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A86101 A sermon preached at Hievvorth at the funerall of Edmund Warneford Esq. By Thomas Hauskins minister of Gods word. On the 24. of August. 1649. Hauskins, Thomas. 1651 (1651) Wing H1152; Thomason E1286_3; ESTC R15019 15,521 43

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ever I shall never be a widow c. and thence it is that God making a sudden and unexpected alteration they are as much overwhelmed with sorrow and amazement as afore they were full and did overflow with joy just as it was with Ionah so it is with them for as Ionah was over-joyed when he had a Gourd and when he was suddenly deprived of it he did so take it to heart as that he wished his owne death so they being over-joyed in the enjoyment one of another when God hath made a separation they are so out of measure passionate and impatient as to wish that they had died the same day and been buried in the same grave with them But would you know your duty remember then this first particular from the text to wit That you are so to live together in the married estate as making account that it cannot alwaies yea that it cannot long be so but that within a short time you must part Man and wife must soe live in the Hourse as the Patriarchs did in the world to wit as strangers and sojourners together Heb. 11.13 14. 2 Would man and wife so live married as unmarried they must be carefull to use all the comforts and contents of marriage soberly and moderately It is one maine part of the Apostles end and scope in these words to exhort all married persons unto Christian sobrietie and moderation in the use of all mariage contentments so that they may be wings but not weights unto them we may surfer as well of the comforts as of the cares of this life Thirdly That man and wife may so live married as if they were unmarried they must have a speciall care not to coole or abate in affection to the Lord Iesus Christ We must still love the Lord Iesus Christ in such sort as if we had no other Love but him The law of marriage is for the married persons to forsake father and mother and to cleave to each other but it is not to forsake the Lord Christ This admonition is the rather needfull because of the common fault of very many married couples in the world We do live in a world of extremes both within doores and without for as some couples do love too little and searse at all so others do love one another too much in so much as that they do quite dote one upon another make idols one of another they love one another as Eli did his sonnes to wis more then they love God their Maker and Christ their Redeemer God may have the same controversie against many married persons as he had against Ephesus to wit That they have lost much of their first love to him But oh that married persons would remember that God is a Jealous God And oh that they would remember those words of Christ Mat. 10.37 He that loveth Father or Mother Sonne or Daughter Hhusband or Wife more then Christ is unworthy of Christ I might here have added certained other particulars but that I hasten to speak a few words concerning the next particular And they that weep as if they wept not Let the question be demanded what is it for a Christian so to weep for a losse or crosse as if hee wept not I answer 1. A Christian must so weep for his sinnes which are the meritorious cause of every losse and crosse as not weeping for the losse and crosse it selse Our sorrows in respect of any suffering should be nothing in comparison of our sinnes that have deserved it I cannot say indeed tha it is the scope of the Apostle in the text to presse the belceving Corinths to sorrow for sinne above all things neverthelesse I have thought good to answer the Question in this sort in the first place partly because it is a true saying That a Christian ought so to weep for his sinnes as not weeping for his sufferings for our sufferings we must so weep as not weeping but for our sinnes we must so weep as it we wept indeed and partly because those persons who do truly and plentifully weep for their sinnes cannot choose but weep moderately for any outward suffering which faid moderation is the scope of the Apostle in the text 2 Would we so weep as not weeping we must so weep as not to refuse such Christian counsell or comfort as is fit to be given to us in our mournfull condition When people are under the heavy hand of God they are more sit to be spoken unto then when they thrive and prosper in the world and one cause why Solomon tels us that sorrow is better then laughter is because saies he by the sadnesse of the countenance the heart is made better more soft and more humble Eccl. 7.3 We should therefore so weep as that we do not refuse such Christian advise counsell or comfort as it fit to be given unto persons in our sad condition The contrary excesse is a fault too common for many weep for their losses as Rachel did for the losse of her children they will not be comforted or as Israel did for their bondage They