this exercise is a thing of greater difficulty to me than such easie Undertakers are aware of and really to perform all the Duties I am to enquire into in a manner well-pleasing to our heavenly Father will cost them and us all more pains than only to read or preach an hour or two upon them which yet might lead into many important concerns of government and obedience Believe it herein we have all need enough of serious and frequent teacbing again and again (a) Heb. 5.12 for our conduct in the Relations whereunto God hath cast us In order then both to my preaching at present and all our future practice as a ground for the Resolution of this Question Question What are the Duties of Parents and Children and how are they to be managed according to Scripture I am directed to the words read Wherein we have the mutual offices of Children and Parents required and virtually at least prescribed with annexed reasons to enforce them severally upon each Relatives which afford this Proposition That God's pleasure and Childrens encouragement should move Christian Children to obedience and Parents to a moderate government in all things Here is a large theme but I shall endeavour as nigh as I can to speak much in a little hoping I shall obtain your pardon though I let slip some considerable Particulars if by some general anticipations and cautions I do in a Sermon decline those numerous special Cases which in a larger Treatise on this Subject might fairly step in and lay claim to some special satisfaction It were an excursion for me now to speak of Children and Parents in any other than the most famous signification * Analogum per se positam stat pro famostore analogato of the words taken not figuratively but properly not for those in a political but natural Relation yet as under the Christian Institution vvhere vve are ever to have regard to our blessed Lord and Master Indeed Children comprehend both sons and daughters 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Gen 46 29. the fruit of the body not excluding grand-children of what age or quality soever as indissolubly bound in duty to those who begot and brought them forth of both sexes Father and Mother the Parents of their flesh (b) Heb. 12.9 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Prov. 23.22 from whom they were originally derived And that the Apostle doth here direct the command to Inferiors before Superiors as in the 18. verse and elsewhere (c) Eph 5.22 6.1 5. to Children before Parents is not that Children and their duties are first in order of nature or time for there are offices of inbred parental love and care before they can be known or observ'd by children 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 but writing chiefly to children come to the use of reason he begins with them who are subject and ought first to perform duty The anticipation of time here connoting the honour due to Superiors he doth in the first place put those in mind of their duty who are to obey as usually more defective rather than those that have authority over them in this oeconomical conjunction Either in that this office of obedience is less easie and pleasing to our nature than that of parental love which is allur'd to exert it self readily by the right discharge of the former or in that the subjection of children is the foundation on which the good government of Parents doth depend and a means to make themselves ready for that authority which else they will be unfit for as Antoninus lays down the axiom which many of the moralists used viz. You cannot well govern others unless first governed * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 For my method then in answering the complicated enquiry before me whiles I follow the Apostle in my Text I shall need no Apology to insist on I. The Duty of Children with the extent thereof urged from that which is most cogent to perswade to it and disswade from the neglect of it II. The Office of Parents enforc'd from the special consideration of that the Apostle suggests to move to it III. The manner and means of managing both offices or discharging both duties more generally and particularly according to the mind of God in his word The two former may be look'd upon as the explication of my Text and Proposition and an exhortation press'd with reasons or motives to the Duties and the last as Directions to perform them I. The Duty of Children with the extent thereof urged from that which is most cogent to perswade to it and disswade from the neglect of it This is express'd and imply'd in the former of the verses I have read to you wherein we have three Particulars to be spoken to 1. The Duty 2. Extent or latitude of it 3. Motive to it 1. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 1. The Duty of Children from the precept Children obey your Parents The word imports an humble subjection to their authority and government with a ready performance of what they require it being an explanation of that which in the law is engrav'd with God's own hand honour (d) Exod. 20.12 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 importing how highly they are to be valued and not lightly esteemed In another place it is ye shall fear every man his mother and his father (e) Lev. 19.3 with 14. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 awful fear being no other than a deep veneration both which are to be fairly read in the acts of genuine obedience for that doth flow forth from a compound disposition of love and fear mixed in an ingenuous child who is readily mov'd to obey in contemplation of that authority and affection implanted in the Parent towards it To speak more distinctly this obedience to Parents may contain in it these four things 1. Reverence 2. Obedience 3. Pious regards 4. Submission The three first of these may be reducible to active and the last to passive obedience 1. Reverence which is a due and awful estimation of their persons as to this relation placed in eminencie above their children to acknowledg them from God himself the Supreme Parent of us all (f) Acts 17.28 the authors preservers and governors of their lives and upon that account to honour them in their hearts speeches and behaviours from an honest desire to please and filial fear to offend them whose children they are of what rank soever they now appear in the world and therefore to comport themselves so in all the actions of their lives before God and men that they render themselves acceptable to their Parents Yea to both of them the law requires reverence to the Mother as well as the Father (g) Levit. 19.3 with 30. the word which is in one verse fear is in another translated reverence to the claim of which the Mother there seems to be favour'd with some kind of priority because Children who have most needed their Mothers in their tender
entertainment viz. Sit not down in the highest Room lest it be the place of one more honourable (z) Luke 14.7 8. Agreeing with the Old Law (a) Lev. 19.32 Thou shalt rise up before the hoary head and honour the face of the old man and fear thy God And those of the Wise man (b) Prov. 25.6 7 8 9 16 20. Stand not in the place of great men it is better it be said to thee come up hither than that thou shouldst be put lower be not contentious disclose not secrets speak as becometh boast not be temperate in diet weary not thy neighbour with thy company be not rude and foolish before those in mourning be charitable c. to that purpose Solomon It is expected that Parents give prudent precepts to inform their Children how to speak and act in a decent orderly manner with a becoming grace in their circumstances (c) 1 Cor. 14.40 to use words and titles of respect and honour to their Superiors and Equals as he in the Gospel I go Sir (d) Mat. 21.30 And likewise a decent silence suitable gestures attention modest looks and bowing which though they may seem trivial yet the neglect of them will argue much rudeness irreverence and indecency whereas Christian Children should learn to do all things well (e) Job 29.9 11. Mark 7. â—7 Mat. 5.47 yea and to outdo any mere moralists in such civilities as are really material decent and not fantastical Parents should further give their Children such rudiments early as are indeed instructive to prepare them for a particular vocation or course of life agreeable to their temper and quality Here somewhat might be said of that sith man is born to trouble or labour (f) Job 5.7 Gen. 3.19 in some special service as they in the Scriptures have done (g) 4.2 37.2 Exod. 29.9 2.16 But I must not stay yet shall touch of Parents placing their Children into employments anon The late Books about the Gentleman 's Calling and the Ladie 's Calling and Education will shew after and with others* the benefit of these for those Children of the best as well as meanest condition ‖ Bp. Sandersoâ— Mr. Baxter's Christ Ethic. c. whether males or females where it may be observed that different Rules in some particulars for the education of Boys and Girls are to be given by discreet Parents †Guazz de civil conversat God who is severe against idleness expects all should employ their talents in such a professed way of life as he vvill approve of In order hereunto and for the attaining of the best gifts (h) 1 Cor. 12.31 great care is to be took and ingenious devices may be used to get Children imbued with the principles of learning and abilities to read write c. But I must haste on Yet here I cannot but disallow the indoctrinating of Children with superstitious notions vvhich nuzzle them up in vulgar errors that lead unto unbelief the affrighting of them vvith silly tales of Bugbears stories of Hobgoblins and Fairies c. profane and old wives Fables not tending to godliness (i) 1 Tim. 1 4.6 2.7 which occasion needless and groundless fears that afterwards when they should have more brains are not easily corrected or not without great difficulty remov'd And in my opinion the teaching of Children to beat inanimate Creatures is not to be allow'd both because it disposeth their weak understandings to misapprehensions of things and also teacheth them to inflict punishment in some instances when ordinarily they themselves do rather in some little proportion deserve it and then it stirs up in them a spirit of revenge whereas God hath appropriated vengeance to himself as universal Judge (k) Deut. 32.35 Rom. 12.19 Heb. 10.30 Psal 49.1 And we smile at a little dog for snarling at a stone yet see not the evil of making level and distorted conceptions in Children which may occasion a spiteful heart (l) Ezek. 25.15 a disposition very displeasing to God 3. Moderate chastisements to accompany the notices of good carriage Correction in a due manner and also suitable rewards for well-doing are necessary to check rudeness and encourage an ingenuous deportment As good documents do put in wisdom so due corrections do drive out folly (m) Pâ—ov 22.15 with 6. A child is not to be left to himself lest he bring the Parent to shame when a rod and reproof may give wisdom to prevent it (n) 29.15 Therefore God bids (o) 17. Correct thy Son and he shall give thee rest yea he shall give delight to thy Soul Elsewhere (p) 23.13 14. Withhold not correction from the child for if thou beat him with the rod he shall not die Thou shalt beat him with the rod and deliver his Soul from hell Here is not only a precept but promise of good fruit upon discharge of the duty in a right manner but it should be sued out by Prayer (q) 2 Sam. 7.27 28 the rather because the neglect of this duty is very dangerous to root and branch parent and child (r) 1 Sam. 3.13 1 Kings 1.6 yea and the greater need there is of Parents Prayer here lest they should fall into the extreme which my Text emphatically forbids Christian Parents whose Children are to obey them in the Lord are concern'd to chastise in the fear of God and therefore to seek that this appointment of his may be sanctified (s) 1 Tim. 4.5 Mich. 6 9. being joyned with instruction that it may be prevalent by the blessing of God in Christ whom the Heathen Philosophers have no regard to And here further Parents are concern'd to use much Christian prudence that their Children may understand 1. That they are from a Principle of love for their Children amendment and welfare necessitated to this sharp work (t) Rev. 3.19 which God hath enjoyn'd them in just circumstances as he himself chasteneth whom he loveth (u) Heb. 12.8 Deut. 8 5. And therefore if they should spare the rod through fondness God who knows the heart and affections best might censure them for hating their children (w) Prov. 13.24 3.12 whom they would not have been so severe with if they could have reform'd them at a cheaper rate Hence 2. That it is their childrens folly not their own passion which hath engag'd them in this smarting exercise wherein overmuch heat would be like an over-hot medicine that scalds rather than cures Some Parents are apt to go beyond just measures and to chastise for their own pleasure (x) Heb. 12.10 but they must learn of God to aim at their childrens profit and not correct them but upon good reason Even Plutarch could determine that punishment should never be inflicted for flesh-pleasing Parents should not take the rod to vent their own anger but to subdue their childrens sin which a man may not suffer upon his neighbour without rebuke lest he be guilty
fear Death and 31. Grace thus in Exercise Sermon 31 is but one degree from Glory Now Christians though there are many particular Cases wherein you 'l need Direction yet let me close with this Request Try your utmost what the practical Transcript of these Directions into your Hearts and Lives will produce ere you complain for more That these may be useful to you whoever else censures them as useless shall be the hearty Prayer of June 19. 1674. Your worthless Servant Samuel Annesley The CONTENTS Dr. Annesley Serm. 1 HOw may we attain to love God with all our hearts souls and minds Mat. 22.37 38. Mr. Milward Serm. 2 How ought we to love our Neighbour as our selves Mat. 22.39 Mr. Gale Serm. 3 Wherein the love of the world is inconsistent with the love of God 1 Joh. 2.15 Mr. Jenkyn Serm. 4 How may we improve the present season of grace 2 Cor. 6.1 2. Mr. Veal Serm. 5 What spiritual knowledg they ought to seek for that desire to be saved c. Isa 27.11 Mr. Case Serm. 6 How ought the Sabbath to be sanctified Isa 58.13 14. Mr. Senior Serm. 7 How may we hear the Word with profit James 1.21 Mr. Watson Serm. 8 How may we read the Scriptures with most spiritual profit Deut. 17.19 Mr. Wells Serm. 9 How may we make melody in our hearts with singing of Psalms Eph. 5.19 Dr. Manton Serm. 10 How ought we to improve our Baptism Acts 2.38 Mr. Lye Serm. 11 By what spiritual rules may catechising be best manag'd Prov. 22.6 Mr. Wadsworth Serm. 12 How may it appear to be every Christian 's indispensable duty to partake of the Lord's Supper 1 Cor. 11.24 Mr. Barker Serm. 13 A Religious fast Mark 2.20 Mr. Lee Serm. 14 How to manage secret Prayer that it may be prevalent with God to the comfort and satisfaction of our Souls Mat. 6.6 Mr. Doolitle Serm. 15 How may the Duty of Family-prayer be best manag'd Josh 24.15 Mr. Steele Serm. 16 What are the Duties of Husbands and Wives towards each other Eph. 5.33 Mr. Adams Serm. 17 What are the Duties of Parents and Children Coloss 3.20 21. Mr. Janeway Serm. 18 What are the Duties of Masters and Servants Eph. 6.5 6 7 8 9. Mr. S. C. Serm. 19 The sinfulness and cure of thoughts Gen. 6.5 Mr. West Serm. 20 How must we govern our tongues Eph. 4.29 Mr. Poole Serm. 21 How may detraction be best prevented or cur'd Psal 15.3 Mr. Baxter Serm. 22 What is that light which must shine before men in the works of Christ's Disciples Matth. 5.16 Dr. Wilkinson Serm. 23 How must we do all in the Name of Christ Col. 3.17 Mr. Cole Serm. 24 How may we steer an even course between Presumption and Despair Luke 3.5 6. Mr. Fowler Serm. 25 How Christians may get such a faith as may not only be saving at last but comfortable and joyful at the present 2 Pet. 1.8 Dr. Jacomb Serm. 26 How Christians may learn in every state to be content Phil. 4.11 Dr. G. Serm. 27 How we may so bear afflictions as neither to despise them nor faint under them Heb. 12.5 Dr. Owen Serm. 28 How may we bring our Hearts to receive Reproofs Psal 141.5 Mr. T. Vincent Serm. 29 Wherein doth appear the blessedness of forgiveness and how it may be attained Psal 32.1 Mr. Silvester Serm. 30 How may we overcome the inordinate love of Life and fear of Death Acts 20.24 Mr. Hook Serm. 31 What gifts of Grace are chiefly to be exercis'd in order to an actual preparation for the coming of Christ by Death and Judgment Mat. 25.10 Quest How may we attain to love God with all our Hearts Souls and Minds Serm. I. Matth. 22.37 38. Jesus said unto him Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart and with all thy soul and with all thy mind This is the first and great Commandment IT is fit this Exercise should begin with a general Introduction that may indifferently serve every Sermon that shall be Preach'd I should be much mistaken and so would you too should we think this Text unsuitable let 's therefore not only in the fear but also in the love of God address our selves to the management of it This Command you have in Deut. 6.5 Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thine heart and with all thy soul and with all thy might This Command is not found in Exodus nor in Leviticus but only in Deuteronomy i. e. the second Law of Moses which as some express it bore a Type of the second Law viz. the Evangelical to which this Command is proper for the Old Law was a Law of fear tending to bondage and therefore Moses mentions the incussion of terror in the giving of it which when he hath dispatch'd he begins the following Chapter with Love noting that the Holy Ghost will cause the Law of Love to succeed the Law of Fear And 't is observable that the Jews read this place with the highest observation and their Scribes write the first and last words of the Preface to it with greater Letters than ordinary to amplifie the sense and to note that this is the beginning and the end of the Divine Law and they read this Scripture morning and evening with great * Jansen Harmon The Occasion Religion The occasion of Christ's pressing this command upon them at this time was this when the Pharisees heard how he had baffled the Sadduces and stopped their mouths with so proper and fit an answer that they had no more to say they consult how they may shew their acumen and sharpness of wit to diminish Christ's credit concerning his Doctrine and Skill in Scripture and therefore they chuse out one of their most accomplish'd Interpreters of the Law captiously to propose an excellent question They call him Master whose Disciples they will not be they enquire after the Great Commandment who will not duely observe the least they thought Christ could not return such an answer but that they might very plausibly except against it * Cartw. Harm Auth. imperfect op If Christ should have named any one command to be the greatest their exception was ready why not another as great as that but Christ's wisdom shames their subtilty Christ doth not call any command Great with the lessening of the rest but he repeats the summe of the whole Law and distinguisheth it into two Great Commands according to the subordination of their Objects Thou shalt love c. Though the excellency of the subject calls for the enlargement of your hearts yet the copiousness of it requires the contracting of my discourse To save time therefore let me open my Text and Case both together The Case is this The Case What is it to love God with all the heart
to the Sheeps passing out of the Fold when they were to be Tithed for God Levit. 27.32 they were to be told with a Rod one two three c. and the Tenth was the Lords God will not covenant with us in the lump and body but every one was to be particularly minded of his Duty 't is not enough that our Parents did engage for us in Baptism as the Israelites in the Name of their little ones did avouch God to be their God Dent. 29.10 11 12. No man can savingly transact this Work for another we must ratifie the Covenant in our own Persons and make our own professed subjection to the Gospel of Christ 2 Cor. 9.13 This Work cannot be done by a Proxy or Assigns our Parents Dedication will not profit us without some personal Act of our own if we live to years of discretion Once more this must be done not only in words or visible external Rites which may signifie so much as personal Covenanting with God but a Man must ingage his heart to God Jer. 30.21 yea this is a business that must be done between God and our own Souls where no outward witnesses are conscious to it God speaketh to the Soul in this transaction Psal 35.3 Say unto my Soul I am thy Salvation and the Soul speaketh to God Lam. 3.24 thou art my Portion saith my soul and Psal 16.2 O my soul thou hast said unto the Lord thou art my God thus the Covenant is carried on in Soul-Language Now upon this Personal inward Covenanting with God our right to all the priviledges doth depend 2. Renew often the sense of your Obligation to God and keep a constant reckoning how you lay out your selves for him Acts 27.23 His I am and him I serve Phil. 1.21 To me to Live is Christ Some few Renegado's renounce their Baptism but most Christians forget their Baptism 2 Pet. 1.9 He is blind and cannot see afar off and has forgotten that he was washed from his old sins therefore we should be continually exciting our selves both to obedience and dependence that the sincerity of our first Vow and Consent may be verified by a real and constant performance of it 3. You should use frequent self-reflection that you may come to know whether you are indeed washed from the guilt and silth of sin 1 Cor. 6.11 Such were some of you but now ye are sanctified but now ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the spirit of our God You should observe what further sense you have of the pardon of sin how you get ground upon your bondage of Spirit and grow up into some rejoycing of Faith for by these signs God intended our strong consolation Heb. 6.18 And the Eunuch when he was Baptized went his way rejoicing Acts 8.39 Hath God applyed his Covenant to me Taken me into the Family Planted me into the Mystical Body of Christ and shall not I be glad and rejoyce in his Salvation So for Sanctification see whether God's Interest doth prevail in you or the Interest of the Flesh what Power and strength of Will you get against Corruption easily Gal. 5.16 17. whether sin be more subdued and you can govern your Passions and Appetites better Gal. 5.24 They that are Christ's should find something of this in themselves otherwise their Baptism is but an empty formality Fourthly and Lastly You must use it as a great help in all Temptations as when you are tempted to sin either by the delights of Sense a Christian hath his Answer ready I am no Debtor to the Flesh or I am Baptized and dedicated to God in the way of Mortification and Holiness to obtain pardon and Life 1 Cor. 6.15 Shall I take the Members of Christ c. this Soul this Body this Time this Strength is Christs not to please the Flesh but the Lord Or by the terrors of Sense Dionysia comforted her Son Majoricus an African Martyr when he was going to suffer for owning the God-head of Christ with this Speech Memento Fili Baptizatum esse in nomine Patris Filii Spiritus Sancti Remember my Son that thou art Baptized in the name of the Father Son and Holy Ghost and be constant So when you are tempted by the Devil taking advantage of your Melancholy and grievous afflictions to question God's Love and Mercy to Penitent Believers Remember the Covenant Sealed in Baptism that you may keep up your Faith in God through Christ which pardoneth all your sins and hath begotten us to a lively hope We must expect to be Tempted the Devil tempted Christ after his Baptism to question his filiation so solemnly attested Compare Mat. 3.17 with Mat. 4.16 Luther saith of himself that when the Devil tempted him to despair or to any doubts and fears about the Love of God or his Mercy to Sinners he would always Answer Ecce ego Baptizatus sum credo in Christum Crucifixum Behold I am Baptized and Believe in Christ Crucified And he telleth us of an Holy Virgin who gave this reply when the Devil abused her Solitudes and injected any despairing thoughts into her mind Baptizata sum I am Baptized and entred into God's Covenant and will expect the pardon of my sins by Jesus Christ Thus should we all the daies of our Life improve our Baptism till we have the full of that Holy and Happy estate for which we were first purified and washed in God's Laver. By what Scriptural Rules may Catechizing be be so managed as that it may become most Vniversally Profitable Serm. XI Proverbs 22.6 Train up or Catechize a Child in the way he should go or in his way and when he is old he will not depart from it THIS most Excellent Book of Sacred Aphorisins or Divine Proverbs is by some not unfitly compared to a costly Chain of Orient Pearls among which though there be a fair Connexion yet there is little or no Coherence I shall therefore immediately enter on the words themselves and in them I observe a Precept and a Promise an important Duty and a perswasive Motive 1. A grand important necessary Duty enjoyned Train up or Catechize a Child in the way he should go In which words we have 1. The Act or Duty prescribed Train up or Catechize Piously and prudently instruct and educate 2. The Object or Person that is to be trained up a Child By a Synechdoche all such Younger ones and Inferiours as are committed to the care and conduct of their Superiours 3. The Subject-matter wherein these Inferiours are thus to be trained up In the way he should go In that way or manner of life which most suits and becomes him that makes most for God's Glory and his own temporal spiritual and eternal good 2. Quo semel est in buta recens servabit odrem testa diu Aâ— plurimum So. Observation 2. A Cogent Argument or prevalent Motive to excite and quicken to the faithful discharge of this important Duty And
them from their Children shewing to the Generation to come the praises of the Lord and his strength and his wonderful work that he hath done Deut. 4 9. 6.7 5. For he established a Testimony in Jacob and appointed a Law in Israel which he commanded our Fathers that they should make them known to their children 6. That the Generation to come might know them even the children which should be born who should arise and declare them to their children 7. That they might set their hope in God and not forget the works of God Thus Hezekiah upon his recovery from death Isa 38.19 The living the living he shall praise thee as I do this day the Father to the Children shall make known thy truth They that survive they alone can and each of them should praise the Lord this being the principal end to which men should live and for which they should desire life Psal 80.18 The Father to the Children shall make known thy truth i. e. they shall transmit the memory of thy faithfulness in the performance of thy promises to Posterity Psal 145.4 3. Arguments 1. The Souls of Children as well as their Bodies are committed to the care and trust of Parents by the Lord to whom they must give a strict account 'T is a grand mistake to think that the care of Souls belongs only to Ministers True indeed it eminently belongs to our Spiritual Pastors Ezek. 3.18 19. If they warn not the wicked from his wicked way to save his life the same wicked man shall dye in his iniquity but his blood will God require at the negligent Pastor's hand Omnia quae deliquerint filii à parentibus requirentur qui non erudierint filios suos Orig. And no less doth God bespeak Parents in the same language that we find 1 Kings 20.39 Keep this man this child if by any means he be missing then shall thy life be for his life If he be lost and miscarry through thy neglect thy life thy Soul shall go for his As therefore Parents dread the guilt of Soul murther of their children they ought to be careful of their pious Education Psal 51.5 2. The state of poor childrens Souls calls aloud on Parents for the discharge of this duty Alas poor Creatures conceiv'd in sin brought forth in iniquity those whom we fondly miscall Innocent Babes come into the World with an Indictment on their Foreheads with ropes about their necks full of guilt full of filth bloody loathsom Creatures Gen. 8.21 Job 14.4 Prov. 22.15 Eph. 2.3 Children of wrath nothing in them by nature that is good Rom. 7.18 An averseness from all good Psal 58.3 Eph. 4.18 A proneness to all evil These young Lyons prone to cruelty they are Serpents in the very Egg and Cockatrices in the very shell Isa 59.5 And whence comes all this guilt and filth but from the hole of the Pit out of which they are digid from that unhappy Rock out of which they are hewn their unhappy Parents Job 14.1 4. 15.14 Isa 51.5 sinful Parents having utterly lost God's Image like Adam beget children in their own Gen. 5.3 Nay Abraham himself though a circumcised Saint as a Natural Father begets an uncircumcised Isaac The Vine they spring from is a Vine of Sodom and therefore the Children are the Grapes of Gomorrah Bloody Parents are we to our Children Exod. 21.19 how much then doth it concern Parents even in common Justice to endeavour to cure those wounds that they themselves have given and to preserve their Little Ones from perishing by that Leprosie infection poyson which they by Nature conveigh into them And here what Topicks do not offer themselves to convince the judgments of Rational Parents 1. There is a 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 a natural love and affection in Parents to their Children Nature gives bowels of pity to them that are in misery specially to children Isa 49.15 Psal 103.13 Will Parents then prove unnatural nay worse than beasts for even the Sea-monsters draw out their breasts and give suck to their young ones Lam. 4.3 Charity edifies saith the Apostle 1 Cor. 8.1 1 Cor. 8.1 David's and Bathsheba's tender love to their Solomon put them upon careful instructing of him wherein they shewed their love to his Soul as well as his Body 2. Parents either do or should principally aim at the Spiritual and Eternal good of their poor Children And what more profitable and effectual way to promote this than pious instruction and education The Earth often proves according to the seeds cast into it The Vessel usually retains a smack and tincture of that with which it was first season'd What Blessings might Parents prove to their Children What excellent things might be effected by them if they did but take the advantage of their tender years and then resolvedly set themselves to bring them in to God 3. Parentt cannot but love themselves their own peace their own comforts their own delights and what more probable means to advance these than the pious education of their children which fully appears by this Dilemma either their conscientious endeavours prove successful or not 1. If not If after all care pains prayer faithfulness the Crop should not answer the Seed why this may relieve and support Liberavit animam suam that it is not through the Parents default The Child dyes but not by the Father's hand He hath discharg'd his duty and thereby in the sight of God deliver'd his own Soul from guilt though he could not deliver his Child's Soul from ruine Where God sees such a willing mind backt with sincere utmost constant endeavours 2 Cor. 8.12 God accepts the faithful Parent according to that he hath and not according to that he hath not But 2. If the Lord please to smile on endeavours into what a transport and extasie of joy will it raise the serious Parent to see the corruption of his Child's Nature heal'd to see saving grace wrought in his heart If such a sight be so pleasing to Spiritual Fathers to Paul 1 Thess 2.10 to John John 3. Ep. v 4. how ravishing must it needs be to Natural Parents Prov. 10.1 and 23 24 25. But especially when this is wrought by their own means 4. When this grace is wrought in the hearts of children and that especially by their Parents this cannot but inflame the hearts of children with dearest love of and ingage them to the highest duty to their Parents they must of necessity be far more loving and dutiful than otherwise they could or would be A wise Son maketh a glad Father But how Prov. 15.20 viz. by a dutiful and respectful carriage 5. By this means Parents shall do unspeakable good to their Families and Posterity Hereby even many Ages after they are dead like Abel Deut. 4.9 they shall yet speak and Posterity hearing the voice of their Ancestors coming as it were from the dead they will be more
and therefore though her Beauty be decayed her Portion spent her Weaknesses great and her Vsefulness small yet she is a piece of my Self and here the wise God hath determined my affection And when all is said This is the only Sure Foundation and holds perpetually 2. This Love must be right for the Extent of it I mean it reaches the whole Person both Soul and Body Every man should choose such an one whose outward features and proportion he can highly esteem and affect and it speaks the admirable Wisdom of God to frame such variety of fancies to answer the variety of persons and there being such choice it is sottish folly to choose where a man cannot love and the greatest Injury possible to the wife to insnare her heart and bind her to one that shall afterwards say he cannot love her But besides this true Conjugal Love to a Wife reaches her Soul So as to see an amiableness in her mind and disposition so as to study how to polish her Soul more and more with wisdom and piety and to indeavour that her Soul may prosper as her body prospers 3. Right for the Degree of it It must be transcendent above your Love to Parents For this cause shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his Wife Gen. 2.24 The Husband must honour his Parents but he must love his Wife as himself and must yet with all prudence prefer her in his respects when ever they come in Competition and those Parents have forgotten the Relation and Duty of an husband that expect other from their Children when they are married And so he must prefer her in his affection before his Children and (l) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Chrysost in Eph. 5. rather love them for her sake than her for theirs and before all others in the World In short he must so love her as to delight in her company above all others Let her be as the loving hinde and pleasant roe let her breasts satisfie thee at all times and be thou ravisht always with her love Prov. 5.19 20. 4. The Husbands love must be right for the Duration of it And the last named Scripture clears that be thou always ravisht with her love Not only kind before other folk and then cold in private but always not for a week or moneth or the first year but while life lasts Yea as he hath experience of her vertue and sweetness his love should daily (m) Vbi uxo â—m magis fueris expertus teneriùs est amauda Illud verò ubi uxore ad satietatem fueris potitu refrigescere amorem quem arder ut videtur libidiuis accenderat hominum est spurcorum abjâ—ctissimorum imò verò non hominum sed belluarum Lud. Vives de off mar increase as you know we love any creature the more by how much the longer we have had them and nothing more betrays the baseness of a mans spirit then to neglect his Wife when his sensual appetite is once cloyed For you have had her beauty and strength why should you not also have her wrinkles and infirmities yea and give the more respect to her tryed fidelity However this is certain still you are one Flesh and every man continues kind to his own flesh how infirm and noysom soever it be And if there be less comliness in the body yet usually there is more beauty in the mind more wisdom humility and fear of the Lord so that still there are sufficient Arguments in her or Arguments in the Bible to perpetuate your conjugal Affection 2. Let us trace the Husbands Love to his Wife in its Pattern laid down in the Scripture and particularly in the Context and Words which I am handling And 1. The Husband ought to love his Wife as our Saviour Christ loveth his Church Ver. 25. Husbands love your Wives even as Christ also loved his Church He must nourish and cherish her even as the Lord the Church ver 29. Now these Texts direct us to the quality of our Love though we cannot reach to an equality with Christ herein How then doth Jesus Christ love his Church I shall search no farther into this Depth than so far as it is proposed in this Context for a Pattern surely to all Husbands in their love And this his Love is represented here to be 1. Hearty without dissimulation Ver. 25. He loved the Church and gave himself for it His Love was Real for he Dyed of it The Husband must write after this Copy Not to love his wife in word and tongue only but in deed and in truth that if his heart were opened her Name might be found written there Some vain complemental persons there are that do outstrip in their overt addresses many sincere and true-hearted husbands but neither doth God nor should a discreet wife look only at the appearance but at the heart 2. Free without being prevented before or likely to be rewarded after For ver 26. he gave himself that he might cleanse his Church which implies that she was in ill plight when he began his motions She was no beauty no we loved him because he loved us first The Husband must precede and by his love draw out the love of his wife for (n) Ego tibi monstrabo amatorium sine medicamento sine herba Si vis amari ama Hec in Sen. Ep. 9. Love is the whetstone of Love And if she appear weak as their sex by constitution is both in wisdom strength and courage or prove unlovely and (o) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Chrysost in Eph. 5. hom 20. negligent of her duty yet he must love her For love seeketh not her own True love doth more study to better the object beloved than to advantage the subject that loveth And to love a Wife only in hopes of some Advantages by her is unworthy the heart of an Husband and no way like the example of Christ 3. Holy without impurity For ver 26. He loved his Church that he might sanctifie and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word that is by the use of the Word and Sacraments The Husband cannot have a better Copy and is taught hereby to indeavour at any cost and pains whatsoever to further the sanctification and salvation of his wife Of which before 4. Great without comparison For greater love hath no man than this to lay down his life for his friend and so did our Saviour ver 25. he (p 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Affectum indicat 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Effectum amoris demonstrat Daven in Col. p. 340. gave himself for his Church He took not on him the Nature of Angels but preferr'd the seed of Abraham The Husband must herein imitate his Lord and Master by preserving a singular and superlative respect for his wife because she is a member of his body of his flesh and of his bones But of this also before 5. Constant without alteration
his wife the wife that truly fears God dares not be cross with her husband A Bible plac'd between you will take up many a difference comfort you under many a cross and pang guide you in many a strait wherein flesh and blood will be confounded and at a loss And then in those critical cases wherein Duty and Passion strive for mastery resolve with your selves that it is much better for either of you to obey God's will than to have your own That as there is the highest Reason in his Commands so there is the greatest Sweetness in obeying them Set oft before you that golden Rule Matth. 7.12 and calmly consider whether you behave your self to your yoke-fellow as you your self would be dealt with if you were in their condition And though you be never so just and good other wayes yet believe that Jam. 2.10 he or she that keeps the whole law and yet offends knowingly and commonly in one point is guilty of all Your Righteousness abroad will not excuse your crossness at home nor her zeal in prayer make any amends for her heat in passion But when you are both resolved to study your own duties and sincerely to do them how hard soever you will live together as heirs of the grace of life and as heirs of the life of glory 5. Settle your affections well at the beginning It was a wise and true Observation (q) Plutacch praeâ— conjug that vessels which are compacted of divers parts or glued together of divers pieces at first will easily with every bruise or fall be broke in pieces but when they are strengthened by tract of time it will be very hard yea scarce possible to separate them So it is in marriage at first the union is raw and green an unkindness then a cross word or look will quickly alienate but when time and experience have consolidated this new sprung affection then it will be much harder to dissolve it And being once assured of a conjugal love in each other give no way to cursed Jealousie which very often hath no other ground than the Weakness or Wickedness of them that are sick of it and to be sure when once it is admitted all the joy and comfort of this life is gone it is a bitter-sweet Poyson and miserable are they that either give or take occasion for it Stop your ears therefore and knit your brow upon tale-bearers and whisperers that under pretence of great love and secrecy tell you just Nothing and remember that Love thinketh no evil but puts the best interpretation possible upon the doubful words looks and carriage of a stranger much more of so near a (r) Liberiores sunt viri quam foeminae vitae totius rationis Viris curanda esse mutla foeminis solam pudicitiam Claudendae aures iis qui sinistrum quid de marito volunt deferre Lu. Vives de Chr. foem p. 720. Relation And this I mention here because most commonly Jealousie takes place there where true Affection was never fixed and rooted in the beginning 6. Lastly to speak all in one Pray for Wisdom Humility and Vprightness 1. Wisdom for vve owe many of our Domestick distempers to our weakness and indiscretion not wisely preventing or removing things that cause offence How easily would a wise man avoid distasting words or looks or actions How easily might he keep his Authority and never forfeit it and she submit and never dispute it wisdom would pick and chuse the fittest opportunities to instruct advise reprove and comfort and vvould direct to the best manner and method vvherein to do it Wisdom vvill consider that either party might have found the same or greater crosses in another condition as in this or in another person as in this and therefore things are vvell in that they are not worse and however that marriage which is God's Ordinance must not be charged with their disquiets but themselves And 2. Humility that is a singular help for them both in the discharging of their Duties This will keep the Husband from the intemperate use of his power and the vvife in a ready subjection to her Husband For only by pride cometh contention but with the well-advised is wisdom Prov. 13.10 A proud Spirit could not agree vvith an Angel but the humble will agree with any body This also will greatly help them to contentment in their Condition For says Humility my Husband my Wife is a great deal too good for such a sinful creature as I am my condition is too good for me these straits and troubles are great but I deserve greater this was a sharp reproof but alas I deserve hell and what 's a harsh word to hell That man or woman vvill sit down quietly with great tryals that know they are not worthy the least of mercies And besides Humility will suggest such a carriage and behaviour in word and deed as will infallibly oblige each other and force respect from them And lastly Vprightness is necessary to the doing of these Duties well For there is written a conclusive law in an upright heart to do the whole will of God whether it appear to be with them or against them it will teach them rather to obey than to dispute and in obedience to do each more than their part rather than less In doubtful cases the upright heart will choose the safest course though it prove the hardest and resolves to suffer the greatest injury rather than offer the least An upright heart watches against sinful self which is the great root of injuries and mischiefs in every relation and prompts us to keep on in the way of our duty notwithstanding all discouragments In a word the upright Husband and Wife do chiefly study each their (s) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Chrys in Col. Hom. 10. own Duty in their Relations and are most severe against their own particular failings What are the Duties of Parents and Children and how are they to be managed according to Scripture Serm. XVII Colos III. 20 21. Children obey your Parents in all things for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers provoke not your Children to anger lest they be discouraged MY business is not to discuss the Entity of Relations in their foundation and terms which the Philosopher is conversant about but to discourse the Efficacy of the chiefest in Christian practice Relationes etsi minimae eâ—titatis sunt maximae efficaciae i. e. to enquire into the nature and management of those reciprocal offices betwixt Parents and Children which if well discharg'd according to the sense of the Divine Oracles do contribute most to the happiness of humane Society and give reputation to the Communion of Saints The Subject I know is common and the Scriptures copious upon it which some who it may be are not the most accurate in their own relative station think a very easie task to treat on but to do it distinctly and fully within the time allotted to
