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friend_n	evil_a	mean_v	speak_n	72	3	16.4172	5	false

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A17310	The anatomy of melancholy vvhat it is. VVith all the kindes, causes, symptomes, prognostickes, and seuerall cures of it. In three maine partitions with their seuerall sections, members, and subsections. Philosophically, medicinally, historically, opened and cut vp. By Democritus Iunior. With a satyricall preface, conducing to the following discourse.	Burton, Robert, 1577-1640.	1621 (1621)	STC 4159; ESTC S122275	978,571	899

of it For those things help wonderfully in the putting of it away Secondly this may serve for great reproofe of many that professe the feare of God who daily shame themselves by discovering this vice in themselves This was it the Apostle complained of in the Corinthians and shewed that it is a vice which not only holds down a Christian from growing but it makes him looke like a carnall man 1 Cor. 3.3 Thirdly for consolation if we finde our selves freed from this vice And we may know that we are not envious 1. If we love the good things in others and can rejoyce in their prosperity and mourne for their miseries 2. If we be vile in our owne eyes and lowly minded 3. If we enjoy contentation in our owne estate and are well pleased to be that which God will have us to be 4. If in giving honour we can heartily goe one before another Thus much of Envy Evill speaking This is the fift sin to be avoided If wee would profit by Gods word wee must looke to our owne words c. Evill speaking generally taken comprehends all the faults of the tongue in speaking and so it is true that a man can never be soundly profited by the word till he makes conscience of evill words as well as evill works But I thinke it is taken more restrainedly here There are many kindes of evill speaking that are to be avoided Lying is evill speaking and it is true that he who is false to man will never be true to God But I thinke Lying is not here meant Flattering is evill speaking for he that praiseth his friend with a loud voice it shall be counted to him as a curse It is a curse to bee troubled with a flatterer and it is a kinde of cursed speaking to flatter But I thinke this is not meant here neither But I thinke the sins here meant are Back-biting judging ●landering and complaining one of another and all bitternesse of speech between man and man These hinder charity and provoke God and let the growth of piety in the hearts and lives of men And therefore these kindes of evill speaking should be detested of Christians and altogether laid aside These sins as they are hatefull in themselves and in the least degree or in any kinde so evill speaking is made more vile in the aggravations of it It is evill to speake evill any way or of any But it is much more vile First when wee speake evill of the absent that cannot defend themselves Back-biting is a hatefull degree of evill speaking 2 Cor. 12.10 Psalme 140.11 Secondly when we speake evill of such as God hath humbled or afflicted Lev. 19.14 Obad. 12. Prov. 16.28 Thirdly when we shall speake evill of such as are in authority Eccl. 10. ult Jud. 8. Lev. 19. Fourthly when we speake evill of the godly especially before the wicked or for things indifferent or without cause Iames 4.9 Rom. 14. Psal. 31. 18. or for lesser failings Mat. 7.1 2. but especially their good conversation 1 Pet. 3.16 Fiftly when wee speake evill of our professed friends Psal. 5.6.13 Lament 1.2 Sixtly when we speake evill of Gods messengers taxing their persons as their cariage especially when they labour and take paines watching over us for our good Ier. 26.8 9. 18.28 Amos 5.10 2 Cor. 3.6.16 1 Tim. 4.10 Ier. ●5 10 1 Cor. 4.3 5. Seventhly when we speake evill of father and mother or such as are neerly knit unto us so it is also monstrous uncomely to see the wife speake evill of the husband or contrariwise Prov. 20.20 Lev. 20.9 Mich. 7.6 Eighthly when we speak evill of godlinesse even of the good way of God calling sweet sowre and good evill Esay 5.20 scorning the Lords day and deriding sanctification and reformation of life 1 Cor. 15.32 33. Acts 19.9 especially when we doe it out of an inward hatred of holy duties Let such take heed of despighting the Spirit of grace Heb. 10.29 Ninthly when men speake evill of God himselfe as doth the swearer and for-swearer the murmurer and such as reason Atheistically against the nature counsels or providence of God Comm. 3 Psal. 73.9 And as evill speaking may be aggravated by the persons against whom so may it be