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cause_n	child_n	husband_n	wife_n	1,655	5	6.9646	4	false

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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A06607	Euphues and his England Containing his voyage and his aduentures, myxed with sundrie pretie discourses of honest loue, the discription of the countrey, the court, and the manners of that isle. Delightful to be read, and nothing hurtfull to be regarded: wherein there is small offence by lightnesse giuen to the wise, and lesse occasion of looseness proffered to the wanton. By Iohn Lyly, Maister of Arte. Commend it, or amend it.	Lyly, John, 1554?-1606.	1580 (1580)	STC 17070; ESTC S106953	185,944	280

to allow them Touching Surius and Camilla there is no doubt but that they both will liue well in marriage who loued so well before their matching in my minde he dealt both wisely and honourably to preferre vertue before vain-glory the godly ornaments of nature before the ritch armour of nobilitie for this must we all thinke how well so euer we thinke of our selues that vertue is most noble by the which men became first noble As for thine owne estate I wil be bolde to counsel thée knowing it neuer to be more necessary to vse aduise thē in marriage Solon gaue counsell y t before one assured himselfe he should be so warie that in tying himselfe fast he did not vndo himselfe wishing them first to eate a Quince peare y t is to haue swéet conference without brawles then salt to be wise without boasting In B●etia they couered the Bride with Asparagonia the nature of the which plant is to bring swéete fruit out of a sharpe throne whereby they noted that although the Uirgin were somewhat shre wish at the first yet in time shee might become a shéepe Therefore Philautus if thy Uiolet s●●moth in the first moneth either to chide or chafe thou must heare with-out replye and endure with patience for they that cannot suffer the wranglings of young married women are not like vnto those that tasting the grape to be sower before it be ripe leaue to gather it when it is ripe resembling them that being stung with the Bée for sake the Honny Thou must vse swéete wordes not bitter checkes and though happely thou wilt say that wandes are to be wrought when they are gréene least they rather breake then bende when they be dry yet know also that he that bendeth a twigge bicause he would sée if it would bow by strength may chance to haue a crooked tree when he would haue a straight It is pretely noted of a contention betwene the Winde the Sunne who should haue the victory A Gentleman walking abrode the winde thought to blow of his cloak which with great blasts and blusteringes striuing to vnloose it made it to sticke faster to his backe for the more the winde encreased the closer the cloake clapt to his body then the Sunne shining with his hoat beames began to warme this Gentleman who waring somewhat saint in this faire weather did not onely put off his cloake but his coat which y e winde perceiuing yéelded y e conquest to the Sun In y e very like manner fareth it w t young wiues for if their husbands with great threatmings with iarres with braules séeke to make them tractable or bend their kn●ees the more stiffe they make them in the ioynts the oftner they go about by force to rule them the more froward they finde them but vsing milde woordes gentle perswasions familiar coūsaile entreatie submission they shal not onely make them to bow their knees but to holde vp their hands not onely cause them to honour them but to stand in awe of them for their stomacks are all framed of Diamond which is not to be brused w t a hāmer but blood not by force but flattery resēbling the cock who is not to be feared by a Serpent but a glead They that feare their Uines will make to sharp wine must not cut the armes but graft next to them Mandrage which causeth the grape to be more pleasant They that feare to haue curst wiues must not with rigor seke to calme them but saying gentle words in euery place by them which maketh them more quiet Instruments sound swéetest when they be touched softest women ware wisest when they be vsed mildest The Horse striueth when he is hardly rayned but hauing the bridle neuer stirreth women are starke madde if they be ruled by might but with a gentle raine they wil beare a white mouth Gall was cast out frō the sacrifice of Iuno which betokened that the marriage bed should be without bitternesse Thou must be a glasse to thy wife for in thy face must she sée hir owne for if when thou laughest she wéepe whē thou mournest she giggle the one is a