years are apt many times to despise them as more subject to infirmities and as looking for less of respect from their hands So that really to give them honour is a fuller evidence of cordial performance The Lord is pleas'd to begin there where the duty is most tried Reverence thy Mother and thy Father de leg l. 4. Ethic. l. 9. l. 2. Spizel de re literar Sineas p. 243. Both are to be had in a just veneration Plato and Aristotle could by Nature's light teach thus 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 This as the prime law of Nature the Spartans and generally all Nations of old did and Chinoises at this day do maintain with admirable care Now doing reverence to the Fathers of our flesh (h) Heb. 9.12 in Scripture may comprehend what Children owe to their Parents both with reference to their speech and behaviour 1 With respect to their speech that it be seasonable and agreeable to the relation grac'd with humility (i) 1 Pet. 5.5 and modesty in all converse with them in presence and discourse of them in absence They should give them honourable titles as that of Father and Mother do connote dignity (k) Jer. 31.9 Gal. 4.6 and so Sir or Lord (l) Mat. 21.30 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 thus we have good Children in the Book of God saluting their Parents as Isaac his Father Abraham (m) Gen. 22.11 Jacob Isaac (n) 17.18 David Saul his Father in law (o) 1 Sam. 24.28 Solomon Bathsheba my Mother (p) 1 King 2.20 21. Rachel Laban making her Apology My Lord (q) Gen. 31.35 David again Saul (r) 1 Sam. 26.18 and that with all meekness at a sit season in a few words with freedom and readiness (s) Gen. 22 7. 27.12 giving pleasing answers when spoken to in a becoming civility (t) 1 Sam. 12.4 6.18 waiting with contentment to hear them speak first (u) Prov 4.1 laying their hands on their mouths and refraining to talk in their presence without just occasion (w) Job 29.9 10 21. 32.5 6. And in their absence by speaking so of them amongst those they do converse that by the commendable reports they make of them or prudent apologies for them it may be understood what venerable respects they have for their Parents Thus 't is said of the Children of the prudent Mother they rise up as those who speak pathetically and call her blessed (x) Prov. 31.28 in that laudable discourse they have of her Hereby Children will prove themselves to be of a vertuous temper and not like that elder brother of the penitent Prodigal who spake undecently in a surly manner to his Father (y) Luk. 15 29 30. and sometime some of Jacob's sons to theirs (z) Gen. 34.31 and such like who by their rude and malapert prating disparage and aggrieve their parents (a) 26.35 27.46 Yet of a more untoward generation are they whom the Wiseman took notice of that curse their Father and do not bless their Mother but saith he their lamp shall go out in obscurity (b) Prov. 20.20 Neither can there be a better end of those who are under the Almighty's curse devoted to death (c) Lev. 20.9 Exod. 21.17 neither can they who do any way set light by their Father or Mother avoid a much easier censure (d) Deut. 27 16 Lib. 44. de Rep. sith by interpretation it is a dishonour to God himself Plato in his Commonwealth orders that Children should in their words through their whole life revere their Parents there being a great punishment imminent for light and idle discourse Further 2 The hehaviour and carriage of Children should ever be significative and expressive of reverence to their Parents in all their addresses the countenance so composed in their presence as may argue awfulness and respect the deportment lowly rising up before those they honour for relation as well as those venerable for age (e) Lev. 19.32 and at meeting thus Solomon though a King did to his Mother Bathsheba (f) 1 Kings 2.19 hasting to attend them in a lowly posture thus Joseph who liv'd as a Prince made ready to meet and presented himself to his Father whom he had maintained (g) Gen. 46.29 so Achsah Caleb's daughter who was married to her Cousin German when she addressed her self to her Father she alighted from her beast before she spoke to him (h) Judg. 1 14.5◠and again Joseph thought it no disparagement to prostrate himself to his aged father Jacob whose eyes were then dim that he could not see his behaviour when he also gave his own Children an example in praying for his Father's blessing (i) Gen. 43.12 which Esau though he came tardè did passionately beg for (k) 27.19 34. And though Parents now have not a Prophetick spirit as the Patriarch's had yet it seems still very equitable that Christian Children considering their Parents Superiority in the Lord should frequently upon occasion in an (l) Heb. 7 7. Mar. 10.17 humble manner crave their Parents prayers for God's blessing The rude and haughty looks which are in many Children before their Parents cannot comport with this duty which discards a dogged and supercilious countenance that betokens scorn and derision opposite to this filial reverence The Wise man makes a smart remark upon such odious insolent behaviour which might deter any of understanding from it when he saith (m) Prov. 30.17 The eye that mocketh his Father and despiseth to obey his Mother the Ravens of the Valley shall pick it out and the young Eagles shall eat it Here is a signal retaliation to those who in speech or behaviour deride the persons or despise the counsels of their Parents whether yet alive or deceased 'T were to be wish'd it had been better studied by some Children in this Generation I mean some late and present Preachers of our Age who do not parentare manibus but indeed upbraid the Ghosts of their reverend and pious Parents who warmly argued the necessity of regeneration either by reckoning them amongst the herd of Divines or with an harangue of lame sequels perch up to vent their callow notions and bespatter their own nest in complacence with the lax humour of the times when many for the bags cry Hail Master but betray the Son of Man with a kiss (n) Mat. 26.49 wic Luk. 22.48 yet I would hope there are but a few of this feather I proceed to mind Children of another duty and that is 2. Observance whereby their Parents pleasure with fit subjection is perform'd out of a real desire to promote their honour vvhich is more than in countenance and ceremonies to express obedience (o) Mat. 21.30 It is very requisite Christian Children should with an heedful circumspection observe the holy and wise prescripts and practices of their Parents by acknowledging subjection to their government Our blessed Lord himself set a
token of ill behaviour under Government and do disguise Children of the most comly structure in the world Thus of the first general in Childrens duties The second is concerning the Latitude and extent of Childrens obedience in all things 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in my Text. We cannot imagine this is so universal and absolute as Obedience to God or that the obligation lies in any thing beside the mind of the supreme Governour of Heaven and Earth or dissonant to the holy will of our Lord for only that obedience is required which is well-pleasing and grateful unto him So that the Power demanding it must have a warrant from him unless we should embrace the horrid opinion of the daring Atheist in his Leviathan †c. 42 p. 234. who impiously affirms that if a Christian be commanded by his lawful Prince or Soveraign whose authority was first paternal to say he doth not believe in Christ it is lawful to obey which atheistical tenet doth either post-pone the command of God to the command of man which is most abominable or without further enquiry doth account it a divine precept which would prefer an hellish error to the Heavenly verity overturn the whole Christian institution and set up diabolical adoration ‖ Dr Templar Idea Theol. Levia p. 96 97 251. 101 102. 'T would introduce an infallible spirit in all Civil as the Papists pretend to have in their Ecclesiastical Government yea quite exterminate all regards of Conscience and raze out the common notions of good and evil whereas all subjection which is not of faith i. e. agrees not with the judgment of Conscience propounding it's dictates under the reason of the Divine will is sin (x) Rom. 13.1 4.5 with 14.23 God is only arbitrary and absolute Lawgiver (y) Jam 4.12 And as Constant the Father of Constantine the Emperour affirm'd they could not be faithful Subjects unto him who easily contemn'd God and their Conscience neither Children be truly obedient to their Parents who do so Our obedience then ought to be only in all things acceptable to our supreme Lord and Master And therefore the Apostle hath elsewhere express'd the command to obey in the Lord (z) Eph. 6.1 5 6. which is the same as unto the Lord and unto Christ fearing God (a) Colos 3.22 23. in opposition to the pleasing of men This doth moderate the commands of Parents and regulate the obedience of Children Wives and Servants 'T is true had Parents kept their original rectitude their commands would never have been other than consonant to the Divine pleasure and Law of Nature but the fall that disordered that harmonious and happy constitution and now their precepts do often thwart or jar with the will of him who is Soveraign Lord whom to please is the determination or limit as well as motive to Childrens obedience This agrees with the sense of Arch-bishop Anselm †Comment in Colos in his tantummodo quae praâ—eptum Domini non excedunt c. 580 years ago expounding my Text. How it will rellish now with those of his order in an Hypothesis of theirs I determine not But he saith that Natural and Ecclesiastical Carnal and Spiritual Parents are to be obeyed in all things only in the Lord i. e. saith he in those things only which are not beside or Do not exceed the precept of the Lord because it is pleasing unto God that in such a manner we should obey them It should seem he held then according to truth that if a Superiour should exceed his commission by imposing any preter-evangelical Canon for Doctrine or practice the Inferiors non-conformity thereunto was no transgression For in obeying the commands of a subordinate power (b) Acts 4.19 5.29 Exod. 1.17 we are primarily to take care that the rights of the absolute Soveraign remain inviolable seeing God gave the Parent that Authority he hath in requiring that which is displeasing to God he hath none And as the Child is to obey him so he is to obey God without whose warrant his child is not oblig'd to active obedience but passive or submission by suffering the penalty with cheerfulness that is pleasing to God in such a case For the truth is It is thank-worthy if one for Conscience towards God endure grief suffering wrongfully (c) 1 Pet. 2.19 20. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 this is acceptable with God whatever acceptance it find among men there is a grace in this behaviour before God Now the great thing Children are to look at in their obedience to Parents is that it be well-pleasing to God so saith my Text and if they obey without his warrant who can secure them they shall do what is acceptable with him God is to have an affection predominant to that we have for our Parents (d) Mat. 10.37 Luke 14.26.9.59 60 61. We must not dishonour him in pretension to honour them In things impious or dishonest Parents have no authority herein disobedience would be just and obsequiousness criminal Hence we find Acrotatus commended amongst the Antients because when his Parents had required of him to do an unjust thing he answered I know you are willing I should do that which is just for so you taught me to do I will therefore do that which you desire I should but what you bid me I will not do A denial in this case is to be express'd in all humble language Hierocles though no Christian hath notable things about the extent of Childrens obedience for he arguing in this case 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 c. ‖ Comment in Câ—rm Pytbag p. 53 c. If in all things we must obey our Parents how shall we go astray from piety and other vertues if through the pravity of their manners they lead us into those things which are not altogether honest and commendable If sometime their will be not consonant to the Divine Laws He gives this answer amongst others * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 c. If indeed the Divine Law draw you to one thing and your Parents to another in this disagreement of wills it is more excellent to choose those things which are better and in those only to be inobservant of the commands of Parents wherein even they themselves obey not the Divine Laws for it cannot be that he who is resolv'd to observe the rules of vertue can consent to them by whom they are neglected but in all other things we ought as much as we can to honour our Parents viz. in bodily observance and a most ready free supply of things necessary sith they have right to use those they have brought forth and nourished c. Neither will the Parents unkindness be enough to discharge the Child from obedience which is to be yielded in all the circumstances of their lives And that considering 3. The great reason to engage in the duties of Childrens obedience in the Lord is undoubtedly the most cogent Motive
can be urg'd to the performance of all generous actions viz. because it is well-pleasing to the Lord. So 't is express God himself in Covenant is taken with it with this Chain on a Child's neck as I may allude to that of Christ to his Spouse (e) Cant. 4.9 because it sets forth the beauty and loveliness of a Child as a Child The Lord hath given it in charge to all Christian Children here in my Text and elsewhere (f) Eph. 6.1 as a vigorous enforcement of the fifth Commandment The supreme authority of our Heavenly Father who hath an uncontrollable dominion over us makes any duties which he requires highly reasonable But he who is a rewarder of those that diligently seek him (g) Heb. 11.6 assures the dutiful he takes much pleasure in these Relative duties that they are not only pleasing but well-pleasing to him Certainly it should hugely raise the spirits of all ingenuous Children to be most solicitous in filling up their Relation Dear Children I am hemm'd in as it were by what I am yet to say for Parents duties that I cannot here dilate my self by descending into particulars to perswade the embracing of an exhortation to these duties But if you be Christians indeed who understand your interest I can give you the quintessence of all Motives within the bounds of my Text. Consider it well I beseech you 't is this By your accurateness in these duties you do that which is 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 well-pleasing to the Lord to your and my Lord and Master Do this please the Lord and you do all this is right (h) Eph. 6.1 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 whether present or absent that you may be accepted of him (i) 2 Cor. 5 9. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 or wellpleasing to him is the highest you can attain to What can I What need I say more I could tell you in pleasing of God you do that which doth or should please your Parents and will be most pleasant to your selves and then you must needs be happy when God and you are pleas'd As in the keeping all God's Commandments there is an exceeding great reward (k) Psal 19.11 Gen. 15.1 so this hath a Primacy in the Promise (l) Eph. 6.1 Prov. 4.10 22. Upon that account it is profitable and beneficial yea it is honest and honourable before God (m) 1 Tim. 5.4 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 every way right agreeable to God's positive Law the Law of Nature and the Law of Nations It is the Parents due as in the place of God they bear his Image in their Parental authority and relation (n) Mal 1.6 with 1 Sam. 2.30 they deserve it we owe it to them as a debt So that disobedience to Parents is against Scripture the light of Nature the common equity of all Nations and renders such persons unworthy the Christian Name and worse than Infidels and Brutes Such were Hophni and Phineas (o) 1 Sam. 2.25.34 Absolom (p) 2 Sam. 18.9 and Adonijah (q) 1 Kings 2.25 Have you then my beloved Children any respect to God his good pleasure or displeasure to your Parents their right or wrong their blessing or cursing to your selves looking for recompence or fearing vengeance Consider then I pray you what you have to do 'T is no arbitrary thing I am perswading to but that which is required by an eternal indispensable Law fortified with the most signal rewards and punishments yea even in this state as you may find in the Annals of most Dominions Yet further you Christian Children are now took into a Covenant-Relation with God as the Jewish Children were under that Paedagogy (r) Rom. 9.4 compar'd with Deut 4.2 Eph 6 1 2. Mic. 7.20 Deut. 32.13 14. 2 Chro. 1.9 10 11. Psal 86.6 Consider I beseech you how much you are indebted to your Parents for pleading the Covenant and Promises on your behalf (ſ) Psal 112.1 2. Prov 20.7 Gen. 49.26 Psal 115.13 14. This obedience to Parents is commended in Scripture you 'l get a lasting reputation by it (t) Ruth 4.15 16. God and men honour the obedient grac'd with this ornament (u) 1 Sam. 2.30 Prov. 1.9 13.18 Jer. 35.18 19. The examples of Sem and Japhet Isaac Jacob Joseph c. are in Scripture recorded to their perpetual honour In Heathen Story the Piety of Aenaeas to his aged Father and the obedience of others is celebrated This is the way to have the good things of this and a better life entail'd upon posterity (w) Gen. 9.23 26 27. 'T is equity you should do as you would have them to do to you in the like circumstances The Philosopher †Arist Ethic. l. 8. c. 16.14 thought none could ever give Parents honour answerable to their merit that there is no equalizing their descending growing love they were the instruments of Childrens having affections because of their being They may then claim your best affections and actions Upon which account it is that want of natural affection as it is the most monstrous so it is the most dreadfully punish'd by God (x) 1 Sam. 4.11 Deut. 21.20 21. Senec. l. 5. contra 4. in fine Instit 6 de pub judicio Yea and for Parricides the old Romans had a strange and unusual punishment in culeum dejicere to put them alive into a great leather Sack made of an Ox-Hide with a live Dog a Cock a Viper and an Ape at first it was with Serpents after the murtherers of Parents had been made bloody with scourging then sewed up close and cast into Tiber or the next River that whiles alive they might begin to want the use of all the Elements not having the benefit of the Heavens while they liv'd nor the burial of the Earth when dead This shews how odious this crime was in the height of it to mere Heathen men also Be sure the beginning of it in the want of natural affection is very displeasing to God (y) Gen. 6.3 with Judg. 14 3. but the obedience I have been describing is very amiable to his eye It keeps from evil and disposeth to reverence God himself (z) Lev. 19.4 with 2 3. It helps to be good Subjects and conduceth to the vvelfare of our Countrey God makes choice discoveries of himself to obedient ones in filial duties as he did eminently to Jacob (a) Gen. 28.7 10.11 being peculiarly present vvith them vvho do choose the things that please him and lay hold of his Covenant (b) Isa 56.4 as those Children do who obey their Parents in all things in the Lord. All encouragement lyes in this obedience is well-pleasing to the Lord. But it is more than time now I have put Children upon their duties following the Apostle that I come to II. My next General propos'd which is the office of Parents enforc'd from the special consideration of that the Apostle suggests to move to it I
shall 1. speak to the office and then 2. a little to the enforcement of it here 1. Concerning the office we may by an affection of a Trope so expound the provocation in my Text forbidden Christian Parents 1. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 that in a short manner of speech the Negative doth emphatically intend more than is express'd as including the Positive wherein the office of Parents provident care and well treating of their Children being of great weight and extent is connoted to us 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 The charge which the Apostle gives here to all the Fathers of our flesh from the Father of mercies according to the original word is not to irritate their Children which is somewhat different from the prohibition to the Ephesians (c) Eph. 6.4 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 provoke not your Children to wrath this in my Text seeming to deny more generally So that he allows not of any kind of abuse of the paternal authority which may justly irritate or provoke the passions of Children an ill effect produced in their hearts and proceeding from any male-administration of the Father's power which in rigor is more apt to exceed its bounds than the Mothers either in substracting a fit allowance for nourishment and nurture not a usual fault which yet the Apostle taxeth (d) 1 Tim. 5.8 and Quintilian complain'd of * Lib. 1. c. 2. or loading them with impious (e) Mat. 14 8. and inhumane commands (f) 1 Sam 20.31 without necessity compelling to sordid and servile works not fit for ingenuous Children but slaves or treating them for not just hitting their humour with contumelious words (g) 30. pouring forth curses out of that mouth that should bless sith the name of Father breathes sweetness and benignity bitter words and the language of a barbarous enemy will be apt to exasperate when upon any little enormities a Father shews himself morose and sharp it may be beating his Children to gratifie his own lust and rage or inflicting other penalties no way proportion'd to the fault if any (h) 33. compar'd with Deut. 25 1 2. chastening not with the rod of men or the stripes of the children of men i. e. not in a humane way with gentleness and moderation (i) 2 Sam. 7.14 or by imperiousness for some self-respects as wordlings impose upon their Children in the great concern of changing their condition c. be sure it is contrary to the prohibition which imports that the Parents conduct should be moderated betwixt the extremes of an unwarrantable indulgence and rigor that it may tend to their Childrens benefit and their own satisfaction They should so deport themselves in this good government that their Children may both love and honour their presence not being too fond lest their Children should not fear them nor too stern lest they should fear them too much The moving Principle to be premis'd which influenceth Parents and enclineth them effectually to exert a provident care in all the branches of it is an imbred natural affection of love which did act Abraham (k) Gen. 22.2 Isaac and Rebekah (l) 25.28 in the Old Testament and is called forth in the New m (n) Tit. 2.3 Rom. 1.31 as the fundamental requisite to sway Parents in the exercise of their authority and a due performance of their Relative office in all the severals of it so that they may indeed adorn the Gospel Out of this inward Principle arise Dues from Parents to their Children more general viz. 1. Prayer and 2. Good Behaviour and more particular with respect to the 1. Birth 2. Nourishment 3. Education 4. Disposal and 5. Maintenance of their Children and 6. their own departure from them all according to the dictates of humane and Christian prudence 1. The more general and previous duties wherein Parents are concern'd for the sake of their Children as well as themselves are Prayer and good Behaviour which give success to all the following particular ones respectively and without which they will not be well discharg'd so as they should be by a Christian Parent who is oblig'd to rule his own house well having his Children in subjection with all honesty or as we render it with all gravity (n) 1 Tim. 3.4 5. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 I know not well how to omit yet can but touch on these 1 Prayer Parents are to make their requests known to God without ceasing (o) 1 Thes 5.17 upon all occasions for all things throughout the whole course of their Childrens lives they are concern'd to be daily Orators at the Throne of grace that God would make their Children his Children and confer upon them all temporal and spiritual blessings this is requisite to the having of Children and the having of them good 'T is a mercy to have them as Isaac Hannah and others had (p) Gen 25.21 1 Sam. 1 10. as a return to prayer which is also a means to have them good (q) Gen. 17.18 20. 1 Chron. 22.12 29.19 Ps 72 per. totu◠sith the sincere Parent 's prayer may reach his Child in every particle of its life in the womb as Rebekah did hers (r) Gen 25.22 and in the world at the ingress with Zachariah's (s) Luke 1.64 progress with Job's (t) Job 1.5 and egress with David's who made his petition more fervent with fasting (u) 2 Sam. 12.16 and when the Parent is leaving his Children as Isaac (w) Gen. 27.4 all which shew the benefit of paternal requests for the fruit of their bodies Monica Augustin's Mother was very earnest frequent and pathetical in her addresses to God for her Husband and Son and she had gracious returns for both How wicked then are those Parents who follow their Children yea without provocation too with imprecations and direful curses instead of prayers 2. Good Behaviour before God and man in love to their Children To follow prayer in upright walking is the best course Parents can take to entail a blessing upon their Children and make them good indeed The seed of the just or merciful man who walketh in his integrity shall be blessed after him (x) Prov. 20.7 3.22 The generation of the righteous have certainly the surest Deed of entail for inheriting of blessings that can be made (y) Psal 112.2 Deut. 5.29 4.8 9. sith God hath given promises thereof unto gracious persons who really walk with him and before him according to his holy statutes (z) Gen. 17.1 7. Acts 2.39 1 Kings 11 12. 'T is the Lord's usual way to confer his favours in this channel so that Parents are concern'd to carry themselves well upon this account And what ifluence their good behaviour hath on their Children as they set fair patterns to them may be touch'd on afterwards I hasten to speak to 2. The more particular duties of Parents with their several respects as 1. To the birth of the Child whiles it
is yet but an Embrio there is not only requisite Prayer which was presupposed with thanksgiving for the sanctifying the fruit of the body (a) 1 Tim. 4.4 5. as Jeremiah and John were (b) Jer. 1.5 Luke 1.15 but also a tender care for the preservation of life Both Parents are concern'd in order to a better observance of the fifth Commandment to have regard to what is imply'd and required in the sixth and seventh Commandment When God hath curiously made the babe in secret in the lower parts of the earth (c) Ps 139.13 15. it is to be regarded even before it see the light Manaoh's wife had a positive order in this case for the safety of her self and child vvhen it was conceiv'd and her good husband was desirous as appears by his enquiry to be assistant to her therein (d) Judg. 13 4 11 12. The Rule given her by the Angel of the Lord r spected temperance forbearance of wine vvas order'd both for her own and the child 's good Upon such an account the Philosopher * Arist. Folitic l. 7. de Rep. l. 8. c. 17. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 determined in his Politick that pregnant women should be careful as to their aliment and elsewhere particularly commends milk and not wine as more fit nourishment for many bodies wherein he conceits the latter may occasion diseases As for nourishment the Mother should be prudently careful and the Father in special case of a real longing appetite should endeavour seasonable supplies so there should be a joynt care for a provision of things necessary and convenient to entertain the Babe into the world when brought forth Though the Virgin Mary was in a low estate and necessitated to travel at the Emperor's command yet she was not unprovided of swadling clothes (e) Luke 2.7 All this gives check to those Mothers who without a call frisk and jantle about any how at their pleasure and are intemperate yea against the Apostle's charge and to the disparagement of their Christian Profession (f) Tit. 2.4.5 for he would have the Matrons by good example to teach the young women to be sober to love their husbands and their children to be discreet chast keepers at home good c. And this is more especially requisite for Child-bearing women sith the Romans observ'd that Coriolanus's Neece miscarried by being too strait lac'd the Sister of Curius by much dancing and the Sister of C. Duilius by immoderate eating of various dainties 'T is indeed granted that carelessness of making provision of necessaries for clothing their new-born Infants is the fault of a few in our Age wherein under the notion of clouts or clothtrenchers things of the greatest value by some of mean quality are found out to such an height of curiosity sometimes as appears not very consonant to the simplicity and humility of the Gospel 'T were I confess Ostrich-like to suffer these sure pledges of nature to be without conveniences or to expose them like some of the ancient Greeks as they are sometimes in this great City at the doors in the street but to make them Peacock-like to surpass in finery above their rank can be no symptome of humility and then too when the Parents would have it thought they engage them to forsake all the pomps and vanities of the vvorld But this may respect the next duty viz. 2. To give the Child nourishment when it appears in the world for the preservation of it's natural life and to seek that it may be spiritually alive Parents should use the best means nature and grace do prompt to them For the former that breast-milk is ordinarily the most proper aliment Nature teacheth as also for the most part that the Mother's is most agreeable likewise that she is oblig'd to nurse her own Babe whatever softnesses many delicate Dames do now cherish the Scriptures as well as Principles of Reason do evince unless she be excus'd in some few instances as in case of necessity or greater charity namely when the impediment to her giving suck is natural disability a really great weakness or an affliction with a disease which might be transmitted with the milk or in case of the publick concerns of a Kingdom for securing of succession in the Royal Throne or c. For natural instinct which is seen in these springing fontinels the breasts (h) Cantic 4.5 unto this end for giving that food better digested unto the child vvhen come out vvith vvhich it vvas fed in the vvomb hath reason super-added in man As marriage to him especially under the Christian constitution becomes an ordinance of God vvhich in the mixture of other creatures is merely natural * Dr. Jer. Taylor 's Great Exempl p. 1. Sect. 3. Now to pervert the end and designation of Nature with the necessities thereof is in effect to violate those reasonable inducements which do oblige conscience in that vvhich is comly and not to correspond with the design of justice charity and sohriety A matter certainly very inaccountable for those who are bound seriously to think on so as to do whatsoever things are true whatsoever things are honest whatsoever things are just whatsoever things are pure whatsoever things are lovely whatsoever things are of good report or if there be any other vertue (i) Phil. 4.8 Certainly the thing can be no disparagement to them of the best quality but a credit only because it agrees not with the modern mode of the Italian and French amongst whom the great ones often suckle their Children upon vile women and sometimes upon Strumpets whose manners are drawn in with their milk Chrysostom * Homil. in Psal thought it a reproach that any women should blush to be Nurses who were become Mothers The Spartan law was that the Noblest even the Kings wives should nurse the first child Historians †Herodotus c. shew Queens have done it The Noblest amongst the ancient Romans and Germans did it And one of the Caesars thought it a prodigie in those days that a Roman Lady refused to suckle her own Infant and yet gave suck to a Puppy that her milk might be more artificially dried up But I fear the wantonness and pride of some Mothers and the ill-nature of some Fathers who love their ease and quiet may render this discourse unpleasing to them yet had I time to enlarge for that reason it would be the more necessary in the cases not excepted However the blessed Virgin giving Jesus milk from the bottles of his own filling may commend it with reputation enough to any Christian Mother who seriously desires to practise the choice lesson of Self-denial For the Scriptures consonant to the common prinicples of right reason do either take this Duty for granted where no just exceptions of Mothers nursing their own Children for a ruled case as in the Father of the faithful's wife Sarah (k) Gen. 21.7 who was a very honourable
an insinuation into their affections to engage children to love and delight in their duties by the sweetness of the lips to encrease their learning (c) 21. and encourage their honest endeavours with suitable rewards And on the other hand seasonable admonitions and remembrances in case of failures a frowning on their laziness and neglects of those offices wherein they should be employ'd which will keep them in awe though this must be done with great skil and vvariness lest it produce a slavish fear which slothful disingenuous and low spirits are apt to fall into and then absurdly to plead (d) Mat. 25.24 25 26. yet of the two it is better to fail on this hand than for a Christian Parent to omit warning of their children because both Law and Gospel require as vvas partly hinted before vve should not let sin either of omission or commission rest on our neighbour (e) Lev. 19.17 but should warn a brother (f) Gal. 6.1 much more a child and set him in joynt with a spirit of meekness I grant this duty of dayly inspection is very difficult but it is amiable and excellent it is of great latitude for Parents are evermore concernÌ„d to be eying of their children to see they do that which is necessary and comly both in religious and moral practice according to what is really best esteem'd in civil behaviour They must continually be watching them as to their praying reading hearing eating drinking playing visiting studying working sleeping c. to see they be not vain or idle because commonly there is but a little distance in time betwixt doing of nothing and doing of ill Children should be exercised with variety taught to sing Psalms (g) Deut. 31.19 21. Psal 148 12 13. as those good children vvere who made that short prayer to our Saviour Hosanna in Greek out of the Psalm (h) 118.25 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Save O Lord I beseech thee viz. blessed Messiah to pray in secret sometimes by and for themselves to be constant timely and revered at Family duties to be charitable respectful to the Embassadors of Christ to be attentive to the reading of Chapters and hearing of Sermons and thereupon to put Questions and give some account of their understanding of things and be not as Parrats that chatter vvithout knowledg to be observant of the Lord's days not left to themselves to play and do what they list for as Solomon observeth (i) Prov. 29.15 A child left to himself bringeth his Mother to shame she being either more indulgent in suffering him to get head or more affected with it when she seeth the evil of his idleness especiallly on the Lord's days But on other days at fit seasons such honest sports and recreations agreeing with the childrens temper are to be allow'd as do not alienate their minds from duty but promote health and chearfulness admit they be not with ungodly play-fellows from vvhom ribaldry and profaneness are easily learn'd but nothing that is good The Philosopher †Arist de Rep. l. 8. c. 17. did advise the educators of children to take heed they did not permit them to accompany vvith such of whom they would learn bad words hear smutty fables or be brought to look upon indecent and deformed pictures and that they did converse as little as may be with Servants And in eating and drinking Parents should with discretion lay restraints upon childrens appetites both as to the quantity and quality of food consonant to the rules of right reason that they transgress not the wholsom Laws of Temperance for the preservation of strength and activity of body and mind So for their studying and working c. a continued inspection is requisite that they do not neglect their time or mispend their talents vvhich that they may not do will usually need the Parents best skill and utmost diligence because of inbred pravity and untractableness Yet as one ‖ P. Du. Moul. hath well observ'd there be certain handles to take hold of these little souls in their tender years sith most of them are apt to be Shamefac'd Fearful Curious and Credulous which dispositions are to be attended by vigilant Parents with discretion and laid hold on to lead to vertue As on the other hand those hindrâ—ncâ—â— to good things which soon bewray themselves in little ones are to be watch'd over and curb'd such as Pride Wilfulness Lying and Intemperance that these evil inclinations may not be predominant Shame is to be manag'd to disswade from things dishonest Fear to keep in awe from consideration of punishment or loss of reward Curiosity to form in the mind right notions of things and Credulity to gain the consent to things honest and good and to make a right tincture which may abide Then on the other side vicious inclinations are to be timely curb'd As Pride arising from corrupt self-love to plant in young minds humility Wilfulness to engage unto teachableness Lying to make way for justice and fidelity and Imtemperance for the love of truth and sobriety that the understanding may rule the appetite Upon which account the same person suggests we should not promise children Junkets as the reward of their obedience but honour and praise which they should be made to love which is the great thing they of Japan †Gloriae studium cupiditatem teneris animis implantare consucverunt c. Varen de Regn. Jap p. 102. use to implant in the tender minds of their little ones proposing glory as the strong motive to perswade them unto obedience and good carriage I should not have insisted so long upon this but that I dare be bold to say it is through default of this part of Education I mean for want of watchfulness that the Children of many Parents amongst us fall so much short of the instructions received Their passions grow strong and the things that gratifie sense luscious their Parents heed not and so the hopeful fruit is blasted and spoiled for want of fence or as in some gardens where there be fine buds and fruits coming on that have been raised with great pains and charges they suffer Snails and Caterpillers to increase which in a short time devour that the Master's and Gardiner's eye and hand might easily at first have prevented by taking away the Caterpillers egs and killing of the Snails So you may see in some Families where there were great hopes of children as of the pleasant fruits on a fair tree ripening all lost for want of Parents and Governours narrow inspection or through a tender Mother's unlimited indulgence where she should keep a strict watch and through the connivance ‖ Imberbis juvenis tandem custode remoto Gaudet equis caniâ—usque aprici gramine campi Horat. or misplac'd kindnesses of some affectionate servants who to ingratiate with their young Masters or Mistresses take upon them to be wiser than those that love them best and secretly
