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A66844	The gentlewomans companion; or, A guide to the female sex containing directions of behaviour, in all places, companies, relations, and conditions, from their childhood down to old age: viz. As, children to parents. Scholars to governours. Single to servants. Virgins to suitors. Married to husbands. Huswifes to the house Mistresses to servants. Mothers to children. Widows to the world Prudent to all. With letters and discourses upon all occasions. Whereunto is added, a guide for cook-maids, dairy-maids, chamber-maids, and all others that go to service. The whole being an exact rule for the female sex in general. By Hannah Woolley.	Woolley, Hannah, fl. 1670.; Faithorne, William, 1616-1691, engraver.	1673 (1673)	Wing W3276A; ESTC R204109	139,140	297

THE Gentlewomans Companion OR A GUIDE TO THE Female Sex CONTAINING Directions of Behaviour in all Places Companies Relations and Conditions from their Childhood down to Old Age VIZ. As Children to Parents Scholars to Governours Single to Servants Virgins to Suitors Married to Husbands Huswifes to the House Mistresses to Servants Mothers to Children Widows to the World Prudent to all With LETTERS and DISCOURSES upon all Occasions Whereunto is added A Guide for Cook-maids Dairy-maids Chamber-maids and all others that go to Service The whole being an exact Rule for the Female Sex in General By Hannah Woolley LONDON Printed by A. Maxwell for Dorman Nowman at the Kings-Arms in the Poultry 1673. To all Young Ladies Gentlewomen and all Maidens whatever I Have formerly sent forth amongst you two little Books the first called The Ladies Directory the other The Cooks Guide Both which have found very good Acceptance It is near Seven years since I began to write this Book at the desire of the Book-seller and earnest intreaties of very many worthy Friends unto whom I owe more than I can do for them And when I considered the great need of such a Book as might be a Universal Companion and Guide to the Female Sex in all Relations Companies Conditions and states of Life even from Child-hood down to Old-age and from the Lady at the Court to the Cook-maid in the Country I was at length prevailed upon to do it and the rather because I knew not of any Book in any Language that hath done the like Indeed many excellent Authors there be who have wrote excellent well of some particular Subjects herein treated of But as there is not one of them hath written upon all of them so there are some things treated of in this Book that I have not met with in any Language but are the Product of my Thirty years Observations and Experience I will not deny but I have made some use of that Excellent Book The Queens Closet May's Cookery The Ladies Companion my own Directory and Guide Also the second part of Youths Behaviour and what other Books I thought pertinent and proper to make up a Compleat Book that might have a Universal Usefulness and to that end I did not only make use of them but also of all others especially those that have been lately writ in the French and Italian Languages For as the things treated of are many and various so were my Helps I hope the Reader will not think it much that as the famous Lymner when he drew the Picture of an exact Beauty made use of an Eye from one of a Mouth from another and so cull'd what was rare in all others that he might present them all in one entire piece of Workmanship and Frame So I when I was to write of Physick and Chyrurgery have consulted all Books I could meet with in that kind to compleat my own Experiences If any shall wonder why I have been so large upon it I must tell them I look upon the end of Life to be Usefulness nor know I wherein our Sex can be more useful in their Generation than in having a competent skill in Physick and Chyrurgery a competent Estate to distribute it and a Heart willing thereunto The like Apology I have for my Prolixity about Cookery and Carving which being essential to a true Houswife I thought it best to dwell most upon that which they cannot dwell without unless they design to render themselves insignificant not only in the world but in those Families where they are As for what concerns Gentlewomens Behaviour I have the concurrent advice and directions of the most able Professors and Teachers both here and beyond the Seas yet durst not be so airy and leight in my Treatise about Ladies Love and Courtship as some of the French Authors have been but have taken out of them what I found most taking with our English Gentry The like I may say for Habits and Gesture I am not ignorant of the vanity of some Mens stiles upon these Subjects and that young Ladies are too apt to take what may gratifie their Fancies and leave what may better their Judgments about true Behaviour I know I may be censured by many for undertaking this great Design in presenting to all of our Sex a compleat Directory and that which contains several Sciences deeming it a Work for a Solomon who could give an account from the Cedar to the Hysop I have therefore in my Apology to the Bookseller declared how I came to be of Ability to do it reciting to him the grounds of my knowledg in all those Sciences I profess and also what practice and experience I have had in the World lest any should think I speak more than I am able to perform I doubt not but judicious persons will esteem this Essay of mine when they have read the Book and weighed it well and if so I shall the less trouble my self what the ignorant do or say I have now done my Task and shall leave it to your candid Judgments and Improvement your Acceptation will much encourage London Nov. 10. 1672. Your Most humble Servant Hannah Woolly THE TABLE INtroduction Page 1. The duty and qualification of a Governess to Gentlewomens Children 4. A short account of the Life and Abilities of the Authoress of this Book 10. Good Instructions for a young Gentlewoman from the age of Six to Sixteen 15. Advice to the Female younger sort 17. The duty of Children to their Parents 21. Of a young Gentlewomans deportment to her Governess and Servants in the Family 25. What Qualifications best become and are most suitable to a Gentlewoman 29. Of a Gentlewomans Civil Behaviour to all sorts of People in all places 33. Of the Gait or Gesture 37. Of the Government of the Eye 39. Of Speech and Complement 41. Choice and general Rules for a Gentlewomans observation in Conversation with Company 43. Rules to be observed in walking with persons of bonour and how you ought to behave your self in congratulating and condoling them 53. Of Habit and the neatness and propriety thereof of Fashions and their ridiculous apish Imitation 54. Of New Fashions 62. Of young Gentlewomens fit hours and times for their recreations and pleasures and how to govern themselves therein 81. What Recreations and Pleasures are most fitting and proper for young Gentlewomen 83. Of the guiding of a Ladies love and fancy 87. The Gentlewomans Mirrour or Patterns for their imitation of such famous Women who have been eminent in Piety and Learning 98. Of Marriage and the duty of a Wife to her Husband 103. Of Womens Behaviour to their Servants and what is to be required of them in the House or what thereunto apppertains 109. Ferms for Carving all sorts of Meat at Table 113. Quaint Directions for the Carving all manner of Fowl 114. Artichoaks Fried 117. Artichoaks stewed ibid. An Almond-Pudding ibid. An Almond-Pudding in Guts ibid. An Almond-Tart 118. Almond-Cream

