Mighty God is Thou shalt not Commit Adultery Ex. 20.14 The Lord himself will be witness against such Mal. 2.14 The Lord saith the Prophet hath been a witnesse between thee and the wife of thy youth against whom thou hast dealt treacherously yet she is thy Companion and the wife of thy Youth yea of thy Govenant to keep thee only to her And did not he make one saith the Prophet and yet had be residue of spirit and wherefore one one man and one woman that he might seek a godly feed Therefore take heed to your spirit saith he and let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth Mal. 2.15 And the same is the sin of the wife and her wickednesse if she break the Marriage-Covenant as you may read Prov. 2.16 17 18. To deliver thee from the strange woman which flattereth with her words which forsaketh the guide of her Youth and forgetieth the Covenant of her God for her House inclineth to Death and her Pathes unto the Dead none that go unto her return again neither take they hold of the Pathes of Life And Prov. 7.27 Of the Adulterous woman the wise wise man concludeth That her House is the way to Hell going down to the Chambers of Death A Whore is a deep Ditch and a strange Woman a narrow Pit Proverbs 23.27 Therefore to be avoyded as snares and Pits prepared for thy Destruction Both the Adulterer and Adultoress they sin grievously and their punishment will be terrible except God in time give them true Repentance for by the Law of God they were both to be stoned to death Levit. 20.10 and Deut. 22.22 That sentence of the Apostle is terrible Hebr. 13.14 Marriage is Honourable amongst all and the Bed undefiled But Whore-Mongers and Adulterers God will judge In this life this sin of Adultery and Fornication oftentimes is an occasion of Murder As Shechem's Fornication with Dinah Jacob's Daughter occasioned the Murder of the Shechentites Gen. 34.21 c. And Ammon's Ravishing of Tamar 2 Sam. 13.27 28 c. Besides it excludes such out of the Kingdom of Heaven 1 Cor. 6.9 10. And on Earth it is a cause of Divorce as our Saviour declares Mat. 5.32 And thus you see how necessary mutual fidelity is to preserve Conjugall Love between Husband and Wife while they live The twelfth Direction A twelfth Direction or Gold-link of Love or Gold-link of Love is That either of them or both of them have a special Care of their mutual Duties to give right and due respect to each other First the Wife to honour and reverence her Husband as her Head and to obey him in all things lawful and expedient in the Lord as Sarah that great Lady did honour and obey Abraham her Husband calling him Lord 1 Peter 3.6 I say Obey him in all things lawful and expedient in the Lord For as this is the rule of Childrens Obedience to their Parents given by the Spirit of God Ephes 6.1 So it is the rule of all Inferiours to obey their Superiours in all things lawful in the Lord yea expediently also it is to be respected A Husband may not prostitute his Wives Chastity or Honour as he may not prostitute his Daughter to be a Whore as you may read Leviticus 19.29 Nor Husband nor Father can lawfully Command a Wife or Daughter to consent to such a sin nor is either Wife or Daughter bound to obey in such sinful Commands no Superiour hath power to command an Inferiour to sin against Gods Command The Answer to such unlawful Commands of Men or Women is set down by the Holy Ghost Acts 5.20 It is better to obey God then Man These unlawful Commands will stop the current of Love between Husband and Wife For as the Wife is to honour the Husband as her Head so the Husband is no way to dishonour or seek to dishonour his Wife but to honour her as the weaker Vessel as a Coheir with him of the Grace of Life as the Apostle directs 1 Peter 3.7 This living together as heirs of the Grace of Life must be of the Husband to his Wife as to a Companion and Fellow in the Bonds of Marriage as may be intimated Mal. 2.14 15 16. For when God made the Woman as he did not take her out of the Head of Adam to be above him so he did not take her out of Adams Feet to be trampled upon but out of his Side near to his Heart Gen. 2.21 22. to be honoured and loved as his Fellow Helper and beloved Companion And this kind respect on both sides is an excellent means and help to preserve Love between Husband and Wife to the end The thirteenth Direction The thirteenth Direction or Gold-link of Love or Gold-link of Love is That both husband and wife be mutually carefull in their places for the preservation or increase of their Estate and Provision and Government of their Houshold or Family and provide both for the present and for the future This care of the Husband and his Duty we may learn from that great Apostle 1 Tim. 5.8 If any man provide not for his own especially for those of his own Houshold he hath denied the Faith and is worse