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A03465	The historie of Adam, or the foure-fold state of man, vvell formed in his creation, deformed in his corruption, reformed in Grace, and perfected in glory. By Mr. Henry Holland, late preacher at Saint Brides Church in London	Holland, Henry, 1555 or 6-1603.; Topsell, Edward, 1572-1625?	1606 (1606)	STC 13587; ESTC S104152	275,758	386

He lift vp his eyes and looked and lo three men stood by him and when he saw them he ran to meet them from the tent doore and bowed himselfe to the ground This Salomon a King performeth to his mother 1. King 2.19 Bathshebah went vnto the King to speak vnto him for Adonijah And the King rose to meet her and bowed himselfe vnto her Thirdly to vncouer the head beefore the auncient 1. Cor. 11.9.10 Fourthly to bow the knee before them for so doth Salomon to his mother and Abraham to the Angels supposing they were but men Fiftly to giue them the better place in all meetings for this the Apostle teacheth Rom. 12.10 Luke 14.7.8.9.10.11 In giuing honour go one before another Eph. 5.21 Submit your selues one to another in the feare of God And this wee see practised by Salomon 1. King 2.19 He caused a seat to be set for the Kings mother and she sate at his right hand And this reuerend regard of superioritie was in Ioseph and his brethren the Patriarches in Egipt to the great admiration of the Egiptians Gen. 43.33 Ioseph sate by himselfe and they sate before him the eldest according to his age and the youngest according to his youth and the Egiptians marueled among themselues Sixtly to giue the elder the first place of speaking So doth Elihu teach by his owne example Iob. 32.6 I am yong in years and ye are auncient therefore I doubted and was afraid to shew mine opinion and ver 16. he addeth When I had waited for they spake not but stood still and answered no more then answered I in my turne Seauenthly to giue titles to all persons according to their place of honour to the honourable of reuerence to the reuerend 1. Pet. 3.6 Sarah obayed Abraham and called him Lord. 1. Sam. 1.14 Annah answered Eli saying nay my Lord I am a woman troubled in spirit Eightly to honour them for their calling and office for wee are bound in conscience to performe these duties and not for ciuilitie or manners sake Ninthly to obey them in all things which they command vs according to the diuine rules of pietie and iustice Tenthly with thankfulnesse and with cheerefulnesse and diligence in all seruice all which points we may obserue in Eleazar that faithfull seruant of Abraham Gen. 24. chap. Quest 110. And what be the duties common to all superiours Iob. 31.13 2. King 5.13 Ans First to loue and tender the state and welfare of their inferiours as the naturall Parents doe their naturall children Tit. 2.2 Heb. 12 1.13.7.6.12 1. Pet. 5.3 1. Pet 3 1.2.3 Secondly to bee examples of all pietie sobrietie and iustice and to goe euer beefore them as good presidents for their imitation in all the holy exercises of religion that they may say with Iob. chap. 29.8 The young men saw me and hid themselues and the aged arose and stood vp Quest 111. What bee the generall sinnes of inferiours against superiours and of superiours to their inferiours Ans The common sinnes of inferiours be these First to hate them for their calling as a number of popish protestants or carnall Gospellers doe the ministers of the Gospell for their calling sake Secondly to ascribe vnto them more honour then is due vnto them as the people did to Herod after his glorious Oration they shouted crying The voice of God and not of man Act. 12.21.22 Thirdly to aggrauate and to discouer their infirmities and weakenesse as Cham did to his father Noah Gen. 9.22 Fourthly to flatter them in their sinnes as the young Sycophants did Rehoboam whose counsell hee followed to his ruine 1. King 12.14.15 or not to admonish them in loue if need require The common sinnes of Superiours bee these First to neglect their duties to their inferiours which concerne either their soules or bodies their welfare in this life and their saluation in the life to come Secondly not to correct the lesser sinnes by admonitions and censures nor the greater by more speciall chasticements Quest 112. Now let vs come to the speciall duties of superiours and inferiours in the priuate familie and first of parents and children Ans First the first dutie following the order of nature is of the mother that with all care and conscience shee indeuour the preseruation of the life of her childe euen from the first