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ID	Title	Author	Corrected Date of Publication (TCP Date of Publication)	STC	Words	Pages
A34775	A treatise of jealousie, or, Means to preserve peace in marriage wherein is treated of I. The nature and effects of jealousie, which for the most part is the fatal cause of discontents between man and wife, II. And because jealousy is a passion, it's therefore occasionally discoursed of passions in general ... III. The reciprocal duties of man and wife ... / written in French, and faithfully translated.; Traité de la jalousie. English	Courtin, Antoine de, 1622-1685.	1684 (1684)	Wing C6606; ESTC R40897	75,205	185

degrees breaks forth like Lightning at last and blows the Fire of Domestick Sedition up to a destructive Flame It cannot be therefore this sensual Love that maintains Peace in Marriage ●t is reasonable and real Love it is this Love that we have represented full of Meekness which affects the Mind of the Husband with a real Tenderness which enclines him to Reign over the Heart of his Wife by engaging Actions and not by the Rigid Exercise of the right he has to Rule which excuses smaller Faults and covers greater Misdemeanours with Charity and Compassion when they cannot be retreived which takes a greater share of all the Evils that befal her than she does her self which makes him ready to die for her sake as Christ who is his Example died for his Church It is this Love that removes all danger of these sad disasters we have touch't upon without the mediation of the Magistrate whose Authority is so universal because it is founded upon natural Justice That those that are the least enlightned with reason are under its Power and not only so but are also animated and encouraged thereby against all dangers whatever that may any way invade th● beloved Object We have an Example of an Arabian which may be a lesson for us of th● real Love and Tenderness his Name was Raha and commanded in Affrica in Quality of a General One day Party belonging to the Neighbouring People having surprized his Quarters in his abscence took away great Spoy● and withal took his Wife Prisoner And as they were going off with their Booties the General was at the same time Returning with about Seventy Horse who meeting them loaded with Pillage and not knowing any thing of the Disaster of his Wife he Charges them on the Reer thinking to Scatter them but seeing his Assaults to be in vain and that he was too weak for them he commands the Retreat and just as they were wheeling about he heard a● confused Voyce in the middle of the Enemies Party which cryed Raha he stops a little and understands it to be the voyce of his Wife he goes directly back again by himself and got leave to speak to her from the Commander of the Party to take his last farewel of her She at the first sight begins to reprove him of his Remisness that he would suffer her to be taken away on such a manner which words with the seeing her in such a Condition did so Enflame his Love and Provoke his Jealousie that he run to his Soldiers and spoke to them saying If ever you have been sensible of Love take Pity of my Dear Wife and me help us I Conjure you by all that is Sacred to Mortals by the Glory of our Nation by my own Life which cannot Subsist long if they Ravish my Wife from me Go to my Dear Friends Fortune helps the Generous and Lovers They went on indeed Set upon the Body of the Party Raha Kill'd the Commander with his own Hands and put the Rest to Flight he Delivered his Wife and brought her back in Tryumph with all the Spoil Now such are the Effects of a Generous and Lawful Jealousie Animated only by the Motions of Nature We may easily presume from hence that Peace does Gloriously Reign in such a Marriage But to raise our Jealousie to a degree of Perfection and to guide it according to the Light of Christianity We need only to Imitate that Excellent Pattern of Marriage in the Persons o● the Mother of our Blessed Saviour and of Joseph The Meekness and Moderation of this Just Husband are Admirable He did not Scandalize his Be trothed Virgin although he knew he to be with Child and not yet Instructed that it was the working of the Holy Spirit He did not Persecute he with Complaints with Roughness with Suspitions with Passions or with Violences but he resolved to put her away quietly and privately because ●aith the Holy Evangelist he was a Just Man and Fearing God So that it is Evident that he Loved her with a Real and Reasonable Love for her sel● only and not for his own Ends according to the Holy Rules of Amity and not according to the Unregulated Instinct of Passion which Besieges and Agitates the Minds of Sensual Persons Now it would be unnecessary to Exemplifie further the Peace that Blessed this Holy Marriage since it is so easie to infer from this Peaceable Love already rehearsed that nothing could intervene between these Divine Lovers but Calmness and Admirable Meekness It is likewise unnecessary to Insist any longer upon Instructing Jealous Women in the Means to preserve Peace since we have already Established by Proofs I suppose Invincible that it depends only upon things that are opposed to the Enormities of this Sensual Jealousie that is to say on Meekness and Submission of the Mind Neither shall they pretend to say That we have made it our Pleasure to make their Condition worse then that of Men For we have only followed Nature herein whose Laws are a Law to all the Rest Now as a Man would be Rediculous that would not Eat nor Drink because he was not Born a Prince so likewise that Woman must be of a Capricious Humour that will not do what she ought to do because the Law of Nature has Subjected her to her Husband It is not of this then that Women must Complain But rather let them Complain of these Two things which indeed are the true Causes of the Evils they Suffer themselves and with which they Infect others First Let them Complain that the greatest part of Parents give their Children a Bad Education and bring them up in a Love of themselves by their too much Indulgency which is the Original of Sensuality Secondly Let them Complain of the little Care they take or the wrong Ends they propose in their Marriages where they will give Ear to nothing but what may Answer their Pride or Temporal Interest Indeed it is a great Abuse in the World to permit a kind of People to make a Publick Trade of Marrying others and an Indignity insufferable and Criminal that these Creatures should Sell the Children of a Family Publickly These are People that keep Account-Books and State Methodically in a Twofold Range all Persons that are to be Married of either Sex and particularly of a great Number that come out of Remote Countreys many whereof come almost of no other Account but to Trie their Fortunes herein and indeed their Counts are always pretty full of these and they make the best Returns by them for having nothing to lose for the most part if they Hound them fairly and they Kill they are willing to divide the Prey with them Now these Men-Marchants are wont to Insinuate themselves directly if they can into any House where they are in hopes to find any Game or if they cannot do it directly they either Corrupt the Servants they can come