a religious and prudent a pleasing person should be chosen amiableness helps to root and settle amity which gains reputation by an inheritance (d) 7.11 But in these things especially the last without regard to the former Parents should take heed of exercising Tyranny and when God hath given them children how they give them away be careful herein they do not contrary to my Text discourage their dutiful children by pressing them to marry where they cannot love Because herein one †Mr. Fuller's Holy State characters the good Parent to be such as draws arguments from his childrens good rather than his own authority accounting it a style too princely herein to will and command he rather chooseth to will and desire remembring the Parental power is for edification not destruction and should not be exerted to cast a child against its mind upon a disaffected much less an unworthy match In the treaty of marriage betwixt Isaac and Rebekah when there vvas a good agreement betwixt Abraham's Steward and her Father and Brother they vvould not come to a conclusion till the Maid vvas call'd and ask'd as to her affection and consent (e) Gen. 24 57. Hostis est uxâ—â— invita quae ad maritum nupta dat r. Plaut All vvas but complement till that vvas gain'd Parents herein are to perswade upon good reason but 't is too harsh to attempt the compelling of love Some rigorous ones are apt for their own vvorldly advantage to use their awful authority in matching to constrain their obedient children contrary to their affections and dispositions but they should rather learn of their Heavenly Father vvho disposeth all things sweetly and vvould have them to do so too in the disposal of their children he would have them do more vvith the sway of love than power and to be rather affectionate than imperious in their Government Grave and prudent Dr. Harris †In his life condescended to his sons saying When you are youths choose your Callings when men choose your Wives only take me along with you it may be old men may see further than you Be sure then they see well when they aim chiefly at piety As an ancient Hermite relates * In Prato spirituali in his own life the consultation of a principal inhabitant of Constantinople with his Lady about the disposal of their only child which was a daughter the result whereof was not to look at greatness and riches lest marrying her to a vitious person they should make her miserable but rather to one of a lower rank fearing God vvho from conscience of his duty would love and make much of her and so render her condition comfortable in prosecution whereof they found out and bestowed her upon the honest son of a very charitable Father who had a small Estate but great Vertue with whom she lived very happily But my discourse swells and I must shorten what remains 5 Maintenance is another part of the Parents office towards their children unto whom they are to allow a competency according to their quality and estates to live upon A just allowance for subsistence is presupposed requisite to the right discharge of the precedent duties from Parents to Children both in their minority and when come to maturity for the accommodating of them with necessaries according to their birth The neglect of which temporal provision would argue Christian Parents worse than Infidels who are not so enormous (f) 1 Tim. 5.8 Sith amongst the barbarous people they spare not cost to provide suitably for the fruit of their bodies till at least they are able to carve for themselves Our blessed Saviour takes for granted amongst the common notions of mankind that Earthly Parents will give good gifts unto their needy Children which are most proper for them (g) Mat. 7.9 11. Luke 11.11 But as a superaddition unto this general provision there is also somewhat more particular which even Nature it self teacheth upon the disposal of children and Christian institution requires and commends namely Parents as God hath blessed them should lay up for their children (h) 2 Cor. 12 4. yea so as that when they are placed in Callings and married they may by some stock or competent portion be able to lay up for themselves and be really serviceable to God's glory and others welfare with their substance (i) Prov. 3 9. 29.3 Abraham is commended for this devising of his Estate and so Jacob in providing for his (k) Gen. 24.36 25.5 6. 30.30 God did under the Law direct to a double portion real or personal unto the eldest as an acknowledgment of the right of primogeniture supposing no manifest forfeiture by disobedience (l) Deut. 21.16 17. 1 Chron. 5.2 Gen. 49.3 Exod. 13.2 Lev. 27.26 For in the exercise of Parental authority there may be some special consideration and rational regards had to the most dutiful but still according to equity Daughters according to that constitution were to be copartners and share as coheirs in the inheritance (m) Numb 36.8 And how Parents without valuable reasons can now disinherit them considering the prohibition in my Text is not easie to conceive But in laying up for and appòrtioning their children Parents should have a care 1. That they be not delatory as those who unseasonably put off the supplies of their children with that God hath given them till they themselves be dead or so long till it hath occasion'd an abatement of affections in their Children which is not to be excus'd in them but the Parents should not tempt them or put them upon any sharking tricks to supply necessities by keeping all the patrimony in their own hands above an handsome reserve of conveniencies for their own food and rayment Being of a different temper from that Prince's Father †Guaz Civ Conv p. 390. Psal 119.60 who coming into his son's Closet and seeing there all the gold and silver plate he had a long time before given to him said I see you have not a generous mind enough for with all the gifts you had from me you have not known hitherto how to make your self one friend Or in any other respect by any avaritious detention of what is requisite to be bestowed on their Children lay them under the discouragement which Parents are in my Text obliged to avoid as that which is displeasing to God 2. They should be sure they came honestly by the portions they leave their Children that they are goods well gotten and well used For if they be treasures of iniquity they will not long abide (n) Prov. 10.2 Jos 7.24 having a curse attending them yea a little ill gotten will be as a little leaven that will sour the whole lump or as the coal which the Eagle carried with the flesh she took from the Altar that fired all but if they are well-gotten then as one said of a small portion they will wear like steel And though
〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 either such a stupid dejection of spirit as makes them fearful dull and unfit for any work so that they are like members stupified with narcoticks or such strong dolours of mind as even break their hearts which bring diseases and immature death or else as a sad and usual consequent a certain desperate contumacie when they find themselves under an incapacity through their Parents unusual indulgence or serenity of doing that which is right or of pleasing in their Relation they take the wretched boldness of doing wrong and displeasing yea many times they become like restive colts and winsing jades which fling and kick they do all the mischief they can and make head often times to irritate their Parents passions which is the height of impiety in Children who when come to this seldom take up till they have destroy'd them from whom they descended and ruin'd themselves soul and body 'T is most plain if God hath graciously given children unto his servants (f) Gen. 33.5 you Christian Parents who profess to be such are oblig'd in gratitude to his Heavenly Majesty for those favors to do your utmost so to order and manage these his gifts as he hath directed that they may indeed be fitted for the Donor's use and service They are not born with Bibles in their hands neither are the contents in their heads or hearts neither can they put forth to Sea without Card or Compass but you are by your Relation oblig'd to indoctrinate them to acquaint them with God and themselves to supply their wants as you can every way and no way to discountenance them for this is in effect to disparage the Divine favours and trample upon the Almighty's blessings 'T is to expose the tokens of his bounty and put them to the vilest uses (g) Lev. 19 29. Judges 19.23 24. to make them instruments of sin and subjects of wrath and bring shame to your selves (h) Gen. 19.8 33.34 Believe it Parents to neglect the Duties I have been insisting on is to throw away your crown and glory (i) Prov. 17.6 to pull down the stars in your own orb (k) Gen. 37.9 10. to despoil your own heritage and burn up the olive plants about your own table to unfeather the arrows in your own quiver (l) Psal 127.4 5. to cast into the rubbish the polish'd stones of your own Palace (m) 144.22 to rob your selves of that should give you rest and bereave your own souls of delight (n) Prov. 29.17 nay 't is to rob God for your Children are more his than your own they stand in a Foederal Relation unto him and you may not carry your selves towards them as you list (o) Ezek. 16.20 21. with Mat. 28.19 So that your own interest in them who are part of your selves your interest in their vertues God's interest in them as well as his will and pleasure should forcibly impel you to mind your office and fill up your Relation the unconscionable neglect of which will be as a bloody Dagger stuck up to the hilt in your own hearts Wherefore I beseech you endeavour all you can that your conduct of your Children be just and temperate with all gravity and prudence that it may be like the Childrens obedience which the Scripture calls for well-pleasing to the Lord so as they you your selves likewise may expect a blessed prolongation of your days (p) Deut. 32.46 47. I have at length dispathc'd vvhat I intend to say concerning the Duties themselves yet there remains something to be said to the III. General propos'd in Answer to the Complex Query viz. The manner or means of managing the duties of both Relations and this both more Generally and Particularly according to the mind of God in his Word 1. More Generally wherein that hath been already implicitly at least suggested which now will require only a brief intimation My Beloved Many we know are apt to be solicitous enough and too much as to their conversation in this world to observe the modes which obtain most at the Court It concerns us all certainly much more Children and Parents to discharge their duties after that mode which gains approbation in the Court of Heaven and therefore to take good heed to those helps for their direction concerning the manner of performance which we have in the Evangelical Institutes recorded in his Heavenly Majestie 's Imperial Court Therein both the Relatives are taught to perform the Duties I have been discoursing of from a principle of mutual love with a design to please God and comfort each other respectively in such a way as may adorn the Gospel (q) Col. 3.20 with Eph. 6.1 Phil. 1.27 Tit. 2 10. and maintain that charity which in this Relation should eminently proceed out of a pure heart and of a good conscience and faith unfeigned (r) 1 Tim. 15. This charity or love the Apostle tells us in this Chapter a little before my Text (s) Col. 3.14 Mat. 17.15 is the bond of perfectness or perfect bond and here if any where it is to meet at both ends yea bud forth and flourish in reciprocal delights and endearments (t) Gen. 45.10 46.29 30. Ez k. 24.25 Luke 15.20 22 32. Christian Parents and Children as much as may be should still be joyning in consort to keep up a mutual harmony yea and upon better principles endeavour to equal the most refined Moralists celebrated for this charity as Pomponius Atticus and his Mother who never fell out in sixty seven years as he himself tells the story To promote this there should be a free and frequent communication of secrets a giving and taking of loving warnings yea Parents in some circumstances should be willing to hearken to the submissive and prudent good advice of their children (u) 1 Sam. 19 6. Gen 11.31 with 12.1 Jos 24.2 and in a daily address to the Throne of grace a mutual pleading in faith the Covenant and Promises for each others interests (w) 2 Chron. 1.9 10 11 Psal 86.16 Rom. 9.3 10.1 Thus more generally 2. More Particularly some things may be said to the management of these duties according to Scripture still following the method of my Text severally to Children then to Parents 1. To Children such Directions as these following may be profitable for the well management of their duties viz. 1. Be throughly sensible of the mischief of disobedience and the benefit of obedience and therefore really believe the severe punishment of the former and the gracious rewards of the latter Be sure so much as there is of disobedience so much is wanting in some kind of natural affection and that usually hath monstrous attendants which direful judgments follow (x) Rom. 2.28 c. 2 Tim. 3.2 Deut. 21.20 21. Lev 20.9 Exod 21.17 Deut. 27.16 c. On the other side obedience qualifies for the best society and entitles to the promises here is the special
4 6. Mat. 17.12 He shall turn the hearts of the Fathers to the Children and the hearts of the Children to their Fathers lest I come and strike the earth with a curse Of so great advantage is the right and hearty discharge of these relative duties I have been treating on for the saving of Nations and particular Churches from ruin and desolation Yea and so greatly instrumental are the Ministers of Christ for helping them in their duties that it concerns honest Parents as to consult those who are holy and able in the Ministry for their Childrens good so to commend such faithful Ministers to them as are worthy of their respect and to warn their Children to avoid such persons as are likely to draw them off from goodness yea and particularly in disposing of their Children especially into a Calling of publique consequence 't will be very requisite to consult those who are most able to judge in their own profession as in Divinity Physick or Law that they may be tryed by the faithful and skilful of that profession whether qualified for that they are designed lest you attempt that which cannot be effected as Quintilian †Nè tentes quod effici non potest nâ—c ab eo quod quis eâ—timè facit in aliud cui nimis est idoneus cum transferas observes by putting them upon what they are unapt for or hinder them from that they have a genius to and wherein they would be most serviceable And it will be good to take advice in choosing sit Educators and Tutors according to your abilities David had such learned ones as Tutors with his Sons 1 Chron. 27.32 to see them instructed as became the Princes of Israel a But here Parents should be very careful unto whose conduct they commit their Children or whom they take in to assist them that they be religious orthodox discreet humble courteous skilful and not covetous nor careless but diligent 'T was the great concern of reverend Claviger to have those that feared God about him to do what he could his Wife and Children might be such and then he thought them well provided for Luther kept one within his house to teach his Children that he might see them well-principled and ordered as well as learned And the abovenamed Quintilian * Si quis in eligendo filii praeceptore manifesta flagitia non vitet jam hinc sciat caetera quoque quae ad utilitatem juventutis componere conamur esse sibi hac parte omissa supervacua l. 2. Inst c. 2. from Nature's light could say If any one in choosing a Tutor for his Son did not shun manifest wickedness hence let him know that other things also which we endeavour to compose for the profit of youth prove useless and ineffectual this being neglected This Constantius †Socrat. III. 1. Sozom. II. 2. was well aware of when he was solicitous his Cousin Julian should not have or hear Ethnic Tutors lest considering his temper he should decline to the abomination of Gentilism But notwithstanding his care Julian privately got the writings of Libanius an Heathen Philosopher and after that of Maximus who under-hand laboured to pervert him in hopes he would come to the Empire and to hide this instill'd poyson from Constantius Julian counterfeited for a time a monastick life then openly in pretence read the Bible but secretly studied in earnest the Ethnic Doctrines which made him a most bitter enemy to the Christians when advanc'd to the Empire as the ancient Church experienc'd 'T is dangerous to commit a Lamb to to the conduct of a Wolf On the other hand Theodosius junior ‖ Soz. l. IX 1. was from his Cradle by his dying Father entrusted with his excellent and pious Sister Pulcheria then but 15 years old and having two younger Sisters Arcadia and Marina who got him instructed by such Tutors especially in the true Religion accustoming him to prayer and diligently to frequent the Assemblies that he had in great esteem the faithful Ministers and other Godly men who were lovers of Religion and so prov'd very instrumental for the Orthodox Faith and the advancement of Piety In our own Land and nearer our times we have a notable instance of Sir John Cheek who being Tutor to King Edward the Sixth Dr. L. in Sir John Cheek 's Life was a special instrument of raising up and promoting the Reformed Religion amongst us for he was not only instrumental to sow the seeds of that Doctrine in the Prince's heart which afterwards grew up to a general Reformation when he came to be King but by his means the same saving truth was gently instill'd into the Lady Elizabeth by those who by his procurement were admitted to be the Guides of her younger studies It is of great concern therefore to get good advice and assistance in the education of Children and for their encouragement to reward those well who are profitably employ'd in this work according to the Parents abilities and their deserts and for my own part I should account it better to spare in other matters than in this for good assistance to train up Children Thus I have as I could in my circumstances dispatch'd what I propos'd and now I dare upon the whole matter affirm That I have laid down nothing in all this discourse but what I hope is at least for the main agreeable to the mind of God and what by his assistance I my self should desire and really endeavour to practise either in the relation of Parent or Child which is all the Apologie I shall make for my plain dealing But shall conclude with those precatory expressions in the Psalms a very little varied with respect to those Parents who heartily embrace the word of exhortation (b) Psal 90.16 17. Let thy work O Lord appear unto thy servants and thy glory unto their children And the beauty of the Lord our God be upon them (c) 144.2 that their sons may be as plants grown up in their youth that their daughters may be as corner-stones polish'd after the similitude of a Palace Considering what the Lord hath promis'd for the encouragement of his faithful servants (d) 102.28 viz. Their children shall continue and their seed shall be established before him Duties of Masters and Servants Serm. XVIII Ephes VI. 5 6 7 8 9. Servants be obedient to them that are your Masters according to the flesh with fear and trembling in singleness of your heart as unto Christ Not with eye-service as men pleasers but as the Servants of Christ doing the will of God from the heart With good will doing service as to the Lord and not to men Knowing that whatsoever good thing any man doth the same shall he receive of the Lord whether he be bond or free And ye Masters do the same things unto them forbearing threatning knowing that your Master also is in heaven neither is there respect of persons with him THE
Christianity calls for quietly and readily to resign up all our comforts to God's dispose Christian 't is a great part of thy religion to be content under these crosses not to have thy comforts ‖ Omnia ista nobis accedant non haereant ut si abducantur fine ullâ nostri lacetatione discedant Senec. Ep. 74. torn from thee as the plaister is from the flesh but to come off easily as the glove doth from the hand 5. Where there is ground of hope that the everlasting state of dead Relations is secured as there is for the Adult who lived in the fear of God for Children descending from Parents in covenant with God there 't is mere self-love which must cause discontent For had we true love to the dead we should rejoyce in their advancement as Christ saith Joh. 14.28 if ye loved me ye would rejoyce because I go to my Father You are troubled because they are not with you but you should joy in this that they are with Christ which is far better Phil. i. 21. 8. Think how others have undergone this tryal Aaron had his sons cut off by a dreadful Judgment but 't is said of him he held his peace Levit. 10.3 Job 1.21 2 Sam. 12.15 c. See Val. Max. l. 5. c. 10. So it was with Job and yet he blessed the Lord So long as there was hope of the life of the child David prayed and fasted but when he saw God's will was done he rose up and eat and afflicted himself no more Nay I might recite several examples of Heathens who did to the shame of us Christians bear the death of dear Relations with great equanimity and undisturbedness of spirit Well I hint these several things to you when any of you are thus tryed I allow you a due and regular grief and sense of God's afflicting hand but there must be no vexing or discontent under it which the Considering of the forementioned particulars may very much prevent or remove 3. Thirdly Wben Relations continued prove uncomfortable How as to uncomfortable Relations this occasions daily risings of heart and much discontent O the sad fires of passion which hereby are kindled in many too many hearts and houses The comfort of Relations is grounded upon suitableness where that is not the rose is turned into a briar or thorn What is unsuitable is uncomfortable as the yoke that doth not suit or fit the neck is alwaies uneasie Now this unsuitableness refers either to the natural temper or to something of an higher nature in both 't is very afflictive but especially in the latter There is an unsuitableness in respect of the natural temper or disposition I intend in this principally Husband and Wife the one is loving mild gentle of an even and calm spirit sweet and obliging in his or her converse the other is quite contrary froward passionate cholerick hard to be pleased alwayes quarelling c. Here 's a cross now and a heavy cross too but what 's to be done by them that bear it so as that they may learn Contentment under it why let them be often in considering these things 1. That God hath a special hand in this affliction 'T is he who brings persons together in this relation he made the match in Heaven before it was made on earth and therefore he is to be eyed in all the Consequences that attend it if it be comfort he is to be blessed for it if it be discomfort he is to be submitted to under it 2. Though this be a sharp tryal yet 't is for good where it 's sanctified It drives many nearer to God weans them more from the world keeps them humble draws out their graces gives them experience of supporting mercy learns them to be more pitiful to others and the like 3. May be this is the only affliction with which some are exercised In all things else 't is mercy only in this thing God sees it good to afflict surely such have little reason to be discontented What under such variety of signal mercies canst thou not bear contentedly one signal affliction 4. The Cross is heavy but patience and contentedness will make it lighter Levius fit patientiâ quod corrigere est nefas The more the Beast strives the more the yoke pinches the more quiet he is the less it hurts him and so it is in that Case which I am upon 5. Possibly more suitable Relations were once enjoyed but forfeited So that if you will be angry it must be with your selves not with God 6. Death will soon put an end to this Cross and we shall shortly be in that state wherein we shall have nothing unsuitable to us But 2. There is an unsuitableness in higher things such as do more immediately concern the honour of God and the everlasting condition of Souls as Grace and no Grace Holiness and sin Godliness and Vngodliness Here now I principally intend Parents and Children though other Relations may be included also Here is a Parent that fears God that lives an holy and godly life that owns the good wayes of God and walks in them c. But his Child or Children are of a quite other Spirit and take a quite other course oh they live in sin and wickedness in open enmity to God carrying it as the Sons of Belial they curse swear drink defile their bodies profane Sabbaths neglect duties scoff at Godliness puff at all good counsel discover a Spirit obstinately set against God c. This is an affliction of a very great stature taller by the head and shoulders than several that have been spoken unto before yet many godly Parents groan under it whose head and hearts are broken by ungodly Children and never was this affliction more common than now when youth is so much debauched I verily believe many good Parents could with much less grief bear the death of their Sons were they but fit for it than that which they daily undergoe through the wickedness of their lives Truly these are much to be pitied yet I would desire them to labour to be contented and submissively to bear this heavy cross In order to which frame let them consider 1. That 't is no new thing for good Parents to have bad Children Sometimes it so happens that when the Father is bad the Son is good but it more frequently happens and God suffers it to be so that the world may see Grace doth not run in a blood that when the Father is good the Son is bad It hath been so from the beginning Adam had his Cain Noah his Cham Abraham his Ismael Isaac his Esau David his Amnon and so in many others and it will be so to the end of the world Pray think of this though 't is a cutting yet but common affliction 2. Children are ungodly yet there is hope at last they may be reclaimed As stubborn as they are God can make them yield he can change
let him reprove me To give and take reproofs is a Dictate of the Law of Nature whereby every man is obliged to seek the Good of others and to promote it according to their ability and opportunity The former is directed by that love which is due unto others the latter by that which is due unto our selves which two are the great Rules and give measure to the Duties of all Societies whether Civil or Spiritual Wherefore it doth not evacuate a Reproof or Discharge him who is reproved from the duty of attending unto it that he by whom it is managed is not Righteous yea is openly wicked For the Duty it self being an effect of the Law of Nature it is the same for the substance of it by whomsoever it is performed Yea oft-times such Moral or rather immoral Qualifications as render not only the Reprover less considerable but also the Reproof it self until thoroughly weighed and examined obnoxious unto prejudicate Conceptions do occasion a greater and more signal Exercise of Grace and Wisdom in him that is reproved than would have been stirred up had all things concurred unto the exact Regularity of the Reproof However it is desirable on many accounts that he who Reproves us be himself a Righteous person and be of us esteemed so to be For as such a one alone will or can have a due sense of the evil reproved with a right Principle and End in the Discharge of his own Duty so the minds of them that are reproved are by their sense of his Integrity excluded from those insinuations of evasions which prejudices and Suggestions of just causes of Reflections on their Reprover will offer unto them especially without the exercise of singular Wisdom and humility will all the Advantages of a just Reproof be lost where the allowed practice of greater sins and evils than that Reproved is daily chargeable on the Reprover Hence is that Reflection of our Saviour on the useless Hypocritical Diligence of men in pulling the mote out of their Brother's eyes whilst they have beams in their own Mat. 7.3 4 5. The Rule in this Case is If the Reprover be a Righteous person consider the Reprover first and then the Reproof if he be otherwise consider the Reproof and the Reprover not at all II. The Nature of a Reproof is also to be considered and this is three-fold for every Reproof is either Authoritative or Fraternal or merely Friendly and occasional Authoritative Reproofs are either 1 Ministerial or 2 Parental or 3 Despotical 1. There is an especial Authority accompanying Ministerial Reproofs which we ought especially to consider and improve Now I understand not hereby those Doctrinal Reproofs when in the Dispensation of that Word of Grace and Truth which is profitable for Correction and Reproof 2 Tim. 3.16 they speak and exhort and rebuke the sins of men with all Authority Tit. 2.15 but the occasional Application of the Word unto individual persons upon their unanswerableness in any thing unto the Truth wherein they have been instructed For every Right Reproof is but the orderly Application of a Rule of Truth unto any Person under his miscarriage for his healing and recovery Where therefore a Minister of the Gospel in the Preaching of the Word doth declare and Teach the Rule of Holy obedience with Ministerial Authority if any of the Flock committed to his charge shall appear in any thing to walk contrary thereunto or to have transgressed it in any offensive Instance as it is his Duty the discharge whereof will be required of him at the great Day particularly to apply the Truth unto them in the way of private personal Reproof so he is still therein accompanied with his Ministerial Authority which makes his Reproof to be of a peculiar nature and as such to be accounted for For as he is thus commanded as a Minister to Exhort Rebuke Admonish and reprove every one of his charge as occasion shall require so in the doing of it he doth discharge and Exercise his Ministerial Office and Power And he that is wise will forego no considerations that may give efficacy unto a just and due Reproof especially not such a one as if it be neglected will not only be an aggravation of the evil for which he is reproved but will also accumulate his guilt with a contempt of the Authority of Jesus Christ Wherefore the Rule here is The more clear and evident the representation of the Authority of Christ is in the Reproof the more Diligent ought we to be in our Attendance unto it and compliance with it He is the great Reprover of his Church Rev. 3.19 All the use Power Authority and efficacy of Ecclesiastical Reproofs flow Originally and are derived from him In Ministerial reproofs there is the most express and immediate Application of his Authority made unto the minds of men which if it be carelesly slighted or proudly despised or evacuated by perverse cavillings as is the manner of some in such cases it is an open evidence of an Heart that never yet sincerely took upon it his Law and Yoke These things are spoken of the Personal Repoofs that are given by Ministers principally unto those of their respective Flocks as occasion doth require wherein I shall pray that our Lord Jesus Christ the great Shepherd of the Sheep would yet make us all more Faithful and diligent as the season wherein we live doth abundantly require it But moreover Church-censures in Admonition and Excommunication have the nature and ends of Ministerial reproofs But the handling of their nature and use with the Duties of those persons who justly fall under them and the benefit which they may reap thereby is too long and large a subject to be here diverted unto 2. Authoritative reproof is Parental Reproof is indeed one of the greatest and most principal Duties of Parents towards Children and without which all others for the most part do but pamper them unto slaughter and Ruine Neglect hereof is that which hath filled us with so many Hophni's Phinease's and Absolom's whose outragious wickednesses are directly charged on the sinful lenity and neglect in this matter even of godly Parents And indeed whereas some Parents are openly vicious and debauched even in the sight of their Children in a sensual neglect and contempt of the Light of Nature whereby they lose all their Authority in reproving as well as all Care about it and whereas the most have so little regard unto sin as sin whilst things are tolerably well in outward concerns that they neglect the reproof of it as such and many through a foolish contemptible prevalency of fond Affection will take no notice of the sinful follies extravagancies and miscarriages of their Children until all things grow desperate with them but sooth up and applaud them in such effects of Pride Vanity and Wantonness as ought to be most severely reproved in them the woful and dreadful degeneracy of the Age wherein we live owes it self
much unto the horrible neglect of Parents in this Duty That Parental reproof is a Duty taught by the Law of Nature confirmed in the Scripture enjoyned under severe threatnings and penalties exemplified in Instances of Blessings and Vengeance on its Performance or neglect rendred indispensably necessary by that Depravation of our Natures which works in Children from the womb and grows up in strength and efficacy together with them I should not need to prove if it lay directly before me it being a matter of universal acknowledgment I shall only say that whereas there is on many accounts an immediate impress of Divine Authority on Parental reproofs that which Children ought to consider and know for themselves is that a continuance in the neglect or contempt of them is a token that seldom fails of approaching temporal and eternal Destruction Prov. 30.17 3. Authoritative reproof is Despotical namely that of Governors Rulers and Masters of Families This also partakes of the Nature of those foregoing and being a Duty founded in the Law of Nature as well as enforced by positive Divine commands casts a peculiar obligation to obedience on them that are so reproved And where Servants regard not sober and Christian reproofs as the Ordinance of God for their good they lose the advantages of their condition and may be looked upon as unsanctified Sufferers in a state of Bondage which hath an especial Character of the first curse upon it 2. Reproof is Fraternal or such as is mutual between the members of the same Church by vertue of that especial Relation wherein they stand and the obligation thence arising unto mutual watchfulness over each other with Admonitions Exhortations and Reproofs As this is peculiarly appointed by our Saviour Mat. 18.15 in confirmation of the Ordinance in the Church of the Jews to that purpose Lev. 19.17 and confirmed by many Precepts and Directions in the New Testament Rom. 15.18 1 Thes 5.14 Heb. 3.12 13. Chap. 12.15 16. So the neglect of it is that which hath lost us not only the benefit but also the very nature of Church Societies Wherefore our improvement of Rebukes in this kind depends much on a due consideration of that Duty and Love from whence they do proceed For this we are by the Royal Law of Charity obliged unto the belief of where there is not open evidence unto the contrary And whereas it may be those things for which we may be thus reproved are not of the greatest importance in themselves who that is wise will by the neglect of the reproof it self contract the open guilt of contemning the Wisdom Love and Care of Christ in the Institution of this Ordinance III. And Lastly Reproofs are Friendly or occasional such as may be Administred and managed by any Persons as Reasons and Opportunities require from the common Principle of universal Love unto mankind especially towards them that are of the Houshold of Faith These also having in them the entire Nature of Reproofs will fall under all the ensuing Directions which have a general respect thereunto If then we would duely make use of and Improve unto our Advantage the Reproofs that may be given us we are seriously to consider the nature of them with respect unto those by whom they are managed for all the things we have mentioned are suited to influence our minds unto a regard of them and compliance with them 2. The matter of a Reproof is duely to be weighed by him who designs any benefit thereby And the first consideration of it is whether it be true or false I shall not carry them unto more minute Distribution of the Substance and Circumstances of the matter intended of the Whole or Part of it but do suppose that from some Principal consideration of it every Reproof as to its matter may be denominated and esteemed true or false And here our own consciences with due Application unto the Rule are the proper Judge and Umpire Conscience if any way enlightned from the Word will give an impartial sentence concerning the Guilt or Innocence of the Person with respect unto the matter of a reproof And there can be no more infallible evidence of a miscarriage in such a condition than when Pride or Passion or Prejudice or any corrupt Affection can either out-brave or stifle that compliance with a just reproof which Conscience will assuredly tender Rom. 2.14 If a Reproof as to the matter of it be false or unjust and so judged in an unbiassed Conscience it may be considered in matter of Right and of Fact In the first case the matter may be true and yet the reproof formally false and evil In the latter the matter may be false and yet the reproof an acceptable duty 1. A Reproof is false in matter of right or formally when we are reproved for that as evil which is indeed our duty to perform So David was fiercely reproved by his Brother Eliab for coming unto the Battel against the Philistines ascribing it to his Pride and the Naughtiness of his Heart whereunto he only replied What have I done Is there not a Cause 1 Sam. 17.28 29. And Peter rebuked our Lord Jesus Christ himself for declaring the Doctrine of the Cross Mark 8.33 And so we may be reproved for the Principal Duties that God requireth of us And if men were as free in reproving as they are in reproaching we should not escape from daily rebukes for whatever we do in the worship of God Now though such reproofs generally may be looked on as Temptations and so to be immediately rejected as they were in the cases instanced in yet may they sometimes where they proceed from Love and are managed with moderation be considered as necessary cautions to look heedfully unto the Grounds and Reasons we proceed upon in the Duties opposed at which others do take offence 2. If the Reproof be false in matter of Fact wherein that is charged on us and reproved in us whereof we are no ways guilty three things are to be considered that it may not be unuseful unto us I. The Circumstances of the Reprover as 1 Whether he do proceed on some probable mistake or 2 Credulity and easiness in taking up reports or 3 On evil groundless surmises of his own or 4 From a real godly jealousie which hath been imposed on as easily it will be by some appearances of Truth Without a due Consideration of these things we shall never know how to carry it aright towards them by whom we are reproved for that whereof we are not guilty 2. Consider aright the difference between a Reproof and a Reproach for they may be both false alike and that whereof we are reproved have no more truth in it than that wherewith we are reproached Yea we may be honestly reproved for that which is false and wickedly reproached with that which is true so Augustin calls the Language of the Maid unto his Mother about drinking of Wine durum convitium though the
Families Husbands towards their Wives Wives toward their Husbands both toward their Children and they again toward their Parents In a word Men are to study those things which are most profitable such as will better their condition and not only improve their understanding You know a sick Man had rather have a good Medicine than fine Clothes he minds more the easing of his Pain than the dressing up of his Body That which will make you spruce will not always make you well Fine trappings will not Cure a lame Horse nor the Painting of the Face heal the Diseases of the Spleen or Liver That knowledge which adorns your Mind yet may not always mend your Heart To conclude this Men must labour to know the truth as it is in Jesus Eph. 4.21 So to know it as to feel it and be under the influence of it or to know the truth to that end for which Christ teacheth it that is that Men may be better as well as wiser more ready to do their Master's will as well as know it Men know the truth as they should and as Christ would have them when their knowledge puts them upon the great duties of Mortification and Sanctification v. 22. That ye put off as to your former Conversation the Old man and v. 23 24. Be renewed in the Spirit of your Mind and put on the New man Prop. 7. Every Man should labour to get as much Spiritual knowledge as he can by the means of the knowledge he hath and as he can get without the neglect of other necessary duties It is not for nothing that the Apostle prays for the Collossians Ch. 1.9 that they might be filled with the knowledge of God's will in all Wisdom and Spiritual understanding and exhorts the Corinthians Epist 1.14.20 though in Malice they were Children yet in understanding to be Men. If Christians ought to grow in every Grace why not in knowledge which is it self a Grace and helpful to all other Graces We are to be accomptable for the means we have of getting our knowledge increased and therefore sure are to labour that we may get it encreased And though a less measure of knowledge might serve turn to bring a Man to Heaven yet 1. It is contrary to that Spirit of Ingenuity that largeness of Heart towards the things of God which is supposed to be in Believers to stint themselves in the knowledge of the truth and to be content to know only just so much as may carry them to Heaven That were to study Spiritual truths not so much because they love them as because they cannot want them and so not of choice but necessity 2. Even where a less measure of knowledge might save a Man yet a greater should be endeavoured after because it might be otherwise so useful For 1. It might make his work more easie Clearness of knowledge takes off much from the Difficulty of Duty The better a Man sees his work the more easily he may do it The most skilful Artist may sumble when he works by a dim light That Man is like to go on most readily in his way who not only knows the right one but the wrong ones too those turnings and by-paths which might mislead him and seeing the Monuments of others mistakes may be warned by their wandrings 2. More knowledge might make his way more pleasant The more delectable Objects a Man hath to entertain his Eyes the more delight he may take in Travelling When Night-journeys as they have more of Danger so have less of Pleasure A clear sight of Spiritual things may help a Christian in his way not only as a Direction but as a Delight 3 It might make himself more useful more helpful to others Nec in hoc tantùm te accerso ut proficias sed ut prosis Sen. Epist Though less knowledge might suffice us for our selves as to our general Duties yet more will make us helpful to others and enable us better for the performance of relative Duties The more knowledge we have the more we may communicate Those that understand most themselves may best instruct and direct others They that are well skilled in their own duties are most sit to teach others theirs Rom. 15.14 Filled with knowledge able also to admonish one another And thus we see in these propositions what knowledge we are to labour after in order to Salvation Only I add two Cautions against two ordinary vices which Men are very liable to in their enquiring after knowledge Nihil igitur certius est quà m alterū Angelicae cognitionis genus quo post Deum quae in Deo sunt reliqua intelligunt non ita perfectum esse quin in hoc cognitionis genere quotidie proficere possint novi Semper aliquid discendo ac novo modo cognoscendo Zanch. de dei ope ib. Caut. 1. Take heed of curiosity which is the itch of the mind It is not a kindly appetite but a fond longing or an ambitious vain affectation of knowing those things which we are least concerned or not at all concerned to know and which if known would do us little good It is a lust and therefore not to be indulged in our selves but mortified It appears 1. In making inquiries into these things which God hath not revealed Deut. 29.29 Secret things belong to the Lord our God but things that are revealed unto us and to our Children c. This curiosity our Saviour checks in his Disciples Act. 1.6 Wilt thou say they at this time restore the Kingdom to Israel Our Saviour replies It is not for you to know the times and the seasons which the Father hath put in his own power God hath revealed enough to us in his Word for our use and furtherance in Faith and Holiness and to desire to know more is to desire to be wiser than God would have us We must not pry into those things which it is only God's Prerogative to know The Angels themselves know not some things and we should be content as well as they not to be omniscient It is dangerous peeping into God's Ark you know who smarted for it 1 Sam. 6.19 If knowing what God hath revealed do not save us I am sure searching into what he hath not revealed will not God hath told us so much of his mind in the word as may take up our whole Man in the study of it and we cannot busie our selves in inquiring into his secrets without neglecting the study of those things which are revealed and are most useful for us 2. Curiosity appears in enquiring into the reason of God's will If Rulers in the World will not have their Laws disputed If volumus jubemus be their stile and though they do not give the reason of their Commands yet they count their Commands reason enough for their Subjects obedience Sure we should allow God as much as we do his Creatures We should reckon God's will is never unreasonable His
