mee that I can neither live well with thee nor without thee Such dishonors of the lovely sex disgraces of woman-hood caused some wise men besides the over-wived a Interrâ—gatus utrum melius esset uxorem ducere néâ—ne inquit 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 D. Laert. l. 1. Socrat l. 2. Psal. 128. Socrates to judge that there is matter of repentance both in wedlock and single life but the good woman openeth her mouth with wisedom and her tongue is the law of kindness Prov. 31. 26. 3. Let her b Tit. 2. 5. keepe at home like the fruitfull vine upon the walls of the house breeding up her children and providing for them it is that which God enjoineth that they be discreet chaste keepers at home it is the harlots character Prov. 7. 11. Shee is loud and stubborn her feet abide not in her house now shee is without now in the streets and lieth in waite at every corner Thus much of the duety of the married to the Widow I have to say she is free to marry again but advise her to take heed that 1. Shee marry not to low least suspicion brand her with the obloquie of some former familiarity 2. That shee marry not too soon least shee that can so quickly abolere Sichaeum be thought for want of love to make such short exequies Valeria being demanded why she married not againe could say My Servius is dead to others not to mee 3. That shee sell not her children to want and her selfe to misery by an ungodly concourse of lust and avarice 4. That shee consider well that which deterred Cato's daughter from second marriage I cannot easily said shee finde that man which loveth mee so much as my estate A Praier for the married O Lord God who didst create man and woman joyne them in marriage sanctify and blesse us whom thy providence hath joyned together Lord give us one heart to love thee and one another in thee that we may be heires together of the promise that thy blessings of heaven above and earth beneath the blessings of peace vnity and plenty may be upon us and all that thou givest us Lord Jesus who didst furnish the wants at the Cana marriage with a bountiful supply supply all our necessities with those things which thou knowest necessary for us that in every estate we may finde a cheerful sufficiency Keepe us bodies and soules from all the snares of Satan the distractions of the world corruptions of flesh and blood and the power of sinne that we may live unblameably toward all men and holily before thee to the good examples of sanctity and sobriety to our families and mutual comforts and blessings to each other through Jesus Christ our Lord Amen CHAP. XXV Concerning the duties of Parents and Children § 1. What honor to Parents want of Children good Parents of evil Children § 2. Duety of the Parent Rules thereto belonging § 3. Dueties of Children Rules thereof Motives thereto 1. HOnour thy father and thy mother saith the Lord. Under this name are comprehended all superiors and governers parents by nature order or institution as under the name of children all inferiors sonnes daughters subjects pupills servants c. and honor importeth all dueties respectively to be performed 2. Want of Children is a great affliction to some therefore Hannah wept and prayed in bitternesse of soul it was then a reproach and affliction to the just and a curse on the wicked When God said unto Abraham Fear not I am thy shield and exceeding great reward hee replyed Lord God what wilt thou give mee seeing I goe childlesse Give mee children or I die said impatient Rachel Shee knew not then what 't was to have a Benoni a sonne of sorrow Children are an heritage of the Lord and the fruit of the wombe is his reward hee maketh the barren woman to keep house and to be a joyfull mother of children as the fruitful vine on the sides of the house with children like olive branches God maketh the just mans wife Great blessings if good or greatest afflictions if otherwise certaine cares uncertain comforts a lovely possession but ever bringing the most happy possessor many cares feares and troubles to some most bitter sorrowes if God give thee no children hee hath given thee the lesse care and occasion of sorrows which in their losse sitteth heavily even on the hearts of those mourning parents who may say as that Shunamite Did'I not desâ—re a sonne of my Lord did I not say doe not decceve mee Be thankful for that which God hath given thee no man hath all happinesse some thou hast the greatest if hee hath given thee Christ thy Redeemer and Saviour how justly may hee say that of Elkanah Why is thy heart grieved am not I better to thee then ten sons 3. That good parents have sometimes evil children appeareth in Noah's Cham Elie's and Samuel's sons David's Amnon and Absolom Jehoshaphat's Hezekiah's Manasse and the like Thus God pleaseth either to punish their neglects in breeding them or to exercise their patience and humble them so likewise to manifest to the world that sanctity is by no natural propagation but free grace Sometimes wicked parents have holy sons as appeareth in Josiah sonne of Amon and many others that none may despair of whatsoever family he come 1. The duety of a Parent toward his children is to nourish and breed them up providing necessaries for them to teach them the feare of the Lord 1 Tim. 5. 1. Tit. 2. 4. Gen. 18. 19. Exod. 12. 27. Exod. 13. 8 14. Deut. 4. 10. Deut. 6. 7 20. Deut. 11. 19. Deut. 32. 46. Josh. 4. 6 7 21 22. Josh. 22. 24. Psal. 74. 4. Isai. 38. 19. Joël 1. 3. Ephes. 6. 4. to reprove their â—innes 1 Sam 3. 13. Prov. 13. 24. Prov. 29. 17. Hebr. 12. 9. Gen. 34. 30. to pray for them 2 Sam. 12. 16. Job 1. 5. to lay up forâ—them 2 Cor. 12. 14. Gen. 24. 36. 2 Chron. 21. 3. to bestow them in marriage Gen. 24. 2 3. Gen. 21. 21. Gen. 28. 1. Judg. 14. 3 5. Therefore these following rules are necessary for parents concerning the same 1. Study thy family that thou maist not be a stranger at home first it is necessary for thee to proportion the expences thereof and the breeding of thy children according to thy estate lest thou build higher then thy foundation will beare it hath been the evident ruine of many families that parents have bred their children in so great an heigth as that the meanes they were able to leave them could not maintain them It is not a little wisedom to live within thy fortunes and to use thy children to a condition rather much too low then the least little above thy estate the minde will easily greaten and rise with the fortunes but very hardly lessen or descend it is an evident danger to beare a saile
death from the power of sin the snares of Satan the world and the flesh heare the voice of their praiers when they cry unto thee helpe them against all their enemies blesse their substance and accept the worke of their hands be thou ever their refuge and save them Thou who dividest the earth among the sonnes of men whose providence descendeth unto the feeding and preserving the poorest of thy creatures feed them with bread of their stature thou who encreasedst the oile and the meale so that it failed not in all the famine whether it be much or little which thou shalt be pleased to give them let thy blessing be with it that in every estate they may faithfully depend on thy gracious providence which never faileth them that trust in thee and finde such a sufficiency therein that they may live cheerfully and contentedly that they may never want that which thou knowest necessary and comfortable for their bodies and soules Lord give them hearts faithfully to seek thy kingdome and the righteousnesse thereof that all these things may be administred unto them O Lord God who hast promised to be a father of the fatherlesse who hast planted thine owne image of love and compassion in the hearts of parents towards their children heare the praiers of a poore father for his children and deny not the requests of my lips when thou shalt be pleased to take me from them leave them not destitute shew thy selfe their keeper directer and counseller that they may never swerve from thy commandements as thou hast shewed me mercy and compassion all my daies so holy father let not thy mercy depart from them but keep them in thy faith fear and love that as thy providence hath brought us together in this family so when this mortal life shall be ended we may by thy mercy all happily meet in the eternal communion of Saints in thy kingdome of glory through Jesus Christ our Lord and onely Saviour AMEN 1. The crown of the aged is children and the duety of children toward their parents is honor reverence fear obedience gratitude châ—erishing them in their age love and patience all this is comprehended in the fifth precept of Gods law honour thy father and thy mother who are comprehended under these titles I have already shewed I have here to speak of duety to parents 2. These rules of practice are hereto observable for the guidance of those children which feare the Lord and expect the promise their made to the obedient 1. Honor thy father and mother it is Gods expresse command and a dictate of nataâ—e this importeth reverence in thy bodily gesture before them as King Solomon rose upto meet his mother Bath-sheba and bowed himself vnto her as Moses went out to meet his father in law and did obeisance reverence in thy speech toward them and thy behaviour before them that it be not rude and such as becometh not the presence of those whom God will have honored as his vicegerents in the family So saith the Apostle Wee have had fathers of the flesh and wee gave them reverence none but a cursed Cham will behave himselfe unreverently before his father or mother or any waies tell or discover their failings to discredit or dishonor them but will goe with blessed Shem and Japhet with the vaile of discreet piety to conceale them Glory not in the dishonor of thy father saith the sonne of Sirach for thy fathers dishonor is no glory unto thee for the glory of a man is from the honor