conception in her wombe albeit shee endure many sorrowes as Gods speciall chasticements for her good till it bee borne and come to yeares of strength A barren wombe better then a barren brest Wherefore here a speciall dutie lying on the mother is the nourishing of her owne children with her owne brests if the Lord shall graunt her that good blessing first for that the holy Ghost accounts this one good note of a Godly matrone 1. Tim. 5.10 She is well reported of for good works next is added if she haue nourished her children Secondly the examples of holy women must bee followed whose daughters religious mothers are said to bee when they doe well and doe performe duties 1. Pet. 3.6 But Sarah gaue suck to her owne sonne Isaach Gen. 21.7 albeit shee had many women in her family which might haue eased her of that dutie The like wee read of that godly woman Annah the mother of Samuel 1. Sam. 1.29 And of the blessed Virgin Mary the mother of Christ Luke 2.12 Instruction is required also in the mother 2. Tim. 1.5 3.15 This then ought religious Matrons to respect carefully and the rather for that this is the principall dutie that God requires at their hands when hee saith 1. Tim. 2.15 Notwithstanding all their sinnes through bearing of children they shall be saued if they continue in faith and loue and holinesse with modestie Foure pearles to adorne godly Matrons A second dutie which specially concernes the husband as head is to prouide for the family for the maintenance of wife and children 1. Tim. 5.8 If there be any that prouideth not for his owne and namely for them of his houshold he denieth the faith and is worse then an Infidell This care and conscience we finde in Iacob when hee answereth Laban of his faithfull seruice hee addeth these words I haue serued thee long and thou art become rich through my diligence and faithfulnes now when shall I trauell for mine owne house also Gen. 30. ver 30. A third dutie common to both Parents is this to catechize instruct and to bring vp their children in the instruction and information of the Lord. That this dutie concernes father and mother ioyntly appeares Prou. 30.17 Againe the charge of God is great and to bee considered Deu. 4.9 Take heed vnto thy selfe and keepe thy soule diligently that thou forget not the things which thine eyes haue seene and that they depart not out of thine heart all the dayes of thy life but teach them thy sonnes and thy sonnes sonnes Deu. 6.6 These words which I command thee this day shall be in thine

heart and thou shalt rehearse them continually vnto thy children and shalt talke of them when thou tarriest in thine house and as thou walkest by the way and when thou lyest downe and when thou risest vp To this charge agree the words of the Apostle Eph. 6.4 Fathers prouoke not your children to wrath but bring them vp in instruction and information of the Lord. Examples are Bathshebath Prou. 31. and Ennice and Lois 2. Tim. 1.5.3.15 A fourth dutie of parents is to correct and chastice their Children with wisedome and moderation euer considering they punish their owne corruption in them which they first gaue and calling vpon God in spirit feruently for a blessing vpon their chastetisements To warne vs of this dutie let vs often set before vs these Scriptures Pro. 3 12.13.24 Heb. 12 7.23.13.14 Pro. 22.15 Foolishnesse is bound vp in the hart of a child but the rod of correctiō shall driue it away from him therefore inure children to do things rather to please God then for flattering or for guifts Prou. 13.24 He that spareth his rod hateth his sonne but he that loueth him chasteneth him betime And that parents may haue a noble example herein for imitation it is said that the Lord correcteth him whom he loueth euen as the father doth the child in whom he delighteth Prou. 3.12 A fift dutie of parents is the good education of their children as in Gods faith and feare principally so in good arts carefully that they may beecome profitable members in Church and common wealth for this is the Lords charge Pro. 22.6 Teach a child in the trade of his way and when he is old he shall not depart from it at the least let them learne to read and write A sixt dutie of parents to children is that hauing brought vp their children in such sobrietie and chastitie as beecommeth the Saints of God when they come to yeares to make choice for them and to aduise them to keepe their vessells alwayes in holinesse and honour both in the single state and in the married life and at this time specially to allow for their maintenance more or lesse