the Goods and Chattels of a Parent that they cannot without a kind of theft give themselves away without the allowance of those that have the right in them and therefore we see under the Law the Maid that had made any Vow was not suffer'd to perform it without the consent of the Patent Numb 30. 5. The right of the Parent was thought of force enough to cancel and make void the obligation even of a vow and therefore surely it ought to be so much considered by us to keep us from making any such whereby that right is infringed A fourth duty is To minister to and assist your Parents in what ever necessities or infirmities God Almighty shall think fit to inflict upon them It may be thy Parent is weak or decay'd in understanding supply his or her wants according to thy ability since in thy infancy thou didst receive the same benefits from them When an infant you had neither strength to support nor understanding to guide your self but was supply'd with both by your indulgent Parents wherefore common gratitude when either of these becomes their case obligeth you to return the same offices back again to them And as for the relieving their Poverty there is the same obligation with the former it being but just to sustain those who had maintain'd thee How then shall those answer it who will not part with or circumscribe their own excesses and superfluities for the relief of such to whom they owe their being and well-being and worse it will be with those who out of pride deny their Parents being themselves exalted fearing lest the lowness of their condition should betray the meanness of their birth Lastly that I may conclude this Discourse assure your self That no unkindness fault or poverty of a Parent can excuse or acquit a child from this duty Although the gratitude due to a kind Parent be a forcible motive to make the child pay his duty yet though our Parent were ever so unnatural yet still we are to perform our duty though none of that tye of gratitude lie on us Take this for all Honour and obey thy natural Parents in what condition soever for if they cannot give thee riches yet thy Heavenly Father hath promised thee length of days Of a young Gentlewomans deportment to her Governess and Servants in the Family IF your Parents have committed you to the care and tuition of a Governess in the house with you think with your self that this person whom I must now call my Governess is one whom my Father and Mother have elected and entertain'd for my education to lessen their own trouble but not their tender care of me Therefore if I obey her not in all things requisite I transgress the commands of my loving Parents and displease God in abusing their kindness Next consider within your self that this person who is constituted the guide of my actions is such a one as they are confident either in their own judgments or those who have recommended her to be fit in all points to perform this charge committed to her therefore in obedience to them I must and will obey her and follow those good examples and precepts she shall lay down for my better information If she seem somewhat harsh reserv'd and abridgeth your freedom yet let not your green years be too forward in condemning her nor let not the ill counsel of inferior servants perswade you against her lest by so doing you betray your want of reason and good nature and detract from your Parents worthy care for you If you have just cause of complaint yet speak not maliciously against her but truly and opportunely impart your grief by this means she will be either removed from you or regulated by their commands Be sure therefore that your complaints be just lest you should have one in her stead who may more justly deserve your censure and so make your self unhappy by your Parents fears of having a child that is refractory Besides think thus with your self that too often complaining makes dull and careless the Auditor and instead of extracting compassion it creates a jealousie of an ill disposition If your Governess be a Woman in years honour her the more if young you may promise your self more freedom with her yet if I may advise I would not have a person too young to have such a charge for they will have sufficient to do to govern themselves therefore the more unfit to govern others besides youth will be the more easily induced to submit rather to their Elders than their Equals What I now declare is the fruit of experience having had too great a charge in this nature when I was very young and do know how defective I was then in my duty since I became a Mother of Children having now more tenderness to youth and can speak it knowingly that a mild moderate way is to be preferred before rigor and harshness and that correction of words is better than that of blows Give me leave Gentlewomen to wish you a good Governess not such a one as I have been but as I could or would be now I can now with a greater sense look back upon my faults than I could discern them when first committed Thus much to your Governess Now to your Maid who is to dress you Be not peevish or froward to her but sweetly accept her endeavours and gently admonish her of her neglects or errors if she be good natur'd and willing to please this carriage will oblige and command a constant diligence from her otherwise you will cause her to serve you only for her own ends and with an eye-service and whilst you are making a wry face in the Glass she will make another behind your back Be courteous to all the Servants belonging to your Parents but not over-familiar with any of them lest they grow rude and sawcy with you and indeed too much familiarity is not good with any for contempt is commonly the product thereof If you can do any Servant good in any thing either in mitigating your Parents anger towards them or presenting their humble petition for them be not slack in so doing for by this means you will purchase to your self both love and honour If any poor body sue to you to beg in their names that which is not unfit for them to ask do not deny them and God will not deny you your requests Do good to all and turn not your face away from the indigent but let your charity extend to their relief and succour Be courteous to all people inferior to your quality but in such a way that they may know you understand your self and this will be a sweet kind of commanding reverence from them and will give you the character of a good and humble spirit assure your self it is better to be good than great Majesty mixt with modesty and humility forcibly commands the service of all but pride and imperiousness though in