then an Infidel That was good Counsel of Solomon Prov. 27.23 24. Be thou diligent to know the state of thy Flocks and look well to thy Herds For Riches are not for ever and doth the Crown endure to every Generation Providence is requisite to preserve an Estate I remember it is above threescore years since when I was in Oxford I did see a little Book of good Counsel writ by a noble Lord to his Son in which he advised his Son to divide his Estate into three parts First one part he might spend in ordinary Expences House-keeping Apparrel and such like A second part lay aside for extraordinary occasions for himself and the Church and Common-wealth And a third part to lay up for increase of his Estate If a man spend beyond his Estate or live at the highest rate of his Incomings he will be constrained to live of borrowing and so of borrowing in the end if in time he labour not to prevent And for the wife also Solomon giveth an excellent Description of a virtuous woman as Prov. 31.10 11 12. to the end of that Chapter read it at your leisure Verses 27.28 He saith a virtuous woman She looketh well to the wayes of her Houshold and eateth not the Bread of idlenesse her Children rise up and call her blessed he Husband also and he praiseth her c. He concludeth Give her of the fruit of her Hands and let her own workes praise her in the Gates The good wife will consider her husbands estate and not presse him to spend above power She will do her husband good and not hurt all the dayes of her life Prov. 31.12 Thus whon there is a mutual providential care of husband and wife for themselves Family and Posterity This is
an especiall Gold-link of Love to bind love fast between husband and wife The fourteenth Gold-link of Love followeth The fourteenth Direction or Gold link of Love There ought to be a mutual care of and for Education of their Children which God hath graciously given unto them as Jacob spake to his Brother Esau Gen. 33.5 That they be taught and instructed both in civil and spiritual Respects both in divine and humane Learning according to the Honour and Dignity of their Places and Calling It is King Solomon's Counsel Prov. 22.6 Teach a Child in the way he should go and he will not depart from it when he is old Especially that they be seasoned with the Catechism and first principles of the Oracles of God Heb. 5.12 and the Knowledge of God's will in the Sacred Scriptures as blessed Timothy was for which St. Paul giveth that excellent Testimony you may read 2 Tim. 3.15 That from a Child he had known the holy Scriptures which are able to make us wise unto Salvation through Faith which is in Christ Jesus This is life eternal to know God the onely true God and whom he hath sent Jesus Christ John 17.3 For this care of instructing Children and Family the Lord himself commended faithful Abraham and maketh him of his secret Counsel Shall I hide from Abraham the thing that I do And he giveth this for one Reason For I know him saith the Lord that he will Command his Children and his Houshold after him to keep the way of the Lord to do Justice and Judgment that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him and his Posterity Gen. 18.19 Again this was God's Command to his People Israel That they should teach their Children diligently the Law and Word of the Lord and thou shalt talk of them when thou art in thy House and when thou walkest by the way and when thou risest up as it is recorded Deut. 6.6 7. and this no doubt with holy reverence and devotion as desirous to reveal God's mind to their Children and Family And Children are commanded to hearken to their Parents instruction Prov. 1.8 My Son hear the Instruction of thy Father and forget not the Law of thy Mother And again Prov. 31.1 you may find the words of King Lemuel the Prophecy which his Mother taught him To conclude the Apostle St. Paul Ephes 6.1 2 3 4. presseth the duty both of Children and Parents First Children obey your Parents in all things as it is fit in the Lord and honour thy Father and Mother which is the first Commandement with promise That it may be well with thee and thou mayest live long in the Land And Fathers provoke not your Children to wrath that they be not discouraged but bring them up in the Nurture and Admonition of the Lord. Thus Children well instructed in the knowledge of God's mind may be a joy to Parents and Parents enjoy their Children as blessings from the Lord and behold them as Olive branches round about their Table to God's Glory Psal 128. and as the Pledges of their mutual Love to each other And this is an excellent Gold-link of Love to preserve and keep mutual Conjugal Love between Husband and Wife The fifteenth Direction The fifteenth Direction or Gold-link of Love or Gold-link of Love is That the Husband and Wife according to their duty do live