Cant. 3. This is to call the day Honourable Thirdly Then we call it Honourable when we have a precious esteem of every moment of Sabbath-time and jealous lest any drop of it should run waste even the filings of Gold and the dust of Diamonds are pretious No man can call the Sabbath Glorious that sets light by an hour or minute or moment of so Divine a creation Time is a ring of Gold but the Sabbath is the rich sparkling Diamond in it Davids heart smote him for cutting off but a lap of Sauls Royal coat So should ours for profaning or unprofitably wasting any part of Christ's day It is like his seamless coat and cannot be divided without sacriledge Fourthly The day is honourable when we have a singular esteem of all the Institutions and Ordinances of the day When Prayer is precious and the word Read Preached is precious when singing of Psalms is precious the Sacraments precious when every one in its time and order is observed with such due regard that none do justle out or exclude the other but one doth catch in the other as the links in a chain of Gold Fifthly When it is the grief of our souls that we can keep Sabbaths no better and strive cordially and conscientiously to keep the next better than we did the last Sixthly and lastly when we are careful that all ours as well as our selves keep Sabbaths this is a main clause in our obedience to the 4th commandment Thou thy Son and thy Daughter thy man-servant and thy maid-servant c. Every one in their several capacities must keep the Sabbath To be strict our selves in the duties of a Sabbath and careless what the rest of our Families do whether our children or servants steep or be idle dance or play at cards sing idle songs or take Gods name in vain c. This is not to call the Sabbath Honourable Deut. 5.14 Gen. 8.19 I know Abraham that he will command his children and his houshold after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord. And shalt honour him or glorifie him From Cabad honorare The verb in the Hebrew Vecibbactto may be rendred It or Him but the sence seems to incline to the latter Him rather than It the day having had its title of veneration put upon it before honourable this may more properperly belong to God even to the whole blessed and glorious Trinity requiring at the hands of every one that enjoyeth this blessed priviledge of a Sabbath that they ascribe the honour and glory of it unto God and that is done 1. When we make divine Authority the sole ground of our separating and sanctifying the whole day to his peculiar Service and Worship without alienating any part or parcel of that holy time to our own carnal uses and purposes Keep the Sabbath day to sanctifie it there 's the duty as the Lord thy God commanded thee there 's the Authority 2. When as we make Gods command our ground so we make Gods glory our end When we make it our design to set up God Father Son and Holy Ghost in all his glorious and infinite perfections in our Adorations and Admirations upon that his holy day And that is done in a special manner when we make it the great business of a Sabbath To ascribe to each glorious Person in the Trinity the glory of his proper work and operation whereby he challengeth a title to and interest in the Sabbath ex gra 1. When we ascribe to God the Father the glory of the stupendious work of Creation and that is done by a due contemplation of all his glorious Attributes shining forth in this beautiful structure of heaven and earth celebrated by the Royal Psalmist in Psal 19. v. 1. The heavens declare the glory of the Lord and the firmament sheweth his handy work the transcendent excellencies of the glorious Jehovah are conspicuous and illustrious in this admirable Theatre of the world that is to say 1. His Power 1. In creating all things out of nothing 2. And that by a word of his mouth 2. His Wisdom In making all things in such a beautiful and exact manner and order Galen l. de usu partium As the great Physitian said of the body of man no man can come after God and say this might have been better so in the Fabrick of Heaven and Earth neither man nor Angels can say here is a Defect and there is a redundancy it had been better there had been more Suns and fewer stars more land and less Sea c. No when the divine prophet had stood and in his most serious contemplation looked through the Creation he could spye out nothing that could have been otherwise but breaks out in admiration O Lord how manifold are thy works In wisdom hast thou made them all he could see nothing from one end of the Universe to the other but what speaks infinite perfection In wisdom hast thou made them all and as the Omnipotency and wisdom of God is magnified in the Creation so also 3. His bounty in bestowing all this visible creation upon man for his use and benefit as one saith God made man last that he might bring him as a father brings his son into an house ready furnished This is one branch of our honouring God when we ascribe to God the Father the glory of the work of Creation Secondly When we ascribe to God the Son the glory of his most glorious work of Redemption wherein these particulars are wonderful 1. His inessable incarnation 1 Tim. 3.16 Without controversie great is the mystery of godliness God manifest in the flesh i. e. The invisible God made visible in a bâ—dy of flesh This was a Mystery indeed A Son in Heaven without a Mother Gal 4.4 And a Son on Earth without a Father Secondly Christ his stupendious being made under the Law Behold he that made the Law was made under the Law under the Ceremonial Law that he might abolish it under the Moral Law The preceptive power of it that he might fulfill it that so every believer might have a Righteousness which he may call his own Rom. 10.4 The maledictive power of it that he might take it away Gal. 3.13 3. Christ his work of Redemption was principally transacted by his death and passion for therein he laid down pretium Redemptionis Acts 20.28 the price of Redemption which was his own precious blood 1 Pet. 1.18 19 20. 4. This great work and mystery of our Redemption was perfectly consummated in Christ his glorious Resurrection Col. 2.15 wherein he spoiled principalities and powers and made a shew of them openly 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 some render it in it and would refer it to his Cross but 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 is to be understood here in the masculine gender not in the neuter and so to be translanted in himself Christ rising from the dead like a conqueror lead
Praise the Lord for his mercy endureth for ever And when they began to sing and to praise the Lord set ambushments against the Children of Ammon Moab and Mount Seir which came against Israel and they were smitten Israel's success follows Israel's singing If the people of Israel will look to their Duty God will look to their Enemy and lay that Ambush which shall ensnare and overthrow their power 3. With Evident Miracles This we find upon Record Acts 16.25 26. And at midnight Paul and Silas prayed and sang praises to God and the prisoners heard them and suddenly there was a great Earth-quake so that the Foundations of the prison were shaken and immediately the doors were opened and every ones hands were loosed Behold here an eminent Miracle Prisons saluting the Prisoner's Liberty Paul and Silas singing set God on working and if their Tongues were loosed in Duty their hands shall be loosed for Liberty Singing like praying can work wonders Lorinus observes Angelicà peculiari â—peâ—d Sâ—lâ—tio Vinculorum accidit Lorin Case that the prisoners Chains were taken off and their bands loosed by the peculiar power and work of Angels And now I come to the main Case How we may make melody in our hearts to God in Singing of Psalms Answ 1. We must sing with understanding We must not be guided by the Tune but the Words of the Psalm we must mind the Matter more than the Musick and consider what we sing as well as how we sing The Tune may affect the fancy but it is the Matter affects the heart and that God principally eyes The Psalmist adviseth us in this particular Psalm 47.7 and so doth the Apostle 1 Cor. 14.15 Otherwise this sweet Duty would be more the work of a Chorister than of a Christian and we should be more delighted in an Anthem of the Musician's making then in a Psalm of the Spirit 's making A Lapide observes that in the Text 1 Cor. 14.15 the word understanding is Maschil 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 profound judgment We must sing wisely if we will sing gratefully we must relish what we sing In a word we must sing as we must pray now the most rude Petitioner will understand what he prays 1 Cor. 14.15 If we do not understand what we sing it argues carelesness of Spirit or hardness of Heart and this makes the Service impertinent Upon this the worthy Davenant cries out Facessunt Boatus Papistarum qui Psalmos in Templis reboant sed linguà non intellectu Dav. Non clamans sed amans cantat in aure Dei Aug. Adieu to the bellowing of the Papists who sing in an unknown Tongue God will not understand us in this Service which we understand not our selves One of the first Pieces of the Creation was Light and this must break out in every Duty 2. We must sing with affection Love is the fulfilling of this Law It is a notable saying of Augustine It is not Crying but Loving sounds in the Ears of God In Isa 5.1 It is said I will sing to my Beloved The pretty Child sings a mean Song but it delights the Mother because there is love on both sides It is love not skill makes the Musick and the Service most pleasing When we go about this Work we must lay our Book before us a heart full of love The Primitive Christians sang Hymns to Christ whom they entirely loved Love indeed is that ingredient which sweetens and indulcorates every Service 3. We must sing with real Grace This the Apostle admonishes us Col. 3.16 It is Grace not Nature sweetens the Voice to sing We must draw out our Spices our Graces in this Duty The Hundred forty four thousand which were Elected and Glorified Saints sang the New song Rev. 14.3 Singing is the tripudiating of a gracious Soul Gratia est devotionis radix Gorran Gorran well notes That Grace is the Root of true Devotion Wicked men only make a noise they do not sing they are like crackt Strings of a Lute or a Viol they spoil they do not make Musick The Righteous rejoice in the Lord Psal 33.1 The Raven croaks the Nightingale sings the Tune As God will not hear Sinners when they pray so neither when they sing the singing of Wicked men is disturbance not obedience Indeed the Saints singing is a more solemn Ovation Praising Him who causeth them to triumph in Christ 2 Cor. 2.14 The Saints above sing their Hallelujahs in Glory and the Saints below must sing their Psalms with Grace Fashion Puppets as you please they cannot sing it is the alive Bird can chirrup that pleasing noise 4. We must sing with excited Grace Not only with Grace habitual but with excited and actual the Musical Instrument delights not but when it is plaid upon In this Duty we must follow Paul's advice to Timothy 1 Tim. 4.14 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 stir up the Grace that is in us and cry out as David Psalm 57.8 Awake Love awake Delight The Clock must be pluckt up before it can guide our Time the Bird pleaseth not in her Nest but in her Notes the Chimes only make Musick while they are going Let us therefore beg the Spirit to blow upon our Garden that the Spices thereof may flow out when we set upon this Joyous Service Cant. 5.16 God loves active Grace in Duty that the Soul should be ready trim'd when it presents it self to Christ in any Worship 5. We must sing with spiritual joy Indeed singing only makes joy articulate it is only the turning of Bullion into Coyn as the Prophet speaks to this purpose Isa 65.14 Isa 65 14. Singing is only the triumphant gladness of a gracious heart a softer Rapture We must sing as David danced before the Ark 2 Sam. 6.15 with shouting and rejoycing in God We sing to Christ And Dr. Bound observes There is no joy comparable to that we have in him this is joy unspeakable and full of glory Joy must be the Selah of this Duty 6. We must sing with Faith This grace only puts a pleasingness upon every service if we hear the Word must be mixt with Faith Heb. 4.2 if we pray it must be the prayer of Faith Jam. 5.15 We must bring Faith to Christ's Table or else as Austin saith Dormit Christus si dormit Fides Dormit Christus si dormit Fides Aug. if Faith sleeps Christ is likewise asleep and so Faith must carry on this Ordinance of Singing especially there must be a credence in the Hallelujahs above we must believe that the Saints here are only tuning their Instruments and the louder Musick will be above that in glory there will be such pleasing sounds which the Apostle tells us 1 Cor. 2.9 No Ear ever heard 7. We must sing in the Spirit As we must pray in the Spirit Jude v. 20. so we must sing in the Spirit the Spirit must breathe as well as Grace act or the Voice sound in this Duty
wont of the Puritans which were the most pretious Christians to Eccho forth the praises of the great Jehovah in this Duty especially upon the Lord's Day Then was there a holy Quire in their houses their Children were the little birds to sing the praises of the Creator the Servants likewise joining in the harmony to make up a fuller Musick But alas Now the voice of the Bride singing to her Beloved is not heard in the places of our abode there is silence instead of singing and prating instead of praising frivolous discourses instead of joyous praises It might behove us to ponder how much of Heaven do we lose in neglecting this Service In singing Psalms we begin the work of Heaven In Heaven we read of the Song of Moses and of the Lamb Rev. 15.3 And of a new Song Rev. 14.3 And the Angels though they have not Tongues yet they have voices to sing the praises of the Most High and therefore that this Heavenly service is so neglected and unexercised is a lamentation and shall be for a Lamentation Ezek. 19.14 This likewise checks those who formalize in this Duty who Act a Part not a Vse 4 Duty they make a noise and not Musick and more provoke the Eyes than please the Ears of God Hierome pathetically Exclaims against those Formalists We must not saith he Act as Players who stretch their throats to accommodate their Tongues to the matter in hand but we must sing Psalms as Saints praising God not only with our Voice but with our Heart not only with a sweet voice but with a melting heart Bernard makes two conditions of grateful singing 1. We must sing purely minding what we sing nor must we act or think any thing besides there must be no vain or vagrant thoughts no dissonancy between the Mind and the Tongue 2. We must sing strenuously not idly not sleepily or perfunctorily we must sing ex animo most heartily and Energetically Vse 5 Let us get an interest in Christ If we are not in Christ we are certainly out of tune The singing of a sinner is natural like the singing of a Bird. But the singing of a Saint is musical like the singing of a Child Saints in singing perform a grateful duty But sinners offer a vain oblation Isa 1.13 It is Christ must put an acceptation upon this service as well as others Here the Altar must sanctify the gift Christ perfumes the prayers of the Saints Rev. 5.8 And he must articulate the singing of the Saints Indeed he alone can turn our tune into melody and though in our selves we have Esau's garments yet he can give us Iacobs voice We are accepted in Christ in this offer of love Therefore let us get into Christ he can raise our voice in singing to a pleasing Elevation Let us be in him and then our steps shall be metrical our pauses musical and our very Cadencies shall be Seraphical Our singing of Psalms shall be the musick of the Sphears Vse 6 Let us sometimes raise our hearts in holy Contemplation Let us think of the Musick of the Bride-Chamber There shall be no crack't strings displeasing sounds harsh voices nothing to abate or remit our melody there shall be no willows to hang up our harps upon Psal 137.2 In the Bride-Chamber there shall be no sorrow to interfere when we sing the song of the Lamb Rev. 21.3 No grief to jar our harmony These pleasing Meditations should sometimes possess and sweeten our Spirits that while we are walking in the galleries Cant. 7.5 we may be nearer to the Palace of the great King Psal 45.15 How ought We to Improve our Baptism Serm. X. Acts 2.38 Be Baptized every one of you in the Name of Jesus Christ for the Remission of Sins THis Chapter gives us an account of the pouring out of the Spirit according to the promise presently after Christ's Ascension as soon as the Spirit was poured out the Apostles were enabled to speak in various Languages to the astonishment and wonder of the Hearers This was for the Glory of God the Confirmation of the Gospel and to authorize them as Special Messengers sent by Christ At the sight of this Miracle some wonder others mock as if this speaking with divers Tongues had been a confused jabbering that proceeded from the fumes of Wine rather than the gift and operation of the Holy Spirit To satisfie both Peter declares in a Sermon the effect and intent of the Miracle proving Jesus whom they had Crucified to be Lord and Christ When they heard this many of the most obstinate among them were pricked at the heart and relented An happy Sermon it was that Peter preached it brought in thousands of Souls to Christ the first hansel of the power of the Spirit and success of the Gospel 'T is good to observe what course they took for ease and relief after this piercing and brokenness of heart they said to Peter and the rest of the Apostles Men and Brethren what shall we do This is the usual Question of men under a sound and thorow Conviction To their serious Question Peter makes a seasonable Answer v. 38. 'T is the part of a good Physician not only to discover the Disease but also to prescribe a Remedy especially should spiritual Physicians be tender of broken-hearted Sinners and willing and ready to give them Counsel In Peter's Direction and Counsel to them observe first What he perswades them to do Secondly By what Motive and Argument what they should do and what they should receive In the Advice he perswades them to Repentance and to be Baptized in the Name of Christ The latter we are upon For Explaining it we may enquire First Why is Baptism mentioned rather than Faith and other things more internal and necessary to Salvation I answer Certainly Faith is implied for Mark 16.16 He that Believeth and is Baptized shall be Saved Baptism is an open and real Profession of Christ Crucified So that Be Baptized in the Name of Jesus Christ is as much as Be Baptized Believing on the Name of the Lord Jesus for the Remission of Sins Secondly Baptism is mentioned because it was the visible Rite of receiving Proselytes to Christ Now it imported them who were convinced as Persecutors to turn Professors if they would have ease for their Consciences and therefore not only to Believe with the Heart but to make open Profession of Faith in Christ Rom. 10.10 Quest 2. Why in the Name of Christ only the Father and the Holy Ghost is not mentioned according to the Prescript-form Mat. 28.19 I answer he speaks not of the Form of Baptism but the use and end thereof Now the great use of Baptism is that we may have benefit by the Mystery of Redemption by Christ therefore elsewhere we are said to be Baptized into Jesus Christ Rom. 5.3 And to put on Christ Gal. 3.27 He is the Head of the Church and by Baptism we are planted into his Mystical Body This being
attained so much knowledg in the Principles of the Christian Religion as that the Heathens might be admitted to Baptism and the Christian Children to the Lord's Supper To this custom some of the Learned judge that Peter alludes in 1 Pet. 3.21 not the putting away of the filth of the flesh but the Answer of a good Conscience towards God 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 1 Pet. 3.15 Aâ—lusio factâ— ad morâ—m veterem Catechistarum irâ—e rogantium Catecâ—umenos a daltos ante Bâ—ptisâ—um 〈◊〉 qui ad Christianismum vel gentilitate vocati Credis Credo Abrenuntias Abrenuntio Cujus origo in exemplo Eunuchi Ac. 8.37 Spant dub Evang. Pars 3. p. 97. Trap. in Mat. 13.51 Bowles Pastor Evaag l. 2. c. 5. by the Resurrection of Jesus Christ True the main thing is the Answer of a good Conscience in a man 's own self yet there was a good Answer in his mouth to the Catechist who was to ask them a reason of the hope that was in them 3. The Primitive Fathers that trod on the Heels of the Apostles and were most likely to be best acquainted with the Apostles practice highly esteemed this way of teaching and constantly used it Cyprian saith Optatus used it at Carthage Origen at Alexandria Hence Clemens Alexander his paedagogus Cyril Mystagog Lactantius his Institutions Athanasius his Synopsis Augustine his Enchirid. Liber de Doct. Christianâ de Catechiz rudibus Fulgentius de fide 4. Many of the Antient Councils made Decrees and Canons for Catechising Concil Neocaes Can. 6.7 Concil Tolet. Can. 24. In this consent all the Reformed Churches uno ore Nay which is more the Papists themselves that were assembled in the Council of Trent observing that in the later Spring of the Gospel the use of Catechizing in the Reformed Churches was one of the special means of with-drawing People from the darkness of Popery to the light of the Gospel and of so firmly grounding professors in the true Religion as nothing could with-draw them from the same and so the Hereticks as they were pleased to stile them had got much ground strongly moved the Councel that there might be a Catechism compiled of the Principles of the Romish Religion as that that was most likely to give check to that deluge of Heresie which through the Hereticks Catechising was breaking in upon them 5. This manner of Teaching by way of Catechising viz. By propounding the Question and putting the child to Answer it as the Echo doth the Voice is a most ready way to make any Instruction to take Whence it is that in all Schools of Learning this course is taken viz. The Teacher propounds his Questions and requires Answers from those that are instructed whereas if you speak never so well or so long yea the longer the worse in a set and continued Speech it useth to vanish in the Air without any observable notice or after fruit 2. Superiors in the Family and these are Parents and Family Governors to whom we may adjoin School-masters and Tutors These all are concerned in this great duty of Training up and Catechizing those that are committed to their Charge and Conduct 1. How deeply Parents are obliged to this Duty is written as it were with a Sun-beam in the Scriptures where we find Precepts Presidents Arguments more than many to evince it Ex. 10.2 Ex. 12.24 26 27 with 13.8 14 15. Josh 4.6 7 21 22 24. Deut. 4.9 10. Ainsw in Deut. 6 6 7. 1. Precepts The Israelites are bound to tell in the ears of their sons and of their sons sons what things the Lord had wrought in Egypt that they also might know Jehovah to be the Lord. The Parents are bound to be Expositors of that great Rite of the Paschal Lamb and of the Stones set up in the midst of Jordan bound also to teach their Children the words which they heard from the Lord their God in Horeb even the Ten Commandments How doth this Duty sparkle with a Radiant Lustre in that great Text Deut. 6.6 7 These words which I Command thee this day shall be in thine heart and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy Children and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine House and when thou walkest by the way Ainsw in Deut. 6.6 7. and when thou liest down and when thou risest up It is the Eternal God that here gives forth his strict Command to Parents These words all these words Precepts Promises Threatnings shall be in thy heart not in thy head only so as to know but in thy Heart to affect An Heart inflamed with the Love of God and his Truth Joel 1.3 Deut. 11.19 God knew was one of the most effectual means to engage the Tongue to make known his Truth but not only in their Heart but Houses too Thou shalt teach them thy Children nor was this a Ceremonial Precept or a Command given peculiarly to the Jews for their assistance in their Remembrance of the Law of God as their Phylacteries and fringes c. Exod. 13.9 Deut. 6.8 9. but was and is a Moral perpetual standing Precept binding us in Gospel-times as well as them The same things we find in this Text we find also in the New Testament The word of Christ must dwell richly in us all one with this here Let it be in thine heart Col. 3.16 and in our Houses also we must teach and admonish others Eph. 6.4 we are to bring up our Children in the Nurture and Admonition of the Lord. 2. Branches in this Precept 1. Parents warned not to abuse their Authority by provoking their Children In the best of Parents there is not only Natural affection but also Natural corruption by reason whereof if they watch not well they will be very prone not only to be rash but furious with their Children that their Will may be fulfilled Therefore is this bridling Caution needful provoke not 2. Parents are here commanded not to neglect to lay out and improve their Authority in instructing their Children This also is necessary because Parents are too too apt to be fondly indulgent and on that account careless to bring up their Children in such courses as are necessary for knowing and doing the Will of God Both therefore are of special use Do not provoke but instruct Yea in instructing take care that you do not provoke and so instructing you will not at least you shall not have cause to provoke for a well instructed Child is in God's way to be an Obedient Child and very tractable to instructing Parents so that there will be no occasion of provocation from him or being provoked against him Bring them up therefore we must but in what In the Nurture and Admonition of the Lord. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in all profitable knowledg Vid Zanch. Musc in Loc. suitable to a Child's Age and State for the composing and framing of him by this his knowledg unto a commendable and vertuous carriage for the
doing of greater good in humane Society for the time to come but more especially in Religious Nurture instruction in Righteousness 2 Tim. 3.16 and as it follows in the admonition of the Lord In the best and highest kind of Nurture that which is drawn and fetcht from the Word of the Lord and so will be most accepted of him and most profitable to Children Not only in Arts and Sciences to make them Worldly wise and Learned nor only in the Mysteries of Trading and Worldly employment to make them Rich nor only in matters of Morality and Civil honesty to make them Sober and vertuous but in the mysteries of true Religion in the nurture and admonition of the Lord 1 Tim. 4.6 in the words of Faith and good Doctrine to make them truly happy 2. Presidents It was the constant practice of the Saints of old carefully to instruct their children in the things of God And that 1. In the Truths and Worship of the true God Thus Divines conclude that Adam instructed his Sons Gen. 4.3 4. Cain and Abel to bring their Offerings to the Lord And from Adam down along to Moses for the space of two thousand years how was the true Religion communicated but by Oral Tradition from Parents to their Children Gen. 18.19 I know Abraham that he will command his Children and his Houshold after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord to do Justice and Judgment that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he hath spoken of him In this Text we have Abraham's Testimonial subscribed by God himself Wherein God 1. Asserts what Abraham was for the present a man of integrity a man greatly beloved of God I know Abraham I know his judgment I know his heart I am well acquainted with the frame of his spirit the inclination of his Will the bent of his Affections and I know him so well that I cannot but highly approve and dearly love him and will trust him with an Arcanum make him as it were of my Privy Councel in imparting to him my great design concerning wicked Sodom 2. Foretells for the future 1. What Abraham would do for God viz. That he would endeavour to bring all that were under his Command to be at God's Command Abraham will not leave his children and servants to their own Genius counsels lusts ignorance idleness superstition idolatry but command them to keep the way of Jehovah Abraham will endeavour to set up God in his Family to instruct it in that way of Faith Worship and Obedience which God requireth 2. What God will do for Abraham viz. fulfil his Promise keep his Word Holy Job that Non pareil of the World none like him in the Earth Job 1.8 that perfect that upright man Job sends and sanctifies his children i. e. says that late burning and shining Light sent a Message to them to command them to prepare and fit themselves for the holy duty of Sacrificing This preparation to holy Duties is often call'd Sanctifying Exod. 19.20 1 Sam. 6.5 Job 11.55 Job 1.5 Josâ—ph Caryl on Job 1.5 Job's main and special care was for the Souls of his children Job's Message to his children was not to ask them how they did after their Feasting whether they had surfeited how the reckoning was inflamed No his eye and heart mostly fixt on this that they might be sanctified His holy Soul struck a perfect light to Paul's desire before Agrippa Acts 26.29 I would to God that not only thou but all that hear me this day were both almost and altogether such as I am And to John's joy John Ep. 3.4 I have no greater joy than to hear that thy children walk in the truth Thus David that man after God's own heart Psal 34.11 Come ye children hearken unto me I will teach you the fear of the Lord. But more especially I would commend to your most accurate view that lovely Prospect presented to us in Prov. 4.3 4. Behold there a great and glorious King descending from his Imperial Throne laying aside his Golden Crown and Royal Scepter and sitting down on a lower seat with a Child a Solomon at his knee So that the King is now humbled into a Tutor the Prince into a Pupil A brief account of the Lecture the Text gives us I was my Father's Son i. e. I was so my Father's Son as that I was also his Jedidiah so beloved as if I had been his only Son He taught me also and said unto me Let thine heart retain my words keep my Commandments and live Thus we have seen the practice of godly Fathers but what have godly Mothers done have they been so cruelly forgetful of their children as not to have compassion on the Sons of their Womb What! worse than Sea-Monsters who draw out their breasts and give suck to their young ones No Lam. 4.3 no those true Daughters of Sarah have been more spiritually kind and benign 1. In the Front of these stands our Mother the Spouse of Christ Can. 8.2 Ass Annot in Cant. 8.2 I would lead thee and bring thee into my Mothers House i. e. into mine own House or Mansion as is usual with us to call our own Houses the Houses of our Fathers The Church in her Universal Latitude is the Mother of all her Members who would or doth instruct me The Church John 6.45 who is the Pillar and ground of truth in this respect that she presenteth and holdeth forth that truth outwardly which only Christ bringeth to the heart and makes effectual 2. Upon her right hand stands David's Royal Consort Queen Bathsheba whom we find laying the Law before King Lemuel i. e. her Son Solomon called Lemuel i. e. of God because God had ordained him to be King over Israel rather than any of his Elder Brethren 1 Kings 2.15 22. The words of King Lemuel the Prophesie Doctrine or Instruction that his Mother taught him 2. What my Son and what the Son of my Womb Prov. 31.1 2. and what the Son of my Vows 3. Upon her left hand let the hoary-headed holy Grand mother Lois and the tender discreet pious Mother Eunice be placed who even from the Dug as it were instructed their hopeful Timothy in the knowledg of the Holy Scriptures 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 2 Tim. 1.5 3.15 16 11. which were able to make him wise unto Salvation 2. In the ways and works of God's Providence Thus Gideon gives testimony to his Forefathers that they had told their Children of all the Miracles which the Lord had done saying did not the Lord bring us from Egypt Jud. 6.13 Thus the Psalmist Psal 44.1 2. We have heard with our ears O God Psal 44.1 c. our Fathers have told us what work thou didst in their days in the times of old And again Psal 78.3 4 5 6 7. Sayings of old which we have heard and known and our Fathers have told us 4. We will not hide
Sure I am they that have not learned their duty to God will never rightly perform their duty to men I heartily wish that proud saucy debaucht behaviour and lame quarrels be not too sad proofs of this unhappy Truth I have done with the fourth I now proceed to the fifth and last Enquiry viz. How the whole affair may be so prudently piously Scripturally managed as that it may become most Vniversally profitable And here I shall first address my self to my Superiours and then close all with directions to Inferiours 1. Then for Superiours and among these Oeconomical ones 1. Let Parents begin betimes with their children 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 as soon as ever they find them to have any use of Reason as soon as ever their understandings begin to bud and blossom The discreet Gardiner begins to graff as soon as ever the Sap begins to arise and the Stock to swell In the Old Law we find more Lambs Kids young Turtles First-fruits and green Corn required than other Elder Sacrifices Levit. 2.14 Sow thy Seed in the Morn Eccl. 11.9 Begin I say betimes the sooner the better according to that of the Prophet Isa 28.9 To whom shall I teach knowledg and whom shall I make to understand Doctrine Them that are weaned from the milk and drawn from the Breasts Old men nay indeed and too many young men think themselves too wise as well as too old to learn Indeed Childhood and Youth are the fittest times to learn in Vdum molle lutum eâ—z nunc nunc prâ—pirandâ—s aâ—riâ—ingendus sine sinc rota 'T is bâ—st drawing a fair Picture on a Rasa Tabula The most legible Characters are best written on the whitest Paper before it be soild and slur'd The Twig whilest young is most easily twisted The Ground best sown when soft and mollified Hence that of the Royal Preacher Eccl. 72.7 Remember thy Creator in the days of thy Youth Little ones have not as yet imbibed such false Principles and Nations nor are they drencht with such evil habits as Elder ones are too too frequently died with He hath a very difficult Province whose task it is to wash out the spots of a Leopard or to whiten an Aethiopian And little less work hath he that undertakes to teach the Truth to one that hath been brought up in and is now as it were Naturalized to Err For those false notions must first be wholly rooted up before Truth can profitably be implanted Such must be untaught much before they can well be taught though but a little 2. Labour as much as in you lies to entertain their tender attention with such â—ruths as mostly affect their senses and fancies and are most easily conveigh'd to their little understandings To wit 1. Such Truths the sparks whereof are most alive in their corrupt nature v.g. To know God that made the whole World and them in particular That this God is to be worshipped That their Parents are to be hâ—noured That no lye is to be told That they must love others as themselves That they must certainly dye and after Death be judged to an Eternal state Begin to season them with the sence of God's Majesty and Mercy 2. Deal as much in Similitudes and plain and easie Resemblances as you can taking your Rise from the Creatures they see and hear always greatly respecting their weak capacity Are you sitting in your Houses you may thus bespeak them Oh my dear Child is this an handsom dwelling this house made with Stones and Timber O how much desirable is that House above with God that House not made with hands but eternal in the Heavens When they awake out of sleep mind them of their Duty Psal 139. Eph. 5.14 of giving their first thoughts to God and of awaking out of sin unto righteousness and of their awaking the last day out of the Grave by the sound of the Trumpet 1 Thess 4.16 Do they see the light of the day shining into their eyes Ask them Is it indeâ—d a pleasant thing to behold the Sun O how excellent then is God's goodness in causing the Sun of Righteousness to arise upon us with healing in his wings Mal 4.2 Are you putting on their cloaths O my Child think on sin which was the cause of your Soul's nakedness and of your Bodies need of apparel Be not proud of your cloaths which are given to hide your shame Never rest satisfied till your Soul be arrayed with the Robes of Christ's Righteousness When at the fire tell them of that Lake of fire and brimstone that burneth for ever into which all those that live and dye in sin shall be cast At Table how easie is it how profitable how delightful will it be out of every Creature there to extract spiritual food for our Souls The Bread minds them of the Bread of Eternal Life their hunger of hungring after Christ's Righteousness By a Rivers side how easie is it to mind them of the Water of Life and of those Rivers of pleasure at God's right hand for evermore Thus may you Psal 16.11 Hos 12.10 Assimilavi 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 properte â—â—enim multis rebus Deum compararunt Patri Pastori amâ—eâ— leâ—niâ— Pool's Synops without the least taedium or disgust teach those little Bees to such spiritual Honey out of every Flower By these similitudes as by so many golden Links you may draw Truths into their heads and memories Thus it pleased the Lord to teach his people of old by using Similitudes Isa 5.1 Ezek. 16.3 Hos 1.2 Thus the Great Bishop of our Souls taught his Disciples by Parables Mat. 13.38 3. Teach them the most useful delightful affectionate stories you can find in the Word of God v.gr. The Creation of Man Man's Fall The Deluge Isaac Sacrificed Lot and Sodom Joseph The Golden Calf David and Goliah Three Children in the Fiery Furnace Daniel in the Lyons Den. Jonah in the Whales Belly The Children devour'd by Bears 4. Betimes acquaint them with the practice of Religious Duties Read the Word Pray give Thanks sing Psalms in their presence 'T is conceived by the Learned that the little Children learnt to sing Hosanna to the praise of Christ by hearing their Parents sing the 118th Psalm out of which that Hosanna is taken 5. Endeavour to restrain them from all evil and to breed in them a Conscience of sin even from the very breast No playing no idle and vain chat on the Lord's Day Exod. 20.10 Ezek. 4.14 Ezekiel from his youth and infancy had not eaten any thing forbidden in the Law Made Conscience of meals when the Appetite was most unruly One fault amended by a Child out of Conscience that it is a sin is worth amending an hundred out of fear of the Rod or hope of reward only 6. Bring them to the publick Ordinances as soon as they can come to be there and kept there without the disturbance of the Church Exod. 20.9 10. The
Philip to the Noble Eunuch q. d. To what purpose readest thou if thou be not careful to understand what thou readest The Word Preached either by Pastor or Teacher the Truth deliver'd in a way of Catechizing will do us no good unless we hear with understanding Hearken unto me every one of you and understand Mark 7.14 saith the greatest Preacher and have ye understood all these things Matth. 13.51 Dear Brethren as I know you desire not to sow your seed on the high-way Mat. 13 19. so as that the Fowls of that Prince of the Air should come and pick it up so be careful to make poor Creatures to understand what they are taught Now for the opening of the Truths laid down in the Assemblies Catechism I cannot but commend those four Books which I have found so exceeding useful for the younger ones among our people viz. Dr. Wallis Mr. Jos Alleyn Mr. Tho. Vincent and Mr. Tho. Dolittle their excellent Explanations 3. You will be sure to act very wisely very discreetly You know in Catechizing you have to do with different Sexes Ages Tempers Capacities some are less capable and more bashful these must not be expos'd to the scorn and contempt of those that have it may be more glib tougues and brazen foreheads but worse hearts You know when and how to incourage the willing to praise the forward to check the presumptuous to admonish the unruly patiently to bear with all You know what it is 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 to be Soul Nurses 1 Thess 2.7 8. how to impart with all dearness those Fundamental Truths which make for their spiritual and eternal good and growth 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 And shall I take leave in your names to assure younger ones that you will have a tender eye to the slowness of apprehension in some of them to the slipperiness of memory in others to the bashfulness of most to the reputation of them all That you will opportunely prevent their grosser mistakes and candidly palliate their lesser ones that you will give the best sense to the worst of their Answers and put some necessary words into their mouths the better to facilitate the expression of their thoughts that you will so wisely manage the whole business as that it may make for their reputation as well as instruction and that they may find favour both with God and men 4. What you do do it resolvedly and that in God's strength not in your own Expect opposition from within from without From within a proud heart apt to mutter 't is a low mean piece of drudgery No but rather the most Doctor-like part of our work and such as cannot accurately be perform'd without a clear insight into the greatest depths of Religion and a proportionable gift of ready Exposition The lowest Principles of Religion are the highest Mysteries Again the tender shoulder that shrugs and enters its Plea against the burthen as being too troublesom a weight to be added to the Load of our other Lords-day-labours Neither will this prevail with you Brethren we are confident you are not only able 2 Tim. 2.14 2 Cor. 12.15 but apt to teach 'T is your joy to spend your selves and be spent in the utmost service of your God and his Church You will not be much concern'd in the consuming of your Oyl so you may lend your Light To such gracious Souls as yours there is there can be no greater burthen than the sense you have of the heaviness of your people in hearing But from without the general averseness of young ones is pleaded as a grand obstruction As to that you are so well seen in spiritual Logick as to fetch meat out of this Eater and will easily conclude that this averseness in young ones from this exercise of Catechizing is not the least Argument of its singular usefulness The more unwilling the Patient is to have his Wound open'd searcht plaister'd and bound the more eager the compassionate Chirurgion is to give relief The more unwilling they are to present themselves to be Catechiz'd the more reason have we to press them to it by the greatest violence of perswasion .. Lastly let not want of success discourage Your Heavenly Master you know hath assured you that your labour is not 1 Cor. 15. last shall not be in vain in the Lord. God takes the measures of his servants not from their success which is his sole work but from their sedulous and faithful endeavors which is their duty Go you on to plant and water let the great Lord of the Vineyard alone to give the increase And know 2 Cor. 8.12 1 Cor. 3.6 7. 2 Cor. 2.15 you are a sweet savour unto God and though Israel be not gather'd but you seem to have spent your strength in vain yet surely your judgment is with the Lord and your work and wages with your God Isa 49.4 I have now done with the particular directions there remain yet some more general ones which being observed may with God's Blessing much promote the success of this whole work And so 1. To spiritual instruction add holy admonition exhortation good advice and counsel Do not only let them know by instruction what their duty is but press urge inforce this duty upon them by admonition and good counsel O my Child you see your Duty you know what you ought to do O do according to what you know What a strong powerful prevailing influence hath good counsel when duly applied Only see 1. That you back your counsel with the clearest Scripture and most convincing Arguments you can possibly Good advice without these is but a Bullet without Powder and Arrow without a Feather Argue with them about the Excellency of God Christ the Spirit Grace the vanity of the Creature the folly and sinfulness of sin See how Job handles the matter with his Wife about murmuring and impatience against God Job 2.10 What shall we receive good at the hand of God and not evil Hear what Bathsheba saith to Solomon Prov. 31.2 3 4. What my Son and what the Son of my Womb c. It is not for Kings O Lemuel it is not for Kings c. Shew them the beauty of Christ draw aside the Curtain let them behold the Image of that blessed Saviour pourtrayed in Scripture Do to them as the Spouse did to the Daughters of Jerusalem run over all the Excellencies of Christ to them and then conclude He is altogether lovely This is my Beloved and this is my Friend Can. 5.16 O Daughters of Jerusalem 2. Labour as much as possible to insinuate your selves into their affections Having clear'd your way into their heads labour to wind and scrue your selves into their hearts Let them know that you have no design upon them but to make them happy no private end only their everlasting good This done thou hast done all thy work when all jealousies of any sinister ends are blown away then Exhortations and