manifest signe she delighteth in others the other a token she dispiseth thée Be in thy behauiour modest temperate saber for as thou framest thy manners so will thy wife fit hirs Kinges that be wrastlers cause their subiects to exercise that feate Princes that are Musitians incite their people to vse Instruments husbands that are chast and godly cause also their wiues to imitate their goodnesse For thy great dowrie that ought to be in thine owne handes for as we call that wine where-in there is more then halfe water so doe we tearme that the goods of the husband which his wife bringeth though it be all Helen gaped for goods Paris for pleasure Vlisses was content with chast Penelope so let it be with thée that whatsoeuer others marrie for be thou alwaies satisfied with vertue otherwise may I vse that speach to thée that Olympias did to a young Gentleman who onely tooke a wife for beautie saying this Gentleman hath onely married his eyes but by y t time he haue also wedded his e●re he will cōfesse y t a faire shoe wrings though it be smooth in the wearing Lycurgus made a lawe that there shoulde be no dowry giuen with Maidens to the ende that the vertuous might be marryed who commonly haue little not the amorous who oftentimes haue too much Behaue thy self modestly with thy wife before company remembring the seueritie of Cato who remoued Manlius from the Senate for that he was séene to kisse his wife in presence of his daughter olde men are seldome merry before children least their laughter might bréede in them loosenesse husbands shoulde scarce iest before theyr wiues least want of modestie on their partes bée cause of wantonnes on their wiues part Imitate the Kinges of Persia who when they were giuen to ryot kept no company with their wiues but when they vsed good order had their Queenes euer at their table Giue no example of lightnesse for looke what thou practisest most that wil thy wife followe most though it becommeth hir least And yet would I not haue thy wife so curious to please thée that fearing least hir husband should thinke shée painted hir face shée shoulde not therefore wash it onely let hir refraine from such things as shée knoweth cannot well like thée he that commeth before an Elephant will not weare bright coulours nor he that cōmeth to a Bull red nor hée that standeth by a Tyger play on a Taber for y t by the sight or noise of these things they are commonly much infensed In the like manner there is no wife if she be honest that will practise those things that to hir mate shall séeme displeasaunt or moue him to cholar Be thriftie and wary in thy exspences for in old time they were as soone condemned by law y t spent their wiues dowrie prodigally

commeth into the handes of youth before they can vse it then fall they to all disorder that may be tedding that with a fork in one yeare which was not gathered together with a rake in twentie But why discourse I with thée of worldly affayres being my selfe going to heauen héere Callimachus take the key of yonder great barred chest where thou shalt finde such store of wealth that if thou vse it with discretion thou shalt become the only rich man of the world Thus turning him on the left side with a déepe sigh and pitifull grone gaue vp the ghoast Callimachus hauing more minde to looke to the locke then for a shrowdinge shéete the breath béeing scarse out of his fathers mouth and his body yet panting with heate opened the Chest where he found nothing but a letter written very fayre sealed vp with his Signet of armes with this superscription ¶ In finding nothing thou shalt gaine all things Callimachus although he were abashed at the fight of the emptie Chest yet hoping this letter would direct him to the golden Myne he boldlye opened it the contents whereoff followed in these termes WIsedome is great wealth Sparing is good getting Thrift confisteth not in golde but grace It is better to dye with-out money then to lyue with-out modestie Put no more clothes on thy backe then will expe● colde neither any more meat in thy belly then may quench hunger Use not channge in attire nor varietie in thy dyet the one bringeth pride the other surfets Ech vayne voyd of pietie both costly wide of profit Go to bed with the Lambe and rise with the Larke Late watching in the night bréedeth vnquyet and long sleeping in the daye vngodlinesse Flye both this as vnwholesome that as vnhonest Enter not into bandes no not for thy best friends he that payeth an other mans debt séeketh his owne decay it is as rare to sée a rich Suretie as a black Swan and he that lendeth to all that wil borow sheweth great good