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A36908	Dunton's remains, or, The dying pastour's last legacy to his friends and parishioners ... by John Dunton ... ; to this work is prefixt the author's holy life and triumphant death : and at the latter end of it is annext his funeral sermon.	Dunton, John, 1627 or 8-1676.; N. H., Minister of the Gospel. Funeral sermon.; Dunton, John, 1659-1733.	1684 (1684)	Wing D2633; ESTC R17002	124,862	318

this life saith the Prophet all the sweet he hath fore-goeth death after he hath a Portion indeed but it is a Portion of Fire and Brimstone of Storms and Tempests of Anguish and Tribulation of Shame and Confusion of Horror and Amazement in a fiery Lake from the presence of God in the midst of cursed Spirits Thus death must needs be terrible to him but as comfortable to the Godly for it makes his Crosses as short as the others Comforts The Wicked cannot promise to himself Comforts of an hours length nor may the Godly threaten himself with Crosses of an hours continuance Death in an instant turns the sinners Glory into Shame Pleasure into Pain Comfort into Confusion Death in an instant eases the Godly's body of all pain his Soul of all sin his Conscience of all fears and leaves him in an estate of perfect happiness And happy are they whose Misery is no longer than life but woe be to the wicked whose jollity ends when death enters and whose Torments survive death it self and so we leave Samuel to his rest Well Samuel is well himself but in what case doth he leave his poor Neighbours at Ramah that the Text now speaks and it is my trouble yet better one than all troubled that I must speak it so briefly Israel saith the Text Jacobs issue Gods people all Israel distributively taken that is of all sorts some were gathered in great Troops either by publick command or of their own voluntary accord or both ways First to lament according to the then custom in most solemn manner Samuels end and their own loss and next to honour him at his Burial in Ramah The Points which in a passage or two must be touched from this part are two the first is this Samuel a publick and a profitable man dieth Israel publickly mourneth you see what followeth Great and publick losses must be entertained with great and publick sorrows Sorrow must be suited to the loss as a Garment to the body a Shoe to the foot when the cause of Grief is great the measure of Grief must be answerable This is one Principle when a good man and Neighbour dies there is cause of great forrow this is another the inference will soon follow and result hence and that is our Conclusion Good men of publick use and place should never pass to the Grave unlamented their death should be considered and bewailed And indeed reason calls for it for we must mourn in respect of the cause of such mens deaths not private but publick sins too God never beheads a State a Country but for some Treason Reason 1. If Samuel die it is because God is angry with the people the sheep be not thankful nor fruitful therefore the shepherd is smitten Now should it be thus when useful persons die what then shall we say to these times wherein men have not put off Piety only but Nature also No marvel if the Prophet complain The righteous perish and no man considereth it in his heart The wife perisheth and the Husband doth not consider it the Parents perish and the Children do not consider it the Children perish and the Parents do not consider it few such Brethren as David to Jonathan such Husbands as Abraham such Children as Isaac such Fathers as Jacob. These long and long felt the loss of their dearest Friends but now one month is enough to wear out all thoughts of a Brother nay of a Child nay of a Mother nay of a Wife nay in the nearest tyes one in that space may be buried a second wooed a third married Hitherto in hardest pressures and worst measures David could go to Samuel in Ramah and there meet with good Counsel and Comfort but now both Samuel himself dies and poor David must flie Shall I beloved speak as the thing is In the fall of one Cedar of Ramah we have lost much shade and shelter in the splitting of one Vessel of price wherein we had all our interesses and adventures we are all losers what we have lost we shall better see seven years hence than now but losers we are all losers Wife Children Neighbours Friends Ministers People all losers so that here that is verified which was anciently uttered of another In one we have lost many a chast Husband a tender Father a religious Minister a kind Neighbour in few a Samuel Speak I this after the flesh to please No I speak it for use to profit I report my self to your hearts You tell me that you have a publick loss your mouthes have uttered it your faces speak it my Ears and Eyes have received it from you and if so then see what follows if we have Israels loss we must make Israels Lamentation Let us take up Davids words with Davids Affection I am distressed for thee