harkned not unto Moses for anguish of heart Exod. 6.9 3. That we may so weep as not weeping we must so weep as not to murmure repine or once to open our mouthes against the Lord and his dealing wee must so weep as quietly silently patiently submitting our selves to the disposing of the only wise God and Soveraigne Lord of all I shall for this referre you to such Scriptures as wherein patience under all losses and crosses is as a very speciall and Christian vertue commanded and wherein the contrary evils of fretting murmuring and repining are forbidden as very great grievous evils Fourthly That we may so weep as not weeping we must so weep as not to dishonour our Religion and specially that faith and hope which we professe to have in God It is a great sinne and shame for a Christian to mourne excessively for any outward suffring for thereby he doth dishonour religion and give the world occasion to think that there is no such comfort in the word and in the waies of God as the Scriptures do testifie therfore we should beware of so mourning as to do the least dishonour unto religion by bringing an evill report upon it And more especially we should beware of so mourning as to dishonour our faith and hope in God either that hope which we professe to have either touching our selves or touching any of our departed friends First we should so weep for the dead for any of our departed friends as not to dishonour or disparage that hope which we professe to have concerning them and their better condition in another world we should so mourne that they are lost to us and to the comfort which we might have had by them here as not mourning that they are lost to God and to themselves we should so mourne for them being dead as rejoicing that they are alive to Christ and that one day they shall rise againe to life everlasting This is the Apostlles counsell concerning the manner or measure of mourning for the dead 1 Thess 4.13 Secondly and lastly we should so mourne as not to dishonour that faith and hope which we do professe to have in God his love favour Every true Saint and servant of God is most deeply most highly in the love favour of God as the Scriptures do testisie and they cannot be under such sadnesse for any outward losse and crosse but that stil they have abundant cause to rejoice in the interests which they have in the favour friendship of the Lord Iesus Christ in so much as that Iesus Christ may well say to his over sad and pensive servants as Elkanah did to his beloved Hannah 1 Sam. 1.8 Why weepest thou and why is thy heart so much so over much grieved am not I better to thee then ten sons Is not my love better then the love of ten husbands or ten wives Briefly then upon occasions of weeping a Christian must of weep for the losse of one comfort as not weeping but rejoycing rather that he hath not lost all nor the maine of comsorts A wife must so weep for the losse of a loving Husband as not weeping but rejoycing rather that shee hath not lost an ever living God and an ever loving Saviour Caution As Christ said in another case so I say here All men and women cannot receive this comfort but onely those to whom it is given I meane the true Saints and servants and children of God such as can say with the spouse in the Canticles I am my welbeloveds and my welbeloved is mine and therefore Qui potest capere capiat They that can receive this comfort as belonging to them let them and them alone receive it but as for worldlings and the wicked continuing in the estate wherein they are I must needs say as Christ did to the rich Luk. 6.24 Woe unto you for you have received your consolation FINIS
A SERMON PREACHED AT HIEWORTH At the Funerall of EDMUND WARNEFORD Esq By THOMAS HAUSKINS Minister of Gods Word On the 24. of August 1649. OXFORD Printed by H. HALL An. Dom. 165● A PRAYER O LORD be gracious unto thine Handmaid and her little ones whom by thy suddaine stroake thou hast made fatherlesse and widdow In the sence and Conscience of that Christian duty which as members of the same Body wee do owe one to another we do desire to grieve with and for them and in testimony thereof in their behalfe to pray saying O Blessed Lord God as thou hast sadly humbled thy Handmaid in her outward Condition so do thou truly and savingly humble her in her Soule for Sin which is the moritorious cause of all the evills and sufferings which the Sonnes and Daughters of Adam do feele or feare and let her so weep for the one as not weeping for the other Blessed is the man and thrice blessed is the woman whom thou chastnest and whom together with the outward chastisement thou dost thus humble and teach them out of thy Law And forasmuch as thou hast promised that all things shall worke together for good to those that love God O Lord do thou shed abroad thy Love and the love of Thee into her heart whereby she may be made capable of the good therein promised unto thy servants and then doe thou make a gracious performance and accomplishment of the same O let this sore and sharp losse and crosse be so