together and not seperate the one from the other except with consent for a time upon most necessary occasions or that they may give themselves to Fasting and Prayer and come together again that Satan tempt them not as St. Paul directeth 1 Cor. 7.5 That so living lovingly together as heirs of the Grace of life they may be mutual Helpers to each other in these Conjugal Duties This Rule St. Peter giveth 1 Pet. 3.7 Husbands dwell with your Wives as men of Knowledge And St. Paul 1 Cor. 7.13 If a woman that believeth hath a husband that believeth not or is not a Christian yet if he please to dwell with her let her not leave him but continue that she may be a help to him for his Soul as well as for his Body and Estate When God did make the woman The Lord God said It is not good for man to be alone I will make him a help meet for him Gen. 2 18. And a good wife will be a Helper for good not a hinderance to her husband God did make the woman to be a second-self Mr. Ainsworth in Gen. 2. like him in nature knit to him in Love needful for Children helpful in all Duties present always with him and so very meer and profitable as a joyful Companion in all estates in adversity as well as in Prosperity in Sickness as well as in Health in Poverty as well as in a rich Estate This requireth cohabitation That the wife leave not the husband nor the husband forsake the wife Because this unjust and unchristian forsaking of husband or wife for light differences for any thing less then that which is a sufficient ground for a lawful Divorce by the Law of God This giveth occasion of sin abateth love and cannot expect a blessing from God yea this too often doth break off Love betwixt Husband and Wife when cohabitation doth preserve Conjugal Love and will do if they live in the fear of God and follow his Directions to the end The sixteenth Direction The sixteenth Direction or or Gold-link of Love or Gold-link of Love to bind love fast and prevent sinful Breaches betwixt husband and wife is for both to learn that first lesson of a Christian which our Saviour taught his Disciples Math. 16.24 They must sometimes deny themselves that is their own wills and desires passions and affections bridle rash anger and over-rule their passions yea their right sometimes for quietness sake they must not be both self-willed nor both angry at once or at the same time King Solomon witnesseth That he that is stow to Anger is better then the Mighty and he that ruleth his Spirit then he that taketh a City Prov. 16.32 And a soft answer turneth away wrath but grievous words stir up anger Prov. 15.1 And again that wise man Prov. 19. Prov. 19.9 19. It is better to dwell in a Corner of the house top then with a Brawling woman in a wide House And again verse 19. It is better to dwell in the Wilderness then with a contentious and angry woman And that Kingly Preacher again Eccles 7.9 Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry for anger resteth in the bosome of Fools Simile It was a witty conceit of the Father who gave two Caps to his new married Son and Daughter made fit for Solomons angry Fools with this Contract that they should never put them on both at once But if the husband had put on his Cap the wife should let hers lie still not take it by any means and the same direction to
O Lord Zach. 12.10 prepare our hearts to Prayer and so assist us with thy holy Spirit of Prayer and Supplication Rom. 8.26 27. that our Prayers may be acceptable Rev. 8.3 4. and we may receive a gracious Answer in and for the sweet Incense and Merits of the Lord Jesus Christ our blessed Lord and Saviour Amen O eternal Deut. 32.27 most gratious merciful everlasting everliving Exod. 34.6 7. Jer. 10.11 1 Tim. 1.17 Isaiah 46.9 10. Rom. 8.28 Rom. 11.33 34 35 36. and only wise God who orderest all things according to the Counsel of thy own most just and holy Will and disposest of all for thy own eternal Glory and the eternal good of thy Church and Children in Christ Jesus of whom may we seek for Protection and safety of Soul or Body or any other blessing but of thee our God and heavenly Father in our Saviour Christ from whom cometh every good and perfect Gift James 1.17 with whom is no variableness nor shadow of turning The last night we durst not lay down our eyes to sleep Psal 132.4 nor suffer the temples of our head to take any rest until we had begged thy gratious Providence for preservation of us and ours in particular and of thy whole Church in general And thou O blessed God who art the hearer of Prayer hast in thine abundant goodness heard our Prayer Psal 65.2 Psal 66.18 19 20. and brought us to the light of this day blessed be thy great and glorious Name thou mightest O Lord in thy Justice have consumed us by Fire to ashes Exod. 12.29 30. and made our Beds our Graves One or more of us might have been