by the maner For if it be evill to speak evill in any fashion then it is much more evill First to raile 1 Cor. 6.10 mouth full of cursing Psalme 10.7 Rom. 3.14 Secondly to complaine in all places for slight occasions or trespasses Thirdly to hide hatred with lying lips Psal. 62.4 Prov. 10.18 Psal. 41.6 Fourthly to goe about to cary tales and slanders Lev. 19. Fiftly to speake evill of others when we are guilty of the same offences our selves or greater Rom. 2.1 2 3. Mat. 7.1 3. Sixtly to reveal● secrets this is slander Prov. 11.13 Neither are men free from this vice or guilt when they are whisperers and doe it secretly and as many doe with charge that they speake not of it againe yet themselves in the very next company will tell it out againe 2 Cor. 12.20 Nor when they joyne with their evill speaking the acknowledgement of their praises of whom they speake For many times their but tends to a greater defamation and by praising them they onely save themselves from blame and intend thereby to inforce their defamation the more Nor is it an extenuation when they revile their inferiors For Masters must not threaten their servants Ephes. 6.9 nor parents must not pr●voke their children to wrath Ephes. 6.4 nor husbands be bitter to their wives Col. 3.9 Nor great men may Lord it over their poore tenants or people Prov. 13.8 Nor men that excell in gifts be masterly in their words to their inferiors in gifts Iames 3.1 Nor when men revile being reviled For this is also prohibited unto Christians 1 Pet. 3.9 There are also many reasons why we should put away evill speaking First from commandement Men are streightly charged by God to refraine their tongues from evill Psal. 34. and not to speake evill one of another James 4.9 to speake evill of no man Tit. 3.1 nor to render reviling for reviling 1 Pet. 3.9 we must blesse and not curse Rom. 12.14 Secondly from the consideration of our owne persons and estates in Christ. We are called to blessing and are the heires of blessing and therefore it is monstrous uncomely for us that are free borne to use such servile and base language 1 Pet. 3.9 Thirdly from example Michael the Archangell when he contended with the devill durst ●●t bring against him any railing accusation Iude 9. The Apostle sheweth their practice herein blesse● Cor. 4.12 When Shemei cursed David and called him a Sonne of Beliall and a bloody man he said Let him curse because the Lord hath said unto him curse David It may be the Lord will looke upon my affliction and the Lord will requite me good for his cursing this day Thus he bore it though he continued cursing

hearts break that is they let the doctrine runne out and never thinke of it when they are gotten out of the Church Heb. 2.1 Or else they have resisted the light of the truth so long that God hath now delivered them over to a spirit of slumber lest they should convert and he should heal them Mat. 13.15 16. Isa. 6.10 Secondly in some the world is the cause of it For either they are entangled with the examples of the multitude especially of the wise Ones and great Ones of the world 1 Cor. 1.26 27 28. Or else they are affrighted with the evill reports with which the good way of God is disgraced in the world Act. 28.22 Or else they are insnared with respect of their carnall friends they are loth to displease father or mother or sisters or brothers or any they have great hopes from or dependance upon Mat. 10.35 37. 1 Pet. 4.2 Or else they have so much businesse to doe and so many cares about their worldly affaires they cannot be at leisure ●o long as to thi●ke they cannot bring their lives into order Mat. 13.22 Luke 17. Or else they live at hearts-ease and prosper in their estate and so desire not to alter their course of life and so their prosperity destroyes them Pr● 1.32 Thirdly in some men the cause is the lust after some particular wickednesse of life in which they live either secretly or openly which sinne is the very Idol of their hearts and hinders a good resolution Fourthly in some the cause is conceitednesse they are pure in their owne cic● and yet are not cleansed they rest in the outward profession of religion and the feare of godlinesse and regard not the sound power of it in their lives Lastly in all unregenerate men there are three causes why they are not perswaded to a religious life First the one is the forgetfulnes of their death therefore their filthinesse is still in their skirts because they remember not their latter end Lam. 1.9 Secondly the other is that they are dead in sin What should hinder the conversion of multitudes at once but