Counsels go down glibly When persons are fully satisfied that in all our Addresses to them we study only their benefit and profit this opens an effectual door to all the means that we shall use Thus Paul accosts the Romans I long to see you that I may impart unto you some spiritual gift Rom. 1.10 11. Thus he smooths his way to the Philippians Phil. 1.8 God is my Record how greatly I long after you all in the bowels of Jesus Christ Labour then to get their love their good esteem and the work will thrive beyond expectation Love is like the oiling of the Key which makes it to open the lock more easily love greaseth the nail and makes it enter with more facility 2. To holy hearty serious affectionate frequent admonition add an exemplary Conversation Inferiours are apt to be led rather by example than rule and are more prone to imitate Practices than to learn Principles They are more mindful of what we do than of what we say and they will be very prone to suspect that we are not in good earnest when they see that we command them one thing and do another our selves When we teach them well and do amiss our selves we do but pull down with one hand what we build with the other Like a man that at the same time sings a lovely Song and drowns the melody of it by playing an ugly Tune When the Father is immodest the Child that sees it soon grows impudent and therefore the Ancients thought themselves concern'd to be very reserv'd and cautelous before their children Maxima debetur pueris reverentia Psal 101.2 Nâ—l faedum dictu visâ—que ea limina â—angat intra quae pura est Pâ—il 1.4 Col. 1 3. Rom. 10.1 Walk as David therefore in thy house with a perfect heart Let thy children and servants behold nothing in thy deportment which if follow'd may prove sinful 3. To an exemplary conversation add faithful fervent humble constant supplication Paul without ceasing makes mention of his heart's desire and his prayer to God for Israel was that they might be saved Ministers like spiritual Priests should not fail to offer their daily Sacrifices for their people confess their iniquities bewail their misery and cry mightily to God for his mercy All our instructions without prayer will do no good Go to God to sanctifie all By prayer carry thy children servants to the blessed Jesus in the Arms of Faith and beseech him to bless them by laying on his hands on them as Isaac did The accustomed Ceremony used in Blessing Beza in Mat. 19. Impositio manuum Symbolum fuit apud Judaeos familiare quoties solâ—nnis erat precatio vel benedictâ— Mat. 15.22 Gen. 27.1 and 48.9 14. with Matth. 19.13 and Mark 10.16 How pathetically did Abraham plead with God for Ishmael Oh that Ishmael might live before thee Gen. 17.18 Bathsheba calls for Solomon the Son of her Vows Prov. 31.2 Austin the Child of Monica's prayers and tears O pray then pray earnestly O that this my Son Daughter Servant might not dye for ever Thou Lord art the Prince and Lord of Life O speak powerfully to their poor Souls that these pieces of my bowels that are now dead in trespasses and sins may hear thy voice and live Cry out to God with that poor man in the Gospel Lord have mercy on my Son Matth. 17.15 If a Mother do as the Woman of Canaan did Have mercy on me O Lord my Daughter is grievously vexed with a Devil If he seem not to hear and to be silent go nearer to him by Faith and cry Lord help me Lord help me If his Answer seem to be a repulse do not thou desist but rather gather Arguments from his denial as she did and conclude that if he once open his mouth he will not shut his hand and if importunity may prevail with an unrighteous man then much more it will obtain with a gracious God Never leave him therefore till by laying hold on his own strength thou hast overcome him At last thou mayst hear that ravishing voice O Woman be it unto thee even as thou wilt and see thy Daughter made whole from that very hour 4. Lastly To fervent supplication add wary inspection Keep a strict hand Dr. Jacomb Dem. Dâ—c 83. and a watchful eye continually over those that are committed to your charge your utmost care and vigilancy in this will be found little enough How soon will those Gardens that now look like a Paradise be overgrown with weeds if the Keepers thereof do not look to them daily How soon is Childhood and Youth tainted with sin if it be not narrowly watcht Be thou diligent therefore to know the state of thy Flock and look well to thy Herds Carefully observe the natural temper of your inferiours you will by this the better know how to apply your selves to them in advice reproof correction Observe the first sprouts and buds of what is either good or evil in them encourage commend reward them in the one curb restrain and prevent the further growth of the other Do they begin to take God's Name in vain Do they nibble at a lye Doth Pride in apparel peep forth Be sure to kill this Serpent in the very egg to crush this Cockatrice in the Shell 2. Thus of Superiours A word to Inferiours and I have done Dear Lambs the Searcher of Hearts knows how greatly I long after you all in the Bowels of Jesus Christ Shall I prevail with you to remember this when I am laid with my Fathers viz. That 't is no less your Duty to make Religion your business in the relation of Children and Servants than 't is ours in the relation of Parents and Masters Oh what a credit what a glory is it to drink in the Dews of Godliness in the morning of your lives What a lovely sight to behold those Trees blossoming with the fruits of the Spirit in the Spring of their Age Better is a poor and a wise Child than an old and a foolish King Eccl. 4.13 What a Garland of Honour doth the Holy Ghost put on the head of an holy Child How profitable is early Piety Some Fruits ripe early in the year are worth treble the price of latter Fruits Godliness at any time brings in much gain but he that comes first to the Market is like to make the best price of his Ware On the other side how dangerous are delays Remember Children late Repentance like untimely fruits seldom comes to any thing Your lives are very uncertain As young as you are you may be old enough for a Grave Oh then seek your God 1 Tim. 6.6 We read of one that truly repented at his last gasp that so none might despair but 't is of but one that none might presume and seek him when and whiles he may be found Isa 55.5 If thou refuse him now he may refuse thee hereafter I have heard of one that deferring Repentance
any duty in that manner that is suitable and necessary thereunto ought to be laid aside but 5. To these I shall here add the external duties of religion and sacred ordinances to be used in the discharge of the work of the day 1. Is confession of sin a fast day is for atonement and therefore confession of sin is necessary As we read of Ezra when he heard of the sin of the Jews in their making affinity with the people of the Land he rent his garment and sat astonied till the evening sacrifice and made confession of their sin Ezra 9.7 8 9 10. So in Nehem. 9.1 2. we read the Children of Israel were assembled with fasting and they stood and confessed their sins and the iniquities of their Fathers And so Daniel in his solemn fast which he set himself to in the behalf of the Captivity now almost expired he makes an ample confession of sin as we read Dan 9.4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11. And as a fast is an extraordinary duty so confession of sin ought to be more than ordinary in such a day and what may suffice at another time may not be sufficient then It ought to be more extensive with respect to the several kinds and acts of sin with respect to the aggravations of sin and with respect to the persons that are under guilt and with respect to the inward principles of sin in the heart out of which all actual sins do spring As Daniels confession of sin extended to the kinds of it the several aggravations of it and to the persons that were concern'd in it as their Kings Princes Fathers people of the Land those that were near and those that were far off as we find in that chapter And this confession of sin is requisite to the deeper humiliation of the soul to the condemnation of our selves and to the justifying of God whereby he may have the greater glory 2. Is supplication which is the imploring mercy from God either with respect to the pardon of sin committed or the preventing those judgments that are impending or the removing such as are inflicted As we find Daniel in the time of his fasting after his confession made earnest supplications for forgivenesses of sin v. 9. for the turning away God's anger and fury v. 16. for the shining of his face upon his sanctuary v. 17. for the repairing the desolations of their City call'd by his name v. 18. and for the people in general ibid. And therefore fasting and prayer are frequently mentioned together in Scripture Luke 2.37 Acts 10.30 Acts 14.23 24. 1 Cor. 7.5 though prayer in general comprehends confession and thanksgiving in it as well as supplication yet in a stricter acceptation petition for mercy doth most properly express the import of the word and the main matter of the duty And this the King of Nineveh enjoined in the fast appointed by him Jonah 2.8 Let man and beat be covered with sackcloath and cry mightily to God So that supplication and crying to God is another great part of the duty of the day 3. Hearing the word for the word is necessary both for the discovery of sin for our present humiliation and for the discovery of our duty with respect to future reformation both which are necessary to an acceptable fast And the word of the Gospel sets before men a door of hope that their sin may be pardoned and judgment removed It presents God not only as reconcileable but delighting in mercy It sets before men many instances of God's hâ—aring prayer and the prevalency of repentance and humiliation with him And particularly what acceptance solemn fasting hath found with him in several ages And all this mightily tends to the furthering the great duties of the day And it is observed of the fast kept by the children of Israel Nehem. 9.3 that they read in the book of the Law of the Lord their God one fourth part of the day and another fourth part they confessed and worshipped if repentance spiritual mourning and soul humiliation be necessary to the day as I shall shew presently then the hearing the word may be of great use thereunto As when Josiah heard the words of the Law he rent his cloaths and humbled himself 2 Chron. 34.27 and Ahab upon the like occasion humbled himself though not in the like manner and we read how God appointed Jeremiah and Jeremiah Baruch to read the roll that was written from the mouth of God in the ears of the people upon their fasting day Jer. 36.6 and what was the cause of Ninevehs repentance and humiliation was it not Jonah's preaching as our Saviour speaks of it Math. 12.41 They repented at the preaching of Jonah though his preaching was only this yet forty days and Nineveh shall be destroyed The word is effectual through Christ to bring the impenitent to repentance and to renew the exercise of repentance in those that have already repented which is a proper work for a fast day 4. Renewing our Covenant with God which in private fasts is to be done betwixt God and a man 's own soul and in publick fasts by the mouth of the preacher and the peoples consent thereunto And this Covenant is either the general Covenant that we renew or else a particular Covenant with respect to some particular duties that we ingage our selves unto Or else both together As in the publick fast observed by the children of Israel in Nehem. 9. both Princes and Nobles and people renewed their general Covenant to walk in God's Law which was given by Moses the servant of the Lord and particularly they covenanted not to give their Daughters to the people of the Land nor take their Daughters for their Sons as we read Nehemiah Chap. 10. ver 19 20. and the Covenant being written their Princes Levites and Priests did seal to it So if a Church or people have contracted guilt upon themselves by the omitting of some duties or the committing of any sins for which the Lord may have a controversie with them It is a proper work upon a day of fasting to ingage themselves to a reformation by a solemn renewing their Covenant with God And though we have not a particular Instance of this in the New Testament yet the Law of saith that requires men now to take hold of God's Covenant and in all cases to make use of it so in some special cases to renew it also Not that it needs renewing as to the substance or sanction of it on God's part but we are on our part to renew it with God by laying new ingagements and obligations upon our selves to carry it in all things according to the Law of this covenant in the restipulating part of it 5. The next duty of the day is Thanksgiving Though this seems not the proper duty of the day yet is not to be omitted for the due consideration of God's mercy tends to the aggravation of sin and so to make mens confessions and
say I would my poor hungry child I would but I have it not Why then will you not come at me live together and eat together at my cost and care and charge and yet be whole months and never come at Me and that your children have reason raiment limbs not born blind nor of a monstrous birth which things Heathens have been affected with and a thousand ways besides have I done you good may God say Why then will you live whole years together and never together come at me Have you found one more able or more willing to do you good that you never can Why then are you so unthankful as not to come at me After the like manner the Lord expostulates with his People to whom he had been a bountiful Benefactor and yet they answered not his bounty nor served him their Benefactor for which he calls to the Heavens to be astonished and the Earth to be horribly afraid Jer. 2.5 Thus saith the Lord Mercies do engage to duties We should have him for our God for ever and serve him that always doth us good So the Poet. O Melibaec Deuo. nobis haec otia fecit Namque erit ille mihi semper Deus illius aram Saepe tener nostris ab ovilibus imbuet agnus Virg. Eclog. 1. Officia etiam saerae sentiunt nec ullum tam immansuetum animal est quod non cura mitiget in amorem sui vertat Leonum ora à magistris impunè tractantur Eliphantorum feritatem usque in servile obsequium demeretur cibus adeo etiam quae extra intellectum atque aestimationem bemeficii sunt posita assiduitas tamen meriti pertinacis evincit Ingratus est adversus unum beneficium adversus alterum non erit Duorum obliru est tertium etiam corum quae excideruâ—t memoriam reducet Qui instat onerat priora sequentibus etiam ex duto Immemori pectore gratiam extundat Nâ—o audebit adversus multa ocuâ—câ— allollere Senec. de benef c. 3. what iniquity have your Fathers found in me that they are gone far from me 6. Neither said they where is the Lord that brought us up out of the land of Egypt Should such a people forsake such a God and go far from him that did them so much good yet they did ver 13. Be astonished at this oh ye heavens You see when God is a Benefactor to a People and there is the same reason for Families and they do not serve him what monstrous wickedness it is God hath kept you all safe in the night and yet in the morning you do not say Where is the Lord that did preserve us come ô come Let us give joint praises to him God hath done you and your Families good so many years and yet you do not say where is the Lord that hath done such great things for us come let us acknowledg his mercy together God hath carried you through affliction and sickness in the Family the Plague hath been in the house and yet you live the Small pox and burning Feavors have been in your houses and yet you are alive your conjugal companion hath been sick and recovered children nigh to death and yet restored and for all this you do not say Where is the Lord that kept us from the Grave and saved us from the Pit that we are not rotten among the dead and yet you do not pray to nor pra se this your wonderful Benefactor together Let the very walls within which these ungrateful wretches live be astonished at this Let the very beams and pillars of their houses tremble and let the very girders of the floors on which they tread and walk be horribly afraid that such as dwell in such an House together go to bed before they go to Prayer together Let the earth be amazed that the Families which the Lord doth nourish and maintain are rebellious and unthankful Being worse than the very Ox that knoweth his Owner and of less understanding than the very Ass Isa 1.2 3. There is such validity in the consequence from God's being our Benefactor to our duty to him in serving of him that Joshua builds his exhortation to the Heads and People of Israel to fear and worship God upon this very foundation as appeareth plainly to any that read the Chapter where the Text lieth From what hath been said I reason in this manner 3. Arg. If God be the Founder Owner Governour and Benefactor of Families as such then Families as such are jointly to worship God and pray unto him This cannot be denied But God is the Founder Owner Governour and Benefactor of Families as such Neither can this be denied 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Aristot Moral Nunc adhibe puro Pectore verba puer nunc te melioribus affer Quo semel est imbuta recensâ— servabit odorem Testa diu Horat. Ep. l. 12. adeo in teneris consuescere mulâ—um est Virg Geor. l. 2. Therefore Families as such are jointly to worship God and pray unto him Argument 4. Masters of Families ought to read the Scripture to their Families teach and instruct their Children and Servants in the matters and doctrines of Salvation therefore they are to pray in and with their Families No man that will not deny the Scripture can deny the unquestionable duty of reading the Scripture in our houses Governours of Families teaching and instructing them out of the Word of God Amongst a multitude of express Scriptures look into these Exod. 12.26 And it shall come to pass when your Children shall say unto you what mean you by this service 27. Ye shall say it is the Sacrifice of the Lord 's Passeover who passed over the houses of the Children of Israel in Egypt when he smote the Egyptians and delivered our houses And there is as much reason that Christian Parents should explain to their Children the Sacraments of the New Testament to instruct them in the nature use and ends of Baptism and the Lord's Supper Deut. 6.6 And these words which I command thee this day shall be in thine heart 7. v. And thou shalt teach * Crebris admonitionum quasi ictibus haec mea praecepta infiges optabis sicut repetitis mallei ictibus fâ—rram aptatur Lud. de Dieu Et dentabis ea i. e. inter dentes versabis assidue lo queris vel dentibus mandes praemansa in os ingeres filiis tuis Malvend 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 whet or sharpen them diligently to thy children and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thy house and when thou walkest in the way and when thou liest down and when thou risest up i. e. morning and evening Deut. 11.18 19. Ephes 6.4 And ye Fathers provoke not your Children to wrath but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. And God was pleased with this in Abraham Gen. 18.19 For I know him that he will command his children and his houshold after him and they
corde se tantopere praesumere oportet ut modum quo Deus religiosè coli debet ipsi sibi pro libitu arbitrio praescribant non enim Deus hominum 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 delectatur aequum est non quo nos volumus ipsi sed quo ipse vult modo eum colamus veneremur Thes Salmur That Abel did Sacrifice and thereby pleased God Gen. 4.4 the Lord had respect unto Abel and his Offering i. e. God accepted Abel and his Offering It is not said what outward testimony it was whereby God did declare this respect and acceptance of Abel's Offering whereby Cain did perceive that Abel and his Offering was pleasing unto God when himself and his Offering were both rejected It is conceived that fire came down from Heaven and consumed Abel's Sacrifice but not Cain's Offering and by this sign God did discover his acceptance of the Sacrifices in following Ages Lev. 9.24 1 Kings 18.38 1 Chron. 21.26 2 Chron. 27.1 But if this had not been by God's own appointment it would not have pleased him for will-worship God is not delighted in if it had not been commanded by God it had not been obedience in Abel and if it had not been obedience it would not have been pleasing to God for hath the Lord as great delight in Burnt-offerings and Sacrifices as in obeying the voice of the Lord Behold to obey is better than Sacrifice and to hearken than the fat of Rams 1 Sam. 15.22 Abel did by faith what he did in sacrificing unto God Heb. 11.4 2. Fide oblata fuerunt sacrificiis ab initio sunt autem 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in religione fides 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Haec enim habet 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 illa autem nititur divinae revelatione voluntatis ut qui cultus Deo ex fide praestatur sit obedientia Cloppenburgh Sacrific Schol. But faith must be bottomed upon some signification of the Will of God and must be done by virtue of some command if done in faith else there is no ground nor reason to believe that what is done will be pleasing unto God That there was religious worship in Adam's Family 2. A non scripto ad non factum non valet consequentia Inter primam promissionem de ventura semine mulieris primum sacrificium non relinquimus ullum temporis intervallum Munit hanc sententiam nostram Apostolus docens vetus foedus absque sanguine dedicatum non fuisse absque sanguinis effusione non fieri remissionem Heb. 9.18 22. Hinc enim consequens est vel cum promissione illa de venturo semine mulieris nullam factam esse foederis Dei cum bomine spiritualis instaurationem qua peccato um remissionem speraret crederet vel non esse factum 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 qui est sacrificiorum character Cloppenburgh Sacrif Schol. and so handed down from his to others appears in that Adam did yield obedience to the command of God given to him concerning Sacrifices and other duties belonging to it and did educate his children in the same Though we do not read that Adam did sacrifice and pray to God yet it doth not follow that he did not The great wickedness of Cain and the martyrdom of Abel gave occasion to this first mention of their offering but it is not likely that this was the first offering made to God for do you think that Adam and Eve had so many Sabbaths before Cain and Abel were born and brought up that they kept none of them No not one Or that they spent their time and days in the matters of the World in the total neglecting of God and their own Souls If any be so uncharitable let them consider these three things 1. Had not Adam and Eve sad experience of the difference of being under God's favour and his frowns of being filled with the sense of his love and fears of his wrath Were there ever any in the world that knew both these as our first Parents did the one in the state of Innocency the other after their Apostacy When God himself came to look after these transgressors of his Law and to arraign them at his Bar and convince them of the evil they had done and pronounce sentence upon them for the same and cursed the one and the other and the earth for their sakes and drove them out in anger from that delightful pleasant Paradise in which at first they were placed by God were they not terrified now by the anger of the Lord as they were before delighted in his love Adamus cum totius generis humani esset pater familias promissionem seminis victricis posteris omnibus praedicandam acceperit illius officii nexu naturae positivi praecepti juris virtute tenebatur Officio isti cum non de fuisse plurima sunt quae suadent Munere enim mandato ut sedulò fungeretur effecerunt sine dubio beneficum à Deo maximum recèns acceptum sui generis amor misericordia aâ—que in quem staâ—um per peccatum redegisset miseres posteros sensuâ—â— tenerrimus Tota itaque illius familia ipso curante regente hoc est totum in universum humanum genus nemine excepto dei erat ecclesia in qua fides observantia cultus religiosus viguerunt Doct. Owen de nat ortu c. Theol. lib. 2. cap. 2. 2. Then add to this and consider Did not God after this out of his abundant grace and mercy towards them lying in this misery preach recovering grace by and through his own Son Gen. 3.15 q. d. Adam thou art a lost man Yes Lord I see I am Thou art exposed to my wrath and to the death that I did threaten if thou didst disobey Yes Lord so I am Adam and Eve you two have undone your selves and all the world and plunged your selves and them into the depth of misery and are exposed to my wrath and justice for ever Yes Lord so it is so it is wo unto us so it is Well but yet out of my meer mercy and free grace I will help you out of this condition I have a remedy for you I have kindness for you Sinners for you Rebels and such that all the Angels in Heaven could not have thought of for you poor Sinners and that is my own Son shall be your Surety shall become a man and suffer in your nature and bear the punishment of your sin he shall dye and you shall live he shall suffer and you shall be saved if you will yet consent to the terms of a new Covenant after you have violated the former and this shall come to pass at the time that I have appointed in the mean while you shall offer such Sacrifices to me and pray unto me for your pardon and my grace and these Sacrifices shall be Types of this promised Saviour and it shall be through him but not for these that I
vvill have mercy on you Do you not think that these glad tidings did wonderfully affect their hearts Do you not think that this grace and kindness in their sad condition at the first manifesting of it did strongly oblige them to yield obedience to what God should reveal to them to be his Will Or do you think that neither the sense of their before desperate condition when they saw no way of help or hope nor the sense of this grace and mercy did stir them up to hearken to the commands that God would give them Is it likely that they did not go together and praise God for such love as this Do but consider what they did enjoy before they fell and what their fears were after and then how much must this first tidings of mercy needs affect their hearts and engage them to obedience 3. That our first Parents had religious Worship in their Family appears by the religious education of their Children Do you think that when they had undone their children and yet God had discovered a way of salvation to them that they did not timely tell their children of this Had they exposed their childrens souls to Hell and to damnation and yet not tell them and teach them God's gracious dealings with them by which it might be prevented Do you think that they did not pray with them that themselves and theirs might be indeed partakers of this mercy Is it likely that Adam and Eve did not acquaint their children how God did make them in a blessed condition and how they lost it and how God himself had been with them after they had so offended and made known a way of salvation to them Would not their natural affection to their children and the sense of God's mercy put them on to instruct them in these things and praise God with them for his love and pray for the certain fruits and benefits of it Obj. This might make it probable Vnde haâ—uerunt Cain Abel quod sacrificiis Deum honorarent à patre suo qui eos instituit Fag Lyra. Ex Dei instinctu aut verbo primi parentes obtulerunt Oleast Constat cultum aliquem externum Majestati divinae fuisse institutum à patre Adamo de eo fuisse instructos Cainem Abâ—lem Rivet Cain obtulit non fide sed pro consuetudine paternae institutionis Musculus Deus d cuit Adam cultum divinum quo ejus benevolentiam recuperaret quam per peccatum amiserat ipsumque docuisse filios suos dare Deo decimas primitias but there is nothing in Scripture from whence you can conclude it Ans But there is The express mention of Cain's and Abel's offering doth plainly prove that they were thus brought up in the worship of God Cain though he had no grace yet did make a profâ—ssion of Religion And that they were instructed in the things before expressed is the Judgment of learned men who conclude that Adam receiv'd instructions from God and Cain and Abel from their Father Adam And Abel's Sacrifice being accepted doth fully prove that he did understand the fall and recovering grace by Messias then to come for was God pleased with the Sacrifice it self and for it self that Abel did bring There never was any thing in them to reconcile God to Sinners but they were types and shadows of good things to come and they pointed unto Christ Abel then must understand this Besides Abel did offer by faith in whom in Christ to come then he was instructed in the Doctrine of Redemption by Christ and this doth suppose a lost estate Moreover it is said Heb. 11.4 That by this faith Abel obtained a testimony that he was righteous What By the Works he did By the Sacrifice it self that he offâ—red Is any Sinner justified from the condemning sentence of the Law by Works of his own No but Abel vvas justified by faith in Christ signified by the Sacrifice which he did offer for vvithout a Mediator there is no peace vvith God no pardon from God no justification before God no acceptance vvith him for any sinful man There were then religious duties in Adam's Family and that by God's command and appointment Obj. But this was offering of Sacrifice what is this to Prayer or to us when the way of Sacrificing is abolished Ans 1. Do you think they did Sacrifice and not pray when they did so Ponéâ—que manum c. quo protestebatur se dignum qui pro peccato jugularetur Oleast in loc Quae lex instituit oblationem sacrificiorum eadem praecipit quoque orationes Deo fieri quia absque orationibus illa peragi nequeunt Hoornbeck Socin confu tom 2. p 431. The offerer laid his two hands between the horns of the Sacrifice and confessed his sin over a sin-Offering in this wise I have sinned I have done Perversly I have rebelled and done thus and thus but I return by repentance before thee and let this be my expiation Lightfoot Temp. Service c. 8. Did they not confess their sin when Sacrifice was offâ—red and acknowledg that they deserved to dye for their sins and this was signified by a man's laying his hand upon the head of the burnt-Offering Lev. 1.4 Prayer then usually accompanying Sacrificing Heb. 10.3 the one doth infer the other Luke 1.10 And the whole multitude of the people were praying without at the time of incense If such Sacrifices are ended yet there are Sacrifices for Christians to offer up to God your selves your hearts your prayers and praises Rom. 12.1 Heb. 13.15 And there are the same moral grounds and reasons why you should serve God in your Families in the way prescribed by God since the coming of Christ as there was why they should serve God in their Families in the way of Worship appointed by God before the coming of Christ Ans 2. And this was not practised only in Adam's Family but by godly Families after too So Enoch walked with God Gen. 5.24 and Noah Gen. 6.9 vvhich implies their universal sincere obedience at home as well as abroad and that this implies their worshipping God in their Families I think for this reason because if a man be never so great a Professor abroad if he totally and constantly neglect God's worship at home nay if it be not constantly done except in some cases that might fall out he shall not be accounted to be one that walketh with God I judg that man cannot be said to walk with God that in his house with his Family doth not Kneel before him Besides Abraham's duty was comprehended in this phrase Walk before me Gen. 15.1 but Abraham in his walk took his Houshold along with him Gen. 18.19 He will command his children and his houshold after him and they shall keep the way of the Lord the vvay in vvhich his houshold should walk and by the way of the Lord is often understood the worship of God One place more I would have considered for
conjunct Prayer of a domestick combination which is concerning Isaac Gen. 25.21 We read it And Isaac entreated the Lord for his Wife Heb. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Two words especially make for our purpose Ea praesente unà cum illa Junius Simul cum uxore cum qua communicabat preces Fagi 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 orare quidem significat sed non simpliciter quia assiduitatem importunitatem simul connotat precum multiplicationem Res convenit non enim dubium est tam longo tempore Isaacum saepiâ—â—s interpellasse Deum fretum spe promissionum Rivet in loc That vvhich is translated for his Wife might be read with his Wife in the presence of his Wife being vvith him and joining with him in this duty He prayed for and before his Wife it was then conjunct Prayer Isaac praying with his Wife The other vvord translated entreated signifieth to multiply powerful words in Prayer to pour out vvords in abundance and denoteth 1. The multiplying of his Prayers it was not only once but frequently that he pray'd with his Wife 2. The earnestness of his Prayer 3. The continuance and their perseverance therein till they had the mercy prayed for as follows and the Lord was entreated of him Isaac had been married near twenty years with Rebekah and so long without a child so that it seems they had been exercised in this duty for many years upon this account that Rebekah had no child for so long time for which they did unanimously and constantly offer up prayers to God and if they prayed together for issue should not you for the favour of God pardon of sin interest in Christ and eternal life By all you see that there was Family conjunct worship and praying to God by God's command and appointment and approved by God's acceptance of it Now let any one shew where God hath taken off this obligation if God hath any where said though I did appoint Adam to worship me in his Family and did accept of Abel 's offering that did as I commanded and did hear Isaac praying together with his wife yet now I will be prayed to in Families no more shew it if you can What book chapter and verse is it Obj. Will you say that the reason of their worshipping God in their Families at first was because there was no other to worship him with but when men did multiply and there were publick Assemblies men were not bound to do it Ans 1 Shew that Which is the Text that tells you that God's instituting of Publick Worship hath disobliged men from praying to God in their Families Ans 2 When men were multiplied Godly men did serve God in their Families Abraham did and Isaac did and Job did and Joshua did and Cornelius did Did they do it and were they not bound to do it What will you make of all the Worship and Prayers which these did give and offer up to God in their Houses If there was no obligation upon them they had not sinned if they had omitted it and it was no obedience when they did so Will you say either of these What! Were they Works of Supererogation No surely But when Aaron 's Priesthood was instituted Object then the obligation on Families ceased and after that the Israelites did not pray in their Houses Why will you speak without Book Shew me this either Answ I have proved an obligation by God's institution shew me where it is nulled and made void even after the Aaronical Priesthood was instituted But I say they did pray in their houses after this for after the institution of Aaron's Priesthood the Israelites celebrated the Passeover in their own Houses and that was not done without Prayer For though after the Priesthood was setled the Priests killed the Lamb yet after the Lamb was killed the Master of the house caused it to be brought back to his own house and did eat it with his Family Luke 22.7 8.9 10. And the Cup that was used at the Passeover whether it were Sacramental or no is controverted was blessed by the Master of the Family Weemes so that there was Prayer and Praise attending this celebration in their Houses conjunctly after the Priesthood was setled in which service they had also the expâ—ication of it why they kept it what was the meaning of the bitter herbs and why eaten with unleavened bread done in form of Catechizing Godw. Jew Antiq and in their Feasts the Master of the House prayed before and after after he gave thanks 1 For their present food 2 For their deliverance from Egyptian bondage 3 For the Covenant of Circumcision 4 For the Law given by the ministry of Moses then he prayed that God would have mercy 1 On his People Israel 2 On his own City Jerusalem 3 On Sion the Tabernacle of his Glory 4 On the Kingdom of the House of David his anointed 5 That he would send Elias the Prophet 6 That he would make them worthy of the days of the Messiah and of the life of the World to come Do you not call this conjunct Prayer and Praise thus done by the Master of the Family May we not now with confidence of the truth from all under this last Topick or Head of Argument frame this manner of reasoning Arg. 6. If serving of God and praying conjunctly to him in proper Families was commanded and appointed by God and never yet revoked then it is the duty of proper Families so to do But serving of God and praying to him conjunctly in proper Families was commanded and appointed by God and never yet revoked Therefore it is the duty of proper Families so to do Pareus Deorum cultor infrequem Insanientis dum sapientiae Consultus erro nunc retrorsum vela dare atque iterare cursus cogor relictos Horat. lib. 1. Od. 34. So much for the first Question Question Second Whether it be the duty of Families jointly to pray to God daily Aff. Some that are convinced that Family Prayer is a duty vvill sometimes practice it and yet but seldom some upon the Lord's Day and yet but once then in the Evening and that serves for all the week till the evening of the Lord's day next doth come Others pray once a day through the week but omit it in the morning when yet the very same reasons which should move them to do it at all should be cogent for more frequent performance of it and are so Though it be not determined expresly in the Scripture that Christian Families should pray together morning and evening every day yet in the general it is required that we should continue in Prayer Col. 4.2 which seems to be meant of Family Prayer For the Apostle had been speaking to Family relations Husbands and Wives Parents and Children Masters and Servants and treating of Family relative duties carrying on his speech still to the same persons saith continue in Prayer but such as