stricken with some terrible tormenting Sickness we might have been found dead in our Beds as many have been many other miseries might have befallen us But in thy great mercy thou hast spared us Lam. 3.22 23. and renewed thy mercies to us this Morning What shall we render to thy heavenly Majesty for thy Favours And now we dare not adventure into the World without intreating thy Protection and Blessing in and upon our just and lawful Endeavours We confess O Lord we are not worthy the least of all thy mercies Genesis 32.10 and thy loving-kindnesses which from time to time thou hast shewed to thy Servants We acknowledge we have not been sensible of that original corruption of our depraved Natures Eph. 2.1 2 3. and our proneness to Sin drawn from our first Parents corrupted by their lamentable Fall Genesis 3.6 7. Genesis 6.5 nor have we humbled our selves in sence of this our misery as we should have done we have not kept our Hearts with all diligence out of which are the issues of death Prov. 4.23 But our Hearts have followed our Eyes beholding Vanity Jer. 4.14 Psal 141.3 and vain thoughts have too long lodged within us We have not set a watch O Lord before our Lips and kept the doors of our Mouths but many idle unprofitable sinful words for which we must answer at the Day of Judgment have been uttered by us to thy dishonour Mat. 12.36 and evil example of others yea Eph. 4.4 29 30. too many times corrupt Communications to the grief of thy holy Spirit Psal 39.1 Psal 119.67 We have not taken heed to our Feet to walk in the right wayes of thee O Lord but gone aside from the Pathes of thy Commandements and so have been guilty of many actual transgressions both in thought word and deed breaking thy most righteous Lawes We have failed in the Duties of our several particular Relations as Husband to Wife and Wife to Husband Parents to Children and Children to Parents Masters or Dames to Servants and Servants to them not performing our Duties in the fear of God as we ought to have done We have not walked as becometh Christians towards others nor done as we would they should do to us according to that Golden Rule of our blessed Saviour Mat. 7.12 Phil. 1.27 So that by our good Conversation as becometh the Gospel of Christ others might have been stirred up to glorifie thee our heavenly Father Mat. 5.16 So that if thou shouldest enter into judgment with us O Lord Psal 143.2 how can we be justified by any our own righteousness in thy presence Phil. 3.9 10. O then behold us we humbly beseech thee in the face of thy Son Jesus Christ as washed clean by his Blood and accepted by his Merits Mat 3.17 He it is in whom thou art well pleased Acts 5.31 and him thou hast exalted to be a Prince and a Saviour to give Repentance to Israel and remission of Sins Psal 19.12 Oh give us true Repentance for all the Errours of our Lives past for Christ's sake and grant that being delivered out of the hands of all our Enemies Luke 1.74 75. we may serve thee without fear of them in righteousness and true holiness all the days of our lives Bless with us we pray thee all our Friends Psal 35.11 12 13 14. Mat. 5.11 and change the Hearts of our Enemies make them our Friends if it be thy will be gracious to our Children and Servants make our Children thy Children our Servants thy Servants Isa 41.8 and our Friends thy Friends Lev. 19.17 Let us reprove we pray thee and not give evil example Eph. 5.11 nor suffer our Children or Servants to be prophane Swearers or Cursers Lyars Drunkards or unjust Joh. 13.15 Psal 101.6 7. But grant that we may be good examples and that they may be faithful in the Land such as thy servant David would have make them religious like faithful Abraham's servant praying when they are sent about our occasions Lord send me good speed this day Genesis 24.12 that we and they may be blessed Bless with us thy universal Church scattered thorough out the whole World Be gracious we pray thee to the Nations of England Scotland and Ireland poure down thy blessings upon the Kings most excellent Majesty with his Royal Consort the Queen and all the Royal Family preserve Him and Them from all His 1 Tim. 2.1 2. Their and our Enemies Bless all the honourable Nobility the Reverend faithful Ministers of the Gospel in their several places with all the Magistrates Gentry and Commons of the Land and inable us thy humble servants rightly and justly to do our Duty to all our Superiours 1 Pet. 2.17 Inferiours and Equals and to this end increase we most humble intreat thy Majesty all necessary Graces in all our souls Give us we beseech thee a daily supply and increase of Divine Knowledge and heavenly Wisdome Lord increase our Faith Luk. 17.5 and give us such a Faith as purifieth the Heart Acts 15.9 and worketh by Loves Give us true Conversion from all our sins Gal. 5.6 2 Cor. 7.10 and Repentance to Salvation not to be