according to that portion which God hath giuen them This godly care for the mariage and maintenance of children wee see in Abraham Gen. 24.1.2 and in Isaac and Rebecca Gen. 27.46 and Cha. 26.35 and in Naomi Ruth 3.1.2.3 A seauenth dutie is such children as the Lord shall giue thee to consecrate them to the Lord with a holy desire they be his and doe him seruice as Hamah did Samuel and it may bee Ennice did Timothie God specially requireth the first borne An eight dutie is with all conuenient speede to prouide they may be baptized in the publike congregation in the presence of speciall and faithfull witnesses Esay 8.2 Sinnes of Parents forbidden in this Law are these First to bee improuident and not to respect the welfare of children in this life Secondly to cark and care for their bodies and to suffer their soules to rot in sinne * Crates in Plutarch saith We may well cry against foolish parents from the tops of hilles with great cares doe they prouide for their children but respect not for honestie vertue what they shall bee Heathen men could see this as a common sinne in Parents and condemne it Thirdly to bring them vp in loosenesse pride idlenesse and wantonnesse and wantonnesse ends in wickednesse as Eli did Sophin and Phiceha and as Dauid did Absalon and Adonijah their wanntonnesse did end in wickednesse to the no small griefe of his heart a 1. Sam. 1. 2. Chapters for the one at his death hee sorrowed and wept bitterly of the other it is said And his father would not displease him from his child-hood 1. King 1.6 wherefore here wee must euer remember that Prouerb If thou smitest hee shall not dye Fourthly ouer seuerely without iudgement to prouoke them to anger by vniust or vnmeasurable chasticements in words or stripes Eph. 6.4 Quest 113 What be the duties of children to Parents commanded in this Law Ans This precept speaketh vnto children as it were face to face as being most prone to the breach of this Law for children bee more ready to forget Parents and their duties then Parents to forget children and therefore the Lord to meete with this corruption giueth the first charge vnto children to performe all duties of honour to their Parents The first dutie of Children to Parents and the root of all the rest is a cheerefull reuerence which is a speciall grace well tempered with loue and feare An example for this dutie wee haue in Ioseph who when hee met his aged father Iacob Gen. 46.29 presented himselfe vnto him with reuerence and to testifie his affection and loue he fell vpon his neck and wept vpon his neck a good while The second dutie implyed in the word Honour as the Apostle interpreteth Eph. 6.1 is obedience Children obay your Parents in the Lord. Examples of true obedience commanded iustly in Scripture are these Isaac to Abraham Gen. 22. the sonnes of Ionadab the sonne of Rechab Ier. 35.14 And of our Lord and Sauiour Iesus Christ of whom it is written that hee followed his mother Marie and his supposed father Ioseph and was subiect vnto them Luke 2.51 The third dutie to helpe their infirmities and to prouide for their Parents when they are old Of this dutie the Apostle speaketh 1. Tim. 5.4 in these words But if any widow haue children or nephewes let them first learne to shew godlinesse toward their owne house and to recompence their kindred for this is an honest thing and acceptable before God The practice of this dutie wee finde in good Ioseph most carefully supplying his old fathers wants prouiding for his brethren Ge. 45.9 and among Birds for the Storke when she is old keepes her nest continually and the young prouide for her hence is it the Apostle cals children without naturall affections 2. Tim. 3.3 A heathen woman had a daughter that nourished her with her brest in prison when all persons were forbidden to releaue her Valerius Mar. lib. 5. Cap. 4. Plin. lib. 13. cap. 23. The fourth dutie here commanded is to beare with and to couer the infirmities of parents so much as in vs lyeth and so farre as Gods honour and Law will permit vs. The practise of this wee see in Sem and Iapheth who couered their naked father when cursed Cham discouered him Ge. 9.23 and Ionathan bare patiently the threats of his bitter and bloudy father Saul 1. Sam. 19.3.4 Quest 114. Now rehearse breefly the contrary sinnes here condemned Ans First cursing of Parents is a most detestable sinne and here condemned The Lord pronounceth him accursed that curseth his Parents Deut. 27.16 and by the Law of God among the Iewes he was to die for it Leu. 20.9 Exo. 21.17 Secondly to smite father or mother is a most greeuous sinne and heere condemned This sinner was by Gods law