〈◊〉 ruler of his own house Kings are Fathers of their own Countries and Fathers are Kings in their own houses in respect of their rule and authority over them 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Homer Odys lib. 1. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Idem Odys 9. Direction II. N c sibi nec aliis utilis Omne animi vitium tanto conspectius in se Crimen habet quanto qui peccat major habetur Juven Sat. 8. 2. That Prayer be managed to the spiritual benefit of the Family the Master thereof should make it his business to be accomplished with gifts and knowledg suitable to the place where God hath set him Ignorance in a Master of a Family renders him uncapable of the discharge of the duties of his place and is worse than in a Child or Servant Such a Family is lik a body that hath a head without eyes It is a shame to see what little knowledg many Governours of Families have in matters of Religion that when they should instruct and catechise their children and servants need to be catechised themselves The Apostle requireth this qualification in Masters of Families that they should be knowing men so some interpret this place 1 Pet. 3.7 as becomes knowing men Naturally men are endued with greater powers to understand than women are 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Viri similiteâ— unà versentur ut scientes decet Beza Piscat Quid est stultius quam quia diu non didiceriâ— non discere Omnis aetatis homines schola admittit Tamduâ— dâ—scendum est quamdiu nescias Sen. Epist 76. and a Master of a Family hath had more time to get knowledg than Children and Servants have and if he hath not attain'd to more it is his shame and reproach and renders him more contemptible in the eyes of those that are subjected to him who have not that reverent awe of him and his authority as they would have if authority were accompanied with knowledg study then you Masters the Scripture more and the grounds of Religion more that you might be able to manage this duty to the greater profit of all in your Families Direction III. 3. It is necessary also to this purpose that the Master of the Family instruct each member of his house in the principles of Religion that they may be able to understand the matter of the Prayers that are put up to God For if the Governour have knowledg how to ask and those that kneel down with him know not the meaning of his words though commonly used and plain to them that have been instructed how shall they concur in such requests or confessions or say Amen to what they do not understand Or what spiritual profit can they get When you lament Original Sin which you and they were guilty of and defiled with if they know not what this means nor how they are corrupted even from their birth how shall they in Prayer be humbled for it If you pray that you may be justified sanctified or have the Image of God engraven on your hearts that you may have Faith in Christ repentance for sin be converted c. how shall they joyn with you if they have no knowledg of these things when they are ignorant what is meant by the Image of God by faith repentance conversion c. and what benefit can they have by such Prayers as to their own concurrence with you to make these things their own desire when yet they are the things you must daily beg of God That Prayer then might be performed to their spiritual edification lay first the foundation be knowing your selves and make them so too and Prayer will be more advantageously done to you and them Nisi priùs in nobâ—s ejusmâ—diâ— affectus exsuscitamus quos altorum animis impressos volumus frustrà erit quicquld conamur Bowl past Evang. Direction IV. 4. That Prayer be managed to the spiritual profit of those in the Family the Master of the Family should get his own heart in good frame and get his own affections warmed in the duty Do you come to Prayer with a lively heart and quickned affections your selves your heat might warm them Quod enim minister Ecclesiae est in templo id pius pater-familias esi indomo ille publico docendi munere fungitur hic privatim suam instituit familiam ad pietatem ac hoâ—â—statem dâ—mesticos suos format Gerhard lo. com de Conjug and your earnest importunity might stir them up unto the same let them see you are in good earnest by your fervent praying as becomes men that are begging for such things as the life of their souls the pardon of their sin the favour of God deliverance from hell and for everlasting happiness Whereas if you come to the duty with flat dull and cold affections this will make them so too As you find it with your selves when you are under a dull and lukewarm Preacher you have little workings of affections so your Family will find it under your Prayers if they be such for as a Minister should get lively workings in his own breast of those affections which he would raise in the People so should you in Family duties get those workings of love joy and sorrow for sin which you would desire should be in those that joyn with you for what a Minister is in the Church that you are proportionably in your house Direction V. Orationis Lex ut non aliter quà m eos decet qui ad Dei colloquium in grediuntur mente animóque compositi simuâ— Calv. Inst l. 3. cap. 20. 5. When you are to set actually on the duty prepare your Family by some short advice to carry themselves as becomes those that are going to speak to the great eternal God at least sometimes and the oftner the better Do not rashly rush out of your worldly callings into the presence of the glorious God say to them to this or the like purpose The God we are going to pray unto is a holy just omniscient God that looks into all our hearts that sees and knows the frame of our spirits that will not be mocked and cannot be deceived All we are sinful Creatures that have broke his righteous Laws and thereby have deserved hell and everlasting torments yet this gracious God holds forth his golden Scepter and gives us leave to approach his presence to beg for pardon and for Christ and grace and heaven Our wants are great and many too and yet our mercies are great and many too come then O come let us with a holy fear of God put up our joynt Petitions that God would supply our wants especially of our souls and make joynt confessions of our sins to God with humble broken penitent hearts and joyntly bless him for the mercies we are all partakers of but let us do all as those that would please God while we pray unto him and not by our
yet we perish much through our Parents and Masters neglect There stands my Father saith the Son and there stands my Master saith the Servant that never prayed with us we do accuse them they never did and they cannot say they did Will you not then wish you had never been Parents to such Children nor Masters to such Servants As you would avoid this be faithful to your trust and mindful of your duty lest thou wish O Vtinam coelebs mansissem ac prole carerem MOTIVE III. 3. Consider You have but a little time before you for the performance of this trust You and your Families shall live together but a while and if once you are parted by death it will be too late whether you die first or some of them 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Theoc. Sâ—es est in vivis non est spes ulla sepultiâ— 1. Suppose some of them dye before you if your Conscience be not feared and your hearts past feeling will you not be almost distracted when you follow them to their Graves to reflect and consider here is one dead out of my house with whom I never prayed we did dwell together and eat together and work together many years but we never prayed together Oh! what if his Soul be gone to Hell through my neglect What if he be damned and I be found guilty of his damnation Prayer was a means appointed by God to have done him good but I did not do it who knows if I had called him to Prayer and I had been confessing sin but God might have broke his heart for sin and given him repentance of which I saw no sign before he died And now Oh! what now if there be one Soul the less in my house and one the more in Hell Oh! this is that which wounds my Soul this is that for which my Conscience now doth sting me that when I had him with me I did not do my duty and now he is gone he is gone and now it is too late O my child my child whither art thou gone whither art thou gone O that he may live with me again were it but for a year or two a month or two that we might do together our before neglected duty If you be wise timely prevent such uncomfortable reviews 2. Suppose you die before them for if they do not die and leave you you must die and leave them and can you die without trembling for anguish of your heart without terrours in your Souls and fearful gripes in your Consciences more bitter than the pangs of Death to consider you leave a wicked prayerless Family behind you through your own neglect Would it not trouble you to leave them poor Wife and Children nothing to live upon if this hath been through your sloth and will it not should it not much more trouble you to leave an ignorant Wife Children and Servants unacquainted with God unaccustomed to prayer and all through your neglect Might you not then say if I had left them poor yet if I had left them good and fearing God and given to prayer by my example I could now have died with joy and left them all with comfort but now I lie a dying it is the wounding of my Soul to take so sad a farewel of my Family If I do live it shall be otherwise if I recover and God trust me with life and time yet further I will hereafter do it but my heart is sick my Spirits fail me and I perceive the symptomes of death are upon me and though I am loth to take my leave of my Wife and Children because I have been no more careful of the good of their Souls yet I see I must I must bid farewel unto them Come then dear Wife farewel Gemitúquo haec addidit alio Non alias hinc ad lacrymas Fata vocant Salve aeternum aeternúmque vâ—le Virg. Aeneid l. xi farewel I shall now be no longer thine and thou shalt be no longer mine but this had been no matter if I and thou had both been his whom we should have prayed unto together but we did not Woe is me poor dying man that we did not Farewel dear Children now farewel adieu adieu for ever but oh how shall I take my leave of you with whom I have not done what God required But yet I must whether I will or no I must now leave you But let me give among you what I have gotten for you Therefore to you my Wife I give so much and to this Child so much and to that so much But when I think I worked for you but never prayed with you this doth trouble me Oh! this doth trouble my departing Soul However you will have my Goods the grave and worms shall have my body but who oh who must now have my Soul This will be a sad parting when ever it shall come and yet this parting hour is a coming Pray now with them and in that manner too that then you may be comforted On the contrary if you discharge your duty faithfully and unfeignedly whether your Family be good or bad when you shall die you might take comfort that you did your duty So Mr. Bolton that was abundant in conjunct Prayers in his Family could comfort himself and did say on his Death-bed to his Children I think verily none of you dare think to meet me at the great Tribunal in an unregenerate condition MOTIVE IV. 4. The love that you should bear unto your Families should engage you often to pray together with them Diligatur Proles non ut nascatur tantum verum-etiam ut renascatur nascitur enim ad paenam nisi renascatur ad vitam Aug. de nupt conc l. 1. cap. 17 Ipsae ferae saevae immanes bestiae prolem nutrire solent at non tantùm curare debent parentes ut liberi sui vivant sed etiam ut Deo benè vivant Ames Cas Cons Will you shew your love unto your Children in providing Portions for them that they may live in credit in this life and will you not so much as pray with them that they may live in glory in the life to come Will you do much for their Bodies and nothing for their Souls You that are fondest Husbands and Fathers never love Wife and Children as you ought till you love their Souls The Soul is the best and more noble part and love to the Soul is the best and more noble Love But to love the Body and neglect the Soul is but cruel brutish Love What do you more for your young ones than the birds and beasts do for theirs Do you feed their bodies do not birds and beasts do the same for theirs Love your Wife Children and Servants as you ought and this will provok you to pray together with them MOTIVE V. Oeconomia est veluti paradisus in quo plantantur arbores quarum fructus odore dulcore suo imbuunt omnes vitae
ordines Alsted Qualis est enjús quo domus talis est universa civitas 5. Consider that Family Reformation is a necessary means to publick Reformation and to hand down Religion from one generation to another Reformation begins with Persons thence is carried on to Families thence to Parishes thence to Towns and so to Cities and to Kingdoms but when these consist of Families how can there be a reformation of Cities and Kingdoms without a Reformation of Persons and Families You complain of the badness of the times and age in which you live and that no more care is taken to mend what is amiss why do you not reform your own houses Why do you not amend what is amiss in your own Families If you have not power to reform a Parish City or Kingdom yet you have a power to reform your own houses If Religion die in Families will it not die in Cities too and in Kingdoms too Will not you do your utmost to keep Religion alive to recover it when decaying or shall it be extinguished with this Generation God forbid Or do you see nothing amiss in your houses to be reformed what no praying there and yet nothing amiss there Certainly there is Let yours then have a pattern and example of Family-Prayer from you to do the same in their houses and their Children from them and so let it pass from one age to another An effectual way to keep the City clean will be for every house to sweep before their own door MOTIVE VI. 6. If Religious Duties are not set up in your Families Neglectis urenda filix innascitur agris Horat. Sermo lib. 1. Satyr 3. there will be the more sinning there and wickedness abounding in them How much cursing is there in many Families where there is no praying The field that is not dressed and manured is full of weeds and thorns Where God is not served the Devil is If in your houses God hath not a Church the Devil will have a Chappel What hopes will the Devil have Da mihi quaeso animas caetera sume tibi that he shall have Souls out of those Families where there is much sinning and no praying And if he might have their Souls he will be content that you may have all the rest If your houses be not nurseries for Heaven they will be breeding places for Hell If Souls under your roof are not prepared for Salvation they will there be fitted for Damnation and is this nothing to you Awake arise you drousie Governers of Families to your work and duty MOTIVE VII 7. It would be an effectual way and means to make those in your Families more obedient and better towards you if you would call on them to serve the Lord and you were more in Prayer with them You cry out of stubborn ann disobedient Children They grieve and break my heart saith one I have a Child that is my daily wound and sorrow saith another and Servants never worse is your often complaint Who is all this long of do not you read your sin in your punishment If you had taught them better their duty towards God they would have made more Conscience of their duty towards you if you had prayed with them God might have bowed their hearts as a return to your Prayers to have walked more suitable to their relative duties I have read of a young man going to the Gallows desired to speak with his Mother in her ear who bit off her ear with his teeth crying out against her as the cause of his death by your negligence saith he I am come to this woful end If you are alike careless of your Families if you do not lose your ears by your own Children yet you might lose something that is better MOTIVE VIII 8. If you make profession of Religion Aliud in titulo aliud in ptxide Pelliculam veterem retines fronte politus Astutam rapido servas sub pectore vulpem Pers Sat. 5. and yet do not pray in your Families it is base and cursed hypocrisie When you hear with God's people and pray with them and receive with them and seem to be devout abroad and do not pray with your Families at home is not this to make others believe you are what you are not Do you not profess by your joynt duties with God's people in all Ordinances that you are devoted unto God and doth not he that sincerely devotes himself to God devote also all he hath to him but is your Family devoted to God when there is no worship there It would be well if you were found out that you were denyed the Supper of the Lord for want of a sufficient credibility of a sound Profession But is it your way to be zealous abroad and negligent at home Let your house speak for you Sed videt hunc omnis domus Introsum turpem speciosum pelle decorâ MOTIVE IX Plus valet humanis viribus ira Dei Ovid. Trist Anno 1584 terra motu mons quidam in ditione Bernatum ultra alios montes violenter latus pagum quâ—ndam nonaginta familias habentem contexit totum dimidia domo excepta in qua pater-familias cum uxore liberis in genua provolutus Deum invocabat Polan Syntagm de terrae mot 9. The neglect of calling upon God in your Families will bring the curse of God upon them Jer. 10.25 Pour out thy fury upon the Families that call not upon thy Name 1. The persons threatned are Families which if in this Text comprehendeth many housholds or yet more largely taken yet there is the same parity of reason to a proper Family 2. Their crime is not calling upon the name of God 3. The thing threatned the fury of the Lord fury is fervent anger anger in it's height and rage 4. The abundance of it it shall not fall drop by drop upon prayerless Families but pour down in great showrs upon them Whereas the way to have God's blessing and protection over you and your houshold is to set up the worship of God therein There is a passage in a worthy Divine of a remarkable Providence of God to this purpose concerning a Town consisting of ninety houses that was in the year 1584. destroyed by an Earthquake except the half of one house where the Master of the Family was earnestly praying with his Wife and Children upon their bended knees to God Obj. But we see no such thing we perceive not but those Families prosper that have no Prayer in them as much as those that do Answ God is often angry when he doth not strike and punish presently the Offender but his wrath hangs over your house and you are never safe in your greatest prosperity N n est quare cuiquam quem dignum poena putaveris optes ut infestos habeat Deos habet inquam etiamsi videtur eorum favore produci Senec. Epist An Heathen could say If a wicked man prosper you need not
shouldest sometime sustain some loss in thy outward estate if it be made up with the favour of God and true peace of Conscience in the way of duty and with the real advantage of thy own Soul and the Souls of all thy Family Canst thou be willing to lose nothing for the gaining of Heaven or hadst thou rather that thou and they should lose God and Christ and Glory and Souls and all Surely when you come to cast up your accounts what you have got and what you have lost your gains will prove your loss 10. If God should bring back some from the Grave and Hell and set them in this world again dost thou think that they would so follow the World and run up and down after money that they would say they could find no time to pray that they might escape that dreadful place of Torment they had been in If some of those that have been in Hell but a Moneth or two were now in thy circumstances dost thou think they would not let their work stand still or rise the sooner and sit up the later or would deny themselves much of their eating time and sleeping time that they might have time to pray Lord let us not go down to Hell again O let us not return to the place which we have found to be so restless and so dreadful And shouldst not thou be as much and often and as earnest with thy Family that neither thou nor any of thine be cast into it I durst not let this pass though I am sensible I have taken up too much room without endeavouring to remove this hindrance that lyes in the way to keep many Families from their knees in Holy Prayer I beg for the Lord's sake and for your Soul's sake that you would watch against it and resolve against it and that your worldly Interest shall no longer keep you from Family Prayer In the close then of all that hath been said Let me in the Name of God exhort you all to the practice of Family Prayer You have heard it proved to be your duty you have been directed how you might manage it for the good of all in your houses you have had motives to press you to the performance of it your pretences and excuses brought against it have been manifested to be frivolous and vain What say you Sirs Will you resolve upon it here in the presence of the Lord or will you still neglect it Shall I lose all my labour or shall it be in vain that I have preached and you have heard this Doctrine I tell you to your faces it shall not be in vain the word of the blessed God shall convince you and reform you or condemn you What come we hither for but faithfully to shew you your duty and earnestly to perswade you to obey Do Ministers study for you when you are sleeping in your beds and declare the mind and will of God in the Congregation and will you cast all our counsel behind your back I hope you will be wiser for your own everlasting happiness Say then Are you convinced in this point that it is your duty If not view over again what hath been said and seriously consider it and let me beg this at your hands that you would think of all Now as you would do if you were with an awakened Conscience upon your dying bed or if you were standing at God's Judgment barr and when this question is put to you whether you ought to pray in your Families Let Conscience say Yes or No according as its verdict and dictate shall be at Death and Judgment and then I am perswaded you will say you are convinced you ought to do it And are you indeed What! and yet go on in the omission of it Will you so sin against your Consciences will you dare so to do You Parents for God's sake consider in what a condition you have brought your Children into the world are they not by nature enemies to God dead in sin children of wrath unfit for Heaven Such Parents are like the Ostrich You negligent Parents read Job 39.13 to 19. and Lam 4.3 Look your faces in that Glass Do you not blush Look that you are so like to such a foolish bird Struthio-camelus derâ—linquit ova sua in terra crudelis in prolem nihil praestupiditate oblivione crudelitate filiis suis timet Vales. Phil. Sac. Sicut haec avis non curat sua ova ita insipientes non curant instrui liberos in pietate Franzius The Ostrich if it thrust her neck or head into any shrub or bush and get that hidden thinks her self safe and that no man seeth her Plin. Nat. Hist Such fools are these ungodly Parents that if they get their heads under their roofs remember not that God seeth their great neglect there and in danger of damnation and will you not so much as pray daily with them that they may be delivered out of this condition and be saved from damnation is it nothing to you whether your Children are damned or saved is it nothing to you whether they live with the blessed glorious God or with cursed Devils and damned Souls have you no pity nor compassion for them that are flesh of your flesh where are the earnings of your hearts where are the workings of your bowels if their bodies were a dying would you not pray by their bed sides that they may be preserved from â—he grave and will you not that their Souls might be saved from Helâ— Dare you not be guilty of the murder of their bodies and dare you of their Souls do not the Laws of men justly hang those that do the one and will not the Laws of God righteously damn them that do the other You Fathers and you Mothers can you look upon your Graceless Christless Children and not pity them and weep over them and call them to you to come and pray with you have you not a word to say to God for them in their hearing will you not call them to this duty and let them be eye-witnesses of the tears that you should shed in lamenting their sinful state and misery thereby and ear-witnesses of the requests you put up to God for their conversion and how might this work upon their hearts if they were But what shall I say to you Fathers and to you Mothers that do neglect your duty which God requireth for the good of your Children the Father doth not pray the Mother doth not perswade him nor intreat him so to do and by the negligence of both the Children are ungodly Are they more wicked or you more cruel They are full of Impiety and you are full of cruelty both Father and Mother because it is so much long of you that they are so bad Crudelis Mater magis an puer Improbus ille Improbus ille puer crudelis tu quoque mater Virg. Eclog. 8. Appendatur hoc Crudelis pater es per te
puer Improbus ille But if the profane Parents and Masters amongst us will not reform and pray in their houses shall I not prevail with many of you Professors that have been shamefully guilty of this neglect Then pluck off your visard of Profession abroad and tell us what you are Do not deceive us any longer and make the world believe you are that which you are not but let us know what you are What shall I say Will nothing prevail Then they that are for hell are for hell and we cannot help it But it will be more profitable for you and your Families that you be really and indeed what you have with much zeal abroad professed your selves to be I pray you be better in your houses and act as men resolved for Heaven and to have all your Family with you there However if any do miscarry let it not be by your neglect And as for you that have and do make conscience of this duty go on and the Lord be with you go on Sirs hold out it is but a little while and your praying shall be turned into perfect praising go on that your Children might bless God that they had such Parents and your Servants bless God that they had such Masters and that ever they came under your roof and lived within the walls of your house you will have comfort when you come to dye in the review of holy diligence and might leave them with peace which will be better to you than all the world Keep fast then your resolution That while you live you and your house will serve the Lord. What are the Duties of Husbands and Wives towards each other Serm. XVI Ephes 5.33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his Wife as himself and the Wife see that she reverence her Husband MY business is to declare from this Scripture What are the Duties of Husbands and Wives towards each other A Subject of manifest Vse and Need For as this Relation is the †〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Hieroc de nupt p. 210. Foundation of all others in the world so the right discharge of the Duties hereof doth greatly promote the like in all the rest But here it is easier to Direct than to Perswade and harder to please Man than God And you know We must be faithful to Him and we must be faithful to you and you must labour to bring your Will to the Rule and not to bring the Rule to your Will And your Rule is laid down in these words Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his Wife as himself and the Wife see that she reverence her husband Wherein you have 1. The Connexion Nevertheless that is to say (a) So Zanch. Musc in loc leaving that mystery of the spiritual Marriage let every one of you c. Or (b) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 veruntamen Trem. Vulg. caeterùm Gagn. notwithstanding that the Copy propos'd ver 15. of Christ's love to his Church is so superlative and above your reach yet let every one of you so love his Wife as himself unless we understand it illatively and read it (c) So Dutch Annot Bez. Ham. in loc So then or therefore q. d. the sum and short of what is said amounts to this that (d) Non dicit verùm vos sed verùm vos q.d. sicut Christus Ecclesiam suam dilexit Zanch Musc in loc as Christ loved his Church so every one of you c. 2. The Direction in the rest of the verse let every one of you c. Wherein you see 1. The Vniversal Obligation of it let every one of you which might with some ordinary supplement to the (e) Graecis Latinis deest aliquid hic supplendum viz. vos singuli id praestate Gagn. So our old Translation Greek make a sentence of it self thus let every one of you though you be never so good and though they be never (f) Sive hae formosae sint sive deformes sive divites sive pauperes sive morigerae sive immorigerae ad unum omnes Zanch. Musc in loc so bad look to this do you this 2. The particular Application of it in particular what hath been determin'd in general let it be applied by every one to themselves For both these passages may well respect both Husband and Wife and do import that each of them should study and practice their particular Duty 3. The Summary Description of each of these their Duties And 1. Here is the sum of every husband's Duty To love his Wife Indeed this is not All but this is the chief of All this will fulfill All. And to this is added an excellent Clause as himself which may pass both for a Rule and for a Reason 1. For a Rule for he that may not know How our Saviour loved his Church yet cannot but know (g) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Chrysost in loc how he should love himself why let him love his Wife as himself 2. For a Reason for it being certain that a mans wife is a great part of himself that they are but (h) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Id. in Coloss hom 12. Two in One let every one of you love his wife as himself 2. Here is the sum of every Wife's Duty And the Wife see that she reverence her husband Where the word see is added in our Translation as a convenient (i) Ellipsis sub 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 aut tale Camer in loc supplement to the sense though it be not in the Letter of the Greek But the Substance of the Wife's Duty is here concluded to be Reverence as we translate it though most others read it (k) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 So Dutch Annot. Vulg. Beza c. Fear And doubtless intends that inward Respect to the Place and Person of an husband which inclines them to a voluntary (l) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 doctrina de reverentiae cultu quo is qui inferior est superiorem colit Beza in loc Fear i. e with respect and awe be subject to him Dutch Nusquam erit voluntaâ—ia subjâ—ctio nisi praecedat reverentia Calv. in loc subjection and an agreeable behaviour Which Reverence or Fear is so far from excluding Love that it both supposeth it and is an effect of it For when we love we study to please and fear to offend And though there be no express Explication of this Duty of the Wife as there was of the Husband 's who is charg'd to love his wife as himself yet there is an implicit Direction to the Wife in her duty to her Husband namely to reverence him and to be subject to him as unto her (m) She to behave her self reverently to her husband as to her Head Ham. in loc Head So that our Lesson hence is plain which is this DOCTR Doctr. That Every Husband should love his Wife as himself and every Wife should
pauper te divite quodque inter amicos contingere non potest quomodo in tanta amoris animorum copula contingeâ— Lud. Vives de off mar sick in one anothers sickness The husband must improve all his skill and strength to procure a competence of estate and the wife all hers to help and further it The Reputation of the wife the husband must tender as the apple of his eye and the wife must every way advance the good name of her husband And in short the Holy Ghost hath determined that he that is married careth for the things of the world how he may please his wife and she that is married careth for the things of the world (f) Circa ejus lectum sunt sacra omnia ibi arae ibi Deus ubi pax concordia charitas Deum facilè tibi amicum reddes si hominem reddideris Lud. Viv. de Christ. foem p. 710. how she may please her husband 1 Cor. 7. 33 34. This will bring honour to Religion comfort to their lives and a blessing on all they have This will make them digest all the pains and troubles of that condition seeing they find two to be better than one and do never miss of a sweet and constant (g) Summus autem amicitiae gradus est foedus conjugale Melan. l. c. friend in their bosom Without this care the one will be a perpetual burden to the other and a daily torment When the one is unconcern'd in the others trials when the one gathers and the other scatters when the one blasts the others reputation when one perpetually crosseth and vexeth the other There follows a Hell of disquiet in the mind ordinarily a blast upon the estate besides guilt and shame unspeakable Think therefore often God hath made us One if my wife be sick I am not half well if my husband be poor I cannot be rich if he be discontent how can I be content we 'l laugh and weep together nothing but Death shall separate our Affections or Interests 9. Mutual Prayer Hence the Apostle Peter 1 Pet. 3.7 advises that their Prayers be not hindred which implies that they should pray for and with one another Thus Isaac is said Gen. 25.21 to 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 h Verba fudit magna copia ante è regione ante oculos multiply prayers with or before his wife and it follows how prevalent these prayers were This Common Debt we owe to all much more to them that are so nearly united to us The purest love is written in Prayer This Duty must constantly be done for and frequently with each other No better preservative of real love and peace than praying together There they must bewail their failings in their conjugal Relations the (i) Cum vero non amor procreandae sobolis sed voluâ—tas dominatur in opere commixtionis habeant conjuges etiam de commixione sua quod defleant Lombard l. 4. d. 31. pollutions that cleave to the marriagebed There they should beg the blessing of Children and blessings upon their Children a blessing upon their Estates and especially all spiritual blessings in heavenly things in Christ upon their souls Who knows but that God may touch the heart of the Wife when the husband is pouring out prayers for her Certainly they are in the discharge of their duty to which God hath annexed a promise And it will be the wisdom of them both to espy Fit times for their joynt-Prayers if they cannot keep Pace with Holy Mr. Bolton who prayed twice daily alone twice with his Wife and twice with his Family And herein consider what particular grace or mercy your Relation wants what sin and temptation they are most liable to and press God with an humble importunity in the case till your prayer be answered You owe each other a spiritual as well as as a matrimonial love and if you only eat and drink together what do you more than others do not the Beasts of the field so If your love reach only to the body and the things of this life do not the Publicans the same but if you love one anothers souls and be restless after the salvation thereof you do more than others and your labour shall not be in vain in the Lord. And thus you have heard a plain Breviate of these Common Duties which Husbands and Wives should discharge towards each other I follow now the Order of my Text to declare in the Second place the special Duty of the Husband in this Position namely The great Duty of every Husband is to Love his own Wife This is the foundation of all the rest this must be mixed with all the rest this is the Epitome of all the rest of his Duty And hence this is expresly mentioned four times in this Chapter vers 25 28 33. as being the great wheel which by its motion carries about all the other wheels of the affections that are within us and the actions that are without us Fix but this blessed Habit in the heart and it will teach a man yea it will enforce a man to all that tenderness honour care and kindness that is required of him These are but the beams from that Sun they are but the fruits from that root of real Love that is within Love suffereth long and is kind it envies not is not puffed up seeks not her own is not easily provoked thinketh none evil beareth all things 1 Cor. 13.4 6. It is here as it is in Love to God which you know doth both instruct and thrust a man on to the utmost of his Duty excluding those wary fears wherewith hypocrites abound lest they should do too much Even so Love to a man's Wife suggests all fit expressions thereof and carries a man to perform the highest effects of it when as the want of this causes him to dispute every inch of God's command and to be jealous of every prescription I shall trace this comprehensive Grace or Duty 1. In its nature and property 2. In its Pattern 3. In its effects which done you will see that the greatest part if not all the Husbands Duty is contained in Loving his Wife as himself 1. For the First The Nature and Property of this Love It is Conjugal true aed genuine such as is peculiar to this Relation Not that fondness which is proper in Children nor the brutish lust which is peculiar to Beasts but that which is right and true 1. For the ground of it which is the near Relation which Gods Ordinance hath now brought him into and his will revealed in his Word Such was the Love of Isaac to Rebeka Gen. 24.67 She became his Wife and he loved her The Ordinance of God hath made her (k) Not only by original creation so she is part of his flesh but by nuptial coâ—junction so she is one flesh Gatak Serm. p. 200. One Flesh with me and the Law of Nature obligeth me to love my own flesh
L. Vives value upon them and not to think meanly of every thing in her husband Thus when the wife of Tigranes was asked by her husband after a great solemnity what she thought of Cyrus whom every one did commend as the most excellent person in all that company she answer'd roundly (p) Ita me dii ament ut toto convivio nunquam abs te ad alium vi uâ— deflexerim oculos Truly I look't at no body there but at you my husband And if the husband be but meanly accomplisht yet she ought highly to value the excellency of his Place seeing the Holy Ghost hath in this very respect styl'd him the Image and Glory of God 1 Cor. 11.7 So that whatever he is in himself or to others yet to the wife he is a None-such Such you esteem'd him when you (q) Sed horridus incultus est Semel placuit Nunquid vir frâ—quenter cligendus comparem suam bos elâ—git equus diligit si mutetur alius trahere jugum nescit compar alterius se non totum putat Ambr. tom 4. p. 55. chose him and so you ought still to esteem him And you are to remember the sin and punishment of Michal 2 Sam. 6.16 She despised her husband in her heart and ver 23. she had no child to the day of her death The wife ought to consider that her honour and respect among her family and neighbours doth very much rise and fall according to that which she bears to her husband so that in honouring him she honours her self 2. This Reverence is made up of (r) Timet virum suum adultera verùm non ideò quod illum amet sed quod sibi ipsi conscia est admissi delicti timet verum uxor virum suum fidelis honesta non ex mala conscientia sed ex conjugali dâ—lectione Musc in loc Love Which though it be most prest upon the Husband yet is also the Duty of the Wife Tit. 2.4 Teach the young women to be sober to love their husbands to love their children Thus Sarah Rebecca and Rachel left Parents Friends and Country out of their intire love to their husbands Thus those excellent women being besieg'd together with their husbands in the Castle of Winsberg having liberty for themselves to go out and carry what they could with them took up each their husband and so delivered them But above all comparisons is the Instance that L. Vives gives us of a generous (s) Si deformis est maritus amandus animus cui nupsisti L. Vives who gives a large narration hereof p. 706. de Chr. foem young woman by name Clara Cerventa well known to him that was married to one Valdaura that proved to be full of diseases and lothsom sores whom yet she attended with that care cost and love dressing his sores which no body else would touch selling all her attire and jewels to maintain him and after ten long years of languishment when he was dead and her friends came rather to congratulate than condole her loss she with great trouble told them that she could be willing to purchase her dear Valdaura again with the loss of her five Children It is not fond doting love but such love as this vvhich begets reverence in the heart of the wife to her own husband And indeed there is no better means to increase the husband's love than the (t) 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Chrysost in Col. hom 10. wife's reverence and that alone will make this sweet and easie 3. Fear is the third ingredient into the reverence which the wife owes unto her husband And this I told you was the proper import of this (u) Quo verbo talem intelligit timorem qui ex amore reverentia erga mariâ—um prâ—ficiscitur Zanch. in loc word in my Text. And this is requir'd 1 Pet. 3.2 a chast conversation coupled with fear the one is not sufficient without the other And this the (x) Vxor autem honesta suum virum ita ut aequum est pudicè 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 debet Arist ubi supra Philosopher saw and acknowledged and thereupon distinguisheth between a servile dread and an ingenuous fear exploding the former as unsuitable to the nearness and dearness of that Relation and exacting the latter which is no more than a (y) Subjectiâ— ista consistit in hoc ut mulier tanquam inferior virum tanquam caput revereatur observet caveat ne offâ—ndat sed ejus mandata laeto animo praestet Zanch. in loc cautious diligence to please him and care lest she should offend him A wife must not sit down and say If he be pleased so it is if not let him help himself how he can No but I will do my utmost to give my husband contentment For though I do not fear his hand yet I fear his frown Better I should displease all the world than my own husband She ought rather to deny her self than make her Head her dear Head to ake 2. And now let us trace this Reverence of the wife to her husband in its Pattern laid before her in the Context of these words And here I affirm these two things 1. That the wife ought to Reverence her husband as the Church doth Jesus Christ So ver 22. Wives submit your selves unto your own husbands as unto the Lord and ver 24. Therefore as the Church is subject to Christ so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing Examples are prevalent especially of wise and good people here 's the example of all the wise and godly people in the world to perswade the wife to reverence her husband and the Apostle seems to say that it is as much a duty in the wife to be (z) Truncus est vir planc mortuus cujus caput non est Christus demens temeraria est mulier cui vir non praeâ—st L. Vives de Chr. f. p. 704. subject to the husband as it is in the Church to be subject to Christ In pursuance of this I shall not expatiate but keep near my Text. Two things proclaim the Reverence that the Church bears to Christ 1. The Matter of her Subjection and that is in every thing she doth not yield in great matters and stick at small nor yield in small things and deny in great she doth not yield to him only so far as her Interest or Appetite permits her but when he requires it denies them both So saith the Apostle vers 24. Let the wives be subject to their own husbands in every thing that is in every thing that is not forbidden by an higher power even the Law of God Indeed if a thing be only inconvenient the wife may mildly reason and shew the inexpediency of it but if she cannot convince and satisfie her Husband she must if there be no sin in the case submit her reason and her will to his 2. The
