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A17384	A commentary: or, sermons vpon the second chapter of the first epistle of Saint Peter vvherein method, sense, doctrine, and vse, is, with great variety of matter, profitably handled; and sundry heads of diuinity largely discussed. By Nicholas Byfield, late preacher of God's Word at Isle-worth in Middlesex.	Byfield, Nicholas, 1579-1622.; Gouge, William, 1578-1653.	1623 (1623)	STC 4211; ESTC S107078	497,216	958

to bee built vp without distraction in the main things needfull for his saluation and is not carried to spend his time most about vnnecessary or impertinent cares or studies 1. Tim. 4.2.7.8 Seuenthly when a man is as carefull to serue God in prosperity as well as aduersity Iob 27.9 Eightly when a man delights in the Almighmighty and loues all the means by which he findeth any communion with God Iob 29.9 Ninthly when a man from the hatred of hypocrisie is stirred vp against hypocrites cannot abide them nor will conuerse with them Iob 17. verse 8. Lastly Iob comforts himselfe that hee was no hypocrite by three arguments 1. He would trust in God though hee did slay him 2. Hee would reprooue his waies in Gods sight 3. He sought Gods presence and set himself alwaies before him none of which an hypocrite could doo Iob 13.15.16 Thus much of Hypocrisie Enuy. The fourth sin to be auoided is Enuy. Enuy is nothing else but a vexation or inward displeasure conceiued at the good of another viz. either anothers credit gifts preferment profit successe or the like This sinne though in the world it bee little thought of yet in it self is a most fearfull vice and should be so accounted of by christians for many reasons First if we consider the subiect persons in whom it vsually is It is found most in naturall men Tit. 3.3 yea in silly men Iob 5.2 This was the sinne of Cain Gen. 4 yea of the diuell himself The main sin of the diuell was the enuy of mans happinesse It raigned in the diuelish Gentiles Rom. 1.29 Secondly if we con●ider the cause of it it is for the most part the daughter of pride Galat. 5.26 sometimes of couetousnes Pro. 28.22 and often of some egregious vile transgression such as in Rom. 1.29 but euer it is the filthy fruit of the flesh Gal. 5.25 Thirdly if wee consider the vile effects of it which are many for 1. It hath done many mischiefs for which it is infamous It sould Ioseph into Egypt Genes 37 and which should euer make it abhorred of vs it kild the Son of God Mat. 27.8 2. It deforms our natures it makes a man suspicious malitious contentious it makes vs to prouoke backbite and practise euill against our neighbours It is ill for our sight for the enuious man hath alwaies an euill eye and a cast-down countenance with Cain also many times 3. It begins euen death and hell while a man is aliue It kils the silly one Iob 5.2 It destroieth the contentment of his life and burns him with a kinde of fire vnquenchable It feeds vpon the enuious man like the moth or worm by degrees and it hasteneth mischief in the enuious man because it makes the person enuied more glorious and besides it is a vice that driueth a man from among men in respect of comfortable society for it was long since aduised Eat not the bread of him that hath an euill eye Pro. 23.6 and no man by his good will if he can be free wil conuerse with such as he perceiues to be enuious Fourthly this place manifestly imports that it is a notable hindrance to the profit of the word and so no doubt it is to praier and all piety as euidently it is a let of charity vnlesse it bee that men in hypocrisie to disgrace others will for enuy doo some good as they preacht Christ for enuy in the Apostles time Phil. 1.15 Vses The vse should be threefold First for instruction to teach vs to follow the aduice heer giuen in putting away Enuy and clensing our hearts of it and to this end think much of the reasons against it and withall remember by confession godly sorrow to clense thy heart carefully of it For those things help wonderfully in the putting of it away Secondly this may serue for great reproof of many that professe the fear of God who daily shame themselues by discouering this vice in themselues This was it the Apostle complained of in the Corinthians and shewed that it is a vice which not onely houlds down a Christian from growing but it makes him look like a carnall man 1. Cor. 3.3 Thirdly for consolation if we finde our selues freed from this vice And wee may knowe that we are not enuious 1. If we loue the good things in others and can rejoice in their prosperity and mourn for their miseries 2. If we be vile in our owne eies and lowly minded 3. If wee enjoy contentation in our owne estate and are well pleased to bee that which GOD will haue vs to bee 4. If in giuing honour wee can hartily go one before another Thus much of Enuy. Euill speaking This is the fift sinne to be auoided If we would profit by Gods word wee must look to our owne words c. Euill speaking generally taken comprehends all the faults of the tongue in speaking and so it is true that a man can neuer be soundly profited by the word till he makes conscience of euil words as well as euill works But I think it is taken more restrainedly heer There are many kindes of euill speaking that are to be auoided Lying is euill speaking and it is true that he who is false to man will neuer be true to God But I think Lying is not heer meant Flattering is euill speaking for he that praiseth his friend with a loud voice it shall bee counted to him as a curse It is a curse to be troubled with a flatterer and it is a kinde of cursed speaking To flatter But I think this is not meant heer neither But I think the sinnes heer meant are Backbiting judging slandering and complaining one of another and all bitternesse of speech between man and man These hinder charity and prouoke God and let the growth of piety in the harts and liues of men And therefore these kindes of euill speaking should be detested of Christians and altogether laid aside These sins as they are hatefull in themselues and in the least degree or in any kinde so Euill speaking is made more vile in the aggrauations of it It is euill to speake euill any way or of any But it is much more vile First when we speak euill of the absent that cannot defend them selues Backbiting is a hatefull degree of euill speaking 2. Cor. 12.10 Psal. 140.11 Secondly when wee speake euill of such as God hath humbled or afflicted Leuit. 19.14 Obad. 12. Prou. 26.28 Thirdly when wee shall speake euill of such as are in authoritie Eccles. 10. vlt. Iud. 8. Leuit. 19. Fourthly when we speak euill of the godly especially before the wicked or for things indifferent or without cause Iames 4.9 Rom. 14. Psal. 31.18 or for lesser failings Math. 7 1.2 but especially their good conuersation 1. Pet. 3.16 Fiftly When wee speake euill of our professed friends Psal. 5.6.13 Lament 1.2 Sixtly when wee speak euill of Gods messengers taxing their persons as their cariage especially when they labour