adiudged to dye for his offence for the words are these Ex. 21.15 He that smiteth his Father or mother shall dye the death Thirdly to mocke or despise the father or mother is a great sinne and transgression of this Law against the which the Lord pronounceth that fearefull threatning Prou. 30.17 The eye that mocketh his father and despiseth the instruction of his mother let the rauens of the valley pick it out and the young Eagles eat it Cham is set for an example of Gods wrath for this sinne to all posteritie Gen. 9. Fourthly secretly to wish their death to enioy their goods and lands houses and possessions and that they may be cheef Lords after them This was Esaus sinne for he desired in his heart Isaacks death that hee might rule ouer all and bee reuenged on his brother Iacob Gen 27.41 Thus doe Vipers to seeke their owne life and libertie they rend and breake their dams belly and so the old dyes when the young first come to light Intractable refractarie The fift sinne in Children against this Law is to disobey the gouernement and charge of their Parents which sinne the Lord often greatly condemneth in his word accounting it a speciall marke of Paganisme Rom. 1.30 and one of the fearefull sinnes of the last times 2. Tim. 3.2 This sinner must dye also by Gods Law after that hee is conuicted and found by Law to be refractarie and stubberne against his Parents Deut. 21.18 Sixtly and lastly to marrie without Parents knowledge and consent is a great dishonour to Parents and a greeuous sinne condemned in this Law Of this sinne prophane Esau is set forth an example for all ages for whose sinne his mother mourneth in these words Gen. 27.46 I am weary of my life for the daughters of Heth if Iacob take a wife of the daughters of Heth like these of the daughters of the land what auaileth it me to liue Quest 115. Thus farre of naturall Parents and their Children now of Parents by office and place And here first let me heare of the second band of duties in priuate families betweene Masters and Seruants Ans The Apostle interpreting this Law Eph. 6.6.9 commendes vnto vs the duties of Maisters and Seruants in the next place in these words Seruants be obedient vnto them that are your Masters according to the flesh with feare and trembling in singlenesse of your hearts as vnto Christ not with seruice to the eye as men pleasers but as the seruants of Christ doing the will of God from the heart with good will seruing the Lord and not men and know ye that whatsoeuer good thing any man doth the same shall he receiue of the Lord whether he be bond or free and ye Masters doe the same things vnto them putting away threaning and know that euen your master also is in heauen neither is there respect of person with him Duties of Maisters and of Gouernours of Families be these following First they are bound by this morall Law of God to instruct their Seruants as they must their Children in the true knowledge of God for without instruction how shall they serue them as the Apostle commandeth as seruing the Lord Christ Againe the same Apostle Tit. 2.9.10 commandeth Seruants to adorne the doctrine of God our Sauiour in all things without instruction they can neuer possibly grace it but disgrace and dishonour both God and his word in all things they take in hand The practise of this dutie wee see in Abraham who being commanded to instruct his Children and his Houshold Gen. 18.19 it is recorded of him that he did carefully instruct and Catechize three hundred persons in his familie Gen. 14.14 In like manner this was Iosuas care not onely for his Sonnes and Daughters but also for his Seruants as himselfe testifieth Chap. 24.15 where hee vseth a holy protestation not onely for himselfe and his Children but also for his whole familie that they shall serue the Lord and this can neuer bee without instruction The like conscience and care wee finde in Cornelius the captaine Act. 10.7 for hee is said to haue Seruants fearing God Lidia being conuerted is Gods instrument to bring vnto Christ all her household Act. 16.15 Secondly Maisters must giue Seruants and Children no euill example but endeuour to goe before them as holy presidents and examples of faith and godlines of all puritie and sobrietie of life to guide them in all loue and meekenesse wisedome and iudgement for so haue all the hol●●●thers euer done Abrahams three hundred Seruants would neuer haue beene so ready so tractable so religious but that they saw in their maister