and imitate whatsoever is good commendable and vertuous in our Parents This the Wise man gave his Son in charge that he should with all his heart set his eyes to observe his wayes (i) Prov. 23.26 i. e. take him for his pattern in all those practises which were consonant to the pleasure of his Heavenly Father we should follow them as they do our Lord and Master (k) 1 Cor. 11.1 But not in their errors and miscarriages for fear of Jeroboam's dreadful entail which some choose rather than leave the crooked paths of their Progenitors (l) 1 King 22.58 2 Kings 3.3 2 Chron. 22.4 as the idolatrous Jews of old (m) Jer. 44.17 and the Papists at this day For Marc Antonine the Emperour as the learned Gataker expounds him * Mr Anton. l. 4. Sect. 46. id quod Origen adv Cels. l. 1. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 could teach us that we should not be so childish as to do any thing without consideration 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 upon the mere account of tradition as we had it from our Parents When Frederick IV. Elector Palatine of the Rhine was by a certain Prince advised to follow the example of his Father Lewis he answered well †In Religione non parenâ—um non majorum exempla sequendo sed tantum voluntatem Dei In the business of Religion we must not follow the examples of Parents and Ancestors but only as they are agreeable to the will of God God himself stated this case to the Jewish Children in the wilderness by the Prophet Ezekiel (n) Ezek. 20.18 19. and the Apostle Peter sheweth Christian Children should behave themselves as those who are redeemed from a vain conversation (o) 1 Pet. 1.18 But the good carriage of Parents in their piety towards God righteousness and charity towards man should have a great influence upon those that descend from them Solomon is commended for his dutifulness so far as he walked in the good wayes of David his Father (p) 1 Kings 3.3 expressing the like good qualities and actions in that which was right (q) 2 Kings 23.2 and so Asa (r) 1 Kings 15.11 raising up monuments of David's piety honesty and vertue 'T is reported Justin Martyr became Christian by following the good examples of the primitive Fathers †Euseb l. 4. c. 4. The famous Emperour but now praised determined when in the Empire not to follow the Caesarian mode which then obtain'd at the imperial Court but to do all 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 as a disciple of pious Antonine * Gatak in lib. 4. Sect. 30. to be dress'd by his Fathers glass as Julius Capitolinus notes to act and speak and think as his Father did or as he tells us himself to imitate his constant tenour in things well managed his evenness of temper in all things the chearfulness of his countenance his courteousness contempt of vain-glory and studiousness to find out things He had set before himself the virtues of both his Parents and Pro-parents yea his adoptive Father and copied out the most singular things in them all ‖ l. 1. c. 1. Sect. 1. 2 16. Which may the more incite us Christians as Paul did Timothy from the remembrance of the Faith in his Grand-mother Lois and Mother Eunice (s) 2 Tim. 1.5 to learn that Parents good actions should make impressions on their Children as the Seal upon the wax that they may represent them both while living and dead These cannot be a better resemblance of a Child to a good Father than in this observance (t) Prov. 27.11 which I have touch'd on in these four Particulars hastning to the next Duty viz. 3 Pious regards Christian Children owe their Parents both in respect of their benevolence and indigence from a real desire of humble thankfulness if it were possible to make some kind of compensation unto them by whom under God they subsist 1. With respect to their benevolence a grateful resentment of their kindnesses which ought to be manifested in an affectionate acknowledgment of their Parental love and care This is so good and acceptable unto God that to requite our Parents in Paul's language is to shew piety and kindness at home (u) 1 Tim. 5.4 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 when by way of commutation we are solicitous to take our turn as it were in a sort of retaliation to make some kind of retribution to those who begat us either immediately or mediately This ingenuous skill the Apostle would have learn'd as a commendable Christian Art by an exercise in such grateful offices as may prove Children do delight to be much in those services (w) Mal. 3 17. with Phil. 2.22 which express the esteem they have of their Parents good will to them Hence we should with great complacence entertain all our Parens favours as ingenuous Servants waiting to express the sense of our love readily and heartily (x) Eph. 6.7 Col. 3.23 sith our most pathetick acknowledgments of Parental love and care are but easie returns for their unvaluable kindnesses so that without this resentment Children cannot indeed be pious For as Cicero †C m omnibus virtutibus me affectum esse cupiam tum nihil est quod malim c. Quid est pietas nisi voluntas grata in parentes c. pro Cn. Plancio in an Oration argues When I shall desire that I may be affected with all the vertues then there is nothing I more wish than that I may be thankful and seem to be so for this one vertue is not only the greatest but the mother of all the rest What is Piety but a grateful will towards our Parents c. who of us saith he is liberally educated but thinks of our Educators c. with a thankful remembrance which may be by treasuring up their good speeches and wise sayings of remark (y) Job 15.18 Psal 44.1 2. 78.3 rehearsing with delight their praise-worthy acts (z) Prov. 31.28 expounding all they do candidly as Ruth did Naomi's carriage honouring all that was honourable in her choosing her Religion and admiring all her vertues Thy God shall be my God said she and thy people my people (a) Ruth 1.16 comforting them under every Providence (b) 4 15. Gen 5.29 and providing as much as may be for them (c) Jos 2.13 Hence 2. with respect to their indigence be it what it will either in regard to internal or external defects natural moral or providential both living and dead Children are to shew themselves concern'd by covering or bearing their infirmities supplying their necessities defending their persons and honour against the rude and injurious attaques of those who vvould disparage and defame them Noah and Lot Isaac and Jacob had their infirmities under temptations and their Children covered them (d) Gen. 9.21 23. 27.12 28.5 37.10 so did Jonathan his Father Saul's (e) 1 Sam. 31.2 Mary was
striving could not be removed till it had stifled him Let Children learn hence to take heed of being ungrateful to their Patents for fear of the dreadful consequence thereof Thus we have seen three particulars of Childrens actiue obedience there is yet another which is more passive and that is 4. Submission or subjection to Parental discipline with all lowliness of mind (f) Phil. 2 3. acknowledging their coercive authority and therefore are Children oblig'd with patience to bear their Parents rebukes whether verbal or real considering in charity they design good The ignorance imperfection and corrupt inclinations of Children born in sin require Parents animadversion and the Childrens submission both to their Admonitions and Corrections 1. Their Admonitions when in their watchful inspection they give check unto exorbitant behaviour and lay restraints upon their Children who should indeed stand in great awe of those reproofs and threats which do arise from Parents displeasure When Jonadah's posterity were tempted to act in complaisance with others their Fathers forewarning kept them in awe that they did not violate his appointment (g) Jos 35.6 and so upon doing amiss an ingenuous Child will amend There should be shame upon a Father's frown and discountenance (h) Numb 12.14 yea though Parents should be out in the matter as well as manner and be too quick in their rebukes as it should seem Jacob was with Joseph for his dreams not considering what signal motion of God was in them yet the Children should bear it as Joseph did (i) Gen. 37.10 and as Jonathan did his Father's unkind exprobation (k) 1 Sam. 20.30 c. It is true Jesus took up his Mother in one instance but it was in his Heavenly Father's cause which he was concern'd in as God-man (l) Luke 2.49 Yet in other cases they should not only bear but amend upon admonition as Moses did upon his Father in law's dislike of that task he took upon himself alone (m) Exod. 18.13 17.24 whereas on the other hand Ely's Sons slighted their Father's reproof (n) 1 Sam. 2.25 and such others there are who scorn to be told of their faults (o) Prov. 13.1 though they loose God's favour by it and are accounted fools by him who is never out in his censure when the submiss are prudent going on in the way of life (p) 3.34 35. 15.5 3.23 Many Children are impatient of just restraints in their meats drinks apparel and recreations not considering the advantage of self-denyal and patience learn'd betimes when as others can say experimentally they had been undone if they had not been early curb'd Monica Austin's Mother ‖ Aug. Conf. l. 8. c. 9. having in her minority been educated to temperance when growing up and getting from under that severer tuition by the insinuation of a jocund companion was drawn to drink her whole draughts till upon the upbraiding of her associate she reform'd her self and observ'd her former rules of temperance Reverend Mr. Greenham used to say Be most moderate in those things which thine appetite liketh best and check thy too much greediness of them And another said well †Citante Steph. Guazi de civili convers p. 376. maluisse se infirmum quam delicatum esse c. That he had rather be infirm than delicate sith weakness only can hurt the body alone but delicacies may at once corrupt both body and mind and more than that may also render any one unjust by reason they make him covetous to get that which may maintain them and also dull and regardless of the Word of God and the service of his friends and country I have in my own observation seen Children prove well who have submitted to the prudent restraints and admonitions of their watchful Parents and Guides as to these things and others ruin'd who when they have been told of their faults have swell'd and rag'd against those that have lov'd them best yea in a most unchristian manner So necessary it is to submit to Parents admonitions So also to 2. Their corrections or real chastisements whether by stripes or other punishments inflicted sith we should imagine Parents come to this sharp and unpleasant work out of a principle of love (q) Prov. 13.24 with an aim at their Childrens good (r) 22.15 and it is look'd upon in Scripture a Rul'd Case that reverence with submission is paid to the Parents of our flesh (s) Hebr. 12.9 when under their rod which we are to bear and upon the feeling of it to amend what is amiss as some kind of satisfaction (t) Prov. 29.17 whereas disdain and stubbornness spoils all and if it be persisted in may sometimes occasion Parents to call in the posse magistratus (u) Deut. 21.18 19 c. The Greek word 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 in the Epistle to the Hebrews translated We gave them reverence doth import that we Children when faulty under our Fathers frowns and stripes turn'd our faces with shame and blushing at our unworthy acts not able to look them in the face as the Prodigal upon his return (w) Luke 15.21 with Tit. 2.8 which accords as some have noted ‖ Laws on Hebr. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 to the Hebrew word which is in this case to submit with humility to them in this Relation Because though we cannot bear that others should beat and scourge us yet our Parents as having power upon a just cause to punish by vertue of their Superiority and our dependence upon them whose end is or should be their Childrens reformation and therefore is in mercy to prevent further sin and misery in complyance with God's command they correct their ofspring to save it from hell though many an inconsiderate Child may at present conceive the Father correcting to be a severe Judge when as to intended amendment he is indeed a loving Father So that though it seem to be jarring and harsh musick disagreeable to the faulty Patient yet it will sound sweeter to the judicious ear than the melody of a luscious and disorderly indulgence Ingenuous Children have acknowledg'd the benefit of Paternal correction especially after they have sought to God by Prayer that God would sanctifie the rod to their good That was a good practical answer of one of Zeno's Scholars Citante Steph. Gua2zi de civil Convers who to his Father asking what wisdom he had learned by being so long abroad said He was able to shew it at any time which he did to the purpose not long after when his Father chastising him with strokes he took it quietly and patiently shewing that he could sustain the displeasure of his Parent without any untoward reparties In short Children should in all these duties deport themselves with piety toward their Parents being in that relation they bear the image of God as Creator Upholder and Governour of the World So that resistance yea surly and rude replies are a
woman and others (l) Psal 22.9 Cant. 8.1 Luke 11.27 or else they give us examples of Mothers who were commendable patterns as were Hannah (m) 1 Sam. 1.22 the Virgin Mary (n) Luke 1.28 with 11 27. David's Mother (o) Psal 22.9 and that affectionate one who stood before Solomon to plead for her child (p) 1 Kings 3.21 or afford us such Texts as by consequence do infer it as in Jacob's blessing (q) Gen 49.25 and a contrary curse on others (r) Hos 9.14 the charge to Manoah's wife to avoid things hurtful to her milk (s) Judg. 13.4 considering her constitution and the climate she liv'd in the Apostle gives it as the character of good women that they have nurs'd up Children (t) 1 Tim. 5 10. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 as Moses his Mother did him awaiting Providence to perform this natural office to her own child and was not as the weeping Prophet laments some in his time worse than Sea-monsters like Ostriches of the wilderness (u) Lam. 4.3 I do not remember in holy Writ that any Mother put forth her own child to suck and though there be mention made of Rebekah's nurse (w) Gen. 24.59 35.8 and others (x) 2 Sam 4 4. 2 Kings 11.2 yet in all probability they were common dry-nurses or nurse-keeping women such as had skill to be about Child-bearing women fit to advise and attend them Be sure Rebekah had no child till about twenty years after she was married and if she or any had milch-nurses it may be their own Mothers might die in Child-bed or not be able to perform their office But Naomi when old and past Child-bearing became a dry-nurse unto Ruth's child being assistant to her daughter at her lying-in (y) Ruth 4 16. with 1.12 When though there be some pain in suckling however less I suppose in following the natural way of laying the child to yet there is also a pleasure and benefit which may well sweeten and usually compensate in ordinary cases The careful Father should contribute his endeavours to promote all this and accommodate his wife in the nursery with all convenient requisites to preserve the temporal life of the child But then there is also a care with reference to the spiritual life of the child to attend this which Christian Parents are oblig'd to by dedicating of their Infant seed unto the Lord according to his appointment for the solemn enrolling of his Disciples (z) Mat. 28.19 Acts 21.5 6. 16.33 10 47 which matriculation of a child should not be unseasonably delay'd but perform'd in a due Christian manner sith obedience in the Lord (a) Eph. 6 1. will be required of it as soon as it is able to do any thing which implies that as Hannah dedicated her Samuel to the Lord in covenant under the Old Testament dispensation (b) 1 Sam. 1.28 so it is to be devoted to the Lord and consecrated to his use as he hath instituted under the New Testament dispensation and that is a solemn enrollment by Baptism amongst Christians who by this Rite are signally declared to be in covenant with him his Disciples and Members of his spiritual houshold (c) Gal. 3.27 Rom. 6.3 4. 1 Cor. 12.13 Jo. 4.1 2. Deut. 29.10 11. Acts 16.33 who in that relation are to yield obedience unto their Parents in him and as unto him How else can we so easily imagine that Christian Children should be oblig'd to obey their Parents in the Lord but as they are by their Parents who have most right to them devoted to his service I confess I cannot understand Now it is highly reasonable that they who have been instruments to bring a stain upon their Children (d) Rom. 5.12 16 17. Eph. 2.1 2. should also be as instrumental as they can even as Believers under the Old Testament were to bring them unto God in the use of the means he hath now prescribed to get them washed with the blood of sprinkling by giving them unto God in the Covenant as they then did (e) Gen. 17.10 11 13. Rom. 11.17 20. Mat. 18.13 4. 19.13.14 Luke 18.15 Tit. 3.5 Favores sunt ampliandi For undoubtedly under this gracious dispensation there is no abridgment of any priviledg to the Infant-seed of Believers which they before enjoy'd so that they should not now be brought to the Lord that he may own and bless them and the promises be pleaded on their behalf whose Parents are heirs (f) Gal. 3.14 27 29. 1 Cor. 7.14 for as much as the Father 's right to the promises gives the Children some kind of right to the same inheritance (g) Acts 2.38 39. Mat. 28.19 â— Câ—r 1.16 〈◊〉 2.12 13. 〈◊〉 17.10 11 Jer. 32.39 Isa 44.3 yea the promise and precept do answer each other as a deed and its counterpart There was no need of particularizing every subject to be baptized any other than those vvho vvere discipled it being so vvell known who had the Covenant-seal by the common practice of the Jews under the former dispensation of the Covenant And now the Lord Jesus Christ in commissioning his Ministers to disciple and baptize all Nations then all in them discipled chiefly designed to instruct them in what manner and form they should baptize those that belong to his Kingdom viz. into the Name of the Father Son and Holy Ghost which had not been before used but now upon the discharging of Circumcision was every where to be observ'd Thus Christian Parents are at first to contribute their endeavours toward their Childrens spiritual life And for this temporal life further they are also to provide food (h) Gen. 42 2. Exod. 13.3 Mat. 7.9 10 11. and rayment (i) Gen 37.3.21.15 and to allow fit and honest recreation for their Children (k) Zach. 8 5. to keep them in health and physick when they are sick (l) 1 Kings 14.2 2 Kings 4.22 Jo. 4.47 Mat. 17.15 equity and necessity oblige to it with a solicitous care to preserve their lives from dangers as much as may be in their power (m) Exod. 2.2 3. and to see according to their quality and calling that they be accommodated with conveniencies for body and mind (n) Gen. 21.15 Deut. 1.31 Hence another particular of Parental care is 3. Education of their Children which is a very comprehensive Duty begins early and lasts till their Children be emancipated Our Apostle in another Epistle (o) Eph. 6.4 reduceth this to two heads 1. Nurture and 2. Admonition of the Lord. Some conceive the former doth more respect manners or civility the later Doctrine or piety though 't is not necessary to take them so restrictively 1. Christian Parents are charg'd to educate or bring up their Childrin in nurture 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Ateneris assuesceâ—e multum i. e. such a kind of domestick learning as befitteth a child according to that of the Wise
they have been justly gain'd yet if they have been niggardly hoarded up and not put to good uses but Parents have liv'd miserably and basely only to increase riches they will prove not good but rusty though lawful money and they are kept to their owners disquiet and hurt and to their Childrens disappointment (o) Eccles 5.12 13. in the proof after an age likely they find nothing or nothing with the blessing of God (p) Prov. 10.22 16.8 for that is entailed not on the Miser's seed but on his that is all the day merciful (q) 20.7 Psal 37.26 when either the urgent necessities of the poor or the interest of the Church and State require a proportion to the defrauding of which under a pretext of raising a portion for Children were to cause a canker in what is rais'd Thus of Parents office whiles there be promising hopes of staying with their Children upon earth There remains somewhat yet 3. At their departure when they are admonish'd to be thoughtful of leaving them and have some prenotices of death approaching to arrest and carry them to their long home then Parents should set their house in order (r) 2 Kings 20.1 by giving or leaving such lessons of wisdom to their Children as by God's blessing will make a deeper impression being utter'd by dying persons (s) Gen. 15.16 Thus did Isaac and Jacob (t) 28.2.3 4. 49.1 2. 'T is true there was something of an extraordinary Prophetick spirit in some of them but those things of ordinary use which they gave in charge will be sufficient proof for our purpose as Isaac's sending Jacob to Laban with his blessing David's advice to Solomon (u) 1 Chron. 29.9 1 Kings 2.2 3 c. and Jacob's about his funeral (w) Gen. 50.16 and others making a Will or Testament bequeathing and devising their Estate (x) 25.5 with Gal. 3.15 Lev. 25.23 1 Kings 21.3 Hebr. 9 16 17. seconding all with solemn parental warnings and prayer to God for a blessing (y) Gen. 28.3 24.60 48.15 1 Chron. 29.19 and advising them after their their death to consult such friends upon emergencies whom they have oblig'd to their assistance as David did (z) 22.17 28.2 The Reverend Mr. Robert Bolton * In his life and others gave notable instances of this last duty The above mention'd Dr. Robert Harris refer'd his dear Wife and Children after several Heavenly and savoury speeches to the advice and counsel he had annex'd to his Will made by him about 22 years before his departure Therein he left his Children excellent instructions for their Souls their Bodies their Callings both as to the choice and use of them for their company for their marriages for their Children for themselves within themselves for their Estates and for the Publick Things really worth the reading and observing both by Parents and Children In imitation of which but not publish'd I have likewise with delight read very good advice left by a serious Citizen †Mr. R. B. May 9. 1662. Mr. T. H. as it should appear lying sick of a Consumption whereof he died to be given to his only Son and Child then a little one when he should come to the use of his reason which I doubt not but is faithfully performed by his Executor It might be of great advantage to their posterity if Parents would have more regard in due circumstances to this last office of theirs which is much sleighted by many in our days who seem unconcern'd what shall become of their posterity when they are gone as to the best of enjoyments 'T is true there be on another hand Parents over solicitous to leave great Estates to their Children when they themselves leave the world being loth to part with them before they think they can never make their Children rich enough in the world without any regard to the riches of grace never considering that conveniencie is really more eligible than abundance (a) Prov. 30.8 and where there is much wealth more grace and wisdom are needful to enjoy it well For if Children have not their hearts established with grace (b) Hebr. 13.9 or want prudence to manage an Estate they are but like a Ship that hath more sail than ballast which is ready to be overset with any gust of vvind A great Estate vvithout Vertue is but strong poyson vvithout an antidote and earthly minded Parents in this respect do vvith their Children as the Ostrich vvith her Eggs leaves them in the dust but takes no further care of them so they leave them rich in temporals but for their spiritual and eternal vvelfare they are little or nothing concern'd That they may eat drink be merry and cloth'd vvith the best they provide by setting their nest high and making their seed great on the earth (c) Hab 2.9 10. vvhen alas they do but consult shame to their house and vvrong their own souls They do but observe lying vanities and forsake their own mercies (d) Jon. 2.8 sith God usually turns the vvheel and disappoints them vvhen the riches of the sinner are laid up for the just (e) Prov. 13.22 Others become Masters of their Childrens Estate vvhereas the good man leaveth an inheritance to his childrens children vvho in after ages reap the benefit of an Estate consecrated and blessed by their pious Parents prayers the gracious answer vvhereunto they are still receiving 'T is more then time I should speak to 2. The enforcement of these great and important offices mention'd in my Text vvhich is the Father of Heaven's prohibition of provocation to the discouragement of children Provoke not your children 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 that they be not discouraged Now as I shew'd the positive injunction of the Lord vvas a sufficient Reason to enforce the duties of children so this inhibition or negative precept is of equal strength to move Parents unto theirs sith it plainly shews the Will of him who hath an uncontrollable dominion that Parents conduct should be moderated according to those equitable positive as well as negative pr cepts that have been produced in the enumeration of the foregoing particulars And the special one in my Text carries with it a reason drawn from the end lest the Children should be consumed with sorrows saith the Syriack version others lest they become pusillanimous and dispirited pining away with grief which may be by any neglect or abuse of parental authority either in defect or excess by omitting the duties required or committing what God hath inhibited and so falling into either extremes Now what can be more cogent with affectionate Parents to engage them unto the good government of those God hath put into subjection to them than a care they be not dishearten'd by any male-administration of theirs Certainly to give any just occasion of discouragement to the hopeful fruit of their own body must needs be very evil and unnatural this puts them in 〈◊〉 〈◊〉
promise of life annexed (y) Eph. 6.2 as was hinted above which must needs contain some peculiar benefit which God doth graciously confer to shew what an estimate he hath of childrens obedience that the use of a comfortable life should be lengthen'd out to them who according to godliness give due honour to them who are under him the authors of their lives So for the most part and when 't is otherwise that good children do early depart hence being sooner ripe they do enter into a better life Besides we are not to take our measures of a long life in this state ‖ Bod. in Eph. from the course of times or decrepit age but partly from the manner of living and divine good things received in life and partly from attaining the end of it As if one in three months pass over as much way as another in three years and come to the same mark with him length is to be reckon'd from the travelling rather than the way and he is long-liv'd to whom God by revealing his end hath brought nigh to himself As David at seventy was said to die in good old age (z) 1 Chron. 29.28 Psal 90.10 as well as Isaac who had liv'd an hundred and eighty There is as much perfection in a little circle as a larger in David's seventy as Lamech's seven hundred seventy seven years (a) Gen. 5.31 'T is not so much from the number of days but the filling them up that life is to be reckon'd long (b) Job 5.26 Isa 65.20 Luke 2.25 30. Sat vixit diu quem nec pudet vixisse nec piget mo i. Truly obedient children have this benefit of the promise that as they say of Figs and Lemmons they ne'r die before they are ripe for salvation Whereas the disobedient are in a sense dead though they stay long here they may be reckon'd short-liv'd when they do not answer the end of living If Christian Children would but seriously contemplate these things and allow God a reserve by Prerogative-royal in the performance of temporal promises and then heedfully observe the different practices and issues of other children in divine and humane story take often into consideration the instances of both sorts and mark the ends of each as Shem Abraham Isaac Jacob Joseph yea above all the blessed Jesus himself and on the contrary of Cham Absolom Adonijah c. they would find it a good means to perform their duties acceptably and as he said * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 live perfecting all offices 2. Remove all the tendencies to the dishonour of Parents and set a value upon their instructions 'T is good to be circumspect and banish those inordinate affections which alienate the heart from duty as self-conceitedness in Absolom and the Prodigal the one thought he could sway the Scepter (c) 2 Sam. 15.3 7. and the other manage his Portion better than his Father (d) Luke 15.12 13. so likewise high thoughts of merit which the Prodigals elder Brother had (e) 29 30. also ambition which did so swell Adonijah †1 Kings 1.5 6. and curiosity as in Solomon's young man who follow'd the sight of his eyes (f) Eccles 9.11 Hence Children should take heed of associating with misguiding and misleading companions (g) Prov. 19.27 13.20 and be afraid of whisperers who secretly suggest things which may tend to make Parents cheap (h) Gen. 9.23 24. Shem and Japhet would not listen unto Cham's tale in their ears nor see too narrowly into their Father's failings lest this should cause a dis-esteem Whereas Children should appretiate their Parents respects be afraid of their reproofs and set an high rate upon their good advice (i) Prov 4.3 4. Psal 37.30 when it 's right it is then to be valued otherwise it should not be approv'd (k) 49.13 Jer. 7.18 Ezek. 18.14 no more than Terah's Idol-worship was by his Son Abraham when called (l) Joh. 24.2 Certainly Ahaziah sinned greatly and so did the Daughter of Herodias in following their Mother's counsel (m) 2 Chron. 22.3 Mat. 14.8 for if it be evil the circumstances may be such that obedient children must testifie against it as Asa and Levi did (n) 1 Kings 15.13 Deut. 33.9 yea disclose the wickedness of it as Jonathan and Michal commendably did (o) 1 Sam. 20.3 4. 19.11 12. but yet in such a case it should if possible be with so much caution as may prove there is no sleighting of the Relation but a desire to keep up the honour of that by an hearty sorrow for the failure The Stoicks used to say that a wise man would make it his business to perform all things rightly even to the putting forth of the finger * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Stob. Ni tibi concessit ratio digitum exere peccas Pers Sat. 5. Be sure Christians should be careful that they do not so much as by an unwarrantable motion of that disparage their Parents or despise those chosen by them to give instructions 3. Perform all with sincerity and equality or impartiality to both Parents As the great requisite to the due management of these duties Solomon saith (p) Prov. 23.26 My son give me thine heart and let thine eyes observe my ways He would not have him look asquint or come with by ends in a feigned observance as Absolom (q) 2 Sam. 14.32 15.7 10. or not real only verbal like him in the Gospel who pretended to go and went not (r) Mat. 21.28 30. his obedience ended in a complement and no more But if Servants are to do their duties heartily in absence and presence as unto the Lord and not unto men in the Verse following my Text then much more are Children who likewise are greatly concern'd to behave themselves impartially with equal respects to both Parents as well as cordially (s) Phil. 2.22 The Law mentions Father and Mother expresly which might have been included in one word Parent and Jacob is commended upon record for his obedience to his Father and Mother (t) Gen. 28.7 Solomon many times in the Proverbs calls for obedience to both Whatever inequality may be betwixt a man and his wife who is oblig'd to be subject to her husband yet in relation to their children they are both as one and deserve equal honour Indeed if in a purely indifferent thing they differ in their peremptory commands which are contrary then the Fathers is to have the precedency yet with a very great respect to the Mother when in that instant the child is necessitated to decline hers though if the Father's command were unlawful and the Mother's lawful then the Mother were to be obey'd (u) Lev. 19.3 but with hearty sorrow the Father should require what God dis-allows and he for that reason doth modestly refuse And this sincere obedience is to be given to both whether rich or poor in the world whether good and gentle
or froward (w) Luke 2.51 1 Pet. 2 18. in all that is well-pleasing to God whose honour is the end ingenuous Children should aim at by just and honest means in the exercise of their duties keeping themselves from their iniquities (x) 1 Tim 5.22 i. e. those which their own turbulent passions are apt to hurry them into If we did more reverence our selves we should carry better towards our Superiours Pythagoras his advice is very wholsom * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Carmin Let a man be the greatest shame to himself keep his own heart in awe by a secret blush upon his own extravagancies in their first risings and so he will have his Keeper every where with him then as he saith further Let him follow that which is just not only in words but in deeds He that is duly affected with shame of himself will be careful to pay just respects in all due circumstances unto those he is mostly oblig'd to honour 4. Set about all your duties to your Parents willingly and readily not with grudging or disdain but with an holy warmth of heart lifting up your selves to and following hard after whatever God requires (y) Judges 5.39 in all affectionate expressions of a free and chearful spirit sith all is to be in the Lord who loves readiness (z) 2 Cor. 9.7 This manner of performance will be the more easie if Children timely learn the great lesson of self-denial and do really exercise that and love they will then without bogling go through the most unpleasant uneasie and mean imployments they are call'd unto and concern'd to manage for their Parents as Jacob's Sons did for their Father after as well as before their marriage (a) Gen. 30.35 37.13 14. 42.1 2 3. 43.15 47.1 2 3. and in his straits Judah express'd great readiness to comfort his Father (b) 44.33 34 with 30. Ruth as was noted before was very exemplary in this manner of obedience (c) Ruth 1.15 16. but Isaac's readiness was the most singular (d) Gen. 22.9 10. till Christ himself whom he typified came then saith he to his Father (e) Psal 40.8 Ad semper velle non ad semper agere I delight to do thy will O my God thy Law is within my heart Believe it Willingness puts a great acceptableness upon duties Children are bound always to will though not always to act they should readily embrace all opportunities 'T is said Amasiah the Son of Zichri willingly offer'd himself unto the Lord (f) 2 Chron. 17.16 and so should ingenuous Children be ever ready as Paul was in Christ (g) Acts 21.13 for their Parents service Somewhat of this was hinted before and I shall only add what Hierocles saith in this case * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 c. in Pythag. Carm. p. 54 57 mihi It is fit we should not withdraw our selves from performing with our own hands what our Parents require as occasion serves but by how much the more mean and servile the offices by so much should Children think them the more honest and laudable and not to he avoided because expensive but to be done with a ready and chearful mind for their use and with joy we are put to those pains and expences for their sakes 5. Persevere in all and be constant with diligence unto the end whatever temptations you meet with Let not the instructions you have received according to godliness depart from your heart all the days of your life (h) Deut. 4.9 Be not fickle or inconstant but hold out in all circumstances though your Parents be aged and decay'd (i) Prov. 23.22 Ru h 1.15 16. 4.15 so long as they and you coexist in this world and the Relation remains Be like constant Ruth and holy Joseph when advanc'd he continued his obedience to the very last moment of his dear Father's life and after (k) Gen. 46.29 47.31 48.12 a vertue wherein it seems Samuel's sons were defective (l) 1 Sam 8.5 but Jonadab's were praise-worthy (m) Jer. 35.56 as well as others after their Parents decease when tempted to the contrary yea though it was in a business unpleasing to flesh and blood They did as Physicians prescribe to their Patients receive their Father's documents cum debitâ custodiâ so as not to indulge their appetites in that he forbad them but persevere in observing his injunction This is praise-worthy Nay though our Parents should not submit to the yoke of Christ we should not withdraw our neck from their yoke nor desist from obedience to them so far as it hinders not our obedience to Christ but should hold out that none take our Crown As Antonius said †〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Lib. 8. Sect. 5. Remember well you ought to be a good man and that which the nature of man requires of you this do constantly So that which the Nature of your Relation calls for do it with all your might and never suffer your self to be diverted or recalled from it Having found the true way of obedience go on in it and be not turned back again remembring vvhat our blessed Lord and Master saith He that shall endure to the end the same shall be saved (n) Mat. 24 13. After these Particulars to Children I must crave leave before I shut up 2. To say somewhat in particular unto Parents to direct and help them likewise to manage their office in an evangelical manner 1. Be sure that you your selves do keep up the life and power of godliness in your own domestick practise that hereby your children may be kept from corruption in a bad air and encourag'd in an holy conversation I have already hinted something of this concerning the exemplariness of Parents and in the premis'd general duty of their good behaviour and therefore shall not need to enlarge much upon it here Only suggest this that you are to walk in your integrity as for your own so for your posteritie's comfort in the family exercise of Religion by behaving your self wisely in an upright way and walking within your house with an upright heart (o) Psal 101 2. 112.2 Prov. 20.7 shewing your selves in all things patterns of good works (p) Tit. 2.7 And putting persons and things into their proper places to prevent confusion which else will arise and much obstruct you in your most important offices This will gain a reputation to your Government and facilitate the management of particular duties When your children see what a gloss you put upon holiness by your sincere chearful and grave Christian deportment they begin to discern the pleasantness of the ways of wisdom the excellency of the life of faith and the odiousness of flesh-pleasing courses and so come to esteem your instructions which are very legible and easie to be understood by such a practical commentary The holy life of John the Baptist had some influence upon Herod's affections for
Martyrs William Hunter's Mother cheared up her son in that great duty of bearing testimony to Jesus Christ saying William I think thee as well bestow'd as ever any child that I bare in my womb Thus Jacob did in an holy wile get as it were into Joseph's heart by insinuating the special kindness he had for his dear Rachel Joseph's Mother (i) Gen 48.7 If you gain your Childrens hearts then they will give ear to you so as to observe what you would have done (k) Prov. 23.26 Hence it is that our Heavenly Father in Scripture is so abundant in satisfying us of his love (l) 3.12 Deut. 8.3 4 5. that he may gain our hearts and affections Your converse then with your children in all parental offices should in all decent manner be still expressive of love thus much is peculiarly imply'd in my Text which inhibits discouragement From love and tender bowels (m) Phil. 1.8 if tears or compassionate expressions be mingled with instructions this will help much to win and commend Children unto goodness Suitable gifts and rewards prudently and seasonably bestow'd will allure them Upon which account it is that Tertullian * Gratius est nomen pietatis quam potestatis etiam familiae magis Patres quam Domini vocantur Apol. c. 34. saith The name of Piety is more grateful than that of power yea they are called Fathers rather then Lords of the Family Hence also Pliny †l. 5. epist 19. was taken with a similitude of Homers ‖ 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 which he useth once and again to shew that a Prince should be moderate in his Government even as a Father is gentle in ruling of his Children So the People esteemed Joseph under Pharaoh when he had power in Aegypt when he procured such hearty obeysance (n) Gen. 41.43 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 that some render that word tender Father as in the Margent which in our Translation is bow the knee Certainly the great friendship betwixt Parents and Children requires all expressions of endearments as in the tongue of the prudent woman there should ever be the law of kindness (o) Prov. 31.26 For as Maximus Tyrius * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 c. Dissert 36. observes in another case so here If once the power of friendship be enervated there is nothing but it may easily move Relatives to anger and disturb them even as by taking the rudder from a Ship it is very soon tossed any way And here I think it very advisable that Parents who have their infirmities should encourage their honest Children by giving a favourable ear unto their humble and discreet monitions and good advice for their honour and spiritual welfare even as Saul did being convicted with reason hearken unto the voice of Jonathan his son (p) 1 Sam. 19.6 And as Terah upon the discovery which his son Abraham did from the Lord make to him comply'd with his advice for the removing of himself and family (q) Gen. 11.31 with 12.1 4. Labour to carry it with all eavenness and impartiality to every child according to a rational proportion so that it may be evident you account all that descend from you dear or beloved Children as God himself doth his (r) Eph. 5.1 1 Pet. 1.3 Jam. 1.18 for you are really concern'd in all 'T is true you should very distinctly observe the different carriages of your Children towards God your self and others to approve vertue and disapprove vice but yet you are to cherish as near as may be an equal desire of doing them all good alike not hugging one and hunching another out of some partial respect or distorted apprehension A good Parent as one †Mr. Fuller ingeniously notes should observe a species of Gavelkind in dividing his affections to his children to prevent envying amongst them and if the expression thereof be different it should be with equity and discretion that they in their own consciences may plainly read the reasons of it Though there is no necessity to make an equal distribution of Estate wherein the right of Primogeniture may seem from Scripture (s) Gen. 37.4 49 3. Exod. 13 2. Deut. 21.15 16. 1 Chron. 5.2 as abovesaid to claim a greater proportion unless some kind of rebellion put in a demurrer For however a prudent Parent should like a well-drawn Picture cast an eye equally upon all his Children in point of affection yet when he makes a distribution of his Estate in point of justice it can be no disparagement to him to encourage the obedient with a reward when by an equitable abatement he may suffer the disobedient justly to feel the smart of his misbehaviour But yet he is concern'd to be indifferent and impartial the same to every child in the same circumstances It is I confess rare to find a Parent indeed of this excellent temper amongst the sons of men but a truly Christian Parent should strive to resemble God in it sith as every child came from his own substance so he is to give an equal account to God of all and therefore should labour to overcome sense with reason and in very deed exhibit himself upon a due expence of circumstances one and the same to all So that they who upon by and undue respects do prefer one child to another whiles led by a partial affection cannot manage parental duties in a manner well-pleasing to God 'T is said Scipio Africanus * Dignus commiseratione magis est cui natura faves minus was so affraid of being unkind to his child as too many are for a natural defect that he rather shew'd most affection to his Son that was a fool saying He was most worthy of commiseration whom nature did favour least 5. And last of all Advise with your faithful Pastors and spiritual Guides especially in more intricate circumstances yea and study well your office Which that you may perform acceptably 't is good also to get what assistance you can from others to help you in the management thereof As Manoah did not only seek the Lord but consulted the Angel concerning his Son Sampson how they should order him and how they should do unto him (t) Judges 13.8 12. so should Parents endeavour to inform themselves and get the best counsel they can from those God hath set over them in the ministration of ordinances (u) EPh. 4.11 12. sith now under the Gospel they are as spiritual Fathers appointed for the feeding of Christ's sheep and his lambs (w) Jo. 21.15.16 17. which are directed to find pasture by the shepherds tents (x) Cant. 1.7 8. Ezek. 47.8 9 10. Jer. 8.22 and there get waters and balm for healing Monica Augustin's Mother †August Conf. repair'd to them for aid to reduce her Son and indeed theirs is as John Baptist's Ministry was to bring all to rights betwixt Parents and Children according to the Prophet's prediction (z) Mal.