of his father and a mother in dishonor is a reproach to the children When God commanded Israel to be holy hee thus beginneth Ye shall fear every man his mother and father here indeed religion beginneth toward those whom God hath set in his own room on earth to nourish and give lawes to them and to receive their first tribute of obedience due to him by them there is little hope of it when it here blasteth in the bud the breach of this law carrying a fearefull curse with it as being a sinne against God and nature therefore the heathen Decius when he was offered the imperial crown refused it saying I fear lest being made an Emperour I should forget to be a sonne I had rather be a dutiful son then an Emperour let my father rule my Empire is to obey 2. Obey thy parents in all things not prohibited by God Hearken unto thy father that begat thee Forsake not the law of thy mother Children obey your parents in all things 3. Patiently beare their infirmities where age maketh them pettish where they erre not gain-saying or answering againe contend not irreverently with them though thou art in the right when they are angry with thee overcome that anger with patience 4. Be such to thy parents as thou wouldst have thy children to thee commonly it will be so an evil sonne seldom proveth an happy father Whoso honoreth his father shall have joy of his own children but as God rewardeth the duety of children according to his promise so will he their impiety and disobedience according to his justice because hee is true in both all sinnes have their severe punishments following them and when God's justice is most slow it is most sure but there are some sins which are more destructive to humane society which God the preserver thereof usually punisheth in this life that hee may deterre men from committing them so it is observable that cruelty oppression and murder seldome goe unpunished here but most closely acted sometimes they are discovered by extraordinary meanes and disobedience to parents may hence appeare odious to God and man that it is commonly punished by the like deportments of their children an example thereof is commonly found in every family of the disobedient O Sonne cryed the father beaten and dragged out of doors by the haire of the head draw mee no further for thus farre I drew my father 5. Love thy parents tenderly though the reflexes of this love are not so strong yet doe them all the good thou canst love them next after Christ above him thou maiest not No man can requite his parents and teachers yet shew thy love and gratitude to them if they want nourish them so did good Joseph so tender ought thy care to be of them that it should be thy grief if thou do any waies grieve them My son help thy father in his age and grieve him not as long as he liveth Thou must be cheerful to them not violate this piety so much as with an ill looke A necessary document for those prodigals which will not be warned from ryot and lewd company until they bring their parents hoary head with sorrow to the grave and necessity bring them home in rags as also to the profane Esaus whose impious matches are a griefe of minde unto Isaac and make
and how canst thou correct thy children for imitating thee when thou doest worst in teaching by example When they learne cursing swearing profanation intemperance rude and foul language which hath cost many a life obscence and â—ilthy talke irreligion and neglect of all good duties from parents they think themselves justified by their sins Hence usually is hatched an evil egge of a bad bird a corrupt and cursed seed Hence cometh it to passe that children doe not more commonly inherit their fathers patrimonies then their vices and sooner are they possessed of these then them those come to them after their fathers death these in their life so have they descended to them true vices before those things which are but falsly called good Woe worth such parents and miserable are their children beyond those who by their parents impious superstition passed through those Moloch flames wherein a soon dying body perished but here is the danger of body and soul eternally perishing in hells unquenchable fire The heathen would have taught these seeming Christians better Let nothing said he uncomely to be spoken or done so much as touch these doors within which there is a childe If any evil in thy family happen to be done it ought with much discretion to be drawn to a present example of detestation of that sinne as the Spartans woont to shew their drunken servants to their children that by their discomposed deportments and loathsome deformity they might learn to detest drunkennesse 10. Pray continually for thy children O that Ismaël might live in thy sight cryed Abraham Gen. 17. 18. Job rose up early every day to sacrifice for his sonnes lest they should beare some inexpiated sinnes Job 1. 5. Thine owne experience of the folly and frailty of youth their ignorance pronenesse to error and sinne their many dangerous temptations should stirre up thy natural affâ—ctions to this duety unexcusable before God are they that neglect it and damnable they who instead of praying for them curse them on inconsiderable and lesse grounds then that which instigated Micha's mother thereto Jud. 17. 2. No wonder said the heathen that so many children prove impious seeing they grow up among their parents curses It is true the causelesse curse shall not come and that God can turn a Balaam's curse into a blessing yet Jotham's curse fell on the wicked Shechemites and heavily fell good Noah's on Cham and his posterity yea impious parents commonly see the fruits of their rash curses in their childrens ruine 11. Look on thy children as the blessings which God hath given thee we are all the sonnes of Time which devoureth all it own brood we have here â—o continuing city wee must all part again until wee meet in eternity when God took away Job's dear children he said The Lord gave and the Lord hath taken away blessed be the name of the Lord It is no little bitternesse to flesh and blood to loose hopeful children but we must in such case consider how much more happy they who rest in Christ are then we who survive to mourne for them It is one of the most incongruous acts of a reasonable soule to bewaile those whom wee beleeve blessed Next we must consider God's justice afflicting us for loving things humane too much and his mercy in taking them away from evils to come disburdening us of the care he entrusted to us for a time nor can any say what a childe may prove there are Adoniahs and Absoloms still sweet children but rebellious men there are lovely Dinahs and fair Tamars pleasant children but in their maturity bitter break-hearts Neither may wee sorrow as men without hope wee have not lost them but their company for a time David who bewailed an impious sonne bitterly comforted himself in the death of his harmless infant I shall go to him he shall not return to me Do not deceive thy self God hath given thee a short use not any lasting propriety in things secular when they told a prudent heathen of his deare sonnes death he replyed I knew I had begotten a mortal sonne Thou canst not want examples of mortality in thine own family wherein thou missest many of thy Ancestors and friends let nothing seem unsufferable or strange to thee which is both common and inevitable be sure thou want not the true use thereof which is a due value of all things present and making haste to provide thy selfe and children for a better life in the want of a good childe rather rejoice that thou hadst such an one then lament that hee is gone into God's kingdome of glory before thee while thou enjoyest their company remember to instruct them for eternity he said true An aged father is a fugitive pleasure and so are yong children thou knowest not when they goe out of thy sight whether ever thou shalt see them again till thou meet them in the kingdom of heaven there all teares shall be wiped from thine eies there shall be no more sinne sorrow curse nor fear of deaths parting deare friends there shall be blessednesse without measure or end A Parents praier for his Children O Lord God everlasting father of mercy of whom is named the whole family in heaven and earth abundant in goodnesse and trueth shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love thee and keep thy commandements Give mee grace to be upright and holy before thee that it may according to thy promise who canst not deceive go well with me and my children after mee Thou who art the God of my fathers and hast preserved me from my mothers womb who hast blessings in store for all that fear thee for their generations who depend on thee plant thy fear in every one of their hearts and sanctifie them bodies and soules whom thou hast given mee so that in whatsoever state and condition thy providence shall set them it may be my comfort and assurance that they are thy faithful and elect servants that thou maist be pleased to dispose of them as thine own to their several places and callings to which thy fatherly providence hath assigned them Lord season their tender years with grace and trueth help them and blesse them with blessings of heaven above and the earth beneath and let my blessings prevail above the blessings of my fathers give them assurance of their adoption in Christ Jesus keep them and order their steps in the way which thou wouldst have them walke in let thy faithfulnesse and mercy be with them all the daies of their lives be thou a father and rock of salvation unto them keep them by thy sanctifying spirit holy and sincere before thee uphold them that their foot-steps slip not be thou the guide of their youth keep their tender years from sinne and shame take not thy mercy and thy trueth from them preserve them from the houre of tentation in life and
