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Advice to young gentlemen, in their several conditions of life· By way of address from a father to his children. By the Abbot Goussault, counseller in Parliament. With his sentiments and maxims upon what passes in civil society. Printed at Paris 1697, and translated into English.; Conseils d'un père à ses enfans sur les divers états de la vie. English
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Goussault, Jacques.
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you have you will make an Enemy if you break with him without his giving any just occasion so likewise you are deceiv'd in your choice but it is better to suffer a little from your own imprudence than to expose your self to the indiscretion and revenge of one who thinks himself despis'd and injur'd Put on a good Countenance and contain your self as much as you can and do not in one moment in the face of the World give the Lie to all that you have said and done in Ten Years XII In a matter of Friendship do not move faster than he you intend to make your Friend he pleases you he is of your Humour and he seems to have all the qualities necessary of a good and prudent Friend but perhaps he has not the same respect for you perhaps he has not the same Opinion of you that you have of him Do not you still go forward let him come part of the way to meet you do not presently throw your self in his Bosom you must know him before you esteem him and if you do not esteem him you cannot love him XIII It is better you should be accused of indifferency when you have no Friends at all than of inconstancy and ingratitude for quitting them In case you be reproach'd with indifferency that will procure you quiet of Mind which will not disturb you but inconstancy and ingratitude which you will be charged with in case you be given to change will make you lose your Reputation and that once lost you will have no joy in your life XIV We are all weak and subject to imperfections and if you have not the indulgence to pardon your Friends and they the same to pardon you your Friendship will last no longer than it can serve both your Interests and both find your account and when you break with your Friends your Tongue only will make known what you had concealed a long time in your Heart XV. A Man that tells you he is your Friend his Word ought not to be taken nor ought he to take yours when you tell him the same both the one and the other ought to give Proofs of what they say nothing can give greater assurance that two Men are Friends than when experience makes them mutually acknowledge it XVI Before you resolve to make a Friend of him for whom you have an esteem think of it a long time lest you should be mistaken I should not blame you if you should think of it all the days of your life XVII We are all so cunning in disguising our selves and our care and industry finds out such means to appear what we are not so that an Acquaintance of some Weeks or Months cannot easily give a just and true Idea of what a Man is we suffer our selves to be prevented an obliging word any small favour done with a good grace oftentimes carries us too far and most commonly we repent not 'till it be too late XVIII Nature leads us into Society and Company but it is Reason that leads us to Friendship the esteem that we have for a Man of Merit makes us seek and desire his Acquaintance and if he do the same to us the reciprocal Consideration begets a Conversation between us which at first was but an outward Profession of mutual kindness which afterwards becomes cordial and full of Affection and that which is called Friendship XIX Friendship and Love do differ much in this that Love is passionate and inconstant carrying things to extremity for some moments and at other times loses all its Force and Zeal but Friendship is always regular constant and equal XX. As soon as we possess what Love desires our Love grows less and abates of its force and ardour and on the contrary the Enjoyments of what we love by Friendship makes it augment and gives it a new value and new force XXI That which is ordinarily called Friendship ought rather to be called Acquaintance which is contracted by the like Employments or the like Diversions Such Friends as these to speak truly of them are such as see one another often without ever having more sincerity for one another more confidence or more openness of Heart XXII With your Friends go always with Bridle in hand that is to say use great Prudence and Caution with those whom the World or they themselves would make your Friends these manner of Friendships are never so well linkt together but that they may be easily broken therefore it is good that you take such measures with them as if you foresaw that there would infallibly be a rupture XXIII You will find Men enough who will call themselves your Friends it will be a pleasure to some and to others an Honour but will you find any that will be truly your Friends and in effect can you find them espousing your Interest as their own and will they not upon some accounts be upon the reserve with you you may have done them some Service upon some occasions and they may have done you some upon others these are no great Proofs of Friendship the Laws of civil Society does it not oblige us to do some good Offices of this nature to all sorts of Persons And where is there an Honest Man that does not take pleasure to do them when Occasion presents it self especially when it costs him little XXIV In Friendships that are thought the most strict and the most solid every one uses to consider himself first and in obliging his Friend he always sees his own Interest be it Profit Pleasure or Honour he almost always finds himself in the way to gain some of them to himself when he goes to do Service to others all that he does so for his Friends he does for himself and he does but lend them that which he flatters himself they will return to him with Usury Take just measures upon this and be not surpriz'd XXV If you ask me in what consists the pleasure of a true Friendship I will answer that it consists in seeeing and entertaining one another often in giving reciprocal marks of Esteem and Affection and in agreeing in their Opinions and Sentiments I will tell you that I think that of all these Demonstrations of Friendship which the Heart expresses by the Tongue by the Eyes and by a Thousand other pleasing Signs there is form'd as it were a Furnace in the which the Souls that love thus melt themselves together and become but one Soul XXVI Far from this is the friendship of the World by which a Man is ashamed not to be debaucht with a Friend that is so and not to be quarrelsome and passionate with those that take pride in being so far from this Friendship that I commend is that which carries us to commit a Crime that we may be complaisant to our Friends and not anger them by our too much discretion and modesty far from this is the Friendship of Libertines that is established in the ruine of Virtue and on a shameful and Criminal Debauchery XXVII For my own part I do not believe there can be any true Friendship but between those that are united by Charity they have the same Aims the same-Ends the same Motives that is it which makes St. Augustin say That happy are they that love their Friend in God and their Enemies for the love of God FINIS BOOKS Printed for and Sold by Tho. 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