Brother Jonathan very pleasant hast thou been to me thy love to me was wonderful passing the Love of Women Are we as David to Saul Isaac to Rebekah sons Are we as Jeremiah to Josiah Prophets As David to Abner Kindsmen Are we by any name entituled to this loss Mourn then mourn not as the Infidel desperately nor bitterly as doth the froward but soberly as did David when Abners Death put him to a Fast Let his dearest Yoak-fellow say Ah mine unthankfulness and unfruitfulness let Children say Ah our Disobedience and Stubbornness and Servants Ah our Idleness and Untrustiness and all Ah our Folly and Frowardness who could not see Vertves through Frailties and Corn through chaff till we had lost all These sins of ours have strip'd us of a Samuel and covered us with darkness He is gone the Arm and Shoulder is faln from this our little body the sooner for our sins let us see it or else what abides us In the Body what Medicines cannot do cutting must what that cannot burning must or else nothing saith the Master of Physick It is so in the Soul too Oh that we could see it In our Friends Sicknesses we have been Medicined in private distresses lanced but in the loss of Publick Persons the Lord proceeds to burning If these wounds upon the very Head of us strike us not down what shall next be smitten but our Heart it self Well Israel laments and it hath cause What do they next That next we must hear They bury him and the place and manner be observed For the place they bury him at his House in Ramah the Ancient and the Mannor House his Father dwelt there before him 1 Sam. 1. where also you may be informed touching the Town Whereas there were of Ramahs four or sive this was Ramah Zophim in Mount Ephraim which borrows his Name from the Situation of it it stood high and the name importeth no less In this Ramah Samuel sometime lived and here he is Interred For the Selemnity of the Funeral it is such as argues Israels love and Samuels worth they do him all the Honour that is possible First Israel the first-born of Men

Solomon a foolish Nabal a holy Isaac a prophane Esau of what sort soever he must be Deaths Prisoner Nay let there be a concurrance of all in one let Samuel be both a good Man and a good Minister c. and have as many Priviledges as are incident to a man yet can he not procure a Protection against this Officer his Mother may beg his Life but none can compound for his Death Speak we this according to men saith not the Scripture as much Wise men die saith David and Fools die Rich men die and poor too and therefore he calls both upon the Sons of Nobles and of the Earth to mind the Lesson indeed the Heathens could compare the Sons of Adam to Counters Chess Stage-plaies in reckoning Counters have their several Place and use for a time but in the end they are all jumbled on a heap in a Game at Chess some are Kings some Bishops c. but after a while they go all into the same Bag on the Stage one is in his rags another in his Robes one is the Master another the Man and very busie they be but in the end the Play ends the bravery ends and each returns to his place such and no other is the state of man We wear death in our faces and bear it in our bones we put it upon our backs and into our mouths and cannot be ignorant of it Yea the dead proclaim this Lesson go to the Earth and they that make their Beds in darkness and sleep in the dust will tell you that it s neither wisdom nor power nor strength nor friends nor place nor grace nor any thing else that can exempt from this Tribute of Nature Our deceased Brother here before us speaks this to all this vast Assembly If greatness of Spirit feature of Body gifts of mind chastness of life soberness in diet diligence in a calling Prayers of the Church would have given any advantage against death darkness and blackness had not at this time covered us That there is no Prescription against Death appears by these Reasons The first of which is taken from the Decree of God it s a Statute enacted in that highest Court the voice of Heaven that man should once die No man as yet hath breathed but he hath had his death or translation no man is yet to come but he must either see death or an alteration so hath Heaven concluded it and who can possibly reverse it The second is taken from the matter whereof all men are made the Scripture compares man to a house whose foundation is laid in the dust whose walls are made of Clay the whole is but a Tabernacle and that of Earth and that of mans building as Paul after Job tells us this is the estate of man of all men some are more painted than some but all earthen Vessels some more clear than some but all Glasses all built of earth all born of Women and therefore all short of continuance as Job infers The third is taken from the proper cause of Death Sin Sin is Poyson to the Spirits Rottenness to the Bones where it comes and where doth it not come And therefore now what 's to be done Vse 1. Surely as men that must