Rebecca cry I am weary of my life because of the daughters of Heth. Now though it be true he that doubteth whether he ought to worship God and honour his parents rather wanteth stripes then arguments yet seeing the corrupt nature of man is prone to all impiety I will hereto adde some motives to this duety 1. It is the only commandement with promise of reward Honour thy father and thy mother that thy dayes may be long in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee that it may goe well with thee the son of Sirach saith Honour thy father and thy mother that a blessing may come upon thee from them 2. This is just before God and pleasing to him releeving thy father shall not be forgotten in the day of thy affliction it shall be remembred 3. A third motive may be taken from the contrary curse to him that any way dishonoreth father or mother 1. Cursed is he that setteth light by his father or his mother there is no more evident signe of an impious minde then contempt of parents 2. He that wasteth his father and chaseth away his mother is a son that causeth shame and whosoever robbeth father or mother and saith it is no transgression the same is the companion of a destroyer 3. The eie that mocketh at his father and despiseth to obey his mother the ravens of the valley shall pick it out 4. Whoso curseth his father or his mother his lamp shall be put out in obscure darknesse every one that curseth his father or his mother shall surely be put to death his blood shall be upon him so he that smiteth father or mother there is no lesse punishment severe enough for such an unnatural prodigie as a parricide or hee that retributeth injury where he oweth highest gratitude 5. Lastly I wish all disobedient children to read Deut. 21. 18 c. If a man have a stubborn and rebellious son which will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother and that when they have chastened him will not hearken unto them then shall his father and his mother lay hold on him and bring him unto the Elders of his city c. and the men of the city shall stone him with stones that he dye so shalt thou put away evil from among you A Praier for children to use O Lord God who hast ordained strength in the mouthes of babes and sucklings sanctifying them from the womb open our lips that wee may shew forth thy praise holy Lord Jesus who taking up children into thy sacred armes declaredst that unto such belongeth the kingdome of God who for our redemption becamest an infant and for our instruction obedient to humane parents who art the eternal son of God have mercy on us sanctify us bodies and soules unto thy kingdom and service keep us in our tender years by thy holy spirit from all the errors sins and pollutions of youth make us sincerely obedient to our God that in him wee may honor and obey our parents in all things in reverence and thankefulnesse for their tender care over us blesse their endeavours to provide for us spare them that they may live to bring us up in thy faith feare and love that thy great name may be glorified and they comforted in us and we with them preserved unto thine everlasting kingdom through Jesus Christ our ever blessed Lord and Saviour AMEN CHAP. XXVI Of the wounded spirit or conscience afflicted by the apprehension of Gods wrath against some great sinnes spiritual wants or fear of tentations § 1. What a wounded spirit is how great an affliction what the conscience is how comfortable the peace thereof why God afflicteth his § 2. What things principally wound the conscience § 3. What they who are afflicted with the apprehension of Gods wrath against them must consider § 4. What they must examine § 5. What they must practice 1. I Have spoken concerning the guidance of the Thoughts Words and Actions in generall and in some particular relations to external dueties I shall now endeavour to give directions suitable to some conditions first of the inward man and next of the outward The spirit of man will bear his infirmity but a wounded spirit who can beare saith Solomon The word signifieth a smitten contrite or broken spirit It is a manner of speaking borrowed from bodily afflictions by stripes contusions bruises or wounds wherein by cutting or hurting the sinews and veins the body weakened and endangered without cure to death disabled so that it cannot support it self is apt to inflammations and distempers every light touch hurteth it it depriveth a man of rest so that he is impatient of this present posture and more grieved at the change To expresse the intense sorrow of the soule weak confidence and enfeebled life of the spirit God calleth it a wounded spirit 2. This affliction is so great as it exceedeth all other temporal sorrows and is such as none can truely judge of but they who have with David seen confinia inferni as he saith Psal. 116. 3. The sorrowes of death compassed me and the paines of hell gat hold upon me or found me Other sorrowes may be eased by giving the afflicted something equivalent to that whose losse grieveth him as where one treasure is lost and another found or by some compensation and repair as Job had a second brood and encrease of wealth Elkanah intimated such a medium consolationis when hee said to afflicted Hannah Am not I better to thee then ten sonnes but so can this never be if you give a man of an afflicted spirit riches company of dearest friends or that which might relieve refresh or delight some others you do no more ease him then you could the broken bones by putting on some purple or rich robes no no the grief is within and there must be cured nothing external can do it in other griefes time will mitigate sunt verba voces excellent lenitives of sorrow in some other kindes wine merry company musick or the like meanes may have some part as the wise man saith Give strong drink to him that is ready to perish and wine to those that be of heavy hearts let him drinke and forget his poverty and remember his misery no more So Davids harp could for the time refresh Saul and charme the evil spirit but this grief admitteth of no efficacy in such comforts In other pressures wee may be eased or conveyed away from the evil as Paul was from the Jews conspiracy as David from Saul but there is no flight from a wounded spirit Whither ever we goe we carry our affliction with us our secret tormenter in us In fine as it is in sense of a separation from God the reality whereof is the second death so no creature in heaven or earth can cure it there can be
the Woman was of the man without paine because innocent but now the man is of the woman with her sorrow because she hath sinned a sorrow so intense and embittered with feare and anguish that the Holy Ghost hereby expresseth the condition of the fainting afflicted and dejected spirit in sodaine feares of the affrighted conscience expecting an inevitable judgement The hower of birth and death the entrance and exit of this World being solely in Gods hand and secret counsaile none else knowing the time nor being able to dispose thereof reason more then apparent urgeth the necessity of addresse to him 2. Some are the sepulchers of their Children gone out of ere they came into this World exiled before they saw a native soile advanced from a short imprisonment in the wombe to the glorious liberty of the sonnes of God to the blessed Kingdome of Heaven before they touched this cursebearing earth some see their Benoni and thence have passage into eternall life where the sentence of death began some live to tast their sorrowes allay in â—he sweetest temper of divine mercy with justice becoming rejoycing mothers all is disposed by the all-guiding providence and unlessened power of Gods word who at the beginning but spake and it was done It hath much troubled some to think why if our sinnes be pardoned in Christ are not the punishments thereof also taken away as here why the elect and reprobate the chast matron and filthy adultresse should in this sentence share and suffer alike for satisfaction herein let the servant of God considerâ— 1. That whereas all sinne though not in the same kinde measure or degrees there remaining the same cause there must remaine the same effect in all that bring forth 2. This life is the stadium or race which we have through the variable distractions and tryalls of seducing pleasures and dejecting paines so to runne that we may obtaine here all are a like the Wheat and the tares must grow up togeather unto the harvest the difference shall appeare in the binding up which shall sufficiently crowne or punish 3. Gods finall sentence is adjourned to the Worlds great Assizes the day in which he hath appointed to judge in righteousnesse if he should by present rewards or punishments distinguish between good and evill the matter of Religion would seem acted by selfe-love feare awing and gaine alluring servile mindes to secure and serve themselves not God rather then the love of God which is the summe and ground of all true obedience nor should men according to the mercifull ordinance of God live by Faith but sense the lives of beasts rather then of men they are drawn to obsequie by rewards held out to them or compelled to duty by stripes but these by Faith in the promises of God even when there appeareth in things externall no difference between the wicked and the just nor indeed should God otherwise leave a due place for faiths reward which is not slitely tryed by our present sharing in secular evills with the wicked nor so just and great a punishment of sinne by permitting the disobedient to runne on in their own wayes storing up wrath against the day of wrath and greatning their own damnation 4. Though there is much difference in the issue between the temporall afflictions common to elect and reprobate they being the beginning of destruction to these and a fatherly correction to the other that they might not be condemned with the World yet he continueth them to his dearest children in this life that they may make them throughly sensible