acquainted with or else they Subborn Persons of no more worth than themselves to break the Ice and there finding the Tender Mothers made up of Ears for the Name of a Lord a Knight an Esquire or such like that will Raise their Daughters Quality though in the end they prove but Cyphers on the Left Hand of the Account they easily win them over to Commit their Childrens Fortnnes to the Mercy of Persons unknown to them and who perhaps know nothing themselves of the great Possessions and Riches pretended saving Two or Three Guineas which they spared of that Money they Borrowed and to bring them up withal Yet this is not to hinder a Cordial Friend from making Choise or Recommending a Suitable Match to a Young Person whose Shame-facedness keeps him or her from Acting themselves Nor that it is any way forbid to take Counsel and hear what may be said in so Important an Affair that thereon depends the Happiness or Unhappiness of this Life But we would be understood to mean that a Foresight or Design of only Temperal Advantages must not so far Blind the Understanding of Parents as to Sacrifice their Children without knowing the Cause to the bottom as though they should Sew them up in a Sack with a Dog an Ape a Cock and a Serpent there to end their Days in Misery It is necessary to see attentively with the Eyes both of Parents and of intimate Friends endued with Discretion what kind of a Wife must be chosen for a Young Man and what sort of a Husband must be chosen for a Young Woman neither must they be chosen only by the View but by being also informed of their Reputation of their Humours of their Inclinations and of the Temper of their Spirit But to return to our purpose It is Absolutely necessary if the Wife would make her self Lovely in the Eyes of her Husband and by consequence Live in Peace and Taste the Sweets of Marriage that she be Submitting Good and Humble For let her have all the good Qualities besides imaginable yet if she have not Submission and Meekness she Acquires only Disrespect to her self Though she have the very Perfection of Beauty yet if she have not Discretion and Submission it is only as the Scripture says A Ring of Gold in a Swines Snout When on the contrary though she be Endowed with no Extraordinary Gift yet if she have Meekness Modesty and Submission there is no Heart but will yield to her I mean how hard Hearted or Unaffected soever her Husband be yet he will be thereby brought to Love her In short being endued with Submission She will look upon her Husband as the Rule and Pattern of the Family to the which She ought to Conform her self as natural Reason commands her since it is against Nature that that which is a Rule should take its Proportion from the things whereof it is a Rule So in like manner the Wife as we have already said taking for the Rule of her Conduct the Manners and Will of her Husband She shall live in the middle of Peace of Joy and of Love Nothing can trouble this Rest and there can be no Temporal Disgrace nor no Danger which this true Love will not overcome yea all the Frowns of Fortune will serve only to Signalize it We have Examples of Abundance of Women amongst the Antients that without any Light besides that of Nature have exceeded even according to us by their Love their Fidelity and this generous Jealousie the outmost Limits of Conjugal Duty We Read of some that have prefered the following their Husbands in Banishment and leading their Lives in Poverty before the Pleasure of Living in Splendour at Court where they have been desired to remain Some have shut themselves up in Caves and Sepulchres and there Lain and Lived several Years in an unimaginable Silence and Secrecy to accompany their Husbands that stole away and hid themselves from Persecutions We see some that have changed their Habits with their Husbands in Prison that thereby they might Escape whilst they themselves remain'd Exposed to the Rage of their Persecutors And Lastly We Read of Heroical Matrons amongst the Romans which have been the Pattern of Honest Wives of their Age who though in all their Actions they maintain'd the Glory and Majesty of their Royal Progenitors who had Subdued Nations and Kingdoms yet at the same time had as much Respect Meekness and Submission towards their Husbands as though they had been their Servants or Slaves And to come yet nearer our Subject can there be any Patience and Submission more Admirable then that of Octavia the Sister of Augustus during the Love between her Husband Anthony and Cleopatra Could there ever be a more Glorious Victory of true Love over Sensual Jealousie than that which was gain'd by a Tartarian Woman This Woman taking Compassion of a Man which she saw pass along amongst the Prisoners which the Tartars had taken in an Incursion into Thracia Bought him and in some time after Married him Her Love was such to him that for his sake she would turn Christian and for that End would go into some Christian Countrey But Conceiving with Child in that time that they waited for an opportunity they were constrain'd to stay till she should be Deliver'd after which before they could have a favourable occasion they staid so long that she became with Child a Second Time During which time the Tartars made a Second Incursion into Thrace and as they carried their Prisoners along in their wonted manner the Husband of this Tartarian Woman seeing them pass by discovered his First Wise amongst them which so much moved his Compassion that the Tartar perceiv'd it and Asked him the Reason of his Passion Which when she understood she goes away without saying any thing and Buys this Wife and takes her Home with her to be an Helper to her in her House They Lived Peaceably altogether and some while after the Tartar was Delivered they take their Journey into a Christian Countrey and Arrive at last at Constantinople The Christian Woman finding her self in a place of Protection goes and complains to the Patriarch Demanding her Husband again The matter being Examined to the bottom and the Case appearing to be singular no Man durst give his positive Judgment therein till this Divine though Tartarian Woman decided it her self saying If my Husband Love his First Wife better than me let him take her I will also give him his Ransom As for this Woman finding my self not ●n a Condition to give her the same Liberality let her Repay me her Ransom and let her go with her Husband I my self will wait with my Two Children till it shall please God to dispose of me otherwise Every Man admired at the Discretion of this Woman So it pleased God to declare himself on her side For the Thracian Woman being gone into her own Countrey