that we preach to congregations of dead men Thirdly the divell workes effectually in all the children of disobedience striving to hide the Gospel from them and the glory of a righteous life that so they might perish 1 Cor. 4.4 And thus of the second Use. Use 3. Thirdly such as consent to obey and feele themselves raised from death to life and are now desirous to spend their daies in a religious and righteous course of life must observe all such rules as may further them and establish them in an orderly and fruitfull conversation Hee that would live in righteousnesse must thinke on these directions following as the very gates of righteousnesse First he must give over all needlesse conversation with vaine persons and profane men hee must shunne their company as he would such as have the plague running upon them hee must not come neere them as is urged Pro. 14.15 For what fellowship can bee between righteousnesse and unrighteousnesse 2 Cor. 6.14 Depart from me ye evill doers saith David for I will keep the commandements of my God Psal. 119.115 Secondly he must redeeme time he must buy time from his worldly occasions and settle such an order in his worldly estate or outward estate that he may provide to serve the Lord without distraction abstayning from all things that may intangle him or interrupt him Eph. 5.16 1 Cor. 7.29 35. and 9.28 2 Tim. 2.4 He must provide to him time for Gods service and for commerce and fellowship with the godly and for works of mercy Thirdly he must be wise for himselfe that is he must in all the meanes hee useth for or in religion especially apply what hee can for his owne use and study himselfe and to understand his owne way and provide whatsoever he doe for his justification and sanctification and finall salvation Pr● 9. 12. and 14.8 And to this end he must meddle with his owne businesse and take heed of being a busie-body in other mens matters so much as in his thoughts 1 Thes. 4.11 12. And he must also avoid vaine janglings and doubtfull disputations in religion and quarrels that tend not to his edification but to shew wit or science Tit. 3.9.1 Tim. 6.20.2 Tim. 2.23 And he must keep his eye straight upon the mark to proceed directly and distinctly in building himselfe up in knowledge and grace not losing his time or going about but keeping a straight path to supply what he wants and grow in what he hath Pro 4.25 Ier. 31.32 Hee must take heed of uncertaine running but bee sure to take accounts of himselfe for all his courses to see that hee goe very straight towards the mark and finally hee must not respect company to goe the pase of other men but run as if hee alone were to obtaine striving to excell 1 Cor. 9.24 and 14 12. Fourthly he must esteeme the Word above all treasures Psal. 119.72 Mat. 1● and take hold of the instruction thereof as that must bee the very life of his life Pro. 4 1● For by the Word doth God sanctifie us and make us righteous Ioh. 17. And he must order his whole course of life so as that he may see the meanes of all his actions from the Word he must live by the rules of Scripture that will live righteously Gal. 6.16 Now that he may doe thus he must looke to divers things First that he place no confidence in the flesh neither trusting upon his owne wit nor carnall reason nor gifts nor yet yeelding himselfe to be a servant to any mans humour or opinions or example or commandement Secondly he must provide to live so as he suffer not a famine of the powerfull preaching of the Word hee must labour for the meat that perisheth not Ioh. 6.27 and so exercise himselfe in the Word morning and evening that the Word may dwell plenteously in him Psal. 1.2 Col. 3.16 Thirdly he must take heed of adding any more sinnes or duties than are discovered in the Word and of detracting from any thing that is forbidden or required there Psal. 30.6 detesting conceitednesse and singularity having his conversation in all meeknesse of wisedome Iam. 3.13 Fiftly he must daily lift up his heart to God to seeke a way of him whose glory it is to teach to profit and who giveth his Spirit to lead men in the paths of righteousnesse Psal. 23. Esay 48.17 Sixtly he must remember the Sabbath day to sanctifie it For this will be both the meanes and the signes of his sanctification and true righteousnesse It is the market day for the soule Esay 58.13 14. Exod. 31.13 c. Seventhly he must haste to the comming of Christ hee must dispatch his worke as fast as he can and to this end he must cast about to finde out waies of well-doing and when he hath any projects or opportunities of well-doing he must not