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Word A	Word B	Word C	Word D	Occurrence	Frequency Band	MI	MI Band	Prominent
duty_n	age_n	young_a	youth_n	292	4	9.0261	4	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A14989	A bride-bush, or A vvedding sermon compendiously describing the duties of married persons: by performing whereof, marriage shall be to them a great helpe, which now finde it a little hell.	Whately, William, 1583-1639.	1617 (1617)	STC 25296; ESTC S101310	36,172	54

also vse it to thee or is it lesse tollerable in thee Bee submissiue rather and let them learne reuerence from thee to practise to thee That woman makes her selfe vile that sets her husband at nought or else seemes to doe it 32. Secondly the wife must expresse reuerence towards her husband in her speeches and gestures before him and in his presence to others His company must make her more respectiue how shee carries herselfe towards any else Her words must not be loud and snappish to the children to the seruants in his sight If shee perceiue a fault yet must consider that her better stands by and not speake without necessity and then vtter that in more still and milde manner which in his absence shee may set on with more roundnes No woman of gouernment will allow her children and seruants to bee loud and brawling before her and shall shee before her husband bee so herselfe What is become of inferiority then Yea her reuerence doth inioyne her silence when shee stands by I meane not vtter abstinence from speech but vsing few words and those low and milde not eagre 2 Tim 2.11 not loud Paul commands the women to learne in silence The word is in quietnesse wherein be not alone inioynes a publicke but euen a generall silence to hold in the house and other like meetings for why should that bee restrained without any neede which doth well receiue a larger extent The reason of which duty is grounded euen vpon the consideration of the two sexes for euen as youth is inferiour to age and the yong folke to the aged vnlesse some other respect doe ouer-ballance this difference as sometimes it falles out that the younger is in authority and the elder vnder it the younger hath more excellent gifts the elder fewer and such like by which the inferiority of young men is shadowed and as it were couered so is the male sexe preferred before the female in degree of place dignity as all men will yeeld that read what the Scriptures speake in that behalfe Now if there bee an inferiority of the sexe by what thing should it bee better expressed rather then this by which also younger people must testifie theirs namely to speake little and low before them For what lesse thing can bee required in witnesse of this difference Let women then either excuse chat and loudnesse in young folkes before their ancients in children and seruants before them or else condemne it in themselues before their husbands yea before any men I know this duty goes against the haire for where there is suddennesse of wit and scarcity of wisedome as in the most of this sexe comparatiuely there is readines to speake and multitude of words but amongst all wise-men talakatiuenes of women chiefly when it comes to loud and earnest words hath bene reputed a fault most of all in the husbands presence Now then let women learne silence and let the reuerent account of their husbands worke in them a speciall moderation of speech whilest they bee in place 33. Thirdly the womans speeches of the husband behinde his backe must bee dutifull and respectiue Shee must not call him by light names nor talke of him with any kinde of carelesnesse and slightnes of speech much lesse with despitefull and reprochfull termes Heerein the godly fact of Sarah commended to our imitation must be followed in practice When shee thought of her husband in the absence of all company shee intituled him by the name of my Lord. If in her priuate conceit shee gaue him so good and honourable titles what would she haue done in company what in his owne presence what vnto himselfe So the women must inure themselues to submissiuenesse of thoughts and speeches in their husbands absence that they may the better practise the same in their presence for custome in this thing hath great force Who would brooke a childe speaking disgracefully and murmuring of his father behinde his backe And shall it be suffered in a wife By how much heere is more certaine tryall of her her inward affection disposition by so much must she be more attentiue to her words in such case Very dread may make a woman giue good words before her husbands face because she dares do no other and he will brooke none other but this shewes a conscionable subiection when she will not thinke nor speake of him though hee be farre from hearing without some note of good regard that those which heare may perceiue shee doth account of him as her Gouernour and her better He that allowes not an euill thought of the Prince will not allow euill speeches of the husband in priuate talke betweene neighbours for hee is the houshold Prince the domesticall King Though thinke husband bee from thee let thy feare of him bee with thee that in mentioning him to others thou shew not contempt And for Reuerence thus much 34. Obedience followes as concerning which duty a plaine text auers it to the full saying Let the Wife bee subiect to her husband in all things in the Lord. What need wee further proofe Why is shee his wife if shee will not obey and how can shee require obedience of the children and seruants if shee will not yeeld to the husband doth not shee exact it in his name and as his deputie But the thing will not bee so much questioned as the measure Not whether shee must obey but how farre Wherefore wee must extend it as farre as the Apostle to a generality of things to all things so it bee in the Lord. In whatsoeuer thing obeying of him doth not disobey God shee must obey and if not in all things it were as good in nothing It is a thankelesse seruice if not generall To yeeld alone in things that please her selfe is not to obey him but her owne affections The tryall of obedience is when it crosseth her desires To doe that which hee biddes when shee would haue done without his bidding what praise is it But this declares conscionable submission when shee chuseth to doe what her-selfe would not because her husbands wils it And seeing shee requireth the like largenesse of duty in his name from the seruants her-selfe shall bee Iudge against her-selfe if shee giue not what shee lookes to receiue But if sufficeth not that her obedience reach to all things that are lawfull vnlesse it bee also wiling ready without brawling contending thwarting sowrenesse A good worke may bee marred in the manner of doing And as good stuffe is spilt by bad making so doth the wife disgrace and disfigure her obedience if shee hang off and contend and bee impatient and will not till shee cannot chuse Needes must needes shall wee say in the Prouerbe Such kinde of yeelding declares no reuerence deserues no praise Then it is laudable commendable a note of a vertuous woman a dutifull wise when shee submits her-selfe with quietnesse cheerefully euen as a wel-broken horse turnes at the least