of that deadness their souls lie under and that if they be not awakned quickly they must be unconceivably and eternally miserable ask them what they have to say against the ways of God and what they have to plead for their neglecting their souls for Sin and for Satan tell them these things are matters of such weight that they need not much time to determine what must be done It 's a matter of such vast importance that it calls for the greatest speed diligence and care imaginable and that you can't be satisfied till you see this work done catechise and instruct them constantly at least once a week Let the Word sound daily in their ears and pray twice a day with them let some time be allowed them for secret duties and put them upon the performance of them spiritually and constantly Keep them not too long at work or in the Shop on Saturday-night The Jews had their preparation for the Sabbath and the ancient Christians did not fall short of them in their preparation for the Lords-day Let the Sabbath be carefully spent in secret family and publick duties and for the better direction in your duties upon that day I refer you to that excellent piece Mr. Wells his Practical Sabbatarian a Book it 's pity any great Family should want Cause your Servants to bear you company to hear the most powerful Preacher you can require an account of what they hear and let the Sermons be repeated in your Family and ask them what it was that did most affect their hearts and labour to press things home afresh upon their souls and if you perceive any good inclinations in them encourage them greatly and improve them all you can and if you do not see what you would presently be not quite discouraged and cast them off as hopeless Exhort them daily while it is called to day Heb. 3.13 and if you see them still dull hard-hearted and under a spirit of slumber be yet the more earnest who knows but a little more patience and compassion and zeal may prevail But if after long using the fore-mentioned means you find them still refractory stubborn and to slight your counsel and run on in sin and to grow worse and worse you must add sharp reproofs and if they do no good Prov. 29.19 but they make a mock at them and endeavour to jeer their fellow-servants out of their duty too then you must add blows to your words Prov. 26.3 Stripes are fit for the back of a fool and if neither exhortations reproofs nor corrections will prevail but they continue still like sons of Belial rebellious to God and you Psal 101. then remember your duty is to ease your house of them consider well what danger there is of their infecting the rest of your Servants and Children consult your own peace honour and profit Let not a lyar a company-keeper 2 Cor. 6.14 a vile person dwell in your house when you have used all possible means for his reclaiming what fellowship should light have with darkness remember that God hath made you a Prophet a Priest and a King in your own Family Thirdly Another duty of Masters is diligently and faithfully to instruct their Servants in their Calling conceal nothing of the mystery of your Art from them I mean of what is lawful for if you are skil'd in the Art of cheating you must unlearn that your selves and never teach them that which will hazard their ruin Some Masters are ready to hide the most profitable and ingenious part of their trade from their Servants Remember Sirs that Law and Nature Reason and Religion all command you to be faithful in this thing their Parents or Friends put them to you to teach them an honest Calling and you promised you would do it and it's dishonesty in the highest degree to fail in this Fourthly Be just compassionate and loving be as ready to commend and encourage them for doing their duty as to reprove them for the neglect of it let them want nothing that is fitting for them in the place they are in let their food be wholesom seasonable and sufficient Prov. 31.15 let their clothing be warm sweet and decent let their lodging be warm and sweet and wholesom not too far from your eye and ear let them have rest sufficient to recruit nature and to fit them for God's Service and yours And in case of sickness let them have such tendance physick and diet as they need You can't imagine what obligations you may by this lay upon your Servants to fidelity how acceptable this is to God and how much reputation it will get you among men See an excellent example in the Centurion Mat. 8.5 6. Col. 4.1 Job 31.13 Give unto your Servants that which is just and equal It was Job's commendation that he did not despise the cause of his hand-maid Use your tongues to sweetness a soft word sooner prevails than a hard blow or curse Be punctually faithful to your contract with them pay them their wages to the full it 's better to do more than less than your bargain In a word As the Elect of God put on bowels of pity Col. 3.12 Jam. 1.20 Eph. 4.26 and put off all these anger wrath malice cursing remember the wrath of man works not the righteousness of God Be angry for nothing but sin Remember a Christ-like Gospel-spirit is a spirit of love Gal. 5.22 and peace meekness and faithfulness with these things God and man are well pleased Fifthly Discharge your Servants with sweetness and love and do not grudg that they should have a livelyhood as well as you Send them out of your Family with the counsel the good will of a Father and reckon one that was a faithful Servant to you seven years deserves to be esteem'd next a Child ever after To this end it would not be amiss if you give him as good a report as he deserves to raise his reputation and credit and if you help him as far as you are well able in his setting up you will not repent it upon a Death-bed nor at the Day of Judgment In old time God did require That when a Servant served six years Deut. 15 13 14 he should not be sent away empty but saith the Text thou shalt furnish him liberally out of thy flock out of thy floor and out of thy wine-press and that wherewith the Lord thy God hath blessed thee thou shalt give unto him And I know not why this may not be practised still where the Master is wealthy and able and the Servant poor and deserving Col. 5 13. Rom. 13.9 10 1 Thes 4.9 Neither do I know where the Gospel gives us a discharge from the works of Charity and Mercy I come now to Exhort Masters to this work to perform their Duty And this I shall press with a few Motives First Consider what a Master God is to his Servants he is
most just and righteous in all his dealings Isa 45.21 Psal 92.15 Jam. 6.3 Psâ—l 103.14 Mat. 3.17 Mic. 7.18 Exod. 34.6 Psal 25.4 Job 36.22 Isa 28.26 Rom. 8.26 Psal 32.8 Isa 43.2 Dan. 3.25 Psal 23.1 Psal 34.10 Psal 19.11 Psal 31.19 20 who can accuse him of the least unrighteousness who can say he hath done him wrong and that be is a hard Master Come let any testifie against God and make good their charge if they can Is not he full of pity and ready to forgive how ready to moderate his anger when he is highly provoked It is not without good reason that the Prophet saith Who is a God like unto our God and he is ready to teach his servants and to help their infirmities and if their work be hard he doth bear the heavier part of it He is ready to keep them company to succour and encourage and comfort them he provides all things needful for them he delights in the prosperity of his Servants and loves to see his Servants thrive he gives them many a token of his love here But O what great things hath he laid up for them eye hath not seen nor ear heard neither hath it entred into the heart of man to conceive it Their reward is exceeding great sure and eternal O what harm would it do you to be like God do not your Servants deserve more kindness from you than you or any other doth from God Secondly Consider what need your Servants have of your utmost care in the fore-mentioned particulars They are young unexperienced heady nay naturally ignorant proud dead Children of wrath enemies to God every moment in danger of miscarrying and at whose hand will their blood be required think you if you do not your duty to warn reprove correct them Thirdly Consider how much it will be for your honour How high an esteem will all good men have for you how great a value must wise Magistrates set on you what reason hath the City and Corporation to rise up and call such blessed how great and how common a good such are is scarce to be expressed such shall have a good report in spite of wickedness your Servants can't but look upon you as their Counseller Master Father and give you suitable respect and honour Fourthly Consider how pleasing and acceptable this is to God Such the Lord is nigh to his eyes behold with delight It is not he that observes his great Sacrifices it is not he that makes many Prayers it is not he that makes the greatest show of Religion outwardly that is accepted Hierocles Josh 24.15 Psal 1.3 Mat. 25.34 but it is he that gives up his heart first to God as a warm Sacrifice full of love and then his house unto the Lord this this is the man that God will visit comfort bless this is he that ere long shall hear his great Master's commendation and have a welcome to Glory Fifthly Consider how much profit and pleasure you shall have here by your diligence and care you may be enriched there 's God's promise for your security By this your Trade is like to thrive your credit rise greatly Prov. 28.20 Prov. 10.6 your custome increase And when the careless Master makes hast to poverty a wise diligent and faithful is in the most likely way to get improve and keep an estate I might say what pleasure and comfort a man can't but take in his Family when every one acts regularly in their place Sixthly Consider how much good your faithfulness may do others Your Servants may for ought that I know call you their Spiritual Fathers and bless God for ever for your examples exhortations prayers and your Servants may instruct your Children and be frequently instilling one good thing or other into them and influence them more than you are aware of You are a mighty help to poor Ministers you help to plow up the ground and make it fit for the Divine seed you pull out the stones you weed up the roots of bitterness or at least keep them from thriving and growing up you harrow in the good seed you water it with your tears and God will make it fruitful you pluck up the darnel and the tares Of all the persons living we Ministers are most beholding to good Masters and good Parents we beseech you if you have any love for us or our Master either be faithful in this thing Epictâ—tus O make us glad when so many thousands are making us sad with their wickedness I might add your Examples draw others and make bad Citizens good Seventhly Consider the danger of your neglect if you be unfaithful you expose body soul estate wife children servants and all to sin ruine shame and the curse of God for ever you break the rules of equity and humanity you forfeit your reputation you go the likeliest way to work to bring upon you dismal calamities in your life worse at death and worst of all after death Mat. 25.26 Mat. 24.48 49.50 51. O consider this you that forget God and your duty and read that Scripture often you see quoted in the Margent I shall now crave leave to expostulate the case with Masters about their duty for I am loth to leave you till I have prevailed with you to set to your work like Christians Sirs you have heard your duty and what have you to object against it can you prove that that which I have desired of you is not required by God himself Have I not proved what I have said by plain Scriptures and doth not reason and humanity as well as Christianity oblige you to the putting these duties in practice have I not laid down many Motives to press you to your duty have I not told you what a Master God is to his Servants and put you upon being followers of him as dear children Would it be any disparagement to you to follow so perfect and unerring an example Doth not he teach direct help encourage and reward his Servants Is not he faithful to his promise tender pityful and easie to be reconciled and ready to forgive And are you not very well pleased with these properties in God And if this be amiable in God why should it not be lovely in you God humbleth himself to look upon what is done on earth and is it below you to look upon and take care of your Servants What great difference is there I pray between you and them Are they not of the same mould And shortly your bones and skuls will not be distinguished Why did you take them into your Family if you intended to take no more care of them than of a Dog Was it not a piece of base falshood in you to promise and engage what you never intended to perform Methinks I have a mind to debate this matter fairly with you so as to leave you resolved for your duty or without any reason or excuse for the neglect of it Sirs Is
their hearts and alter their course and who knows at what day or hour he 'l come So long as there 's Life there 's hope of their Conversion What a wicked Son was Manasse yet God wrought upon him at last What a sad life did the Prodigal live yet he returned to his Father at last God can turn notorious Sinners into eminent Saints wait therefore but do not fret 3. The Case is sad but discontent will do no good in it Earnest prayer and quiet submission may do much but impatience will do nothing It troubles me much when I see gracious Parents vexing themselves for their ungracious Children Alas by this they do but hurt themselves but do no good to them 4. I suppose it to be but your affliction not your sin You have done your duty in godly education in setting a good example in exhorting 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Metrocles to Stilpo concerning his bad daughter in Plutarch's Moralâ— p. 458 reproing c in praying to God for your Children if after all this they will be naught their blood will be required of themselves you have freed your souls from their eternal ruine and perdition 5. God will secure and advance his own glory That 's the thing that cuts you that God should be dishonoured by any that descends from you but as to that satisfie your selves he will even by your sinful Relations one way or other promote his honour If he be not glorified by them which we should desire he will be glorified upon them which we must submit unto 'T is to many Divines an unquestionable truth that when at the day of Judgment the sentence of condemnation shall be pronounced upon wicked Children their Godly Parents shall so rest in God's will and be so swallowed up in his glory that they shall not grieve at this sentence but rather rejoyce at it Now then if God here will harden their hearts and give them up to their own Lusts though you are not to rejoyce at this yet you ought quietly to submit to it 6. 'T is good to reflect upon the grace of God to your selves and to consider that 't is infinite mercy that you are not as bad as they Discriminating grace if duly thought of would be an excellent Antidote against Passion in the present tryal But I must say no more of this I have as briefly as I could for the matter would have admitted of far greater enlargement gone over two grand Cases the one referring to the Estate the other to Relations * 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Nazianz. Orat. 16. H w Consideration is to be managed for the manner of it and shewn under each how consideration is to be acted in order to Contentment There is a third referring to the Body 1. With respect to deformity 2. To defects 3. To infirmittes pain sickness an affliction both very common and also very †great to which I would fain have spoken something but I must forbear lest I should too much exceed the bounds of such a discoutse as this is Onely there is a third General which I propounded at the first to say something of which I will but just touch upon and so dispatch this firâ—t Help or Means to the learning of Contentment Hitherto I have been directing you as to the matter of consideration Now I am to direct you as to the manner of it He that would so consider as thereby to get and keep his heart settled and composed under every trouble he must be therein frequent speedy serious 1. Frequent If you be but seldom in the practice of this duty you will never arrive at being masters of the divine art of Contentment You must consider again and again by repeated thoughts to work upon your hearts that which is proper for the quieting of them By much chasing the ointment pierceth into the part affected and so it gives ease When the disease is hard to be cured or apt to return the remedy must be often useds and so 't is here As to the prevention or removal of Discontent the mind must be often in consideration Plutar. 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 The fiercest creatures by frequent converse become more tame and governable Dogs bark not at those to whom they are used The Moralist applies it to the Passions of the mind which do in a great measure lose their fierceness and are more easily brought under command when a man inures himself to consideration 2. Speedy As soon as ever the hellish fire of Discontent begins to kindle in thy heart presently think of that which may be as water for the quenching of it If you let it alone like other fires 't will get such a head that it will be too hard for you Impatience is the soul in mutiny against God now Mutinies in an Army must be suppressed speedily 'T is good to take the distemper at the beginning as soon as there 's any commotion in the spirit because of this or that cross immediately retire ply the heart with consideration reason with your selves Is not all of God Shall not all be for good and so on as hath been directed Nay indeed 't would be of great advantage to us to be before hand with the affliction not only to see it before it comes but to lay up heart-quieting thoughts for it against it shall come How is an evil * res adversas infregit quisquis prior vidit Senec. de Traâ—q An. lessened by the fore-sight of it praevisi mali mollior ictus how patiently is it undergone when one hath had some forecast in his thoughts about it Few are so fit for consideration after a trouble as they are before it the foregame is much easier to be plaid than the aftergame And its efficacy too is the greater when persons are so early at it Before God strikes the blow cast with your selves What if my Child or my Estate should be taken from me how should I bear such an affliction contentedly why things stand thus or thus and therefore I must be contented What would follow upon this Why matters being digested before-hand the mind would be the more still when the evil shall actually seize upon you 3. Serious Loose and careless and sudden thoughts signifie but little to a froward heart but when they are intent and fixed so as to dwell upon what lies before them then they have a good effect The plaister must lye upon the sore and then it works the cure When consideration is managed with the utmost intention of the mind with the staying of the soul upon the proper object then and never but then doth it further contentation So much for the first Help or means The second Help to contentment viz. Godliness 2. The second is Godliness The Apostle links them together 1 Tim. 6.6 Godliness with contentment is great gain what may be the reason of this connexion Not only because they do ever accompany each the other or
Divine Reproofs and Threatnings on their Souls When this is done when our hearts are kept up unto an awful regard of them exercised with a continual meditation on them made tender careful watchful by them any just Reproof from any that falls in compliance with them will be conscienciously observed and carefully improved 6. We shall fail in this Duty unless we are always accompanied with a deep sense of our frailty weakness readiness to halt or miscarry and thereon a necessity of all the Ordinances and Visitations of God which are designed to preserve our Souls Unless we have due apprehensions of our own state and condition here we shall never kindly receive warnings before-hand to avoid approaching dangers nor duely improve Rebukes for being overtaken with them It is the humble Soul that feareth always and that from a sense of its own weakness yea the treacheries and deceitfulness of its heart with the power of those Temptations whereunto it is continually exposed that is ever like to make work of the Duty here directed unto Wherein doth appear the Blessedness of Forgiveness and how it may be obtained Serm. XXIX Psal 32.1 Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven whose Sin is covered OF all the pains or torments that any of the Children of Men do or can feel in this Life none are comparable to those which proceed from the lashes and wounds of a guilty conscience under the apprehensions of the anger of a Sin-revenging God and the impression of some scalding drops of his wrath upon the Soul Prov. 18.14 The Spirit of a Man will sustain his infirmity but a wounded Spirit who can bear David had ventured to transgress and that very hainously and in his breaking of God's Law he had broken his own peace in his dishonouring of God's Name he had wounded his own Conscience After his sin David is shy of God and keeps silence for a while maketh no confession God is highly offended and hides his face from him but layeth his hand sorely upon him making such a deep impression of his displeasure upon his Spirit that he sunk under the weight of it and it became so very grievous unto him that he roareth out all the day under the horrible anguish which he felt hereby yea he complaineth that his moisture was hereby turned into the drought of Summer In this condition David could find no relief no ease or asswagement of his grief until upon acknowledgement of his Sin he had obtained forgiveness and God through his free grace and tender mercy had covered his iniquity as we shall find in the 3 4 and 5. verses of this Psalm which I take to be the occasion of the joyful acclamation and sweet expression in my Text the first verse of the Psalm concerning the blessedness of remission or happiness of the man that hath with him obtained so great a priviledg which priviledg none have a greater sight of than those that have felt the wounds and smart and roared under the horrour of an accusing Conscience and been terrified with the furious rebukes of God's angry Countenance And because this was David's case therefore he might the more feelingly Pronounce those to be Blessed whose Sins were pardoned Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven whose sin is covered Blessed The word in the Original signifies Blessedness 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 and it is read in the plural number because as one saith That Man is many ways blessed he is blessed in this world Vir ille est multis modis beatus nempe in hoc mundo in altero est beatissimuâ— faelicissimus ut propriae videantur beatitudines ad eum singulariter pertinere Genebrardus Quia multa bona debent concurrere ad beatitudinem vel ut ostenderet tâ—lem cumulatè beatum esse Pol. Synop. Alii 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 est interjectio sive adverbium sic Rhetorica exclamatio ex abrupte vel laeta exclamatio de faelicitate ejus O beate illum Sic Schindler 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Quibus remissa est iniquitas Calvin Condonati praevaricationis cui demittitur praevaricatio Pagnin Qui levetus à defectione Jun. Trem. Vel qui exoneratus à transgressione a quo ablata transgressio Pisca absolutus à crimine Pol. ex Gei and in the other world he is most blessed and happy So that Blessedness seems most properly to be his and singularly to belong to him and it is the plural number because many good things concur to true Blessedness or to shew that such a one is cumulatively happy he hath a heap of blessings upon him Thus our learned Mr. Pool in his Synopsis The same Author observes that some take the word Blessed in the Hebrew to be an Interjection or Adverb And so make this to be a Rhetorical though abrupt exclamation or a joyful acclamation at the happiness of such Whose transgression is forgiven There are divers versions of these words One translates them out of the Hebrew whose iniquity is remitted Another whose prevarication is forgiven Others and that nearer the sense of the Hebrew words who is eased of his defection or unburdened of his transgression Another from whom his transgression is taken away Another who is absolved from his Crime all which versions agree in the same sense with our Translation whose transgression is forgiven for remission of Iniquity or Prevarication is the same as the forgiveness of Transgression to have the sin taken away to be eased and unburdened of the transgression what is it more than to have the sin forgiven forasmuch as the weight and load of guilt is by forgiveness removed whereby alone the Conscience is truely eased and so to be absolved from Crime is as much as to be acquitted from all Obligation of punishment and this is done in forgiveness of sin Whose sin is covered He is Blessed whose sin is covered 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 not he whose sins are covered by himself So Prov. 28.13 He that covereth his sins shall not prosper all ought to acknowledg unto God without hiding any as v. 5th of this Psal I acknowledged my sins unto thee and mine iniquity have I not hid But he is Blessed whose sin is covered by God Psal 85.2 Thou hast forgiven the iniquity of thy People thou hast covered all their sin Sin is covered when it is covered by God and when it is covered from God not as if any sin were or could be covered from the Eye and view of his Omnisciency but sin is covered from him when it is covered from his angry Eye and his wrathful revengeful Countenance That is when God ceaseth to be angry for the sin through his reconciliation to the Sinner Piscator noteth upon the place that sin is here compared to filthinesses which use to be covered that they may not offend the Eye When the offence of God's Eye is removed then sin may be said to be covered And it is observed that in the Hebrew the
such as the Authority Perfection c. of the Scripture and the Sufficiency of Christ's satisfaction and intercession And to come nearer to our selves one great truth which hath been more clearly known and published in our age is the Doctrine of Chist's Kingly office and legislative power in relation to his Church in opposition to the usurpations and impositions of Men. Now then we say that Men are called at such times especially to study such truths because God doth then give them the best means and advantages for the knowing of them or they may then do him best service in maintaining them and bearing testimony to them vvhen the Devil and his instruments do most oppose them It is a shame for Professors not to see when the World is so full of light not to have the knowledge of those truths in the minds the talk of which is in every Man's mouth Prop. 5. Men should labour for such knowledge as may defend them from the errors of the times and places in which they live This I add to second the former Proposition from whence it follows Thus Paul labours to establish the Saints to whom he writes chiefly the Churches before mentioned against the then prevailing errors of those whether Jews or false Brethren among themselves vvho endeavoured to bring in the Ceremonial Law upon the Professors of the Gospel and therefore bids the Galatians ch 5.1 stand fast in their liberty c. Doctrinal error tends to the corruption of worship And the Apostle John in his Epistles gives caution against those seducing Spirits and Antichrists that vvere even then among the Churches 1 John 4. beginning We find by experience that as there be some Doctrines more especially known and published in their respective times and ages so likewise several ages and many times places have their peculiar errors either new ones first forged or old ones new burnished The Devil makes it his business and even sets his wits upon the tenters to furnish the World with variety of lies suitable to the various humours and Interests of Men and when one error is detected begins to smell rank and go out of date through the power and prevalency of the truth he carefully provides another to succeed it and if a new one be not at hand as if his invention failed him he many times conjures up some old dead one and makes it vvalk about in a new dress and pass for some new or newly revived truth vvhen indeed it is but the Apparition of a long since buried error As Merchants are vvont to observe what commodities please most in such and such places and at such and such times and accordingly take care to supply the markets So the Devil looks what wares vvill vend best in such a Country at such a season vvhat vvill be most grateful to the lusts and interests of Men and then will be sure to supply them with those most which he sees take most Diseases have their times and seasons and are then most dangerous vvhen they prevail most and spread farthest Errors have their times and seasons too Rev. 3.10 there is an hour of these as well as other temptations when they are most infectious and dangerous and therefore as vvhen diseases are epedemical every one almost will be taking Antidotes So vvhen Errors are Epidemical it is the vvisdom of every Christian to fence himself against them And though vve do not say that every private Believer is bound to be a School-divine to be exact in all the niceties and Controversies which may arise about matters of Religion a Man may be saved that never read Aquinas nor Scotus yet sure every one that is capable of it should labour so to understand the Doctrine of Religion as to be able to know what is Truth and what is Error and to be so established in the belief of the truth as that though he cannot answer all the Quirks and Captions of a wrangling Sophister yet he may see a reason as before for vvhat he believes and for his firmly adhering to it As if a subtle disputer should bring an Argument to prove that the Sun is not up at noon day though a Man were not able presently to discover the fallacy yet he would not lightly believe a thing so contrary to his very sense It is good I am sure for Christians to be so established against reigning errors as that though an Angel from Heaven should labour to propagate them yet to be pertinacious and graciously obstinate in rejecting them Prop. 6. Men should seek especially for such knowledge and study such truths as have the greatest influence upon practice and so may make them most useful in their places and may further them most in the universal exercise of powerful Godliness Indeed the whole Doctrine of the Gospel is called the truth which is according to Godliness 1 Tim. 6.3 There is no one truth revealed by God to us but may have it's use in our conversations and influence on our practice 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Thâ—â—d But yet some truths more directly and immediately than others and such as those we should especially study We should labour to know not only what we must believe but what we must do not only what thoughts we are to have of God but what affections towards him that so not only our minds may be established but our conversations rightly ordered We must not rest in the bare knowledge even of the greatest truths nor labour to know merely that we may know or that we may talk but that we may act suitably to our knowledge Discamus non opinioni sed vitae We should learn not merely that we may be able to maintain an Opinion but that we may know how to guide our Lives and Govern our Actions The knowledge of the most excellent Truths may be unprofitable to us if we know not our duty too It is best for us to know those things which may make us best Such as may further our Graces rather than heighten our Reputation make us rather useful than Famous and serviceable to God rather than admired by Men. It is a vain thing to know what to hold and not know what to do to understand Controversie and be Ignorant of Duties Ne quaere saith one in scientiâ oblectamentum animae sed remedium We should not Labour to know these things merely which may delight our Minds but such as may heal our Souls to know our distemper and our Medicines our Wandrings and our Way our Defects and our Duties And not only those things neither which concern us as Christians in the General but in such Ranks Orders and Relations as God hath set us in and so that which is every Man 's special duty should be every Man 's special study As Ministers should know how to behave themselves in the House of God 1 Tim. 3.15 So should Magistrates how they are to behave themselves in the Commonwealth Masters in their
a time (q) Mark 6.20 to gain honour and respect from him And Solomon saith A gracious woman retaineth honour (r) Prov. 11.16 and a gracious man too both of them in the Relation of Parents where debauchery though never so secret and blanch'd with subtilty but discern'd by nearest Relations proves as poison to the souls of their children teaching them only with a fair outside to imitate a politick Religion which hath no spirit in it but is flat and insipid such as God will not relish Whereas real and internal godliness truly exercis'd by Parents doth greatly quicken their children and powerfully help both Parents and Children in all relative duties which by their means will not be grievous but delightful But if Parents be insincere and have not their hearts right with God and carry not themselves blamelesly having blots in their own conversation they will find the duties I have been speaking of to be very difficult and insuccessful as we may learn from the Apologue of the Mother Crab †Cum dixisset Mater indecens esse non recta via incedere sed obliquos intorquere gressus faciam inquit ille mea Mater si te idem fâ—cientem prius videro who had her Son go streight forward sith it was indecent to crawl sideling awry and backwards who answer'd I will do it Mother if I shall first see you your self doing so before me Unholy Parents do indeed by their unholiness contradict that hearty reverence they require from their Children and render the means of their education unprofitable Those Parents who would prosper in their conduct should like that worthy Bishop of Antioch * Theod. III. 6. by a good conversation commend their instructions 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 teaching with words and confirming the words with an holy life They themselves should as the Elders said to Boaz (s) Ruth 4.11 do worthily in Ephrata and be famous in Bethlehem put iniquity far from their hands and let it not dwell in their tabernacle (t) Job 11.14 lest notwithstanding they otherwise be at pains for the education and maintenance of their Children the Lord shall have no joy in them (u) Isa 9.13 17. and never suffer them to be removed (w) 14.20 And as you are to put away all iniquity so particularly that of flattery to friends lest the eyes of your Children should fail (x) Job 17.5 Vbi ubi fueri vive Deo qui esi Dator vitae tuae vive conscientiae quae est vita vitae tuae vive famae quae est vita post vitam tuam Be perswaded then Cristian Parents to take his advice who said Where wheresoever thou shalt be live to God who is the donor of thy life Live to thy Conscience which is the life of thy life Live to thy good Name which is a life after this life and then I may add will flourish most in thy Posterity 2. Maintain your parental authority and assert the dignity of your Relation yet not with lordly rigour but still with love and mildness 'T is good not to lose the power God hath given you in superiority over your Children through any neglect of using it or by making your self cheap in any unbecoming familiarity but then take care that you exercise it in equity with all gentleness and gravity Let none despise you (y) Tit. 2.15 Thus Abraham being in God's stead he would command for God and he is commended for it (z) Gen. 18.19 with 14.23 24. as we have heard If a Father's honour belong to you you should not suffer it to be trampled upon or lightly esteem'd (a) Deut. 32.46 1 Sam. 2.30 If you let go the reins of your Government you cannot rule well when the Master of the Ship le ts go the helm his Vessel is driven before the wind and tide Those Parents who live according to the former direction will be the better able to observe this For justice and holiness are venerable both in man and woman as was noted there (b) Mark 6 20. Prov. 11.16 These will gain respects to persons in a Family though they have not authority to restrain others from evil keep them in a kind of awe and gain at least a formal approbation of vertuous actions much more when they are eminent in those vested with Authority as Parents are who as an holy man ‖ Mr. Baxter in his Cases l. 543. lately directed should take care their Children be neither too bold with them nor yet too strange or fearful They are not to be treated as servants but as the fruits of your own bodies Too much familiarity will over-embolden them and too little countenance will discourage them Endeavour to attain the good skill of upholding and using well the preheminence of your station and relation Some Parents do not only abuse their authority in putting their Children upon things unlawful as Laban (c) Gen. 29.23 Saul (d) 1 Sam 25.44 Herodias (e) Mat. 14 8. but also by their own disobedience to God and their sinful indulgence (f) 2 Sam. 12.9 13.19 Sam. 29 30. David himself it seems under a temptation did disparage himself and lessen his own authority which gave occasion to his son Absolom's rebellion against him A vertuous management of power with an unaffected amiable gravity is necessary to keep a Superiour from being sleighted In commanding of vertue and restraining of vice in your Children you are concern'd to see your pleasure be executed but then your injunctions must be founded in love and design'd for good Hence you are oblig'd as Salvian * Regimen esse non potest nisi fuerit jugiter in Rectore judicium De Gubern Dei l. 1. hath determined to see that what you resolve upon be with judgment and good discretion as you expect good success When your orders are thus circumstantiated you will do well to see them performed and not to connive at your Childrens disobedience nor to please their peccant humour lest saith Euripides †〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 you afterwards weep when it is too late 3. Sweeten all with pathetick expressions of endearing kindness to insinuate the more into their affections but still with Christian prudence this will make your government much more easie and acceptable Solomon gives us an account of the affectionateness of his Father and the tenderness of his Mother to him when engaging him to duty (g) Prov. 4.3 4. 31.1 2 3. Bathsheba useth an abrupt kind of speech which importeth abundance of affection What my son and what the son of my womb and what the son of my vowes implying more of kindness than she was able to express to stir him up as one whom his Mother comforteth (h) Isaiah 66.13 Nothing doth more chear up and is more sweet and pleasing to Children than the due commendation of the Parent ‖ 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 〈◊〉 Eurip. So in our History of