of the odiousnesse of sinne by the bitter effects thereof of Gods immutable and inviolable justice the same now which it was when this dolefull sentence was first pronounced of the corrupted state of mans depraved nature conceived in sinne and therefore comming into living in and going out of the World with sorrow and lastly of the necessity of our repaire by faith and continuall renewing our repentance 5. As all other afflictions are not only mitigated but made good to the Saints and coâ—perative for the best to them that love God so is this for through this temporall Childbearing they shall be saved if they continue in Faith and Charity with holinesse and sobriety and in the mean time they are not without their peculiar comforts 1. Our Saviour noted it So soon as she is delivered of the child she remembreth no more the anguish for joy that a man is borne into the World Doubtlesse as it was and is an affliction to be childlesse so it cannot but be a comfort to her that by an holy progeny encreaseth the Kingdome of God to be her Husbands blessing a fruitfull Vine upon the walls of his house God promising the fruit of the wombe and the sweet Olive branches round about the table for a blessing to them that feare him and walke in his waies 2. It must be a comfort to consider how God not only in Christ in whom male and female have equall interest hath taken off the curse from this sexe made coe-heires with us of the same grace but also the dishonour and bitternesse of their sentence by some peculiar favours and consolations as first that he sent forth his Sonne made of a Woman without man so that he made her mother of Christ according to the flesh that shee might by the power of the most high conceive her Saviour that as shee was the unhappy doore to let in sorrowes and paines deaths terrible harbingers and destruction on all her posterity so she might be to let in Christ the peace happinesse redeemer and life of all the elect Secondly that God made her seed to break the serpents head 3. That he made a Woman the first witnesse of the accomplishment thereof in his resurrection from the dead that the sexe that first heard and felt the sentence on sinne should first see and beleeve the ransome of our sinne there accomplished where death was absolutely vanquished 3. In the sweet object of their affection they most tenderly love who suffer the most bitter sorrow for Children God sometimes expresseth the constancy of his love by a mothers can a Mother forget could a greater among the children of men have been found his infinite love and compassion towards man should have been weighed by it 4. In their Husbands greater love as Leah said now therefore my Husband will love me none but the unnaturall but will have compassion and the more tender love to her by whose sorrowes God hath made him glad by the comfort of deare Children pledges of his posterity 5. In their Childrens love and duty who forsake not the law of their mother as fooles who are their living sorrowes onely the wicked forget their Mothers paines and care for them the ravens of the vallies are too milde executioners for them who despise their Mother when shee is old who looketh
Prayer for one ready to receive the Lords Supper pag. 111. A private Prayer after reâ—eiving the Lords Supper pag. 112. Another private Prayer immediately after receiving the Lords Supper pag. 113. 15 Of the Sabbath the name institution things considerable for the sanctification the beginning and ending reasons of the institution the change of the Lords day now to be observed of all Christians how we must sanctifie it p. 114. A Prayer for the Sabbath day morning pag. 125. To the ordinary evening prayer may be added this private prayer for the Sabbath p. 128. 16 Of Love and Charity what they are how they differ in their objects love to God considerable in the object and measure severall states degrees perpetuity and opposition signes thereof common lets meanes on our part to be used c. motives to incite us thereto pag. 129. A prayer for love to God pag. 14â— 17 Of love to our selves kinds thereof love to our neighbour the necessity and excellency thereof conditions and signes of friendship what and how excellent it is the true end and lawes thereof what choice we are to make of friends and whom to avoid of love to our enemies we ought to love them without any malice and to make a right use of them p. 144. A Prayer for Love and Charity p. 180. 18 Of the soule affections mind and thoughts in generall corruption of the heart danger difficulty of the cure necessity of a right ordering our thoughts rules of practice pag. 181. 19 Of right ordering the thoughts in respect of some particular passions affections and perturbations of the mind in their distempers of love delight joy rejoycing mirth sorrow anger hatred malice envy impatience discontent a contented mind pag. 201. The Prayer for patience pag. 226. 20 Of Hope Feare Cares Iealousies pag. 227. A prayer for hope p. 233. A Prayer against feare p. 240. A Prayer against cares pag. 241. A Prayer for sanctification of the thoughts pag. 250. 21 Guidance of the tongue excellent use abuse evils of the tongue concluding the necessity of a right guidance thereof motives thereto rules by which it may be done pag. 252. A Prayer pag. 265. 22 Of externall actions in generall whence the good are how requisite how regulated rules concerning them pag. 266. The Prayer pag 270. 23 Government of Families duties of Masters and Servants motives to their duties pag. 271. A short morning prayer with a Family p. 277. Another Morning Prayer for a Family pag 278. A short Evening Prayer p. 282. An Evening Prayer for a Family more enlarged p. 283. 24 Of Marriage institution end and fruits thereof of choice in generall and particular who are to be avoided Duties of the married mutuall and peculiar advice to widdowes p. 287. the prayer pag 299. 25 Duties of Parents and Children honour to parents want of children good parents of evill children duty of the parent rules thereto belonging duties of children rules thereof motives thereâ—to p. 299. the parents Prayer p. 310. the childrens prayer p. 315. 26 Of the wounded spirit or afflicted conscience what it is how great an affliction what the conscience iâ— How comfortable the peace thereof why God afflicteth his What things principally wound the conscience What they who are afflicted with the apprehension of Gods wrath against their sinnes must consider What they must examine and practise p. 316. the prayer p. 336 27 Sense of spirituall wants afflicteth but not so much endangereth the soule what we are herein to consider examine and practise p 337. the prayer 344. 28 Of the conscience afflicted with feare of tentations and falling away what we are herein to consider examine and practise pag 346 an ejaculation to be used as soone as thou awakest pag 354 another for thy last waking pag. ib. the prayer of a wounded spirit against temptations p. 355. 29 Guidance of the mind in encrease of wealth afflictions common their fruit in good men poverty a great tryall riches great temptations commonly mistaken how to guide the minde in encrease of riches or a full inheritance pag. 357. the rich mans petition pag. 364. 30 Poverty a great temptation yet having a capacity of true happinesse what we are to consider herein and what to practise pag. 365. the poore mans petition pag 373 31 Of liberty and restraint misplaced by an injurious world comforts for prisoners rules hereto appertaining p 374 the prisoners petition pag 384. 32 Of Banishment severall kinds generall cause what we must doe to be comforted herein pag. 391. the banished mans petition pag. 399. 33 Of old age common evills thereof the foundation must be happily laid in youth how the evills of age may be lesâ—ed or more patiently borne by what rules of practise it may be improved to comfort pag 400. the old mans supplication pag 414. 34 Meditations for women neere their travell all misery is from sin sins pardoned in Christ why the punishments are not taken away womens comforts therein directions necessary thereto p. 415 a prayer for them in or neere their travaile pag 422. â— thankesgiving pag 425. 35 Directions for the sicke as all afflictions sanctified so sicknesse is profitable for Gods children many waies how it may become so to us duties of those that visit the sick pag 425. a prayer for the sicke pag 430. thankesgiving for health recovered pag 434. another after the ceasing of the plague p. 435. 36 Meditations concerning death seeing all must dye how to prepare that death may not be terrible meanes to comfort in death of deare friends comforts against death pag 439 a prayer for him that is at the point of death or hath received the sentence of death in himselfe pag 454. ERRATA Pag. 2. marg read invenâ—rint p. 4. m. r. placat p. 5. m. sin r. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 p. 7. l. 2. our soules p. 8. l. 3. r. Satan Subtile p. 13. m. r. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 p 15. m. r. hac mundi domo ib. l. 32. r he must therefore p 17 l. 28. the first cause 22. l. 18. holy ascentions p. 24. l. penâ—lt r. marketh the Church p. 25. l. 10. was reserved 29. l. 35 by the power p. 31. l ult so was fulfilled p. 32 l. 16. r. as the heire ib. l. ult changes p. 37. l. 4. the place p. 38. l. â—3 encrease thy p. 48. l. 9. r. in thee ib. r. Concerning the Holy Ghost § 1. what we are p. 51. l. 2. r. whereof he â—b l. 3. sheepfold p. 52. l. 6. are but onâ— p. 62. l. 2. there is entire p. 64. l. 3. what use we p. 66. l. 16. bearing in life p. 72. l. 21. beare all p. 74. 19. the confidence p. 78. l. 33. he looketh on 79. l. 11. his brethren 93 l. 27. preserve thee 95 l. 30. to the deafe 98. l. 7. in their legends 117 l. 14. to intimate 137. l. 14. and have his 146. l. 19. not so for it â—nd 174. l. 4. feeding on thee
