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friend_n	kind_n	mean_v	speak_n	48	3	15.8323	5	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A17310	The anatomy of melancholy vvhat it is. VVith all the kindes, causes, symptomes, prognostickes, and seuerall cures of it. In three maine partitions with their seuerall sections, members, and subsections. Philosophically, medicinally, historically, opened and cut vp. By Democritus Iunior. With a satyricall preface, conducing to the following discourse.	Burton, Robert, 1577-1640.	1621 (1621)	STC 4159; ESTC S122275	978,571	899

of it For those things help wonderfully in the putting of it away Secondly this may serve for great reproofe of many that professe the feare of God who daily shame themselves by discovering this vice in themselves This was it the Apostle complained of in the Corinthians and shewed that it is a vice which not only holds down a Christian from growing but it makes him looke like a carnall man 1 Cor. 3.3 Thirdly for consolation if we finde our selves freed from this vice And we may know that we are not envious 1. If we love the good things in others and can rejoyce in their prosperity and mourne for their miseries 2. If we be vile in our owne eyes and lowly minded 3. If we enjoy contentation in our owne estate and are well pleased to be that which God will have us to be 4. If in giving honour we can heartily goe one before another Thus much of Envy Evill speaking This is the fift sin to be avoided If wee would profit by Gods word wee must looke to our owne words c. Evill speaking generally taken comprehends all the faults of the tongue in speaking and so it is true that a man can never be soundly profited by the word till he makes conscience of evill words as well as evill works But I thinke it is taken more restrainedly here There are many kindes of evill speaking that are to be avoided Lying is evill speaking and it is true that he who is false to man will never be true to God But I thinke Lying is not here meant Flattering is evill speaking for he that praiseth his friend with a loud voice it shall be counted to him as a curse It is a curse to bee troubled with a flatterer and it is a kinde of cursed speaking to flatter But I thinke this is not meant here neither But I thinke the sins here meant are Back-biting judging ●landering and complaining one of another and all bitternesse of speech between man and man These hinder charity and provoke God and let the growth of piety in the hearts and lives of men And therefore these kindes of evill speaking should be detested of Christians and altogether laid aside These sins as they are hatefull in themselves and in the least degree or in any kinde so evill speaking is made more vile in the aggravations of it It is evill to speake evill any way or of any But it is much more vile First when wee speake evill of the absent that cannot defend themselves Back-biting is a hatefull degree of evill speaking 2 Cor. 12.10 Psalme 140.11 Secondly when we speake evill of such as God hath humbled or afflicted Lev. 19.14 Obad. 12. Prov. 16.28 Thirdly when we shall speake evill of such as are in authority Eccl. 10. ult Jud. 8. Lev. 19. Fourthly when we speake evill of the godly especially before the wicked or for things indifferent or without cause Iames 4.9 Rom. 14. Psal. 31. 18. or for lesser failings Mat. 7.1 2. but especially their good conversation 1 Pet. 3.16 Fiftly when wee speake evill of our professed friends Psal. 5.6.13 Lament 1.2 Sixtly when we speake evill of Gods messengers taxing their persons as their cariage especially when they labour and take paines watching over us for our good Ier. 26.8 9. 18.28 Amos 5.10 2 Cor. 3.6.16 1 Tim. 4.10 Ier. ●5 10 1 Cor. 4.3 5. Seventhly when we speake evill of father and mother or such as are neerly knit unto us so it is also monstrous uncomely to see the wife speake evill of the husband or contrariwise Prov. 20.20 Lev. 20.9 Mich. 7.6 Eighthly when we speak evill of godlinesse even of the good way of God calling sweet sowre and good evill Esay 5.20 scorning the Lords day and deriding sanctification and reformation of life 1 Cor. 15.32 33. Acts 19.9 especially when we doe it out of an inward hatred of holy duties Let such take heed of despighting the Spirit of grace Heb. 10.29 Ninthly when men speake evill of God himselfe as doth the swearer and for-swearer the murmurer and such as reason Atheistically against the nature counsels or providence of God Comm. 3 Psal. 73.9 And as evill speaking may be aggravated by the persons against whom so may it be by the maner For if it be evill to speak evill in any fashion then it is much more evill First to raile 1 Cor. 6.10 mouth full of cursing Psalme 10.7 Rom. 3.14 Secondly to complaine in all places for slight occasions or trespasses Thirdly to hide hatred with lying lips Psal. 62.4 Prov. 10.18 Psal. 41.6 Fourthly to goe about to cary tales and slanders Lev. 19. Fiftly to speake evill of others when we are guilty of the same offences our selves or greater Rom. 2.1 2 3. Mat. 7.1 3. Sixtly to reveal● secrets this is slander Prov. 11.13 Neither are men free from this vice or guilt when they are whisperers and doe it secretly and as many doe with charge that they speake not of it againe yet themselves in the very next company will tell it out againe 2 Cor. 12.20 Nor when they joyne with their evill speaking the acknowledgement of their praises of whom they speake For many times their but tends to a greater defamation and by praising them they onely save themselves from blame and intend thereby to inforce their defamation the more Nor is it an extenuation when they revile their inferiors For Masters must not threaten their servants Ephes. 6.9 nor parents must not pr●voke their children to wrath Ephes. 6.4 nor husbands be bitter to their wives Col. 3.9 Nor great men may Lord it over their poore tenants or people Prov. 13.8 Nor men that excell in gifts be masterly in their words to their inferiors in gifts Iames 3.1 Nor when men revile being reviled For this is also prohibited unto Christians 1 Pet. 3.9 There are also many reasons why we should put away evill speaking First from commandement Men are streightly charged by God to refraine their tongues from evill Psal. 34. and not to speake evill one of another James 4.9 to speake evill of no man Tit. 3.1 nor to render reviling for reviling 1 Pet. 3.9 we must blesse and not curse Rom. 12.14 Secondly from the consideration of our owne persons and estates in Christ. We are called to blessing and are the heires of blessing and therefore it is monstrous uncomely for us that are free borne to use such servile and base language 1 Pet. 3.9 Thirdly from example Michael the Archangell when he contended with the devill durst ●●t bring against him any railing accusation Iude 9. The Apostle sheweth their practice herein blesse● Cor. 4.12 When Shemei cursed David and called him a Sonne of Beliall and a bloody man he said Let him curse because the Lord hath said unto him curse David It may be the Lord will looke upon my affliction and the Lord will requite me good for his cursing this day Thus he bore it though he continued cursing