a patterne of all pietie and religion Cornelius Seruants being souldiers would not haue been so forward but that they saw their maister was a man in word deed truly fearing God Thirdly the third dutie of Maisters to Seruants is to giue them the recompence and reward of their labour this the Apostle chargeth Col. 4.1 Ye Masters doe to your Seruants that which is iust and equall knowing that ye also haue a Master in heauen 1. Tim. 5.18 The laborer is worthie of his wages Leu. 19.13 The workemans hire shall not abide with thee vntill the morning And here wee may say that if humanitie requires that they bee liberally rewarded much more pietie requires a louing an a large bountifulnesse vnto good Seruants of this speakes the Sonne of Syrach in these words Ecclus. 7.20.24 If thy Seruant worketh truely intreat him not euill nor the Hireling that bestoweth himselfe wholy for thee Let thy soule loue a good Seruant and defraud him not of libertie neither leaue him a poore man So louing a Maister was Abraham vnto his eldest Seruant Eleazar Gen. 15.2.3 the Steward of his house that hee purposed in his heart if God gaue no childe to make him his Heire and Lord of all his substance Fourthly the fourth and last care of Masters and Gouerners of families is to exercise houshold or domesticall discipline for the good gouernment of their families according to the rules of pietie Of this dutie the Lord warneth vs. Pro. 29.19 A Seruant will not be chastised with words though he vnderstand yet he will not answere ver 21. He that bringeth vp his Seruants daintely from his youth shall at the last be robbed of his Children Such Seruants were Zimri to Ela king of Israell who slew his Maister and his Children 1. Kin. 16.11 and Ieroboam to Salomon who got from his Son Reheboam more then halfe his kingdome 1. Kin. 11.28 and such a couetous hireling was Zibah to good Mephibosheth 2. Sam. 16. ver 3. Wee haue many good notes for the good gouerment of the family Psal 101. first the Masters of families must often meditate and endeuour to temper well together mercie and iudgement Secondly they must walke wisely and vprightly giuing a good example of life to all committed to their charge Thirdly they must lay aside all anger and wrath Fourthly

conscience toward God endure griefe suffering wrongfully for what praise is it if when yee bee buffeted for your faults ye take it patiently But and if when yee doe well ye suffer wrong and take it patiently this is acceptable to God for hereunto ye are called for Christ also suffered for vs leauing vs an example that we should follow his steps who did no sinne neither was guile found in his mouth who when he was reuiled reuiled not againe when he suffered he threatned not but committed it to him that iudgeth righteously Iacob and Ioseph followed this Scripture as beeing written by Gods holy spirit in their hearts The Sinnes here forbidden are these The first foule sinne here condemned is eye seruice contrary to simplicity and truth desiring to please men but not in singlenesse of heart Col. 3.22 Eph. 6.5 The Second sinne of Seruants is to answere againe in reprehensions and admonitions Tit. 2.9.10 The third sinne is to reiect admonitions to refuse and to resist the authoritie and corrections of their gouernours as Agar and Onesimus Gen. 16.6 Epistle to Philemon Fourthly by fraud or theft to conuay away their masters goods or by negligence to become vnprofitable drones in their Maisters seruice Such were Zibah 2. Sam. 16.4 and Onesimus it is like before his conuersion Fiftly to obay them in things vnlawfull as when Sauls men refused to obay and serue their Maisters tyranny Doeg the Edomite was very forward to imbrue his hands in the bloud of most innocent and holy Priests 1. Sam. 22. Quest 117. I pray you adde something of the duties and sins of the Fathers in Common wealth and in the Church that is of such as gouerne in the Magistracie Ans First Exod. 18.21 it is required in the Magistrate that hee bee a man of wisedome that is that hee haue knowledge to rule and to to performe the duties which belong to his place and calling for as in other arts hee is not straight way a good Artificer which is a good man so much more in this waightie calling Secondly they must bee prudent men or men of experience for like as in other Arts men must not trust their generall knowledge and wisedome which haue not had tryall and experience of their profession so much more in this calling it is needefull that a man well experienced in those matters that are incident to this calling