is a feare of unbeleefe in them that love the sin but feare the punishment thereof this is that servile fear which affecteth the wicked which though it sometimes restraine them from the externall acts of sinne yet is it not master of any constant duety so soone as their feare is over they are as bad or worse then ever as wee see in Pharoah This feare becometh not the children of God because it is ever with a guilty conscience unbeleefe and expectation of God's just judgment on their sinnes without hope in Christ wherefore should I feare in the daies of evil said the Psalmist for God is with them I will feare none evill for thou art with mee The Lord is my light and my salvation whom shall I feare the Lord is the strength of my life of whom shall I be afraid the wicked feare where no feare is they feare not God for love of God but for self-love and feare of punishment as the Grecians worshiped their false gods and poor men the great Lords which is a symptom of a base and impious minde prohibited to the children of God to whom it is said Be not afraid of sudden fear for the Lord shall be thy confidence and shall keep thee from being taken Feare thou not saith the Lord for I am with thee be not dismayed for I am thy God I will strengthen thee and I will helpe thee Feare not for I have redeemed thee All which Precepts are to be understood of servile feare which is to despaire of God's mercy rendring men desperate not provident to avoid danger neither more earnest to flie to God for helpe The first may appeare in Jehoram's message Behold said that wreeth this evill cometh of the Lord should I any longer wait on the Lord and in that precipitate counsell Job 2. 9. Curse God and die The second effect we read in Jacob in danger of his life instantly praying and sending presents to appease his revengefull brother not to be afraid of God's judgements on sinne is carnal security and stupid carelesnesse of feared consciences not to feare imminent dangers is improvident torpor of minde not to feare the dreadfull presence of God must needs be in sinfull man ignorance of God and a mans own selfe Moses and Danielâ—eared â—eared this On the other part to be a timerous Antemon for feare keeping home continually with his two servants ever guarding his head with a brasse shield held over it is not only an impious but a ridiculous fear To feare men more then God as Saul did 1 Sam. 15. 24. is the feare of Hypocrites to feare without confidence in God for the diversion of evill as Belshazzar when seeing the hand writing upon the wall his knees trembled and the joints of his loines were loosed or as Saul at Endor is the fear of those who feare not God aright This fear is the perpetual torment of the wicked conscience an imperious mischief an anticipation of evill not yet come making a man unhappy not onely with present evills but with future which but for â—ear could no way reach him as that feare of inevitable death which maketh men continually die for feare of dying once But to feare God with a filiall feare proceeding of love to him is as the fountain of wisedome so of true happinesse God regardeth such he will deliver them and fulfill their desire hee will teach them the way of righteousnesse they shall want nothing that is good when they seeme most to lack they shall have supply of that or something better it shall be health and strength to them Understanding temporal blessings and eternal and a minde to doe good and deale uprightly with men as appeared in Obadiah 1 King 18. 3 12 13. and Joseph Gen. 42. 10. This feare maketh every little more then great riches to the wicked it is the souls Angel-guardian Innocencies keeper Securities antidote the mindes centinel to awaken it and give the alarme against the assaults of the subtile enemie This giveth a man â—â—ue and unâ—ailing confidence 't is the summe of that which God requireth of us Deut. 10. 12. the whole duety of a man 〈◊〉 12. 14. of this only is that saying true the mother oâ— the fearfull useth not to cry because such are truely blessed 3. Now because we are men not yet perfect in love and so subject to many fears and subject to many sinnes failings and hazzards and therein to some dangerous groavings of servile feare by God's mercy turned in the issue to our good for if we are so prone to sinne under so much feare what would wee be if wee were secure from all these like rules are necessary to the ordering of our thoughts in feares 1. For God's glory and thy salvation contemne any danger It was Christ's precept Feare them not who are able to destroy the body only for they cannot make thee unhappy they may adde to thy blessednesse if thou bearest injuries well These objects are only terrible like that Cumane asse in the Lions skinne to those that know them not or the Crocodile fierce against the fearfull fearfull of the daring or to the impatient who cannot stoop to take up the crosse which like Moses rod thrown down became a dreadfull serpent but at God's command resumed an harmless rod to divide the bitter floods and open a way into the promised rest many men great â—n their owne feares deluding fancy making that monstrous which right reason would discover hurtlesse in a constant and prudent resolution to meet with difficulties 2. Fear God and be not â—aint-hearted endeavour to set thy minde upon such a stay of moderation that thy resolution neither rise to temerity nor fall to timidity neither to dare nor to be afraid of all things nor of nothing but between both beare such a temper as that wisedom may have place to sit at the helme withoâ—t the interruption of either extream Sanctifie the Lord of hosts and let him be your feare and your dread and hee shall be your Sanctuary but feare not their feare who say a confederacy The present feare of God createth us an eternall security fear him and thou shalt not be afraid of man though I walke in the valley of the shadow of death I will fear none evil for thou art with mee Psalm 23. 4. The Lord is on my side I will not feare c. Psal. 71. 1. The feare of the Lord like Moses serpent devoureth all the inchanters serpents swalloweth up all other fears 3. In every danger lay to heart the omnipotency of God and learne to trust in him hee that so doth shall be safe when the fiery fornace was threatned Shadrah Meshach and Abednego they answered the incensed King Our God whom we serve is able to deliver us his
our own consciences placing religion in those things which God hath left indifferent as they who prohibited certaine meats or marriage nor will wee dispense with that word in any one point for by any humane authority pretended or pressed to the contrary 3. In all thy actions and designes before thou enterprise duely and seriously consider the end thereof that is as wee have noted like the rudder in the ship though iâ— come last it directeth first and last look before thee and consider what must be the end O that they were wise saith the Lord that they understood this that they would consider their later end so shalt thou at once and ever conclude of all sinful actions with the Apostle The end of those things is death 4. In all thy actions set thy selfe ever in the presence of God so did David professe Psal. 16. 8. ever remember that thou art in his sight and that nothing thou doest or thinkest can be hid from him neither solitude nor darknesse can vaile thee Psal. 139. 11 c. 5. In all that thou doest be sure to hold the rule of charity for that is the fulfilling of the Law this is the fruit of God's Spirit let all things be done in charity there can be nothing acceptable to God which doth not hold this 6. In all religious well designed acts be what thou seemest the hypocrite doth but personate act and counterfeit the saint hee seemeth good but is doubly impious as the Orator said of the Servilii which were very like but not the same so like that they were not distinguished abroad at home they were not of strangers by their own they were When the hypocrite hath deceived other men he never can beguile his owne conscience be thou therefore just and sincere in thy deportment before God and man 7. Do nothing to others which thou wouldst not have done to thee 't is Christ's rule and the summe of the law and the Prophets concerning our duety in the second Table 8. Doe nothing whereof thou must at best bitterly repent thee when the Philosopher had a great price of folly set him he answered I will not buy repentance so dear 9. Doe nothing against thy conscience for fear or favor of men esteem a good testimony thereof before all treasure in some things we sinne all but blessed are they that condemne not themselves in those things they know 10. In every undertaking pray God to direct counsel and blesse thee in every thing by praier and supplication let your requests be made knowne unto God hee is unworthy to be blessed in his works who will not acknowledge God's providence in asking the same A Praier for direction in all our actions MOst merciful Father who hast promised that if the wicked turne from his sins that he hath committed and do that which is lawfull and right he shall live and his transgressions shall not be mentioned unto him in humble acknowledgment of our many sinnes the equity of thy judgments to give us over to our own unhappy waies who have so long refused to be guided by thy holy word and our owne helplesse impotency to stay our selves turn unto thee or set our selves in any good way to serve and please thee wee pray thee for Christ Jesus sake to pardon all our misdeeds and to vouchsafe to lead us in thy pathes and the way thou wouldst have us to walke in we have long gone astray like lost sheep and thou best knowest O our God how dangerous Satan's snares are to us how many the distractions of a beguiling world how fraile and infirme sinful flesh and blood and how many our errours But O Lord thy wisedom cannot erre therefore renouncing our own guidance wee render our selves into thy gracious hands