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ground_n	good_a	see_v	word_n	1,813	5	4.0812	3	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A40384	The government of a wife, or, Wholsom and pleasant advice for married men in a letter to a friend / written in Portuguese, by Don Francisco Manuel ; with some additions of the translator, distinguished from the translation ; there is also added, a letter upon the same subject, written in Spanish by Don Antonio de Guevara, Bishop of Mondoñedo ... ; translated into English by Capt. John Stevens.; Carta de guia de casados. English	Mello, Francisco Manuel de, 1608-1666.; Guevara, Antonio de, Bp., d. 1545?; Stevens, John, d. 1726.	1697 (1697)	Wing F2062; ESTC R17060	99,081	268

time to look about him The least Delays are of dangerous consequence an immediate Cure must be applied he must cut off that Conversation before it take Root she must be held back before she is quite lost Where the Devil finds a hot but indiscreet Zeal he blows it into a Flame till it consume it self The Bellows he makes use of are those Canting false Prophets who pretending to the Word of God have no other Sound but the Voice of Hell These are the Idols some VVomen adore to them they make their Offerings and if not prevented to them they fall down them at first they make the Keepers of their Wealth and at last of their Honour These are the Thieves who rob Families insensibly of their Wealth the Enemies who sow the Tares of Sedition between Married People while they sleep and the false Lights that misguide frail Vertue till it tumbles headlong into the Precipice of Vice As these Vipers are to be excluded the House so must a Woman wholly be debarred frequenting their Sermons hearing their Doctrine or being seen in their Congregations It is enough she be allowed her Parish or those Churches where most Decency is observed that she frequent them on the proper Days at most seasonable Hours that she go with modest Company that at other times she pray in her Closet Let her not go thro' the Church as if she were at a Play not go to see and endeavour to be seen not take much Greatness upon her since in the sight of God the meanest is as acceptable as the greatest not Pray aloud not crowd to be the first out nor stay the last Some Men indiscreetly fly from one Extream into another because there is danger in Hypocrisy they hate all that looks like Devotion because there are Pharisees they can endure no Church-men If one enters the House some leave them with their Wives pretend Business and fly their Company others indeed will stay but grow uneasy afford not a pleasing Look nor obliging Word Honour should oblige them to stay good Manners to be civil Church-men are to be treated with respect it is better not admit then once admitted not to shew them a good Countenance To speak the truth I am much of the opinion of one that used to say He had a great respect for Church-men therefore if they were bad he would not encourage them to be worse and if good would not give them an opportunity of being bad in his House Another more nicely said They were only good in four places at the Altar in the Pulpit and in the Confession-Seat and being asked a fourth Answered a Picture A Wife ought always to be Dressed neat and decently in the House her Servants should never see her in any unbecoming Garb. As she is obliged to endeavour to please none in the World but her Husband so she should always appear to him as if all the World saw her There is no necessity a VVoman should always be set out in the House in all the Formalities of a strict Dress conveniency and ease has found out what is called Undresses as Decent as Becoming and as Modest Some are no sooner Married but they grow careless either through Affectation or natural Laziness They all use the same Plea to wit That they are Married The same Arts they used to gain a Husband the same they ought to use to preserve him Yet VVomen would all appear like Angels abroad and value not many of them how like Devils they look at home They will be seen Gay and Glorious by those they pretend not to regard and be always Discomposed and Loathsom in the Eyes of him they ought alone to oblige Nor does it end here they will receive Visits and expose themselves in that unseemly manner to the Eyes of their Friends or those who only pretend to be so This is a contempt of the Person received and a great lessening of her that receives the Visit To appear in a disagreeable Garb to the Husband breeds Distaste to be seen so by Strangers produces Contempt To this purpose a Courtier being invited by a Friend and ill treated ingeniously said to him I thought we had not been such intimate Friends Some Men there are who proud of their Wives Ablilities or Beauty make them the common Subject of their Discourse and take all opportunities to shew Them and their Perfections This looks as if they exposed them to Sale and is exposing their Vertue to be tryed for the more Beautiful the more Charming a Woman is the more others as well as the Husband will affect her and the more he makes her Publick the less worthy of her will she and they believe him I do not pretend he should not be free and easy with his Friends that he should not Entertain them in his own and be Entertained in their Houses that he should hide his Wife and be afraid of every body that sees her either Excess is equally bad his House must neither be a Goal to her nor a Publick Place of Entertainment for all the World it is fit she grace his Table when he invites his Friends and familiar Acquaintance not that she be made the Discourse of his wild and extravagant Companions It is the Duty of the Wife to see all things be in good order that nothing be wanting to be pleased and easy with her Husband's Guests and to know without being bid to withdraw if requisite and when to stay if convenient Her Behaviour will produce respect if good and all that see it will look upon her as we do upon things Holy at a distance without presuming to approach I cannot forbear speaking one word of a certain sort of Matrons who right or wrong will wear the Breeches and be absolute within doors these ground their Pretensions to that usurped Power on being very Vertuous very Wise or of very great Birth and sometimes when the Husbands are Mild good Natur'd or Loose Livers they compass it without alledging any of those Titles If once the Husband discovers any such Design in his Wife let him look narrowly to her for if once she gets the upper hand of him she will never give over till he entirely becomes her Slave I knew one who finding his Wife upon these Terms said to her Madam I will carry you home to your Father and then will take a course at Law with him to recover my Wife and she asking of him Why he said so he answered Because you are not my Wife but my Husband An ingenious and pleasant Married-man used to tell me It was impossible but Women would command their Husbands but that all a good Man could do was to endeavour it should be as late as possible For my part I can no way allow it should ever come to pass no Man of sence will allow of it and no Woman that loves her Husband desires it I have not yet spoke of the Management of Houshold Affairs and they