repented of And adorn we humbly pray thee Eccl. 12.7 our immortal Souls with those excellent Graces of true Christian Charity 1 Cor. 13.1 2 3 4 c. Chastity Sobriety Temperance and holy Moderation with submissive contentment unto and with thy Divine will and pleasure in every dispensation of thy Divine Providence 1 Peter 5.8 1 Thess 4.3 4. Phil. 4.5 inable us to wait upon thee in Faith Acts 21.14 Job 14.14 with patience all the Days of our appointed time until our change come It is in thy power O Lord to change Poverty into Riches Enemies to Friends Sickness into Health Death into Life Thou canst kill and make alive at thy pleasure 1 Sam. 2.7 8. Psal 63.3 4 5. O satisfie our souls with thy loving-kindness in thy Ordinances and living Graces and especially with a lively Hope of immortality by the Resurrection of Christ from the Dead 1 Pet. 1.3 4. and that Inheritance which fadeth not O cause thy love to be shed abroad in our Hearts by the holy Ghost Rom. 5.5 give us that peace of God which passeth all understanding let the Love of Christ constrain us to live henceforth not to our selves but to Him who died for us and rose again That when He shall appear at the last day Col. 3.4 we may appear with Him in Glory O most blessed God! strengthen us we pray thee with thy special Grace for the performance of our works in our particular family-Family-Duty according to our Places and Callings in thy fear and in love one to another Husband and Wife Eph. 6.1 2 3 4 5 6 c. Parents and Children Masters and Servants Make Lord our Children thy Children our Servants thy Servants our Friends thy Friends and bless them and us in all our and their righteous Labours this day and all the dayes of our lives especially those who have desired or deserved our Prayers requite and return all their loving favours a thousand fold into their Bosome succour we most humbly pray thee all thy Children in any manner of Affliction Let the good will of him that dwelt in the Bush dwell with them Exod. 3.2 Deut. 33.16 Amos 4.12 prepare us to meet thee in whatsoever tryal thou shall prove our Faith and any other graces with and give to us and all thine a happy Deliverance out of all in thy doe time and season and preserve us all in Bodies and Souls to thy heavenly Kingdom 2 Tim. 4.18 We most humbly beg these and whatsoever thou in thy Divine Wisdome knowest to be needful for us or any of thine in the Name and for the Merits of our blessed Saviour And in that Prayer he hath taught us Our Father which art in Heaven c. An Evening Prayer for Husband and Wife and either of them with their Family or any other fit Person in the Husbands absence O Most might and powerful Lord our God who art the great Creator and high Possessor of Heaven and Earth Gen. 14.19 Gen. 17.1 the All-sufficient God and gracious Ruler of the whole World who art the Lord God glorious in holiness dreadful in Praises doing wonders Exod. 15.11 Thou art the Lord strong merciful and gracious abundant in goodness and truth forgiving Iniquity Transgression and Sin Exod. 34.6.7 and who wilt not hold the wicked innocent Thou even thou art to be feared and who may stand in thy sight when thou art angry Psal 76.7 yet thou art gracious to thy Children shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love thee and are careful to keep thy Commandements Thou preservest the Feet of thy Saints and hast preserved us thy unworthy servants this day 1 Sam. 2.9 O let our Prayers come before thee as Incense and the lifting up of our hands be as an Evening Sacrifice Psal 141.2 a Sacrifice of Praise and Thanksgiving for the mercies of this day thou hast kept us safe at home and abroad thou hast blessed us in our just and honest occasions and endeavors If any thing now Gen. 24.12 27. or at any time hath fallen out cross to our desires Psal 119.7 thou oh our good God didest see it good for us to be afflicted that we might be put in mind of our going wrong and our too great ingratitude of former dayes mercies But we acknowledge thy goodness thy mercies to us and thy people of old and thy glorious Name Neh. 9.5 hath been far above and beyond all our Thanksgiving and Praise yea that unspeakable Gift of thy mercy namely John 3.16 thy only begotten Son who hath made a gracious Promise that whatsoever thy servants shall ask of thee in his Name John 16.23 it shall be granted us This emboldens us blessed Father humbly to supplicate thee who art so full of compassion to pass by all our Transgressions Micah 7.18 19. and to subdue all our Iniquities and pardon all our Sins of Ignorance and Knowledge of weakness and willfulness of Omission and Commission Take away our iniquity and receive us gratiously in and for Christ and we shall render to thee the Calves of our Lips Hosea 4.2 yea not of our Lips