travel stand not to dispute but Arm themselves for all Weather So must we die we must that 's already concluded young and old good and bad c. Whatsoever we be now we must be dead anon You will think strange perhaps of my pains in this kind whilst I perswade a Mortality For howsoever we can all say in the general we are Mortal nothing so sure as Death yet when it comes to our own particular we dream of an Immortality in Nature we never set any bounds to Life we do not resolutely conclude I must die shortly I may instantly this day may be the last that I shall see this hour the last that I shall spend this word the last that I shall speak this deed the last that I shall perform this place the last that I shall breath in and so live by the day by the hour But it is our duty daily to consider what it is to die what goes before it what comes with it what follows upon it For first before we come to the very Gate of Death we are to pass through a very strait long heavy Lane Sickness first tameth us which many times is worse than Death it self that renders us unfit for all Religious Services Prayer Repentance c. as being a time not of getting but of spending that cleaves the Head and pains the Heart and wounds the Spirits and leaves us so distressed that Meat is no Meat the Bed no Bed Light no Light to us that makes us catch at Death for help But alas what help in Death if not fore-thought of Oh the Misery of a poor Creature that is so pained that he cannot live so unprepared that he dares not die he goes to Bed but cannot sleep he tastes his Meat but it will not down he shifts his Room but not his pain Death saith the Conscience would end and amend all wert thou prepared for Death but to die before were to lose those Comforts one hath and to fall under those Curses that are unsufferable Ah beloved we may intimate somewhat of his Misery but it falls not within our thoughts to conceive what his fears be who hangs between Life and Death Earth and Hell thus forthwith ready to drop into flames at every stroke of Death and to sink down down down till he be gone for ever And yet this is not all When I am dead saith the Carnal wretch all the World have done with me He saith truth all the World and all the comforts of the World have done with him indeed he shall-never laugh more he shall never have a moments ease more But though the World hath done with him yet God hath not done with him he sends for his Soul having first taken order that the Body be forth coming convents that and dooms that and casts that from him with greatest indignation into such a place such a company such a condition as would make the Heavens sweat and the Earth shrink to hear it Ah beloved therefore without all delays as a man that is now dying as well as he for whom the Bell tolls though not haply so near to Death set upon two things First set your House in order next your Souls For the first you have your persons and things to look unto To begin with Persons so live with your Wives being Husbands with your Servants being Masters with your Children being Fathers as becomes dying Men exercise such wisdom kindness faithfulness mercy every day as thou wouldest do if thou knowest it to be the last day And for things mark me well hearken not to Satan who disswades all seasonable wills because he would administer the Goods by being timely in this Errand thou shalt not shorten thy days but

having taken thy leave of the World shalt better attend on Death Things therefore unlawful restore I say again restore Things Lawful dispose of and as in a Journey hasty and uncertain wait the Call Up then my Brethren and lose no time Now the Wind serves hoyse up Sail now is the Market make your Provision now is the Seed-time sow apace as yet you have all Advantages from Grace and Nature Word Sacrament Wit Memory Sense Strength c. Now apprehend the Opportunity Repent and be Pardoned believe and be saved obey and be for ever blessed If any hath perswaded himself otherwise my Soul shall weep in secret for his destruction which I know will be as certainly effected as now it is plainly threatned Be entreated then let God entreat you and once over-rule you You must die you must die but once being once dead you return not to make a new Preparation do that once well which being once well done will make you Men nay more than Men than Angels for ever And this is the Use for your selves A second respects our Friends Vse 2. Must all die is there no Remedy Then must we have patience in our Friends departure a common Lot no man should shrug at even in the Poets judgment who quarrels Summer for some heat or Winter for some cold a Thorn for pricking or a Brier for scratching who is angry that he is framed like other men subject to like hunger like thirst like sleep and why I pray should not our Friends resemble others in their death as well as in their birth We would not have them have more Eyes or Hands than others and why more days What do we