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duty_n	church_n	great_a	religion_n	1,317	5	5.4600	4	true

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A65957	The whole duty of a woman: or a guide to the female sex From the age of sixteen to sixty, &c. Being directions, how women of all qualities and conditions, ought to behave themselves in the various circumstances of this life, for their obtaining not only present, but future happiness. I. Directions how to obtain the divine and moral virtues of piety, meekness, modesty, chastity, humility, compassion, temperance and affability, with their advantages, and how to avoyd the opposite vices. II. The duty of virgins, directing them what they ought to do, and what to avoyd, for gaining all the accomplishments required in that state. With the whole art of love, &c. 3. The whole duty of a wife, 4. The whole duty of a widow, &c. Also choice receipts in physick and chirurgery. With the whole art of cookery, preserving, candying, beautifying, &c. Written by a lady.	Lady, fl. 1701.	1696 (1696)	Wing W2054B; ESTC R221014	59,390	159

if you would be really Kind you must temper your Indulgence with a Prudent Severity or else you eminently violate this Second Rule by which you should Regulate you Love and so do that to them which Jacob feared from his Father Gen. 27. Bring a Curse upon them and not a Blessing Thirdly In the next Period of their time when they are arrived at Years of Reason and Growth Then you may be more Familiar with them they having before been Seasoned to know their Distance and Duty Allow them such a Kind yet Modest Freedom that they may have a Complaisancy in your Conversation and not be tempted to seek it amongst their Inferiours That the belief of your kindness may supplant the pretensions of those mean Sycophants who by little Flatteries endeavour to screw themselves into their good opinion and become their Confidents than which especially to Daughters there is nothing more Mischieveous in teaching them Disobedience and rendering them Mutinous against their Parents by buzzing into their Ears the wild notions of Vnbounded Liberty and Freedom which Lectures they should not so soon be trusted withall Besides those Intimacies are often Introductions to worse many Scandalous Amours and unequal Matches have had their rise from them It must therefore be your Business to prevent all such pernicious Leagues in preingaging them in more safe Familiarities either with your self or some others of whose Virtues you have reason to be Confident But the most Infalible Security against this and all other Mischiefs is to bring them to an Intimacy and Conversation with their Maker by fixing a true sense of Religion in their Souls for if that can effectually be done it will supersced all other Expedients for if they duly consider they are always in Gods Presence they will want no other Inspector nor much need Monitors if they seriously attend to the advice of their own Conscience Neither will it tend only to the securing of their Innocency but their Reputation it being one part of the Christian Law to Abstain from all appearances of Evil 1. Thes 5.22 To do things that are of Good Report Phil. 4.8 So that Piety is the only Compleat Armour to defend at once their Virtue and their Fame and it is extreamly necessary they should be furnished with it at this Age especially It is sad to be Considered indeed That some Mothers neglect this most Important Concern in their Daughters though Nicely Curious in their other parts of Breeding They give them Civil Accomplishments but no Christian those are excluded by them out of the Scheme of Education and by that means lye under the prejudice of being not only Vnnecessary but Vngentile below the regard of a Person of Quality I suppose this is often encreased by a little Vanity they have in seeing them excel in some o● those Exteriour Qualities which may recommend them to the Humour of the World upon the Improving whereof they are 〈◊〉 intent that more Material things are over looked And so this part of the Busine● or Duty of a Wife I shall Conclude in Advising you to be careful in Placing or Bestowing your Children in the World either in Marriage or Business that the may Flourish in Piety and Wealth and b● the lasting Comforts of your Life A Mistress is another Obligation Incumbent on you when Marry'd if you Live in any Quality or Repute in the World for in such a case the Inspection of the Family is usually your Province for though you are not Supream there yet you are to improve your Delegated Authority t● the Advantage of them under it And you more Constant Residence gives you more opportunities of it than the frequent Avocations of your Husband will perhaps allow him St. Paul sets this as the Calling and Indispenable Duty of a Married Woman That she Guide the House 1 Tim. 5 1● Not thinking it a Point of Greatness t● remit the Mannagement of all Domestick Concerns to a Mercenary Housekeeper Now as to your well Guiding of your House I know no better Rule Than that you endeavour to make all that are yours to be Gods Servants also This will secure you of all those Intermedial Qualifications in them in which your Secular Interest is concern'd their own Consciences being the best Spy you can set upon them as to their Truth and Fidelity and also the Best Spur to Industry and Dilligence A Christian Family should be the Epitomy of a Church It is not only the Duty but Interest of all that have Families to keep up the Esteem and Practice of Religion in them It was one of the greatest Endearments of Abraham to God That be would Command his Houshould to keep the way of the Lord Gen. 18.19 And Joshua undertakes no less for the Piety of his House than himself As for me says he and my House we will Serve the Lord Jos 2. 〈◊〉 5. But when Pie● is planted in a Family it will soon wither if it be not kept in Vigor by Discipline This you must promoreby● your own Example to your Servants calling upon them to mind their Duty to God and observe they do not neglect it or do it Hypocritically for Form and Compliance only which may be discerned in their Conversations elsewhere You must Remember not to fall into Mistakes of thinking because they receive Wages and are so Inferiour to you they are therefore beneath your Care to know how to Mannage them They are the moving Engines of your Family and let your Directions be never so faultless yet if they Stop or Move Irregular the whole Order of the House will be at a stand or discomposed Besides the Inequality which is between you must not make you forget that Nature maketh no such distinction But that Servants ought at least to be looked upon as humble Freinds and that good usage and returns of kindness are as much due to those that deserve it as their Service is due to you when you require it A Foolish Haughtiness in the Stile of Speaking or in the manner of Commanding them is in it self very unseemly and frequently begets aversion in them of which the least ill effect to be expected is That they will be slow and careless in all you Enjoyn them And by Experience you will find it true That you will be so much the more Obeyed as you are the less Imperious Be not too hasty in giving your Or●●●●● not too angry when they are not altogether observed much less be not Lowd or appear too much Disturbed An evenness in distinguishing when they do well or ill will make them move by a Rule and without Noise and will the better set out your Skill in Conducting matters with Ease and Silence Let there be well chosen hours for the inspecting of Houshould Affairs which may be distinguished from the rest of your time that the necessary Cares may come in their proper place without any influence upon your good Humour or interruption to other things By