Fair Enemy that gives you no other reason why she is so cruelly severe but becuse she will be so though in the end perhaps she is foiled herself by some unexpected Arrows sent from cupids Quiver to let her know she is subject to his Empire You must therefore in such cases deal with those sort as Stalkers do with bold Partridges give them time till they may be brought about again For those that are of this humour have a certain inconstancy attending them that will weather-cock them about though they stand to the colâ— North to day the point may alter to the warm South tomorrow you must not in your Love be too close handed nor too extravagant but present as you see opportunity what you think most takeing and agreeable with her humour perhaps she will reâ—use it if it be of any considerable value because she will not have as yet such a ponderous Obligation laid on her yet it will make an impression in her mind and induce her to believe your Love is Cordial when she sees you not only sacrifice words that cost you nothing but those things that are dear and precious to you If she takes then the Obligation is Incumbent on her part to make you some suitable return and if she puts you to your choice we may easily tell without consulting the Stars that you will ask her Love and that being gained her self follows and then you have your Presents into the bargin how rich and valuable soever they were and pray where then is the loss in all this These Presents during your Courtship will be frequently obvious to her and become the opportunest Orators in your behalf and for this cause your costly treats must be of little use that are almost forgotten as soon as the taste is off the pallate though some of them spend more than would purchase considerable Presents that are lasting Obligations Privacy in Courtship if it may be obtained always wins the happiest moments of your advantage for the Fair one though she may seem impatient of such a retirement and urge her same may suffer by it Yet she will even when she pretends to be disturbed listen with a kind of a pleased attention there can be but a few found who are not proud of Adulation You must however consider after all this not to behave your selves unmanly or unseemly If Cupid comes not timely to your aid and compells by his uncontrol'd prerogative the stubborn fair one to yield to the accomplishment of your desires but make as fair a retreat as stands best with your Reputation avoiding in any degree to cast Reflections on her whom you have loved for that will not only betray your weakness but an imputation of Malice will be assigned by the Censorious who will apply the Fable of the Fox and the Grapes properly to your circumstance It is more noble to let the World see that you had integrity in your intentions and were rather unfortunate than base that your Love was pure though at last killed by disdain and that you patiently bare her scorns and frowns with a fortitude becoming a generous Lover though you diserved them not which will redound to your pâ—â—â— and perhaps another as amiable as she taking pitty upon your wrongs and sufferings may be induced thereby to be more kind Yet laying aside the supposal of your being rejected and your obtaining what you desire yet seem not extravagantly overjoyed for that betrays a weakness and unsteadfastness of
those things that more immediately concern our selves but with great care and restraint in those that concern others Remember always that Zeal is something proceeding from Divine Love when true And that it therefore must contradict no Action of Love Love to God includes love to our Neighbour and therefore no pretence of Zeal for God's Glory must make us uncharitable to one another zeal in the insâ—ances of our own Duty and personal Deporâ—ment is more safe than in matters of Counsel and Actions besides our just Duty â—â—nding towards the perfection it mains is beholding to Zeal for helping it to move more swiftly but where Zeal is unwary it creates trouble and sometimes danger as in case it be spent in too forward Vows of Chastity and restraints of natural Innocent Liberties but let Zeal be as devout as it will as seraphical as it will in the direct Address and intercourse with God there is no danger in it do all the parts of your Duty as earnestly as if all the Salvation of Mankind the Confusion of the Devils and all you hope or desire did depend upon every one Action Let Zeal be seated in the will and Choice and regulated with prudence and a sober Understanding not in the Phancies and Affections for they will render it only full of Noise and Empty of profit when the other will take it deep and smooth material and devout that Zeal to be sure is safe and acceptable which directly encreases Charity Let your Zeal if it must be Expressed in Anger be always more severe against your self than against others which will distinguish it from Malice and Prejudice Zenobia Wife to 〈◊〉 miâ—tus the Iberian King her Husband being forced by Tâ—idates King of Armenia to fly his Country she accompanied him though great with Child thorough Woods and Desarts but finding her self unable to endure the Fattigue longer she entreated him to kill her that she might not fall into the Hands of the Enemy and be made a Captive which along while he deferred but seeing her Faint and Languish he run his Sword into her Body and thinking she had been Dead left her but being found by some Shepherds she was carryed to the City of Artaxates and there cured of her Wound and her Quality afterward being known Tiridatesse â—â—â—t for her and treated her very kindly praising her for