alone but of our Hearts and of our whole Souls and Bodies a holy living and acceptable Sacrifice of Obedience in Christ Jesus Rom. 12.1 2. Thou O Lord art the Fountain Author and Giver of all Grace increase thy Graces in us we most humbly beseech thee that we may be better inabled to perform our duties to thee our God and to our Neighbours in general and one to another in our particular Callings and Relations Husband to Wife and Wife to Husband in true Conjugal love Parents to Children Exodus 20.12 Eph. 6.2 3. in for the Lord Children to Parents in due honour that the blessing of long happy life may be their portion according to thy promise Masters to Servants Eph. 6.9 as knowing they have a Master in Heaven and Servants to Masters in singleness of heart as unto Christ not with Eye-service as men-pleasers Eph. 6.5 6 7 8. but as the servants of Christ doing the will of God from the heart with good will doing service as to the Lord and not to men that of the Lord they may receive the reward of Inheritance Col. 3.24 because in doing faithful service according to God's will they serve the Lord Christ Forgive we pray thee our Enemies and bless our Friends Now thou O Lord art the Keeper of Israel who neither slumbrest nor sleepest Except thou O Lord Psal 127.1 2. keep the City the watchman waketh but in vain It is in vain to rise up early and late take rest and eat the bread of carefulness Psal 3.5 Psal 4.8 except the Lord bless our Labours Neither can we ly down and sleep and take our rest except the Lord sustain us except thou O Lord make us to dwell in safety Therefore now we
A contentious Wife will trouble a Family and bring disquietness to a quiet Husband Therefore the Wife is to be peaceable and the same ought to be the care of the Husband not to be captious chiding with his Wife for every small thing he seeth amisse But to follow the Apostles Rule 1 Thess 4.11 Study to be quiet especially with his Wife This is a hopeful means to prevent disturbance in a Family and to preserve Conjugal Love between Husband and Wife The nineteenth Direction or Gold-link of Love The nineteenth Direction or Gold-link of Love is to learn and act St. Paul his practice as it is recorded Phil. 4.11 12 13. If a Man hath married a Wife or a Woman a Husband which proveth not according to expectation First it may be a cross or careless Husband or one that is tyrannical over his Wife to make her his Slave or his Servant or otherwise that is a daily vexation to his provident and pious good Wife a common Tavern or Ale-house-Haunter or a desperate Gamester a mispender of his precious time or estate in idle or evil Company neglecting his Calling and Houshold occasions 1 Sam. 25.17 c. or a Nabal a Churlish Clown and ingratefull as Nabal was Or that a Husband hath failed of his expectation and hath met with a riotous mispending Wife or one that is perverse and unquiet or contrary to the Apostles Rule will usurp authority over the Man which she ought not 1 Tim. 2.12 If she prove sickly or diseased weak and unable to perform all Duties yet if she be faithful to him in the Marriage Covenant to keep her onely to him so long as they both shall live If God lay his Hand upon them with or in Tryals and Troubles Losses and Crosses in the World they must both labour by the Power and Grace of Christ to submit to God's Providence and to be content with their Lot and Condition It may be God did leave thee to thy self in the Choice of Wife or of thy Husband for tryal of thy Faith or Patience or other Graces Good Patient Job had not the best Wife that was so unkind to him in his great Affliction as you may read Job 19.17 It may be God saw it best for thee to have such a Wife or such a Husband to humble thee or for other ends and all for thy good which all things must be If thou love God and art called by Christ to repent and believe on him according to God's purpose as St. Paul Rom. 8.28 Therefore to study Piety and contentment shall be your great gain in the end as the Spirit of God witnesseth 1 Tim. 6.6 Labour then by Love to amend what you find amiss in each other and that by all fair means This will be a way to prevent worse evils and to preserve Conjugal Love between Husbands and Wives whilst they live The twentieth and last Direction A twentieth Direction or Gold-link of love or Gold link of Love to preserve Love between Husbands and wives which I shall give at this time is to pray constantly and piously with Faith and Fervency to God as reconciled in Christ There is Grace and Wisdome and strength in Christ to inable you to perform these and all other Duties required of you Read Joh. 1.16 Joh. 15.5 Col. 1.19 Col. 2.3 Phil. 4.11 12 13. both for and with one another not in private onely in your Family but in secret in your Closets if possibly it may be That the most blessed God