Thirdly they must be men of courage for his knowledge and experience cannot profit him when hee is to performe and execute the duties of his calling if eyther hee feare the rebukes of Superiours or the hatred and reports of his inferiours Fourthly he must bee a man seruing God this will serue to tēper all his gifts courage if it passe the bounds of knowledge and experience proues a rash boldnesse and wanting Gods feare wee see it often end in oppression Fiftly the Lord requireth that they deale truly first cōcerning themselues they must see that in word and deed they be found such examples vnto others as loue truth and sincirity Next they must carefully search all matters they are to deale in concerning their calling that they may giue righteous iudgement as the case requireth This they must do and haue no respect of persons Sixtly they must hate all filthy gaine and desire of riches and rewards for rewards blinde the eyes of the prudent and stop the eares of the righteous Deut. 1.13 Seauenthly and lastly a good Magistrate must bee a man well knowne and reputed and reported among gods people for wisedome for experience for courage for the feare of God Duties of spirituall Fathers and their Children for vpright dealing for the hatred of couetousnesse If they bee not knowne to bee such they can not haue that credit and reuerence among the people which is due to their place and calling And this the Apostle requireth in Gods Ministers that they haue also a good report euen of them that are without Sinnes here condemned are in election of Magistrates to respect riches and fauour of men and to neglect the former vertues and speciall marks of Christian Magistrates Examination of the Conscience Superiours First let all Superiours of all places and callings well examine themselues in and by this Law how they loue and tender their inferiours as Parents doe their Children how they go in and out before them in all pietie sobrietie and iustice if any such neglect these duties his conscience pleads guiltie and hee is subiect to the malediction of this Law Inferiours Secondly let all inferiours examine themselues with what care and conscience they haue respected the generall duties of this Law as to honour the aged the Magistrate the Minister and to performe vnto them all the generall duties beefore prescribed if they plead want of knowledge or of conscience they are guiltie and bound vp to the curse of this Law The naturall Mother Thirdly let the naturall Mother here inquire with what tendernesse and loue she hath respected the life of her child in her wombe whether shee hath nurced it with her owne brests hauing strength and meanes giuen her of God herevnto if thou hast neglected this dutie thy conscience cries guiltie and this Law condemnes thee The naturall Father Fourthly let the naturall Father here inquire with what care and conscience hee prouides for his familie in a lawfull calling with what wisedome and iudgement he rules his wife with what pietie and religion hee doth instruct his family whether hee suffer his children to grow vp in idlenesse and wantonnesse whether hee hath not more regarded their bodies then their soules whether they bee trayned in an honest course and calling if thou dost not respect these duties thy conscience cries guiltie and this Law condemnes thee Fiftly The naturall Children let the naturall children here inquire with what cheerefull reuerence and feare and obedience they haue honoured their Parents how they haue respected and couered their infirmities and prouided for their wants if thou bee of this number and hast neglected these duties thy conscience cryes guilty and this Law condemnes thee Sixtly inquire whether thou hast at any time by cursing mocking reuiling or smiting dishonored thy parēts or whether hast thou desired their death for any cause whatsoeuer or hast contēned their lawfull charge or hast married without their consent if these or any of these sins bee found in thee thy conscience cryes guilty and this Law condemnes thee Seauenthly Masters gouernours of Families inquire with what care and conscience thou hast taught and catechised thy Seruants what example of pietie good life thou hast giuen them how thou hast recompensed their labours with what mercifulnesse and tendernesse thou hast respected their wants with what moderation in correction and admonition thou hast ruled them if thou hast neglected these duties thy conscience cryes guiltie and this Law condemnes thee Eightly let Seruants inquire with what submission of mind Seruants