the Love and Constancy she boâ—e towards her Husband and for her sake caused him to be fought out and restoreâ— to his Kingdom Zoe Daughter to Constantine the Younger she was given in the Marriage to Romanus the third Emperor but not capable of satisfying her Desires she got him privately strangled and Marryed Michael Paplilagon to whom for his Hâ—ndsomness and Proportion of body she took a Main Fancy to as working She see him in his Shop working at the Golâ—-Smiths Trade of which Prosession he was But he being weak in Mind though strong of Body committed the Affairs of the Empire to his Brother John who was more stirring and Active and he working upon his weak Temper at last perswaded him to turn Monk which he had no sooner done but the Lustful Empress to cool her Heat was Cloystered in a Monastery and John Proclaimed Emperour in the East FINIS Rules for the Beautiful The best use to be made of Beauty Beauty not to be beholding to Art Beauty blindeth Justice Beautieâ— description Body Lean how to make â—t Plump and Fat Bodies unequally thriving The Remedy The praise of Histories The forbidding of idle Books makes young People more curious to read them What is necessary in Bâ—haviour Câ—â—seâ— of Company Rules for Good Behaviour A Caution for writing of Letters Not to entertain any familiarity with Serving Men. Not too much to affect to be seen in publick Too much privacy in some cases dangerous The love of a Wife toward her Husband The duty oâ— Children 〈◊〉 their Parents Laws for a Reconcile the Man and the Wife Miseries and Thornes in marriage Beauty maketh a Woman suspected Deformitty hated and Riches Proud Gen. 1.27 Prov. 31.11 23. Gal. 3.28 Care to be taken as to Waking Sleeping Repose Exercise Care taken to prevent Passions perturbations in the Mind Enemys to Beauty Care to be had in Meats and Drinks in relation to Beauty Physical Aâ—â—â—plications 〈◊〉 preserve Beauty Care of the Body's good Digestion Twins the Sâ—mptoms False Conceptions hard to discover Alber. Maâ—â—de mulieâ— fort Revel 14. â—ob 31.1 Chastity it 's Excellence â—n Men and Woman Chasâ—â—◠〈◊〉 c. Chastâ—â—â— Rules 〈◊〉 be obsâ—â—â—ed 〈◊〉 by â—â—â—â—ried Peâ—â—sons 〈◊〉 Matriâ—â—nial Câ—â—stity Gallen Dr. Reynolds in her life relates that she and her Child were buryed together 1 Kings 22. Divorce a Copy as it was among the Jews Dâ—uryâ— among the Jews the manner of it Dunmows Bacon an Encouragement to happy Marriage Her Speech to her Army Eloquence improved by Reading of Books c. Ambr. Ev. 70. The like Mortification appear'd in that Virgin Eugenia during the Confiscate of Eleutherius Suct Faces disfigured with wrinkles how to smooth Faces Eyes other parts Attracting Love Face chap's how to make smooth Faces burnt 〈◊〉 Scalded â— Remedy Fore-head how to beautifie Fate how to Beautifie though dis-figured Fame dangerous to Reputation Jealousie more particularly considered Jealousie an Enemy to a married Life Jealousie sundry ways prescribed to prevent its bad Effects Jealousie its Cause and many things considered therein conducing to it's Remedy Jealousie its Cure and the circumstances attending it Kissing an Incitation to Love also Coyness c. Kindness to Children and their Education c. Keeping House in so doing what is to be considered as to Servants Keeping House the expences considered Loves Original Object Division Definitions Loves pleasure Objects Love its honest Objects Love which Charity commands is composed of Three kinds viz. Honesty Profit and Pleasure Love 〈◊〉 its Original Power and extent Loves Power and Tyrannical sway further described Love inciting to sundry Accomplishmets Love makes men valiant Love causes Gentility Love occasions neatness in Apparel Love makes Men and Women Poets Love a Poem on it Love Enquiries or Questions A story of a wise Woman Love the Founder of Arts and Orders Love the Author of Court and Country Sports and Pastimes Loves force and Mystery Love Melancholly cured by enjoying the desired Object Love Queries Resolved on sundry occasions Love brief Instruction for the Guidance of Ladies Phancies therein Love its uncontroulable Power and Force Love Examples Love of Wives to Husbands Love of Parents to their Children Love and Reverence of Children to Parents Love of Husbands to Wives Liberty desirable more than Life Cure of Love by Exercise Care of Love by Diet. Care of Love by hard Lodging Cure by herbs Physick c. Caution in Case the party be far spent Melancholy it's Symptoms Comparison between a Lover and a Souldier Marriage State further considered c. Marriage Promises and Contracts in what Cases they are binding and what not Advice about Marriage c. Particular and General considerations and what may be considered in Jealous Persons who have some colour for it Perswasion a Remedy for Love Patience in Example Perfumes for Gloves Cloths c. Pride to be 〈◊〉 with more particular arguments against it Pride the Vanity of it considering no mortal state change of things and uncertainty of life Partial censureâ— Reproved and Confuted Songs and gay Cloaths tempting Spots of deformity of any kind on the body removed Spots Inflamation blood-shot and yellowness in the eys Service relating to a Chamber Maid and what she is to take notice of c. Service relating to the Cook Maid or her Office c. Service reâ—â—â—ing to a 〈◊〉 Maid Service relating to the Dary Hâ—â—semaids under Coâ—k maids and Scullâ—â—y maids * Virgin her Blushes the Cause and Comliness Wedlock its â—onourable Estate c. Young Mans choice of a good Wife as to Birth and a good Name Young Mans choice as to her Religion and Beauty Young Mans Choice as to Portion and Friends