make of Life what of Death Surely to the godly Life is but a Prison Death is an Advantage Say our Friends were tyed in Prison would we begrudge them liberty say toss'd on the Seas would you envy them the Haven say doubtful in the Skirmish would you be sorry for their Victory nay say but beaten with a Tempest would you not wish them at home Believe it Brethren this World is but a Sea a Prison this Life a Journey a Warfare if God hath prevented our Wishes shall he be returned frowardness Shall we trouble the Air with needless Crys my Husband my Father my Father as if we were the first Widows and Orphans in the World No let them mourn without hope whose life and death is without hope as for Christians who die living and live dying they lose nothing by death For first if we descend to particulars the body that is stript of all sinful and natural defects the abortions of sin and filled with all heavenly contemplations of mortal it becomes immortal of corruptible incorruptible there is no use of Meat Apparel Sleep Beds c. of dishonourable glorious like in its measure to the body of Christ which is the standard In short whatsoever might make to the annoying blemishing dishonouring disquieting of the body is removed whatsoever might make it amiable active honourable glorious comfortable is added the glory of the Sun will be but darkness to it For the Soul that is first eased of all the rags and relicques of sin delivered of Ignorance Pride Self-love c. delivered next of all the consequences of sin griefs guilts fears accusations yea delivered of all things which may any way import an imperfect state through an upright heart as Faith Repentance hungering after Righteousness c. And then in a second place it is filled with the Image of Jesus Christ First all the powers and faculties thereof are perfected and advanced above the ordinary strain of Nature Next all those Vessels are stuffed with knowledg love and all things else that are there requisite and not only so but the Soul is furnished with all the attendances of Christs Image everlasting joy perpetual peace a constant correspondency and communion with God and in brief whatsoever might offend stain blemish the Soul is removed and whatsoever might enrich it ennoble it and make it blissful is according to each mans measure added And thus of the person The rest we dispatch with all speed For the Estate thus there shall be nothing that shall be wanting that shall trouble distract or discontent there shall be nothing that the Soul shall then desire but there it is For the place thus There shall be nothing less than what shall be desired nothing more that can be desired what it is the Word no where for ought I know tells us The Church on Earth is more rich than Gold more precious than Pearl more bright than the Sun more glorious than the Moon but what is there to be seen Paul could not utter we cannot conceive only this we know that none shall be ever weary of it or willing to alter it Lastly for the Company there be of three sorts First Angels who shall not then terrifie but attend the worst and lowest Servant there shall be an Angel Secondly all the famous and godly men that ever lived there shall we meet with Adam Abraham c. there shall we be acquainted with David Paul Cypr. de morte ad Fratres c. Thirdly the blessed Trinity there shall we see him who hath done and suffered so much for us him whom the Fathers before and since his Incarnation so much longed to see Jesus Christ the blessed all which considered and believed what can we less do than abandon all fruitless and fleshly tears for our Friends departed what way are they gone but the way of all flesh with whom do they live but with Samuel with God Where are they but in better place and case with better Friends than ever before In stead of carking therefore do two other things First whilst Friends be present do the part of a Friend in praying for them in calling upon them and in fitting of them to death that so thou mayst have peace in thy self and hope of them in their departure else when thy Conscience shall say unto thee Wretched man thy Wife thy Child thy Charge is now dead and for ought thou knowest in Hell if not no thanks to thee for thou wast never the man that would call upon them pray with them or mind them of their Departures when I say thy Conscience shall thus great thee thou shalt not tell how to take it Secondly when they are gone to bed and fast asleep awake them not with thy cries but make ready to follow after so the time shall be best redeemed the loss and cross best improved and Satan who loves to fish in such troubled waters most prevented And so far this Use We will touch upon a third as we pass and that is this Must we all die then here is a cooler for the wicked and a comfort for the godly The wicked holds all his comforts only for term of life death ends his wealth his glory his peace his joy his comforts his contentments all his portions is only in