over-ruled and sanctified by theee as that it may some way or other yea every way turne to her spirituall good and gaine It is good for me saith David to draw neare to thee it is good may she say and we say for her and us all to draw farther off as from the Cares so from the comforts of this world and to draw neare even neare and nearer both in our affection and in our conversation to thee O let this heart-piercing affiction drive and draw thy servant neare unto thee nearer and nearer in the feare of thee faith in thee love toward thee communion with thee obedience to thee and dependence upon thee In these waies and by these means do thou first of all fit her and then do thou bestow upon her both inward and outward consolations Let her so weep as if shee wept not so weep for the losse of one comfort as one that hath not lost cither all or the maine of comfort Let her so weep as not to murmure and repine at the dealing of thee the onely wise God and Soveraigne Lord of all but still let her in faith and patience possesse thee and her selfe let her so weep for the losse of a Creature-comfort in a loving husbandas rejoycing that she hath him the way of beleeving and obeying shall ever have a faithfull Creator and a most loving Saviour Thou who art the Comforter of those who are cast downe do thou both counsell and comfort her in this tribulation Let her be able to do all things and to suffer all things through a Christ strengthening her Let thy directing assisting comforting supporting grace be sufficient for her in and against her owne weaknesse and against the strength of all adverse temptations Lord be thou a Father of all mercies blessings to the Children who by this sad hand of Divine providence are become fatherlesse O thou just and righteous God what shall we who are Parents in our Confessions say unto thee but this to wit that there is sin enough in the best of Parents for which thou mightest if thou wouldest in thy just displeasure curse them as well in the fruit of their Loines as of their Labours in which regard it is the humble and earnest desire of every knowing and devout Parent that for Christ his sake who did beare the Crosse and the Curse thou wouldest take away the curse which is not onely due to them in their owne persons but which is moreover due to theirs for their sake and this as we hope was the desire of the Parent here when he was alive In prosecution of which his desire he being now departed and immediately to be laid in dust we humbly pray thee that the good which was in him may live and dwell may thrive and grow in his children But as for the evill which was in him Oh let it be through the power of thy preventing grace declined by them and through pardoning grace let it not be imputed to them or visited upon them Provide for their education in the knowledge and faith and feare of thee the onely true God and of Jesus Christ whom thou hast sent Yea as the shall grown in yeares so let them grown in all grace and in speciall in the Love of thee and under thee in mutuall love and helpfulnesse each to the other Now they are forsaken by the father of their flesh let is appeare that they are taken up and owned of thee the everlasting Father and Father of their spirits Let what is wanting to them be by a good and just hand of Providence in due time supplyed and let what they have be in the meane time and alwaies by a blessing sanctifyed whatsoever they have or whatsoever they want let them not want a portion of grace from the here and a portion of glory with thee hereafter AMEN 1 Cor. 7.29 30 31. But this I say brethren them time is short I remaineth that both they that have wives be a if they had none And they that weep as though they wept not and they that rejoyce as though they rejoyced not and they that buy as though they possessed not And they that use this world as not abusing it for the fashion of this world passeth away I Shall begin my Sermon with the very words of my text saying Brethren the time is short the time I meane for my present discourse is sort for custome you know consines me to an houre It remaineth therefore that as persons who are strainted for want of time I make so much the more hast not spending one minute of this short time in any impertinent needlesse or complementall circumstances And for that cause as well as others I shall altogether forbeare whether in the beginning or ending of my Sermon to speake in the way of such praises and commendations which any of you doe know or may think to be due unto the dead and instead thereof I shall wholy and solely apply my selfe unto the end for which I was requested hither and that is To minister a word in season for the edification of the living such instructions in speciall as are either expressed in or may be deduced from the words which I have read unto you I shall with a very quick dispatch as in one or two minutes passe through the context to the text and then forward As for the context then this onely I shall say to wit That the Apostle in the beginning of this