will but little wit Lend not a penny without a pawne for that will be a good gage to borow Be not hastie to marry it is better to haue one plough going then two cradells and more profite to haue a barne filled then a bedde But if thou canst not lyue chastly chuse such an one as may be more commended for humilitie then beautie A good huswife is a great patrimonie she is most honourable that is most honest If thou desire to be olde beware of too much wine If to be healthy take héed● of many women If to be rich shun playing at all games Long quaffing maketh a short lyfe Fonde lust causeth drye bones and lewd pastimes naked pursses Let the Cooke be thy Phisition and the shambles thy Apothecaries shop He that for euery qualme wil take a Receipt and cannot make two meales vnlesse Galen be his Gods good shall be sure to make the Phisition rich himselfe a begger his body will neuer be without diseases his pursse euer with-out money Be not too lauish in giuing almes the charitie of this Countrey is God helpe thée and the courtesie I haue the best wine in towne for you Liue in the countrey not in the Court where neither grasse will grow nor Mosse cleaue to thy heeles Thus hast thou if thou canst vse it the whole wealth of the world and he that cannot follow good counsel neuer can get commoditie I leaue thée more then my father left me for he dying gaue me great wealth without care how I might kéepe it I giue thée good counsell with all meanes how to get riches And no doubt what so is gotten with wit wil be kept with warinesse and encreased with wisedome God blesse thée and I blesse thée and as I tender thy safetie so God deale with my soule Callimachus was stroken into such a maze at this his fathers last Wil that he had almost lost his former wit And being in an extreame rage renting his clothes and tearing his haire began to vtter these wordes IS this the Nature of a father to deceiue his sonne or y e part of crabbed age to delude credulous youth Is the death bed which ought to be y e ende of deuotion become the beginning of deceipt Ah Cassander friend I cannot terme thée séeing thee so vnkinde and Father I will not call thée whom I finde so vnnaturall Who so shall heare of this vngratefulnesse wil rather lament thy dealyng then thy death and meruaile that a man affected outwardly with such great grauitie should inwardly be infected w t so great guile Shal I then shew the dutie of a childe when thou hast forgotten the Nature of a Father No no for as the Torch turned downward is extinguished with the selfe same waxe which was the cause of his lyght so Nature tourned to vnkindenesse is quenched by those meanes it should be kindeled leauing no braunch of loue where it found no roote of humanitie Thou hast caryed to thy graue more gray haires thā yeares and yet more yeares then vertues Couldest thou vnder the Image of so precise holynesse harbour the expresse patterne of barbarous crueltie I sée now that as the Canker soonest entreth into the white Rose so corruption doth eassiest creepe into the white head Would Callimachus could as well disgest thy malyce with patience as thou diddest disguise it with crafte or wold might either bury my care w t thy carcasse or that thou hadst ended thy defame with thy death But as the hearbe Moly hath a floure as white as snow and a roote as black as inck so age hath a white head shewing pietie but a blacke heart swellyng with mischiefe Whereby I sée that olde men are not vnlyke vnto olde Trées whose barkes séemeth to be sounde when their bodyes are rotten I wil mourne not that thou art now dead but bicause thou hast liued so long neither doe I wéepe to sée thée without breath but to finde thée without mony In stéede of coyne thou hast left me counsayle O polytique olde man Didst thou learne by experience that an edge can be any thing worth if it haue nothing to cut or that Miners could worke without mettalls or wisedome thrius without where-with What auayleth it to be a cunning Lapidarie haue no stones or a skilfull Pilot haue no ship or a thriftie man and haue no money Wisedome hath no Mint Counsell is no coyner He that in these dayes seeketh to get wealth by wit with-out friends is lyke vnto him that thinketh to buye meate in the Market for honestie with-out money which thriueth on either side so well that the one hath a wittie head an emptie pursse the other a godly minde and an emptie belly Yea such a worlde it is that Gods can doe nothing without golde and who of more might nor Princes any thing without gifts and who of more Maiestie nor Philosophers any thing with-out gylt and who of more wisedome For as