will in and for the Merits of Christ pardon all Sins heal all Infirmities and by his free Grace in Christ supply all defects and reform whatsoever is found amiss either in Husband or Wife and by the Power and Spirit and Grace of Christ to inable them to perform all Duties first to God then to each other with care and faithfulness yea to all other Superiors Inferiors or equally so to live together as Heirs of the Grace of Life that your Prayers be not hindred The Husband may say to the Wife 1 Pet. 3.7 and the Wife to her Husband as Samuel said to the Israelites 1 Sam. 12.23 God forbid I should sin against the Lord in ceasing to pray for you Prayer is a Duty incumbent upon all to practice daily And the fervent Prayer of God's Children is effectuall James 5.16 17. If any be tempted to any Sin pray as St. Paul did 2 Cor. 12.7 8 9. Isaac prayed for his Wife and God heard him and gave her Children Genesis 25.21 Hannah she prayed for a Son and God gave her the Request of her Soul 1 Sam. 2.23 What should I tell you That Monica St. Augustins good Mother did pray for her Son and the Lord heard her and fulfilled her desires What greater encouragement can be or need to be to this duty Pray till God answer Joh. 16.23 then that gracious Promise of our Saviour That whatsoever we ask the Father in his Name he will give it us Joh. 16.3 Oh then my Beloved in Christ Pray as Jacob did Gen. 32.26 Hosea 12.4 be sure to practice this duty of Prayer not onely in publick in the Congregations joyn with the publick Prayers of the Church But in private in your Families and in secret in your Closets daily Persevere in prayer untill God bless you Rom. 12.12 And if you have not Prayer-Books to answer every Dispensation and to direct you in particular Petitions according to your present Necessities as who hath Then learn and labour to be able your selves by the help of the Spirit of Prayer and Supplication promised to Gods Church and Children Zach. 12.10 To make your Request known unto God upon all occasions Read Phil. 4.6 7. The peace of God shall keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus Math. 7.7 8. Husbands for your Wives and Wives for your Husbands and both for your Children with the greatest reverence and the best expressions you can as to your heavenly Father who biddeth Ask and you shall have Thus may you obtain this great Blessing That Love may continue firm and constant between Husband and Wife whilest you live to your comfort and joy in Christ Jesus for ever which that it may be by Gods Blessing and shall be my daily Prayer for you all And that all Honour and Glory may be given to God the Father God the Son and God the blessed Spirit now and for ever Amen Some Divine Prayers for Husbands and Wives That God will be pleased to give them spiritual wisdom and strength in and by the Grace of Christ for the faithful performance of their mutual Duties that a blessing may be from God upon them and their Posterities for ever Drawn by the Author according to the matter and end of this Gold Chain of Directions A Morning Prayer for the Husband or wife or either of them with their Family or any other fit Person to Pray when the husband is absent
come unto thee O heavenly Father most humbly beseeching thee to embrace us in the everlasting Armes of thy Mercy Deut. 33.27 and to take us with all ours and all thine into thy holy Protection this Night Give us that comfortable sleep and quiet rest in our Beds Psalm 4.8 that we being refreshed by thy goodness may be better inabled to do thee faithful service in our several Places Vocations and Callings if it please thee to continue and preserve our Lives and Healths the next day to our comforts and the glory of thy Name O our most blessed God we beseech thee preserve with us thy Catholick Church all over the World especially that part of thy Church in these Nations Keep from all dangers we humble pray thee our most gracious King Ezra 6.10 give him a long life to thy glory Blesse his Royal Queen and the whole Royal Family and preserve we beseech thee all the honourable Nobility the Reverend and faithful Ministery in their several places the righteous Judges and Magistrates with all the Gentry and Commons of the Land Give all Wisdome and Power to honour thy Majesty in their Places and Orders in which thou hast set them to do thee service Bless we pray thee the several Cities Towns and Countries in the Kingdome keep them and us out of the hand of all our Enemies That under his Sacred Majesty we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godlinesse and honesty 1 Tim. 2.1 2. Be gracious unto all thy Faithful Servants under any manner of affliction by Sea or by Land at Liberty or in Restraint in Poverty or in Riches in Sickness or in Health especially any that are known to us or who have desired our Prayers