humbly beseeching thee who freely givest wisedom to all that aske and upbraidest no man hold thou up our goings in thy pathes that we faile not direct all our waies that we neither decline to the right hand nor to the lest to offend thee Give us the shield of our salvation and let thy right hand uphold us O thou that hearest the prayers of them that call upon thee heare us for our soules waite on thee direct and guide us keepe us and counsell us in all our actions that we may neither do nor designe any thing but that which is pleasing to thee and which thou wilt blesse unto us that we may walk unblamably and prudently toward all men and holily before thee that in all our actions wee may glorifie thee that wee may adorne the Gospel of Christ by our holy conversations give good example to our neighbours and stop the mouthes of all malicious adversaries so that when these daies of sin are ended we shall rest from our labors we may enter into that promised rest which remaineth for thy people where shall be no more sin error nor curse hear us O Lord in these and all other things necessary for our bodies or soules for Jesus Christ his sake Amen CHAP. XXIII Of the government of Families the dueties of Masters and Servants Husbands and Wives Parents and Children § 1. Of a Familie § 2. Dueties of Masters § 3. Dueties of a Servant § 4. Motives to their dutie 1. WEe have spoken of actions in general and come now to the particular falling under domestick relations of Master and Servant Man and Wife Parents and Children Duties of Publick Persons are without the verge of my present purpose 2. A Family is an epitomy and summe of a Common-wealth which consisteth of several families as the ocean of drops therefore hee meriteth well of the state who well administreth his owne family as he deserveth punishment who doth the contrary A good Patriot equally solicitous for the state and family is a rare jewell but more rare though of lesse worth is an Aristides blame-worthy in this that in his justice and care for the Republick hee was so unjust to and carelesse for his owne family that leaving them to the publick charity hee dishonored vertue with his poverty and herein his policy was lame 3. Some have distributed the family into three parts the first commandeth as Master the second commandeth but not in chiefe as the good vine not on the top but sides of the house the third are auxiliar onely obeying as children and servants 4. Now though this be the order and order so necessaâ—y that without it no society of man can subsist yet must it be with that sanctity and equity that the God of order may be known to govern though man administer and with that lenity and candor of command and willing reverence in obeying that all may seem managed with love not feare familiarity rather then rigid and imperious severity for which I suppose the ancient Latines comprised all three orders under the name of Familiares 5. God in his abundant mercy as hee hath not been sparing
to reveale his will for our salvation so neither in any thing which concerneth our present comfort and well being his word is a full store-house of spirituall consolations and directions of the outward man able to make him wise to salvation There is no condition of man no state of life which hath not directions here layed downe from the King to the poore Master of the cottage from imperial Potentates to poore Vassals here are precepts and counsels which being religiously observed will make a man happy in any estate The duety of a Master of a Family is reducible to these heads 1. That hee care and provide for his family otherwise hee denieth the faith and is worse then an infidel Carelesnesse and sloth are the mother and nurse of misery and confusion See Pro. 20. 4. Pro 2. 24 27. Pro 18. 9. Pro 21. 25. Eccles 10. 18. Pro. 24. 30 31 34. Destruction of many noble families hath been through prodigality vaine profusion in diet apparrel building suretiship and the like 2. That hee instruct his family in the fear God and exercises of true religion as Abraham did as those who call them together to prayer reading and hearing some portion of holy Scripture singing Psalmes repetition and giving an account what they have learned from the publick ministery of God's Word catechising and instructing them at all convenient times at home and seeing them presented to the publick ministery Mine eies said David shall be upon the faithful of the land that they may dwell with mee hee that walketh in a perfect way shall serve mee hee that worketh deceit shall not dwell in mine house hee that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight Reason it selfe easily concludeth that thou shouldst teach thy servants to serve God first that they may conscionably serve thee But canst thou think that hee will be faithfull to thee who is perfidious to God It was Constantines rule when as by Jehu's stratagem hee informed himselfe which of his courtiers were God's servants and which idolaters that he might banish these and encourage the other Canst thou think that thou oughtst to have better servants then God Know this that sinne is a cursed leproâ—ie in an house bringing God's anger and many plagues upon it Now whereas example is indeed the most powerfull Rhetorick the onely way to teach is to doe that which thou wouldst have another learne be sure that thou who art a master of a family give no ill example in thy house if thy servants see the impious profane profuse drunken or lazy they will imitate thee as thou servest God so will they thee If thy servant knoweth any evil of thee hee can keep thee in awe and so thy worst enemies may be they of thine own house therefore the wise man saith Beware of thine owne children 3. That hee do unto his servants that which is equal considering the impartiality of God's judgement moderately commanding not over-burdening them with labours remembring that they are men not beasts to whom men ought to be merciful as their fellow creatures not threatning or afflicting them with cruelty beating maiming or wounding God cautioned that the Hebrew servant should after six yeeres service be manumissed and set free and so in case of maiming It is folly to create contempt by too much familiarity and it is impiety to contemn him that is Christ's free-man bought with the sameprice and heire of the same kingdom of heaven with thee and what knowest thou but that God hath appointed thy servant to save thy life as a captive maid did for Naaman or thy soule When Antigonus saw his sonne cruelly entreating a servant hee said knowest not thou O Sonne that our kingdome is but a glorious servitude And Demonax in like case said Leave beating him lest thou become like thy servant such are humane conditions slaves have become masters and great Lords servants but to serve passion is the worst slavery hereof Croesus Darius Sampson Adonibezek Manasses and many others have been examples Be thou not therefore as a lyon in thine own house nor frantick among thy servants let them love thee rather then fear thee 4. Let not thy hirelings wages remaine with thee neither be thou rash upon every frivolous occasion to change servants remember that a faithfull servant is a jewel not alwaies to be purchased nor may wee be too impatient of some failings who each day begge Gods pardon for ours with condition of forgiving others be not fond to keep a fugitive Onesimus or any servant against his will Diogenes was so farre right when they perswaded him to pursue his Manes 'T were a shame said he that Manes should be able to live without Diogenes and that Diogenes should not be able to live without Manes If a true servant be not willing to go from thee leave him not destitute let thy soule love a good servant and desraud him not of liberty The duty of a Servant may be understood in these and the like rules 1. Servants be obedient to them that are your Masters with feare and trembling in singlenesse of heart as unto Christ in all things which are subordinate to God's commands otherwise God must be obeyed and not man Saul's servants who sought him a witch and killed the Preists at his command sinned so did David's who fetcht him Bathsheba and Joab who betrayed Vriah to the enemie so did those Elders who obeyed Jezabel against Naboth so did Vriah the Priest in making an altar according to the pattern from Damaseus so did Herod's servants in beheading John the good servant must not obey only with eie-service as men-pleasers but in singienesse of heart fearing God to a good man God is ever and every where a present law How can I do this great wickednesse and sin against God said conscientious Joseph To this rule appertaineth that which the Apostle saith Tit. 2. 9. Exhort servants to be obedient not purloining but shewing good fidelity to do according to their trust as Abraham's servant did as Joseph and as David's servants as also that they may not be given to prating and divulging the secrets of their Masters family nor for fear or favour concealing their Masters dangers injuries or disadvantages from them 2. Let servants count their Masters worthy of all honour that they despise them not and this subjection must be given not only to the good and gentle but also to the froward 1 Pet. 2. 18. To this appertaineth that they be neither flatterers nor backbiters of their Masters that they forget not their duety but keepe that distance which may preserve a due reverence which is indeed a servants honor contrary to that rustick procacity which speaketh them base and unmannerly 3. That servants be true hating lying lest Gehazie's curse fall on them David would entertain no lyar in his
too great for the bottome farre more safe is it to enjoy a concealed estate then to oâ—tent and exceed a broken one Secondly it is necessary to know the qualities of thy family we are many times the last that heare of the exorbitances of our houses the neighbours whisper and children sing our reproaches in the streets before we so much as suspect them something there is in affection which eft soon blindeth the wise with too secure opinion of their childrens good nature and discretion to deport themselves so Augustus Caesar was deceived in his Julia whom he beleeved chast though he was not ignorant of that dangerous symptom of immodesty her over-daring audacity until in her incurable infamy he knew that pleasures liberty luxury and vaine compture were precipices to whoredome something also there is in parents giving their children too much power to follow their own Genius led away with the fancy of that blinde-mans parents Joh. 9. 21. hee is of age hee shall speak for himselfe as if in their wilfull neglect of duety they should not be responsible to God for their children Elie's inexpiable sinne in too milde a reproofe of his debauched sonnes is a sad document to all carelesse and indulgent parents If thou do not thy uttermost endeavour to stay thy children from sin if they perish God will require their blood at thy hands if thou do though without successe thou hast delivered thy soul from that guilt 2. Another duety of parents is to do a constant and holy endeavour to provide and lay up for their children idleness carelessnesse luxury and vain expences of parents impiously betray their children and expose them to the mercy of a pitilesse world to beggery and misery It is pity that this republick among many good lawes wanteth the censorian law of the Romans to punish negligent and unthrifty men and to sequester so much of their estates as might secure the wife and children from want The Apostle marketh the idle with the black line of inordinate walking interdicting him food who will not labour and the improvident hee counteth a denier of the faith worse then an infidel Some are foolishly kinde to strangers and unnaturally carelesse of their own like the river Xalon which they say riseth in Castel and bestoweth his streames in watering Aragon Worse are they then bruits who by a natural insâ—inct with restlesse industry finde meat for their yong the hungry bird flieth with her mouth full to them Doe thy endeavour and commit the successe to God who careth for all those that trust in him but let it be an holy endeavour hee that laboureth by fraud oppréssion rapine lying robbery or any unjust way ventureth his soule to leave his children rather rich then vertâ—ous therein lesse charitable to himself then Dives in hell seemed to his brethren he would have a preacher sent them from the dead to warne them that they might not come thither Nor is this the way to leave them rich God usually bloweth upon such an estate and it cometh to nought whereas a little which the righteous hath is better then great riches of the ungodly It was David's experience I have been young and now am old yet have I not seen the righteous forsaken nor his seed begging bread that which is unjustly gotten is but a cantarides in the sweet box it corrupteth the whole store or as gravell in thy bread a mischievous accession such was poore Naboths vineyard to Ahab that little spot carried away a kingdom from his posterity a wise man will not put up one ill-gotten penny into his treasure he must needs bring a curse upon his children who will make them rich by sinne Experience hath often preached this to us in the sudden ruine of great families which like the Prophets gourd soone rose and in their acme as quickly withered away because there was a mischievous worm at the root Sinne ever carrieth a curse with it except in case of repentance which in this case cannot be without disgorging and restitution of all that which wrong or fraud had swallowed of other mens Among parents just provision for children matching them well is a principal wee reade of it in Abraham and see it in all the prudent herein respect thou most their soules health compell not but advise the best committing the main to God by whose providence if thou finde a good match thou hast gained a sonne or daughter if otherwise thou hast lost a childe 3. Count godlinesse as truely it is the greatest gain and accordingly let thy chiefe care be to bring up thy children in true wisedome and instruction of the Lord if thou wilt be happy and have thy children so and beginne betimes the new vessel will hold his first seasoning long how happy are those young Timothies who have an holy Lois and a religious Eunice to make them know the Scriptures from their childe-hood to enure them daily to the exercises of religion praier catechizing in the doctrine of faith and sanctimony reading hearing and repeating by heart some sentences of holy Scripture that the word of God may dwell plentifully in them and that all religious habits may grow up in them that they may know Christ and remember their creator in their youth in an happy childe-hood singing Hosannaâ—s to him the bloody Dionysius did nothing more cruel then when he commanded his enemies sonne to be brought up in liberty of sinne and indulgence to all which the unbridled affections of youth could lead him to how impious are those parents whose neglects or wilful connivance betray their childrens soules to hell and damnation while they delay to plant sanctity in their mindes the busie tempter taketh advantage on a corrupt nature to sow his tares and make them habitually wicked from the cradle if thy childe were fallen or wounded dangerously thou wouldst not say It will be time enough to helpe him hereafter for shame be not lesse carefull for an eternal soule then a soon decaying-body Assoone as they are capable teach them the fear of the Lord thou knowest not how soon God will take thee from them or them from thee herein there is much discretion to be used in preparing milk not strong meats for babes lest thou rather stupifie then instruct the longer thou delayest the harder the cure will be it is not an easie taske to unteach children evil habits nor canst thou reasonably think religion to be a childe of one night like the fruit which Aarons rod did beare Num. 17. 8. it is long coming to maturity we quickly learn evil but slowly good present thy yong Samuel to the Lord that he may blesse them and thee 4. Set thy children in some calling breed them not only to uselesse ceremonies There are some things in breeding children to comity and good behaviour which wee not unaptly call comâ—lements for indeed sweet comly discreet
not on her with honour tender love and duty nothing can fully recompence the ingratitude of this generation of Vipers their Mothers sorrow and destruction but hell Gods children love and honour his Ordinance in their parents For direction and comfort before their Travaile let Women 1. Spend the time of their expectation as they would doe the howers of their last day in hearty repentance for all their sinnes making their peace with God labouring to strengthen their faiths by recounting the comfortable promises of God in Christ Jesus rendring themselves with patience meeknesse and confidence into his mercifull hands who alone can keep them strengthen and comfort them in their paines and make them joyfull Mothers 2. Consult with God in all their fears and sorrowes as Rebecca did by the holy scriptures which are his Oracles giving certaine and infallible answers conference with the prudent Saints meditations and ascensions of the afflicted soule into Gods gracious presence 3. Reconcile themselves to all those whom they have injured by repairing them what they can for it is a condition of their salvation in childbearing that they continue in Faith and Charity and if all must quickly agree with their adversaries while they are in the way then they specially who as they say of Seamen may be reckoned between the living and the dead and in hazard of a sodaine convention at the barre by the end of this life 4. It must be a grave document as to all so specially to married Women of modesty and chastity I know not what comfort the adultresse can have who bringeth forth her Husbands irreparable injury her own shame Children of Whoredomes the indelible staine of their blood and their posterities dishonour all this with paine and horrour or more dangerous stupidity of a sinfull conscience whereas the good conscience of the chast is the soules rest bed of perfumes Garden of spices sorrowes lenitive griefes faire havens the soules Paradice and afflictions sanctuary with which though they have externall sorrowes yet are they blessed happy is the way however rough and fearefull by which they come to eternall life as the externall prosperity of the wicked can never make their waies better then destructive and unhappy So neither can any afflictions sorrowes feares or paines of the elect make them lesse then truely blessed because all these are but as the stepps in Jacobs ladder whose last shall land them in the presence of God as it is written we must through much tribulation enter into the Kingdome of God 5. Let them pray frequently and fervently that God would be pleased to measure their sufferings by that assistance which he will give them strengthen them to their labour mitigate their paines grant them a speedy and safe deliverance that they may enjoy the blessing of propagation to the encrease of his Kingdome the glory of his holy name and their eternall rejoycing after their temporall sorrowes which hee hath appointed them A prayer for Woemen in or neere their Travaile MOst glorious and holy Lord God almighty creator and mercifull preserver of all thy creatures who hast commanded the weary and heavy laden to come to thee and promised by the sonne of thy love and truth Christ Jesus to ease them we prostrate our selves before thy throne of mercy with bended knees and trembling hearts yet with assurance of thy faithfulnesse to performe who hast freely promised Truth it is O Lord when we consider our own deservings we can look for nothing but