Eph. 6 18 19. sanctifie thy afflicting Hand unto them that they may receive the peaceable fruit of Righteousnesse when they are sufficiently exercised thereby Heb. 12.11 and in every temptation strengthen them to bear 1 Cor. 10.13 and in due time make a way for them to escape Prepare us all for those eternal Habitations those blessed Mansions which Christ our Saviour hath prepared for us in Heaven John 14.12 Grant O Lord of glory Eph. 1.17 that we may be so prepared like wise Virgins Mat. 25.1 2 c. with Oyl in our Lamps that whensoever the Lord Jesus our heavenly Bride-Groom with his glorious Angels shall come to Judgment at Midnight Mat. 25.6 at Cock-Crowing or in the Dawning we may be admitted to enter in with him in to that blessed heavenly Kingdome of eternal happiness Thus by Prayer and Supplication with Thanksgiving we have made our Request known unto thee our heavenly and most gratious Father O let the peace of God Phil. 4.6 7. which passeth all understanding keep our Hearts and Minds in the knowledge and love of God through our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ To whom with thy heavenly Majesty and thy blessed Spirit be ascribed all Glory and Honour Might Soveraignty and Dominion Victory and Salvation this night and for evermore Amen Prov. 19.14 House and Riches are the Inheritance of Fathers but a prudent wife is from the Lord. Therefore I desire the Husband that he will pray to the Lord to bestow amongst other Graces this Grace of heavenly prudence upon his wife and increase it in them both that they may be happy Again I desire that both Husband and Wife will be careful to remember and practice by the Grace of Christ that Counsel of that great Apostle St. Peter 1 Pet. 3.7 Husbands dwell with your Wives according to knowledge giving honour to the Wife as unto the weaker Vessel and as being Heirs together of the grace of Life that your prayers be not hindred Your mutual prayers one for another for a virtuous wife will be a Helper to her Husband Gen. 2.18 and will do him good by her prayers as well as otherwise and not evil all the days of her life as wise King Solomon witnesseth Pro. 31.12 A special Closet or secret Prayer of a Husband for himself and his Wife and Children and Family that God will be pleased to inable them to perform their mutual Duties to each other in the fear of God and by God's blessing live lovingly together during their lives to be prayed together or asunder O Most blessed and gracious good God 1 Tim. 1.11 my most merciful and loving Father in Christ Jesus 1 Tim. 6.14 15 16. Gen. 1.1 2. who in thy appointed time didst make the Heaven and Earth Psal 136.5 6. and Creatures in the World and in a special manner create our first Parents Adam and Eve after thy own likeness in Righteousness and true Holiness Gen. 1.27 and in the time of their innocency didst Marry them together Gen. 2.20 21 22 23 24. and institute the holy estate of Marriage which is a mystical representation of that spiritual Marriage and Union between Christ and his Church Hosea 2.19 20. Eph. 5.32 thou O our heavenly Father in thy Divine Wisdom and gracious Providence hast been pleased to bring me thy unworthy servant and my beloved wife into this high and honourable estate I confess O Lord I am now fully enformed that there are many duties required by thy holy Word incumbent upon me at a Husband John 15. â— and upon her as a Wife which by our own strength we are not able to performe as we ought 2 Cor. 3.5 that thy Divine Majesty might have the glory and we thy unworthy servants may have the joy and comfort in our married estate and although we are taught out of thy Word that in Christ our blessed Saviour there is both Wisdom and strength and grace Col. 2.3 Phil. 4.13 to be communicated to thy servants for the performance of every duty in any condition and that Christ our Redeemer hath promised That if we seek we shall find if we knock it shall be opened unto us James 1.5 6. James 5.16 John 16.23 If we pray with Faith and Fervency and in his Name our Petitions shall be granted Yet I thy humble servant confess for my part that I have not knocked at Heaven doors for wisdom and strength for myself and my wife that we might be inabled rightly and in the fear of God and in true love to perform our mutual duties to each other as becometh thy Children And I fear my dear wife hath failed in like manner Isaiah 63.15 16. Isaiah 64.5 6 7 8 9 10. at least that we have not sought this grace of thee O heavenly Father with that sight and sence of our own weakness And of that need of this wisdome and power and so not with that earnestness or with those fervent groans and sighs Rom. 8.26 27. or tears in our prayers nor with that wrastling like Jacob with God in Christ for this mercy as we should have done Gen. 32.24 25 26. Hosea 12.3