the severity of thy justice and rejection from thy gracious presence that thou shouldest take no delight in us when we come before thee but that the spreadiâ—g out of our hands in Prayer should be a trouble and wearinesse unto thee we confesse that destruction of body and soule by all those judgements which thou hast denounced against the first sinners is due unto us if thou enter into judgement with us we accuse and condemne our selves as most vile and utterly unable to stand in judgment before thee the searcher of the heart and reines and most unworthy of the least of those favours which our necessities compell us to beg at thy mercifull hands in confidence that thou wilt not breake the bruised reed reject the penitent nor condemne them who condemne themselves we renounce our selves that we may be found in the righteousnesse of our Lord Jesus It was he ô blessed Father who being the eternall Word Wisdome and Power by whom the World was created and is still sustained yet to save us miserable sinners and so his enemies was made flesh for us became man to set us free took on him the forme of a Servant to sanctify and redeeme us from sinne begun in our conception and encreasing from our birth vouchsafed to be conceived in the Virgins wombe by the Holy Ghost and to be borne the man of sorrowes to suffer the severity of thy wrath against sinners 't was he that dyed for our sinnes and rose againe for our justification that thereby he might pull out the sting of death and change the judgements into fatherly corrections 't was he that became a curse for us to redeeme us from the curse of the law that by his stripes we might be healed that the blessing the promise of the spirit the comforter might come on us through faith in him for his sake holy Father be reconciled to us for his sake encline thy gracious cares to our prayers now according to thine own appointment calling on thee Thou hast indeed threatned the first sinner to multiply her sorrowes in her travailes and that sentence as the sinne in which we fell is become hereditary in paines sorrow feare and anguish in these bitter effects of sinne we acknowledge thy just judgements but Lord correct us not in thine anger consider the frailty and infirmity of this poorâ— dust and earth wherewith thou hast clothed us consider not what we have done but what thy holy Sonne Jesus in that sacred flesh indivisibly united to the Godhead hath suffered for us accept his obedience who hath done and suffered all things which thy determinate counsaile had before all worlds appointed for the worke of our redemption We are unworthy to be heard but Lord heare him ascended into heaven to take possession thereof for us and now sitting at thy right hand a faithfull mediator for us and bearing the remembrance of us before thee he is truely God able to heare and help all them that call upon him faithfully and truly man who hath had experience and can be toucht with a sense of humane miseries for his sake heare us speaking the same things to thee here on earth which his own spirit helping our infirmities both dictateth to us from heaven and presenteth to thee for us in heaven Lord for his sake helpe us give us true and hearty repentance assure us of our sinnes remission and our discharge from the curse and rigor of the law
strengthen our Faith give us assurance of thy favour and mercy toward us shed abroad thy love in our hearts that all things even our sorrowes may worke together for the best to us in mercy asswage the sorrowes of this thy servant with the comfortable assurance of an happy issue give her patience to beare and ability to overcome her tryalls it was the word of justice which appointed this affliction but Lord whose mercy is over all thy workes allay the rigor of that sentence mitigate her paines speake comfort to her soule give a powerfull assistance to her weaknesse O gracious father by the power of whose word man is thus brought into the World give her a speedy and safe deliverance now that the child is come to the birth give her strength to bring forth to the encrease of thy Kingdome through the new birth by water and the holy Ghost to the comfort of thy now afflicted servant the Fathers joy and the praise of thy holy name through Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour Lord heare and grant these our Petitions and what ever else thou knowest more needfull for us through his merits in whom thou hast promised to heare us in whose mediation and words we present and conclude our petitions saying Our Father which art in heaven c. The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ c. A thanksgiving for a Woman after her Deliverance O Lord God of our salvation who mercifully enclinedst thine eare unto us in our feare and distresse who appointedst in thy Law that she should bring a paire of mourning Turtles who had not a spotlesse Lamb for a sacrifice of thanks-giving it is the same thy clemency who wilt now accept their repentance who have not that unblemished innocency which can abide the tryall of thy severe justice and their hearty desire to be truely thankfull who have nothing worthy thy acceptance to render unto thee Lord therefore accept what thy selfe hast given us to bring before thee an humble and hearty desire to returne thee the fruits of our hearts and lipps the sacrifice of praise and thanksgiving as for all thy fatherly mercies so particularly for that thou hast asswaged the sorrowes of this thy servant with a comfortable Issue that thou hast given her patience to beare ability to overcome her tryalls and strength to bring forth that by thy mercy mitigating her paines thou hast allayed the rigour of thy sentence which thy justice pronounced we acknowledge thee to be the only Lord in whose hands are the Issues of life and death the God of our health and salvation And now ô Lord perfect thine own worke as thou hast delivered thy servant from her feare and sorrow so give her an heart ever to trust and rejoyce in thee as thou hast given her this fruit of the wombe so make him an accession to the encrease of thy Kingdome by the spirit of regeneration sanctify him and keep him in his tender yeares from sinne and all the malitious assaults of the enemy give thy holy Angels charge over him to keep him in all his waies that he may grow up in thy faith feare and love so that in what ever condition thy good providence shall set him his interest and assurance may be of his election and salvation in Christ Jesus Lord accomplish thy worke of mercy to thy servant repaire her health and strength give her a faithfull heart carefully to imploy the same in thy service and the holy education of those thou hast given her assist her in the whole remainder of her life that she may pay all her vowes made to thee in her feare and trouble let the tast of these bitter fruits of sinne give her a more fervent love to thy mercy pardoning it and a greater hate to all that which offendeth thee lead her in thy waies teach her so to number her daies that she may apply her heart unto wisedome make her more and more fruitfull in all good workes and zealous of thy lawes so that her life may appeare not only restored but also improoved and made more happy to the glory of thy great name the good example of others who shall see as thy worke of mercy on her so the effects of that worke the fruits of sanctity in her to the further assurance of her conscience before thee confirmed by the experience of thy mercy in her deliverance and preservation and to the salvation of her body and soule to all eternity through Jesus Christ our Lord and onely Saviour AMEN Directions for the Sick CHAP. XXXV § 1. As all afflictions sanctified so sicknesse profitable for Gods children many waies § 2. How it may become so to us § 3. Duties of them that visit the sick 1 THere is nothing constant in this world but inconstancy and change of all things We are borne with a condition of dying mortality beginneth with life â—our sicknesse with our health we bring it from the wombe as derived to us from our first parents from the houre of whose transgression death tooke date and in the commencement of sicknesse he began to dye according to the sentence from which he became mortall and now all flesh is grasse and all the goodlinesse thereof as the flower of the feild the grasse withereth and the flower fadeth quickly and certainly though insensibly we perceive it soone withered though we cannot mark by what degrees it changeth so age and infirmity stealeth on 2 The good God as he is severe so is he mercifull neither loosing mercy in his justice nor his justice in his mercy There is nothing which befalleth the elect but it hath some good in it or by it to them accrewing Concerning afflictions David saith it is good for me that I have beene in trouble The very death of the Saints bitter as it is to flesh and blood is mercy to them blessed are the dead which dye in the Lord not only that they rest from their labours but also in that it is to them the death of sinne and passage to eternall life and so our sicknesse is profitable though it be the rod of an almighty Father it shall like Moses rod sometimes in the dreadfull shape of a serpent serve to divide the bitter waves and open us a passage to our eternall rest and so the decayes of these earthly tabernacles shall daily bring us neerer to the repaire of our eternall building in heaven therefore God sendeth sicknesse upon his dearest children whom he could as easily have rescued from death by a translation as he did Enoch and Eliah but hee maketh their sicknesse many waies proâ—itable unto them as by preparing them unto death by repentance and calling upon the Lord by weaning them from the love of this life by teaching them patience and subjection to the hand of God whereas impatience like the sea turneth all that which falleth into it even the otherwise sweet and comfortable blessings of